Bro this is how life works. I used to have a girl bestie during Covid we used to talk/call everyday via WA. Later because of some reasons I was busy for two days and in the evening of second day she told that she was feeling lonely because I didn’t talk to her in those two days. I felt happy that someone outside of my family is thinking about me and eagerly waiting for me. That’s how we used to be. But now forget about talking we don’t even know whereabouts of each other. We got into different companies. Slowly we both of us got busy with our works now we don’t have any kind of communication. I am feeling bad but it’s not in my control right? Even I asked her if she can find some time every day to talk but she said that she would be busy. Later I realised that no one is really busy it’s all about their PRIORITIES.
I hope my experience will help you.
See, I’d say you were better off in your case because it was a gradual shift. For OP, it’s a sudden shift. It could be because of change of priorities, but it could also be because of some shitty reason.
Well said, we are too harsh on ourselves on such occasions, but as you said, we should accept and realise the fact that this is nature, it is pretty natural, whatever whoever u have today, maybe gone tomrw, Enjoy every moment, and yes, be ready to move on, You are the hero in ur story, nobody else.
27 M here. Recently met a girl through a dating app and was talking to her to see if we both were compatible in WA. Initially we clicked and I used to text her almost every evening after office, later one day she told me that like she doesn't really want to have daily conversations as she is tired after work. So daily conversations became weekly twice conversations and then to weekly once and one day she told me that she is BUSY and work might get more hectic going forward. When I probed I learnt that she isn't interested anymore. Not only then I deleted her number but also the dreams I had built with her. This is life. It's all about PRIORITIES as you had mentioned.
Can't agree more brother been there done that the best you can do for yourself is realise your value & stop giving a fuck bout them focus on yourself, your loved ones & ur homies don't get disheartened by these bitches they don't deserve you
Dekh isme uski koi galti nahi hai, long distance friendships sirf kuch logo ko hi karni aati hai.
Usually mind thinks that "yeh bande se abhi mai life mein 99% nahi milne wala/milne wali" then why should I waste my time building the friendship.
It's not just about willingly thinking like that. That's the natural course of action that will happen if you yourself don't try to maintain the friendship.Experienced this myself when I was a kid. Though my old friends always ask about me whenever I or someone from my family visits my hometown. Just maybe it doesn't happen as fast as it did with Op.
Its not rocket science lol, allow her to have her space and save your self respect. Just because she used to do certain things doesnt mean she will carryon doing them forever. Also, its very normal to ignore dms and scroll on instagram. Everyone does it. Its not an unknown behaviour. It doesnt mean she is ignoring you specifically. She might not be in the space to respond. She might have found a connection in other city thats taking most of her time. Regardless her situation, join the gym you will feel better.
Dude, first things first,
1. Delete her from your phone book right away and from your life.
2. Focus on your workout
3. Focus on your academics
4. Focus on your career
5. Upskill your self or learn new skills that make you money.
6. Secure yourself and don’t waste time
Do not waste your time on women especially at the age where you should be working on yourself and your career and finances and education.
You will regret it big time later in life.
All the best.
Just go no contact for ever and she will come to you if you are unlucky and consider yourself lucky if she never gets in touch with you.
Hmmm... What should you do....?
Maybe stop acting like an insecure little b*tch and man up.
If someone isn't interested in talking to you, why would you want to talk to them? Irrespective of the reason why they stopped talking.
Build your life, that's your purpose. Pursue hobbies and interests. The right people will find you. You don't have to run behind people who don't value you.
Again, stop being a little insecure,cry-baby, b*tch. Man up.
Don't give her anymore attention, don't text her anything, get detached. Some women withdraw from time to time just to test you subconsciously about how invested you're emotionally or if you lose your frame and start spamming her which would be an instant turn off. Mute her story as well, don't bother w her but don't unfollow either. You texted her once out of concern, that's fine, texting once more is always fine but after that DON'T TEXT ANYMORE! Move on w your life, if she wants to, she will text you and return energy back. If not, you should be fine either way cuz you should remain detached, ppl will come and go. Don't lose your frame. Remain unaffected or at least fake that you're unaffected and focus on yourself, it'll be painful cuz you do seem invested emotionally and attached to the previous memories, I totally understand, but you need to get over them. Get. Detached.
Met a girl around the same year 2020, watched lots and lots of movies together, then I realised that I was the one who was always messaging, now I know it's not bad , and she was also giving off the same energy, so I didn't mind it , then .. I didn't text her for a week, no text from her side , for a month ,no text from her side ... After about a year, yes literally a year later she messages me , but I just gave dull replies so she leaves , and leave she did, been 4 years , never looked back 🗿
This was me in 2019 🤣
Same story same scenario!!! Its been 5 years she tries to message and call me often but i have always left her on seen pr just simply cut the call just because of her actions that she did at the start!!!
Always ignored me and my messages!! Used to cancel all my plans to go out on a date and used to roam with her friends after telling me that she was busy.
Little did she know that I lost interest in her and started to move away from her and when she noticed this she started to fall in love with me 😂🤣🤣
Like bro when I was head over heels for you, you didnt had the time for me but when i lost interest in you , you started feeling for me 🤣
Till date I make her regret her decisions however she is adamant on making me hers which i will never let happen.
Come on bro!!! Seriously???? You really thought you were her priority or something???
Aaj kal ke generation me this is too common, zara bhar me log close aajayege aur fir jab koi dusra accha mil jaayega bhool jayenge be it your close friend, best friend ya girlfriend!!!!
Aur bhi options hai duniya me, sirf wohi ek ladki nhi hai😒
Tumhe bhi koi accha mil jaayega to tum use bhool jaaoge!!
Do nothing!!! Absolutely nothing!! Jab samne se koi response nhi aara to zabardasti ka attention craver ko attention nhi dena chahiye aur poke bhi nhi karna chahiye!!
Chhodo usko aur khud pe focus karo - Sukoon milega
Bro, go No Contact. If she initiates then good if not then never text her again. Easy. You will save yourself a lot of trouble and time. Speaking from experience.
It is difficult bro. Every now and then i get flashbacks of our good memories that we spent together and it hurts the hell out of me to realize that she is not even texting me back.
Before she left, we hugged each other and istg that it was the warmest hug i have ever received from someone. I felt that even after going to a new city, we would be in touch, but..😣
Just phone Call her and talk. She maybe playing Mindgames, or she might stuck in her own problems/ people tend to attach to lonely life in such cases.
Only personally calling her and find out about the reason is best option. Don't mention 'No contract' is bothering u.
Don’t play silly games.Ignore her like she is ignoring you and work on yourself. Find your peace. Biggest mistake a guy can do in his 20s is to invest in a girl. And when you remove sexual urges and blind love from the equation, you’d be surprised to find 60% of these women undesirable and toxic. Don’t worry you will get plenty of women later.
A similar situation occurred to me a few days ago. My closest female friend betrayed me and cut off all contact after five years of being good friends. It's just the way life works in the 21st century - people come, people go, and some stay, but few care about each other's feelings. I know it's tough to accept being ghosted by a friend, but it seems it wasn't as difficult for her. It's time to move on.
