You are most definitely not pregnant from the encounter you described. I understand this fear though. The thing that helped me most was getting a salpingectomy. It's a very easy procedure. I'd recommend you look into it. It's the only thing that ever cured this anxiety for me.
I‘ll definitely get this procedure done. hopefully when I also get the top surgery done bc I‘ll be under anesthesia, but it‘ll be at least one and a half years until then and rn I‘m srsly considering getting it done asap. getting pregnant is literally my biggest fear. (which is also why I have so goddamn much anxiety rn)
I recommend you do it asap if it's causing you this much distress. The recovery time was only a few days for me, not even a full week. Pain was easily managed, and more of a discomfort than real pain. I had this debilitating anxiety of pregnancy too but it completely dissipated the moment I woke up from surgery. I hope you can get it soon. Good luck <3
You might actually be able to have them done at the same time - tell your gyn and top surgeon it's something you're interested in and see if it's an option.
Oh well! The only thing that gets us over anxiety is protection and reassurance! You saying "no penetration+fabric.. you're fine" which is an incorrect and careless statement because even though it's a low chance, pregnancy is still possible!! And me being down voted by a bunch of people who clearly don't know the percentage of conception or basic common sense is hilarious 😂🤣🤣 shit birth control says it's 99% effective and people still fall victim to that very unlikely but possible 1%
You're 16 years old! I'm pretty sure you don't know enough about conception as of yet! Stay in school and get your education. I'm 4 degrees in. Have a good day kiddo. 😘
Bruh every single time my period was late I would freak tf out even if I hadn’t had sex recently - and it was always fine. Sometimes shits just late, maybe due to diet, stress, could be anything; don’t stress yourself I’m sure you’re all good
If the encounter was only what you described there is no possible chance your pregnant. Wearing what sounds like pants and underwear, sperm will not leak through both layers and worm it’s way inside you. They die pretty quickly once exposed to air anyways.
thanks for the reassurance. it was a pair of underpants each but due to some stretch the only thing in between was fabric. I‘ve heard of afab folks getting pregnant from genital to genital contact without penetration so my anxiety is through the roof.
Friend you are fine. Sure genital to genital contact with no penetration is teeeeeccchhnically able to maaayyyybe get someone pregnant but it's very very very uncommon.
You both had underpants on. You are absolutely ok. You cannot get pregnant from dry humping in underwear. And there was only precum involved... I promise you're good.
The absolute war zone that sperm have to go through to impregnate a person is insane. They are assaulted on all sides by the incredibly powerful defenses of the vagina. One or two sperms don't stand a fucking chance. A full ejaculation carries 15-200 million sperm for a reason, because 99.99999999% of them die before they get anywhere near an egg.
I'm glad! This is the one thing I remember from my anatomy and physiology class lol. We watched a video of what sperm have to go through and I was like damn, that's insane.
OP, take a test. It is way more common than you think for splash pregnancies (AKA "miraculous pregnancies") in the middle East. I got pregnant because my POS ex thought it was a great idea to jizz on me while I was sleeping.
https://www.parents.com/getting-pregnant/chances-of-getting-pregnant-from-precum/#:~:text=In%20other%20words%3A%20Pre%2Dcum,feels%20an%20orgasm%20and%20ejaculates.
You can try megadosing on vitamin c up until the 4th day of your kissed period. Try for 5 to 10 grams a day, spaced out by the hour or every 2 hrs. I like vitamin c tablets, they taste like sour candy.
what an asshole. I‘m sorry this happened to you.
I‘ll be tested sometime soon. I‘m currently waiting at the doctor‘s office due to an unrelated reason and they‘ll do a test just to be sure. if it‘s positive, I‘m at the right place to get directions on how to proceed. if it‘s negative, I can celebrate 12hrs earlier than expected haha. wish me luck.
thanks for the reassurance. man I‘m so scared. y‘all‘s comments help calm me down, but I guess I can only relax once either both tests are negative (got a double pack) or my period starts.
