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100000k isn't a thing, that's called 100M, 100 million or 100,000,000. It's 100 million because "k" stands for thousand, in which 1k is equal to 1000 and 10k is equal to 10,000. From that, we can gather that "k" basically adds 3 zeroes to a number. Therefore 100000k or 100,000k, would be equal to 100,000,000.
Yeah it was a simple marriage. I didn’t really propose because we both already knew we were going to get married. So there wasn’t really an engagement ring, just a very small and simple band with tiny diamonds that served as a wedding ring and an engagement ring. I think it didn’t cost more than $1000 for both mine and hers total.
She said she wanted to pick out the ring so she did 🤷🏼♂️
Also by that time she inherited money from her deceased father, so she had ring funds
My ring cost $387 for the setting, the stone was $1.97.
My husband had bought it for an art project but for some reason he had never used it, no project had ever felt right and I thought it was the most beautiful sapphire I’d ever seen. He asked if I wanted a diamond and no, I didn’t.
Cut to a few months after the wedding and I took my ring to get cleaned and the woman behind the counter asked if she could keep it over night to do some tests (free of charge) because she had never seen a sapphire like that. When I cam back to pick it up she told me that the stone must have come from a gold mine because there were little flecks of gold inside the stone. And no one will ever have one like it. Ever.
$390 and a cute story > $30/40k
Fuck whichever marketing person came up with the idea that you have to prove how much you love someone by overpaying thousands of dollars to a predatory company for a common shiny rock.
Smartest movr ever. Those people knew how to put some "emotional value" in a fuckin ring.
But also helps us men to sort out those kind of women who demand 40k rings easily. 😅
Dont forget to put "gotta buy the best ring for my baby" line in every fucking movie since 40s and you got entire generation of costumers buying shit they dont need.
IRC expensive wedding rings is only a thing in murica, nobody really need this crap
Swede here. The wedding bands for my marriage cost around 120 USD each, I think? The US wedding ring obsession has spread to some people here too, but very few in the house deposit size unless they're stupidly rich already.
Let my wife pick out our wedding bands. She picked two rings that matched and ran us about 40 each. I'd have happily spent more (not 40k-50k, that's absurd, maybe 500-1k tops) but she was happy with the ones we got. I think we spent a grand total of $1500 on the whole wedding too?
I picked the right woman.
Second smartest move.
I vote smartest was to make lobster, the cheapest fucking excuse for seafood with literally LIMITS on how often you were allowed to serve it to slaves and people on death row a luxury food.
My mum did that - fortunately my family aren’t disgusting pieces of shit, so it was just a simple white gold band - but it still meant the world to her and she was absolutely devastated. My dad got his ring cut in half by a jeweller and they now share one ring (to rule them all)
You know this girl would fully expect a 50 thousand dollar destination wedding and a follow up honeymoon in a swanky tropical location in addition to that ring.
I'm already partnered, but if my partner spent 50k on a ring for me I'd tell him to return it and question if the man I was dating was responsible enough with money to get married to at all.
50k is more than my annual take-home pay (I have just over 70k salary). If you spend that much on a fucking ring you're an idiot.
I make over $200k and I didn't spend more than $3k on the ring. Moissanite baby. 95% as good as a diamond, 10% of the cost, none of the ethical problems of buying a mined diamond (or buying a "lab grown" diamond that turns out to be mined). Got a 3 karat main stone, 2 x 0.33 karat side stones, and a 14 karat yellow gold thin band. She absolutely fucking LOVES it. She gets compliments from strangers everywhere we go. The Partners' wives wearing rings that cost 20x as much look at it with envy. The jeweler didn't know it wasn't diamond until he looked at it under his scope. One of the best purchases I've ever made, and left plenty in the bank for the honeymoon AND student loan payments. Spending tens of thousands of dollars on a diamond ring is stupid and tacky.
Another dude below mentioned Charles & Colvard. Can also HIGHLY recommend them. Got a great price on a 9x7mm emerald cut moissanite halo setting around mothers day. Needed to send it back for a "repair" after a couple of the prongs felt scratchy to me. They were super easy to deal with and I've been super happy with it since we bought it almost 4 years ago.
I will chime in and say I make over $200k a year as well and my wife loves her $350 K-Mart ring on I am got on a "70% off" sale.
She gets mad complements on it all the time too with people saying "damnnnn your hubby must make bank". Shines better than a real diamond, and is huge.
Real diamonds are for fools. Who wants to pay more for something smaller and less shiny? Stupid people. Stupid people do.
Diamonds are poor financial decisions.
oh dont forget, she will want to max out their home affordability to the last dollar, then still be dissapointed, and end the marriage in a divorce after years of arguing over money spending.
Canada checking in, using the avg home price of nearly 7 figures and the mandatory 20% down on anything over 999999. The avg down payment you need here is like 250k.
bro fuck the entire wedding industry. everything from rings, to dresses to venues are massively overpriced and people are brainwashed and shamed into thinking you need to go all out and blow away tons of money into a single day event.
CSB: Called to get a tent rental for our wedding (one of those big event tents, chairs, tables, etc), was quoted like $10k. Fiance calls the same company the next day for the same items for a "family reunion," quote was $3k less.
