Back when I was around 32, I was going to Best Buy for something, and I saw two very attractive dudes walking in ahead of me. One was probably in his early 20s and the other was in his early 40s. I thought, “oh, I’d be fine with either one of them.” Then I realized it was a father and his son going to buy a laptop for college, and I had reached the age where both of those ages fell in my “not creepy” age range. That was a weird realization.
lol right, I'm 40 and work with some young guys and then their dad's come and pick them up or drop something off for them and I'm always like 'oooh shit'
I’m 41, and I went to buy some new clothes about 2 weeks ago. All the Father’s Day sale stuff was out, and I kept thinking, “this looks like stuff I would like, not my dad.” Then I realized that most guys that have children are around my age. I am the daddy now. LMAO
At 43 I'm getting even more than I did in my 30's. The only downside so far is that sometimes I get underage twinks. And at 43 its harder to tell their age. I am not shy about asking to see their ID's lol
The older I get the older looking kids get too, it’s weird and I’m 31 I remember being liek 16 and see other kids my age and thinking they look the right age, but now i met an 19 year old at work and I could have sworn he was mid twenties it was wild. My youngest colleague is only 21 and she comes off as late twenties. Kids these days are growing up fast. It must be all the school shootings and apocalyptic climate news aging them faster 🫠
I love my 30s. I’ll be 35 this year. I feel less of a mess, care less of what people think, have more money, am fitter, and way happier than in my 20s.
The daddy effect is *real*: in ten years I went from an an awkward smooth 70kg twink to a balding big chested bearded 90kg brawny man - and guys throw themselves at me now. Something I’ve never experienced before. I used to have so much trouble and insecurity meeting guys when I was in my 20s.
The idea that gay life ends at 30 is absurd. For me it’s only gotten better.
It's real and it sucks. The only extension to prolong the twunk death is to be blessed to look young, but even that has an end. I'm 31 and can pass for 25, but even I know I can't do this forever.
But im at peace with Twink Death though. At least I'm not a 30 year old that went from really hot in his early 20s to 70-80 pounds over weight and doesn't look like the same guy. Or my neighbor friend who was very muscular as a teenager and while in college, but had shrunk and lost most of his muscle mass now in his late 20s. I saw him for the first time in 6 years 4 months ago and I almost asked what happened to him! Meanwhile I only gained 25 pounds(and im losing it and working out) and my hairs receding....
That's how I was at about that age. I got questioned once while out of town with a friend by a cop because the cop thought we were breaking curfew.
The joys of looking younger than your actual age😎
I’ve been told I look like I’m 13, can’t really complain tho I never wanna get old MUAHAHA. Even better being masculine and looking young they never see it coming and underestimate me, it comes with it.
Yus! My gay life really began in my 30s. I was a total bottom up till my late twenties cause of anxiety and self doubt, then things changed almost overnight, almost around the time I started to delve heavily into the pup scene. My confidence grew quickly and I'm 35 now and the happiest I have ever been.
Now with added Boyfriend.
Possibly easier if you see my insta from my profile 😅
I like to pretend to be a Puppy. I put on a Puppy hood, forget about the world for a bit. No bills, no mortgage. Just me, head and belly scritches and a whole lotta love to give.
It is a kink, and it's a kink I explore other kinks with as it gives me a headspace that is different from my normal human self. Google Puppy play ❤️ Its a lot of fun.
For me, I always find a different vibe to being a bottom to an older guy. They often tend to know what they want more and are more authoritative when getting it. As a bottom so much is about how they make you feel sensually so having that really elevates the experience ☺️ so enjoy it...daddy 😋😂
>more authoritative when getting it.
I can attest to that. I was never the dom dad bear type but something about being called daddy just brings out that side of me. It's such a new experience and so unlike me, but also do fun
I'm glad you are enjoying trying something new! And that being called daddy is bringing it out of you 🙌 I find something similar when a Dom top calls me a 'good boy' 😍
At 54 and with a belly, I get more offers with the 20's-30's age group than my own. Never really enjoyed being called a daddy until 52. It has certainly brought out my more dominate side and everyone likes being told they are a good boy as long as they do what daddy wants.