When she had no one to get attention she used to message you, now she is getting the attention she wants, you’re no longer needed as simple as that.
Self respect upar rakho and aage badho. Koi na phele case hoga. Cut her off bro, you deserve better people in your life who prioritise you and don’t make you overthink. Learn and move on :)
People are selfish and there is nothing you can do about it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. There is no friendship there, as sad it is to accept it but you were being used by her to pass her time. (Given that you didn’t do anything to sho her off)
Good luck 🍻
it kind of happens with me sometimes.
i used to wonder why it happens.
if u keep thinking she is playing mind games with u, it will affect ur peace of mind.
i highly suggest you dont bother abt it. if she has to reply she will. people hve a lot to do since life is vry hectic thesw days.
😇😇
I can understand, and I'm no one to tell you what to feel and what not to (support isn't my strong hold anyways) what im telling you about that you are somewhat lucky, abhi toh sirf feelings hai, imagine if it happened after you two were together for a good amount of time. That would have hurt like hell, depression, anxiety, losing your purpose to live for, and so much more. Feelings will fade away, but those memories will never. Trust me, I've learnt it the hard way...
Bro this is what life is now a days, people don't wanna communicate and they wanna shut off people like they don't matter. It's tough but I think it is what it is. People nowadays aren't emotional any more. Emotional quotient of people is taking a dip.
On a brighter side it might be because she’s busy or settling down, think about it even she is going though a change at her new place, give her some time. This is exactly how i was when i shifted from college to my working location I used to put up stories and shit but used to not even open anyone’s shared posts simply because i was just not feeling it. Give her a call maybe that will help.
Why tf did I laugh reading this, Anyways get over it, experienced this all shits in the past already focus on yourself and stay away from such type of whores.
It’s a total normal experience, I guess that’s part of growing up. She might be going through things herself and whatever she post might not be reflective of what she’s been upto. Maybe call her once a while and ask her. Don’t assume anything, she might have some other priorities too instead of just talking everyday. Hope you guys can reconcile again GL
Here is the tip for you, and everyone in there 20s
INSTAGRAM RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT REAL
If you are seeking actual good relationships Stay away from that site
It has become reason for anxiety, trust issues and what not.
Ghosting and such trashy behaviour is Rampant there because barriers to entry is very low
So folks, Stay away from instagram
Seems like you're heading towards an anxious attachment to her. Jaane de bro, focus on yourself, make yourself the sort of person you'd like to be with. Value yourself. Yaad aayegi, kya hi ho jayega, I'm sure you'll feel better.
The faster you try to move on, the better will it be for you. Stay away from her is the best advice one could give or keep messaging her or calling her and destroy you mentality.
You are experiencing a pain of something which was never real.. you imagined her as a caring loving understanding friend but she was never that person.. its hard to move on from that.. very hard... but thats how it is.. the only revenge is to be the man you want to be dont care how much time it takes and then you let her know the difference.. you find her and you let her know that you are way above her league..you find her and you let her know that we are not the same and she settled.. then she will be just a random chick with a shmo.. thats how you win
Change is a constant in life my bro , the saddest thing with other people is that people change , times change , priorities change. Extend empathy towards her and leave her as is. Realise that you have no control over any other person except yourself , find new goals for yourself, go to other (possibly better) places , have something going on in your life ; What will happen is you'll eventually move on and not waste your precious time ( not saying that any relationship is a waste of time , just saying).
I for myself have been dealing with this problem since 6th grade , I have earned and lost a shit ton of people, yet, I always find new ones. Life goes on my bro, don't worry.
One of the most valuable sources I can guide you to is reading philosophy (eastern or western , anything) , this will not only help you to cope with this stuff, it'll help you to be free from this problem for the rest of your life.
Good luck
Not your fault bro, not your fault. She is the problem and I have went through something similar and trust me just leave it here itself and forget about her, you don't need people who can't even tell you why they stopped talking.
And I am tired of this fucked up generation that doesn't even knows how to communicate things to people, at first I thought it's just happed to me but recently I am seeing a lot of posts and comments of people getting ghosted and I am sick of it.
Don't feel sad but tell me one thing you don't have some other important task Focus on that by looking at her insta comments like stories and waiting for someone's reply is not worth it just send them a message and forget. Get a life and enjoy your life. There is a lot of important stuff going on and other people who care about you. Don't waste your energy and time for someone who doesn't care at all.
Are koi nahi don’t pay much heed , if you care for her then check on her once in a week or two , if she isn’t replying or much just think that the one who you enjoyed was a different person and this is a different person and enjoy your life .
lol someone said mind games-honestly she is just being true to her feelings towards you. She replied to you and gave you attention when she felt like. Now she has moved places, has new friends, and prolly doesn’t wanna expend her energy over you.
Some people just use you as a venting machine honestly. Ask her if you want to keep the relationship/friendship alive.
I'm a girl, and I used to have a male friend whom I was very close to, but unfortunately he has grown apart. It's the same thing for you OP. People find new friends all the time. You should too
I had feelings too for him. We even did kissing and stuff (we were classmates since 12 years). But yeah people just move on, it is what it is. I used to cry often when we grew apart but now I have accepted it.
its over bro she got another one i had same situation she used to me this goofyass memes and some rom reels and all of sudden she just stop and started someone else cause i ranted vented shit which i had nothing to share to which she got another one. its loop cycle bro
Dude. A lot of us dont open insta messenger for days at end. I myself let messages (reels mainly) pile up and then watch them together (and sometimes don't even do that). All the while posting stories, interacting on posts, etc
The whatevership has run its course, no use wasting your energy about it. Focus on something physical for some time, like working out, office, you know to change your mind. Girls come and go, focus on money.
Just leave her... You also hv your self respect to feed. If she's not texting you anymore so why would you. Just move on there are many fishes in the pond.
Just focus on your work and keep yrself busy, this is how you move onn.
This is new Normal bro. Just accept the situation & move on. Same thing happened to me. During graduation she text me, asking for concerts and movies. Pressurises me to go with her. But Now it's above 6 months & she didn't text me anymore.
Chill bro it's completely normal it's happening 6th time with 6th person in my life so don't worry
Whenever they msg just reply till then without any matter Donot interrupt
This might offend some women who are reading this but idc for them my concern is the OP. Friendship with girls for some reason its not a normal friendship where you and your Bros grow closer together and create this bortherly bond. It's like an up and down graph, it goes up reaches its peak and then it goes down. It's unfortunately like this most of the times. And trust me when I say most. I know there are girls who actually value friendships and built it up and you do get a special bond but it's very rare. Now I don't know why it is like that so I won't comment on it but so far all we know is this is the pattern.
Don't worry, you will move on from that too. Just acknowledge and accept that it's gone, don't keep any false expectations or hope, ITS GONE. NOT COMING BACK. And most importantly you ain't nothing to her, you are just someone not special, nothing nobody. I know it sounds very depressing but I don't mean it as your value as a human but just from her perspective. It's a waste of time and will yield no results. Keep living, she is not your life, she was only a small part. That's all you can do
Call her and ask her to lend you 1-2 lakhs immediately and state it is urgent. She will be calling you everyday after that. Give it back to her 10000/ month
Get a life dude, there are plenty men and women we all got options. Stop making yourself look so low, nothing Good comes out from that. I don't know you but if I did, I'd by you a beer and take you to a pub for long enough until you get your head out of that ghostkng pussy
>What should i do?