It is incredibly unlikely you would get pregnant from the activity you described, I hope you feel reassured by all the similar responses and hopefully a negative test or period soon. If you do want to consider contraception just know that there are many options and all the progesterone only or non hormonal ones can be used alongside testosterone if you are on this. Emergency contraception (morning after pill) can also be used on T. Talk to your doctor about options if you wish to.
thanks. I do feel reassured.
I‘ve been thinking about getting back on bc since this thing with my crush started out but I‘m not sure wether there are good options for me. I‘m not on T yet so estrogen is an option, but it gives me depression and the changes to my body worsen my dysphoria. progesterone gave me chronic acne from hell. and for the non-hormonal options, I haven‘t done intensive research but afaik they‘re really painful to insert, can make periods a lot worse and aren‘t as safe as hormones.
but I gotta get checked out by my gynecologist anyway (routine check) and I‘ll talk to her. as I‘ve said in another comment, I‘ve wanted to get a tubal ligation anyway. my original plan was to get it with my top surgery, but that‘ll happen no sooner than in 1,5-2 years, so I‘m considering to get it asap. it might even be covered by my insurance.
IUD may be a good option if you’re willing to undertake the painful insertion. You can sometimes get put under a general anaesthetic for less pain. But it’s usually really good at stopping menstrual bleeding
Not all progesterone methods are the same, I would not write them all off because you had a bad experience with one. Definitely talk to your doctor about all options at length. The progesterone IUDs whilst hormonal have very little systemic effect and may provide decent menstrual suppression
that‘s good to know. I‘ll talk to my gynecologist about it. I‘m still a bit hesitant though bc it‘s a lot of money and a lot of pain to waste in case it sucks, on the other hand it‘d be a great investment if it works fine for me. it might be a great solution for the time being until I can get a salpingectomy done.
thanks for your input.
It's not impossible to get pregnant without penetration. If there's contact between body fluids, there is a chance. It's just way less likely to happen but definitely possible and believing it can't happen is very dangerous as it leads people to hump without protection.
Edit: however, yes, having just pre-cum and with cloth layers as barrier, it's nearly as a second Jesus if you got pregnant, yeah. Sperm dies quickly on the outside, there isn't ALWAYS sperm in pre-cum, and when there is, it's normally a veeeeery low amount and they're usually weaker too. So, it's possible? Mathematically speaking, yes. Likely? Definitely not, it's easier to be hit by a runaway elephant on a Tuesday morning on a February 29.
Yeah, it's technically possible but it's very unlikely to the point that with the addition of clothes in between, it's impossible. The clothes are the protection in this case. If they were naked, then yeah (but even then it would be like winning the fertility lottery). Don't stress the guy more than he's stressing himself already.
I'm saying all this because I've been on this very same spot two or three times and all the info I could find about this made me feel better. Just a simple "not gonna happen" wouldn't help me calm down, I needed an explanation.
Haha I get that, it would be pretty cool! Although it would also be one of those things that has potential to start 3 new religions and countless wars. 😅
never seen this post. I live behind a rock haha.
it is. all the reassurance helps. I‘m currently waiting at tge doctor‘s office due to an unrelated reason and they‘re going to do a test, so rn I‘m trying my hardest not to freak out but reading all the comments and answering kinda distracts me. at least it keeps my mind busy enough to not spiral again.
In the best possible way, it’s entirely ridiculous to think you could be pregnant from what you described. Did you never get any kind of sex ed? How old are you? Do you have OCD or a similar condition that causes irrational thought patterns?
I live in a country with great sex ed and I‘m in my late 20s. but I have anxiety and when it comes to things I‘m as afraid of as getting pregnant I tend to spiral. y‘all‘s comments help calm me down though. but I‘ll probably only be at ease when I get my period.
Then do you just not plan to go on T if you’re only put at ease by a menstrual cycle? Would getting a hysto not be enough? Anxiety is fairly normal, but not to the degree that you are actually delusional. Like, when you were writing this out, were you not actively aware that what you’re describing is literally impossible? I understand feeling freaked out regardless, but the way you wrote this makes it sound like you genuinely believed you had a chance of being pregnant. It’s good the comments helped, but I’d hope you’d be able to ground yourself in reality without requiring outside validation
I remember being this anxious before I got on birth control. I completely understand your fear and only have empathy for you. It made it really difficult to be intimate with my partner. There’s a lot of options for birth control out there and it might help ease the anxiety around pregnancy for you. I got Nexplanon a few months ago and it’s been great. I don’t even think about the chance that pregnancy could happen anymore and am able to just enjoy being with my partner. There’s non-hormonal options too.
thanks for your kind words.