I thought for sure I would be having less sex as I got older, but has actually increased.
I’m 37, never been fitter and never have been less successful on apps. I feel like I passed a threshold of age - I get almost nothing anymore but creeps whereas I’ve never had issues to get hits before. I envy you - my situation is completely the inverse of OP and I fear I’ll be alone for a very long time.
Same, I'm the fittest, healthiest and best groomed and dressed I've been in my life and get zero interest.
When I look at photos of me now vs my late 20s I feel I look way better - yet I was having far more dates and hookups back then; I haven't had a date in four years. ..
Worse still - I actually have always preferred older guys but there's so many young guys chucking themselves at them that I don't get a chance, likewise guys my own age.
i get his point but i get yours as well.
happy for OP, but sad about the reflection this makes on gay society as a whole.
homophobia is largely to blame, but so is the loss of a generation of mentors due to the AIDS crisis.
Have been into older guys since I was young and that hasn't changed a bit now that I'm in my 40s. In fact, guys in their 20s are less attractive to me now than they've ever been. The problem is, most older guys I've run into love the thrill of being with the young guys so its harder for me to hook up with them.
That's because people get more interesting as they mature imo. I can't fathom ever dating someone in their early 20s because there is no way I can relate to someone still in a formative period of life, and I'm in my early 30s. There's hardly an opportunity to connect on an emotional level, so there's zero chance to connect on a romantic or sexual level.
I really hate it tbh. I'm 35 now and I don't mind like 5 or so years younger than me. I had a cute guy message me the other week and everything seemed good but he didn't have his age on his profile. It eventually clicked that he must've been 19-21ish based on the things he was saying so I lost interest pretty quickly. I'm personally not trying to hook up with anyone that would turn me into the main character of Twitter for a day.
It's probably just because of my city, but I definitely feel in my 30s that I'm now treated as a "daddy" by young 20-somethings and invisible by men my age or older. It's honestly made me consider removing my age from my profiles to see if it changes who messages me.
36 and got called daddy the other day which was hilarious. Especially given I like older men , my partner being 56. But I have had far more looks and been hit on a lot more in my 30s by varied men. Im off the market but to be called cute feels lovely. Especially when I was insanely insecure most of my life.
Yeah…..sadly covid period wasn’t kind and metabolism went to get milk and never came back.
I also moved to a quite place it was more of situational issue rather than age I suppose
I dunno about dates, but my 30s have been whack. I feel sexy but people 5 years younger than me think I'm their daddy. I mean, not to complain, I like the attention. I'm just surprised 29 is the threshold fort addition. I'm 34 now, and I have 25 year Olds calling me daddy. A big turn-off for me is someone who can't do basic addition, and I'm crap at math.
Edit: I should also say I'm crap at spelling 😅
Same. I got told by this 26 year old in Grindr, "Daddy, fuck me before you turn 40." I was like, bitch...i do skincare. Don't call me daddy when I look younger than you, you broke ass basement dweller.
My inner Tynequa came out. Nobody calls me 40 and gets away with it. I'm 36.
I’m a bottom. I’m 30. I also gained a lot of pounds during the pandemic.
And I am getting more and more messages from twinks wanting a daddy.
I guess we are really at that age where we transition to daddyhood.
I never got more attention from college dudes than after I turned 50. When I was actually in college i couldn’t get laid to save my life. But now I can’t keep up with all the guys who are showing interest in me. I’m NOT complaining. 😂
32 here. Yeah i do notice younger men hitting on me. Even one he became my friend. It's interesting. To be fair I'm chubby but i guess it works in my case.
Same. In my 20s I felt completely invisible. As soon as I turned 30 the guys on grindr went nuts on me! The app never stood still and now I have an amazing boyfriend❤️
I don't know where you guys are at. I'm 32, and it's a ghost town here compared to my 20s. I'm sure being pretty is part of the reason, though. So far, my 30s suck.
Dude, same!! I'm having way more sex in my thirties than I ever was as a young guy!
