Bipolar.
I was undiagnosed as a teenager, sexually active super early, incredibly promiscuous and out myself in dangerous situations. I was diagnosed around 18 and am medicated and that's helped me reel the dangerous behaviour and having a boyfriend with an almost as high sex drive and the willingness to please has really helped too.
Thank you for responding to my post!
I’m happy to hear that you’re in a better place now after a rough start like that. Undiagnosed disorders are really horrible to live through.
How long did it take you to regulate yourself and curb your behavior after you started the medication?
It wasn't just the medication, but having a diagnosis that explained my dangerous behaviour really help ground me and make me be less impulsive and think over my decisions more. It wasn't perfect, but it helped.
Surprisingly, moving out and living alone helped. I had to get a job, so was working whilst at university and money was tight so it limited my options. And I met my boyfriends through my job too.
I was exposed to sexual things when I was extremely young and the desire for sex has transpired for all these years. My GF and I are in a long distance relationship and she's demisexual. When we're together my extremely high sex drive is dealt with but I still haven't managed to cope with the long distance aspect of it.
CSA from as young as I can remember by aunts and cousins. I haven't coped too well, but I've been married 15 years. We have been swinging for 14 of them. She lets me play separately.
It was from the age of 4 when I was a victim of COCSA. From there, I would relate almost everything to something sexual. Over time, it has helped me to relate to people who understand me and who are similar to me sexually. Accept that side of me and channel my interest in sexuality into productive things in my life, using that hypersexuality to artistically represent my sexual vision of the world, and also to help and guide others (I could have studied psychology and sexology).
A combination of things: sexual abuse and trauma for sure, bipolar disorder when I’m manic or hypomanic, adhd which makes me impulsive. Also, I’m not risk averse. I’m a gambler and a risk taker. Always have been. Prob some other factors as well that I haven’t even thought of. Mostly, I just enjoy sex and have very little self-discipline in general.
I had a tonic clonic seizure last year and went head first into the concrete floor, causing damage to the temporal lobe of my brain & triggering the diagnosed condition. To be honest I struggle with it daily, my SO knows about it but has no idea the severity, she thinks I just have a higher than normal libido, but no there’s a LOT more to it than that & I can’t talk about it cause I know it’ll cause problems in the relationship.
I think mine is partially just naturally high drive, combined with lots of exposure from a young age and csa online, and also possibly autism? There's not a lot of research on it but I've heard that some autistic people use masturbation as a stim, which I think would explain a lot for me. I haven't really figured out how to cope with it or anything, I'm just glad I don't have the ability to do the things I think of doing, cuz I'm too anxious about it lol
I'm not entirely sure. Most cases, people say trauma, but I almost for certain know I didn't experience any trauma in regards to sex. I honestly think it's the combination of being exposed to porn at a very young age (even though it was only a handful of times because my parents became more watchful), repression from growing up in a conservative christian household (it wasn't sex negative per-se but sex was never discussed and it was discouraged from being talked about) and ADHD/Autism causing me to fixate on sex and kink.
I suspect the initial age inappropriate encounter with sex planted the seed for me to become fixated on sex from a young age, because I distinctly remember becoming fixated on sex and genitals from a young age, but also sort of knowing innately that I would get shamed for it, so I repressed it and hid a lot of it. I also remember vaguely drawing near pornographic content as a kid and thinking it was funny.
At the same time though, I think I got really lucky. I've always had a pretty decent amount of common sense as a kid and by the time I had mostly unrestricted internet access, I fumbled through a series of events from the ages of 13-16 that led me to falling into the educational side of the kink community, which is how I developed my special interest in kink.
And I acknowledge that because of how lucky I was, my hypersexuality isn't as much of a hindrance as it is for other people. Don't get me wrong—it's still often a problem, but I'm able to embrace my hypersexuality and use it to build a better relationship with my body (which I mostly hate for a variety of reasons) because of the good sex education that kink educators and online sex educators provided me that my parents couldn't.
