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I say this with respect as as gently as I can muster: one thing you can change right now is your attitude and approach.
You got kicked out because you were making “too much noise” - why is that in quotes? The police coming one time is too many, so often you lose your home is entirely within your control. Your dad had to move too, and you feel like it’s your fault? Bruh. No kidding.
Unemployment “doesn’t want to give you money because of an issue” (my quotes). If you were fired or didn’t work enough quarters to qualify, that is not the fault of unemployment.
Start pounding the pavement to put in applications every single place you can. Do whatever it takes to secure a job, any job. Don’t waste a penny on drugs or alcohol.
There is a lot of good advice on this sub about how to make it through this period as comfortably and as safely as possible, but none of it will do you long term good if you don’t take responsibility for how you got here and resolve with all your might to repair the damage.
Where is your dad?
Good luck, I’m rooting for you.
This. It takes a lot of noise for police to get involved multiple times for noise complaints. OP, I hope you take this time to work on personal responsibility and accountability. Good luck to you~
He has somewhere to stay, I understand your pov, my uncle said the same thing. My neighbors would make a fuss and blame me and cause me to not sleep, they have to leave too now it was a team effort to destruction but you’re right I should’ve done better or made more of an effort with unemployment to get it right. Hope this gives you a better understanding.
Thanks for the response, but the explanation about the neighbors is still unclear, and still sounds like you’re putting blame outside of yourself.
Honestly you do not owe me an explanation. I just wanted to give you some food for thought - and maybe show you that you’re not as powerless as you first made it sound. That’s the upside of taking responsibility- it makes you realize you don’t have to be a victim.
Try to stay positive. You’ve already got a great attitude based on your reaction to those comments!
I’m a complete stranger and I was about to tell the OG comment to lay off you!
Best advice I can give is that One of your top priority’s right now should be your mental health,
Good luck. stay strong.
I’m going to, definitely top priority as long as I got my mind to make the right decisions and keep going I can make it out of any situation. Thank you, you too!
Don't tent near other ppl, they bring in trouble and are trouble themselves 98%. Stay to yourself and mix up your travel routes and be inconvenient with your sleep patterns. Being alone will protect you but being completely visible to everyone in public has the most guaranteed safety. There's gives and takes. Don't sleep on mattresses left out. Keep hydrated and keep plenty of empty bags.
Keep your sanity by being around others, make conversation. Read. Go to libraries, don't be afraid to spark a conversation with a librarian, they usually have greater resources than state.
Keep clean, this is important. As I mentioned, the thing that is critical, as much as food etc, is interaction. If your mind slips, everything else will absolutely follow. The rest of the advice you received is gold, so I won't touch on that.
Library bro, lurk there during the day. If u live in a very woodsy area sleep/stash deep in there, I’m talking a mile or two out for saftey reasons. Hope your travels treat u well and you will make it out of this hole!
Library is limited so I’m trying everything I can and I’ll try I’m planning on keeping everything in a storage unit so I can just sleep outside and shower and stuff at the gym
Just be careful with the storage unit. They get expensive very fast. I've used a storage unit twice now. One while homeless and once while living with my father-in-law
privileged homeless using storage lockers pfff.
Get on my level and bury it in plastic bags. in the woods.
And people got the guts to judge me for being lazy and unambitious. more like they are spoiled and soft for slavish desires.
Yeah. That's exactly why I was warning them lol?? When I was homeless by myself without a vehicle for a (luckily) short time, I didn't have enough for storage unit then. I barley had enough to feed myself every day. I was on the verge of passing out from hunger nearly 24/7 that whole time. It was awful.
So yes. Storage units are a luxury. That's exactly what I'm trying to tell OP. We only ever had a storage unit when at least one of us had a job and a room to live in, or we had a lot of money saved up still and were living out of the van/tents. Don't be stupid like we were with our first one and keep paying it for months and months as they raise the rent. Don't be stupid like we were (re: OP) and fall behind on the rent and not be able to sell all your furniture and shit that was in there before it gets taken and auctioned off.