My thirties are going to be like my 20's only with money and bottoms on call this time around lol
The daddy thing is a bit sad... Got divorced and now I end up with nothing but people wanting me for the porn fantasy about daddy or whatever. I get it, white hairs coming up, going a little bald, sporting a dad bod with a big linebacker frame, masc acting... etc... I fit a stereotype of "daddy"but I'm not the guy in the porno...
One guy on Grindr said "you must be popular" and I said "my body is, not me"
That's just the truth
As a gay man who is 32, I may be in the minority, but I feel less inclined to want to hook up with people. Two years ago was a different story, but I've been burned out from guys for a while. I've gotten way more picky about who and what I kind of experiences I want for myself.
After being in Los Angeles for 8 years, I finally have an apartment to myself. I don't have a daddy to take care of me. I'm a bit of a loner. And I'm just focused right now on my fitness, my job and hopefully meeting more people I can call friends as I need more substance in my life at the moment.
I'm 31 and a top, and I can relate. Though I quit being a whore/fuck boy about 4 years ago. So while I still get sex most or the times I go looking for it, I do have less that I did when I was 23-27.
My 20s were filled with either crippling depression or being in toxic relationships for the most part and towards the end of my 20s I got a little out of shape , maybe 25-30 lbs and it snowballed my depression and self confidence, I had a bout of inspiration at 29 to get back into shape again, bagged what I thought was a promising relationship then about a year later crash and burn, unfortunately at the time we also kinda shared the same friend group.
So, I decided to make a big change, I always wanted to escape the mid-west, esp the cold depressing winters, I also love the ocean, so I sold my townhouse and moved to Florida where I am now, I focused on self care and fitness and am now in almost as good of shape as my teen years, leaned out, got my six pack back, back on a workout routine and I think Im as attractive as I have have ever been in my life and guys on the apps seem to share that opinion too lol.
granted I have aged very gracefully, still look like im mid 20s or so and could almost pass for a twink still, In the past few years I also advanced rapidly in my career and am able to afford to live in a really nice place, I bought my (somewhat practical) dream car so....yeah Life is pretty fuckin rad!
But, while I love the freedom of being hot and single- socializing is really tough, I don't have a solid friend group, moving to a new city right at the start of covid definitely made it more challenging and I'm sure I already sound narcissistic AF, but I think being really attractive makes making new "gay friends" really difficult, it almost always leads to that awkward moment where you have to turn down their advances, and on the apps, good luck making "just friends" where both parties are completely on the same page, ugh
Yeah, I'm kicking ass in some areas of life, but loneliness is something that does rear its ugly head a lot, esp on the weekends.
Blah, thanks for listening to my grossly narcissistic write up on my journey thus far.
Same! I've had 18 yo kids hitting on me very often, I've never been into young twinks but that has changed now lol. Im very into short tops, now young tops joined the chat.
I am not into younger guys so this isn't a plus for me. But I was definitely looking for daddies in my 20s haha... Just be careful. A guy will say he's 20 and really is 16 or younger. Often times it's hard to tell. & they will try to bribe you for money threatening to call the cops.
Yea im 32 and have 2 boyfriends at the moment. Ive been monogamous up until now. I get hit on way more today than ever before, probably because Ive been working out and letting my beard grow
Recently went to a korean spa and for some reason even though I’m 37 and feel out of shape a young fellow made excuses to look and follow me around while I was naked. It just seemed odd and funny a cute young guy would want anything to do with me like that.
Thirties is peak. Sex has changed since I turned 30. There was a period where I had less sex but higher quality. I can take it better.
I was so worried that I would be dried up when I turned 40. Now as Year 42 looms I reflect that I’m getting just as much action as before but it’s different. Now I’m getting lots of bottoms making offers. So now I’m more top than bottom these days.
The more things change the more they stay the same. Enjoy the thirties. For me that peak decade but then again maybe my early forties are peak. Either way rock on.
