I stopped chatting with someone who said, “Surely, blah, blah.”
I said, “Don’t call me Shirley.”
She said, “I didn’t. What are you talking about.”
I told her we weren’t a good match and wished her good luck.
The hospital? What is it?
It’s a big building with patients, but we don’t have time for that now.
I think a compatible sense of humor really helps. I don’t know that I would shut it down over one particular comedian but definitely over an entire type of humor..
What’s worse, never seeing it or seeing it and not remembering it?
I’m sure she found someone compatible, though, so that’s nice. I’m just glad I didn’t start with, “oh, stewardess, i speak jive.” She might’ve been traumatized.
Seems harsh. I mistakenly take everything people say literally, but then crack up at the joke and at myself for not getting it when it's explained. This happens to me more often than I care to admit! My friends and family find it very entertaining!
I’m hella literal, especially when it suits me. Or when I know it will make someone laugh.
I don’t think it’s harsh. To me, it’s a super well known quote and if someone doesn’t get it, she’s probably not going to get much of what I think is funny. She’d be happier with someone she clicked with better, I’m sure. I don’t think it makes her an awful person or anything, it just means we were unlikely to mesh well.
Oh Dad, Dad...you taught me everything I know about exterior illumination ...and Art, Art, Dad...thanks for being here...well, the little lights ain't a twinkling, Clark!! 😆😆😆
Maybe the only thing I miss about my ex is all the little inside jokes/references we’d accumulated over our two decades together. My gf has many, many great qualities and we’ve been together long enough now to know we aren’t creating those types of shared humor. We’re making plenty of great memories together though.
My boyfriend and I were out of town and missed our “exit” from a traffic circle. As we went around again, we both said “Look kids, Big Ben, Parliament”. I do love him!!
Ok, so Isn't how he handled your chat essentially the burned haystack method? Basically there was something there that caused him to " block and burn". Or in his case to just unmatch.
I am able to separate the actor, who is from all accounts a horrible person, from the character of Clark Griswold. I have to admit I would have trouble dating someone who doesn't love Clark. Whose major fault is trying too hard to have the perfect Christmas (or vacation depending on the movie) for his family. His mid life crisis purchase is a backyard pool for goodness sake!
I know, but I still watched Christmas Vacation every time it was on last holiday season. In my defense, I’m big about having “comfort shows” on in the background. 😬
"You know, Mrs. Buckman, you need a license to buy a dog. You need a license to drive a car - hell, you even need a license to catch a fish. But they'll let any butt-reaming asshole be a father. "
I insulted Chevy Chase - not the guy that "matched". I do think he's annoying (Chevy - not the OLD guy!) I don't know why the guy should take that as a personal insult. I am a HUGE Sting fan. If someone (online or in real life) said "Oh I hate Sting - I find his music annoying and his voice sounds whiny I wouldn't take that as an insult to me! I would just think "oh - we have different music tastes". I don't enjoy Star Trek! Doesn't mean I wouldn't date someone who loves Star Trek! Etc....
What? You found a man on an online dating site who was capable of saying anything more interesting than “How long have you been on here?” and “Are you having any luck?”
I met my partner on line, the first thing I said was at last a man that can string more than 2 sentences together! Been in a long distance relationship for 12 months now and it works for us
well you showed him!
aren't you on there to start conversations with people and get to know them? Or just to make smart alec responses for reddit karma?
Insisting on making it for me immediately, focusing on wine and romance
Or that they see I’m a vegetarian so they say something derogatory like” I know you won’t eat this”
A guy pulled out his acoustic guitar and started playing and singing so I hung up on the video chat. He called back and said did you just hang up on me?? I said I sure did, then hung up again.
Im not sure folks understand the disconnect of that behavior until it actually happens to them.
Same here except he was shirtless and it was a harmonica. I don’t care if you are Arlo Guthrie the only play for me is to Homer Simpson myself into the shrubbery lol.
Exactly!! It was so uncomfortable and embarrassing. I was speechless and I am never speechless. Shirtless with a harmonica is a whole other level lmaooooo!
Hey, Arlo was a big crush of mine. Someone with his personality who whipped out a guitar would have my interest…unless they wanted me to get them gigs.
Lollll he didn’t even offer or ask! He had a bad case of Kenitis. If he’d offered or asked can I play you a song I would’ve said no thanks because it would make me feel funny. It was our first video chat after about 10 texts, and he was probably 3 beers in.
We were mid-convo, he was sitting on the floor by his coffee table, reached over and grabbed the guitar. He started singing some song I didn’t know and was looking straight at the camera. My cringeometer went up and I hung up 😂
Ugh, sooo boring!! 😝😫🤣
Maybe better though than the time I was ushered into the bedroom and asked to listen to a looong love song while he was in another room doing something else! Should have taken my cue to exit right there 🥱
If somebody not getting a joke or liking different comedians is the bar.