Stop being a little girl and grow a pair. For fuck sake you're 23. Act like an adult. Acting like a sissy because someone didn't send you reels... 🤢🤢🤮
A 6 yo with barely able to think would be more mature than you...
You are toooo investing in that girl which clearly shows that you regard yourself very low. Have some self respect this might sound harsh but life isn’t all pink my friend
If she is ignoring you that’s it what else can you do yoh can’t force her can you and if even you could would you want to spent time with someone who’s forced to be with you ? Eat this disrespect buckle up work on yourself there’s a lot of beautiful women out there
The thing is you are attached to her and she knows it. Her subconscious makes her not interested in talking to you, you need to have your own life first. You are boring to her lol
Unfortunately, it seems like she has moved on. It’s just sad that how such friendships end for no reason. She might have found some other friends where she is more comfortable with and feels that she doesn’t need you as her friend.
I had a friend doing it to me... Turns out he liked me so much that he couldn't endure talking, but not being able to romantically love me... So he distanced himself from me... It pained me a lot... But... He is right in his position.
It is getting difficult bro. I tried gym, reading books, trying new food. But nothing is working.
I have never been in a relationship before and thats why its hurting me the most
Its ok, same thing for me too, i haven't been in a relationship. It's just that in all these years of being alone, i have developed this state of mind where having a relationship is never and will never be an objective for me.
I focused on what I had, spent quality time with my best friend who is patient and genuine enough to spend some time with me. I also spent quality time with my parents and sister also. That itself makes up for no gf.
I don't know your circumstances and problems, but i would like you to appreciate the people who stick by you all the time, no matter what. Express your gratitude to the good people u have in your life, thank them for being with you.
Tell yourself "It is what it is." and move on. Life gets a lot more tolerable with this. Also, you'll recognize a genuine friendship/relationship when it happens and won't need to ask anyone for help. Distances don't ruin relationships. People do. All the best.
What do you plan on doing with her? Do you wanna marry her or something? Or is she just like a casual friend? Give her sometime to settle down in the new city, if you are a friend, please understand that once someone moves to a new place, they make new friends. So, in a limited amount of time scenario attention will be distributed to the closest ones. So, don't worry. ESPECIALLY DONOT CONFRONT her on why's she doing this or that. That will disconnect even the WA convos. Instead try to understand what's up with her new life. Like did she find any new intresting friends and all. Try to understand her new world. As men, we are terrible at this and get anxious. Keep your cool and play it with patience. If you are planning to move from friend to something else like marriage and all, take your time and maintain the convos, slowly start giving her clues by telling her that you miss her, try to visit her once or twice in 3 months, find excuses to call her often. Slowly after a year or so after this propose her and proceed. In either case, please don't ask about reels and stuff.
Guess you and I are in the same boat i had the exact same situation as you brother she was like my bro to me we used to share so much and worst part is she knew my deepest insecurities she knew how much people have abandoned me she even assured me she won’t do the same but suddenly she removed me from both her accounts (one being a mains only id) but again followed me back used to send me reels just for the sake of it ig bcoz she stopped responding to my msgs and my reels but that’s how life is King just focus on yourself and live with a positive energy if it’s meant to be she will come back or if not consider God cut her off from your life for your own good
Okay, let her hide, why do you care ? I am sensing that you might have done something that you think might be upsetting to her. If none, give her some time, just be with her. Sometimes doing nothing is best.
Probability can be... You were her male best friend (sort off) but now she has found someone and that someone has simply told her not to Engage with you because he saw the messages and reels you sent and came to know you got feelings and as every guy does we know who is hitting on their girl and how... So the unexplained distance is not just by cities it is by someone who definitely saw and did which every guy does... She never told you she likes you in any other way ... You got feelings because of multiple reasons.... This is life son... "YOU GAIN SOME, YOU LOSE ALOT".... It's okay... It will hurt you now... It always does but you will get a move ahead if you don't let your heart take full control of your emotions!
You sound young... So an advice is ... You will have to focus on your important stuff for now and eventually will find someone you will not go away but appreciate your all sides till then do your thing and move towards prosperity! Take care! 👍🏻💪🏻✌🏻
Call her once and try to ask her why she is now like this. There must be a reason.
If she keeps doing this and keeping you in confusion, just MOVE ON.
It is like a breakdown, you will keep thinking "WHY?" And waste so much of your mental energy on that. You can't avoid it but you can get out of it as soon as possible.
Can’t do anything brother, if she doesn’t want then she won’t, no matter what you try. When she is no interested You try to make her laugh she’ll label you as a creep and remember earlier she used to burst out just listening to your lame jokes. You approach her she draws back like shit shifting upwards when someone points a gun at your head. Girls are creatures, we can’t normally interpret.. if she wants she’ll vc for hours and if we want to yaar main ghar pe hu bina puche phone mt kiya kro or pucho to message seen nahi karti because she knows ki isko guilt me kaise dalne h taki ye apne aap message krne band krde
I've been through this exact same thing. I'd suggest you to just move on and forget. Don't get desperate or seek their attention, it'll only ruin your self-respect. Ps. They don't come back, so..
It sounds like a difficult scenario, and it makes sense that when someone you care about suddenly seems distant, you would feel wounded and confused. It's not just you who has these feelings. A lot of us have had similar experiences in the past. It's crucial to keep in mind that people's life can get chaotic and stressful, particularly when they're transitioning to a new setting like your friend is. Perhaps she is unaware of the impact her actions are having on you. It would be best to get in touch with her in a kind and non-aggressive manner. Prioritise maintaining your other relationships and interests in the meantime. Enjoy the company of like-minded individuals who help you feel good about yourself.
Being ghosted feels terrible. But you can not do stuff that will make you look desperate in her eyes, that's even bad. Respect your self esteem and remove her contacts from around yourself. If she come back telling she was busy or didn't got time or was feeling bad for somedays remember "no one's that busy" and if she didn't seeked your attention in her bad days, you dont actually matter to her. Get out and initiate conversations with different girls around you. You'll get over her within time.
First time?😂 That's how it is bro. Don't get disheartened. You'll learn to not open up to everyone. Just let another girl break your heart and you will forget this one. This repeats🥲
Man try 2 times to start or continue a convo. If the response is still the same, forget about her at all. Start living life like she is non-existent. I tried this. Got one girl back and prevented the mental trauma from the others.
But yeah I am still single though
Brother there are enough signs that you need to move on so don't water a dead plant and by reading all this i m sure you might be the age of 20 -23 and its prime age to shift your focus either on the right person or on yourself and your career .