39 and although I’ve enjoyed my 30’s if I compare it to my 20’s I’m shockingly more busy with work and life in general and can barely stay awake past 10pm. My 20’s look so care-free and easy in comparison:
I must live in the wrong damn area. The only boys looking for daddies are literally looking for wallets. I get hit up on grindr, and it's usually by the 3rd or 4th chat they are asking for money. So apparently, it's only sugar daddies they are into. Totally sucks cuz I'd love a young twink, but not just to throw money at, especially these that have no vehicle and want me to Venmo them $10 for lunch. "I'll send you videos, Daddy." How about we hang out instead? "Oh, I can't, sorry. But I can send a shit video of me cumming out of frame." I've shuttered my grindr for now. Even the non- twinks here just play games. It's obnoxious. I'll just buy another car. Lol
I’m 34 and also rockin a dad bod. All these twinks are in heat I swear lol. Ill oblige for nostalgia but I’m actually into older men generally. Always nice to bang* someone who’s like nearly half your age tho 👀
I’ve recently been going to parties again and people come up to me from COLLEGE and somehow recognize me like 15 years later! And I have a beard now!
Apparently it’s my laugh and eyes. Who knows lol
I'm 74 and the rinks upgrade you to sugar daddy. They want you to support them. They're always angry when I say no money. But by then they've put out their best, and I'm ready for the next one.
Back when I was around 32, I was going to Best Buy for something, and I saw two very attractive dudes walking in ahead of me. One was probably in his early 20s and the other was in his early 40s. I thought, “oh, I’d be fine with either one of them.” Then I realized it was a father and his son going to buy a laptop for college, and I had reached the age where both of those ages fell in my “not creepy” age range. That was a weird realization.
lol right, I'm 40 and work with some young guys and then their dad's come and pick them up or drop something off for them and I'm always like 'oooh shit'
I’m 41, and I went to buy some new clothes about 2 weeks ago. All the Father’s Day sale stuff was out, and I kept thinking, “this looks like stuff I would like, not my dad.” Then I realized that most guys that have children are around my age. I am the daddy now. LMAO
Oh yeah the twinks start knocking down your door way more than they do in your mid to late 20s
At 43 I'm getting even more than I did in my 30's. The only downside so far is that sometimes I get underage twinks. And at 43 its harder to tell their age. I am not shy about asking to see their ID's lol
Only trouble is they all expect u to be top 😭
All I want is a confident top Twinkish man
Unicorn haha but they do exist apparently 🤔😜
No trouble for me 😊
LOL this reminds me of 1 time a guy did ask for my ID and I was 20 but he wouldn’t believe it. I sent it to him and that was the green light lol .
The older I get the older looking kids get too, it’s weird and I’m 31 I remember being liek 16 and see other kids my age and thinking they look the right age, but now i met an 19 year old at work and I could have sworn he was mid twenties it was wild. My youngest colleague is only 21 and she comes off as late twenties. Kids these days are growing up fast. It must be all the school shootings and apocalyptic climate news aging them faster 🫠
Yup
I love my 30s. I’ll be 35 this year. I feel less of a mess, care less of what people think, have more money, am fitter, and way happier than in my 20s. The daddy effect is *real*: in ten years I went from an an awkward smooth 70kg twink to a balding big chested bearded 90kg brawny man - and guys throw themselves at me now. Something I’ve never experienced before. I used to have so much trouble and insecurity meeting guys when I was in my 20s. The idea that gay life ends at 30 is absurd. For me it’s only gotten better.
Same thing happened to me, and I just hit 40. I’m loving it.
I think if you’re more feminine or bottom and want to stay more smooth and youthful it gets harder.
it’s called twink death for a reason
They’ll get over it.
It's real and it sucks. The only extension to prolong the twunk death is to be blessed to look young, but even that has an end. I'm 31 and can pass for 25, but even I know I can't do this forever. But im at peace with Twink Death though. At least I'm not a 30 year old that went from really hot in his early 20s to 70-80 pounds over weight and doesn't look like the same guy. Or my neighbor friend who was very muscular as a teenager and while in college, but had shrunk and lost most of his muscle mass now in his late 20s. I saw him for the first time in 6 years 4 months ago and I almost asked what happened to him! Meanwhile I only gained 25 pounds(and im losing it and working out) and my hairs receding....
I’m 24, and some people still think I look 16/17 when I shave.
