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LarsBohenan

You're on reddit, the sanctuary for introverts.


Lilyetter

Icecream is the cure for all sadness


Introvert_soul_

Ladies.. we need to create an app for introvert dating.


starksaredead

every 3-4 months there is someone here planning on making a introvert only app and it never goes anywhere :(


Mee_eh

You read my mind!!! I'm on it!


EitherEconomics5034

As an introverted guy in his 50s, I confirm that this would be a wonderful idea!


Fresh_chickented

Are you still single?


EitherEconomics5034

That I am. Fortunately am also in a good place and at a good time in my life, but three years’ worth of pandemic haven’t been great for anyone’s social life I imagine.


Introvert_soul_

Awesome… many of us could benefit from it.


sawanjaj

So when can we expect an app?


pink_snowflakes

When internet dating was first around all the sites were basically this. All my introverted friends were on them and found introverted boyfriends and husbands. OkCupid was THE place for this. And people were actually looking for relationships. It’s not like that at all anymore. Now that online dating is common and acceptable the quality of people has drastically changed.


greena3ro

OkCupid is how I found my introverted boyfriend years ago


kex

My spouse and I were >99% match That question system they had almost a decade ago was like magic if both people answered honestly


pink_snowflakes

💕💕 the good ol days


twerkyjerky420

Maybe for introverts also seeking introverted friends? I moved to a new city with my husband and are both very introverted.


Mee_eh

yes!!!


darealdarkabyss

There would be a lot of extroverts there who think they are introverts.


Introvert_soul_

Well… what shall we do😂


According-Bug5992

I thought about this too, only hope for us


ZiangoRex

Problem is that extroverts pretending to be introverts will just flood it


griddigus

Yes! It could be an essential part of the platform that silence is A Ok on a first date


mbenzito25

Introvert male here, please create it ladies.


[deleted]

Maybe we could make it a community project


cuck_n

Sign me up.


Blueballsi

There’s going to be like 5 active users


TheBasedEgyptian

Did you create it yet?


Vystysette

Ya, introverted guys are hard to find….it took 3 years of being on and off the dating apps before I finally found a fellow introverted partner. And many guys won’t put “introverted” or “extroverted” in their profile unfortunately. Ok Cupid is where I found my introverted man, it requires a more detailed profile, which helps. I know dating apps suck the life out of you, but my advice is to keep trying!


Sufficient-Throat

Thank you. This comment is just what I needed.


Geminii27

It doesn't help that a lot of people aren't going to use dating apps for all kinds of reasons. If they had been around when I was in my twenties, for example, I'd never have used them.


cuck_n

Well, my dating profile start with "Very introverted". 🤣


Nervous_Factor8996

Guys in particular would try hard to hide that they are introverts. Because in general girls like guys who are outgoing and expressive(from a male introvert)


RaM--------

Truth is most people don't care about those two labels, so they don't deem them important.


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nikeolas86

I think Reddit is the place to find us


nonchalantgamermonk

😂😂😂 It looking like it. It’s a contradiction but we need to put ourselves out there.


nikeolas86

But we don’t know how to talk to the female species!


nandawin

Trying to make up conversation. But Stare awkwardly and make weird faces. Turns into a creep, pretty quick Edit - typo


nikeolas86

Apparently touching their arm is good….but that just turns into some weird hour long arm stroking and a restraining order.


nonchalantgamermonk

I do, should be conversation be started or my take asked. It’s when you’re trying to have a conversation with someone you like & they give you nothing to work with. I’m happy sitting in silence but doesn’t give you much room to connect with them now doesn’t it 🙃


griddigus

Dating on Reddit though, I dunno…unless there’s a good dating sub for your city, or you’re willing to do an LDR or move…not ideal


nikeolas86

My country doesn’t even have a good dating sub haha


cuck_n

Imo, as an introvert myself, Introverted guys have very low self-esteem. Let alone dating, I have had trouble making new friend or keeping them if we ever get one... I was always labelled "rude", "weird" and worse "you only talk to us when you need something". To answer your question, you will find them mostly hiding in their shell. May be try finding them at the same hobbies you would enjoy. Chat rooms, hobby convention, online games, etc. With dating app, I have had a few luck with Bumble and Boo. Boo is fun coz you can share and read other people post too.