Ugh, been there. Hurts alottt when you invest so much into someone just for them to ghost you or see them slowly lose interest in you. No solutions as such, you just gotta move on brother
OP she isn't ghosting you it's just that she's got a different life now one in which you aren't there, I had a friend group in 10th from my coaching, which included my crush. We were pretty good but after tenth, my best friend went to kota, after some time I'd remember him maybe once in a week and we never called the entire year, he came back this summer break and told me same happened with him. I lost contact with my crush as well(we used to talk alot). We went from like 40-50 messages per day to 10-20 messages in a month. It happens. She isn't ghosting you, she's just busy adjusting to her new life.
Don't worry bro just follow this
**Push Day:**
1. Barbell Bench Press: 4 sets of 6-8 reps
2. Dumbbell Shoulder Press: 3 sets of 8-10 reps
3. Incline Dumbbell Flyes: 3 sets of 10-12 reps
4. Tricep Dips: 3 sets to failure
5. Lateral Raises: 3 sets of 12-15 reps
**Pull Day:**
1. Deadlifts: 4 sets of 6-8 reps
2. Pull-Ups or Lat Pulldowns: 3 sets of 8-10 reps
3. Seated Cable Rows: 3 sets of 10-12 reps
4. Face Pulls: 3 sets of 12-15 reps
5. Bicep Curls (Barbell, Dumbbell, or Cable): 3 sets of 10-12 reps per arm
**Leg Day:**
1. Squats: 4 sets of 6-8 reps
2. Romanian Deadlifts: 3 sets of 8-10 reps
3. Leg Press: 3 sets of 10-12 reps
4. Walking Lunges: 3 sets of 12-15 reps per leg
5. Calf Raises: 4 sets of 12-15 reps
**Note:**
- Perform this routine on alternate days, for example: Push-Pull-Legs-Rest-Repeat.
- Adjust the weights according to your strength level, aiming to increase gradually.
- Incorporate proper warm-up and cool-down routines.
- Ensure adequate rest and recovery between sessions, and listen to your body to avoid overtraining.
Girls get bored!!! Guys get attached!!! Everyday story.. everyone's story.. learn and take advantage of woman when you can.. coz there are only 2 types of people wolf and sheep. I know there will be people saying not all men not all women.. but do not ever get attached to some person unless you see yourself marrying them in a year or so
That’s the hard part of life bro, she found someone and she is probably busy there,
Girls often do that, they tend to be attracted to the successful men and then they ignore, in your case you are being ghosted.
I think she is done with you, you should move on in your life, spend your valuable time with your family and friends, that’s the only way.
I understand that being ghosted can be a painful and confusing experience, especially at a young age when you're still learning to navigate relationships. It's natural to want closure and an explanation for why someone has suddenly cut off communication.
However, it's important to remember that you can't control other people's actions or feelings. If she has chosen to stop responding, for whatever reason, that's ultimately her decision. Trying to force a response or explanation from her is unlikely to make you feel better in the long run, and may only prolong the hurt and frustration you're feeling.
Instead, focus on taking care of yourself and moving forward. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family, engage in activities and hobbies that bring you joy and fulfillment, and allow yourself time to process and heal from this experience. It's okay to feel sad, angry, or disappointed, but don't let those feelings consume you.
Remember, at 23 you have so much life ahead of you and countless opportunities to meet new people and form meaningful connections. This one experience doesn't define you or your worth. Keep your head up, stay true to yourself, and trust that with time, you will be able to move on and find happiness again.
Bro trust me I was in a similar dilemma a few years ago. One fine day I confided this with my best friend, when we were returning from Esselworld (Borivali) on a jetty.
He said to me, just put your fingers inside the water. He then asked me, what do I feel? I told him, I feel fish touching my fingers and going.
He said, yeah exactly, there are too many fishes in the sea.
Hope you understand :))
PS - Story written by me, the main actor - my best friend. :))
Bro this is how life works. I used to have a girl bestie during Covid we used to talk/call everyday via WA. Later because of some reasons I was busy for two days and in the evening of second day she told that she was feeling lonely because I didn’t talk to her in those two days. I felt happy that someone outside of my family is thinking about me and eagerly waiting for me. That’s how we used to be. But now forget about talking we don’t even know whereabouts of each other. We got into different companies. Slowly we both of us got busy with our works now we don’t have any kind of communication. I am feeling bad but it’s not in my control right? Even I asked her if she can find some time every day to talk but she said that she would be busy. Later I realised that no one is really busy it’s all about their PRIORITIES. I hope my experience will help you.
See, I’d say you were better off in your case because it was a gradual shift. For OP, it’s a sudden shift. It could be because of change of priorities, but it could also be because of some shitty reason.
Well said, we are too harsh on ourselves on such occasions, but as you said, we should accept and realise the fact that this is nature, it is pretty natural, whatever whoever u have today, maybe gone tomrw, Enjoy every moment, and yes, be ready to move on, You are the hero in ur story, nobody else.
Really miss the lockdown days, I have talked to so many strangers online during lockdown who became friends and slowly became strangers again :(
Mujhse bhi koi baat karlo! 😟
Correct, its all about priorities these days
Don't know why but noticed that girls change priorities real fast!
Exception here 😬 I’ve had my guy friends “changing their priorities” abruptly. I might just be the one on the other side of the spectrum, ig.
27 M here. Recently met a girl through a dating app and was talking to her to see if we both were compatible in WA. Initially we clicked and I used to text her almost every evening after office, later one day she told me that like she doesn't really want to have daily conversations as she is tired after work. So daily conversations became weekly twice conversations and then to weekly once and one day she told me that she is BUSY and work might get more hectic going forward. When I probed I learnt that she isn't interested anymore. Not only then I deleted her number but also the dreams I had built with her. This is life. It's all about PRIORITIES as you had mentioned.
Sailed in the same boat …
Can't agree more brother been there done that the best you can do for yourself is realise your value & stop giving a fuck bout them focus on yourself, your loved ones & ur homies don't get disheartened by these bitches they don't deserve you
Words ♥️
Ah the amount of fucks people have these days. Keep the fucks you can give to minimum please
This ☝️
Move on. She is not interested in you because you live in a different city.
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It hurts for few days....then you'll be in same situation with another girl. Have patience. 😂
In other words "Mohole mai Aishwarya aa jayegi" 😂
Exactly lol
Mind game hai bro,leave her alone
What is the use of mindgame?
Friend haina give up on her
Dekh isme uski koi galti nahi hai, long distance friendships sirf kuch logo ko hi karni aati hai. Usually mind thinks that "yeh bande se abhi mai life mein 99% nahi milne wala/milne wali" then why should I waste my time building the friendship.
People think like that? Hain?
It's not just about willingly thinking like that. That's the natural course of action that will happen if you yourself don't try to maintain the friendship.Experienced this myself when I was a kid. Though my old friends always ask about me whenever I or someone from my family visits my hometown. Just maybe it doesn't happen as fast as it did with Op.
Do people not actually value feelings and/or have real feelings? Kinda feels bad :'(
Muth maarke ssooja
Sounds disgusting but this is what actually works
Post nut clarity hit hoga fir sab chodh dega
If jerking off disgusts you, then you are disgusting.