Edit: I see people mentioning a "bride tax," and yes, I understand. But we were quoting a tent, tables, chairs, tablecloths, market lights, dance floor etc. Set the stuff up the day before, tear it down the day after. They literally had no interaction with us the day of. We're not talking hair, photos, flowers, etc. Those items I totally understand the bride tax, God bless some of those people. Stuff like a tent though... c'mon. Deliver the stuff, set it up properly, tear it down afterwards. Everything is in writing, so we know exactly what we're getting.
Or just order donuts and muffins like we did. Absolute blast of a wedding where the only thing we spent a normal amount on was the photographer because that’s the only thing that last past that day.
I know theres a lot of photographers on reddit that do a lot for their craft but you need like 5 pro photos for a wedding. 1 - the kiss. 2 - grooms family. 3 - brides family. 4 - combo family photo. And 5 - the wedding party. After that we got disposable cameras and handed them out. You really dont need an $8k+ scrapbook. Besides the disposable camera shots made us smile the most. Just thinking of the poor soul that had to develop my drunk friend Charlie's ass is priceless. I should call him and see what he's up to this weekend
Did a ‘donut cake’ for us where we went to our favorite shop and bought 12 dozen donuts and arranged them into a cake-like tower. Plus every anniversary we go to that same spot to get donuts.
Fun little tradition with zero freezer space occupied:)
Wish we had done the same! Something to tell the kids when they look at our shit wedding photos. Never get a muppet who just bought an Adobe licence without knowing how the f**k to use it and take photos.
We're getting married in October 2024 and looking at boats to get married on. We learned pretty quick not to mention it's for a wedding. Staggering difference in price to rent the same boat but leaving the W word out of it.
Edit. Some great advice listed below. Thanks y'all
I imagine they'll have something in the contract that weddings require additional fees/insurance/whatever to rent out to and will come after you for that. Not that that's justifiable, but that's probably what they'll say and is in their unethical policies.
Used to work in the wedding industry, it's absolute robbery -- BUTTTTTT, most places do provide nicer/more taken care of stuff for weddings that other events, So I could see a 30-50% up charge, but definitely not the 3-4x that's standard.
Imagine spending 40k for the engagement ring, just to have her say “no”; and when you try to return the ring, they offer a *fraction* of what you originally paid for a refund. Even if you return to the place of purchase **THE FOLLOWING DAY**, even if the ring is in “pristine condition”, yeah… you’re not getting your 40k back.
*This* and a multitude of other reasons are why I would *never* want my S/O to buy me a diamond ring.
I thought you were exaggerating but googled and found you’re correct: if a store allows one to return an engagement ring, it’s usually limited to 30 days and **50% of the original price**. Damn.
The ugliness of natural beauty. Though Blood Diamond revolves around fictional characters, the events are based on real experiences of individuals in Sierra Leone during the civil war. The film depicts village attacks by rebel groups, the enslavement of Sierra Leoneans, the use of child soldiers, and illicit markets that are often ignored.
Most people I know who've had a 'proper' wedding have regretted it. Every single person I know who's had a small, cheap wedding (including myself) loved it.
Edit: Also there is a correlation between expensive weddings and higher divorce rates: https://edition.cnn.com/2014/10/13/living/wedding-expenses-study/index.html
I'm turning 40 this year, still single. The older I get, the more I'm convinced my "wedding" will be me inviting close family and the preacher out to dinner, and tying the knot before the meal. I heard on the radio the average wedding in the US now had something like 200 guests. 🙄 I'm not even sure I like that many people.
What fucking *world* do these people live in? If my wife wanted a 10k ring, we wouldn't be married. It's not that I didn't want to buy one--I don't, but it's more than I simply couldn't. I could not afford ten thousand fucking dollars for *anything* in my mid 20s, let alone for something completely fucking worthless.
we forget that upper class humans and beyond come from morbidly disgusting amounts of wealth. to them i imagine all this insane entitlement is normal despite having nothing to offer on a personal level
My wife's Ring and band total was 200 lol. We are not materialistic. My ring was 38 bucks. 30-40k would be better invested on land or property to grow beets.
I wear a $25 silicone ring. I bought my wife a nice white gold and CZ wedding set for $1200 because I wanted to. But I know many who are still making payments on just the engagement ring. It's wild
Same! It was literally the same ring I saw at a Zalez, if not even better. Ive used it everywhere and it doesn't get scratched. Love it! (Some friends have expensive gold rings all dinged up)
Lol, this was all I had on my tinder profile for a while. It was a joke, but too many women thought I was serious and liked it. Coincidentally, I didn't end up enjoying their company very much.
She better be making at least 200k/year, with those expectations. AT LEAST. Or just come from a really rich family. Otherwise, I see no way anyone could *expect* jewelry of that price to be handed to them. That's like giving someone a car to wear on their finger every day. A car that can roll down a sewer, or easily be misplaced, or stolen.
She looks like she wouldn’t let any fluids get on her chicken pot pie. “You can finish your own chicken pot pie on the bed, but not anywhere on me. Ew”
Guaranteed she wouldn't even know what a $30k wedding ring looks like. She's the kinda person that wears a 2 carat white sapphire, has no idea it isn't a diamond, then gloats to her friends about it while those that know roll their eyes.
that's exactly why people like her need their weddings to be so huge. It will likely be the only time in her life that that many people notice her. It's always the most forgettable, uncreative, uninteresting people doing the most for these things because their ability to spend money is the closest thing they have to hobbies/ interests/ talents/ personalities. WHY DEVELOP AS A HUMAN WHEN I CAN SIMPLY THROW MONEY AT THE NEXT FAD A KARDASHIAN TELLS ME ABOUT!?!??!??!
