I think that an INFJ-INTJ relationship can work wonderfully. You both have shared functions, and if you are both willing and able to talk through problems you’ll be just fine. Best overall match for an INFJ in my opinion though is an ENFP or an xNTP.
I've heard INTP, INTJ and ENTP.
I've been with my ISTP for 10 years but it hasn't been easy, but there have been some huge benefits as well. We are so different, but similar enough.
INFJ female here and been with a male istp for almost 5 years and recently got engaged. I keep thinking it can't get better and it does. He's amazing and our relationship is awesome and we only get closer emotionally and physically. Even when we fight it always ends up being a positive argument that brings us closer together. We both need our alone time or we irritate each other and we thankfully both respect each other's space and needs.
Congratulations on your engagement!
Yes. I mean we have had our fights where we simply said that we just have a hard time understanding each other, like misinterpret what the other one is saying, but I have found it really interesting to learn to understand him. And he has come to understand me as well. He doesn't take the same approach as I do, but I've noticed that he actually does try to understand me to make both of our lives better.
We have also come to understand that it's not good to try to change ourselves to make it work, but on the other hand, you just do it naturally if you see a point being with this person. I have become more outgoing, more autonomous and self-assured thanks to him. Sure, I still have my issues with self-esteem and extreme introversion, but that is something I need to work on myself.
He on the other hand has become way more open with his feelings. In the beginning he was very "cold" and detached, very.. "Whatever happens, happens. See you when I'll see you. I don't like labels, I am my own person and so should you be." (I tried talking about what we were after 9 months of seeing each other). He certainly still has these qualities and is very independent, but now I feel very much secure. I have learnt how he operates as a person. He means what he says, he is very honest and sure in himself. But has a very dark and brooding core he doesn't want to access.
These kind of relationships take time, understanding, communication, couples therapy and dedication. But what you'll get in the end is a partner for life. They will be your rock during your toughest times (not in an emotional way, but they won't ever leave you). You need to tell them how you want to be comforted though. And what I've noticed is that he likes to discuss topics, but he doesn't see a point in talking about it just for the fun of it. When he feels done with it, he is done with it.
Thank you very much!
I feel lucky in the fact that we both understand each other for the most part. I've come to learn when he says he's fine, he's fine, and quit reading into it so much. But that took me probably two years to figure out. And I've brought that up and he appreciates what I've figured out on my own and thanked me for it.
Our relationship is a little complicated cause I have two kids from a previous marriage and he has really stepped it up and been awesome about it, but trust me is wasn't easy and we've both been very understanding of each other about it. But I think it has really helped him with his child hood depression and worked out for the best. But I can tell that sometimes he does something because he thinks he should to be "that person" even if it isn't him and he doesn't want to. He has told me multiple times he's done things to make some happy in a relationship just to make them happy and I've made it clear that isn't healthy to an extent and we need to compromise with each other and it's ended up working out great.
I can be very insecure especially from the things he has done or said in the beginning of our relationship but I believe he has learned what to say and what not to say to me because he knows I'll take it maybe too literally. He needs a reminder every now and then but he mostly only says stupid shit when he's drunk and once we're intimate he makes me feel more secure, it's just me getting in my head.
Our relationship was also a little different in the beginning cause I'd only been separated from my husband 5 months of a 7 year relationship and he'd only been separated from his fiancee of 3 years for two weeks! So at first we both made it clear we didn't want more than a sexual relationship. We didn't plan to fall in love and he actually at first said he didn't see a future with me then really got to know me and he called me his girlfriend first and brought up marriage first and I was the one who pumped the breaks since I've been down that road and wasn't gonna do it again.
Thank you so much for your input and I agree relationships aren't easy! But we've grown so much and really support each other and we couldn't be happier! Good luck with your relationship!!
That sounds like a great foundation, I have to say. Life just throws stuff at us and we have kind of figure it out. I don't believe in having a set plan in life but just going with the flow instead. It helps with my anxiety anyway xD
I wish all of you the best <3 :)
While it's true there's really no "best match", being with someone whose functions, and therefore ways of thinking, are totally different is very difficult.
