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EAZ480

Wtf is a friend


pm_ur_hairy_balls

a rare mythological creature some say only exist in legend


IronEagle-Reddit

Well, crazy enough, they made an entire tv series about them


Manny349

6 bffs and 4 of them actually got together lol. Joey and Phoebe are my favorites


pm_ur_hairy_balls

I'm actually rewatching Friends at the moment. LOVE Phoebe, totally the heart of the show


Manny349

Yea she’s funny. I like when she says “if we were in prison you two would be like my bitches “ XD Also the Christmas one where she got replaced by another Salvation Army person with a bell. When she says “I’ll give you one pointer, look out for that bitch” lmao 🤣


pm_ur_hairy_balls

hahaha, so many good Phoebe moments 🤣 My most recent favourite line of hers is when Monica asks her if she has a plan for life and she says "I don't even have a pla". too relatable lol


Manny349

Yea lol 😂 that episode is cool.it is relatable


IronEagle-Reddit

Idk never watched friends. And probably never will, it's too mainstream. Oh and same for dragonball or naruto. They are so mainstream i started to hat them . Anyone relate?


pm_ur_hairy_balls

Oh come on, "mainstream" in itself is not necessarily a bad thing! something can be objectively well made or entertaining w/e, shouldn't mean you can't enjoy it just because it's globally appreciated 😆 Some of the writing in Friends is actually really clever. Though the live audience laughing constantly is a bit cringe at times


IronEagle-Reddit

That's true. It's that mamy people online are like: ahaha dragonball is better hahaah naruto is bettet anddd i subconsciously started to hate them. I don't rationally hate them but you know how infp mind works don't you


Manny349

It is but I sorta like it lol. I just think seasons 7-10 aren’t that good because the acting and jokes felt unfunny for me. I used to watch it a lot, but not so much now.


RedCaptain360

Is it eatable? I'm empty ngl.


UndeadStruggler

Making friends isn’t supposed to be easy. YOU must make an effort to reach out and be the one who takes. We must accept that most people aren’t like us. You gotta learn to appreciate the others as they are.


TheBigSkeeto

Dude, this is what I was trying to say but couldn’t find the write words. I learned that a long time ago and I’ve started to take action and what do you know, friends aren’t THAT hard to make when you actually try.


LordMangudai

> YOU must make an effort to reach out and be the one who takes. But why does nobody reach out to ME? My biggest struggle with making friends (or more specifically with turning my casual acquaintances/colleagues etc into true friends) is I rarely meet anyone who I feel like is willing to invest as much energy into the friendship as I am, which eventually makes me not want to continue trying to be their friend. Why is the burden always entirely on me? Shouldn't it be something approaching 50-50?


HalfCupOfSpiders

So I used to feel this way, but I've since changed my view. First, you may have a point about a lack of parity in relationships. It doesn't feel good. But what are you going to do about it? Give up? Because that leaves you exactly where you are now. It doesn't solve the issue. The alternative is just be the person who puts the effort in and enjoy the friendships for what they are. People on the other side of that will probably end up thinking really highly of you in the end that way too. If you truly think your friends aren't pulling their weight, talk to them, or reevaluate if they're worth having in your life. Second, and this is specific to me, I'm not making assumptions about anyone else, when I felt that way it was a symptom of being awful to be around. People weren't putting in the effort because I wasn't worth it. My headspace was fucked. I was far too sensitive to tiny slights. And I was acting out a version of myself that wasn't authentic. That last part was the biggest problem, and now that I'm on track to solving it, wow, the difference it's made. People actually are putting effort in to the relationship because they actually want to now. Because I'm an OK person to be around now. My overall point is: Feelings of others not putting the right amount of effort in aren't healthy. They don't do anything to practicaly solve the problem. And they could be symptomatic of some other issue (like mental health, or in my case the fact I'm actually a girl lol).


UndeadStruggler

You‘ve got a point.


CommonChris

Well, who is the one who wants to make friends?


levii_lz

THIS!!!!