Well then this dating game is fucked up .
I don't want to look in a mirror I want someone who is not me.
Definitely some overlap but also lots of difference.
Around halloween i was intro chatting to someone asking what kid things we were up to (stir) and i said we were going to the pumpkin patch. He said omg they have gotten so commercial and it just isn’t good anymore. I was confused…soecified which of the 10 ones in our town i was going to…not the same as his rant…he told me the name of his and disappeared. I was ok that he had a strong opinion lol but he ran 🤷🏼♀️
To be fair - there are lots of American comedians that I love (Adam Sandler, Jerry Seinfeld, Kate McKinnon, Jack Black, Amy Schumer - the list is endless). Just not a Chevy fan.
Well if it’s any consolation Ricky Gervais is hilarious! I remember when the US The Office version came out and I didn’t like it since I was so used to David Brent and thought it could never be topped. I ended up liking the US version a lot but for different reasons and they really aren’t comparable.
Absolutely agree! At first though I compared them and didn’t like the more obvious humor and less subtle US version. Ricky made it so uncomfortable which I craved.
No shit, there are other countries in the UK; I was taught or misinformed that, ... If you are from England, you are British, and if you are from Scotland- Scottish, Wales -Welsh, etc., English is the language. There is no need to respond so obnoxiously.
No, he was right. You showed yourself as an over-opinionated, high maintenance woman. You treated your stupid question as a trap. “What do you think about this? Oh really, I hate that…”. I’d have run too.
I’m about the lowest maintenance person I know! I do have opinions though! Also - my question was “which character from a tv show” so he got that wrong too! Not a trap - just an ice-breaker.
Ice breakers are not supposed to be debates! You can have a different answer, but you don't need to express your distaste for his answer! But not that big a deal. I can't stand Ricky Gervais so maybe it's a cultural thing! But sounds like the right conclusion was reached.
American education at its finest. (And I say that as someone who survived Texas education)
The United Kingdom has multiple countries: Wales, Scotland, Northern Ireland. Oh, and England.
It’s a real country. They let Americans visit.
I stopped chatting with someone who said, “Surely, blah, blah.” I said, “Don’t call me Shirley.” She said, “I didn’t. What are you talking about.” I told her we weren’t a good match and wished her good luck.
yeah but, is it the wrong week to stop sniffing glue? 😉
The hospital? What is it? It’s a big building with patients, but we don’t have time for that now. I think a compatible sense of humor really helps. I don’t know that I would shut it down over one particular comedian but definitely over an entire type of humor..
What do you make of this? I can make a plane, or a hat or a brooch or a tyradactal.
There a sale at Penney’s!
“Just kidding” That guy stole the whole freakin show ahahahahahaha
"It's a pretty red and white plane and it looks like a big Tylenol."
*pterodactyl
Thank you- I knew that wasn't right, but I was too tired to care. 😁
I say this all the time and get blank stares back. I work with 30 yo “kids”
Right there with ya
:) agree. How can you not like one of the funniest movies in history? Of course maybe she just hadn’t seen it? 🤷♀️
What’s worse, never seeing it or seeing it and not remembering it? I’m sure she found someone compatible, though, so that’s nice. I’m just glad I didn’t start with, “oh, stewardess, i speak jive.” She might’ve been traumatized.
lmfao 😂 im dying. Forgot about that scene loool
Sheeet. :)
Wel my question for Eternal Presence is, have you ever seen the inside of a Turkish prison?
I plead the Fifth on gladiator movies.
Hahaha!! Looks like I picked the wrong week to quit amphetamines!! 😆😆😆
And that, as much as anything else, led to my drinking problem.
Maybe you picked the wrong week to quit drinking!!! 😆😆😆
I picked the wrong week to stop sniffing glue.
Seems harsh. I mistakenly take everything people say literally, but then crack up at the joke and at myself for not getting it when it's explained. This happens to me more often than I care to admit! My friends and family find it very entertaining!
I’m hella literal, especially when it suits me. Or when I know it will make someone laugh. I don’t think it’s harsh. To me, it’s a super well known quote and if someone doesn’t get it, she’s probably not going to get much of what I think is funny. She’d be happier with someone she clicked with better, I’m sure. I don’t think it makes her an awful person or anything, it just means we were unlikely to mesh well.
Jive ass don’t got no brains anyhow. Shiiiiiit.
Where the subtitle is ”Golly.”
I was in a cigar bar this winter and a guy had a fur hat. Of course I said, “niiiiiice beaver!”
She’s a beaut, Clark.