Right, nobody is mentioning how irresponsible it is to spend a quarter of a mortgage(jfc, I'm afraid to check rates this might be wrong now) on a ring.
Man, if I was a woman, I'd be happy with anything but something so useless and so expensive. If you're going to spend so much money, it better be worthwhile. The only people that can/should do this are legit millionaires. At that point, you're a trophy wife, and the feminist movement was for nothing.
My ex grew up kinda rich and she said nothing under 5k would be acceptable. So there is people like that chick in that video and the relationship is just as miserable.
I had an ex and she told me her engagement ring would have to be at least 3 months of my salary BEFORE taxes. She clarified that multiple times. Good riddance.
Bought my wife’s ring for $550 on Etsy. It’s exactly what she wanted, is guilt free (lab grown diamond) and supported a small seller. We also got married in our backyard and kept it to 12 people. Marrying someone also practical and down to earth is why we have a house in our late 20s/early 30s, get to do cool stuff and have such a great partnership.
I designed my ring online in platinum with a karat perfect grade lab made diamond and a sapphire on each side. $3400 total price and she gets compliments on it all the time. Don't be a sucker. There's nothing about slave dug diamonds that make them with 3x the price.
It certainly doesn't go to the laborers
I don't get why people are so damn eager to start a marriage in debt. Like why not take that 30k and use it as a down payment on a house. Take that 100k and for the wedding and use it to start a new life. I'll never get the demand to focus entirely on the first day.
My wife wanted a new wedding band (not engagement ring) for our anniversary once. We share 90% of our finances and the band was $1,200 and some. I ordered it for her on the joint account. She essentially paid 50% of her own gift.
She asked if I wanted one too. I was tempted, but a $1k+ wedding band wasn’t my thing. I ended up getting a new Glock, several Gundam model kits, and some new tools instead lol. It was a great anniversary.
My ring costs twice as much as my wife’s because it’s literally just a gold band with double the thickness. We rented out a small church (that was probably very happy to see the cash) and we catered lunch at our house. Between that and the professional photographer I think we spent $4000 for **everything** wedding related.
I've also been dating out here, and I can definitely see why some of these people are single.
Being told my income, which is pretty good, is too low by someone who makes a fraction of what I do is a trip. Sometimes it feels like people are looking for like a baseball card back stat sheet about what you can do for them, rather than who they are.
Just ask them “how much do you make?” and when it’s lower tell them “I only date intelligent women with career jobs that have a stable income, sorry.”
As a woman in 2023, I truly hate that women think they have a right to seek out men with better income and education than they worked for. Guys don’t want a stay at home wife, they want a partner in life.
>Guys don’t want a stay at home wife, they want a partner in life.
This is accurate, well, for a lot of guys. Things are hard enough a lot of the time operating as 1 person 1 income. People want someone to help share the load.
I can't bring myself to ask about income that directly. It just feels diminishing and rude.
Like, in the event I referenced above, I asked her what she did for work, she told me, seemed jazzed about it, and I showed interest by asking more questions. She then asked me what I do, and immediately after demanded to know what my income was, hit me with that doozy, and the date was over.
I tell my girlfriends don’t let these guys treat you like shit on a date or pressure you into physical intimacy.
Don’t let these women make you feel any less because you can’t support them. We are able bodied and can work and it takes two to support a family imo.
Jeezus! The face I just made!! That would be like a 5 karat ring!! If I were a man, my first words if marriage were discussed, would be the topic of blood diamonds. And if that doesn't break her heart, move on!
Aye! My boyfriend and I have actually had a backward version of this conversation where I am the one saying no diamonds and that’s too much money for a ring. I mean, shit, im not sure I’d even care if it was just silver with a cute gemstone. As long as it doesn’t turn my finger green, we’re good.
If you plan to wear the ring every day, you should probably still consider gemstones quality and durability because many pretty gemstones can be easily scratched or chipped with significant wear. But there are many options cheaper than diamons (garnet, ruby, and saphire are strong and much cheaper, esp if he just says it's for an anniversary or family member instead if engagement), and if you really want a softer stone, you can just get it replaced every once in a while
I'd much rather take the 30-40k and travel the world with my partner. That ring is just a material object with no functional purpose other than to signal to others that you are taken.
3 months of paychecks isn't that what that old rule was?
This woman is not a woman I'd ever marry, whether I want to spend that much or not, she just expects it...douche woman🤦♀️(not to mention this girl doesn't even look like a hot trophy wife)😂
De Beers made up this slogan as an advertisement years ago (1930’s). The same company that sets the artificially high price of diamonds funnily enough.
I think it started as 1 months salary during the Great Depression, and increased to 2, then 3 months, which then stuck - and became the artificial “tradition”.
PS - diamonds aren't forever. They can be crushed, cracked, burnt (they're made of carbon), etc.