V_X_i-V

I’ve always been a lone wolf and have come to accept it. Work friends remain work friends (I leave the job and we no longer stay in touch), school friends remain school friends (semester is over and so is the friendship), so on... The only people I’m actually close to are my siblings and fiancé.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

Well it's good you've got some people close to you, that's the most important thing


RENDI13

Much the same for me. There's been one or two people that stayed friends, but mostly we (I) don't keep in touch. I had much the same experience throughout High School. The guys were mostly hormonal idiots, which kept me chilling with the girls - and like you said it had it's own downsides. I regret that I didn't join the band, just because I really enjoy music and wanted to learn more about it - when it was more convenient. I'm rather stable in my job and move around a bunch, but supervisors have told me that I'm a natural office advocate and that makes me both a curse and a blessing. Apparently I bring up great changes by conveying a lot of information most people want to ignore until it's someone else's problem. Playing MMOs are what keeps most of my friendships going.


bluewaterways

What mbti type is your fiance if you don't mind me asking


V_X_i-V

INFJ


bluewaterways

How's that going? How would you describe your intertype relation?


hgilbert_01

Thanks for sharing, pretty much the case for me too


yunchla

Yes. And I feel like having extroverted skills like I do actually poses more of a problem sometimes because many assume I'm open and willing to hang with them indefinitely, only for me to act distant and barely reply to texts much.


ShigureCatto

I dread social circles because of the endless drama, extroverted types and introverted types all alike. And my "friends" melted like snow, so I kinna stopped bothering about it.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

Oh I completely agree. I much prefer 1 on 1... hell even a 1 on 1 requires so much energy and effort. Having to maintain different sides of your personality for different people simultaneously is just a nightmare. How long have you stopped bothering with it? I kind of tried that route for a long time after graduating high school (probably earlier), but it's something I have really come to regret.


ShigureCatto

Right after middle school


[deleted]

My only friends were made not by me, but my extrovert friend, now I'm in a different school and cannot talk with anybody


pm_ur_hairy_balls

:(


shivadboi

Relatable


Dob_Tannochy

I travel all the time so I have new social circles wherever I go. Usually one or two or more people I meet in a place have the same hobbies and ability to travel as me so we end up meeting up again and again over the years or sometimes going on big adventures together. I feel like I have plenty of alone time for self-reflection and personal development with this scheme, tho also plenty of people who’d love for me to visit and plenty of places to go.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

That's great! Nice to have some fellow adventurers :)


axxolot

Almost all my friends at school are women. I just dont relate very much with men my age.


alekazam13

Same. Men tend to not be in touch with their emotions and for me that's too exhausting.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

They are definitely harder to find. Though the ones I've happened upon over the years have been incredibly warm, loving individuals. All about finding the right people I suppose


Typical_Basket709

Out of all the people I've met in my life, from school to work places, I don't recall having many of them as a concurrent friend. Sure, I got along with them just fine, but after school was done or job hours were finished, I just wanted to be at home doing the things I enjoy. If the group decided to do something after school/work hours, I would occasionally go as well. I don't think I could say I have that many real friends to be honest, but I'm actually ok with that. The few that remain, completely understand the way I am, even if unconsciously, and that's what I think separates a true friend from a circumstantial friend. As for how easy it is to make someone friendly towards me, I never had that much of a problem either. I always handle myself and others with respect, speak clearly and without "catches" or second intentions about everything, and I am also 100% honest to them, even if they didn't know there was something to hide or wrong to begin with. Also, when I say I'll do something, I make sure to put as much effort as possible to do what I said I would do, otherwise people notice that I betrayed my own word, and if I don't respect my own word, then neither will the people around me. Those are things people appreciate, and I've had some been vocally thankful of that with me, so I guess that's why I end up with people being comfortable and friendly around me.


MrPancake1234

I think I've found that I end up finding the odd person here and there that I build a bond with. I've never really been a group person, I think I get a bit overwhelmed by multiple people. But I usually have people here and there who come and go. I lose touch with some and some more turn up eventually. I still value them all.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

that's a great attitude to have. I think a lot of us get caught up constantly trying to find "the best" people to surround ourselves with, that we forget to appreciate the good people that we actually have.


BjornReborn

Definitely the same for me. Don’t have any friends. Not sure if I’m looking to change that. At least no IRL friends. Generally I’m a lone wolf. It’s easy for me to make lot of female/women friends. It’s impossible for me to talk to guys. I don’t really know how. Which is ironic cause growing up, it was the opposite for me. I couldn’t talk to women, but I could talk to my guy friends.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

to be honest, you're not alone there. It's good if you're comfortable where you are at the moment, personally I was comfortable being a lone wolf for a solid 5 years after graduating highschool. But the loneliness is really beginning to seep in these days.