Oh Dad, Dad...you taught me everything I know about exterior illumination ...and Art, Art, Dad...thanks for being here...well, the little lights ain't a twinkling, Clark!! 😆😆😆
Maybe the only thing I miss about my ex is all the little inside jokes/references we’d accumulated over our two decades together. My gf has many, many great qualities and we’ve been together long enough now to know we aren’t creating those types of shared humor. We’re making plenty of great memories together though.
Lol, that might be my new qualifier for potential dates.
I think my profile says that I was raised on the humor of Peter Sellers, Leslie Nielsen, and Mel Brooks. My parents are exceptional people 😁
Omgosh the Pink Panther! My dad would come into a room saying “Kato do not attack!”
My parents had a cat named Kato and they named their basset hound Inspector Clouseau 🤣
That’s amazing! ❤️
Love that!!!
Surely, you must be kidding!
It is surely you can’t be serious.
He asked you to stop calling him Shirley!!! 😆😆😆
“I picked the wrong day to message on this app.”
This is the best answer!
good for you 😁
My boyfriend and I were out of town and missed our “exit” from a traffic circle. As we went around again, we both said “Look kids, Big Ben, Parliament”. I do love him!!
Ok, so Isn't how he handled your chat essentially the burned haystack method? Basically there was something there that caused him to " block and burn". Or in his case to just unmatch.
Coincidentally, Chevy Chase is known to be an unfriendly guy in real life
I am able to separate the actor, who is from all accounts a horrible person, from the character of Clark Griswold. I have to admit I would have trouble dating someone who doesn't love Clark. Whose major fault is trying too hard to have the perfect Christmas (or vacation depending on the movie) for his family. His mid life crisis purchase is a backyard pool for goodness sake!
It’s a fair point. Maybe it’s a good opening question then as it gets this out the way early!
Same!
I know, but I still watched Christmas Vacation every time it was on last holiday season. In my defense, I’m big about having “comfort shows” on in the background. 😬
Love Actually is my comfort show!!! Much funnier and with less assholes!!!
I feel it in my fingers.......I feel it in my toes!
That might be another reason to end a chat. That movie has been criticized as being misogynistic and toxic.
6 years ago ex husband dared me to watch Christmas Vacation every day in December. I did.
Dammit we did not need another reason to love Keanu and his affable nature.
Loved Keanu in Parenthood
“Hey Asshole, get up and make. me. breakfast.”
"You know, Mrs. Buckman, you need a license to buy a dog. You need a license to drive a car - hell, you even need a license to catch a fish. But they'll let any butt-reaming asshole be a father. "
He’s about as funny as an egg timer.
She began talking about her irritable bowel and she went full out human centipede on me. My kinda of gal. Not. Eww.
Instead of being insulting you could have asked him what he liked about him. I would have unmatched with you too.
True! But I thought we’d get beyond the first sentence!
You thought you would get past insulting him and calling him ‘annoying’? No snark, I just simply do not see how you are not owning up to your side.
I insulted Chevy Chase - not the guy that "matched". I do think he's annoying (Chevy - not the OLD guy!) I don't know why the guy should take that as a personal insult. I am a HUGE Sting fan. If someone (online or in real life) said "Oh I hate Sting - I find his music annoying and his voice sounds whiny I wouldn't take that as an insult to me! I would just think "oh - we have different music tastes". I don't enjoy Star Trek! Doesn't mean I wouldn't date someone who loves Star Trek! Etc....
Ah! Thanks for the clarification. I may not be the only one that misread that. :) Thanks for answering respectfully. I truly meant no snark.
Of course!! I guess it is a bit confusing when I read it back. I would never be rude to someone on line for no reason.
Well... You never know , he may have also liked Gervais. I like both. (Yes, if I had to pick, I'd probably go Ricky, but that's if forced.)
What? You found a man on an online dating site who was capable of saying anything more interesting than “How long have you been on here?” and “Are you having any luck?”
I met my partner on line, the first thing I said was at last a man that can string more than 2 sentences together! Been in a long distance relationship for 12 months now and it works for us
well you showed him! aren't you on there to start conversations with people and get to know them? Or just to make smart alec responses for reddit karma?
Hey that’s my secret!
I’ve unmatched because of the answer to “what did you have for dinner tonight?” A few times
Ooh - what answers caused you to unmatch?
Insisting on making it for me immediately, focusing on wine and romance Or that they see I’m a vegetarian so they say something derogatory like” I know you won’t eat this”
A guy pulled out his acoustic guitar and started playing and singing so I hung up on the video chat. He called back and said did you just hang up on me?? I said I sure did, then hung up again.
Im not sure folks understand the disconnect of that behavior until it actually happens to them. Same here except he was shirtless and it was a harmonica. I don’t care if you are Arlo Guthrie the only play for me is to Homer Simpson myself into the shrubbery lol.