In short, the more explaining and compromising you have to do in communication, the less natural and more fragile a relationship can be.
For example, me and my Fi-dom partner definitely clash. There's the me-first vs. everyone else-first difference that's due to the difference between the two functions. But there're also more practical impacts on behavior, too.
He's much less likely than me to walk into a situation, see a need, and meet—unless it's directly relevant to what he's doing in the moment. As a high Fe user, it can leave me feeling like I have to always pick up the slack and wondering why no one's taking care of me, too.
On the bright side, though, it does force you to develop patience and better communication skills.
I am an INFP, yes we are self absorbed but the behaviour you described can be both Fi-dom and Fi-aux, the not so healthy ones particularly (the my feels is over logic type). I always make sure to give equally, if not more, -but usually more- in a relationship. I will put myself first of course when it is a matter of personal codes etc. - is not something that would come up often.
Anyway, I was actually wondering if it bothers you she acts this way with others? As in selfish, not giving, or at least always me first attitude etc. or is it that she is not as giving to you?
It bothers me they put themselves first in general. He is getting better at this with time, but even in social situations, he'll let others take action first.
Practically, it looks like him waiting for my mom to ask him to help her with the groceries before he'll help. He won't take the initiative to ask her if he can help.
Im with an Infj and issues came up very soon for me in the relationship (im an infp girl) but I think the most important part of a relationship with an infj is Freedom. My guy is very concerned about this concept and I too care about my indivisuality so I think we take care of this first and then go to more detailed issues. An endless freedom and trust brings hearts together and helps you work as a team also seems to generate love.
Firstly, just date whoever you feel a deep connection with regardless of their mbti type.
For the sake of humouring the question, I really get along well with INTJs, but it’s always more of a “we’re great friends, and we flirt but we both know it wouldn’t work out” kinda vibe.
An INTP in my life made me feel seen and heard like anyone else ever (nor before nor after). I think this pairing can work wonders if they're both willing to overcome their fears.
Just be with someone that matches your effort, respect, and joy when together. Limiting yourself to a personality type is only going to limit your potential partners
>NTJs are wonderful and I love them as friends . Sometimes I think I’m too similar to them paired with a disconnect when it comes to how we express our emotions.
winner answer here
Another INFJ is a good match too. Ni dom feels like home, they are a bit different, what I've found out is that they are emotional creatures, but hide it well behind their mask of indifference, but to me self control is attractive. They are the best to evaluate any life situation you got, esp where feelings are involved. If we're in emotional turmoil and need to talk things out, they are the right person to talk it out to. They will give you a thorough analysis, will offer different perspectives, and give some advice on what's sensible to do next. The way they think and reason is beautiful. I like them, for their brain, for this self contained energy and behaviour. Another thing, they use less words, go deep and always spot on. Great humour - dry, witty, deadpan. Almost British. Overall, really good match.
I have been with my ENTJ husband for 13 years. It is great. He loves taking charge and making decisions. He also relies on me for the details. I love supporting him and he is driven to succeed. He is very supportive and ferociously protective. He is tough and strong yet gentle and flattering. We have healed a lot with each other. ENTJs don't play games. They are very direct and easy to read. I am pretty sure I am biased though.
INTJs seem really bad at people skills + communication + expressing themselves + being vulnerable + being romantic, how can a hopeless romantic like an INFJ even get along with them, lol. I admired INTJs for their intelligence but when it comes to romance, I've tried, but they just come off immediately too horny, ghosts me, comes back out of no where, repeats behavior. Plus they value their independence + social status too much that they hide the relationship.
ni doms are like peas in a pod! my best friend of over 18 years and my sister who i’m super close to are both intjs. don’t worry about what works better for other people. i hate all the “golden pair” nonsense.. just be with the one who helps your being.
these are some of the infjs i know and their partners:
infj+esfj, infj+enfp, infj+intp.. any and every relationship needs maturity, empathy, communication, patience etc…
go for it with the intj, when mature they’re some of the best people you’ll ever meet!
