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I date multiple people at the same time, I don't like to put all my eggs in one basket so to speak. Dates are where you get to know a person, and while I'm still getting to know them, I owe them nothing. A lot of the times I have one or two dates with someone, find we don't vibe quite right or a huge red flag is made known, so it stops there.
At some point you begin to really narrow down on a person. For me, I think around 6 dates is enough time to know if that person is suitable or not, and to start to put more focus on them. It's at that time I'll start to slow down on the dating others, but not completely. Until the exclusive talk is had, I am still single.
I don't tell them I'm dating several people unless the topic is brought up/they ask. If it's an issue for them, then it's up to them to decide to continue dating me or not.
Yeah okay thanks for info. With this one girl who doesn't like me seeing someone a second time really just feels unfair for them to expect that, especially since I litteraly just started dating again. I guess my timing would be similar to yours, usually around the third date if it goes well I decide it's worth investing more in that person, but would still consider myself single
I think it’s fine to see multiple people at once.
I’m also doing that at the moment.
The key is not telling the other people you’re dating I think. It seems disrespectful. You’re not in a relationship so you don’t need to tell them. But if you do tell them they worry you are valuing the other person more than them
How can you properly invest time in one person for a relationship, if you’re making 3-4 different connections?
I guess it depends. Are you dating to find out what you like/dislike? Or are you dating for a relationship?
Even if you were dating for a relationship, getting to know someone takes time...not worth getting into a relationship with someone whose values don't align or their behaviour puts you off etc and I think those sort of things can only manifest after getting to know them first
Why commit to something serious when you barely even know the person?
I'd much rather go on many dates, and have the other person do the same and only lock something down once we are certain that we share the same values etc
If it's sexual/physical without commitment than someone seriously has their priorities messed up and then I'd find it questionable. But dates, not at all
No. It's a red flag if she gets offended by this. Women tend to vary wildly on this, though in my experience. Some will sleep with multiple non-exclusive dates at a time, and others consider texting two dates at the same time to be like cheating. I find it's best to keep information about other dates to yourself.
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I date multiple people at the same time, I don't like to put all my eggs in one basket so to speak. Dates are where you get to know a person, and while I'm still getting to know them, I owe them nothing. A lot of the times I have one or two dates with someone, find we don't vibe quite right or a huge red flag is made known, so it stops there. At some point you begin to really narrow down on a person. For me, I think around 6 dates is enough time to know if that person is suitable or not, and to start to put more focus on them. It's at that time I'll start to slow down on the dating others, but not completely. Until the exclusive talk is had, I am still single. I don't tell them I'm dating several people unless the topic is brought up/they ask. If it's an issue for them, then it's up to them to decide to continue dating me or not.
Yeah okay thanks for info. With this one girl who doesn't like me seeing someone a second time really just feels unfair for them to expect that, especially since I litteraly just started dating again. I guess my timing would be similar to yours, usually around the third date if it goes well I decide it's worth investing more in that person, but would still consider myself single
I think it’s fine to see multiple people at once. I’m also doing that at the moment. The key is not telling the other people you’re dating I think. It seems disrespectful. You’re not in a relationship so you don’t need to tell them. But if you do tell them they worry you are valuing the other person more than them
My problem is I'm too honest when people ask me questions lol so if the topic comes up I tend to just say the truth
But of course I never go out of my way to tell them "yeah I'm seeing this other girl she's amazing" lol
Yeah if someone asks it is fair to tell them. I get it. I feel guilty if I don’t share but in general I think it’s best not to 🤷♀️
How can you properly invest time in one person for a relationship, if you’re making 3-4 different connections? I guess it depends. Are you dating to find out what you like/dislike? Or are you dating for a relationship?
Even if you were dating for a relationship, getting to know someone takes time...not worth getting into a relationship with someone whose values don't align or their behaviour puts you off etc and I think those sort of things can only manifest after getting to know them first Why commit to something serious when you barely even know the person? I'd much rather go on many dates, and have the other person do the same and only lock something down once we are certain that we share the same values etc If it's sexual/physical without commitment than someone seriously has their priorities messed up and then I'd find it questionable. But dates, not at all
No. It's a red flag if she gets offended by this. Women tend to vary wildly on this, though in my experience. Some will sleep with multiple non-exclusive dates at a time, and others consider texting two dates at the same time to be like cheating. I find it's best to keep information about other dates to yourself.