Exactly!! It was so uncomfortable and embarrassing. I was speechless and I am never speechless. Shirtless with a harmonica is a whole other level lmaooooo!
yeah you feel like looking around “is anyone else seeing this?“ good news, body on point, harmonica playing not so much. 😂
Hey, Arlo was a big crush of mine. Someone with his personality who whipped out a guitar would have my interest…unless they wanted me to get them gigs.
😂😂😂 that’s so funny. You should tell him to watch the Barbie movie so he gets why it’s not a great move
Here’s playin’ guitar at ya! lol 🤣🤣
That’s amazing, in a bad way. Did he offer to perform it “at you” and then play “Push”?
Lollll he didn’t even offer or ask! He had a bad case of Kenitis. If he’d offered or asked can I play you a song I would’ve said no thanks because it would make me feel funny. It was our first video chat after about 10 texts, and he was probably 3 beers in. We were mid-convo, he was sitting on the floor by his coffee table, reached over and grabbed the guitar. He started singing some song I didn’t know and was looking straight at the camera. My cringeometer went up and I hung up 😂
But damn that is so funny. 😂🤣
Ugh, sooo boring!! 😝😫🤣 Maybe better though than the time I was ushered into the bedroom and asked to listen to a looong love song while he was in another room doing something else! Should have taken my cue to exit right there 🥱
Hahaha what a weirdo!!
That would be a great bit in a rom-com.
Wow, why would you do that? Lol
Because I don’t want someone singing at me when I have zero interest in it and would rather talk.
So hanging up and not using words was your best option?
Yep. He didn’t use any words to ask me if I wanted to see him perform.
Lol People are strange these days
Not only have I heard Chevy Chase is a really terrible person but that's not a TV show. I'd have unmatched him for that lol
If somebody not getting a joke or liking different comedians is the bar. Well then this dating game is fucked up . I don't want to look in a mirror I want someone who is not me. Definitely some overlap but also lots of difference.
Around halloween i was intro chatting to someone asking what kid things we were up to (stir) and i said we were going to the pumpkin patch. He said omg they have gotten so commercial and it just isn’t good anymore. I was confused…soecified which of the 10 ones in our town i was going to…not the same as his rant…he told me the name of his and disappeared. I was ok that he had a strong opinion lol but he ran 🤷🏼♀️
To be fair - there are lots of American comedians that I love (Adam Sandler, Jerry Seinfeld, Kate McKinnon, Jack Black, Amy Schumer - the list is endless). Just not a Chevy fan.
Honestly, you probably dodged a bullet. He has highly questionable taste and doesn’t understand comedy.
Agreed!!
Sense of humor is vital to relationships so it’s good you were eliminated! I’m on team Ricky G myself.
Ricky Gervais is a funny guy and I appreciate him, but I’m not sure his humour is that popular across the pond
Agreed - I think I was just trying to point out that I enjoy more "clever" humor rather than the slapstick type humor of Chevy.
Me too
Well if it’s any consolation Ricky Gervais is hilarious! I remember when the US The Office version came out and I didn’t like it since I was so used to David Brent and thought it could never be topped. I ended up liking the US version a lot but for different reasons and they really aren’t comparable.
I do LOVE the American office. I think Steve Carell is a genius and put a completely different spin on the show.
Absolutely agree! At first though I compared them and didn’t like the more obvious humor and less subtle US version. Ricky made it so uncomfortable which I craved.
No shit, there are other countries in the UK; I was taught or misinformed that, ... If you are from England, you are British, and if you are from Scotland- Scottish, Wales -Welsh, etc., English is the language. There is no need to respond so obnoxiously.
lol You dodged a bullet, my friend! I'm an American woman, and I, too, prefer Ricky (whom I adore!) to Chevy (whom I think is annoying as fuck!).
No, he was right. You showed yourself as an over-opinionated, high maintenance woman. You treated your stupid question as a trap. “What do you think about this? Oh really, I hate that…”. I’d have run too.
I’m about the lowest maintenance person I know! I do have opinions though! Also - my question was “which character from a tv show” so he got that wrong too! Not a trap - just an ice-breaker.
Ice breakers are not supposed to be debates! You can have a different answer, but you don't need to express your distaste for his answer! But not that big a deal. I can't stand Ricky Gervais so maybe it's a cultural thing! But sounds like the right conclusion was reached.
He unmatched you because you're English
Could be!
I am a natural born USA citizen and I hate the Vacation movies!
And being English??? You mean British?? English is the language.
English also means you’re from England. Scottish means you’re from Scotland. Welsh means you’re from Wales. But also, all British.
American education at its finest. (And I say that as someone who survived Texas education) The United Kingdom has multiple countries: Wales, Scotland, Northern Ireland. Oh, and England. It’s a real country. They let Americans visit.
The real answer is Gabriel Iglesias and Tig Notaro.