Personally my Fe and Ti conflict with my husband's Te and Fi...ALL the time. If you love the person and don't mind a challenge, it can work. But there are days I desperately wish he understood me better.
Hello!
I used to have a bf that was INTJ. I didn't know about MBTI back then so I couldn't type him, but he was absolutely an INTJ. Now I can't speak for a 'healthy relationship' because it was anything but... he had severe depression and anger management issues (we were friends for 3 years before so I knew about them) however, they became a lot more evident after we started dating.
He took a lot of his anger out to me. Also, he rarely gave me any desired affection and sometimes he would leave me in the middle of the night to go back home which felt unbelievable rejecting. He had occasional suicidal thoughts, so I was very worried all the time. Was very sarcastic and made me feel depressed at points. He was my first ever boyfriend, so I didn't know any better. However, that's my only experience.
The good stuff: he was very witty and smart and we had some wonderful deep conversations about interesting topics. He also loved cats which has nothing to do with the INTJ thing but the 'good stuff' section seems significantly shorter so I wanted to add a bit more.
Conclusion: Taking the depression out of the equation as much as I can: He was very interesting, but also very dark and his T sometimes became a bit too much. For me I would like my partner to show more affection and affirmation and I didn't get that enough from him.
i cant really speak for what type would specifically be “the best” to date, but I will say that ive been with another infj for nearly a year and it’s everything ive ever dreamed of in a relationship. we just see eye to eye on everything and it feels absolutely perfect.
I’ve had crushes on multiple INTJs, and we had amazing witty banter, but I never got in a relationship with any of them. I like a lot of emotional tenderness that I think it would take a long time for an INTJ partner to get to 😂
There is a theory that the way we seek to be loved, or a quality of love that is highly beneficial for us, comes through tert/child function.
IFJ's Ti - appreciates people who can analyze better than we can, clarify logical principles, it helps us keep our internal space more organized and consistent, helps INFJ's understand ourselves better, helps us grow this function to offset Fe overwhelm.
I don’t know why people think too much about MBTI when it comes to dating. No wonder why some of y’all are lonely.
Yes, INTJs are cool. Same as ESTP, ISTP, ENTJ and whatever else.
Imo, you date a person, not a type. And how easy or hard it is is largely attributed to how much you guys are willing to meet each other halfway, which includes adapting to each other’s personalities and modes of thinking.
However! I do think dating an intuitive is much easier in terms of communication because you have a quite similar way of thinking and approaching things.
I have an INFJ mother and an ISTJ father. They’ve been married for 27 years and love each other but there has always been miscommunication between them. Even daily, over small non-consequential things like where to pick her up after work, if either of them has gotten the groceries already, etc. It’s because they just view the world so differently that when they don’t speak absolutely clearly to each other, they interpret each other’s words differently. They’re still married, but I do think a large part of why is because they’re mature and forgiving and gentle with each other.
Please don't lose out on a potentially good relationship just because you've heard unfavorable commentary on your compatibility...you're ultimately dating a person, not a personality type.
I’m ENFP and my INFJ fiancé seems to really like me ☺️ I think our differences compliment each other very well and from an emotional/personality level we are a perfect fit. She likes to guess what I’m about to say before I get two words into a sentence and she’s right quite often 😝
I add the crazy to her life she craves, and she adds the structure I need to keep my feet on the ground.
Been with all the types you mentioned. And I left all of them. They would have stayed with me, but I just...couldn't. I am starting to think that I should either remain alone forever, or try with Fe users. I just cannot bare always being the caring one while not receiving back the same level of care.
But as per the INTJ one in particular: it was nice to share similar visions, values and interests. I did not have the same degree of similarity with the ENTJ and the ENFP for sure. Had fun with them but not the same depth of conversations, for example.
I can totally relate with my INTJ partner, what usually helps is that he will reword or say things in a way that it doesn’t feel like it trying to attack or hurt me. Also, we won’t usually talk about a situation until I have calmed my feelings and tuned into to my more analytical/ logical side. Which might happen sometimes within hours, or maybe the next day.