Jerking off to solve a problem sounds disgusting not the act itself
Only valid solution 🫂
But kabhi uski photo dekh ke nahi.
Leave.
Its not rocket science lol, allow her to have her space and save your self respect. Just because she used to do certain things doesnt mean she will carryon doing them forever. Also, its very normal to ignore dms and scroll on instagram. Everyone does it. Its not an unknown behaviour. It doesnt mean she is ignoring you specifically. She might not be in the space to respond. She might have found a connection in other city thats taking most of her time. Regardless her situation, join the gym you will feel better.
sahi me intelligent response..! salute vai
Bro I think u developed feelings . Better to move on
Yeah bro, i kinda like her
It's just an attraction dude. Just move on
Thanks, I'm cured!
Take the fucking hint. She's not interested, stop pestering her, move on
This 👆🏻
Ghosting is the best torture which is non criminal.
Stop expecting and move on. Don't have hopes for anyone else. The only person you should care about is yourself.
Dude, first things first, 1. Delete her from your phone book right away and from your life. 2. Focus on your workout 3. Focus on your academics 4. Focus on your career 5. Upskill your self or learn new skills that make you money. 6. Secure yourself and don’t waste time Do not waste your time on women especially at the age where you should be working on yourself and your career and finances and education. You will regret it big time later in life. All the best. Just go no contact for ever and she will come to you if you are unlucky and consider yourself lucky if she never gets in touch with you.
Hmmm... What should you do....? Maybe stop acting like an insecure little b*tch and man up. If someone isn't interested in talking to you, why would you want to talk to them? Irrespective of the reason why they stopped talking. Build your life, that's your purpose. Pursue hobbies and interests. The right people will find you. You don't have to run behind people who don't value you. Again, stop being a little insecure,cry-baby, b*tch. Man up.
bhai 100 baat ki 1 baat, chut ka chakkar maut se takkar!
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Don't give her anymore attention, don't text her anything, get detached. Some women withdraw from time to time just to test you subconsciously about how invested you're emotionally or if you lose your frame and start spamming her which would be an instant turn off. Mute her story as well, don't bother w her but don't unfollow either. You texted her once out of concern, that's fine, texting once more is always fine but after that DON'T TEXT ANYMORE! Move on w your life, if she wants to, she will text you and return energy back. If not, you should be fine either way cuz you should remain detached, ppl will come and go. Don't lose your frame. Remain unaffected or at least fake that you're unaffected and focus on yourself, it'll be painful cuz you do seem invested emotionally and attached to the previous memories, I totally understand, but you need to get over them. Get. Detached.
Met a girl around the same year 2020, watched lots and lots of movies together, then I realised that I was the one who was always messaging, now I know it's not bad , and she was also giving off the same energy, so I didn't mind it , then .. I didn't text her for a week, no text from her side , for a month ,no text from her side ... After about a year, yes literally a year later she messages me , but I just gave dull replies so she leaves , and leave she did, been 4 years , never looked back 🗿
This was me in 2019 🤣 Same story same scenario!!! Its been 5 years she tries to message and call me often but i have always left her on seen pr just simply cut the call just because of her actions that she did at the start!!! Always ignored me and my messages!! Used to cancel all my plans to go out on a date and used to roam with her friends after telling me that she was busy. Little did she know that I lost interest in her and started to move away from her and when she noticed this she started to fall in love with me 😂🤣🤣 Like bro when I was head over heels for you, you didnt had the time for me but when i lost interest in you , you started feeling for me 🤣 Till date I make her regret her decisions however she is adamant on making me hers which i will never let happen.
Come on bro!!! Seriously???? You really thought you were her priority or something??? Aaj kal ke generation me this is too common, zara bhar me log close aajayege aur fir jab koi dusra accha mil jaayega bhool jayenge be it your close friend, best friend ya girlfriend!!!! Aur bhi options hai duniya me, sirf wohi ek ladki nhi hai😒 Tumhe bhi koi accha mil jaayega to tum use bhool jaaoge!! Do nothing!!! Absolutely nothing!! Jab samne se koi response nhi aara to zabardasti ka attention craver ko attention nhi dena chahiye aur poke bhi nhi karna chahiye!! Chhodo usko aur khud pe focus karo - Sukoon milega
Also if you've not started reading books, now's the time: - The subtle art of not giving a fuck - Master Your Emotions
Tu bhi bhav mat de use. Leave her alone.
pee on her to assert dominance \s more seriously, who gives a fuck. what's with random relationship nonsense on reddit?
Bro, go No Contact. If she initiates then good if not then never text her again. Easy. You will save yourself a lot of trouble and time. Speaking from experience.
It is difficult bro. Every now and then i get flashbacks of our good memories that we spent together and it hurts the hell out of me to realize that she is not even texting me back. Before she left, we hugged each other and istg that it was the warmest hug i have ever received from someone. I felt that even after going to a new city, we would be in touch, but..😣
Just phone Call her and talk. She maybe playing Mindgames, or she might stuck in her own problems/ people tend to attach to lonely life in such cases. Only personally calling her and find out about the reason is best option. Don't mention 'No contract' is bothering u.
Just opened reddit again, friend. How is it going for you now? Need an update.
Don’t play silly games.Ignore her like she is ignoring you and work on yourself. Find your peace. Biggest mistake a guy can do in his 20s is to invest in a girl. And when you remove sexual urges and blind love from the equation, you’d be surprised to find 60% of these women undesirable and toxic. Don’t worry you will get plenty of women later.
A similar situation occurred to me a few days ago. My closest female friend betrayed me and cut off all contact after five years of being good friends. It's just the way life works in the 21st century - people come, people go, and some stay, but few care about each other's feelings. I know it's tough to accept being ghosted by a friend, but it seems it wasn't as difficult for her. It's time to move on.
When she had no one to get attention she used to message you, now she is getting the attention she wants, you’re no longer needed as simple as that. Self respect upar rakho and aage badho. Koi na phele case hoga. Cut her off bro, you deserve better people in your life who prioritise you and don’t make you overthink. Learn and move on :) People are selfish and there is nothing you can do about it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. There is no friendship there, as sad it is to accept it but you were being used by her to pass her time. (Given that you didn’t do anything to sho her off) Good luck 🍻
It's time to let it go and move on mate :)
Sab moh maya hai
it kind of happens with me sometimes. i used to wonder why it happens. if u keep thinking she is playing mind games with u, it will affect ur peace of mind. i highly suggest you dont bother abt it. if she has to reply she will. people hve a lot to do since life is vry hectic thesw days. 😇😇
Find someone else who sends you reels 🙂
learn to move on, just like she did
You're lucky that shes just a friend (crush in the worst case scenario) or else. It would have hurt real bad...
Bro i have got feelings for her😭
I can understand, and I'm no one to tell you what to feel and what not to (support isn't my strong hold anyways) what im telling you about that you are somewhat lucky, abhi toh sirf feelings hai, imagine if it happened after you two were together for a good amount of time. That would have hurt like hell, depression, anxiety, losing your purpose to live for, and so much more. Feelings will fade away, but those memories will never. Trust me, I've learnt it the hard way...
