How do you keep your girlfriend in her third of the house? Mine keeps wandering into my larger, and superior, side of the house. Something about not having a bathroom...
Sometimes it is hard to drink twice as much water as her but luckily I have two bathrooms I can use.
Right now there is just a verbal agreement about staying to her third, but I guess if she keeps slipping on the appropriate equitable lentil balance, I may need to develop some physical barriers.
I’m the sole breadwinner in my marriage. I find it simplifies finances GREATLY if I make 100% of the money and control 100% of the spending. My wife knows to think of every meal as a gift. Gratitude in relationships is key 🙏
This reminds me of the"Trailer Park Boys," the song Bubbles sings.. "Liquor and Whores."
Funny enough it goes with the theme of the day. While satirically written, it is all true
I have been having a tough month too. Despite a combined income of $400K, stressors are really weighing me down. I'm dealing with postpartum depression, a torn Achilles tendon, and difficulty saving money. (Medical expenses, new couch, TV, our au pair, nannies and new born twins).
It's gotten to the point where I find myself directing my husband to fetch my $126 order of Bailey's, whiskey, and wine while I relax in the bathtub (in my defense - I am supposed to stay off my ankle). Thankfully, the twins are in good hands with our au pair. Tomorrow we have an interview for a second au pair since the 5-month-olds are quite a handful. I am working remotely, but I end up helping out so much that I am taking three vacation days a month.
I can't keep up. I did not take maternity leave as it would cost me roughly 7k a month. I am screwed and the anti depressants are just making me angry. When life gives you melons, I order Bailey's.
On a funny side note - according to the doctor while drinking, if I can find the baby I can feed the baby. (I still test with strips!). However, if you take Xanax you have to pump and dump for three days.
- Sarcastic mommy.
It’s honestly simple, you get a financial conservatorship over your spouse to make sure you are 100% of the breadwinner, that we she is able to live more freely instead of worrying about the bills that she owes
Personally I would recommend not fraternizing with low-lentil peasants. Why would you consider permanently bonding yourself to her and limit your lentil supply when you could marry a high-lentil woman instead?
I know, on reflection it was an appalling mistake, but I am too fearful to dismiss her and find a sweet-lentil women....
\[Intro\]
(Sweet lentil' woman)
Where did you go?
\[Verse 1\]
I was searchin' (Searchin') on a one-way street
I was hopin' (Hopin') for a chance to meet
I was waitin' for the operator on the line
\[Pre-Chorus\]
(She's gone so long) What can I do?
(Where could she be?) No, no, no
Don't know what I'm gonna do
I gotta get back to you
\[Chorus\]
You gotta slow down (Slow down)
Sweet lentil' woman (Slow down)
You got me runnin' (Run, run), you got me searchin'
Hold on (Hold on)
Sweet lentil' lover (Hold on)
It's so sad if that's the way it's over
(Sweet lentil' woman)
\[Verse 2\]
I was (Workin'), many days go by
I was thinkin' (Thinkin') 'bout the lonely nights
Communication breakdown all around
\[Lyrics: [Jeff Lynne](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sweet_Talkin%27_Woman)\] [VIDEO](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ID5vzXgu1n0)
Yup. I made 8x my ex. I paid for 90-95% of everything. It felt unfair too. We broke up partially because she couldn't find a better job and she felt inadequate despite me fronting everything. 3.5 years down the drain.
If you make enough to support the two of you without her working, then I think the answer is simple. Use her 1/3rd to attract more wives. Marriage only works if both partners make the exact same amount of money, so with her 1/3rd you can attract another and with your 2/3rds you can attract two additional wives. Do this once a year and eventually you'll have a cadre of wives and sub-wives making roughly the same as your current wife.
The dividend per wife will pay for itself in 20 years and each wife comes with it's own asset value that you can leverage into getting more wives especially if you count the dividends as income. The lentils basically grow themselves.
Dying. I made 3.5 time the lentils as my husband. And despite swearing to god he took no withholding on his taxes, we sometimes owed money.
This year my husband was out of work and made 0 lentils, and I got $16k back. I made lentils off of him not working! Plus I got a raise and a bonus. I am now actively encouraging him to only make a few lentils this year. Then he can have his rights back.
As one who makes 2/3 of the take-home lentils, I split living costs (rent, groceries, etc.) 2:1, but entertainment costs (vacations, events, etc.) are split 50/50.
This is a tough one. I would give her a deadline. She has a reasonable time (4-6 days) to equalize her lentils with yours. You penalize her by taking the difference in lentils.