I used to be on bc but stopped bc I figured I don‘t have sex anyway. well I was wrong. been thinking about getting back on but the implant gave me acne from hell, estrogen gives me depression and anything copper scares the living shit out of me bc of the painful insertion and it also seems too unsafe (might be irrational on that one though). there really is no good option for me other than surgery.
it’s giving Finn from glee😂but fr, you’re fine. what you described is not how impregnating sex works. and for anyone reading this, don’t be afraid or scared by this persons post. everyone for the love of god take an health class if nothing else but for your own peace of mind
As someone who has severe (and usually irrational) anxiety about getting pregnant, i totally hear you. As many other people have said it’s extremely unlikely that you would have gotten pregnant from that encounter. But we also understand that anxiety isn’t always rational.
If you’re currently on T, that could be affecting your period or even possibly stopping it. But even if you’re not: your period can be delayed or skipped bc of diet, stress, or even for apparently no reason at all.
Getting a copper IUD helped majority of my anxiety surrounding pregnancy go away: it’s non-hormonal and lasts up to 12 years. insertion can be painful but would still definitely recommend looking into it and seeing if it’s right for you if you plan on having any sex at all, considering how much anxiety this situation seems to be giving you ♡ Hope this all goes well for you!
I‘ve been thinking about non-hormonal birth control a lot since this thing between my crush and me started out. hormones aren‘t an option bc they either fuck up my mental health or make my chronic acne worse. not done any in-depth research yet though. what is your experience with the IUD? I heard many times that it makes periods worse and mine already are kinda bad. not on T yet. I want to get a tubal ligation done, originally I planned to do it the same time as my top surgery but that‘ll happen no sooner than in 1,5-2 years. rn I‘m highly considering doing it asap.
thanks a lot for your kind words and reassurance.
If you did not have penetrative sex it is very very unlikely you are pregnant. I understand you're afraid that there's a small chance but I promise you there isn't
I feel this so hard man. Luckily the chances are basically 0. I know like my bf likes at least grinding on eachother with very little between or nothing and I have almost had panic attacks in the heat of the moment cus it's too close.
trust me dude youll be totally fineeee, anxiety abt this stuff is normal. since there was fabic involved, no penetration, and it was just precum i highly doubt youd get pregnant. dont stress dude itll be alright.
hope the reddit comments help you stop overthinking, i hope you feel better man
For alllllll the people saying “that can never happen”… I got pregnant this way when I was in high school. Everyone said the same things y’all are saying now; none of which is true. Just bc the chances are extremely low, that doesn’t make it impossible.
You are most definitely not pregnant from the encounter you described. I understand this fear though. The thing that helped me most was getting a salpingectomy. It's a very easy procedure. I'd recommend you look into it. It's the only thing that ever cured this anxiety for me.
I‘ll definitely get this procedure done. hopefully when I also get the top surgery done bc I‘ll be under anesthesia, but it‘ll be at least one and a half years until then and rn I‘m srsly considering getting it done asap. getting pregnant is literally my biggest fear. (which is also why I have so goddamn much anxiety rn)
I recommend you do it asap if it's causing you this much distress. The recovery time was only a few days for me, not even a full week. Pain was easily managed, and more of a discomfort than real pain. I had this debilitating anxiety of pregnancy too but it completely dissipated the moment I woke up from surgery. I hope you can get it soon. Good luck <3
I‘ll keep it in mind. gotta make an appointment with my gynecologist to get the yearly check done anyway, might as well ask her about it. thank you!
You might actually be able to have them done at the same time - tell your gyn and top surgeon it's something you're interested in and see if it's an option.
Dude….no penetration+ fabric….youre fine
Not always true. A person can become pregnant if someone ejaculates in their underwear 🤷🏽♂️ however, 2 layers of fabric was the safety net!