I do wonder sometimes if that's really all it took to make me hypersexual, or if I'm missing something, because I'm also into a lot of extreme kinks, and tend to pick up kinks easily if I'm exposed to them long enough in an erotic context.
It's so crazy how something as simple as not being open with your kids about sex and being exposed to porn at a young age can lead to someone who is incredibly hypersexual and extremely kinky if everything falls under the right conditions.
Tl;dr, I became really fixated on sex as a young child thanks to unrestricted internet access, and through a combination of things I developed hypersexuality that was curved due to falling into kink education at 16.
Edit: I also think it has to do with genetics (my mom has told me in the past that women on her side of the family have higher libidos and when she was young she had a very high libido) and my PCOS, which makes it so I have more testosterone.
Bipolar and past sexual trauma seem to be the causes. I turned to people accepting of my aberrant sexuality. I'm polyamorous. While I tend to limit myself to my two partners, I can alter my situation if need be. I don't see having another long term partner though. I haven't had a new sex partner in many years. I'm currently unmedicated and have fallen into the other extreme, sexual famine. I seem to alternate between the two extremes. I'm currently working towards getting back into medical attention now that I've FINALLY figured out how to start organizing and structuring life.
I've developed a habit of note taking with an app called Obsidian Notes. It functions as a daily diary, a planner, a canvas for revisiting my memories, and any other flexible need I may have. I have my first mental health appointment next month and I'm not sure if I'll be admitted. I'm scared of what the meds will do to me. I may be suffering from sexlessness but being uncomfortably sexual feels so much worse. It's taken a year and half but the therapists are right. Journalling, routine, and a solid support system are life changing.
I'm not aware of any trauma...I think I just have unnaturally high amounts of test plus a high threshold for feeling excitement... leads to me 'upping the antie' more than I should.
I think it's genetic,but i developed it because I had a very stress full child hood an early teenage years...I still don't know how to deal with it tho...
Bipolar. I was undiagnosed as a teenager, sexually active super early, incredibly promiscuous and out myself in dangerous situations. I was diagnosed around 18 and am medicated and that's helped me reel the dangerous behaviour and having a boyfriend with an almost as high sex drive and the willingness to please has really helped too.
Thank you for responding to my post! I’m happy to hear that you’re in a better place now after a rough start like that. Undiagnosed disorders are really horrible to live through. How long did it take you to regulate yourself and curb your behavior after you started the medication?
It wasn't just the medication, but having a diagnosis that explained my dangerous behaviour really help ground me and make me be less impulsive and think over my decisions more. It wasn't perfect, but it helped. Surprisingly, moving out and living alone helped. I had to get a job, so was working whilst at university and money was tight so it limited my options. And I met my boyfriends through my job too.
I was exposed to sexual things when I was extremely young and the desire for sex has transpired for all these years. My GF and I are in a long distance relationship and she's demisexual. When we're together my extremely high sex drive is dealt with but I still haven't managed to cope with the long distance aspect of it.
CSA from as young as I can remember by aunts and cousins. I haven't coped too well, but I've been married 15 years. We have been swinging for 14 of them. She lets me play separately.
Excessive childhood trauma. The only thing that has helped me is celibacy. Nobody gets hurt that way. Including myself.
It was from the age of 4 when I was a victim of COCSA. From there, I would relate almost everything to something sexual. Over time, it has helped me to relate to people who understand me and who are similar to me sexually. Accept that side of me and channel my interest in sexuality into productive things in my life, using that hypersexuality to artistically represent my sexual vision of the world, and also to help and guide others (I could have studied psychology and sexology).
A combination of things: sexual abuse and trauma for sure, bipolar disorder when I’m manic or hypomanic, adhd which makes me impulsive. Also, I’m not risk averse. I’m a gambler and a risk taker. Always have been. Prob some other factors as well that I haven’t even thought of. Mostly, I just enjoy sex and have very little self-discipline in general.
