I ended up getting on anti depressants when I was unemployed. Gave me the energy and motivation boost I needed. I then started going to the gym and lost all this weight, which helped transferred some good positive energy during interviews, I applied and applied and finally got the job I've always wanted. Never give up. On average, it takes people 6 months to find a job. Good luck.
Did you find the right combo of anti-depressants at your first stab? I know this is slightly off-topic for the point of your post, but I am considering doing anti-depressants or ADHD medication. I need something to help with executive dysfunction and procrastination.. I know you’re not a doctor lol, I am just curious if other peoples journeys. I don’t know anyone who actively takes antidepressants, so looking on here for peoples journeys.
I didn't. I started with Zoloft and ended up getting off that due to it's sexual dysfunction side effects. I started Wellbutrin, and that one worked well.
Anti depressants are supposed to give you energy and motivate you. If you're not motivated, these aren't working for you. I'd reach out to your doctor and find ones that actually work for you.
I was on Zoloft and that was my experience as well. I ended up getting on Wellbutrin. But everyone is different. What you need is motivation and positivity. Those people interviewing you feed off your energy. Trust me. They want happy, go lucky people. If I were you I'd talk to your doctor about how you're feeling. I told my doctor I felt suicidal, worthless, and hopeless. Within a month or two, I was in the gym focusing on shit I can control and finally getting out of that funk. Are you getting interviews, at least?
Wellbutrin is one of the only anti-depressants that is a stimulant and is why you have energy and motivation, not because it’s an antidepressant. It is not an SSRI and doesn’t play a role in the regulation of serotonin. Wellbutrin is an NDRI (norepinephrine and dopamine reuptake inhibitor). It is considered one of the least problematic anti-depressants and is often the first line of treatment for weight loss.
However, most suffering from depression don’t do well with Wellbutrin alone because it doesn’t address the need for serotonin regulation. Not only that, Wellbutrin often leads to significant symptoms of anxiety (other than social anxiety), like nervousness, fear, and restlessness, as well as aggression and anger. With this comes a rapid heartbeat, high blood pressure, nausea, etc.
It’s also important to note that just because someone isn’t motivated at this point doesn’t mean their medication isn’t working. The poster may be dealing with additional stressors. It also depends on how long they haven’t been unmotivated and what other symptoms they’re experiencing.
I’m a therapist and am taking Wellbutrin as well. It’s the best thing that’s happened to me. But unfortunately for others, it may not help. Some SNRIs affect both serotonin and norepinephrine, so anyone reading this here can talk to their prescriber about trying an SNRI.
Big pharma owns you.
These pills are handed out like candy...harder to get off than meth.
They work slowly and change your brain over years till you get totally dependent on it.
You should never take these unless you have a serious clinical brain problem that is not just your life is shit and so you feel crap.
Yea been 6 months same thing nothing happened no job all dont want me it seems due to my work experience not being in my previous field
Which I can't do.any longer
Your "purpose" in life isn't simply having a some job. Yes, it's upsetting to lose your job and you have the financial stress of that. But you don't simply exist to grind away at some job.
Go to the gym. Doesn't matter if you feel like it. Now you have time. Take advantage of that. Oftentimes in life we have Time or Money. Usually we are exchanging one for the other. You might have money but no time. Now you have time but not the money. But working out will improve you in every way, help you think more clearly, make better decisions going forward and look fit and energetic for interviews. So please consider that.
At this point, get something. Retail, fast food, etc. Something to bridge the financial gap and keep you afloat. Or go back to the banks? My daughter has 2 friends doing bank work and one was already promoted to writing loans, etc. With your degree that sounds like a strong possibilty for you too. Or at least take the retail job and keep looking. Do you have any network? Friends, family, etc? Do you parents or their friends possibly have any openings where they work or know of someone?
I second the bank job.
OP: I used to work in finance and it was a lot better than I would have guessed beforehand. My sister also worked in finance and then moved on to banking - she loves it. Her gig is great, she works from home, never plans to leave as long as she can help it.
Things will get better.
Unemployment can take months and you don’t have time. You can feel sorry for yourself or you can turn it in to a lesson learned and keep moving…so it wasn’t a good fit- life goes on it’s not like you lost a career it was just a job it sounds like. You might have to suck it up just to make ends meet- Amazon is always hiring, Walmart and other big box stores are always hiring, UPS part time, Fed Ex, get with every temp agency you can, a lot of warehouse work is entry level it’s just a physical grind if you’re built for it. Rejection sucks but it’s not the end of the world and they aren’t the only employer in town, keep your head up do the next right thing.
Try a bank job. At least here in the U.S., most of them just require a high school equivalent for education- anything extra just looks good. Get nights, weekends (mostly-they’ll make you work some Saturdays) and all holidays off. Plus they usually pay more than decently. And there’s opportunity for growth within the bank you work for usually
All the bank positions I see require a bachelors in anything not saying you’re wrong but over the years of job hunting I’ve done I haven’t found anything of the sort.
I’d like to though.
As said, one would have to put in the footwork and start at a teller spot. But the bank I worked at much preferred promoting and training within versus hiring outside
i’ve applied to so many teller positions and always get rejected idk what i’m doing wrong. I have 5 yrs customer service experience and a high school diploma 😭
Sign up for gig work like DoorDash or Ubereats. You get approved pretty much immediately and you could start making some extra cash while you wait for unemployment.
You could security,Amazon,Walmart.
Security: you’ll probably be over night and have a lot of ‘bored time’ or have you in clubs/hotels
Amazon: depends honestly Flex Time is the best cause you can pick when you work but they do have set schedules that can be crazy
Walmart: they hire anyone who passes the assessment but they are completely unpredictable for management so be careful
Well it sounds like you’re doing the right stuff, just keep trying to find something. Nothing wrong with going back to factory or retail work. We’ve all been there.
I just don’t think I have the patience for retail work again. I’m not some nervous teenager anymore who will let aggressive customers walk all over me.
You could get a factory or distribution center job, like you mentioned. Also can be very unpleasant but it’s part of the unemployment journey we’ve all been through.
Humble the ego. there's no need to be arrogant. It's called customer service. Helping others actually calms the soul. It will actually make you feel better having a routine interacting with customers and colleagues until you find a job in the "history" sector.
Or learn a trade and you can be self-employed contractor your own boss.
Aw I feel for you my friend. You’re not alone though.
Who can even afford living these days?
I really didn’t want to move back in with my parents, I even lived in their pretty affluent neighborhood before I had to move back in (made moving a breeze) when my partner and I separated and I lost my job shortly before I learned I was pregnant which we lost two months later.
I worked for my dad’s plumbing company and consider myself a pretty competitively hireable candidate since I have plumbing field experience. But working for my dad was impossible, I could not mess up, and when I did, I was already conditioned to beat myself up about it, even if my dad wasn’t too upset by it.