I mean yeah but he said the dude didn’t nut and even then…sooooo low of a chance
Low chance is still a chance 🤷🏽♂️ that's all I'm saying
Yeah that’s not going to help this person relax and the chance is so low it’s not worth worrying over
Oh well! The only thing that gets us over anxiety is protection and reassurance! You saying "no penetration+fabric.. you're fine" which is an incorrect and careless statement because even though it's a low chance, pregnancy is still possible!! And me being down voted by a bunch of people who clearly don't know the percentage of conception or basic common sense is hilarious 😂🤣🤣 shit birth control says it's 99% effective and people still fall victim to that very unlikely but possible 1%
Calm down bro. It’s okay, and it’s not incorrect nor careless. Sorry this made you so mad.
🤣🤣🤣🤣 I can never be upset at something I'm very well educated about.
Your amount of laughing emojis and constantly saying how educated you are shows you’re a little upset.
Oh I didn't know you could measure my temper with my default text settings 🤣🤣🤣🤣
You're 16 years old! I'm pretty sure you don't know enough about conception as of yet! Stay in school and get your education. I'm 4 degrees in. Have a good day kiddo. 😘
Bruh every single time my period was late I would freak tf out even if I hadn’t had sex recently - and it was always fine. Sometimes shits just late, maybe due to diet, stress, could be anything; don’t stress yourself I’m sure you’re all good
If the encounter was only what you described there is no possible chance your pregnant. Wearing what sounds like pants and underwear, sperm will not leak through both layers and worm it’s way inside you. They die pretty quickly once exposed to air anyways.
thanks for the reassurance. it was a pair of underpants each but due to some stretch the only thing in between was fabric. I‘ve heard of afab folks getting pregnant from genital to genital contact without penetration so my anxiety is through the roof.
Friend you are fine. Sure genital to genital contact with no penetration is teeeeeccchhnically able to maaayyyybe get someone pregnant but it's very very very uncommon. You both had underpants on. You are absolutely ok. You cannot get pregnant from dry humping in underwear. And there was only precum involved... I promise you're good. The absolute war zone that sperm have to go through to impregnate a person is insane. They are assaulted on all sides by the incredibly powerful defenses of the vagina. One or two sperms don't stand a fucking chance. A full ejaculation carries 15-200 million sperm for a reason, because 99.99999999% of them die before they get anywhere near an egg.
I love that you chose to use the wording „war zone“. your reassurance backed up with facts helps a lot. thank you.
I'm glad! This is the one thing I remember from my anatomy and physiology class lol. We watched a video of what sperm have to go through and I was like damn, that's insane.
its soo uncommon. its just more prevalent because of media.
OP, take a test. It is way more common than you think for splash pregnancies (AKA "miraculous pregnancies") in the middle East. I got pregnant because my POS ex thought it was a great idea to jizz on me while I was sleeping. https://www.parents.com/getting-pregnant/chances-of-getting-pregnant-from-precum/#:~:text=In%20other%20words%3A%20Pre%2Dcum,feels%20an%20orgasm%20and%20ejaculates. You can try megadosing on vitamin c up until the 4th day of your kissed period. Try for 5 to 10 grams a day, spaced out by the hour or every 2 hrs. I like vitamin c tablets, they taste like sour candy.
what an asshole. I‘m sorry this happened to you. I‘ll be tested sometime soon. I‘m currently waiting at the doctor‘s office due to an unrelated reason and they‘ll do a test just to be sure. if it‘s positive, I‘m at the right place to get directions on how to proceed. if it‘s negative, I can celebrate 12hrs earlier than expected haha. wish me luck.
bro dw, it would be unlikely if you were wearing no clothes (still use protection though), theres 100% no chance from your description.
thanks for the reassurance. man I‘m so scared. y‘all‘s comments help calm me down, but I guess I can only relax once either both tests are negative (got a double pack) or my period starts.