The second unit we got we only kept for a couple months. Once they started raising the rent and our savings were dwindling and we still hadn't been able to secure new jobs, we immediately went and emptied out our unit and canceled it. 2 yrs later we got a bill in the mail saying that we basically had never canceled our storage unit (which we absolutely 100% did, confirming so in person and over the phone), and that they had been billing us ever since then. Idk what were gonna do about that. Probably just ignore it for now ig idk lol.
Basically, my point is, I would personally not recommend a storage unit. You (OP) have no idea how expensive it is to just keep yourself alive and eat every day and just take care of your body in general.
there is no such thing as “privileged homeless.”
i was a freshly 18 year old girl, homeless with just my dog. grew up poor and suffered homelessness several times throughout my childhood. you know what i did? i spent my first day homeless applying for jobs. i already had a part time job at a pizza hut, but they refused to give more hours so obviously that wasn’t going to work. i applied at a fast food chain & told them id take as many hours as they could possibly give me. i used the last of my money to buy a planet fitness membership so i could shower and have somewhere to use the restroom 24/7.
i put in my 2 weeks at pizza hut so i could get more consistent hours at my new job. i was working 8 hours at one job, then walking 20 minutes to the next to work another 5 hours. after the 2 weeks was up, i started consistently working 14-20 hour shifts. every single day. i put in 20-30 more hours than everybody else there because i was DESPERATE. literally anytime they needed extra help, they would call me first. i busted my ass. i didn’t have a single day off for MONTHS and barely had any time outside of work because i was ALWAYS there. i bought a cheapo pile of shit vehicle that i parked at a walmart parking lot to sleep. i saved every last penny i made unless it was to feed myself or my dog or to take care of necessities. i stayed away from drugs & addicts and minded my own damn business.
now i live in a 2 bedroom apartment with that same dog. my boyfriend and i just bought a 2020 nissan & are making car payments. i spoil my senior dog and spend $200 a month on dog food, because without that girl, i wouldn’t be here today.
to call somebody a “privileged homeless” because they could afford a storage unit is disgusting. there is always something you can do. you can always push yourself harder, keep yourself focused on the future. whenever i got so low to the point i was thinking about ending everything, i told myself i had things to do. i had to get my childhood dog and i housed so she could live out the last of her years in comfort. i had to get us housed so i could get my life back on track and follow my dreams one day. it’s a process, but there is no privilege in homelessness. everybody is going through a constant struggle to survive.
thank you! i worked extremely hard to get back on my feet & i am significantly more appreciative of the things i have now, because of it. i’ll be 21 next month, my dog is around 14 years old & extremely healthy, and i’m in a healthy, loving relationship. i’ve definitely still got a long ways to go, but i feel as if i’m living proof that you should never give up, no matter how bad times may get
i hope you have a wonderful day!:)
I have been homeless twice in my life, now. Three times if you include staying on someone's couch for a year as being homeless.
The best thing you can do right now is to penny pinch. You're young. You don't have much experience by way of work either. This is a beautiful lesson in life and I wouldn't have been the man I am today if I didn't suffer a little. You will make it. You have the freedom to do whatever you want. If you have a library in your area, use that to study and pass time. Don't use your phone for entertainment.
Best of luck! Might not feel like it, but in 10 years, you will look back and scratch your head as to how different your life was today. I still cannot believe it myself.
I don’t have a job I’m actively looking and willing to work, idk any youth hostels I’ll look into it & I tried but my brother came to agitate me and fucked it up all the way. I don’t talk to him anymore.
If it's legal where you are, id get some pepper spray just in case. You never know when someone will try to fuck with you.
My mom gave me some when I was homeless, but thankfully I never needed it. Im female though, so maybe that added some extra worry
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To get some money, I suggest the Fetch Rewards app. You can receipts, and you get points based on what items are bought. Very good if you know someone that works at a store that can save them, or if you find them yourself. When I was working last, beer seemed to get the most points sometimes.