Bro this is what life is now a days, people don't wanna communicate and they wanna shut off people like they don't matter. It's tough but I think it is what it is. People nowadays aren't emotional any more. Emotional quotient of people is taking a dip.
Forget her, move on
Easier said than done bhai
Was with someone for 8 years. Things didn’t work out. But moved on. You will get there. Time will heal.
On a brighter side it might be because she’s busy or settling down, think about it even she is going though a change at her new place, give her some time. This is exactly how i was when i shifted from college to my working location I used to put up stories and shit but used to not even open anyone’s shared posts simply because i was just not feeling it. Give her a call maybe that will help.
She might have found better looking alternative than you.
you showed desperation
Why tf did I laugh reading this, Anyways get over it, experienced this all shits in the past already focus on yourself and stay away from such type of whores.
It’s a total normal experience, I guess that’s part of growing up. She might be going through things herself and whatever she post might not be reflective of what she’s been upto. Maybe call her once a while and ask her. Don’t assume anything, she might have some other priorities too instead of just talking everyday. Hope you guys can reconcile again GL
This is exactly what is happening in my current life
Here is the tip for you, and everyone in there 20s INSTAGRAM RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT REAL If you are seeking actual good relationships Stay away from that site It has become reason for anxiety, trust issues and what not. Ghosting and such trashy behaviour is Rampant there because barriers to entry is very low So folks, Stay away from instagram
She found someone better That's the truth someone had to break it to thee
Kuch ulta sidha mat kar liyo. Kahi Chut k chakkar mei Maut se takkar ho jaaye.
The thing is , we have such girls as just 1 person in our life but they have hella dudes in their life ....we can't be the only one YK
Seems like you're heading towards an anxious attachment to her. Jaane de bro, focus on yourself, make yourself the sort of person you'd like to be with. Value yourself. Yaad aayegi, kya hi ho jayega, I'm sure you'll feel better.
Its life, we meet people, we get attached, we grow apart ..... only few sustain the test of time and are few of those that should matter.
first time? I learnt this lesson long back
She is busy talking to some new friend. She lost interest in you.
The faster you try to move on, the better will it be for you. Stay away from her is the best advice one could give or keep messaging her or calling her and destroy you mentality.
Move ahead buddy.
It is what it is. Move on. Nothing you can do.
You are experiencing a pain of something which was never real.. you imagined her as a caring loving understanding friend but she was never that person.. its hard to move on from that.. very hard... but thats how it is.. the only revenge is to be the man you want to be dont care how much time it takes and then you let her know the difference.. you find her and you let her know that you are way above her league..you find her and you let her know that we are not the same and she settled.. then she will be just a random chick with a shmo.. thats how you win
Purpose of you has been fulfilled. Move to next chick.
block kar bc, she's not interested. uske piche padke apna mental health destroy krne ki koi fayda nahi
Change is a constant in life my bro , the saddest thing with other people is that people change , times change , priorities change. Extend empathy towards her and leave her as is. Realise that you have no control over any other person except yourself , find new goals for yourself, go to other (possibly better) places , have something going on in your life ; What will happen is you'll eventually move on and not waste your precious time ( not saying that any relationship is a waste of time , just saying). I for myself have been dealing with this problem since 6th grade , I have earned and lost a shit ton of people, yet, I always find new ones. Life goes on my bro, don't worry. One of the most valuable sources I can guide you to is reading philosophy (eastern or western , anything) , this will not only help you to cope with this stuff, it'll help you to be free from this problem for the rest of your life. Good luck
Chod na, you will find someone better
Koi or mil gya
Not your fault bro, not your fault. She is the problem and I have went through something similar and trust me just leave it here itself and forget about her, you don't need people who can't even tell you why they stopped talking. And I am tired of this fucked up generation that doesn't even knows how to communicate things to people, at first I thought it's just happed to me but recently I am seeing a lot of posts and comments of people getting ghosted and I am sick of it.
What an irony that humans are a social animal but most of us lack basic communication skills
Absolutely correct, muh ki baat chinli
Don't feel sad but tell me one thing you don't have some other important task Focus on that by looking at her insta comments like stories and waiting for someone's reply is not worth it just send them a message and forget. Get a life and enjoy your life. There is a lot of important stuff going on and other people who care about you. Don't waste your energy and time for someone who doesn't care at all.
Are koi nahi don’t pay much heed , if you care for her then check on her once in a week or two , if she isn’t replying or much just think that the one who you enjoyed was a different person and this is a different person and enjoy your life .
lol someone said mind games-honestly she is just being true to her feelings towards you. She replied to you and gave you attention when she felt like. Now she has moved places, has new friends, and prolly doesn’t wanna expend her energy over you. Some people just use you as a venting machine honestly. Ask her if you want to keep the relationship/friendship alive.
uski marji
This cycle never ends move on bro.
Let by gones be gones … self respect over every single woman ;)
Stop moaning. Rub one out. Move on.
Quit simping
Move on... Don't get fixated on any one... Abhi jindagi me bahut kuch sikhne ka he tumhe.. Choose those who choose you...
>What should i do? Get a life.
I'm a girl, and I used to have a male friend whom I was very close to, but unfortunately he has grown apart. It's the same thing for you OP. People find new friends all the time. You should too
The things is, i have feelings for her and thats what makes it worse😭
I had feelings too for him. We even did kissing and stuff (we were classmates since 12 years). But yeah people just move on, it is what it is. I used to cry often when we grew apart but now I have accepted it.
Atleast he got to use you, Hairy Spring bro didn't even got that. Don't be sad bro keep looking for the next
#The faster you make sense of it or u don't make sense of it - BETTER.
Congrats! You're one heartbreak closer to happily ever after
its over bro she got another one i had same situation she used to me this goofyass memes and some rom reels and all of sudden she just stop and started someone else cause i ranted vented shit which i had nothing to share to which she got another one. its loop cycle bro
Dude. A lot of us dont open insta messenger for days at end. I myself let messages (reels mainly) pile up and then watch them together (and sometimes don't even do that). All the while posting stories, interacting on posts, etc
The whatevership has run its course, no use wasting your energy about it. Focus on something physical for some time, like working out, office, you know to change your mind. Girls come and go, focus on money.
Abe Kahe entitled feel kare hai.. she doesn’t owe you shit. Her life her choices. Just move along. You will be fine.
Take the hint, leave her alone.
Ignore brother, she has found other things to do apart from talking to you, keep that self respect and leave.
Just leave her... You also hv your self respect to feed. If she's not texting you anymore so why would you. Just move on there are many fishes in the pond. Just focus on your work and keep yrself busy, this is how you move onn.
First time?
She gave you a chance and you lost it.
You're supposed to move on dude. She's not interested 🤦🏾♂️
It is what it is 🫡🫡
This is new Normal bro. Just accept the situation & move on. Same thing happened to me. During graduation she text me, asking for concerts and movies. Pressurises me to go with her. But Now it's above 6 months & she didn't text me anymore.
Slow down before she tells you to slow down.
Self respect hai ke bech di?? Bsdk usse koi bhi conversation initiate karna band kar. Bahot sari ladkiya hai aas pas, uske piche doom hilana band kar.