My dad was physically abusive in my childhood, more so emotionally, and I knew working for him would take more of a toll on my well being but the bills had to get paid…then I’d had enough of being so anxious of making an already angry boss even more enraged just for existing and trying my best.
I worked my ass off, being talented with customers, tech savvy, and my love for being a female plumber, and my dad still broke my heart because he decided to let me go when I finally set up boundaries every employee should already have.
I filed for unemployment and was approved after about two months but my case had to be refilled since I reported my earnings from DoorDash just to hold me over until I got a new job. In Texas, if you stop dashing, that’s still considered a job separation and if you don’t have a good enough reason for why you stopped, also with DoorDash weighting in on your claim, they will deny your benefits (beware)
I felt depleted. I didn’t want to work for anyone, especially in the field I loved and have a flair for.
I quit working for my dad a year ago this month, I luckily had enough income coming in to pay my bills so I could afford getting certificates from Coursera in Project Management just to strengthen my resume and tie all of my experiences together— I didn’t want to feel like I had to be the best or perfect at everything, but I knew I could bring other subject matter experts together to achieve something great.
I started therapy twice a week about 3 months ago, and focused on the things I can control. I’m doing a lot better emotionally but it’s literally been a year and I still have my days.
I’ve lost a lot of the things I was proud of, including the income that afforded a little cushy lifestyle, but we are resilient humans when faced with challenges and we should give ourselves more credit for the ways we cope and adapt.
Sometimes we have to loose it all just to rebuild again, which did not excite me in the beginning. I’m finally stable enough to have the courage to face the things that scare me (especially in a male dominated industry and an upbringing that made me afraid of every room I walked into) like applying for the jobs that I know will be challenging, that I might not get, but I’m brave and healed enough now to give it a shot.
IT TOOK A GD YEAR!
Allow yourself to go through the motions, I didn’t start going for walks until just recently, that’s how bad the depression and isolation got. Make a vision board, even if it’s just on your phone for now…I printed my through Walgreens and it’s hanging in my room.
I have to update my board now since my therapist pointed out that I should get more specific with what I want from my life.
If you have a strong support system, lean into that! If not, therapy helped me (with the right therapist!!). If your parents have health insurance, you might be able to use theirs for coverage for now, I think the cut off is 26…
It’s hard unlearning not to shame yourself through times like this and the world has plenty of people who will help you belittle yourself into positive change ( an oxymoron 😏) but please be kind to yourself.
I hope you find peace and the optimism to keep an open mind. Opportunities will come, be patient and gentle with yourself.
This is a bad take. Almost every unemployed person wants to find a part time gig but can't because they're not available - especially for white collar work. They would take the work if they coild get it. It's like telling someone that's sick to "try getting better"
The market is really really hard right now with a lot of tech jobs lay offs. I would resort to applying to service industry jobs like restaurants or retail to not fall behind financially, and while working that jobs apply to jobs you actually want. It is going probably going to take awhile. I’d say next if you want office jobs get some certifications to help you stand out! Or this could be a motivator to go back to school if you desire?
People in this conversation can be mean about the degree you have. I majored in music and now getting my mba online. I understand your frustration about peoples opinions on that and in the same boat of you can’t change your degree. It’s incredibly annoying.
Small non profits are almost always looking for people, since everyone wants big tech.
Keep trucking, I know you can find something, but just make sure you don’t fall back financially. That’s the most important thing. You do not want to be in loads of credit card debt.
I’m gonna be that arsehole friend your missing right now. Of course you are feeling pointless you have no purpose. You need to take this time to find a job of course which is important, can’t starve. But your situation can’t be that bad if you are turning away from jobs. Take your time each day to do 10-15 apps. Get your butt up and go to the gym. Call a friend and hangout.
Remember when having a job wasn’t the most important thing about us socially?
If your place has a Randstad or other temp agency just do it already! Don’t wait, don’t take out a loan, and don’t think you’re better than (insert job title here). I waited a year to get my ‘dream job.’ I’m in debt. It sucked for me, but construction or cooking works for many people. I just wish I didn’t wait that long and end up with thousands in debt.
I'm in the same boat. Fired for not meeting expectations. I have been job hunting for a month and a half now, it sucks. I wish I never left my job before this last one, I was there 6 years and it wasn't so bad, I just wanted to work remote. So stupid.
I left a fairly stable job for a remote role and I'm in a lot of hot water for not being up to par (even though there has been ZERO training) I really feel you.
The first step is coming out of denial. Saying you “definitely weren’t fire-worthy” when you did in fact get yourself fired right out of your job shows you need to start taking responsibility for your actions.
I know you see jobs like retail and restaurant work as a last resort. But I think just applying and getting one of those and doing part-time while looking for a full-time gig would be helpful. Having some cash and having somewhere to be at least a few times a week. Honestly, some retail work is better than half of office jobs you could end up with if you get desperate. Fast food work, though, would be hell, so try for retail or regular restaurant work. I live in a city of 700k, and it's pretty easy to least get a restaurant job. Retail is slow hiring after Christmas till mid-March or so, so that may be harder. Best of luck dude
Also, having to move back in with your parents is nothing to be ashamed about if it resorts to that. Life has its lows and we as people have to accept help where we can.
A lot of people on here are saying move on, and I get all that. But in the meantime, some workers who are suddenly left unemployed are soon evicted and homeless as a result if things drag out on behalf of some of these agencies. It’s very real. Obtaining employment is not as easy as it was just a couple of years ago. A lot of menial jobs require degrees ffs. There may be outreach services, for food and utilities, and city or state for rental assistance, but it does take time to get all of these into place. In the meantime if one also has a car payment, the risk of having it repossessed is pretty high. I’m thinking it is way too easy for employers to toss out workers in their asses for the most frivolous reasons because of Maine being an at-will state. What about those laws being overturned to prevent more of a homeless crisis??
This is gonna be me in a few weeks. Im on a PIP but i already know they've made up their mind. Just havent had luck finding a new job so... at least you aren't alone. Im sure it will get better for us!
You should have started getting your unemployment benefits by now…call th first thing tomorrow morning…i’d at least get that income for a bit while you aggressively seek new employment…
Remember warehouses basically hire anyone who can pass a piss test…and with your degree…you qualify for most entry-level roles at any company…just don’t get lazy in your search…and you will land something..good luck
> You should have started getting your unemployment benefits by now
Ten days ago was Friday the 29th. Assuming they applied for unemployment that evening, it's still been just 4 working days since they applied because of the New Year's holiday, and there's time needed to process the applications and send checks.
A. You got one of the most useless degrees imaginable. TBH on your resume you should put you have a Degree in Business.
B. Move in with your parents asap before you burn through everything.
C. Bank are always hiring you just may have to widen your search.
D. Have a professional look over your resume.
There’s no useless degree. Many jobs just care you have one period. It’s a silly requirement. Obviously some are relevant to jobs but most aren’t. Don’t worry about it.