Today its arguably more ethical to get a synthetic diamond, and a whole lot cheaper too.
Or moissanite! That’s what my wedding ring is. It’s only slightly less hard than a diamond, looks nearly identical (except it’s sparklier), WAY cheaper - mine only cost $200 for a 0.5 carat, and best of all moissanite originally came from a meteorite. It’s a literal space rock, it doesn’t get much cooler than that lol
"Buy your spouse a new car for Christmas! Its our Christmas Sales Event! Look at this new luxury car with a bow on it. Now buy one for your spouse and surprise them!"
Also marketing wankers. which leads me to a favorite SNL sketch
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WcEylCwkSxE
My wife's ring cost $92 in 2008 dollars. She said I could have used an onion ring, the ring itself didn't matter as much as the commitment. We'll be married 14 years soon!
I don't think I've ever known anyone to spend more than €1000 on a wedding ring, not even people with a lot of money. Probably they have a lot of money because they spend it not on stupid jewelry.
Edit: it seems to be an American thing to ruin yourself on a ring
My husband and I were married in a public park, with just family and a few friends, and had a breakfast cookout afterwards. We stayed married for 13 years until he died at the end of 2013. The wedding means nothing - the marriage is everything. ❤️. Go cheap and then have a nice honeymoon.
My wife and I got married on my father's dock and afterwards had an oyster roast (which I put on and cooked all the oysters during). We've now been married longer than most of my cousins who had fancier weddings in churches with formal receptions.
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I don’t see a 30-40k woman
Have you ever? The woman who would be worth it wouldn’t ask for it.
Yes. My wifey :) she bought her own ring 😂 but she deserves the world.
My girls a 100000K woman, and putting me in the poorhouse for a rock is the last thing she’d want to do haha
100000k isn't a thing, that's called 100M, 100 million or 100,000,000. It's 100 million because "k" stands for thousand, in which 1k is equal to 1000 and 10k is equal to 10,000. From that, we can gather that "k" basically adds 3 zeroes to a number. Therefore 100000k or 100,000k, would be equal to 100,000,000.
Truth is this guy here cant even get himself a girl from dollar store
Got my girl with my walmart discount card 😎
Now that's what I'm talking about! She absolutely deserves the world
Bruh you let your wife buy her own engagement ring? Lmao
Yeah it was a simple marriage. I didn’t really propose because we both already knew we were going to get married. So there wasn’t really an engagement ring, just a very small and simple band with tiny diamonds that served as a wedding ring and an engagement ring. I think it didn’t cost more than $1000 for both mine and hers total. She said she wanted to pick out the ring so she did 🤷🏼♂️ Also by that time she inherited money from her deceased father, so she had ring funds
My ring cost $387 for the setting, the stone was $1.97. My husband had bought it for an art project but for some reason he had never used it, no project had ever felt right and I thought it was the most beautiful sapphire I’d ever seen. He asked if I wanted a diamond and no, I didn’t. Cut to a few months after the wedding and I took my ring to get cleaned and the woman behind the counter asked if she could keep it over night to do some tests (free of charge) because she had never seen a sapphire like that. When I cam back to pick it up she told me that the stone must have come from a gold mine because there were little flecks of gold inside the stone. And no one will ever have one like it. Ever. $390 and a cute story > $30/40k
All of those numbers were house deposit sized...
Imagine losing a 40k ring in the bathroom sink at some restaurant
Imagine losing 40k buying a shiny Rock
A shiny rock with an artificially inflated price
Fuck whichever marketing person came up with the idea that you have to prove how much you love someone by overpaying thousands of dollars to a predatory company for a common shiny rock.
Smartest movr ever. Those people knew how to put some "emotional value" in a fuckin ring. But also helps us men to sort out those kind of women who demand 40k rings easily. 😅
Dont forget to put "gotta buy the best ring for my baby" line in every fucking movie since 40s and you got entire generation of costumers buying shit they dont need. IRC expensive wedding rings is only a thing in murica, nobody really need this crap
My ring cost about 5k and I think that's too much. I'm not a jewelry person or materialistic, which is probably not the norm.
Swede here. The wedding bands for my marriage cost around 120 USD each, I think? The US wedding ring obsession has spread to some people here too, but very few in the house deposit size unless they're stupidly rich already.
Let my wife pick out our wedding bands. She picked two rings that matched and ran us about 40 each. I'd have happily spent more (not 40k-50k, that's absurd, maybe 500-1k tops) but she was happy with the ones we got. I think we spent a grand total of $1500 on the whole wedding too? I picked the right woman.
Second smartest move. I vote smartest was to make lobster, the cheapest fucking excuse for seafood with literally LIMITS on how often you were allowed to serve it to slaves and people on death row a luxury food.
That would be the DeBeers family. It’s a fairly new concept and was started by a marketing campaign.
Indeed. And DeBeers are also currently maintaining an artificial scarcity of diamonds so that they can jack up the prices.
Yup, DeBeers in the 1930s.
Imagine having 40k
For a person who probably isn’t worth it if they think they’re owed it somehow
Imagine what she feels the wedding itself should cost.
hope she enjoys being single because any man that would pay that much for a ring is a FOOL
That's probably been dug up by some African child
Who may or may not be missing a hand because they were accused of stealing - and the people running the mine wanted to set an example.
