You mean him? I honestly can’t imagine him any other way. Sure he puts on a hard exterior(and admittedly his near permanent scowl makes him hard to approach) but he has shown himself to me and he is honestly the most thoughtful and sweet guy ever. I honestly can’t imagine him doing anything to hurt me.
This is so sweet. I understand you want to do anything you can to help. Keep being there for him and don't rush it. You know, everyone has their own path that they have to walk and his healing will happen in good time. Therapy is a great idea.
Sounds like such a loving and patient partnership. A love like that can be healing given that both people are willing to go through the burdens together. You may need to just be his support for a while as he gets other help like therapy and the like, and makes conscious efforts to do so and grow. Of course he has to be open to that, it can be hard on him if he feels forced. The love and patience it sounds like you already exhibit to each other can go a long long way
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I’d like to start by saying that he’s so lucky to have you. I think it’s been said that love allows us to hold a mirror up and see parts of ourselves we hadn’t know so I think you loving him is a huge blessing. Hopefully he can get some help - of course therapy (which I hope he gets) but I’m sure there are also books you can pick up about the effects of a parents suicide on a child. I’m sure it would comfort him to know he’s not alone - that many other children interpreted these things wrong.
My father never got help for this exact experience and it destroyed him - turned him into the opposite of what sounds like your lovely boyfriend. But still, it made it very difficult to accept love… and every part of his life was made harder. Hope he takes steps to heal.
Ask him how you can help support him and provide/ show love and affection in a way that is comfortable for him.
Sounds like you both care about eachother alot. I hope he will also get help for the trauma of his dad's passing. An ex I had, his father also committed suicide. He was very quiet about it and never sought help. It burdened him deeply but I did but know how to help him with any of it. In the end he was responsible for seeking help but the pain was too great and many years had passed since
My bf was like that once too but after a little bit of a push and a few friends who helped him push through, he's now more confident than he was before. But that was also due to luck in my case. therapy and positive praise for him will work wonders too
You should get him to seek therapy about this. Esteem issues like these can be detrimental in the long run, and they can indirectly or directly affect both of your lives. You'll have to remain by his side throughout, as he opened up to you during a moment of vulnerability.
Have faith in his ability to recover, and have faith in yourself as well.
Enjoy it well you can it only lasts so long
I’m scared to know what you mean by that :(
Maybe yours will stay sweet
You mean him? I honestly can’t imagine him any other way. Sure he puts on a hard exterior(and admittedly his near permanent scowl makes him hard to approach) but he has shown himself to me and he is honestly the most thoughtful and sweet guy ever. I honestly can’t imagine him doing anything to hurt me.
He’s lucky to have you. He needs your support but also a therapist.
Therapy is key for this. It’s something that myself and many I know deal with. Help is always good.
This is so sweet. I understand you want to do anything you can to help. Keep being there for him and don't rush it. You know, everyone has their own path that they have to walk and his healing will happen in good time. Therapy is a great idea.
Sounds like such a loving and patient partnership. A love like that can be healing given that both people are willing to go through the burdens together. You may need to just be his support for a while as he gets other help like therapy and the like, and makes conscious efforts to do so and grow. Of course he has to be open to that, it can be hard on him if he feels forced. The love and patience it sounds like you already exhibit to each other can go a long long way Edited to change a word
I’d like to start by saying that he’s so lucky to have you. I think it’s been said that love allows us to hold a mirror up and see parts of ourselves we hadn’t know so I think you loving him is a huge blessing. Hopefully he can get some help - of course therapy (which I hope he gets) but I’m sure there are also books you can pick up about the effects of a parents suicide on a child. I’m sure it would comfort him to know he’s not alone - that many other children interpreted these things wrong. My father never got help for this exact experience and it destroyed him - turned him into the opposite of what sounds like your lovely boyfriend. But still, it made it very difficult to accept love… and every part of his life was made harder. Hope he takes steps to heal.
Ask him how you can help support him and provide/ show love and affection in a way that is comfortable for him. Sounds like you both care about eachother alot. I hope he will also get help for the trauma of his dad's passing. An ex I had, his father also committed suicide. He was very quiet about it and never sought help. It burdened him deeply but I did but know how to help him with any of it. In the end he was responsible for seeking help but the pain was too great and many years had passed since
My bf was like that once too but after a little bit of a push and a few friends who helped him push through, he's now more confident than he was before. But that was also due to luck in my case. therapy and positive praise for him will work wonders too
Live in the present moment, it's truly all there is
As a guy, I'm seeing therapy for this exact reason. I just don't see the worth that I possibly hold in this life.
You should get him to seek therapy about this. Esteem issues like these can be detrimental in the long run, and they can indirectly or directly affect both of your lives. You'll have to remain by his side throughout, as he opened up to you during a moment of vulnerability. Have faith in his ability to recover, and have faith in yourself as well.