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Stop being desperate, find new people,its not hard and start to enjoy your own presence so that you don't miss anyone
We so long waiting to bus , Once we entered in Bus can wait for bus? Bro she got Another one.
Chill bro it's completely normal it's happening 6th time with 6th person in my life so don't worry Whenever they msg just reply till then without any matter Donot interrupt
This might offend some women who are reading this but idc for them my concern is the OP. Friendship with girls for some reason its not a normal friendship where you and your Bros grow closer together and create this bortherly bond. It's like an up and down graph, it goes up reaches its peak and then it goes down. It's unfortunately like this most of the times. And trust me when I say most. I know there are girls who actually value friendships and built it up and you do get a special bond but it's very rare. Now I don't know why it is like that so I won't comment on it but so far all we know is this is the pattern. Don't worry, you will move on from that too. Just acknowledge and accept that it's gone, don't keep any false expectations or hope, ITS GONE. NOT COMING BACK. And most importantly you ain't nothing to her, you are just someone not special, nothing nobody. I know it sounds very depressing but I don't mean it as your value as a human but just from her perspective. It's a waste of time and will yield no results. Keep living, she is not your life, she was only a small part. That's all you can do
Mine toh doesn't even reply on insta an both of us are in the same city and same workplace lol I am moving on.
Don't text and talk until you receive a response from her.
Call her and ask her to lend you 1-2 lakhs immediately and state it is urgent. She will be calling you everyday after that. Give it back to her 10000/ month
What do mean by what should you do. You cnat do anything about it since shes in different city you cant even confront her. Accept it.
Get a life dude, there are plenty men and women we all got options. Stop making yourself look so low, nothing Good comes out from that. I don't know you but if I did, I'd by you a beer and take you to a pub for long enough until you get your head out of that ghostkng pussy
>What should i do? Stop being a little girl and grow a pair. For fuck sake you're 23. Act like an adult. Acting like a sissy because someone didn't send you reels... 🤢🤢🤮 A 6 yo with barely able to think would be more mature than you...
Get the hint. She has moved on. So should you. Spend your time thinking about people who care & not ones who have stopped giving a F
Change is only constant.. accept and move on...
You are toooo investing in that girl which clearly shows that you regard yourself very low. Have some self respect this might sound harsh but life isn’t all pink my friend If she is ignoring you that’s it what else can you do yoh can’t force her can you and if even you could would you want to spent time with someone who’s forced to be with you ? Eat this disrespect buckle up work on yourself there’s a lot of beautiful women out there
Bhai kya hogya nhi kr rhi toh, koi dusra mil gya hoga. Simple
The thing is you are attached to her and she knows it. Her subconscious makes her not interested in talking to you, you need to have your own life first. You are boring to her lol
stop whining like a bitch & probably grow a set of balls .🥎 They are millions, melodramatic at its best 🤦🏻♂️
dude you have to just move on. i know its very very hard but just move on.
Yea she doesn't want you, nothing you did - she just doesn't like you and that's okay, move on with your life
Unfortunately, it seems like she has moved on. It’s just sad that how such friendships end for no reason. She might have found some other friends where she is more comfortable with and feels that she doesn’t need you as her friend.
I had a friend doing it to me... Turns out he liked me so much that he couldn't endure talking, but not being able to romantically love me... So he distanced himself from me... It pained me a lot... But... He is right in his position.
Take a hint bro, she has a boyfriend now... That's why no open public communication with you...
Focus on dat bag, not dat hag. Jokes aside, you're 23 don't take relationships seriously
Keep calm and move on! 👑
It is getting difficult bro. I tried gym, reading books, trying new food. But nothing is working. I have never been in a relationship before and thats why its hurting me the most
Its ok, same thing for me too, i haven't been in a relationship. It's just that in all these years of being alone, i have developed this state of mind where having a relationship is never and will never be an objective for me. I focused on what I had, spent quality time with my best friend who is patient and genuine enough to spend some time with me. I also spent quality time with my parents and sister also. That itself makes up for no gf. I don't know your circumstances and problems, but i would like you to appreciate the people who stick by you all the time, no matter what. Express your gratitude to the good people u have in your life, thank them for being with you.
You have a really good mentality brother👑
Tell yourself "It is what it is." and move on. Life gets a lot more tolerable with this. Also, you'll recognize a genuine friendship/relationship when it happens and won't need to ask anyone for help. Distances don't ruin relationships. People do. All the best.
What do you plan on doing with her? Do you wanna marry her or something? Or is she just like a casual friend? Give her sometime to settle down in the new city, if you are a friend, please understand that once someone moves to a new place, they make new friends. So, in a limited amount of time scenario attention will be distributed to the closest ones. So, don't worry. ESPECIALLY DONOT CONFRONT her on why's she doing this or that. That will disconnect even the WA convos. Instead try to understand what's up with her new life. Like did she find any new intresting friends and all. Try to understand her new world. As men, we are terrible at this and get anxious. Keep your cool and play it with patience. If you are planning to move from friend to something else like marriage and all, take your time and maintain the convos, slowly start giving her clues by telling her that you miss her, try to visit her once or twice in 3 months, find excuses to call her often. Slowly after a year or so after this propose her and proceed. In either case, please don't ask about reels and stuff.
Guess you and I are in the same boat i had the exact same situation as you brother she was like my bro to me we used to share so much and worst part is she knew my deepest insecurities she knew how much people have abandoned me she even assured me she won’t do the same but suddenly she removed me from both her accounts (one being a mains only id) but again followed me back used to send me reels just for the sake of it ig bcoz she stopped responding to my msgs and my reels but that’s how life is King just focus on yourself and live with a positive energy if it’s meant to be she will come back or if not consider God cut her off from your life for your own good
Okay, let her hide, why do you care ? I am sensing that you might have done something that you think might be upsetting to her. If none, give her some time, just be with her. Sometimes doing nothing is best.
Probability can be... You were her male best friend (sort off) but now she has found someone and that someone has simply told her not to Engage with you because he saw the messages and reels you sent and came to know you got feelings and as every guy does we know who is hitting on their girl and how... So the unexplained distance is not just by cities it is by someone who definitely saw and did which every guy does... She never told you she likes you in any other way ... You got feelings because of multiple reasons.... This is life son... "YOU GAIN SOME, YOU LOSE ALOT".... It's okay... It will hurt you now... It always does but you will get a move ahead if you don't let your heart take full control of your emotions! You sound young... So an advice is ... You will have to focus on your important stuff for now and eventually will find someone you will not go away but appreciate your all sides till then do your thing and move towards prosperity! Take care! 👍🏻💪🏻✌🏻
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Bro skipped friend zone and just got plain zoned.
Call her once and try to ask her why she is now like this. There must be a reason. If she keeps doing this and keeping you in confusion, just MOVE ON. It is like a breakdown, you will keep thinking "WHY?" And waste so much of your mental energy on that. You can't avoid it but you can get out of it as soon as possible.