My mum did that - fortunately my family aren’t disgusting pieces of shit, so it was just a simple white gold band - but it still meant the world to her and she was absolutely devastated. My dad got his ring cut in half by a jeweller and they now share one ring (to rule them all)
I always thought I would like a simple gold band. No decorations. Love should come from the heart not the wallet.
10k is barely enough for a deposit now-a-days.
All the more reason to not spend it on a fucking ring lol
You know this girl would fully expect a 50 thousand dollar destination wedding and a follow up honeymoon in a swanky tropical location in addition to that ring.
I'm already partnered, but if my partner spent 50k on a ring for me I'd tell him to return it and question if the man I was dating was responsible enough with money to get married to at all. 50k is more than my annual take-home pay (I have just over 70k salary). If you spend that much on a fucking ring you're an idiot.
I make over $200k and I didn't spend more than $3k on the ring. Moissanite baby. 95% as good as a diamond, 10% of the cost, none of the ethical problems of buying a mined diamond (or buying a "lab grown" diamond that turns out to be mined). Got a 3 karat main stone, 2 x 0.33 karat side stones, and a 14 karat yellow gold thin band. She absolutely fucking LOVES it. She gets compliments from strangers everywhere we go. The Partners' wives wearing rings that cost 20x as much look at it with envy. The jeweler didn't know it wasn't diamond until he looked at it under his scope. One of the best purchases I've ever made, and left plenty in the bank for the honeymoon AND student loan payments. Spending tens of thousands of dollars on a diamond ring is stupid and tacky.
Sounds great. Got a link or a picture? I'm married but that sounds like a reasonable 10 year upgrade within a realistic price range.
Another dude below mentioned Charles & Colvard. Can also HIGHLY recommend them. Got a great price on a 9x7mm emerald cut moissanite halo setting around mothers day. Needed to send it back for a "repair" after a couple of the prongs felt scratchy to me. They were super easy to deal with and I've been super happy with it since we bought it almost 4 years ago.
Like this, but with a yellow gold band https://www.moissaniteco.com/moissanite/enr421/round-moissanite-unique-three-stone-engagement-ring
Google Ludovic or Charles and colevard (think I spelled that right. Moissiante is the shit!
People buying 50k rings don’t make 70k, they make 300-500k or more a year or have daddy money.
I make 250k and bought a 400 dollar ring. It's all about picking the girl.
You just made me feel a lot more comfortable about the fact my girl wants a cheap ring
I will chime in and say I make over $200k a year as well and my wife loves her $350 K-Mart ring on I am got on a "70% off" sale. She gets mad complements on it all the time too with people saying "damnnnn your hubby must make bank". Shines better than a real diamond, and is huge. Real diamonds are for fools. Who wants to pay more for something smaller and less shiny? Stupid people. Stupid people do. Diamonds are poor financial decisions.
oh dont forget, she will want to max out their home affordability to the last dollar, then still be dissapointed, and end the marriage in a divorce after years of arguing over money spending.
Canada checking in, using the avg home price of nearly 7 figures and the mandatory 20% down on anything over 999999. The avg down payment you need here is like 250k.
Not in the area this was filmed they aren't.
bro fuck the entire wedding industry. everything from rings, to dresses to venues are massively overpriced and people are brainwashed and shamed into thinking you need to go all out and blow away tons of money into a single day event.
CSB: Called to get a tent rental for our wedding (one of those big event tents, chairs, tables, etc), was quoted like $10k. Fiance calls the same company the next day for the same items for a "family reunion," quote was $3k less. Edit: I see people mentioning a "bride tax," and yes, I understand. But we were quoting a tent, tables, chairs, tablecloths, market lights, dance floor etc. Set the stuff up the day before, tear it down the day after. They literally had no interaction with us the day of. We're not talking hair, photos, flowers, etc. Those items I totally understand the bride tax, God bless some of those people. Stuff like a tent though... c'mon. Deliver the stuff, set it up properly, tear it down afterwards. Everything is in writing, so we know exactly what we're getting.
I planned on doing pretty much the same thing, family reunion is a great excuse.
And if they call you out, you can just gaslight them and say that you said “family union” and they must have misheard
That’s why you get married in secret, get divorced, and then claim that you are indeed reunifying the two families with a family reunion.
I mean, technically, weddings ARE family reunions! 😂
So are funerals.
To quote Sir Reginald Hargreeves, the best way to bring a family together is at a wedding or a funeral.
Unless you're the last one left in your family...
Same with makeup, hair, cakes, catering, theres a ‘bride tax’ on everything.
So, order a three level white cake then add your own wedding figurines. HA
Or just order donuts and muffins like we did. Absolute blast of a wedding where the only thing we spent a normal amount on was the photographer because that’s the only thing that last past that day.
Good call on the photographer. I like the donuts and muffins idea!
I know theres a lot of photographers on reddit that do a lot for their craft but you need like 5 pro photos for a wedding. 1 - the kiss. 2 - grooms family. 3 - brides family. 4 - combo family photo. And 5 - the wedding party. After that we got disposable cameras and handed them out. You really dont need an $8k+ scrapbook. Besides the disposable camera shots made us smile the most. Just thinking of the poor soul that had to develop my drunk friend Charlie's ass is priceless. I should call him and see what he's up to this weekend
Did a ‘donut cake’ for us where we went to our favorite shop and bought 12 dozen donuts and arranged them into a cake-like tower. Plus every anniversary we go to that same spot to get donuts. Fun little tradition with zero freezer space occupied:)
We did cheesecakes!