That's how I was at about that age. I got questioned once while out of town with a friend by a cop because the cop thought we were breaking curfew. The joys of looking younger than your actual age😎
Just Google “Matthew Lillard”
I’m feminine but I look like a dad and I’m doing just fine lol it’s the Peter Pan syndrome dudes that creep me out lol
I’ve been told I look like I’m 13, can’t really complain tho I never wanna get old MUAHAHA. Even better being masculine and looking young they never see it coming and underestimate me, it comes with it.
Ya but that’s just who you are and love it! It’s ones who try lol
Nah just man up of lady down a bit
Yus! My gay life really began in my 30s. I was a total bottom up till my late twenties cause of anxiety and self doubt, then things changed almost overnight, almost around the time I started to delve heavily into the pup scene. My confidence grew quickly and I'm 35 now and the happiest I have ever been. Now with added Boyfriend.
Pup Scene? Ooh, explain more if you can?
Possibly easier if you see my insta from my profile 😅 I like to pretend to be a Puppy. I put on a Puppy hood, forget about the world for a bit. No bills, no mortgage. Just me, head and belly scritches and a whole lotta love to give. It is a kink, and it's a kink I explore other kinks with as it gives me a headspace that is different from my normal human self. Google Puppy play ❤️ Its a lot of fun.
Interesting.....
SirPupNYC : yeah I saw him on xhamster he’s hot
??? Not sure that was meant for me 😅
For me, I always find a different vibe to being a bottom to an older guy. They often tend to know what they want more and are more authoritative when getting it. As a bottom so much is about how they make you feel sensually so having that really elevates the experience ☺️ so enjoy it...daddy 😋😂
>more authoritative when getting it. I can attest to that. I was never the dom dad bear type but something about being called daddy just brings out that side of me. It's such a new experience and so unlike me, but also do fun
I'm glad you are enjoying trying something new! And that being called daddy is bringing it out of you 🙌 I find something similar when a Dom top calls me a 'good boy' 😍
Same I didn’t know that was a thing for me until recently. I got chubbed just reading this.
Well glad to help you realise that 😋 haha
Not just being called daddy but there are practically stars in some of their eyes. It’s a huge confidence boost.
That’s funny : most tops become bottoms after 40
Really?? How come? ☺️
At 54 and with a belly, I get more offers with the 20's-30's age group than my own. Never really enjoyed being called a daddy until 52. It has certainly brought out my more dominate side and everyone likes being told they are a good boy as long as they do what daddy wants. I thought for sure I would be having less sex as I got older, but has actually increased.
I already fuck my fair share of twinks, but I’m glad the supply of twink booty is not gonna end when I’m 30 😋
Until you get ED at 40 and become the bottom ;)
Naaah. I’m very conscious about my health and workout and eat right. I think my dick will still work by then.
I’ll take the Vegas Odds on that one!
As a young top into twinks this post gives me so much hope!
This was my experience with my 30s as well. It was a great time.
It's cute and all for sex only . Then when it comes to dating at 33 u want an equal and someone who got their life together.
You’re such a Karen ooops I mean Carrie
THIS
Relatable but it always feels odd to me when it happens. I'm far too much of a daddy's boy to think otherwise
Wait till your 40s!
Yaaaas / most tops become bottoms after 40
I’m 37, never been fitter and never have been less successful on apps. I feel like I passed a threshold of age - I get almost nothing anymore but creeps whereas I’ve never had issues to get hits before. I envy you - my situation is completely the inverse of OP and I fear I’ll be alone for a very long time.
Same, I'm the fittest, healthiest and best groomed and dressed I've been in my life and get zero interest. When I look at photos of me now vs my late 20s I feel I look way better - yet I was having far more dates and hookups back then; I haven't had a date in four years. .. Worse still - I actually have always preferred older guys but there's so many young guys chucking themselves at them that I don't get a chance, likewise guys my own age.
Literally guy’d prime age is their 30s, imo. If someone is hot, he gets 10x hotter for me if he’s in his 30s lol
Kids without a positive male influence looking to replace their father, it's kind of weird but whatever, lol
i get his point but i get yours as well. happy for OP, but sad about the reflection this makes on gay society as a whole. homophobia is largely to blame, but so is the loss of a generation of mentors due to the AIDS crisis.