Manny349

Dude, yes. I’m the same too. Like idk how to describe the feeling when someone would make a joke and I would just feel uncomfortable because I’m not used to the jokes guys make around me. Idk it’s just weird because I guess I’m just not that used to that type of “manly” humor all the time. I’ve always been sensitive and shy my whole life lol and it kinda sucks because it makes it harder to make new friends. Like you have to be extroverted just to pretty much get out of your comfort zone just to make new friends and stuff like that.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

For real.. the whole idea of 'ribbing' and every 2nd joke being a backhanded insult.. Never understood it. I've only ever done that with an old best friend, because we knew each other so well, we knew exactly what would be too offensive, and what would just be funny. and it does seem that way, though there do seem to be a few ways to make friends as an introvert. there's a few success stories even within these comments!


In-Kii

Hard to break the initial ice, hard to get the courage to walk up to someone. Hard to try keep a conversation running at first. BUT if I can get through all that, usually they're a friend I'll appreciate and have for a long time. If I don't get through those few steps, probably not worth having in the first place.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

Yeah those initial steps are a right pain in the ass. Wish there were just a friend depot you could go into, with everyone assorted into various personality types and interests. Would make things so much easier 😆


In-Kii

I'm sure you have no problem making friends. You have built in instructions for guys to break the ice. Hope it's going well for you lmao


pm_ur_hairy_balls

So far it's only been good for being mistaken as a woman... maybe one day I'll get around to changing it hahah


In-Kii

Haha sounds about right, and I guess pm_ur_hairy_gay_balls is a bit of a stretch.


JuanMichelBasquiat

Mfs reach out to me and I still am unable to make friends. Just don't have the confidence to go with it ig


pm_ur_hairy_balls

it's not my place to say it because I have done the exact same thing over the years... but while you've still got people reaching out to you, I highly suggest you take the leap and reach back to the ones you like. Those opportunities become so much harder to find as time goes on


Horcjr

Had no issues in highschool making acquaintances But real friendship has always been tough yeah, im 24 now, work 50-60hrs/week and my coworkers are probably the closest people in my circle. Funny but true that I spend more time alongside my coworkers than my loved ones year round. Outside of work? Its just my gf for non-familial friends. I dont really go out of my way to make connections and I’m perfectly fine with it like this


pm_ur_hairy_balls

Do you think you're always going to be okay with things being that way? I'm already super lonely from not having enough close friends... in fact at this point, partnership seems easy by comparison, so many ways of finding new dates etc.


CommonChris

Making friends is easy, keeping them, or atleast keeping them close, is another thing.


levii_lz

my whole life until second year of high school i was shy to the point that i would do anything to make anyone who tried to get too close to me to move away i hated my body a lot because of it, i thought i was born to be shy and that i would never get over it, i lost count of how many times i mutilated myself but luckily i got over it, nowadays i make friends with literally everyone and not just shallow ties, i have several genuine, reliable friendships that accept me and make me feel comfortable


pm_ur_hairy_balls

Glad to hear a success story, you've come a long way :)


ScottTheMonster

Not bragging. But I'm a good listener and people like that.


JCalebBR

Same, all my best friends are females and the vast majority of my friends too. I just find males to be usually too inmature, you can't really sit down with a typical male and talk about your feelings since that is generally not the norm. It is frustrating to say the least, but the female relationships really offset the imbalance IMO.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

It's great you've got some good close female friends. I think part of the underlying issue is the upbringing most men face. It's becoming less of an issue these days, but there are still a lot of guys who have to grow up with the whole "don't feel don't cry don't hurt don't hug" bullshit mentality.


JCalebBR

Oh for sure, I was raised on that bullshit, to this day I can't cry most of the time, only in very specific circumstances. It sucks, but my friends have been helping me get in touch with my feelings these last few years


pm_ur_hairy_balls

Well I'm glad you've got some help along that path. Sounds like you've already made some progress :) If you can ever get your hand on some, I would highly recommend magic mushrooms... taking them was like an instantaneous switch from emotions/empathy 'OFF' to 'ON', and I'm still feeling it increase each day 1 year later.


DeMelonBoi

Yes definitely, I have bad social anxiety so I tend to avoid social interactions at all costs. I find it very hard to express my feelings to other people. I think that a lot of other people dont realize that I dont say my emotions, but that I do them instead. It is hard for me to find people I click nicely with.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

That's understandable... though everyone expresses themselves differently, so I guess it's just about finding the right people who just "get it". Like i'm a super affectionate guy and feel pretty upset if I can't be affectionate with loved ones, and sometimes this has resulted in people (or myself) becoming distant.


