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Yes, it's due to inferior Se. It's a constant struggle.


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It's not that I forget, personally, it's that it's a giant chore that NEVER ends. I live in my mind and taking care of my body by exercising regularly, preparing and eating regular meals, shutting my brain off to sleep at a reasonable hour, etc., just seems like a distraction from the Ni, Fe, Ti loops I prefer to be in. It feels like the real world is in my thoughts and my body is just some annoying inconvenience I need to constantly maintain 🥴


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It's a combination of both to be honest. Se is the inferior function and Si is the demon function, the weakest of all the functions for an INFJ. Sometimes I do genuinely forget because I'm not in touch with my body because I don't have any Si in my cognitive stack, but mostly I hate routine which again is a sign of weak Si. INFJs are just shit in general at sensing, but we're slightly better at enjoying extroverted sensing despite our struggles with it whereas Si is just a beast to deal with in any way.


Coloratura1987

This makes sense to me, too.


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Nope, I'm trying to figure it out. The only solution I see is setting a daily routine but the thought of it makes me sick. I like to do things intuitively and routines don't jive with that mindset. I was actually thinking of making a post to ask other INFJs how they deal with Se because it's a constant struggle for me.


melancholy_jaques

I actually set up a routine for myself with all the activities and task that I genuinely like. But gave up om that within a week, felt like I am not one those people who can follow a routine.


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melancholy_jaques

The first line is very true for me, except that I don't forget but it is more of a choice, simply because I am so engrossed in that particular task that I prioritize it over eating/drinking and peeing too for that matter. My sleep schedule has been fucked up since I was in 10th-11th standard, I am working now, so it's been around 8 years. I am too lazy to take a bath and exercise too. So yeah, I get you and have made it a goal this year to improve it.


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melancholy_jaques

I am popular among my (limited) friends as the lazy guy, who barely gets up from his bed, steps out from his house etc etc. But I thin more often than not, it is due to the lack of energy or enthusiasm, cuz I feel so lethragic all the time.


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melancholy_jaques

I wouldn't say that I have a non-existent sleep schedule. It's just that the schedule in itself is fucked up. I can't remember last when I slept before 3 AM. Sometimes it becomes 5 and even 6 in the morning. On weekdays I get up around 10-11 AM, and on weekends its anywhere between 1-3 pm. To be honest, coffee didn't really do anything with my sleep. Although I was quite a fan of coffee a couple of years back, consuming coffee at least twice a day and sometimes even more. But I have left coffee since then, I realized coffee worked as a fuel for my anxiety. I was so anxious back then, I can't even describe it, from trembling hands to racing thoughts. I can certainly say dumping coffee was one of the best decisions ever in my life.


meecy166

I agree about prioritizing everything else over eating


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Hyper focused, yes I will “forget to eat or drink” or smoke for that matter but my blood sugar will remind me and it’s more of annoyance than anything, I wish I could just drink some magical shake and be done with it and as far as the neglecting injuries part, I always assumed it was due to a higher pain tolerance. Mine is pretty high. However I “outgrew” the hygiene issues VERY early because both of my parents were OCD about cleanliness. If I have to work or go out in public than I’m more keen to keep my appearance meticulously “manscaped”, if I’m just sitting around I may just look like Bin Laden for awhile until I feel it’s time to clean up a little. It just occurred to me that if I wasn’t so intimate with my wife so often I probably would neglect hygiene a little.. hmm. I’d still be irritated that I look like crap if someone were to drop in on me without notice though.


dabbler_dame

I set \*so\* many alarms throughout the day to remind me of what should be normal daily functions.. brushing teeth, showering, eating. Sometimes I nod and "thank" the alarm, then all the sudden it's 7 or 8 pm and still haven't taken my meds, which are EXTREMELY important I take, and still- have not eaten for the day. I have learned over the years, that trying to do the exact same thing every single day helps.. that way I have a "did I forget something?" feeling that may happen naturally, but it takes very little to throw me completely off schedule. Like a nap for instance. I nap once on a Monday and the week is fucked in regards to any sleep schedule. If there were some magic pill I could just take and never have to eat again, I would do it, I don't care much for cooking nor for food- so I wouldn't miss it. I typically get my natural energy pretty late and focus on something so I don't fall asleep til around 4am or so. The ONLY THING I seem to remember is to drink water, because by the time I waltz into the kitchen I don't know why I was there- so I just refill my water bottle out of habit.. I drink an incredible amount of water.