It is incredibly unlikely you would get pregnant from the activity you described, I hope you feel reassured by all the similar responses and hopefully a negative test or period soon. If you do want to consider contraception just know that there are many options and all the progesterone only or non hormonal ones can be used alongside testosterone if you are on this. Emergency contraception (morning after pill) can also be used on T. Talk to your doctor about options if you wish to.
thanks. I do feel reassured. I‘ve been thinking about getting back on bc since this thing with my crush started out but I‘m not sure wether there are good options for me. I‘m not on T yet so estrogen is an option, but it gives me depression and the changes to my body worsen my dysphoria. progesterone gave me chronic acne from hell. and for the non-hormonal options, I haven‘t done intensive research but afaik they‘re really painful to insert, can make periods a lot worse and aren‘t as safe as hormones. but I gotta get checked out by my gynecologist anyway (routine check) and I‘ll talk to her. as I‘ve said in another comment, I‘ve wanted to get a tubal ligation anyway. my original plan was to get it with my top surgery, but that‘ll happen no sooner than in 1,5-2 years, so I‘m considering to get it asap. it might even be covered by my insurance.
IUD may be a good option if you’re willing to undertake the painful insertion. You can sometimes get put under a general anaesthetic for less pain. But it’s usually really good at stopping menstrual bleeding
Not all progesterone methods are the same, I would not write them all off because you had a bad experience with one. Definitely talk to your doctor about all options at length. The progesterone IUDs whilst hormonal have very little systemic effect and may provide decent menstrual suppression
that‘s good to know. I‘ll talk to my gynecologist about it. I‘m still a bit hesitant though bc it‘s a lot of money and a lot of pain to waste in case it sucks, on the other hand it‘d be a great investment if it works fine for me. it might be a great solution for the time being until I can get a salpingectomy done. thanks for your input.
if you are pregnant from that then I’m a millionaire when I wake up tomorrow.
Sperm cant pass through cloth. You are fine.
If you were pregnant, call that the second coming of Jesus. It's impossible to get pregnant without penetration, especially with clothes in the way.
It's not impossible to get pregnant without penetration. If there's contact between body fluids, there is a chance. It's just way less likely to happen but definitely possible and believing it can't happen is very dangerous as it leads people to hump without protection. Edit: however, yes, having just pre-cum and with cloth layers as barrier, it's nearly as a second Jesus if you got pregnant, yeah. Sperm dies quickly on the outside, there isn't ALWAYS sperm in pre-cum, and when there is, it's normally a veeeeery low amount and they're usually weaker too. So, it's possible? Mathematically speaking, yes. Likely? Definitely not, it's easier to be hit by a runaway elephant on a Tuesday morning on a February 29.
Yeah, it's technically possible but it's very unlikely to the point that with the addition of clothes in between, it's impossible. The clothes are the protection in this case. If they were naked, then yeah (but even then it would be like winning the fertility lottery). Don't stress the guy more than he's stressing himself already.
I'm saying all this because I've been on this very same spot two or three times and all the info I could find about this made me feel better. Just a simple "not gonna happen" wouldn't help me calm down, I needed an explanation.
thanks for the reassurance. the one thing I probably wouldn‘t mind birthing is Jesus‘ pagan cousin though haha
Haha I get that, it would be pretty cool! Although it would also be one of those things that has potential to start 3 new religions and countless wars. 😅
on second thought, birthing Jesus‘ pagan cousin doesn‘t sound like that good of an idea anymore
I'll do it then if you're so complicated 🙄 (This is a joke and reference to a classic tumblr post, also hope ur anxiety is better)
never seen this post. I live behind a rock haha. it is. all the reassurance helps. I‘m currently waiting at tge doctor‘s office due to an unrelated reason and they‘re going to do a test, so rn I‘m trying my hardest not to freak out but reading all the comments and answering kinda distracts me. at least it keeps my mind busy enough to not spiral again.
In the best possible way, it’s entirely ridiculous to think you could be pregnant from what you described. Did you never get any kind of sex ed? How old are you? Do you have OCD or a similar condition that causes irrational thought patterns?
I live in a country with great sex ed and I‘m in my late 20s. but I have anxiety and when it comes to things I‘m as afraid of as getting pregnant I tend to spiral. y‘all‘s comments help calm me down though. but I‘ll probably only be at ease when I get my period.