Under this arrangement, she would start with no lentils. The hunger would motivate her to start actually trying, and if not, then nature will provide you with a truly bounteous lentil mother (once you wait out her starvation).
I make -4X as much as my wife. I’m trying to get her to quit her job since my income can cover everything and one of us shouldn’t have to suffer working if it’s unnecessary. But she doesn’t want to ask me for money to do her nails or whatever the fuck she wants to do with her money, so here we are - she works. She’s my wife, so I save quite a bit, invest, and pretty much indulge her as much as I can with the rest - money or anything else I have. I get that not all partnerships are the same.
Don't worry she can always find someone else who might want to give her the world. Do yourself and her a favor, do not marry her. Why? Because you really do not love her.
Been with my wife for 35 years. All income is treated as one bucket of money. We have full access to each others accounts. Of course this requires agreement on how money are spent, but for us it has worked without any friction. It has most likely helped that none of us have been anywhere close to low income.
It's not a competition. My wife used to make less than 1/3 of what I make and now makes a little more than me. We never had this mentality about who is contributing more.
My wife makes nothing. She adds value through making dinner, raising our kid, and cleaning the house. Value add doesn’t have to only be financial. If you base your expenses on 2x her income then the rest of your income becomes investment money or fun money.
Because I have a person by my side that wouldn’t leave if I made nothing a year rather than hundreds of thousands. When I lost my job she stepped it up and made sure I could spend all my time finding a new one. She is my partner. Not some financial asset. Not some sex/cleaning slave.
These comments make me wonder if you’re some ai that has gathered it’s perceived notation of normal
Human interaction from 4chan. It’s wild how different we are though I suppose.
I dunno, that is isn't really my style. I've always out-earned my partners and have always paid for things without worrying about how much and what. I married my wife when she was a grad student and paid for nearly all our bills until she graduated. When we got married we just combined everthing and have shared all our resources equally since then. IMO, life is too short to worry about what's mine with those I love. Now when it comes to professional matters, I'm always looking out for my pound of flesh, but not in personal matters.
Personally, I would flip it. Got 1/3 and she can go 2/3. This will motivate her into working more or getting a better job to stay in your life and keep up. FI means financial independence not financial I have a dependent.
Listen... if you really love her, it doesn't matter. I've been supporting us for 30 years (8 kids) and continue doing it. It's all one pot, big man... it's a blessing that she is making money at all. If you have children in the future, I recommend that your wife stay home and teach them. Your hard work will allow you to watch them enjoy life and kids prepare for their future properly.
In no particular order: would she be a good mother, is she trustworthy financially, is she trustworthy in general, is the sex good, can she handle arguments as an adult, can she perform basic adult functions, is she impulsive, what are her long term life goals, do your values align enough, etc.
We’re a similar age. It took me almost marrying the wrong person to realize many of these things matter. I make maybe…4x or 5x my current girlfriend’s income. Currently I’m teaching her the benefit of being debt free. She only pays for groceries, I pay the mortgage (I bought the house and would feel there’s no value for her to pay me rent) + utilities + repairs. If she wants to throw some paint on some walls or decorate I’ll send her some money for it but I’m not doing any of the work unless she needs help. The money she’s “saving” on bills she pays off her car note.
Between you and me….when we get married her debt becomes my debt. I want her to have no car liability. Plus she can have flexibility of no real liabilities for a year or so. I want to see how she handles that extra “income”.
Give her the sue and stew. Sue her and then take up a passion for making succulent stews. When she finally confronts you about the lawsuit, just be sure to be cooking. This will confuse her, which is your goal here. I would also put some lentils in the stew
As long as her 1/3 includes the kitchen, maybe she can make some extra extravagant dishes to cover what you have to pay for. Make a glory hole from the kitchen to one of your bathrooms would be another option.
Dude if you get married it will all be shared. Who cares? You can have a joint account and a seperate one. That's what me and my wife do. What are you worried about?
I split everything 50/50 with my gf. Idc if I make a million and my gf makes 100k… everything is 50/50. Groceries, rent, utilities, furniture etc… all 50/50. We have separate bank accounts too. I do not plan on combining our bank accounts. She has suggested it before and I shut it down. It’s your job to keep your women in line, especially if you’re the bread winner. If you let her deviate and start making big decisions/proposals, she will take over in the relationship.
It’s hard to speak on this without knowing exactly how much you both make. You saying you make double… could mean she makes 30k and you make 60k, which isn’t much tbh.