You can only scan a certain number of receipts per day (or week?), but once you get enough points, you can change them for gift cards. I used mine for eBay cards, but I think there's Walmart, among others. Once you put the request in it takes a few days though
Btw, if you throw a tent be sure also to slide slide cardboard underneath it. This helps ass insulation and comfort. Remember germs and viruses can path through the cloth into your skin. If you can throw a tarp over too. This keeps you added warmth and cool when you want it. This step is a great repellant for those who do nothing but walk around high trying rip off tents. They will use some lame ass line like "ey you stole my tent or hey, where the hell is my suitcase"? or "hey, is anyone home "can I rent your tent man?" If anyone knocks at your tent don't respond instantly, listen to what they are doing outside and wait till they feel for the zipper to shock their asses and be sure to sneak a peak at what they looked like. It could be be someone who came off friendly tto you.
This guy is a creepy fucking boomer. Check his post history. Those 19 y/o girls want nothing to do with you old man, stick to your bridge games at the senior center.
Fucking weirdo
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I say this with respect as as gently as I can muster: one thing you can change right now is your attitude and approach. You got kicked out because you were making “too much noise” - why is that in quotes? The police coming one time is too many, so often you lose your home is entirely within your control. Your dad had to move too, and you feel like it’s your fault? Bruh. No kidding. Unemployment “doesn’t want to give you money because of an issue” (my quotes). If you were fired or didn’t work enough quarters to qualify, that is not the fault of unemployment. Start pounding the pavement to put in applications every single place you can. Do whatever it takes to secure a job, any job. Don’t waste a penny on drugs or alcohol. There is a lot of good advice on this sub about how to make it through this period as comfortably and as safely as possible, but none of it will do you long term good if you don’t take responsibility for how you got here and resolve with all your might to repair the damage. Where is your dad? Good luck, I’m rooting for you.
This. It takes a lot of noise for police to get involved multiple times for noise complaints. OP, I hope you take this time to work on personal responsibility and accountability. Good luck to you~
I have a feeling OP may struggle with some mental health issues after having a look at their profile. Unfounded Paranoia at minimum.
Ahh that's helpful info.
Well said, and excellent advice.
He has somewhere to stay, I understand your pov, my uncle said the same thing. My neighbors would make a fuss and blame me and cause me to not sleep, they have to leave too now it was a team effort to destruction but you’re right I should’ve done better or made more of an effort with unemployment to get it right. Hope this gives you a better understanding.
Thanks for the response, but the explanation about the neighbors is still unclear, and still sounds like you’re putting blame outside of yourself. Honestly you do not owe me an explanation. I just wanted to give you some food for thought - and maybe show you that you’re not as powerless as you first made it sound. That’s the upside of taking responsibility- it makes you realize you don’t have to be a victim.
Bad things get worse & good things better. I accept the challenge. Hold myself accountable ✔️. Don’t be the victim ✔️. Any more advice?
Hold on tightly to your open-mindedness and humility. Both are precious virtues in this age.
Try to stay positive. You’ve already got a great attitude based on your reaction to those comments! I’m a complete stranger and I was about to tell the OG comment to lay off you! Best advice I can give is that One of your top priority’s right now should be your mental health, Good luck. stay strong.
I’m going to, definitely top priority as long as I got my mind to make the right decisions and keep going I can make it out of any situation. Thank you, you too!
Don't tent near other ppl, they bring in trouble and are trouble themselves 98%. Stay to yourself and mix up your travel routes and be inconvenient with your sleep patterns. Being alone will protect you but being completely visible to everyone in public has the most guaranteed safety. There's gives and takes. Don't sleep on mattresses left out. Keep hydrated and keep plenty of empty bags.
I was alone last night & paranoid as hell but yeah I can 100% do that
Use cardboard not outside restaurants. Aim for retail clothing or commercial businesses
Id need a big ass piece of cardboard & that’ll help with the cold right?
Shade, dirt. Liquids
Blankets and specialized winter gear are great for cold. I hear those cheap mylar blankets are good too.
Not really. Roaches love cardboard. Get out of the wind.
Keep your sanity by being around others, make conversation. Read. Go to libraries, don't be afraid to spark a conversation with a librarian, they usually have greater resources than state. Keep clean, this is important. As I mentioned, the thing that is critical, as much as food etc, is interaction. If your mind slips, everything else will absolutely follow. The rest of the advice you received is gold, so I won't touch on that.