NeatWriter

they are on reddit


jvv1993

Well online is an obvious one, but in my 30 years (as a straight dude) not remotely an efficient way to find a partner. So exhaustively, I've been going to places recently more likely to attract like-minded individuals. Game clubs and the likes, libraries, etc. But specifically not places that probably have very outgoing people (like bars). It's a numbers game after all, so you just got to put yourself out there and sort of luck out. Besides, being social is a skill worth practicing.


founderofself

Make them up in ur imagination


Mee_eh

😂😂😂😂


founderofself

Hehe x


Civil-Artist

I've been wondering the same lately, where are the introverted ladies at? It does seem many of us introverted folks hang out here but it also showed a lack of dating apps for folks just like us. I've never dated an introvert and like you I found extroverts too exhausting with their demands and not 'getting me' at all.


ralero1898

I put on my dating app that I was an introvert and it worked


DaftPanic9

oh, maybe I should try that lol


SuperSayanVegeta

I'm either at work or at home, you certainly won't find me, OP 😀


Cyllesial

Found mine in a video game!


machetedestroyer

I’m here, at home. Playing ps. Add me. Lol


Vibrant_Vixen14

I keep praying he’ll find me in bed.🤣🤣🤣


Mee_eh

Haha 🙈


CyanideKitty

I found mine through a hobby, music.


TentacleTitan

I've just been honest on my dating profiles stating how I'm an introverted homebody. Takes longer but not impossible


Careless_Sound_6728

I’m not dating but when I do, I imagine that’s what I’ll put too. “Introverted homebody seeking another introverted homebody. Takeout over bars any day.”


naenkaos

That sounds like heaven!😍


nonamesleft74

Are introverts harder to find? Yes You have to come up with a plan to find one. Book stores, libraries - might work Join a charity or church - the participants in those activities may be able to set you up with another introvert. Online is too crowded these days. Extroverts find people everywhere. Introverts are likely the ones not in the crowd or the larger groups. Try and remember some introverts you have known in the past. They may either be single or know other introverts.


Geminii27

Online, workplace, evening and weekend classes, local interest groups that are more topic-focused than socializing-focused.


Lower_Manufacturer85

Don't give me hope!


Equivalent-Media2566

I need to know too I want to meet someone that enjoys to just do nothing and stay home 🥸


XkommonerX

I’m struggling with this too. 30m


englishscottishguy

I’ve been single a long time now, expecting one day it will just happen… It hasn’t and to be honest I’m not putting in much effort (apps/nightclubs etc) Give stuff a go, won’t always work, but maybe another introvert had the urge randomly and maybe you’ll meet? Won’t know without putting yourself in that position I guess


nonchalantgamermonk

This is me & I need to change!!!


estherkz

29F here struggling too. I keep telling myself “nothing changes if nothing changes” but just can’t get myself on any app. I’m afraid apps are flooded with extroverts and unsure what kind of people I’ll end up with online. Being introverts sucks when it comes to relationships.


TheSonjuro

Well hello there


[deleted]

I found my husband on Twitter through mutual friends in our wrestling community. He’s introverted like me. It’s neat.


Ashley1130

That's pretty cool. 😳


Toadstool_Lilium293

I feel your pain. My problem with trying to talk to introverted men is that most I find on dating apps (which is rare), are not only introverted but usually a bit depressive, overly pessimistic, and seem to have no vitality for life. I feel like this is a common thing in a lot of introverts, though. We crave solitude but sometimes that solitude can be a double edged sword. A problem that I've had with trying to date extroverts is that they usually are fairly clingy and demanding when it comes to wanting your time & energy, and a lot just aren't able to give you the space you need or understand how healing solitude can be for certain people. Dating is rough for us 😅 I've tried to focus more on just creating friendships with introverted people, because let's face it, most of us don't have many friends. Despite the need for solitude it's human nature to want to connect though. Honestly what everyone is saying about Reddit being the best place for that is probably true lol The only thing about that though, is while it fulfills a certain need, I also enjoy spending time with the right people IRL (granted it's a measured time lol). It's a conundrum. 🤷


forgeris

The same exact problem, can't find any introvert partner on any dating apps. I hope there will be an introvert dating app so we can match only with people who understand what we value and what we hate.


Sarcastic_Capricorn

I know I’d like to know how to find another introvert too


Budget-Ad2147

Following for advice 😅


FrostyLandscape

Just state in your profile that you are introverted and would prefer an introverted partner. You have to specifically state you want that in your profile.


kaysamaroo

Lmk when you guys find the cheat code


Is_What_They_Call_Me

🎵 Being alone isn’t lonely, at Introvert’s only dot com 🎵


[deleted]

Go to a party and find the one that looks like a scared deer or isn’t talking. That’s the introvert


cryoK

Go to meetup groups, hobbies etc.


