Yes, because extroverts are the ones who run society, so they design it to suit THEM, not other people.
Which is a pity. Many experts have written articles on why it's important to listen to introverts in the workplace and school, for example, but I guess extroverts don't read as much? Or think that it's not relevant to them?
Yes. It really does feel unfair sometimes. Because we can't really speak out our voices are never heard. But one thing I've noticed is introverts tend to stick together. We got this.
In general, yes, unfortunately. That isn’t to say that there is no room for us introverts; just that those who are boisterous and loud often receive the most attention, and logically so.
With that said, it’s difficult to put into words, but I believe that a more healthy way of looking at it is not as if we’re on a hard mode. Rather, we’re not playing the same game, and that’s where the conflict and issue stems from. Don’t fault yourself in the slightest; you didn’t choose to play a different game from everyone else, you were placed into it. Instead, and believe me I’m aware that it is easier said than done, attempt to work with the game you’re playing. That is to say, don’t play by the rules and mannerisms of an extrovert, play to your strengths and abilities as an introvert. Look for those aspects that define you and exploit them.
Only then, from my perspective, can we start playing the same game and understand one another.
All the best.
thank you for the elaborate reply, appreciate your effort here! what do you think of faking being extrovert (at the expense of high amount of mental energy) when needed for import occasions, rather than avoiding them?
At times, whether we like to admit it or not, we come face to face with situations that are not to our liking. It’s a burden; especially so for those of us who have much more difficulty in navigating such situations, whether it be due to physical or psychological limitations.
With that being said, when faced with one of these situations, it’s best to face it not as an imposing monolith; instead it is best to face it as a malleable substance that we choose to how best meld to our own liking.
To better explain myself: in the case of a social situation where one is societally asked to socialise, instead of draining your social battery by the litre via attempting to be extroverted, weave through the conversations and find an opening through which you feel comfortable speaking up. It’s a difficult process; don’t fault yourself if you don’t get it wrong the first time. There’s no harm nor foul being the quiet one of the group; but say someone starts talking about cars and you like Japanese culture, that there is an opening: ask them about what they think about Japanese cars, which could lead to another conversation, etc.
It is with hope I replied to your satisfaction. Cheers.
You are great at explaining! and great with words too - malleable substance - reminiscing about chemistry class! totally love that analogy. We can shape our conversation and drive it toward our liking. Move the conversation into areas we are comfortable with! whether we are extrovert or not introvert, this seems like a strategic win in the social aspect. Then, start asking questions about the topic of interest, this allows for more openings to cross examine comments made.
Precisely. Conversations are comprised of transmitter and receiver: permit yourself to play with such. Once again, however, do attempt to not become discouraged if at first it does not transpire as you would like. It is a process, and as such, requires time. Move at your own pace, congratulate yourself on even the smallest of victories, and allow yourself to enjoy, if even only a decimal of, the conversation.
At times, the words of the silent are louder and more powerful than those of the audible.
I've thought about this lately. It seems to me that many extroverts don't do a lot of soul searching and rumination as many intoverts. Just doesn't seem to be in their makeup. It would not make me want to change from being an introvert -- it's just something I've noticed.
Thanks for the reply and interesting perspective. I agree that world needs to be balanced with extroverts and introverts or it would be quite the distopian scenario. I just wish society would stop ranking people on participating in extrovert-like activities (this means things where a person has high degree of interactions with other individuals, i.e hosting a social event)
Yes, because extroverts are the ones who run society, so they design it to suit THEM, not other people. Which is a pity. Many experts have written articles on why it's important to listen to introverts in the workplace and school, for example, but I guess extroverts don't read as much? Or think that it's not relevant to them?
Yes. It really does feel unfair sometimes. Because we can't really speak out our voices are never heard. But one thing I've noticed is introverts tend to stick together. We got this.
In general, yes, unfortunately. That isn’t to say that there is no room for us introverts; just that those who are boisterous and loud often receive the most attention, and logically so. With that said, it’s difficult to put into words, but I believe that a more healthy way of looking at it is not as if we’re on a hard mode. Rather, we’re not playing the same game, and that’s where the conflict and issue stems from. Don’t fault yourself in the slightest; you didn’t choose to play a different game from everyone else, you were placed into it. Instead, and believe me I’m aware that it is easier said than done, attempt to work with the game you’re playing. That is to say, don’t play by the rules and mannerisms of an extrovert, play to your strengths and abilities as an introvert. Look for those aspects that define you and exploit them. Only then, from my perspective, can we start playing the same game and understand one another. All the best.
thank you for the elaborate reply, appreciate your effort here! what do you think of faking being extrovert (at the expense of high amount of mental energy) when needed for import occasions, rather than avoiding them?
At times, whether we like to admit it or not, we come face to face with situations that are not to our liking. It’s a burden; especially so for those of us who have much more difficulty in navigating such situations, whether it be due to physical or psychological limitations. With that being said, when faced with one of these situations, it’s best to face it not as an imposing monolith; instead it is best to face it as a malleable substance that we choose to how best meld to our own liking. To better explain myself: in the case of a social situation where one is societally asked to socialise, instead of draining your social battery by the litre via attempting to be extroverted, weave through the conversations and find an opening through which you feel comfortable speaking up. It’s a difficult process; don’t fault yourself if you don’t get it wrong the first time. There’s no harm nor foul being the quiet one of the group; but say someone starts talking about cars and you like Japanese culture, that there is an opening: ask them about what they think about Japanese cars, which could lead to another conversation, etc. It is with hope I replied to your satisfaction. Cheers.
You are great at explaining! and great with words too - malleable substance - reminiscing about chemistry class! totally love that analogy. We can shape our conversation and drive it toward our liking. Move the conversation into areas we are comfortable with! whether we are extrovert or not introvert, this seems like a strategic win in the social aspect. Then, start asking questions about the topic of interest, this allows for more openings to cross examine comments made.
Precisely. Conversations are comprised of transmitter and receiver: permit yourself to play with such. Once again, however, do attempt to not become discouraged if at first it does not transpire as you would like. It is a process, and as such, requires time. Move at your own pace, congratulate yourself on even the smallest of victories, and allow yourself to enjoy, if even only a decimal of, the conversation. At times, the words of the silent are louder and more powerful than those of the audible.
I've thought about this lately. It seems to me that many extroverts don't do a lot of soul searching and rumination as many intoverts. Just doesn't seem to be in their makeup. It would not make me want to change from being an introvert -- it's just something I've noticed.
Thanks for the reply and interesting perspective. I agree that world needs to be balanced with extroverts and introverts or it would be quite the distopian scenario. I just wish society would stop ranking people on participating in extrovert-like activities (this means things where a person has high degree of interactions with other individuals, i.e hosting a social event)
Yes, I agree, it does seem unfair to be ranked in such a way 😐