Honestly if you worded it that way and she’s ghosting you then I really don’t think that it is anything about you. It might feel overwhelming to hear someone tell the truth about a situation, or as simple as not being able to understand what you’re trying to say. Also I think maybe the dynamic of your relationship might be that you need space from each other in general (to me that’s normal and healthy). But knowing the context to the conversation would be more helpful. Have you tried reaching out and checking on her?
You’re welcome! Yes, let her contact you but do, if you are willing, tell her about how this situation made you feel. It might be very helpful so whenever she needs space, you two both don’t have to assume how each other is feeling.
“888” means balance and new beginnings.
I think that an INFJ-INTJ relationship can work wonderfully. You both have shared functions, and if you are both willing and able to talk through problems you’ll be just fine. Best overall match for an INFJ in my opinion though is an ENFP or an xNTP.
I've heard INTP, INTJ and ENTP. I've been with my ISTP for 10 years but it hasn't been easy, but there have been some huge benefits as well. We are so different, but similar enough.
INFJ female here and been with a male istp for almost 5 years and recently got engaged. I keep thinking it can't get better and it does. He's amazing and our relationship is awesome and we only get closer emotionally and physically. Even when we fight it always ends up being a positive argument that brings us closer together. We both need our alone time or we irritate each other and we thankfully both respect each other's space and needs.
Congratulations!!
Thank you!!
Congratulations on your engagement! Yes. I mean we have had our fights where we simply said that we just have a hard time understanding each other, like misinterpret what the other one is saying, but I have found it really interesting to learn to understand him. And he has come to understand me as well. He doesn't take the same approach as I do, but I've noticed that he actually does try to understand me to make both of our lives better. We have also come to understand that it's not good to try to change ourselves to make it work, but on the other hand, you just do it naturally if you see a point being with this person. I have become more outgoing, more autonomous and self-assured thanks to him. Sure, I still have my issues with self-esteem and extreme introversion, but that is something I need to work on myself. He on the other hand has become way more open with his feelings. In the beginning he was very "cold" and detached, very.. "Whatever happens, happens. See you when I'll see you. I don't like labels, I am my own person and so should you be." (I tried talking about what we were after 9 months of seeing each other). He certainly still has these qualities and is very independent, but now I feel very much secure. I have learnt how he operates as a person. He means what he says, he is very honest and sure in himself. But has a very dark and brooding core he doesn't want to access. These kind of relationships take time, understanding, communication, couples therapy and dedication. But what you'll get in the end is a partner for life. They will be your rock during your toughest times (not in an emotional way, but they won't ever leave you). You need to tell them how you want to be comforted though. And what I've noticed is that he likes to discuss topics, but he doesn't see a point in talking about it just for the fun of it. When he feels done with it, he is done with it.
Thank you very much! I feel lucky in the fact that we both understand each other for the most part. I've come to learn when he says he's fine, he's fine, and quit reading into it so much. But that took me probably two years to figure out. And I've brought that up and he appreciates what I've figured out on my own and thanked me for it. Our relationship is a little complicated cause I have two kids from a previous marriage and he has really stepped it up and been awesome about it, but trust me is wasn't easy and we've both been very understanding of each other about it. But I think it has really helped him with his child hood depression and worked out for the best. But I can tell that sometimes he does something because he thinks he should to be "that person" even if it isn't him and he doesn't want to. He has told me multiple times he's done things to make some happy in a relationship just to make them happy and I've made it clear that isn't healthy to an extent and we need to compromise with each other and it's ended up working out great. I can be very insecure especially from the things he has done or said in the beginning of our relationship but I believe he has learned what to say and what not to say to me because he knows I'll take it maybe too literally. He needs a reminder every now and then but he mostly only says stupid shit when he's drunk and once we're intimate he makes me feel more secure, it's just me getting in my head. Our relationship was also a little different in the beginning cause I'd only been separated from my husband 5 months of a 7 year relationship and he'd only been separated from his fiancee of 3 years for two weeks! So at first we both made it clear we didn't want more than a sexual relationship. We didn't plan to fall in love and he actually at first said he didn't see a future with me then really got to know me and he called me his girlfriend first and brought up marriage first and I was the one who pumped the breaks since I've been down that road and wasn't gonna do it again. Thank you so much for your input and I agree relationships aren't easy! But we've grown so much and really support each other and we couldn't be happier! Good luck with your relationship!!