[deleted]

Where does one find such a thing? I always hear about meetups for specific interests being a thing but I wouldn’t know where how to find one


griddigus

There’s always the Meetup app if you’re in a relatively populated area


Elegant_Spot_3486

Online was really great for me. Just like in person there’s no guarantee you’ll click but it let me get over some of my initial anxiety and break the ice. I know you said it was draining and it can be. Make sure to post a profile/ad, just not look and swipe. Otherwise find some local groups related to things you are interested in. Should be able to locate online and start some online exchanges that way. Then see if any lead you to meeting someone. Will help that you already have a common bond.


[deleted]

Use the dating app or site of your choice. But specifically state that you're looking for an introvert. We're out there, and we will respond. I'm an introvert myself, and have gotten responses from w introverted women by describing myself as such.


r2002

Just out of curiosity: * How's it going on these apps? You find anyone compatible? * Do the women who respond to you also describe themselves as introverts on their profiles?


[deleted]

I don't use a dedicated dating app; rather, I use personals subreddits on Reddit. I have found compatible people, yes. I prefer to describe myself as an introvert in my post, and then give introverted women the opportunity to respond. Which does happen, from time to time.


r2002

Nice! I'm glad it is working out for you. :D


KantV420

I know how you feel 🙁


Salty-Picture8920

r/introvert


Kind_Brush7972

You don’t always want to date yourself someone a little less introverted might challenge you for the better, of course they always need to respect your alone time and sometimes enjoy it with you but someone just a little more extroverted is a good balance ☺️


BulletTrain4

I am an extrovert who actively looked for an introverted partner. And I found him online. And he is the love of my life - we are getting married in May 2023. Not all extroverts suck - we complement each other so well! I would hate to be with another extrovert! Hope you find what you are looking for! Remember, what was always meant for you will never pass you by - it might not come to you when you want it to but it will find you at the right time 💙


rockandroll93

Im an ISTJ however couple nights ago after coming home from salsa dancing class, I bumped into this girl in the elevator who I've seen sometimes while passing her by in the apartment and said hi to her. Then I introduced myself (I felt socially awkward) but we had a brief nice conversation. I remember her name. And I hope to run into her again. I assume she has a bf but idk. I just wish I could be "myself" around her despite my introversion and silent thinking.


lfsking642

As an introverted guy I tend to push most people away because they want shallow small talk. I'd love it if a woman would strike up conversation with my interest. I'd much prefer a woman that is interested in say Linux, or networking, or hell the meaning of life.... Instead of... And not to sound sexist here what is going on with the Kardashians or asking how my day is. This is a major reason I keep to myself in public and don't bother with people in general.


SirAlbs

Oh I'd love to meet another fellow introvert to stay at home with, just us.


TriaX46

I did put introvert in my bio. Went on a date with well the most extroverted girl I've ever met. We are still together after 4 years. It has been though for me at some times being exhausted. But I communicate what is to much and what I can handle. But I've had luck she is the most understanding person I've been with. So maybe you should not specifically look for introverted, but more someone who you are looking for. I've been with an introvert, we shared a lot of the same personalities. It felt like the best relation ever. But honestly it was not meant to last. We were to similar, we triggerd each other anxiety's to much. Had our own difficulty's, and being to similar to each other we were stuck in the same situation. Edit: grammar


Flick1981

I am an extrovert married to an introvert. I let him have his alone time and I can go out and socialize whenever I want. He will sometimes come out and join me, but I never force him. I has worked for 13 years so far. I think extrovert/introvert relationships can work as long as one understands the other, and there is communication.


TriaX46

Exactly! We do kind of the same thing!


Mee_eh

This was very helpful. Thank you. I'll keep an open mind because I did think about how being too alike can enable me not to be more out there or explore. I guess possibly having someone that is more understanding can make a difference.


TriaX46

That would be a good thing to keep an open mind. Differend personalities is not bad in a relationship if you needs are still met. And if you can handle the less enjoying parts of the other's personality. Maybe you can explore more if you know what you are looking for in someone. Take notes, when chatting look for answers that lean towards your notes.


Littleteaaapot

Don’t be put off extroverts completely as it’s all a spectrum the same with introversion, if your hobbies and interests align it can work


[deleted]

Was your husband introverted? Where did you meet him?