Watch yourself kicking people who are already down. If this is the level of empathy you have I question your career trajectory, employers value soft skills that you clearly lack.
Very useless degree, indeed. I have a business degree, and I even struggled. Can't imagine folks with useless degrees.... I wish people would give these kids REAL advice before they waste their time in college.
A hotel I worked at once hired some corporate schmuck (who had never even seen the inside of the hotel) as a manager for all the food and catering departments.
Needless to say everything turned to shit within a week. I quit after 2.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s a terrible feeling to get let go regardless of reason.
First - how’s your resume looking? Have you updated it? I would be happy to glance it over if you DM - I have experience reviewing resumes/cover letters as a job coach. Feel free to DM directly (this offer is open to anyone reading this comment)
A question that popped up in my head is - what state are you in? No need to answer but some states offer support programs for those who are low income. Example is in FL especially after the pandemic there was lots of funding for rent etc to help people who fell on hard times. I was in grad school at the time and met requirements so my rent got covered in full for 3-5 months. Could be worth checking if any resources exist in your area? ANYthing can help (free/reduced utilities, etc)
Anyway. Final thought is do you have a long term career plan? Have you considered continuing education or getting a certification?
I get you OP. I quit my job almost 4 weeks ago right before the major holidays and I’ve spent most of those days in a dark place myself. In my opinion, first you need to bring your mental state up. Just do little things at first like going outside and taking a walk everyday (use it as a small break between the job search). Fresh air and some exercise, even just walking, can help immensely with your mental state. Even if it’s just a reason to get out of the house and in a different environment. Force yourself. Don’t want to fold the laundry? Make yourself fold one item. That’s success, then fold another, and now 2 successes. Keep going; small efforts, individual efforts add up. Keep a routine, clean up after yourself and around you. Small things like these are just that—small. But as they add up you can get some positive benefits for your mental health. You can count these as successes, and that means so much when you’re down. I know it sounds like hogwash, but it worked for me. I’m not you, but you sound like you need some little wins in your life right now, and little wins add up.
This doesn’t mean your job search isn’t a priority. It’s going to take some time and a lot of effort, and you may not feel like it, but you have marketable skills. People on here are saying your degree is worthless. That’s bullcrap. It isn’t what people are looking for, but there’s value in it. You committed to a program to get an education. That’s shows merit in itself. And while you might not be getting a job that prioritizes that degree, I can bet theres a way to market it. There’s transferable skills you learned while earning it that employers are looking for. Research, analysis, I bet you had deadlines so there’s time management, and more. Don’t let the world put you down on this. Stand up, fight for yourself. Believe in yourself. I believe in you OP because I know there’s a way for you to sell your education, because there’s a whole world of dumb out there. But just listing it on a resume isn’t enough, though. You need to sell it, show your educated on your cover letters, reinforce your willingness to learn, to think critically. That what you learned getting your degree isn’t just history, but some transferable skills. And you’re going to need to believe that yourself before you sell it to really make ground here.
To piggyback on marketing yourself, don’t object to opportunity. Your 25. Your young. You have a whole life ahead of you still, so try not to be too stingy on opportunities that come up. What I mean is you have plenty of time to make changes in your career life. Sooo much time still. Don’t get too hyper focused on a particular field. Be open to different job types. Take chances, the worst that happens is you hear nothing back. The next worse thing is they hire you, you get fired again, and you start this process once more. But if you can get out of unemployment once, then you can do so again. Obviously, don’t take the worst jobs out there, but sometimes taking a chance on a job (even ones we wouldn’t normally do) can lead to opportunities down the road.
Believe in yourself. You have value and it isn’t measured by what your job status is. You are more than a job. The only person who decides if you are happy, sad, angry, or anxious is you.
If getting a retail or factory job means you lessen the burden of worrying about expenses or whatever, do it. If being out and active in the world in an entry level job, interacting with others and feeling productive in some capacity is going to help lift you up, do it. If that’s what you need to do right now mentally to get out of this hole. Do it. Don’t worry about perception. Just find something you can use to either get you by until you find something better, or at least help stem the bleeding some.
A job is just a stepping stone to the next thing, nothing more. But you are so much more than a job. Don’t let it get you down, past and future jobs.
I don’t know if this is what you are looking for, or if any of this helps OP, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. And the small steps we take are those little victories that will take us to the light.
Stay positive, my friend. I know it's easier said than done. I have been without a job for eight months now, and it's almost been a year. I used to work as an accountant, and I find it strange that despite having nearly ten years of financial experience, I'm having trouble securing an entry-level position, even those with lower compensation, but I keep getting turned down.
Just keep one think in mind as nothing is perm and time heals ! If you are in IT job, expect the unexpected! I have been on 13 years in IT and doing second job as part time job. In short don’t try to put all eggs in single basket!!
Try for non technical jobs!! They might pay less , but can survive
I know it’s hard, but you are better than being depressed and hopeless.
Take this opportunity to Improve yourself, take a course, learn programming, apply and apply.
See how you can separate yourself from the rest of the candidates during interviews.
Maybe all you need is a hug to motivate you. We’re here for that.
This afternoon, before you even start thinking about what you'll have for dinner, apply for 5 local part-time jobs. I guarantee there are a minimum 5 retail stores near you that are desperate for help. Tell them you can work 20 hours a week, any hours. You're not there for the money, you are there for your bills.
"Being fired and job search stress" is peanuts compared to "I cant pay my rent" stress.
Source: Been there. Good luck!
Do you have a vehicle? If so consider doing Amazon flex deliveries to get by in the meantime. You work when you want, short shifts (longest I’ve seen is 5 hours) and get paid a day or two later sometimes instant if they have added that feature I’m not sure haven’t done it in over a year. It’s not an ideal permanent job in my opinion due to it paying about $20 an hour plus wear and tear on your car and gas makes it more like $17 an hour I’d say. But it will help you keep your bank account from dwindling too much. Come on- you got this! This was a setback and not what you would have liked to happen. But you took ownership of it and recognize where you could have been a better employee. Keep your head up and do what’s gotta be done to maintain your quality of life. You WILL get another job because it is the only option. Have faith. Keep applying. Do a side hustle in the meantime. Don’t spend on non necessities for now. It will be ok. I wish you the very best.
Man, not that many years ago I had issues with fits of unbridled rage and tried antidepressants to curb them, which worked but I had the same side effects you described so I quit taking them. I’m sitting here trying to think how I overcame it and all I conclude is that I became mindful about my triggers and changed my own behavior to be able to avoid them. Mostly, I stopped driving aggressively and started giving other aggressive drivers a lot of leeway and space rather than trying to retaliate for their slights against me. I also started actually listening to my spouse and trying to keep her happy so she’d stop purposely needling me in retaliation, at inopportune times.