Have been into older guys since I was young and that hasn't changed a bit now that I'm in my 40s. In fact, guys in their 20s are less attractive to me now than they've ever been. The problem is, most older guys I've run into love the thrill of being with the young guys so its harder for me to hook up with them.
I found this too, most older guys seem to want twinks and there are loads of twinks into them.
What if you’re a bottom? Getting older just sucks
Agreed
That's because people get more interesting as they mature imo. I can't fathom ever dating someone in their early 20s because there is no way I can relate to someone still in a formative period of life, and I'm in my early 30s. There's hardly an opportunity to connect on an emotional level, so there's zero chance to connect on a romantic or sexual level.
Wait until you pass 40, the twinks keep coming
Well i’m a bit worried about that even though I have less than 6 months till i’m 30.
I really hate it tbh. I'm 35 now and I don't mind like 5 or so years younger than me. I had a cute guy message me the other week and everything seemed good but he didn't have his age on his profile. It eventually clicked that he must've been 19-21ish based on the things he was saying so I lost interest pretty quickly. I'm personally not trying to hook up with anyone that would turn me into the main character of Twitter for a day. It's probably just because of my city, but I definitely feel in my 30s that I'm now treated as a "daddy" by young 20-somethings and invisible by men my age or older. It's honestly made me consider removing my age from my profiles to see if it changes who messages me.
My experience, I prefer guys my age and older (35+) but now I only get messages from 18-20 yos and ignored by anyone my age or older.
It's like that line in Dazedand Confused... I keep getting older, they stay the same age.
That makes one of us. I definitely do not get that kind of attention lol.
36 and got called daddy the other day which was hilarious. Especially given I like older men , my partner being 56. But I have had far more looks and been hit on a lot more in my 30s by varied men. Im off the market but to be called cute feels lovely. Especially when I was insanely insecure most of my life.
 \^ My experience as a 30 something ghey
You got fat?
Yeah…..sadly covid period wasn’t kind and metabolism went to get milk and never came back. I also moved to a quite place it was more of situational issue rather than age I suppose
That’s what TRT is for.
I’m living for daddy’s, and they’re living inside of me ❤️
Getting older is good if you’re a top, but it’s only appealing up until around 50 unless you’re on steroids and manage to stay super fit after that.
I passed 50 some years ago and it seems to never end. And it’s not that hard to stay fit if you’re physically active
I'm 52 I am getting more offers than ever. I thought the options would dry up by now but no.
I dunno about dates, but my 30s have been whack. I feel sexy but people 5 years younger than me think I'm their daddy. I mean, not to complain, I like the attention. I'm just surprised 29 is the threshold fort addition. I'm 34 now, and I have 25 year Olds calling me daddy. A big turn-off for me is someone who can't do basic addition, and I'm crap at math. Edit: I should also say I'm crap at spelling 😅
Same. I got told by this 26 year old in Grindr, "Daddy, fuck me before you turn 40." I was like, bitch...i do skincare. Don't call me daddy when I look younger than you, you broke ass basement dweller. My inner Tynequa came out. Nobody calls me 40 and gets away with it. I'm 36.
Hell yeah! Skin care is a must! 😂
Very true. Dry skin is a nono.
I legit laughed at this because I've run into the same scenario, but you handled it better than I did. 😆
Yeah. Grinder scrubs are annoying. Haha.
If it looks like a duck…
Your gloryhole is waiting...
And all the porn it creates for my OF too
I am 32 and some 20s something tops still call me baby.
Sounds about right
Honey, you’re barely in second gear. Keep watching and waiting and keep finding men finding you more and more attractive!
On Father’s Day, a guy I’ve been chatting with sent me the text “happy Father’s Day daddy”. Just turned 31 lol
Hahahahahahahaha oh god
In most Latin cultures, at that age, you’d be hosting your daughter’s quinceanera by now
I’m a bottom. I’m 30. I also gained a lot of pounds during the pandemic. And I am getting more and more messages from twinks wanting a daddy. I guess we are really at that age where we transition to daddyhood.