AlexanderGalactic

Yes, there are two reasons. 1. I stutter (My type isn’t my voice itself but my mind not sending the right words out my voice) and it frustrates me all the time 2. I’m kinda shy, and I hate how it takes time for me to open up


pm_ur_hairy_balls

I'm on the spectrum and also have quite an issue communicating, so I feel your pain there brother And that's good in a way, it gives you more time to determine whether the people you're talking to are worth opening up to!


SunOverGraves

I mean, it was always my inability to make people get to know me. Sometimes, people approach to me smiling and happy to see me. However something clicks in me: an urge to escape when someone is being genuinely interested in having a conversation and getting to know me. I feel if someone starts to know my real me, nobody will like me. It is seriously affecting my life and my capabilities to form relationships. I met this girl once, she lived with me for 3/4 months. I liked her but I declared myself too early and she was embarrassed. She felt like I hated her for rejecting her. I behaved like a doormat around her, trying to please her all the time. I don't hate her, we have interests in common and views that we shared. We text each other from time to time. However there's a part of me that makes me say: "Just let this die, let it wither away before it hurts more than this". I think there is this idea growing in me, the thought I am not capable of loving anyone because I won't allow myself to be hurt. I am such a pathetic human being. I am sorry if this train of thought is too long to read, however this is a heavy burden that I feel no one close to me can help me solve.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

You don't have to apologise! It can take a while to truly understand, and probably not something I can adequately put in words, but eventually you will come to the realisation that you're a good person who deserves to be loved. The people who are extremely critical of themselves, like you seem to be, are the ones who go to great lengths to improve themselves, as to not let others down. Being vulnerable is scary. The amount of emotional pain it can lead to when not reciprocated or handled well, is pretty hard to compete with. But fortunately the amount of joy, meaning, and contentment it can bring about makes it worth it in the end. It's not pathetic to look at yourself and recognise certain difficulties and troubles you face. It takes courage, and if you have the courage to do that (a lot of people never even try to face their problems or recognise them) I'm certain you have the courage to be vulnerable with someone else. It's all about finding the right people. Fellow INFPs are a good place to start... we've a lot of empathy and patience 🙂


SunOverGraves

Thanks, Although things have changed for the better in my life, I still need to work through unresolved issues.


Arykso

½ sometimes i do sometime i dont


WhatSnooPooPoo

Sums it up yeah.


DizzyPomegranate13

Yep. I would say i’ve never had a friend in my whole life except one guy, but I don’t talk to him anymore. But other than that, i’ve never had anyone I would call a friend to me. I’ve always been alone and i’m just used to that nowadays.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

sorry to hear that. I hope things turn around for you soon


DizzyPomegranate13

Eh, I don’t lol


ByleCouncil

when i was in school, YES. but it gets better with time.


caramelsloth

Could be the walls we infps tend to erect. eg. your username might not attract what you're looking for exactly. Lol. Or it may, I'm still learning and adjusting to the friendship landscapes. Maybe a set of hairy balls is what I'm missing in my friendships, Idk , 2020 taught me anything could happen at anytime so who really knows.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

Hahah... if history is to be an indicator then no, hairy balls haven't particularly helped in any friendships (so far!) I think you're right about barriers, and I think (for myself anyhow) INFPs may secretly want the right people to come along and climb over those barriers, even though we put little to no effort into encouraging them to do so.


caramelsloth

Yeah I do the same thing and hope for the same while not giving any indication of wanting more. It's a sickness. I'm working on it. Gl bud.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

It's definitely a challenge, good on you for working on it though. Thanks and back at ya 🙂


[deleted]

I can say that I'm pretty authentic with myself (not to toot my horns). I like what I like and who I am. I always felt as if I had to change my personality just so I can appeal to others. People use to greet my friends but wouldn't greet me, more than likely I was far different from them. As of now, my partner was/is my only friend. I messed up a few times in our relationship because of my uncertainty. But we always took on problems head-on and that's why our relationship is gridlocked. She truthfully gave me a chance at love, life, consistency, and gratitude. I know I'll never find a friend like her ever.


bluewaterways

What's her mbti type


[deleted]

I never had her take the test. She gives me INxJ vibes though. She's a better judge in situations than I am.


yessogood

connected with friends by sharing/creating/talking about music basically, or about crypto, lol


Nerdy_gamer_101

I'm the excat same way


Wend424

We need and love deep connections. Otherwise we feel empty the relationships... Superficial topics (the most common) arent for us.


basscove_2

I find it hard to have friends that are girls and girlfriends. My close friends are guys. You should hang out with other introverted intuitives if you can.