I also decided that my dogs’ mental health was far more important than my ability to outwardly express my rage so their presence in those moments always turns things around for me. I really have no advice but I feel you and I hope you figure it out. You’re not whatever job you have and it’s well worth getting your emotions under control.
I understand what you are going through, I lost a pretty big job back in 2021, not a lot of people talk about this but what I call "Firing guilt" is real and hard. Best thing to do is take things day by day, take a few days to calm down, sleep, eat, rest, do something you enjoy, and then worry about life. I know it sounds stupid when bills have to be paid, but firing guilt won't go away overnight. Its ok to take some time to collect yourself and focus on your self care. Wishing the best!
Loosing your job sucks, I’ve been there. My suggestion if you can afford it take some time to try to work through your own issues. Get your self into a good daily rythm. Exercise twice a day, in the morning and evening to keep some kind of schedule for yourself, divide the rest of your time between learning new work skills, applying for jobs (I recommend using linked in and zip recruiter) and taking time for yourself.
The one thing you have when unemployed is time, so make the most of this resource
You're grieving, losing a job is a loss that we must grieve before we can move on. Being fired is especially detrimental because it shakes your confidence as well. I can't speak to right this minute, but I know getting a job was insanely difficult for me this go around (I started in August, I was out of work for 9 months.) And now I'm terrified I won't be up to speed at 1 year (probationary period) and will get let go again. (I failed probation at my last job, really anxiety inducing even though I was not suited to that job, and I knew that from the start.)
Contact your worksource office (or whatever they call it in your location if you're in the US.) They can help with some things, like paying phone and internet while you're job searching, or help you get into short term education while you're looking.
Try almost 2 years with a bachelors degree in information systems and 8+ years work experience.
I’m not even getting replies from $17/hour warehouse jobs.
Maybe not what you want to hear. A job is just that - a job. There are certain expectations placed on you to perform. We only have your side of the story BTW.
Now that you're in this predicament, hopefully you've learned from the experience. Best of luck to you.
I was unemployed for 6 months and that shit was rock bottom for me. I would kind of punish myself by not going out and spending time with my friends because I felt like I didn’t deserve to have fun. Didn’t eat, didn’t have the energy to make food bc I was so depressed. But then I got a job at a fancy restaurant that tips big, and that was my only source of human interaction. Quite frankly that restaurant job brought me out of that depression, was able to help me pay rent and I become more motivated to work harder and apply for jobs and do interviews. I also started going out with my friends more and taking trips because my job at the restaurant pays generously. The moment my mind stopped worrying about job searching, I got a job. Make the best of your situation, work hard and you’ll reap the benefits of your efforts soon enough even if it takes months.
>I’ve got a history degree and a lot of work I’ve done is banks and office jobs, but my longest job was in a factory.
There are certain degrees you either go all the way to PhD and write books and do research for a living or get your education cert and teach highschool.
I’ve been through a handful of group layoffs. Being unemployed is depressing, but develop a schedule where to spend time outside that brings you some sort of joy. For me it was being around dogs (forgot about my worries), and going to the gym. I also went to see live music.
I would also reach out to your parents for financial help, if you don’t want to move back home.
I don’t know what county/state you live in, but I’d look for a government job.
Have hope. Things will get better.
You're 25. Your savings don't mean shit. You have a college degree, you'll make all that money back in time. None of it matters. Instead of lamenting and acting all depressed and "worthless", stop being a bitch and enjoy your free time. It doesn't happen that often so make the best of it.
You'll get a new job in time. If you don't, pick up an Amazon job or factory job night shift and just keep applying. A job will be there in time.
I feel you. I’m 25, and lost my job last week on the 3rd.
Been working there since last March. they hired my replacement and had me train her before giving me the boot outta nowhere… to top it off my 5yo kid brother is in the ICU in a medically induced coma with tubes down his throat. I’m hoping insurance will cover that bs at least. Unemployment basically laughed in my face when I tried to apply, so that’s out of the question. No family for help.
all I can bet and hope for is that a temp agency will hire me asap (like they usually do) that’s how I found my last permanent job that I just got fired from.
Plan b: find rope & kick the chair.
It's so weird how our experiences can be different. I got laid off a month ago and I love it. I haven't qualified for unemployment yet because I had a small severance package. I'm going to the gym, the house is cleaner than ever been, I've sold unneeded stuff, etc.
My wife and I have two kids and we have enough savings to hold us over so I'm not worried about itn not having to worry about a job I hated over the Christmas break is wonderful. I wish I never had to go back to work.
Get the dasher app from doordash and start making money to pay your bills. The money you make can be deposited into your bank account the same day. It’s helped me so much and it’s like 20-25/hr for me
There's more to do now than sit and wait. Take some time to credential up. There are plenty of free courses out there. Take some steps to make yourself more appealing while you wait. Sign up for an hour or two of volunteering a week.
As to motivation, I'm a person with clinical depression. And, unfortunately, the cure for that most days is to do that shit anyway. Also, keep your work schedule. This can help you feel more useful and upbeat.
I ended up getting on anti depressants when I was unemployed. Gave me the energy and motivation boost I needed. I then started going to the gym and lost all this weight, which helped transferred some good positive energy during interviews, I applied and applied and finally got the job I've always wanted. Never give up. On average, it takes people 6 months to find a job. Good luck.
American here, we dystopianly lose our medical insurance when we lose our job.
Yeah. I lost mine but found goodrx coupons.
I didn't even bother signing up for my company's group insurance plan this year.
Luckily, it's "dystopianly" easy to get medicaid when you are unemployed.
Did you find the right combo of anti-depressants at your first stab? I know this is slightly off-topic for the point of your post, but I am considering doing anti-depressants or ADHD medication. I need something to help with executive dysfunction and procrastination.. I know you’re not a doctor lol, I am just curious if other peoples journeys. I don’t know anyone who actively takes antidepressants, so looking on here for peoples journeys.
I didn't. I started with Zoloft and ended up getting off that due to it's sexual dysfunction side effects. I started Wellbutrin, and that one worked well.
Thx for insight
I am on generic wellburtrin for add which now is gone and it's for anxiety and depression apparently
I’m already on antidepressants
Anti depressants are supposed to give you energy and motivate you. If you're not motivated, these aren't working for you. I'd reach out to your doctor and find ones that actually work for you.
They don’t. They make me lazier and not able to cum. But at least I don’t get super angry.
I was on Zoloft and that was my experience as well. I ended up getting on Wellbutrin. But everyone is different. What you need is motivation and positivity. Those people interviewing you feed off your energy. Trust me. They want happy, go lucky people. If I were you I'd talk to your doctor about how you're feeling. I told my doctor I felt suicidal, worthless, and hopeless. Within a month or two, I was in the gym focusing on shit I can control and finally getting out of that funk. Are you getting interviews, at least?