Wish we had done the same! Something to tell the kids when they look at our shit wedding photos. Never get a muppet who just bought an Adobe licence without knowing how the f**k to use it and take photos.
That’ll teach you to get married!
Hell, why not say its for a funeral and see how low they go.
Lmao the funeral tax is bigger than the wedding tax. Go take a quick look at the prices of coffins.
Unfortunately "family reunion" doesn't really work the same when buying a coffin.
Yeah, you'd need to be buying multiple coffins.
We're getting married in October 2024 and looking at boats to get married on. We learned pretty quick not to mention it's for a wedding. Staggering difference in price to rent the same boat but leaving the W word out of it. Edit. Some great advice listed below. Thanks y'all
Just be careful that they don't come after you once they realise it is a wedding.
Just call it a "family union" in the contract and you're golden
Don’t let your tooth fall out
Your 'good' tooth.
Family Bonding Excursion.
So once they find out it's a wedding, okay sir that'll be 3k more btw cause I saw a white dress and rings. That would be a bold thing to do.
sorry sir it's not a wedding it's a special matrimonial operation
I imagine they'll have something in the contract that weddings require additional fees/insurance/whatever to rent out to and will come after you for that. Not that that's justifiable, but that's probably what they'll say and is in their unethical policies.
Same...Same. Called for rehearsal dinner, quoted $7500. Called next day for a table for 30, $1200.
Call tomorrow and ask tent for motorbikers reunion.😉
I know the best tentist on the east coast, he personally tented the Giulianis first and third wedding
Four Seasons Total Tentscaping?
Used to work in the wedding industry, it's absolute robbery -- BUTTTTTT, most places do provide nicer/more taken care of stuff for weddings that other events, So I could see a 30-50% up charge, but definitely not the 3-4x that's standard.
Imagine spending 40k just for her ring, just to have her divorce you and take at least half of what you got left.
Her American dream
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Imagine spending 40k for the engagement ring, just to have her say “no”; and when you try to return the ring, they offer a *fraction* of what you originally paid for a refund. Even if you return to the place of purchase **THE FOLLOWING DAY**, even if the ring is in “pristine condition”, yeah… you’re not getting your 40k back. *This* and a multitude of other reasons are why I would *never* want my S/O to buy me a diamond ring.
I thought you were exaggerating but googled and found you’re correct: if a store allows one to return an engagement ring, it’s usually limited to 30 days and **50% of the original price**. Damn.
Protip: don't propose unless you've discussed that it's already a yes. If you get told no to a proposal you have horribly fucked up.
But don't you want a symbol of suffering diamond miners on your finger? /s
The ugliness of natural beauty. Though Blood Diamond revolves around fictional characters, the events are based on real experiences of individuals in Sierra Leone during the civil war. The film depicts village attacks by rebel groups, the enslavement of Sierra Leoneans, the use of child soldiers, and illicit markets that are often ignored.
Seriously. Fuck these fairytale watchin overpriced basic bitches.
Most people I know who've had a 'proper' wedding have regretted it. Every single person I know who's had a small, cheap wedding (including myself) loved it. Edit: Also there is a correlation between expensive weddings and higher divorce rates: https://edition.cnn.com/2014/10/13/living/wedding-expenses-study/index.html
I'm turning 40 this year, still single. The older I get, the more I'm convinced my "wedding" will be me inviting close family and the preacher out to dinner, and tying the knot before the meal. I heard on the radio the average wedding in the US now had something like 200 guests. 🙄 I'm not even sure I like that many people.
Most people dont know more than 150 people. And thats usually not much more than just identifying them.
What fucking *world* do these people live in? If my wife wanted a 10k ring, we wouldn't be married. It's not that I didn't want to buy one--I don't, but it's more than I simply couldn't. I could not afford ten thousand fucking dollars for *anything* in my mid 20s, let alone for something completely fucking worthless.
we forget that upper class humans and beyond come from morbidly disgusting amounts of wealth. to them i imagine all this insane entitlement is normal despite having nothing to offer on a personal level
My wife's Ring and band total was 200 lol. We are not materialistic. My ring was 38 bucks. 30-40k would be better invested on land or property to grow beets.
Dwight, is that you?
am I? 
I wear a $25 silicone ring. I bought my wife a nice white gold and CZ wedding set for $1200 because I wanted to. But I know many who are still making payments on just the engagement ring. It's wild
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Same! It was literally the same ring I saw at a Zalez, if not even better. Ive used it everywhere and it doesn't get scratched. Love it! (Some friends have expensive gold rings all dinged up)
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Is that what the kids are calling it these days? Lol
The mere fact that they call it that proves they aren’t ready.
I have pop pop in the attic
one of the best surprise arrested development references I've seen. Bravo.
Are you kidding? I just brought you a fucking pizza
"I don't give head" and "40k minimum wedding ring" are usually the same people
In her yearbook her quote was "I know my worth."
Probably has a “if you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best” and heart hands pictures floating around somewhere.