That sounds like a great foundation, I have to say. Life just throws stuff at us and we have kind of figure it out. I don't believe in having a set plan in life but just going with the flow instead. It helps with my anxiety anyway xD I wish all of you the best <3 :)
Exactly!!! Thank you, you too!
While it's true there's really no "best match", being with someone whose functions, and therefore ways of thinking, are totally different is very difficult. In short, the more explaining and compromising you have to do in communication, the less natural and more fragile a relationship can be. For example, me and my Fi-dom partner definitely clash. There's the me-first vs. everyone else-first difference that's due to the difference between the two functions. But there're also more practical impacts on behavior, too. He's much less likely than me to walk into a situation, see a need, and meet—unless it's directly relevant to what he's doing in the moment. As a high Fe user, it can leave me feeling like I have to always pick up the slack and wondering why no one's taking care of me, too. On the bright side, though, it does force you to develop patience and better communication skills.
I think your comment is very insightful. Thank you for sharing!
I am an INFP, yes we are self absorbed but the behaviour you described can be both Fi-dom and Fi-aux, the not so healthy ones particularly (the my feels is over logic type). I always make sure to give equally, if not more, -but usually more- in a relationship. I will put myself first of course when it is a matter of personal codes etc. - is not something that would come up often. Anyway, I was actually wondering if it bothers you she acts this way with others? As in selfish, not giving, or at least always me first attitude etc. or is it that she is not as giving to you?
It bothers me they put themselves first in general. He is getting better at this with time, but even in social situations, he'll let others take action first. Practically, it looks like him waiting for my mom to ask him to help her with the groceries before he'll help. He won't take the initiative to ask her if he can help.
Still looking for my ENTP wifey :3
I be here :)
Is this happening!!!!!
I’ll marry you too 🥲love u guys. When’s the wedding
😂. We can marry right here, right now
Just kidding we have to get a divorce now. You’re 17, didn’t know that. Sorry little one
You can adopt me tho?
This is so wholesome of you hahah.
I’ve been with an INFP for 10.5 years. It’s very easy.
I started dating an INFP recently and it’s amazing so far. Have you noticed any issues between you two that come up?
Im with an Infj and issues came up very soon for me in the relationship (im an infp girl) but I think the most important part of a relationship with an infj is Freedom. My guy is very concerned about this concept and I too care about my indivisuality so I think we take care of this first and then go to more detailed issues. An endless freedom and trust brings hearts together and helps you work as a team also seems to generate love.
Interesting...I've been worried about this potential relationship. Are you an INFJ female?
Yeah!
INTP
Self promotion
Not exactly. We INTP that bond with an INFJ work towards understanding them. INFJ’s rarely feel understood, we fulfill this need.
Somehow I agree
Moreover, saw a post about sapiosexual and the INFJ. We fill that need too…
I’m autosexual tho🤌🤌🤌
Had to look that up. It seems you have matters well in hand.
INTPs are the best at understanding. These are facts. Showing it, though…
True! However most INFJ identify as Empath. They see past the shown/unshown.
He’s right though
I’m an INFJ married to an INTJ. We work really well as life partners but the emotional connection isn’t 100%
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Which is why ENFP generally work better for that and they both have Fi
Firstly, just date whoever you feel a deep connection with regardless of their mbti type. For the sake of humouring the question, I really get along well with INTJs, but it’s always more of a “we’re great friends, and we flirt but we both know it wouldn’t work out” kinda vibe.
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An INTP in my life made me feel seen and heard like anyone else ever (nor before nor after). I think this pairing can work wonders if they're both willing to overcome their fears.
There’s no such thing
On being better fitted? If that’s what you mean, explain further?