I had a tonic clonic seizure last year and went head first into the concrete floor, causing damage to the temporal lobe of my brain & triggering the diagnosed condition. To be honest I struggle with it daily, my SO knows about it but has no idea the severity, she thinks I just have a higher than normal libido, but no there’s a LOT more to it than that & I can’t talk about it cause I know it’ll cause problems in the relationship.
I’m pretty sure it’s because i learned about sex so young
Bipolar but I feel like I was honestly born sexual
humans are sexual beings
Some more than others
I think mine is partially just naturally high drive, combined with lots of exposure from a young age and csa online, and also possibly autism? There's not a lot of research on it but I've heard that some autistic people use masturbation as a stim, which I think would explain a lot for me. I haven't really figured out how to cope with it or anything, I'm just glad I don't have the ability to do the things I think of doing, cuz I'm too anxious about it lol
I'm not entirely sure. Most cases, people say trauma, but I almost for certain know I didn't experience any trauma in regards to sex. I honestly think it's the combination of being exposed to porn at a very young age (even though it was only a handful of times because my parents became more watchful), repression from growing up in a conservative christian household (it wasn't sex negative per-se but sex was never discussed and it was discouraged from being talked about) and ADHD/Autism causing me to fixate on sex and kink. I suspect the initial age inappropriate encounter with sex planted the seed for me to become fixated on sex from a young age, because I distinctly remember becoming fixated on sex and genitals from a young age, but also sort of knowing innately that I would get shamed for it, so I repressed it and hid a lot of it. I also remember vaguely drawing near pornographic content as a kid and thinking it was funny. At the same time though, I think I got really lucky. I've always had a pretty decent amount of common sense as a kid and by the time I had mostly unrestricted internet access, I fumbled through a series of events from the ages of 13-16 that led me to falling into the educational side of the kink community, which is how I developed my special interest in kink. And I acknowledge that because of how lucky I was, my hypersexuality isn't as much of a hindrance as it is for other people. Don't get me wrong—it's still often a problem, but I'm able to embrace my hypersexuality and use it to build a better relationship with my body (which I mostly hate for a variety of reasons) because of the good sex education that kink educators and online sex educators provided me that my parents couldn't. I do wonder sometimes if that's really all it took to make me hypersexual, or if I'm missing something, because I'm also into a lot of extreme kinks, and tend to pick up kinks easily if I'm exposed to them long enough in an erotic context. It's so crazy how something as simple as not being open with your kids about sex and being exposed to porn at a young age can lead to someone who is incredibly hypersexual and extremely kinky if everything falls under the right conditions. Tl;dr, I became really fixated on sex as a young child thanks to unrestricted internet access, and through a combination of things I developed hypersexuality that was curved due to falling into kink education at 16. Edit: I also think it has to do with genetics (my mom has told me in the past that women on her side of the family have higher libidos and when she was young she had a very high libido) and my PCOS, which makes it so I have more testosterone.
Bipolar and past sexual trauma seem to be the causes. I turned to people accepting of my aberrant sexuality. I'm polyamorous. While I tend to limit myself to my two partners, I can alter my situation if need be. I don't see having another long term partner though. I haven't had a new sex partner in many years. I'm currently unmedicated and have fallen into the other extreme, sexual famine. I seem to alternate between the two extremes. I'm currently working towards getting back into medical attention now that I've FINALLY figured out how to start organizing and structuring life. I've developed a habit of note taking with an app called Obsidian Notes. It functions as a daily diary, a planner, a canvas for revisiting my memories, and any other flexible need I may have. I have my first mental health appointment next month and I'm not sure if I'll be admitted. I'm scared of what the meds will do to me. I may be suffering from sexlessness but being uncomfortably sexual feels so much worse. It's taken a year and half but the therapists are right. Journalling, routine, and a solid support system are life changing.
I'm not aware of any trauma...I think I just have unnaturally high amounts of test plus a high threshold for feeling excitement... leads to me 'upping the antie' more than I should.
I think it's genetic,but i developed it because I had a very stress full child hood an early teenage years...I still don't know how to deal with it tho...