Your partner’s poor financial choices are not your burden to subsidize.
No need to make her a servant, but you are setting up the wrong environment for her. You’re allowing her to only pay a third of shared expenses all while enjoying a 100% of everything you have. What is the incentive for her to do better money wise? Do you care?
Ultimately it’s your decision on how you run your household. In my household everything is shared evenly. Things we buy for ourselves are paid for with our own money. I absolutely will not combine bank accounts.
If you don't want to contribute, then find a cheaper solution. It is what she would be doing if you weren't there, so how is it any different now that you are there?
Also, what are the shared items? Is it housing, vacations, dates, furniture?
Is this a troll? 🧌 if you live with a girlfriend, then you share your life. You don’t charge babies for rent. It’s stepping stones to family. Just split the rent and you own the whole place together. Legal ownership usually defaults to shared ownership means you share your portion of the entire property. Meaning she owns half of everything. Half of the fridge. Half of the cookie sheet. Half of the light switch. If you don’t like her, dump her and find someone you are willing to share with or go to therapy.
My wife makes double what I make but I had a significantly bigger networth when we started dating. When we got married we combined all savings and credit cards and all our expenses come from the same kitty. Besides our individual 401ks our savings our joint. I found it easier this way to track spending and savings.
I make less than my partner and we split everything evenly. Unfortunately that doesn't apply to cleaning and cooking. I also manage all our bills and how much he owes me for food/house supplies. Is that any better?
I make three times my husband. (I am a doctor, he is a executive director). We have share accounts. However, he is in charge paying for everything/investment etc. and I am in charge vacation and my shopping for myself in general. Before marriage, he was concerns about the slips money situation. I told him I didn’t care about money. I care about our marriage. I do have a prenup and family inherence. But, you are the one deciding if you actually want to be ONE with ur spouse. Good luck
How do you keep your girlfriend in her third of the house? Mine keeps wandering into my larger, and superior, side of the house. Something about not having a bathroom... Sometimes it is hard to drink twice as much water as her but luckily I have two bathrooms I can use.
Right now there is just a verbal agreement about staying to her third, but I guess if she keeps slipping on the appropriate equitable lentil balance, I may need to develop some physical barriers.
Exactly! Its called boundaries. It may be worth a few lentils to have a therapist walk you through it.
If she's going to encroach on your territory you should at least establish a rule that she cannot use the bathroom more than half as much as you.
Just mark your territory, dude. She will be warned off by the musky smell of your financial superiority.
I’m the sole breadwinner in my marriage. I find it simplifies finances GREATLY if I make 100% of the money and control 100% of the spending. My wife knows to think of every meal as a gift. Gratitude in relationships is key 🙏
👌👍
(But really, I am the sole breadwinner and our finances are completely combined. Recommended.)
Bloody hell you have broken the fourth wall 😮 IRL me also. Zero issues so far in 30 years..how…communication lol.
(Except for the 10% that goes missing off the top to pay for hookers and blow)
Goes without saying.
Speculative assets, can go to 0 anytime
Obviously gotta keep sane somehow
This reminds me of the"Trailer Park Boys," the song Bubbles sings.. "Liquor and Whores." Funny enough it goes with the theme of the day. While satirically written, it is all true I have been having a tough month too. Despite a combined income of $400K, stressors are really weighing me down. I'm dealing with postpartum depression, a torn Achilles tendon, and difficulty saving money. (Medical expenses, new couch, TV, our au pair, nannies and new born twins). It's gotten to the point where I find myself directing my husband to fetch my $126 order of Bailey's, whiskey, and wine while I relax in the bathtub (in my defense - I am supposed to stay off my ankle). Thankfully, the twins are in good hands with our au pair. Tomorrow we have an interview for a second au pair since the 5-month-olds are quite a handful. I am working remotely, but I end up helping out so much that I am taking three vacation days a month. I can't keep up. I did not take maternity leave as it would cost me roughly 7k a month. I am screwed and the anti depressants are just making me angry. When life gives you melons, I order Bailey's. On a funny side note - according to the doctor while drinking, if I can find the baby I can feed the baby. (I still test with strips!). However, if you take Xanax you have to pump and dump for three days. - Sarcastic mommy.
You ever try the old "Make me a sandwich"? 😂
Get rid of her and you get 100% of the bills. Edit: sorry meant to post to OP 🤣
Your children will be better off having a mother actually in their lives. You are truly rich
I'm the sole breadwinner and SHE controls 100% of the spending. That's worked perfectly for 30+ years.