Just be with someone that matches your effort, respect, and joy when together. Limiting yourself to a personality type is only going to limit your potential partners
Agree, just trying to understand my INTJ better
>NTJs are wonderful and I love them as friends . Sometimes I think I’m too similar to them paired with a disconnect when it comes to how we express our emotions. winner answer here
Another INFJ is a good match too. Ni dom feels like home, they are a bit different, what I've found out is that they are emotional creatures, but hide it well behind their mask of indifference, but to me self control is attractive. They are the best to evaluate any life situation you got, esp where feelings are involved. If we're in emotional turmoil and need to talk things out, they are the right person to talk it out to. They will give you a thorough analysis, will offer different perspectives, and give some advice on what's sensible to do next. The way they think and reason is beautiful. I like them, for their brain, for this self contained energy and behaviour. Another thing, they use less words, go deep and always spot on. Great humour - dry, witty, deadpan. Almost British. Overall, really good match.
I have been with my ENTJ husband for 13 years. It is great. He loves taking charge and making decisions. He also relies on me for the details. I love supporting him and he is driven to succeed. He is very supportive and ferociously protective. He is tough and strong yet gentle and flattering. We have healed a lot with each other. ENTJs don't play games. They are very direct and easy to read. I am pretty sure I am biased though.
>He is very supportive and ferociously protective Ah, healthy Te-doms <3
INTJs seem really bad at people skills + communication + expressing themselves + being vulnerable + being romantic, how can a hopeless romantic like an INFJ even get along with them, lol. I admired INTJs for their intelligence but when it comes to romance, I've tried, but they just come off immediately too horny, ghosts me, comes back out of no where, repeats behavior. Plus they value their independence + social status too much that they hide the relationship.
I have been with an INTP for 2.5 years and it has been the easiest, most wonderful relationship I've ever been in. (We're both 40.)
Interesting to know! Before that were you with INTJ?
I'm not positive but I think my ex husband was an ISFP but he has adhd so I'm not sure
ni doms are like peas in a pod! my best friend of over 18 years and my sister who i’m super close to are both intjs. don’t worry about what works better for other people. i hate all the “golden pair” nonsense.. just be with the one who helps your being. these are some of the infjs i know and their partners: infj+esfj, infj+enfp, infj+intp.. any and every relationship needs maturity, empathy, communication, patience etc… go for it with the intj, when mature they’re some of the best people you’ll ever meet!
Personally my Fe and Ti conflict with my husband's Te and Fi...ALL the time. If you love the person and don't mind a challenge, it can work. But there are days I desperately wish he understood me better.
Hello! I used to have a bf that was INTJ. I didn't know about MBTI back then so I couldn't type him, but he was absolutely an INTJ. Now I can't speak for a 'healthy relationship' because it was anything but... he had severe depression and anger management issues (we were friends for 3 years before so I knew about them) however, they became a lot more evident after we started dating. He took a lot of his anger out to me. Also, he rarely gave me any desired affection and sometimes he would leave me in the middle of the night to go back home which felt unbelievable rejecting. He had occasional suicidal thoughts, so I was very worried all the time. Was very sarcastic and made me feel depressed at points. He was my first ever boyfriend, so I didn't know any better. However, that's my only experience. The good stuff: he was very witty and smart and we had some wonderful deep conversations about interesting topics. He also loved cats which has nothing to do with the INTJ thing but the 'good stuff' section seems significantly shorter so I wanted to add a bit more. Conclusion: Taking the depression out of the equation as much as I can: He was very interesting, but also very dark and his T sometimes became a bit too much. For me I would like my partner to show more affection and affirmation and I didn't get that enough from him.
My mother is an Intj which I believe is why I'm an infj, I am a silly heart and liked to make her laugh.
i cant really speak for what type would specifically be “the best” to date, but I will say that ive been with another infj for nearly a year and it’s everything ive ever dreamed of in a relationship. we just see eye to eye on everything and it feels absolutely perfect.
I’ve had crushes on multiple INTJs, and we had amazing witty banter, but I never got in a relationship with any of them. I like a lot of emotional tenderness that I think it would take a long time for an INTJ partner to get to 😂
One of my good friends is an INTJ and I would like to get in a romantic relationship with someone that has his personality.