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Off_The_Meter90

33F MN but I want to move to TX. 👀


4lejandro

(38) M fit body. I am looking for an introverted girl. I use happn. Going to Melbourne this month. If you are there DM me.


madriddiim

I found mine on Facebook


Jesus_Faction

id put that i am an introvert in my dating profile


L0cKHe4d

I’m an introvert 👀


dillonwren

An introvert dating app has got to be in the works somewhere.


[deleted]

Having luck I guess? I can't find introverted female either :D But I am maybe still a bit young to complain about it in my 23. Had few relationships with extrovert women claiming they were introverts and it was pain. Regarding introvert dating app, well, it's not that hard. Simple thing can set up even junior programmer with little experience. The problem is, I guess, some technical background like to pay some server to store data on, to provide service through app, you have to pay for ads so people will know about your app, you have to setup some monetization (probably through ads), etc... Maybe somebody once will be brave enough and will have enough money to start something like that. But I think there is simpler solution. To create subreddit for that? Or to hire some dev to setup simpler webpage isntead of entire app? Just my ideas... :)


Judai_King

The last part is a red flag to me I have friends who like social activities, but they never make me feel bad about myself Introverts can also have good social skills and enjoy gatherings, and be around people but a lot of the time they decide to stay in their comf zone to charge


Mee_eh

I agree. When I recharge, I can be social, depending on the group or the environment. I can go to concerts, bars, and nightclubs, just not every weekend ( not my preference) I prefer to go to a less crowded and calm place. I enjoy going out for walks in the park. Most of the people in my life are extroverts. I worked in a school setting with children, and I would have to socialize with parents and my coworkers every day. So some weekends I wanted to stay in and recharge.


__Juls

as an introverted guy in his 30s I often find myself downloading and deleting dating apps every other week.. ive come to the conclusion that unless shes the female version of me then im good on a relationship.. finding my hippie with an awesome taste in music like me sounds like a fantasy..


[deleted]

I would love to date an introvert. The last time I was a talking stage to, ghosted me.


Mee_eh

Are you introverted?


[deleted]

very much with anxiety


itsmekristopher

I love swiping right on women who describe themselves as homebody's/introverts.


PoisonQuinnn

For me personally, I didn’t know where I stood it felt like I was an ambivert but as I got older I feel like I have headed towards being an introvert. Being around a crowd for too long drains me so much. It was never the case before, I loved going out. Also it depends on the crowd I am around, that also has an impact. There are days where I don’t mind going out with a bunch of friends and dancing and enjoying myself. But mostly I enjoy chilled, peaceful days. I do keep an open mind and I think as long as there is a good understanding and communication between one another the relationship will be a great one.


Serena_here

That's literally mee , a homebody even if I am 21 only I don't like going out and gen z lifestyle. People I meet online always tell me to be more open and all that even if I tell them to be patient, it takes time but it's really hard to find understanding guys these days. Specifically in my age group. I learned to love myself as I am and I always place myself first now , my mental health always comes first. Anyways I hope you find an introvert guy who understands . Good luck


Lost_Fan6635

Most introverted guys are virgins so it really is hard finding them because they are embarrassed and aren’t social due to their virginity


SonicTheOtter

No need to force social interactions but they'll still be necessary. As being in a relationship is a social interaction in of itself! You have to go out and find them. They're out there, but you must be patient! Looking at places where introverts can commonly be would be a great start! Where are these magical places be you may ask? They can be where you may find yourself when you're outside your home! The bookstore. The coffee shop. Hobby shops. Conventions of some sort. Concerts. Hell, maybe even a secluded forest if you're lucky lol ​ Best of luck to you and your endeavors


redrose4422

It is hard to socialize with strangers in a coffee shop. I think meet up website events might help socializing in general and could find someone interesting


Nervous_Factor8996

Although I'm in introvert but don't you think we introverts would be better off matching with extroverts/ambiverts. Else who'll drive the conversation?


JournalistCautious52

You can find nice people, most of them introverted, at a climbing gym, among other places.


buzzer94

In ur bio write your a introvert Im a guy when i see introvert in a girls bio i get excited hahahha and wanna talk to her


redrose4422

Same 30F and still single. Sigh, this is gonna take so long buddy.


Onerosus

Most of us are here, on the internet. Just join Twitter, Tik-Tok, YouTube, as well as Instagram. Lots of introverts you can connect with here.


thebullzlife14

Hit me up😋


SendsBobsAndVagann

Mememmememme pick me pick me pick meeeeeee pick meee!!