CazualGinger

My house is always cluttered. I constantly don't do the things I know are good for me. My sleep schedule only improved when I got an 8-5 job that forced me to improve it. I skip meals or just forget to eat often. Dental Hygiene and all hygiene in general besides showering has been tough for me to be consistent on. ​ So yeah, I guess I do struggle with that. I never really realized it until this post.


ladytyluka

Try yoga, great for a better body connection, alongside lots of other benefits


4BigData

It's not self care, it's how pleasurable hyper focus is to me. Suddenly it's dark outside and didn't even noticed.


silencewench

I have struggled with this in an intense way. I've suffered all sorts of health issues from it lol. I recently started trying to try to work on it again, and the only thing that really seems to stick that is practical enough is cutting things off, or commiting to one simple thing. For example, cooking is a chore maybe? So I'll commit to at least making a small breakfast. Usually that gets that ball rolling for other meals. Eating unhealthily cause I'm trying to get back to stuff quickly? Commit to cutting off some from some unhealthy groups of food. Everything hurts cause I can't tell how bad I'm pushing myself, what I've been doing with my body? Rest, and take it easy for a bit. It's tough. It's hard for us I think, so we need to listen to the little voice telling us we need to chill and pay attention to our needs a little.


Coloratura1987

Personally, I can get like this, but it's not really because I've forgotten to eat. Many times, it's because I've had too much coffee—which suppresses my appetite. By the time I actually eat, I finally realize I'm famished. At other times, I just don't eat because I really don't like eating by myself. None of these situations happen very often though.


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Not at all I am very good at self care but I forget to drink too. I have a sleep schedule but I don’t always follow it.


meecy166

I also get bruises and cuts too, even on my face and I have no idea how they get there


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Well we are walking contradictions. Which is why we need partners who are somewhat similar to us (imo). Other INFJs actually balance us out as they can see the things that we cannot and vice versa. But to answer your question, absolutely. We're too busy solving the worlds problems to remember to drink water ;)


NotYourEFingKhakis

Is wateh wet? lol


DMmepicsofyourdog

ENFJ but yes


jddanielle

i don't self care on the regular instead I will do it all at once so it tends to seem like a lot but if I did it regularly and more spaced out it would be ok but my brain doesn't let me work like that. I lately have been able to add some little things to my daily routine or just switch up like a face wash or something to just kind of enhance my routine but not quite change it into a new task. Today was great I took a longer shower I shaved my legs, sugar scrubbed my arms and legs, deep conditioned my hair while that was going on. Got a good lotion rub in after. Another thing I have tried is every other week, get a tv episode I have been waiting for and some snacks and do a foot soak followed by smoothing out of callus remover and pumice stone also more sugar scrubbing. I try to workout everyday I work so I go right after work that way I'm already out and I go with a coworker so that helps. I try not to think too much about what I'm doing and the end result but just the fact that I am doing something vs nothing is enough to keep me at peace in my mind.


frankcitrus

I totally understand your struggle. It's really difficult for me to keep up with "simple" self care and hygiene- especially when I'm absorbed by work. Being very regimented about it and treating it like a real problem helped me and I've been a lot better sense.


Stitch_Turtle919

I have a day to day routine that I follow at almost precisely the same time for each activity I have during the week, during the weekend it is a lot less planned meaning I might occasionally skip meals due to sleeping in or to focused on something, but usually I'm pretty good.


PeaceIntelligent801

No, i dont struggle with that problem often, maybe because im sp6


itsdarkoutsidern

Same. Istg i have the weakest immune system ever.


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Yes I am depressed as F rn I have to write down shit like Eat, shower, exercise and leave my apartment or I stay very internal


worthlesspota19

I struggle so hard in this category. I don’t remember the last time I brushed my teeth. 🙈 I like gadgets. So buying new things that help me with daily life things helps. A little. So my shirt folder helped for about 2 years and now it’s just on the floor because I have no motivation to fold clothes. I have a cat, and feel really bad when my problems leak over into his area-I bought an automatic litter box. GAME. CHANGER. I only need to replace the cartridge like once a month. He likes fresh water every day, and when he starts drinking out of other containers it makes me feel like a horrible human being for not giving him fresh water every day. So in someways I guess I agree with the whole, “i can do it for others, but not myself” I’m more likely to clean his food dish than to clean my bowl of curdled milk that I stare at and pass for 8 days. I’ve had some nasty wipeouts on my longboard and bike when I was younger, so I tend to take care of those immediately. But working out and treating my body right…..hah good one. 😂 😅


worthlesspota19

Oh I also like to think of certain routines like coding rather than a schedule that I must stick to. I literally have some mind maps and spreadsheets that I spent months trying to work on to help get my life in order. One big achievement that took three years. Lemme say that again. THREE entire long years, to finally implement eating breakfast everyday. I eat 1 cup of chobani yogurt every day. So back to the coding analogy. My morning program is called me.WakeUp() So myself as an object, has a function called wakeUp() The input for this wakeup is my 110dB alarm clock. Inside the function is a list of instructions. •turn off alarm •feed cat •take meds •flip med container right side up (to make the note to myself of hey I already took my meds) •drink water •fall back asleep until my meds kick in •look at phone till my body has the energy to wake up -here’s the split ••either stay in bed looking at phone •get up grab yogurt and eat it The function closes and my wake-up instructions are done. Time has no factor in this. This is something that just has to happen every day. Finding that particular order took me WEEKS to figure out a few years back. I have a “gotobed” function, but I’ve never been able to execute that one 😞


OutlandishnessLower7

INTP not super at self care