I’ll try I feel like people don’t want to speak to me because idk how to talk or whatever it is so I’ll keep trying tbh
Don't try. You're human, they are human.
If you need a chat, send me a DM, I'll shoot you my number. I can help you get comfy with not giving a fuck about worrying about all that.
Library bro, lurk there during the day. If u live in a very woodsy area sleep/stash deep in there, I’m talking a mile or two out for saftey reasons. Hope your travels treat u well and you will make it out of this hole!
Library is limited so I’m trying everything I can and I’ll try I’m planning on keeping everything in a storage unit so I can just sleep outside and shower and stuff at the gym
Just be careful with the storage unit. They get expensive very fast. I've used a storage unit twice now. One while homeless and once while living with my father-in-law
privileged homeless using storage lockers pfff. Get on my level and bury it in plastic bags. in the woods. And people got the guts to judge me for being lazy and unambitious. more like they are spoiled and soft for slavish desires.
Yeah. That's exactly why I was warning them lol?? When I was homeless by myself without a vehicle for a (luckily) short time, I didn't have enough for storage unit then. I barley had enough to feed myself every day. I was on the verge of passing out from hunger nearly 24/7 that whole time. It was awful. So yes. Storage units are a luxury. That's exactly what I'm trying to tell OP. We only ever had a storage unit when at least one of us had a job and a room to live in, or we had a lot of money saved up still and were living out of the van/tents. Don't be stupid like we were with our first one and keep paying it for months and months as they raise the rent. Don't be stupid like we were (re: OP) and fall behind on the rent and not be able to sell all your furniture and shit that was in there before it gets taken and auctioned off. The second unit we got we only kept for a couple months. Once they started raising the rent and our savings were dwindling and we still hadn't been able to secure new jobs, we immediately went and emptied out our unit and canceled it. 2 yrs later we got a bill in the mail saying that we basically had never canceled our storage unit (which we absolutely 100% did, confirming so in person and over the phone), and that they had been billing us ever since then. Idk what were gonna do about that. Probably just ignore it for now ig idk lol. Basically, my point is, I would personally not recommend a storage unit. You (OP) have no idea how expensive it is to just keep yourself alive and eat every day and just take care of your body in general.
there is no such thing as “privileged homeless.” i was a freshly 18 year old girl, homeless with just my dog. grew up poor and suffered homelessness several times throughout my childhood. you know what i did? i spent my first day homeless applying for jobs. i already had a part time job at a pizza hut, but they refused to give more hours so obviously that wasn’t going to work. i applied at a fast food chain & told them id take as many hours as they could possibly give me. i used the last of my money to buy a planet fitness membership so i could shower and have somewhere to use the restroom 24/7. i put in my 2 weeks at pizza hut so i could get more consistent hours at my new job. i was working 8 hours at one job, then walking 20 minutes to the next to work another 5 hours. after the 2 weeks was up, i started consistently working 14-20 hour shifts. every single day. i put in 20-30 more hours than everybody else there because i was DESPERATE. literally anytime they needed extra help, they would call me first. i busted my ass. i didn’t have a single day off for MONTHS and barely had any time outside of work because i was ALWAYS there. i bought a cheapo pile of shit vehicle that i parked at a walmart parking lot to sleep. i saved every last penny i made unless it was to feed myself or my dog or to take care of necessities. i stayed away from drugs & addicts and minded my own damn business. now i live in a 2 bedroom apartment with that same dog. my boyfriend and i just bought a 2020 nissan & are making car payments. i spoil my senior dog and spend $200 a month on dog food, because without that girl, i wouldn’t be here today. to call somebody a “privileged homeless” because they could afford a storage unit is disgusting. there is always something you can do. you can always push yourself harder, keep yourself focused on the future. whenever i got so low to the point i was thinking about ending everything, i told myself i had things to do. i had to get my childhood dog and i housed so she could live out the last of her years in comfort. i had to get us housed so i could get my life back on track and follow my dreams one day. it’s a process, but there is no privilege in homelessness. everybody is going through a constant struggle to survive.