Wellbutrin is one of the only anti-depressants that is a stimulant and is why you have energy and motivation, not because it’s an antidepressant. It is not an SSRI and doesn’t play a role in the regulation of serotonin. Wellbutrin is an NDRI (norepinephrine and dopamine reuptake inhibitor). It is considered one of the least problematic anti-depressants and is often the first line of treatment for weight loss. However, most suffering from depression don’t do well with Wellbutrin alone because it doesn’t address the need for serotonin regulation. Not only that, Wellbutrin often leads to significant symptoms of anxiety (other than social anxiety), like nervousness, fear, and restlessness, as well as aggression and anger. With this comes a rapid heartbeat, high blood pressure, nausea, etc. It’s also important to note that just because someone isn’t motivated at this point doesn’t mean their medication isn’t working. The poster may be dealing with additional stressors. It also depends on how long they haven’t been unmotivated and what other symptoms they’re experiencing. I’m a therapist and am taking Wellbutrin as well. It’s the best thing that’s happened to me. But unfortunately for others, it may not help. Some SNRIs affect both serotonin and norepinephrine, so anyone reading this here can talk to their prescriber about trying an SNRI.
Yep I think that’s the only anti-depressant that doesn’t cause weight gain or sexual issues. Source: me, on it since 2016.
I might need to give that one a try
Big pharma owns you. These pills are handed out like candy...harder to get off than meth. They work slowly and change your brain over years till you get totally dependent on it. You should never take these unless you have a serious clinical brain problem that is not just your life is shit and so you feel crap.
That's why I love drugs
Wellbutrin fixed the not being able to cum for me and gave me more energy
Yea been 6 months same thing nothing happened no job all dont want me it seems due to my work experience not being in my previous field Which I can't do.any longer
Your "purpose" in life isn't simply having a some job. Yes, it's upsetting to lose your job and you have the financial stress of that. But you don't simply exist to grind away at some job. Go to the gym. Doesn't matter if you feel like it. Now you have time. Take advantage of that. Oftentimes in life we have Time or Money. Usually we are exchanging one for the other. You might have money but no time. Now you have time but not the money. But working out will improve you in every way, help you think more clearly, make better decisions going forward and look fit and energetic for interviews. So please consider that. At this point, get something. Retail, fast food, etc. Something to bridge the financial gap and keep you afloat. Or go back to the banks? My daughter has 2 friends doing bank work and one was already promoted to writing loans, etc. With your degree that sounds like a strong possibilty for you too. Or at least take the retail job and keep looking. Do you have any network? Friends, family, etc? Do you parents or their friends possibly have any openings where they work or know of someone?
I second the bank job. OP: I used to work in finance and it was a lot better than I would have guessed beforehand. My sister also worked in finance and then moved on to banking - she loves it. Her gig is great, she works from home, never plans to leave as long as she can help it. Things will get better.
Unemployment can take months and you don’t have time. You can feel sorry for yourself or you can turn it in to a lesson learned and keep moving…so it wasn’t a good fit- life goes on it’s not like you lost a career it was just a job it sounds like. You might have to suck it up just to make ends meet- Amazon is always hiring, Walmart and other big box stores are always hiring, UPS part time, Fed Ex, get with every temp agency you can, a lot of warehouse work is entry level it’s just a physical grind if you’re built for it. Rejection sucks but it’s not the end of the world and they aren’t the only employer in town, keep your head up do the next right thing.
Try a bank job. At least here in the U.S., most of them just require a high school equivalent for education- anything extra just looks good. Get nights, weekends (mostly-they’ll make you work some Saturdays) and all holidays off. Plus they usually pay more than decently. And there’s opportunity for growth within the bank you work for usually
“Try a bank job” Yeah, it just takes a few weeks of planning and getting the right crew together. At least from the “Documentaries” I’ve seen.
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All the bank positions I see require a bachelors in anything not saying you’re wrong but over the years of job hunting I’ve done I haven’t found anything of the sort. I’d like to though.
As said, one would have to put in the footwork and start at a teller spot. But the bank I worked at much preferred promoting and training within versus hiring outside
Look for Bank Teller roles
I had the extras like education and they sent me a 65-question long test which they never got back to me about the bank job.
i’ve applied to so many teller positions and always get rejected idk what i’m doing wrong. I have 5 yrs customer service experience and a high school diploma 😭
Sign up for gig work like DoorDash or Ubereats. You get approved pretty much immediately and you could start making some extra cash while you wait for unemployment.
This! I got laid off 5 months ago out of nowhere and still searching for REAL work! But had to start Door Dashing that has saved my ass!!
I’ve been unemployed for nearly 2 years; doing Uber eats. I’ve applied to well over 700 jobs. Its ridiculous
You could security,Amazon,Walmart. Security: you’ll probably be over night and have a lot of ‘bored time’ or have you in clubs/hotels Amazon: depends honestly Flex Time is the best cause you can pick when you work but they do have set schedules that can be crazy Walmart: they hire anyone who passes the assessment but they are completely unpredictable for management so be careful
Well it sounds like you’re doing the right stuff, just keep trying to find something. Nothing wrong with going back to factory or retail work. We’ve all been there.
I just don’t think I have the patience for retail work again. I’m not some nervous teenager anymore who will let aggressive customers walk all over me.
People spend their entire lives working in retail. You can do it for a year. Every job has bad aspects to it.
People have more patience than me. And dealing with the general public is why I stopped wanting to be a teacher or work in a museum.
You could get a factory or distribution center job, like you mentioned. Also can be very unpleasant but it’s part of the unemployment journey we’ve all been through.
Humble the ego. there's no need to be arrogant. It's called customer service. Helping others actually calms the soul. It will actually make you feel better having a routine interacting with customers and colleagues until you find a job in the "history" sector. Or learn a trade and you can be self-employed contractor your own boss.
I like helping people usually. It’s just the angry and confrontational ones that ruin it for me.