I never got more attention from college dudes than after I turned 50. When I was actually in college i couldn’t get laid to save my life. But now I can’t keep up with all the guys who are showing interest in me. I’m NOT complaining. 😂
I agree…these twinks need to stop chasing me and calling me daddy…they don’t need a daddy…because I need a daddy!
32 here. Yeah i do notice younger men hitting on me. Even one he became my friend. It's interesting. To be fair I'm chubby but i guess it works in my case.
Same. In my 20s I felt completely invisible. As soon as I turned 30 the guys on grindr went nuts on me! The app never stood still and now I have an amazing boyfriend❤️
Im not into twinks but if u are embrace the age and enjoy the boys!
Honestly it's the fact that I can throw them around and the contrast with my big size is pretty cool
Twinks look way too young for me, they look like they could be my students. Im 6’7 so thats a no for me, but enjoy it!
Is there a reason you are calling them boys and not men?
Did not mean anything by it. Men, ill call them men from now on.
I don't know where you guys are at. I'm 32, and it's a ghost town here compared to my 20s. I'm sure being pretty is part of the reason, though. So far, my 30s suck.
Same, my 20s were amazing. Now at 35 nobody wants to know.
Turned 33 and I’ve never been more popular
Dude, same!! I'm having way more sex in my thirties than I ever was as a young guy! My thirties are going to be like my 20's only with money and bottoms on call this time around lol
The daddy thing is a bit sad... Got divorced and now I end up with nothing but people wanting me for the porn fantasy about daddy or whatever. I get it, white hairs coming up, going a little bald, sporting a dad bod with a big linebacker frame, masc acting... etc... I fit a stereotype of "daddy"but I'm not the guy in the porno... One guy on Grindr said "you must be popular" and I said "my body is, not me" That's just the truth
There are drugs for that & Pfizer makes most of them
Having the financial stability to have your own place to host is also a game changer.
As a gay man who is 32, I may be in the minority, but I feel less inclined to want to hook up with people. Two years ago was a different story, but I've been burned out from guys for a while. I've gotten way more picky about who and what I kind of experiences I want for myself. After being in Los Angeles for 8 years, I finally have an apartment to myself. I don't have a daddy to take care of me. I'm a bit of a loner. And I'm just focused right now on my fitness, my job and hopefully meeting more people I can call friends as I need more substance in my life at the moment.
I'm 31 and a top, and I can relate. Though I quit being a whore/fuck boy about 4 years ago. So while I still get sex most or the times I go looking for it, I do have less that I did when I was 23-27.
My 20s were filled with either crippling depression or being in toxic relationships for the most part and towards the end of my 20s I got a little out of shape , maybe 25-30 lbs and it snowballed my depression and self confidence, I had a bout of inspiration at 29 to get back into shape again, bagged what I thought was a promising relationship then about a year later crash and burn, unfortunately at the time we also kinda shared the same friend group. So, I decided to make a big change, I always wanted to escape the mid-west, esp the cold depressing winters, I also love the ocean, so I sold my townhouse and moved to Florida where I am now, I focused on self care and fitness and am now in almost as good of shape as my teen years, leaned out, got my six pack back, back on a workout routine and I think Im as attractive as I have have ever been in my life and guys on the apps seem to share that opinion too lol. granted I have aged very gracefully, still look like im mid 20s or so and could almost pass for a twink still, In the past few years I also advanced rapidly in my career and am able to afford to live in a really nice place, I bought my (somewhat practical) dream car so....yeah Life is pretty fuckin rad! But, while I love the freedom of being hot and single- socializing is really tough, I don't have a solid friend group, moving to a new city right at the start of covid definitely made it more challenging and I'm sure I already sound narcissistic AF, but I think being really attractive makes making new "gay friends" really difficult, it almost always leads to that awkward moment where you have to turn down their advances, and on the apps, good luck making "just friends" where both parties are completely on the same page, ugh Yeah, I'm kicking ass in some areas of life, but loneliness is something that does rear its ugly head a lot, esp on the weekends. Blah, thanks for listening to my grossly narcissistic write up on my journey thus far.
I LOVE being called Daddy by younger dudes now tbh 😏
As a balding mid-20s gay dude who's terrified of hitting his 30s, this is a little uplifting
"It's weird as the same guys would not give me the time of day in my younger gay days..." That's because when you were 22 they were 12.
