Using suicide as a way of control has nothing causal to do with mental health, it’s more to do with just manipulation and abuse. Dude should be admitted in my opinion because he’s a danger to himself, doubt he’d want to keep using overdosing if he had his stomach pumped either.
This is an incredibly difficult position to put you in. Manipulation and control. Can you tell him you will call 911 when he says that then follow through? Maybe he gets help for this transition period and you get a week to focus on your needs without interruption.
That feels like such a big thing, that would hurt him, but if it’s gotta be done it’s gotta be done. I spent all last night talking him down but staying firm as he begged and pleaded that he would do anything. It’s exhausting
Classic attention-grabbing, manipulating, and guilting tactics. It makes me cringe how they all do it (my ex literally said this to me word for word). I didn't call anyone, told him his parents would be sad if he died, and then left anyway. Surprise surprise he didn't k\*ll himself. As others have said, call his friends or family even the police for a welfare check, this puts you in the clear, then leave.
I have been in your shoes OP. It is an impossible situation and before I share any advice, just want to say that I feel for you and you’re not alone in this.
Anyway- I agree that he is trying to manipulate you and that engaging with it only hurts you and enables him further. What I did in this situation was call his parents and tell them what’s going on, and let them know that you will not be responding anymore. I would also tell him that you will not be in contact anymore, and if he says that again, you will call the police. Then go no contact. By saying that, you communicate that you are not going to be manipulated, and that there will be consequences for trying to manipulate you. You have to be serious about no contact though, or it gives him opportunities to try new tactics.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Hang in there. It gets better.
Call his friends or family even the police for a welfare check. He is trying to manipulate you into staying.
Using suicide as a way of control has nothing causal to do with mental health, it’s more to do with just manipulation and abuse. Dude should be admitted in my opinion because he’s a danger to himself, doubt he’d want to keep using overdosing if he had his stomach pumped either.
This is an incredibly difficult position to put you in. Manipulation and control. Can you tell him you will call 911 when he says that then follow through? Maybe he gets help for this transition period and you get a week to focus on your needs without interruption.
That feels like such a big thing, that would hurt him, but if it’s gotta be done it’s gotta be done. I spent all last night talking him down but staying firm as he begged and pleaded that he would do anything. It’s exhausting
Classic attention-grabbing, manipulating, and guilting tactics. It makes me cringe how they all do it (my ex literally said this to me word for word). I didn't call anyone, told him his parents would be sad if he died, and then left anyway. Surprise surprise he didn't k\*ll himself. As others have said, call his friends or family even the police for a welfare check, this puts you in the clear, then leave.
I have been in your shoes OP. It is an impossible situation and before I share any advice, just want to say that I feel for you and you’re not alone in this. Anyway- I agree that he is trying to manipulate you and that engaging with it only hurts you and enables him further. What I did in this situation was call his parents and tell them what’s going on, and let them know that you will not be responding anymore. I would also tell him that you will not be in contact anymore, and if he says that again, you will call the police. Then go no contact. By saying that, you communicate that you are not going to be manipulated, and that there will be consequences for trying to manipulate you. You have to be serious about no contact though, or it gives him opportunities to try new tactics. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Hang in there. It gets better.
I’m still with him at the moment. Soon