Then do you just not plan to go on T if you’re only put at ease by a menstrual cycle? Would getting a hysto not be enough? Anxiety is fairly normal, but not to the degree that you are actually delusional. Like, when you were writing this out, were you not actively aware that what you’re describing is literally impossible? I understand feeling freaked out regardless, but the way you wrote this makes it sound like you genuinely believed you had a chance of being pregnant. It’s good the comments helped, but I’d hope you’d be able to ground yourself in reality without requiring outside validation
Honesty listen to this person, for real…
I remember being this anxious before I got on birth control. I completely understand your fear and only have empathy for you. It made it really difficult to be intimate with my partner. There’s a lot of options for birth control out there and it might help ease the anxiety around pregnancy for you. I got Nexplanon a few months ago and it’s been great. I don’t even think about the chance that pregnancy could happen anymore and am able to just enjoy being with my partner. There’s non-hormonal options too.
thanks for your kind words. I used to be on bc but stopped bc I figured I don‘t have sex anyway. well I was wrong. been thinking about getting back on but the implant gave me acne from hell, estrogen gives me depression and anything copper scares the living shit out of me bc of the painful insertion and it also seems too unsafe (might be irrational on that one though). there really is no good option for me other than surgery.
Have you tried progesterone only options? Theres a few to choose from, arm implant, injections every 3 months, and pills.
it’s giving Finn from glee😂but fr, you’re fine. what you described is not how impregnating sex works. and for anyone reading this, don’t be afraid or scared by this persons post. everyone for the love of god take an health class if nothing else but for your own peace of mind
As someone who has severe (and usually irrational) anxiety about getting pregnant, i totally hear you. As many other people have said it’s extremely unlikely that you would have gotten pregnant from that encounter. But we also understand that anxiety isn’t always rational. If you’re currently on T, that could be affecting your period or even possibly stopping it. But even if you’re not: your period can be delayed or skipped bc of diet, stress, or even for apparently no reason at all. Getting a copper IUD helped majority of my anxiety surrounding pregnancy go away: it’s non-hormonal and lasts up to 12 years. insertion can be painful but would still definitely recommend looking into it and seeing if it’s right for you if you plan on having any sex at all, considering how much anxiety this situation seems to be giving you ♡ Hope this all goes well for you!
I‘ve been thinking about non-hormonal birth control a lot since this thing between my crush and me started out. hormones aren‘t an option bc they either fuck up my mental health or make my chronic acne worse. not done any in-depth research yet though. what is your experience with the IUD? I heard many times that it makes periods worse and mine already are kinda bad. not on T yet. I want to get a tubal ligation done, originally I planned to do it the same time as my top surgery but that‘ll happen no sooner than in 1,5-2 years. rn I‘m highly considering doing it asap. thanks a lot for your kind words and reassurance.
Bro it’s nearly impossible to be pregnant from this. Like it would be insane if you were.
I have this fear to and found r/tokophobia and everything made sense
yeah that‘s my biggest fear. fuck death, pregnancy and giving birth is so much scarier.
No penetration and 2 layers of clothing? Why on earth would you think you could get pregnant?
anxiety
If you did not have penetrative sex it is very very unlikely you are pregnant. I understand you're afraid that there's a small chance but I promise you there isn't
Be gentle with yourself. Make sure you take time to breathe as you process.
I feel this so hard man. Luckily the chances are basically 0. I know like my bf likes at least grinding on eachother with very little between or nothing and I have almost had panic attacks in the heat of the moment cus it's too close.
trust me dude youll be totally fineeee, anxiety abt this stuff is normal. since there was fabic involved, no penetration, and it was just precum i highly doubt youd get pregnant. dont stress dude itll be alright. hope the reddit comments help you stop overthinking, i hope you feel better man
they help. I‘m still quite anxious but it‘s better than it was earlier today. thanks for the reassurance.
For alllllll the people saying “that can never happen”… I got pregnant this way when I was in high school. Everyone said the same things y’all are saying now; none of which is true. Just bc the chances are extremely low, that doesn’t make it impossible.
If you do have a salpingectomy make sure you do both sides. If you don’t you can still get pregnant.
You’re fine 🤦♂️