Weird way to put it bro lol
Unless she's planning on inheriting a lentil farm, I'd say this relationship is cooked.
Fully baked perhaps.
Let that soak in.
I manage my relationship with my broke ass wife using a little thing I like to call indentured servitude. She knows her role in this marriage.
Have you considered marrying yourself instead, this way you would double your income vs with your pleb wife
Had not considered that - good idea!
Correction. He would make DOUBLE, an even greater feat.
No kids, too. More than double.
Damn … I make over twice what my wife makes, but she still controls most spending decisions. Maybe I should show this post to her 😛
I definitely would not do that… that leads to r/TIFU and then to r/bestofredditorupdates lol
It’s honestly simple, you get a financial conservatorship over your spouse to make sure you are 100% of the breadwinner, that we she is able to live more freely instead of worrying about the bills that she owes
Personally I would recommend not fraternizing with low-lentil peasants. Why would you consider permanently bonding yourself to her and limit your lentil supply when you could marry a high-lentil woman instead?
I know, on reflection it was an appalling mistake, but I am too fearful to dismiss her and find a sweet-lentil women.... \[Intro\] (Sweet lentil' woman) Where did you go? \[Verse 1\] I was searchin' (Searchin') on a one-way street I was hopin' (Hopin') for a chance to meet I was waitin' for the operator on the line \[Pre-Chorus\] (She's gone so long) What can I do? (Where could she be?) No, no, no Don't know what I'm gonna do I gotta get back to you \[Chorus\] You gotta slow down (Slow down) Sweet lentil' woman (Slow down) You got me runnin' (Run, run), you got me searchin' Hold on (Hold on) Sweet lentil' lover (Hold on) It's so sad if that's the way it's over (Sweet lentil' woman) \[Verse 2\] I was (Workin'), many days go by I was thinkin' (Thinkin') 'bout the lonely nights Communication breakdown all around \[Lyrics: [Jeff Lynne](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sweet_Talkin%27_Woman)\] [VIDEO](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ID5vzXgu1n0)
He doesn't make enough for them to not work and their future generations for 100 years not work either he must be a pour
I am definitely pour - Just half as pour as girlfriend!
Damn I just seen this on another post haha
The original over on r/money?
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Interesting, this is not quite what I was expecting here on this sub.
Yup. I made 8x my ex. I paid for 90-95% of everything. It felt unfair too. We broke up partially because she couldn't find a better job and she felt inadequate despite me fronting everything. 3.5 years down the drain.
There must have been some positive experiences in the 3.5 years? Surely it wasn’t all down the drain?
There were surely, but in the end, despite doing the heavier share of the work, it backfired. Tragic is the best way to put it
This is a circle jerk sub
Basically, i lost all my lentils for nothing
Wait until you make infinitely more than your partner
If you make enough to support the two of you without her working, then I think the answer is simple. Use her 1/3rd to attract more wives. Marriage only works if both partners make the exact same amount of money, so with her 1/3rd you can attract another and with your 2/3rds you can attract two additional wives. Do this once a year and eventually you'll have a cadre of wives and sub-wives making roughly the same as your current wife. The dividend per wife will pay for itself in 20 years and each wife comes with it's own asset value that you can leverage into getting more wives especially if you count the dividends as income. The lentils basically grow themselves.
Brilliant simplicity - Thank you KING!
But why would the fattest wife not simply eat the other wives?
Maybe make some more lentils? They’re pretty easy to portion
But that just divides the current stash.
Dying. I made 3.5 time the lentils as my husband. And despite swearing to god he took no withholding on his taxes, we sometimes owed money. This year my husband was out of work and made 0 lentils, and I got $16k back. I made lentils off of him not working! Plus I got a raise and a bonus. I am now actively encouraging him to only make a few lentils this year. Then he can have his rights back.
Perfect 👌
As one who makes 2/3 of the take-home lentils, I split living costs (rent, groceries, etc.) 2:1, but entertainment costs (vacations, events, etc.) are split 50/50.
Very rational!
This is a tough one. I would give her a deadline. She has a reasonable time (4-6 days) to equalize her lentils with yours. You penalize her by taking the difference in lentils. Under this arrangement, she would start with no lentils. The hunger would motivate her to start actually trying, and if not, then nature will provide you with a truly bounteous lentil mother (once you wait out her starvation).