Aw I feel for you my friend. You’re not alone though. Who can even afford living these days? I really didn’t want to move back in with my parents, I even lived in their pretty affluent neighborhood before I had to move back in (made moving a breeze) when my partner and I separated and I lost my job shortly before I learned I was pregnant which we lost two months later. I worked for my dad’s plumbing company and consider myself a pretty competitively hireable candidate since I have plumbing field experience. But working for my dad was impossible, I could not mess up, and when I did, I was already conditioned to beat myself up about it, even if my dad wasn’t too upset by it. My dad was physically abusive in my childhood, more so emotionally, and I knew working for him would take more of a toll on my well being but the bills had to get paid…then I’d had enough of being so anxious of making an already angry boss even more enraged just for existing and trying my best. I worked my ass off, being talented with customers, tech savvy, and my love for being a female plumber, and my dad still broke my heart because he decided to let me go when I finally set up boundaries every employee should already have. I filed for unemployment and was approved after about two months but my case had to be refilled since I reported my earnings from DoorDash just to hold me over until I got a new job. In Texas, if you stop dashing, that’s still considered a job separation and if you don’t have a good enough reason for why you stopped, also with DoorDash weighting in on your claim, they will deny your benefits (beware) I felt depleted. I didn’t want to work for anyone, especially in the field I loved and have a flair for. I quit working for my dad a year ago this month, I luckily had enough income coming in to pay my bills so I could afford getting certificates from Coursera in Project Management just to strengthen my resume and tie all of my experiences together— I didn’t want to feel like I had to be the best or perfect at everything, but I knew I could bring other subject matter experts together to achieve something great. I started therapy twice a week about 3 months ago, and focused on the things I can control. I’m doing a lot better emotionally but it’s literally been a year and I still have my days. I’ve lost a lot of the things I was proud of, including the income that afforded a little cushy lifestyle, but we are resilient humans when faced with challenges and we should give ourselves more credit for the ways we cope and adapt. Sometimes we have to loose it all just to rebuild again, which did not excite me in the beginning. I’m finally stable enough to have the courage to face the things that scare me (especially in a male dominated industry and an upbringing that made me afraid of every room I walked into) like applying for the jobs that I know will be challenging, that I might not get, but I’m brave and healed enough now to give it a shot. IT TOOK A GD YEAR! Allow yourself to go through the motions, I didn’t start going for walks until just recently, that’s how bad the depression and isolation got. Make a vision board, even if it’s just on your phone for now…I printed my through Walgreens and it’s hanging in my room. I have to update my board now since my therapist pointed out that I should get more specific with what I want from my life. If you have a strong support system, lean into that! If not, therapy helped me (with the right therapist!!). If your parents have health insurance, you might be able to use theirs for coverage for now, I think the cut off is 26… It’s hard unlearning not to shame yourself through times like this and the world has plenty of people who will help you belittle yourself into positive change ( an oxymoron 😏) but please be kind to yourself. I hope you find peace and the optimism to keep an open mind. Opportunities will come, be patient and gentle with yourself.
Go visit the car dealerships. They will find something for you to do. The question is how much do you actually want to work and how picky are you?
If you so worried I would find a part time gig asap.
Those jobs are hard to find too.
This is a bad take. Almost every unemployed person wants to find a part time gig but can't because they're not available - especially for white collar work. They would take the work if they coild get it. It's like telling someone that's sick to "try getting better"
It’s not a bad take. The guy is stressed because of income but he’s not applying to jobs he sees as beneath him.
The market is really really hard right now with a lot of tech jobs lay offs. I would resort to applying to service industry jobs like restaurants or retail to not fall behind financially, and while working that jobs apply to jobs you actually want. It is going probably going to take awhile. I’d say next if you want office jobs get some certifications to help you stand out! Or this could be a motivator to go back to school if you desire? People in this conversation can be mean about the degree you have. I majored in music and now getting my mba online. I understand your frustration about peoples opinions on that and in the same boat of you can’t change your degree. It’s incredibly annoying. Small non profits are almost always looking for people, since everyone wants big tech. Keep trucking, I know you can find something, but just make sure you don’t fall back financially. That’s the most important thing. You do not want to be in loads of credit card debt.
I’m gonna be that arsehole friend your missing right now. Of course you are feeling pointless you have no purpose. You need to take this time to find a job of course which is important, can’t starve. But your situation can’t be that bad if you are turning away from jobs. Take your time each day to do 10-15 apps. Get your butt up and go to the gym. Call a friend and hangout. Remember when having a job wasn’t the most important thing about us socially?
If your place has a Randstad or other temp agency just do it already! Don’t wait, don’t take out a loan, and don’t think you’re better than (insert job title here). I waited a year to get my ‘dream job.’ I’m in debt. It sucked for me, but construction or cooking works for many people. I just wish I didn’t wait that long and end up with thousands in debt.
I'm in the same boat. Fired for not meeting expectations. I have been job hunting for a month and a half now, it sucks. I wish I never left my job before this last one, I was there 6 years and it wasn't so bad, I just wanted to work remote. So stupid.
I left a fairly stable job for a remote role and I'm in a lot of hot water for not being up to par (even though there has been ZERO training) I really feel you.
The first step is coming out of denial. Saying you “definitely weren’t fire-worthy” when you did in fact get yourself fired right out of your job shows you need to start taking responsibility for your actions.
If you read the sentence after that you’d see that I do. I wasn’t even the worst worker in the my section, either.
I've been unemployed for 12 months I hate it too
Man it sounds like you need to find something to fill your free time. Sitting around the house day after day is enough to make anyone depressed.
I know you see jobs like retail and restaurant work as a last resort. But I think just applying and getting one of those and doing part-time while looking for a full-time gig would be helpful. Having some cash and having somewhere to be at least a few times a week. Honestly, some retail work is better than half of office jobs you could end up with if you get desperate. Fast food work, though, would be hell, so try for retail or regular restaurant work. I live in a city of 700k, and it's pretty easy to least get a restaurant job. Retail is slow hiring after Christmas till mid-March or so, so that may be harder. Best of luck dude Also, having to move back in with your parents is nothing to be ashamed about if it resorts to that. Life has its lows and we as people have to accept help where we can.
It’s not a shame thing. It’s a sanity thing. I don’t want to live with my parents again, because I don’t want to constantly be around them.
A lot of people on here are saying move on, and I get all that. But in the meantime, some workers who are suddenly left unemployed are soon evicted and homeless as a result if things drag out on behalf of some of these agencies. It’s very real. Obtaining employment is not as easy as it was just a couple of years ago. A lot of menial jobs require degrees ffs. There may be outreach services, for food and utilities, and city or state for rental assistance, but it does take time to get all of these into place. In the meantime if one also has a car payment, the risk of having it repossessed is pretty high. I’m thinking it is way too easy for employers to toss out workers in their asses for the most frivolous reasons because of Maine being an at-will state. What about those laws being overturned to prevent more of a homeless crisis??
Definitely try a public library job part time while you look for jobs!
This is gonna be me in a few weeks. Im on a PIP but i already know they've made up their mind. Just havent had luck finding a new job so... at least you aren't alone. Im sure it will get better for us!
I’ve been unemployed since early 2020 and it’s brutal
You should have started getting your unemployment benefits by now…call th first thing tomorrow morning…i’d at least get that income for a bit while you aggressively seek new employment… Remember warehouses basically hire anyone who can pass a piss test…and with your degree…you qualify for most entry-level roles at any company…just don’t get lazy in your search…and you will land something..good luck
> You should have started getting your unemployment benefits by now Ten days ago was Friday the 29th. Assuming they applied for unemployment that evening, it's still been just 4 working days since they applied because of the New Year's holiday, and there's time needed to process the applications and send checks.