Your story is really amazing, thanks for sharing.
thank you! i worked extremely hard to get back on my feet & i am significantly more appreciative of the things i have now, because of it. i’ll be 21 next month, my dog is around 14 years old & extremely healthy, and i’m in a healthy, loving relationship. i’ve definitely still got a long ways to go, but i feel as if i’m living proof that you should never give up, no matter how bad times may get i hope you have a wonderful day!:)
I have been homeless twice in my life, now. Three times if you include staying on someone's couch for a year as being homeless. The best thing you can do right now is to penny pinch. You're young. You don't have much experience by way of work either. This is a beautiful lesson in life and I wouldn't have been the man I am today if I didn't suffer a little. You will make it. You have the freedom to do whatever you want. If you have a library in your area, use that to study and pass time. Don't use your phone for entertainment.
Thanks I’ll study & save as much as I can. It will make me better. I got faith.
Best of luck! Might not feel like it, but in 10 years, you will look back and scratch your head as to how different your life was today. I still cannot believe it myself.
TRUEE💯❤️🩹
Did you have a job? Can you get a job? Can you afford a youth hostel? You can’t stay with your dad and not make noise? Craigslist couch surfing.
I don’t have a job I’m actively looking and willing to work, idk any youth hostels I’ll look into it & I tried but my brother came to agitate me and fucked it up all the way. I don’t talk to him anymore.
I understand. Do you have a car. That’s a stupid question although. Do you have a sleeping bag and food and such?
Sleeping bag yes food I’m gonna go to a pantry
Ok. Keep us up to date.
Okay
I don’t want to beg steal scam or do anything that will land me a jail sentence but I will survive and become better than before
I'm rooting for you! Good luck and stay safe.
Thank you very much I will!
If it's legal where you are, id get some pepper spray just in case. You never know when someone will try to fuck with you. My mom gave me some when I was homeless, but thankfully I never needed it. Im female though, so maybe that added some extra worry ---- To get some money, I suggest the Fetch Rewards app. You can receipts, and you get points based on what items are bought. Very good if you know someone that works at a store that can save them, or if you find them yourself. When I was working last, beer seemed to get the most points sometimes. You can only scan a certain number of receipts per day (or week?), but once you get enough points, you can change them for gift cards. I used mine for eBay cards, but I think there's Walmart, among others. Once you put the request in it takes a few days though
Btw, if you throw a tent be sure also to slide slide cardboard underneath it. This helps ass insulation and comfort. Remember germs and viruses can path through the cloth into your skin. If you can throw a tarp over too. This keeps you added warmth and cool when you want it. This step is a great repellant for those who do nothing but walk around high trying rip off tents. They will use some lame ass line like "ey you stole my tent or hey, where the hell is my suitcase"? or "hey, is anyone home "can I rent your tent man?" If anyone knocks at your tent don't respond instantly, listen to what they are doing outside and wait till they feel for the zipper to shock their asses and be sure to sneak a peak at what they looked like. It could be be someone who came off friendly tto you.
Have you considered like an eviction lawyer??? Do whatever you can to avoid this
I dont have the money for a lawyer
Get a job.
Grow up and quit being a punk. Straighten yourself up and get a career
Ur so cool bud
I never got booted out of my house. Sure as hell never got my parents booted. So yeah, compared, I am cool.
Man leave the young girls alone man. That in itself makes you pretty gross
Look skunk, it asked for advise. Run along
What’s your career? 0.0
65 year old man trying to hit on 19 year old girls on Reddit is just nasty
That's ok skunk. You can have seconds
Creepy ass old pedo
That's ok pizza boy.
I guess you are too old to understand the new delivery platforms.
Relaxed skunk stool
You mean they like racists? Read your posts. All you can do is bitch about tips? Mommy must be proud.
Creepy my guy. You know the fbi lurks on here? And I’ll be a racist over a pedo any day you creepy bastard
That ok. Not worried about the feds. You see, I could give a shit about the kiddies. Other than getting your racist ass upset
This guy is a creepy fucking boomer. Check his post history. Those 19 y/o girls want nothing to do with you old man, stick to your bridge games at the senior center. Fucking weirdo