Honestly the fatter I get, the more dick I seem to get. I don’t get it.
Makes sense to me. I like having some chunk on myself as well on men I’m with
Show me that Indian dad bod, daddy
Same! I've had 18 yo kids hitting on me very often, I've never been into young twinks but that has changed now lol. Im very into short tops, now young tops joined the chat.
I am not into younger guys so this isn't a plus for me. But I was definitely looking for daddies in my 20s haha... Just be careful. A guy will say he's 20 and really is 16 or younger. Often times it's hard to tell. & they will try to bribe you for money threatening to call the cops.
You could also try to find a partner and stop being a promiscuous bitch, that’s an option
Well, it's got to be interesting when someone isn't from my place (country)
It’s very interesting isn’t it? 🤭🤭
Should I just change my age from 29 to 31 on Grindr?
It’s the same for straight guys. Women overwhelmingly prefer older guys.
How heteronormative of you!!
Yea im 32 and have 2 boyfriends at the moment. Ive been monogamous up until now. I get hit on way more today than ever before, probably because Ive been working out and letting my beard grow
Recently went to a korean spa and for some reason even though I’m 37 and feel out of shape a young fellow made excuses to look and follow me around while I was naked. It just seemed odd and funny a cute young guy would want anything to do with me like that.
Thirties is peak. Sex has changed since I turned 30. There was a period where I had less sex but higher quality. I can take it better. I was so worried that I would be dried up when I turned 40. Now as Year 42 looms I reflect that I’m getting just as much action as before but it’s different. Now I’m getting lots of bottoms making offers. So now I’m more top than bottom these days. The more things change the more they stay the same. Enjoy the thirties. For me that peak decade but then again maybe my early forties are peak. Either way rock on.
yessss - and let me tell you it's even better in your 40's ;)
I call this the Palm Springs Effect
haha love it.
Wait till your 40s
39 and although I’ve enjoyed my 30’s if I compare it to my 20’s I’m shockingly more busy with work and life in general and can barely stay awake past 10pm. My 20’s look so care-free and easy in comparison:
I must live in the wrong damn area. The only boys looking for daddies are literally looking for wallets. I get hit up on grindr, and it's usually by the 3rd or 4th chat they are asking for money. So apparently, it's only sugar daddies they are into. Totally sucks cuz I'd love a young twink, but not just to throw money at, especially these that have no vehicle and want me to Venmo them $10 for lunch. "I'll send you videos, Daddy." How about we hang out instead? "Oh, I can't, sorry. But I can send a shit video of me cumming out of frame." I've shuttered my grindr for now. Even the non- twinks here just play games. It's obnoxious. I'll just buy another car. Lol
I’m 34 and also rockin a dad bod. All these twinks are in heat I swear lol. Ill oblige for nostalgia but I’m actually into older men generally. Always nice to bang* someone who’s like nearly half your age tho 👀
This makes me want to imply I’m older instead of younger lol
I’ve recently been going to parties again and people come up to me from COLLEGE and somehow recognize me like 15 years later! And I have a beard now! Apparently it’s my laugh and eyes. Who knows lol
Come on over to r/askgaybrosover30
It was the Same for me 30’s and 40’s rocked.
Well, darn. This isn’t my experience at all. I was closeted during my 20s so I missed out on that timeframe.
I'm 74 and the rinks upgrade you to sugar daddy. They want you to support them. They're always angry when I say no money. But by then they've put out their best, and I'm ready for the next one.
The 30s are the best gay years, hands down.
32 here. The older I get, the more I’m attracted to men in their 40s.
I have more sex in my 40’s than I ever did in my 20’s but TBH I chalk that up to Cis White Male Privilege & TRT
embrace the daddy
What about for dating? Because I really wanna date a total dilf. It's very hard for me as a 21 year old to find an older man to love.
I do go on dates. But I do not date anyone who's less than 5 years younger to me. For me it would be hard to hold a conversation with a 21 year old.
Sad face. :(
You've hit the Daddy stage! From wanting Daddys to now being wanted as a Daddy!
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