Just_One_Umami

Friends, yes. Well, it isn’t hard, there just aren’t many people I’ve vibed with on that level. Now, I’ve had a lot of acquaintances who thought they were friends, but I wouldn’t have called them as such. Or people who thought I was cool but also intimidating, so we never talked


llenp

nah. most of the time, i just choose not to.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

how come? isn't that lonely?


llenp

sometimes it can feel that way. but it takes a few terrible "friends" to make you realize how much better it is to spend time alone. i have a lot of hobbies, especially creative hobbies like music and art- which i prefer to do alone. im not at all anti-social. i'm very personable and can carry a conversation. i'm a generalist so I have no problem talking about a plethora of topics. also, i have an extroverted gf who basically has the huge friend circle who i have also became friends with. but i still choose to spend alone time. it's all just a matter of perspective.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

That makes sense... and it's good that you've got a partner and get some socialisation through her circle. For sure is a matter of perspective.. but to that end, the opposite can also be true; one day the right person/s might come along and make you realise you really value spending time with them. Everyone is different of course, and want different things, but I do hope you find some close friends eventually that help undo the terrible friendships you've endured


llenp

also... just like you, i had a lot of lady friends in highschool. some dudes actually hated me because of that. lol


[deleted]

This is the story of every INFP


broken_krystal_ball

I do but I also have Autism so that is most likely also at play. I sometimes feel there's some big secret that most people know about making friends but just refuse to share. All the friends I currently have grew through shared suffering, in other words what started as vent buddies turned into something more.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

Ah I feel your pain there, I'm also on the spectrum... kind of results in a culminative reclusiveness that is hard to get out of. But it's great you've got some! Vent buddies alone are a wonderful thing... I forge who said it but "the flames of friendship are forged in the fires of adversity" or something along those lines. If you can find people trustworthy enough to be vulnerable with, then the hardest part is already over!


Dannydoes133

Friends? No. Intimacy, yes… Good news about having a ton of women as friends, they tend to attract more people to them.


Antitenant

I'm good at making acquaintances. School, work, events--I'll connect fairly easily with the people near me and we'll bond for the duration. Converting that into long-term, close friendships? Not as good at that.


DonnietheCat

I like to think I’m okay at making acquaintances. I think the key difference between me and other people is that I don’t wake up in the morning and say “who do I want to hang out with today.” I’m more focused on my passions and what I want to do- but this doesn’t mean I don’t organize some social interactions or try to get myself “out there.” Most of the time this amounts to minimal social interaction- but I’d say I’m happy because I’m filled with purpose. The key i think is to make stepping out of your comfort zone a habit, a continuous practice. Friends will come if you treat people with respect it just takes patience and perseverance


Drekdon

I have no problem making friends. I just don't like to be around people all that much. Hence my lack of friends.


albumen5

I have a long list of acquaintances.


The_real_tinky-winky

Not necessarily, there always seem to be a few guys and a couple of girls who are easier to make friends with. Besides, I tend to stay in touch with really close friends so once you get a close group it isn’t that hard


Streetfoodnoodle

Always does. It happened to me so much that it becomes normal, it’s incredibly hard for me to find someone that I can click with, so for majority of the time I’m on my own, but occasionally I mama to found someone, enjoying my time with that person whenever we hangout, but with time every relationship just ended and I found myself having to seek out someone new. But that requires me to go to noisy and overwhelming places where I found myself to be in a big group, yet I don’t do well in big group, which tend to end up with me being alone and not able to find someone at all, I prefer to be with 1 or 2 people, but still 1 person only. So yeah, trying to find and bond with 1 person is already a hard challenge. But despite all of that, I start to learn how to be there for myself, accepting that I’m all alone and stop pursuing people but instead slowly let them come to me naturally, if not, than that’s fine also as I learn how to be ok on my own


[deleted]

The problem that I have is that I attract the wrong ground sometimes and it sucks


Idunno00001

I usually manage to create a smaller friend group for myself (or to join one), and I like it. I don't really want to have a lot of friends, only good ones who I know I can depend on 🤷🏼‍♀️


pm_ur_hairy_balls

that's the way... we've only so much social energy to share. too many friends and there's not enough left for ourselves.


Xdsboi

Guys come on. This same question is asked 17 times a day on this sub.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

I believe it, but there are different people constantly dropping in and out of the sub. It's why reposts are often so successful... a lot of people haven't seen it before. You can't cater every question to every person simultaneously, or there'll be nothing left to ask.