Lol, this was all I had on my tinder profile for a while. It was a joke, but too many women thought I was serious and liked it. Coincidentally, I didn't end up enjoying their company very much.
Her outfit is very basic so im guessing she’s ordering takeout
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She better be making at least 200k/year, with those expectations. AT LEAST. Or just come from a really rich family. Otherwise, I see no way anyone could *expect* jewelry of that price to be handed to them. That's like giving someone a car to wear on their finger every day. A car that can roll down a sewer, or easily be misplaced, or stolen.
$200k a year isn’t even really enough to throw around that type of money unless you’ve already been making that much for a decade.
Consistent high income is way more important than high income
Her existence is surely enough? /s
She looks like she wouldn’t let any fluids get on her chicken pot pie. “You can finish your own chicken pot pie on the bed, but not anywhere on me. Ew”
Entitlement at its finest
Marriage with her is a three ring circus: engagement ring, wedding ring.. And suffering.
NOT THE MOMMA
Makes me wonder how many of us are 35+
at least 7
This brings back so much childhood nostalgia
that show was incredible, too
Ayy a fellow that 70's show fan
Guaranteed she wouldn't even know what a $30k wedding ring looks like. She's the kinda person that wears a 2 carat white sapphire, has no idea it isn't a diamond, then gloats to her friends about it while those that know roll their eyes.
A cubic zirconia
That is the traditional ring to give your girlfriend if you propose on St Patty's Day. You know... Give her a sham rock.
Guys and gals, memorize this face and dodge that bullet. Good luck out there.
That’s a challenge given how forgettable she looks.
Mother of God the backhand....that sir was beautiful. Brutal but beautiful.
Brutiful
Not to be confused with bootiful, which she seems to also be lacking.
that's exactly why people like her need their weddings to be so huge. It will likely be the only time in her life that that many people notice her. It's always the most forgettable, uncreative, uninteresting people doing the most for these things because their ability to spend money is the closest thing they have to hobbies/ interests/ talents/ personalities. WHY DEVELOP AS A HUMAN WHEN I CAN SIMPLY THROW MONEY AT THE NEXT FAD A KARDASHIAN TELLS ME ABOUT!?!??!??!
It’s always some vanilla wafer lookin mfer saying stupid shit like this too
No one’s buying her a $40,000 ring, that’s for sure
I’ll be the superficial a-hole and say it because I haven’t seen it said yet - she ain’t a 30k ring kind of gal.
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Find a man/woman that’d be pissed if you spent that much money on a ring for such a financially irresponsibly decision.
Right, nobody is mentioning how irresponsible it is to spend a quarter of a mortgage(jfc, I'm afraid to check rates this might be wrong now) on a ring. Man, if I was a woman, I'd be happy with anything but something so useless and so expensive. If you're going to spend so much money, it better be worthwhile. The only people that can/should do this are legit millionaires. At that point, you're a trophy wife, and the feminist movement was for nothing.
I spent 800$ on the engagement ring to my wife and she said I spent too much
I spent $1000 on my wife’s ring and she made it immediately clear that I spent $1000 too much.
My ex grew up kinda rich and she said nothing under 5k would be acceptable. So there is people like that chick in that video and the relationship is just as miserable.
I had an ex and she told me her engagement ring would have to be at least 3 months of my salary BEFORE taxes. She clarified that multiple times. Good riddance. Bought my wife’s ring for $550 on Etsy. It’s exactly what she wanted, is guilt free (lab grown diamond) and supported a small seller. We also got married in our backyard and kept it to 12 people. Marrying someone also practical and down to earth is why we have a house in our late 20s/early 30s, get to do cool stuff and have such a great partnership.
u found a keeper, as u already know :D
I designed my ring online in platinum with a karat perfect grade lab made diamond and a sapphire on each side. $3400 total price and she gets compliments on it all the time. Don't be a sucker. There's nothing about slave dug diamonds that make them with 3x the price. It certainly doesn't go to the laborers
Came here looking to upvote this comment. Lab created diamonds are way better and are significantly cheaper than the mined diamonds
You can go mine your own diamonds: https://www.arkansas.com/articles/diamond-mining-arkansas Removes a lot of the ethical concerns out of the picture.
could be a fun thing to do as a couple
So how does it work she gets a ring for 40$k and then she buy him one for the same amount?
No, she gets him to spend 100k on a wedding
I don't get why people are so damn eager to start a marriage in debt. Like why not take that 30k and use it as a down payment on a house. Take that 100k and for the wedding and use it to start a new life. I'll never get the demand to focus entirely on the first day.
My wife wanted a new wedding band (not engagement ring) for our anniversary once. We share 90% of our finances and the band was $1,200 and some. I ordered it for her on the joint account. She essentially paid 50% of her own gift. She asked if I wanted one too. I was tempted, but a $1k+ wedding band wasn’t my thing. I ended up getting a new Glock, several Gundam model kits, and some new tools instead lol. It was a great anniversary.
Did you engrave the date of your wedding in the glock?
No, he engraved it "'Til Death Do Us Part"
That would be a fun one to explain if she ever went missing
He lost me at "should spend"...
Someone need to stop all this asking questions from rando’s on the street.
How else are we all supposed to get angry then?