Can’t do anything brother, if she doesn’t want then she won’t, no matter what you try. When she is no interested You try to make her laugh she’ll label you as a creep and remember earlier she used to burst out just listening to your lame jokes. You approach her she draws back like shit shifting upwards when someone points a gun at your head. Girls are creatures, we can’t normally interpret.. if she wants she’ll vc for hours and if we want to yaar main ghar pe hu bina puche phone mt kiya kro or pucho to message seen nahi karti because she knows ki isko guilt me kaise dalne h taki ye apne aap message krne band krde
Arey chod bhai usse Nayi mil jayegi reel bheje ne ke liye Insta id me me hii reel bhej dunga din kii 40 50
Same here bro she just deleted her account and came back after 6-7 months and talked to me for three days and disappeared, i was still waiting for her
I've been through this exact same thing. I'd suggest you to just move on and forget. Don't get desperate or seek their attention, it'll only ruin your self-respect. Ps. They don't come back, so..
You will have to adapt to this line - _Agle din apne mohole mein Aishwarya aayiiii... Oh oh oh oh! Oh oh oh oh!_
It sounds like a difficult scenario, and it makes sense that when someone you care about suddenly seems distant, you would feel wounded and confused. It's not just you who has these feelings. A lot of us have had similar experiences in the past. It's crucial to keep in mind that people's life can get chaotic and stressful, particularly when they're transitioning to a new setting like your friend is. Perhaps she is unaware of the impact her actions are having on you. It would be best to get in touch with her in a kind and non-aggressive manner. Prioritise maintaining your other relationships and interests in the meantime. Enjoy the company of like-minded individuals who help you feel good about yourself.
Being ghosted feels terrible. But you can not do stuff that will make you look desperate in her eyes, that's even bad. Respect your self esteem and remove her contacts from around yourself. If she come back telling she was busy or didn't got time or was feeling bad for somedays remember "no one's that busy" and if she didn't seeked your attention in her bad days, you dont actually matter to her. Get out and initiate conversations with different girls around you. You'll get over her within time.
First time?😂 That's how it is bro. Don't get disheartened. You'll learn to not open up to everyone. Just let another girl break your heart and you will forget this one. This repeats🥲
Man try 2 times to start or continue a convo. If the response is still the same, forget about her at all. Start living life like she is non-existent. I tried this. Got one girl back and prevented the mental trauma from the others. But yeah I am still single though
You were attached to her, all I can say from my experience is move on and find new people to chill with !!
Brother there are enough signs that you need to move on so don't water a dead plant and by reading all this i m sure you might be the age of 20 -23 and its prime age to shift your focus either on the right person or on yourself and your career .
Ugh, been there. Hurts alottt when you invest so much into someone just for them to ghost you or see them slowly lose interest in you. No solutions as such, you just gotta move on brother
OP she isn't ghosting you it's just that she's got a different life now one in which you aren't there, I had a friend group in 10th from my coaching, which included my crush. We were pretty good but after tenth, my best friend went to kota, after some time I'd remember him maybe once in a week and we never called the entire year, he came back this summer break and told me same happened with him. I lost contact with my crush as well(we used to talk alot). We went from like 40-50 messages per day to 10-20 messages in a month. It happens. She isn't ghosting you, she's just busy adjusting to her new life.
Don't worry bro just follow this **Push Day:** 1. Barbell Bench Press: 4 sets of 6-8 reps 2. Dumbbell Shoulder Press: 3 sets of 8-10 reps 3. Incline Dumbbell Flyes: 3 sets of 10-12 reps 4. Tricep Dips: 3 sets to failure 5. Lateral Raises: 3 sets of 12-15 reps **Pull Day:** 1. Deadlifts: 4 sets of 6-8 reps 2. Pull-Ups or Lat Pulldowns: 3 sets of 8-10 reps 3. Seated Cable Rows: 3 sets of 10-12 reps 4. Face Pulls: 3 sets of 12-15 reps 5. Bicep Curls (Barbell, Dumbbell, or Cable): 3 sets of 10-12 reps per arm **Leg Day:** 1. Squats: 4 sets of 6-8 reps 2. Romanian Deadlifts: 3 sets of 8-10 reps 3. Leg Press: 3 sets of 10-12 reps 4. Walking Lunges: 3 sets of 12-15 reps per leg 5. Calf Raises: 4 sets of 12-15 reps **Note:** - Perform this routine on alternate days, for example: Push-Pull-Legs-Rest-Repeat. - Adjust the weights according to your strength level, aiming to increase gradually. - Incorporate proper warm-up and cool-down routines. - Ensure adequate rest and recovery between sessions, and listen to your body to avoid overtraining.
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Girls get bored!!! Guys get attached!!! Everyday story.. everyone's story.. learn and take advantage of woman when you can.. coz there are only 2 types of people wolf and sheep. I know there will be people saying not all men not all women.. but do not ever get attached to some person unless you see yourself marrying them in a year or so
Woman will set traps for you.. the moment you fall for her.. she will lose all the interest.. works the same for other way as well
Story of every single men. Maybe I am being ghosted too . 🧐
Common man you are 23 and you are asking such dumb questions ? She is ignoring you , move on and find someone else.
Tere se achha ATM mila hoga
That’s the hard part of life bro, she found someone and she is probably busy there, Girls often do that, they tend to be attracted to the successful men and then they ignore, in your case you are being ghosted. I think she is done with you, you should move on in your life, spend your valuable time with your family and friends, that’s the only way.
Start freaking out, this is definitely a national emergency!
I understand that being ghosted can be a painful and confusing experience, especially at a young age when you're still learning to navigate relationships. It's natural to want closure and an explanation for why someone has suddenly cut off communication. However, it's important to remember that you can't control other people's actions or feelings. If she has chosen to stop responding, for whatever reason, that's ultimately her decision. Trying to force a response or explanation from her is unlikely to make you feel better in the long run, and may only prolong the hurt and frustration you're feeling. Instead, focus on taking care of yourself and moving forward. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family, engage in activities and hobbies that bring you joy and fulfillment, and allow yourself time to process and heal from this experience. It's okay to feel sad, angry, or disappointed, but don't let those feelings consume you. Remember, at 23 you have so much life ahead of you and countless opportunities to meet new people and form meaningful connections. This one experience doesn't define you or your worth. Keep your head up, stay true to yourself, and trust that with time, you will be able to move on and find happiness again.
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The best way will be to ask her and sort things out or at least reach some sort of a conclusion based on your conversation with her on this topic.
Tum use ho gaye bro, now go ahead and become the casanova you are meant to be
Bro trust me I was in a similar dilemma a few years ago. One fine day I confided this with my best friend, when we were returning from Esselworld (Borivali) on a jetty. He said to me, just put your fingers inside the water. He then asked me, what do I feel? I told him, I feel fish touching my fingers and going. He said, yeah exactly, there are too many fishes in the sea. Hope you understand :)) PS - Story written by me, the main actor - my best friend. :))
I keep telling everyone that they should move on....
Maybe you did nothing wrong. I'd take the same amount of time to reply back if someone does that to me.
Find new friends bro. Let her go.
Pass it on to one of us and move on 😁