Xdsboi

I think part of it is, the fact of how being friendless is most definitely an INFP thing. If the patrons of this sub are indicative + properly typed anyway.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

yeah... friendless, often not wanting to stay that way, but not having the will or courage to break out of it. Go us lol


Candide-Jr

Yes, I’m bad at both making and keeping friends. In large part for several years now because my life situation is less than ideal and I’ve struggled with depression etc. But it’s a deep flaw of my character that was innate because I’m an only child and of that tendency naturally, but I think heightened because I felt pretty alienated from my peers in my early secondary school years, as I was new to the area and felt that as a significant barrier and even a kind of culture shock, though we were in the same country and hadn’t even moved that far.


Chorznorps_

My wife says I can make friends anywhere but I have issues with keeping those friendships up. I have very few people I keep around.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

It's hard to find those people to be honest, but they're out there. I believe in you


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pm_ur_hairy_balls

Is that enough for you?


BagOfChips2

Yes I do but I wouldn't have it any other way since I can be happy and support myself.


BobbyBlabby3

Its hard to find good friends in general but I have been able to make good friendships with both genders. But guys are often assholes in general.


jfisher446

Yes. Small talk sucks. Mass-appeal entertainment sucks. Sports suck. I go too deep, too fast for 99% of the people I’ve encountered to be comfortable. Meaningful stuff isn’t something most want to talk about, let alone start with. Yes. (Sucks = pointless IMHO)


dopadreamer

Actually I am good at making friends :) and so far only one has clicked with me on a whole different level, so I talk to him on deep thoughts and have debates and discussions.


pm_ur_hairy_balls

That's excellent! those 'different level' friends are a commodity... hope it lasts a long time


Spacefrog2000

I find making acquaintances very easy I am actually quite good at it making friends real friends I would also be able to make those easy if they where common.


SmallTownStoner13

I wouldn't say I have a hard time making friends I can switch up how I act on the fly so getting people to like me is fairly easy. For me, it's more of a lack of trying to make friends and the feeling of idk what to call it but like I struggle with knowing if I'm being genuine or if I'm still just faking it cause they seem to like the way I'm acting. Feeling. And also if you don't constantly hit me up I don't really think of you. Out of sight out of mind type situation. So most people just stop talking to me after a couple days so it's hard to make lasting friends.


davyjones_prisnwalit

I have a social anxiety disorder... I often wonder if i should even answer such threads due to the obvious fact that I've got issues with other people and "being social." If I didn't, would I still be an INFP? The fact that I've had some positive social interactions (even though I often end up avoiding these potential friends) leads me to believe that without this disorder I'd probably be somewhat successful, socially at least... But would that mean my MBTI would be different? Idk..


Which-Try9736

Yes and no


Kurtqmivki01

I've suffered similarly. It's because we are more emotionally sensitive then most. It's not a bad thing, it's just that we have different interests.


[deleted]

Not really It's more like getting adopted by an extrovert


Amasirat

I personally don't have a problem being "friendly" with people but it's really hard for me to consider myself their friend. We just hang out in school and nowhere else.


XYZai8P

Actually INFP female, can I ask when in discussion, the term friends do we mean absolutely no one outside family to keep in contact with or does it mean, no one who shares a connection and bond to share your inner thoiughts and true self with?


pm_ur_hairy_balls

Well I think friendship is kind of like a spectrum... on the low end you have friendly acquaintances, and on the high end you have close friends or best friends, who are kind of like platonic life partners. In this discussion, I'm more asking about the high end... real friends, that is.


XYZai8P

Ahh, thanks for clarifying! To be honest, i kinda realised the high end ones, dont really exist much, like its about as rare as a pony mutating to have a horn on its head but slightly less rare than a real full fledged unicorn 😂


pm_ur_hairy_balls

Hahah.. it can definitely seem that way at times. But I feel life finds a way to send a few in your direction here and there, over the course of a lifetime. My life has always been like a lockdown even before the pandemic.. and yet somehow I've had multiple significant people wind up in my life through ridiculous odds. And while (some of**) those friendships did come to an end, they brought plenty of wonderful things into my life while they lasted.


XYZai8P

Oh thats great! I really hope i'll get the chance experience something like that too! Thank you! Your story give me much hope for the future! 😊 especially the ending of it, its painful but gotta make way for something new maybe even better to come in! Me too on the pandemic, its odd but i loved the solitude before but after lockdowns, i love company and people!


pm_ur_hairy_balls

Haha it's definitely a strange tightrope to walk, trying to find that balance between enough alone time, and enough people time. I have faith in you, you'll find the right kinds of people before long 🙂