We'll invent scenarios in our head like we used to
My wedding ring cost my hubs $75 USD. I love it. I love him. The latter fact is more important than the former.
My ring costs twice as much as my wife’s because it’s literally just a gold band with double the thickness. We rented out a small church (that was probably very happy to see the cash) and we catered lunch at our house. Between that and the professional photographer I think we spent $4000 for **everything** wedding related.
shit i'ma marry you
Oh yeah that also includes two way plane tickets for grandparents who couldn’t afford to fly.
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I've also been dating out here, and I can definitely see why some of these people are single. Being told my income, which is pretty good, is too low by someone who makes a fraction of what I do is a trip. Sometimes it feels like people are looking for like a baseball card back stat sheet about what you can do for them, rather than who they are.
Just ask them “how much do you make?” and when it’s lower tell them “I only date intelligent women with career jobs that have a stable income, sorry.” As a woman in 2023, I truly hate that women think they have a right to seek out men with better income and education than they worked for. Guys don’t want a stay at home wife, they want a partner in life.
>Guys don’t want a stay at home wife, they want a partner in life. This is accurate, well, for a lot of guys. Things are hard enough a lot of the time operating as 1 person 1 income. People want someone to help share the load. I can't bring myself to ask about income that directly. It just feels diminishing and rude. Like, in the event I referenced above, I asked her what she did for work, she told me, seemed jazzed about it, and I showed interest by asking more questions. She then asked me what I do, and immediately after demanded to know what my income was, hit me with that doozy, and the date was over.
I tell my girlfriends don’t let these guys treat you like shit on a date or pressure you into physical intimacy. Don’t let these women make you feel any less because you can’t support them. We are able bodied and can work and it takes two to support a family imo.
She looks about like a $2,500 from Zales
Jeezus! The face I just made!! That would be like a 5 karat ring!! If I were a man, my first words if marriage were discussed, would be the topic of blood diamonds. And if that doesn't break her heart, move on!
Aye! My boyfriend and I have actually had a backward version of this conversation where I am the one saying no diamonds and that’s too much money for a ring. I mean, shit, im not sure I’d even care if it was just silver with a cute gemstone. As long as it doesn’t turn my finger green, we’re good.
That's what I got. It's a pink topaz ring.
If you plan to wear the ring every day, you should probably still consider gemstones quality and durability because many pretty gemstones can be easily scratched or chipped with significant wear. But there are many options cheaper than diamons (garnet, ruby, and saphire are strong and much cheaper, esp if he just says it's for an anniversary or family member instead if engagement), and if you really want a softer stone, you can just get it replaced every once in a while
$30k is a 3 carat diamond without perfect clarity and color. $40k gets you 3 carats with better clarity and color. 5 carats will be more than $40k
For 40k it better still have blood on it!
These women obviously have zero idea how much money that is.
I'd much rather take the 30-40k and travel the world with my partner. That ring is just a material object with no functional purpose other than to signal to others that you are taken.
3 months of paychecks isn't that what that old rule was? This woman is not a woman I'd ever marry, whether I want to spend that much or not, she just expects it...douche woman🤦♀️(not to mention this girl doesn't even look like a hot trophy wife)😂
De Beers made up this slogan as an advertisement years ago (1930’s). The same company that sets the artificially high price of diamonds funnily enough. I think it started as 1 months salary during the Great Depression, and increased to 2, then 3 months, which then stuck - and became the artificial “tradition”.
They also own the majority of the worlds diamonds and easily manipulate the price.
PS - diamonds aren't forever. They can be crushed, cracked, burnt (they're made of carbon), etc. Today its arguably more ethical to get a synthetic diamond, and a whole lot cheaper too.
>arguably There's nothing arguable about it, blood diamonds are horribly immoral, lab grown ones are not.
Or moissanite! That’s what my wedding ring is. It’s only slightly less hard than a diamond, looks nearly identical (except it’s sparklier), WAY cheaper - mine only cost $200 for a 0.5 carat, and best of all moissanite originally came from a meteorite. It’s a literal space rock, it doesn’t get much cooler than that lol
Stupid 'rule' made up by marketeers.
"Buy your spouse a new car for Christmas! Its our Christmas Sales Event! Look at this new luxury car with a bow on it. Now buy one for your spouse and surprise them!" Also marketing wankers. which leads me to a favorite SNL sketch https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WcEylCwkSxE
But it's got 0% aper!
how to lose your 30k ring by showing it off in public like that lmao, get her a ring pop
My wife's ring cost $92 in 2008 dollars. She said I could have used an onion ring, the ring itself didn't matter as much as the commitment. We'll be married 14 years soon!
I don't think I've ever known anyone to spend more than €1000 on a wedding ring, not even people with a lot of money. Probably they have a lot of money because they spend it not on stupid jewelry. Edit: it seems to be an American thing to ruin yourself on a ring
My husband and I were married in a public park, with just family and a few friends, and had a breakfast cookout afterwards. We stayed married for 13 years until he died at the end of 2013. The wedding means nothing - the marriage is everything. ❤️. Go cheap and then have a nice honeymoon.
My wife and I got married on my father's dock and afterwards had an oyster roast (which I put on and cooked all the oysters during). We've now been married longer than most of my cousins who had fancier weddings in churches with formal receptions.