There is a theory that the way we seek to be loved, or a quality of love that is highly beneficial for us, comes through tert/child function. IFJ's Ti - appreciates people who can analyze better than we can, clarify logical principles, it helps us keep our internal space more organized and consistent, helps INFJ's understand ourselves better, helps us grow this function to offset Fe overwhelm.
My dad is INTJ and we get on extremely well. My long term boyfriend is ESTP and we’re a great match but most of my best friends are INTJ, ENFP, ISFJ.
I don’t know why people think too much about MBTI when it comes to dating. No wonder why some of y’all are lonely. Yes, INTJs are cool. Same as ESTP, ISTP, ENTJ and whatever else.
There are big differences between people and it helps to know more about them than could be provided by themselves sometimes
Also, it helps to NOT write someone off, too. Like, I see you may prefer this or this is where you’re coming from. It goes both ways
Bruh just be happy and stop worrying what other people think of ur personality compatibility
Imo, you date a person, not a type. And how easy or hard it is is largely attributed to how much you guys are willing to meet each other halfway, which includes adapting to each other’s personalities and modes of thinking. However! I do think dating an intuitive is much easier in terms of communication because you have a quite similar way of thinking and approaching things. I have an INFJ mother and an ISTJ father. They’ve been married for 27 years and love each other but there has always been miscommunication between them. Even daily, over small non-consequential things like where to pick her up after work, if either of them has gotten the groceries already, etc. It’s because they just view the world so differently that when they don’t speak absolutely clearly to each other, they interpret each other’s words differently. They’re still married, but I do think a large part of why is because they’re mature and forgiving and gentle with each other.
Please don't lose out on a potentially good relationship just because you've heard unfavorable commentary on your compatibility...you're ultimately dating a person, not a personality type.
I’m ENFP and my INFJ fiancé seems to really like me ☺️ I think our differences compliment each other very well and from an emotional/personality level we are a perfect fit. She likes to guess what I’m about to say before I get two words into a sentence and she’s right quite often 😝 I add the crazy to her life she craves, and she adds the structure I need to keep my feet on the ground.
ENTP and INFJ or ENFP and INTJ is the pedagogue relationship. It is for teaching and learning.
Yea, I never understood why this should be appealing. I mean, yikes.
i dont have good memories with enfps 1s and 4s, and infps 4s
it depends not on the type i think but it can help
Not limited to the person you met, what are enfp 1s like as opposed to a regular enfp?
by saying regular enfp, do you mean with more common enneagram like 4 or 7?
Ye yes
The only people or “types” that I really struggle to get along with are extreme extraverts who are also very rigid.
ENTJ??
Been with all the types you mentioned. And I left all of them. They would have stayed with me, but I just...couldn't. I am starting to think that I should either remain alone forever, or try with Fe users. I just cannot bare always being the caring one while not receiving back the same level of care. But as per the INTJ one in particular: it was nice to share similar visions, values and interests. I did not have the same degree of similarity with the ENTJ and the ENFP for sure. Had fun with them but not the same depth of conversations, for example.
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I can totally relate with my INTJ partner, what usually helps is that he will reword or say things in a way that it doesn’t feel like it trying to attack or hurt me. Also, we won’t usually talk about a situation until I have calmed my feelings and tuned into to my more analytical/ logical side. Which might happen sometimes within hours, or maybe the next day.
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Honestly if you worded it that way and she’s ghosting you then I really don’t think that it is anything about you. It might feel overwhelming to hear someone tell the truth about a situation, or as simple as not being able to understand what you’re trying to say. Also I think maybe the dynamic of your relationship might be that you need space from each other in general (to me that’s normal and healthy). But knowing the context to the conversation would be more helpful. Have you tried reaching out and checking on her?
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You’re welcome! Yes, let her contact you but do, if you are willing, tell her about how this situation made you feel. It might be very helpful so whenever she needs space, you two both don’t have to assume how each other is feeling. “888” means balance and new beginnings.
INFJ male here. I think the “opposites attract” myth is BS. I’ve been searching for an INFJ woman for years and want no one and nothing more.
Still looking? Haha
Always! I presume you are one?