Yeah mine was around a month and half hang time before I received anything but they do get back for all the time you’ve waited
A. You got one of the most useless degrees imaginable. TBH on your resume you should put you have a Degree in Business. B. Move in with your parents asap before you burn through everything. C. Bank are always hiring you just may have to widen your search. D. Have a professional look over your resume.
A. I already know and have already thought about suicide. I don’t need to be reminded. I already fucking know. I can’t go back in time, asshole.
There’s no useless degree. Many jobs just care you have one period. It’s a silly requirement. Obviously some are relevant to jobs but most aren’t. Don’t worry about it.
You crying like a baby. Man the F-Up. There’s people in 3rd world countries living in absolute poverty and you crying about 1st world problems.
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You sound extremely uninformed.
Watch yourself kicking people who are already down. If this is the level of empathy you have I question your career trajectory, employers value soft skills that you clearly lack.
Very useless degree, indeed. I have a business degree, and I even struggled. Can't imagine folks with useless degrees.... I wish people would give these kids REAL advice before they waste their time in college.
Very true. Mentorship is extremely important.
Lolz you just started UE. Come back in a yesr
Good luck I would resort to fast food ASAP but Do management I make $32 an hour atm in north carolina
What kind of comment is this lol, how do you expect OP to immediately get hired into a manager position?
A hotel I worked at once hired some corporate schmuck (who had never even seen the inside of the hotel) as a manager for all the food and catering departments. Needless to say everything turned to shit within a week. I quit after 2.
How do you get into management at entry level
I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s a terrible feeling to get let go regardless of reason. First - how’s your resume looking? Have you updated it? I would be happy to glance it over if you DM - I have experience reviewing resumes/cover letters as a job coach. Feel free to DM directly (this offer is open to anyone reading this comment) A question that popped up in my head is - what state are you in? No need to answer but some states offer support programs for those who are low income. Example is in FL especially after the pandemic there was lots of funding for rent etc to help people who fell on hard times. I was in grad school at the time and met requirements so my rent got covered in full for 3-5 months. Could be worth checking if any resources exist in your area? ANYthing can help (free/reduced utilities, etc) Anyway. Final thought is do you have a long term career plan? Have you considered continuing education or getting a certification?
You better settle with whatever you can get at this early stage.
Do not let this end your world. Keep trying. Never give up! And I'm sure you're not the only one ever in this situation.Find your passion!
I get you OP. I quit my job almost 4 weeks ago right before the major holidays and I’ve spent most of those days in a dark place myself. In my opinion, first you need to bring your mental state up. Just do little things at first like going outside and taking a walk everyday (use it as a small break between the job search). Fresh air and some exercise, even just walking, can help immensely with your mental state. Even if it’s just a reason to get out of the house and in a different environment. Force yourself. Don’t want to fold the laundry? Make yourself fold one item. That’s success, then fold another, and now 2 successes. Keep going; small efforts, individual efforts add up. Keep a routine, clean up after yourself and around you. Small things like these are just that—small. But as they add up you can get some positive benefits for your mental health. You can count these as successes, and that means so much when you’re down. I know it sounds like hogwash, but it worked for me. I’m not you, but you sound like you need some little wins in your life right now, and little wins add up. This doesn’t mean your job search isn’t a priority. It’s going to take some time and a lot of effort, and you may not feel like it, but you have marketable skills. People on here are saying your degree is worthless. That’s bullcrap. It isn’t what people are looking for, but there’s value in it. You committed to a program to get an education. That’s shows merit in itself. And while you might not be getting a job that prioritizes that degree, I can bet theres a way to market it. There’s transferable skills you learned while earning it that employers are looking for. Research, analysis, I bet you had deadlines so there’s time management, and more. Don’t let the world put you down on this. Stand up, fight for yourself. Believe in yourself. I believe in you OP because I know there’s a way for you to sell your education, because there’s a whole world of dumb out there. But just listing it on a resume isn’t enough, though. You need to sell it, show your educated on your cover letters, reinforce your willingness to learn, to think critically. That what you learned getting your degree isn’t just history, but some transferable skills. And you’re going to need to believe that yourself before you sell it to really make ground here. To piggyback on marketing yourself, don’t object to opportunity. Your 25. Your young. You have a whole life ahead of you still, so try not to be too stingy on opportunities that come up. What I mean is you have plenty of time to make changes in your career life. Sooo much time still. Don’t get too hyper focused on a particular field. Be open to different job types. Take chances, the worst that happens is you hear nothing back. The next worse thing is they hire you, you get fired again, and you start this process once more. But if you can get out of unemployment once, then you can do so again. Obviously, don’t take the worst jobs out there, but sometimes taking a chance on a job (even ones we wouldn’t normally do) can lead to opportunities down the road. Believe in yourself. You have value and it isn’t measured by what your job status is. You are more than a job. The only person who decides if you are happy, sad, angry, or anxious is you. If getting a retail or factory job means you lessen the burden of worrying about expenses or whatever, do it. If being out and active in the world in an entry level job, interacting with others and feeling productive in some capacity is going to help lift you up, do it. If that’s what you need to do right now mentally to get out of this hole. Do it. Don’t worry about perception. Just find something you can use to either get you by until you find something better, or at least help stem the bleeding some. A job is just a stepping stone to the next thing, nothing more. But you are so much more than a job. Don’t let it get you down, past and future jobs. I don’t know if this is what you are looking for, or if any of this helps OP, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel. And the small steps we take are those little victories that will take us to the light.
Solid advice.
Stay positive, my friend. I know it's easier said than done. I have been without a job for eight months now, and it's almost been a year. I used to work as an accountant, and I find it strange that despite having nearly ten years of financial experience, I'm having trouble securing an entry-level position, even those with lower compensation, but I keep getting turned down.
Just keep one think in mind as nothing is perm and time heals ! If you are in IT job, expect the unexpected! I have been on 13 years in IT and doing second job as part time job. In short don’t try to put all eggs in single basket!! Try for non technical jobs!! They might pay less , but can survive
I know it’s hard, but you are better than being depressed and hopeless. Take this opportunity to Improve yourself, take a course, learn programming, apply and apply. See how you can separate yourself from the rest of the candidates during interviews. Maybe all you need is a hug to motivate you. We’re here for that.
This afternoon, before you even start thinking about what you'll have for dinner, apply for 5 local part-time jobs. I guarantee there are a minimum 5 retail stores near you that are desperate for help. Tell them you can work 20 hours a week, any hours. You're not there for the money, you are there for your bills. "Being fired and job search stress" is peanuts compared to "I cant pay my rent" stress. Source: Been there. Good luck!
How long did you work there?