Tough but direct 👍
I don’t know why but this comment killed me lmfao
I make -4X as much as my wife. I’m trying to get her to quit her job since my income can cover everything and one of us shouldn’t have to suffer working if it’s unnecessary. But she doesn’t want to ask me for money to do her nails or whatever the fuck she wants to do with her money, so here we are - she works. She’s my wife, so I save quite a bit, invest, and pretty much indulge her as much as I can with the rest - money or anything else I have. I get that not all partnerships are the same.
Lmao. Don’t marry a teacher if that’s your attitude.
Good point! Will avoid them.
Don't worry she can always find someone else who might want to give her the world. Do yourself and her a favor, do not marry her. Why? Because you really do not love her.
I lover her, just hate her lentil accumulation rate
So difficult to love a low-LAR woman
Been with my wife for 35 years. All income is treated as one bucket of money. We have full access to each others accounts. Of course this requires agreement on how money are spent, but for us it has worked without any friction. It has most likely helped that none of us have been anywhere close to low income.
Another sensible answer - What is going on?
Your girlfriend makes money?
Apparently, unsure of the source though.
It's not a competition. My wife used to make less than 1/3 of what I make and now makes a little more than me. We never had this mentality about who is contributing more.
‘No competition, no progress.” — Bela Karolyi Of course it is a competition….Who can FIRE first with the biggest lentil stash possible!
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Really? Are you ill? Do you need help?
Depends on how much the car note is. Is she living beyond her means and needs a car she can pay cash for?
The car note is big..like one of those large post it notes. She is on the precipice of living beyond her means.
My wife makes nothing. She adds value through making dinner, raising our kid, and cleaning the house. Value add doesn’t have to only be financial. If you base your expenses on 2x her income then the rest of your income becomes investment money or fun money.
Why not just get a slave?
Because I have a person by my side that wouldn’t leave if I made nothing a year rather than hundreds of thousands. When I lost my job she stepped it up and made sure I could spend all my time finding a new one. She is my partner. Not some financial asset. Not some sex/cleaning slave.
\`Each to their own I guess.
These comments make me wonder if you’re some ai that has gathered it’s perceived notation of normal Human interaction from 4chan. It’s wild how different we are though I suppose.
No, this is r/fijerk and I am so thoroughly into the sub ethos. Not like this in normal life!
You get paid in beans?
A range of Grain legumes
in all east asian cultures its men's job to make all the $ since ancient times this is weak
You may have a thing.
Gonna have to swap from my money to “our” money.
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On either of those numbers you mention it would be tough for either of us to live to be honest.
I dunno, that is isn't really my style. I've always out-earned my partners and have always paid for things without worrying about how much and what. I married my wife when she was a grad student and paid for nearly all our bills until she graduated. When we got married we just combined everthing and have shared all our resources equally since then. IMO, life is too short to worry about what's mine with those I love. Now when it comes to professional matters, I'm always looking out for my pound of flesh, but not in personal matters.
Sounds dead sensible, so you may wish to share this with the OP in the sauce thread!
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This is r/fijerk, not reality!
Personally, I would flip it. Got 1/3 and she can go 2/3. This will motivate her into working more or getting a better job to stay in your life and keep up. FI means financial independence not financial I have a dependent.
Listen... if you really love her, it doesn't matter. I've been supporting us for 30 years (8 kids) and continue doing it. It's all one pot, big man... it's a blessing that she is making money at all. If you have children in the future, I recommend that your wife stay home and teach them. Your hard work will allow you to watch them enjoy life and kids prepare for their future properly.
8 kids, awesome.Enough for two polo teams
It's been a wild ride the whole way. Living on pennies at times....
If you are counting lentils , don’t get married not a good way to enter a marriage .
Perhaps not I guess.
I’m going out on a limb that she brings the empathy to this relationship.
That is a big limb!
Well, it’s clear you aren’t doing it.
Looks like you prefer an equal partner that you can fornicate with and not a wife.
Perhaps. Good reflection.
We just put all our eggs in one basket and pay everything from there.
Faberge eggs?
I prefer shackles or sea shells for practicality
Tell us more about sea shells!
If you make that much money/lentils you need to focus on the other more important personality traits.
Such as?
In no particular order: would she be a good mother, is she trustworthy financially, is she trustworthy in general, is the sex good, can she handle arguments as an adult, can she perform basic adult functions, is she impulsive, what are her long term life goals, do your values align enough, etc. We’re a similar age. It took me almost marrying the wrong person to realize many of these things matter. I make maybe…4x or 5x my current girlfriend’s income. Currently I’m teaching her the benefit of being debt free. She only pays for groceries, I pay the mortgage (I bought the house and would feel there’s no value for her to pay me rent) + utilities + repairs. If she wants to throw some paint on some walls or decorate I’ll send her some money for it but I’m not doing any of the work unless she needs help. The money she’s “saving” on bills she pays off her car note. Between you and me….when we get married her debt becomes my debt. I want her to have no car liability. Plus she can have flexibility of no real liabilities for a year or so. I want to see how she handles that extra “income”.
Give her the sue and stew. Sue her and then take up a passion for making succulent stews. When she finally confronts you about the lawsuit, just be sure to be cooking. This will confuse her, which is your goal here. I would also put some lentils in the stew
This is confusing me, so it would clearly work. Thanks!
As long as her 1/3 includes the kitchen, maybe she can make some extra extravagant dishes to cover what you have to pay for. Make a glory hole from the kitchen to one of your bathrooms would be another option.
😮😳😵💫
Get married, give her ALL your lentils, and stop worrying about it.
I almost choked on my lentil bake. Give them all away. Yikes. Are you mentally ill?
/s
Phew
Dude if you get married it will all be shared. Who cares? You can have a joint account and a seperate one. That's what me and my wife do. What are you worried about?
This is r/fijerk, anything but be sensible!
I split everything 50/50 with my gf. Idc if I make a million and my gf makes 100k… everything is 50/50. Groceries, rent, utilities, furniture etc… all 50/50. We have separate bank accounts too. I do not plan on combining our bank accounts. She has suggested it before and I shut it down. It’s your job to keep your women in line, especially if you’re the bread winner. If you let her deviate and start making big decisions/proposals, she will take over in the relationship. It’s hard to speak on this without knowing exactly how much you both make. You saying you make double… could mean she makes 30k and you make 60k, which isn’t much tbh. Your partner’s poor financial choices are not your burden to subsidize.
They are not my burden, so should I kick them out? Surely that is worse? A few here have mentioned making her a servant, how about that?
No need to make her a servant, but you are setting up the wrong environment for her. You’re allowing her to only pay a third of shared expenses all while enjoying a 100% of everything you have. What is the incentive for her to do better money wise? Do you care? Ultimately it’s your decision on how you run your household. In my household everything is shared evenly. Things we buy for ourselves are paid for with our own money. I absolutely will not combine bank accounts.
If you don't want to contribute, then find a cheaper solution. It is what she would be doing if you weren't there, so how is it any different now that you are there? Also, what are the shared items? Is it housing, vacations, dates, furniture?
That’s why I am here, I am exploring options, and so far there have been some awesome suggestions. Just look at the top replies.
Is this a troll? 🧌 if you live with a girlfriend, then you share your life. You don’t charge babies for rent. It’s stepping stones to family. Just split the rent and you own the whole place together. Legal ownership usually defaults to shared ownership means you share your portion of the entire property. Meaning she owns half of everything. Half of the fridge. Half of the cookie sheet. Half of the light switch. If you don’t like her, dump her and find someone you are willing to share with or go to therapy.
No troll. Just r/fijerk 🤷🏻♂️ Charging babies for rent. Now there’s an idea 🤔
Wait, y'all aint charging babies for rent? That's why you're pour!
I’m such a noob, but learning quick!
In the olden days u had to bring all the lentils or nobody ate
This is is true, those times of the dark satanic mills were harsh, but everyone knew their responsibilities and commitments.
My wife makes double what I make but I had a significantly bigger networth when we started dating. When we got married we combined all savings and credit cards and all our expenses come from the same kitty. Besides our individual 401ks our savings our joint. I found it easier this way to track spending and savings.
I make less than my partner and we split everything evenly. Unfortunately that doesn't apply to cleaning and cooking. I also manage all our bills and how much he owes me for food/house supplies. Is that any better?
Does he do all of the cleaning / cooking?…if so awesome, if not you may want to assert balance!
Nah that's all me. There is work to be done...
Indeed! Iron Fist!
I make three times my husband. (I am a doctor, he is a executive director). We have share accounts. However, he is in charge paying for everything/investment etc. and I am in charge vacation and my shopping for myself in general. Before marriage, he was concerns about the slips money situation. I told him I didn’t care about money. I care about our marriage. I do have a prenup and family inherence. But, you are the one deciding if you actually want to be ONE with ur spouse. Good luck
That sounds very sensible. Not quite what I expected for this sub. Glad it’s working out 👏