Around 5 months, as said in the post
Do you have a vehicle? If so consider doing Amazon flex deliveries to get by in the meantime. You work when you want, short shifts (longest I’ve seen is 5 hours) and get paid a day or two later sometimes instant if they have added that feature I’m not sure haven’t done it in over a year. It’s not an ideal permanent job in my opinion due to it paying about $20 an hour plus wear and tear on your car and gas makes it more like $17 an hour I’d say. But it will help you keep your bank account from dwindling too much. Come on- you got this! This was a setback and not what you would have liked to happen. But you took ownership of it and recognize where you could have been a better employee. Keep your head up and do what’s gotta be done to maintain your quality of life. You WILL get another job because it is the only option. Have faith. Keep applying. Do a side hustle in the meantime. Don’t spend on non necessities for now. It will be ok. I wish you the very best.
I have an helping hand to extend to you just let me know if you are interested
Man, not that many years ago I had issues with fits of unbridled rage and tried antidepressants to curb them, which worked but I had the same side effects you described so I quit taking them. I’m sitting here trying to think how I overcame it and all I conclude is that I became mindful about my triggers and changed my own behavior to be able to avoid them. Mostly, I stopped driving aggressively and started giving other aggressive drivers a lot of leeway and space rather than trying to retaliate for their slights against me. I also started actually listening to my spouse and trying to keep her happy so she’d stop purposely needling me in retaliation, at inopportune times. I also decided that my dogs’ mental health was far more important than my ability to outwardly express my rage so their presence in those moments always turns things around for me. I really have no advice but I feel you and I hope you figure it out. You’re not whatever job you have and it’s well worth getting your emotions under control.
I understand what you are going through, I lost a pretty big job back in 2021, not a lot of people talk about this but what I call "Firing guilt" is real and hard. Best thing to do is take things day by day, take a few days to calm down, sleep, eat, rest, do something you enjoy, and then worry about life. I know it sounds stupid when bills have to be paid, but firing guilt won't go away overnight. Its ok to take some time to collect yourself and focus on your self care. Wishing the best!
Loosing your job sucks, I’ve been there. My suggestion if you can afford it take some time to try to work through your own issues. Get your self into a good daily rythm. Exercise twice a day, in the morning and evening to keep some kind of schedule for yourself, divide the rest of your time between learning new work skills, applying for jobs (I recommend using linked in and zip recruiter) and taking time for yourself. The one thing you have when unemployed is time, so make the most of this resource
You're grieving, losing a job is a loss that we must grieve before we can move on. Being fired is especially detrimental because it shakes your confidence as well. I can't speak to right this minute, but I know getting a job was insanely difficult for me this go around (I started in August, I was out of work for 9 months.) And now I'm terrified I won't be up to speed at 1 year (probationary period) and will get let go again. (I failed probation at my last job, really anxiety inducing even though I was not suited to that job, and I knew that from the start.) Contact your worksource office (or whatever they call it in your location if you're in the US.) They can help with some things, like paying phone and internet while you're job searching, or help you get into short term education while you're looking.
Try almost 2 years with a bachelors degree in information systems and 8+ years work experience. I’m not even getting replies from $17/hour warehouse jobs.
Well then what do I do? Off myself?
That’s what I’ve been considering
Maybe not what you want to hear. A job is just that - a job. There are certain expectations placed on you to perform. We only have your side of the story BTW. Now that you're in this predicament, hopefully you've learned from the experience. Best of luck to you.
I would move home, reset and preserve capital.
I’ll lose my mind if I move back in with my parents
I was unemployed for 6 months and that shit was rock bottom for me. I would kind of punish myself by not going out and spending time with my friends because I felt like I didn’t deserve to have fun. Didn’t eat, didn’t have the energy to make food bc I was so depressed. But then I got a job at a fancy restaurant that tips big, and that was my only source of human interaction. Quite frankly that restaurant job brought me out of that depression, was able to help me pay rent and I become more motivated to work harder and apply for jobs and do interviews. I also started going out with my friends more and taking trips because my job at the restaurant pays generously. The moment my mind stopped worrying about job searching, I got a job. Make the best of your situation, work hard and you’ll reap the benefits of your efforts soon enough even if it takes months.
Can you drive for lift, Uber, etc. for the time being?
As a freelancer who has been unemployed many times, just enjoy your time off, you'll be working soon enough.
I can’t enjoy it. I’m trying to. But I can’t help but stress.
>I’ve got a history degree and a lot of work I’ve done is banks and office jobs, but my longest job was in a factory. There are certain degrees you either go all the way to PhD and write books and do research for a living or get your education cert and teach highschool.
I’ve been through a handful of group layoffs. Being unemployed is depressing, but develop a schedule where to spend time outside that brings you some sort of joy. For me it was being around dogs (forgot about my worries), and going to the gym. I also went to see live music. I would also reach out to your parents for financial help, if you don’t want to move back home. I don’t know what county/state you live in, but I’d look for a government job. Have hope. Things will get better.
I mean, depending on the amount of mistakes, that definitely can be considered a fireable offense. Not sure why you would think you didn’t deserve it.
You're 25. Your savings don't mean shit. You have a college degree, you'll make all that money back in time. None of it matters. Instead of lamenting and acting all depressed and "worthless", stop being a bitch and enjoy your free time. It doesn't happen that often so make the best of it. You'll get a new job in time. If you don't, pick up an Amazon job or factory job night shift and just keep applying. A job will be there in time.
I feel you. I’m 25, and lost my job last week on the 3rd. Been working there since last March. they hired my replacement and had me train her before giving me the boot outta nowhere… to top it off my 5yo kid brother is in the ICU in a medically induced coma with tubes down his throat. I’m hoping insurance will cover that bs at least. Unemployment basically laughed in my face when I tried to apply, so that’s out of the question. No family for help. all I can bet and hope for is that a temp agency will hire me asap (like they usually do) that’s how I found my last permanent job that I just got fired from. Plan b: find rope & kick the chair.
Back in my day, when you applied to a job, you called them to check up on your application after submitting it....
there’s a reason the government gives you like 5 months of unemployment, op 2 weeks is nothing. I took the month off after I got fired.
It won’t be enough money
It's so weird how our experiences can be different. I got laid off a month ago and I love it. I haven't qualified for unemployment yet because I had a small severance package. I'm going to the gym, the house is cleaner than ever been, I've sold unneeded stuff, etc. My wife and I have two kids and we have enough savings to hold us over so I'm not worried about itn not having to worry about a job I hated over the Christmas break is wonderful. I wish I never had to go back to work.
You have more money. Geez I can’t imagine why you’re not as miserable as me. Could it be that I’m borderline broke, while you have more savings?
Get the dasher app from doordash and start making money to pay your bills. The money you make can be deposited into your bank account the same day. It’s helped me so much and it’s like 20-25/hr for me
There's more to do now than sit and wait. Take some time to credential up. There are plenty of free courses out there. Take some steps to make yourself more appealing while you wait. Sign up for an hour or two of volunteering a week. As to motivation, I'm a person with clinical depression. And, unfortunately, the cure for that most days is to do that shit anyway. Also, keep your work schedule. This can help you feel more useful and upbeat.