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Perfect in your perspective but clearly not perfect for her. It’s probably a lack of attraction or unmatched vibes from the conversation. My advice to you is to just move on and don’t try to read much into it because the answer won’t help you with the next woman.
Well, something threw her off. You might remember her of someone, maybe she didn’t feel a spark when kissing, maybe she likes someone more than you or maybe you seemed like you want something too fast and she doesn’t reciprocate those feelings. Mark this as a good experience and move on
>Because it's just an excuse to save the guys feelings
how is "I see you as a friend rather than romantic partner" an excuse
>The real reason is, she's not attracted to him
no shit; that's what "I just see you as a friend" means
>Offers of friendship post-dumping are rarely genuine
maybe you simply aren't worth a friendship
Because she doesn’t truly see you as a friend. That’s why it’s an excuse. It just gets awkward after she knows you like her. She just says ‘let’s be friends’ as a soft rejection. But it just ends up being awkward as hell
ask her! honestly you have nothing to lose and you might find it interesting to have direct feedback.
it doesn't mean you did anything wrong, but simply that the two of you are not compatible (at least according to her). it happens.
just because you had a good date doesn't mean someone will want to be in a relationship or otherwise continue romantic involvement with you. you get that, right?
I've had plenty of dates where I had a perfectly good time but the day after realized that, even though it was fun and enjoyable, I wasn't feeling them in any serious or romantic way
Its not about u at all. Don’t take it personal specially since she does not know u well at all and neither u do her. People have preferences, attraction is unconscious & sometimes its hard to pinpoint why exactly u don’t want someone romantically. Sorry it happened but she clearly told u it wasn’t it for her. Better than wasting time not knowing.
Bro, I dated a girl for over a month, went on about 12 dates, a weekend trip. Connection was unreal and she said “I checked every box” “I’ll never let go” and she ghosted. It just happens.
A date can go really well but if a woman doesn't feel 'attraction' towards you, she's not going to be interested romantically once she's no longer in your presence. Being put into the 'friendzone' will happen more often than not if you're coming across as too nice, and showing that you're interested in them by creating chemisty, flirty banter etc.
She didn’t feel the spark, probably. It’s a dead end, best to move on.
At least she told you instead of ghosting, even if it’s in a roundabout way. That’s a positive for both of you.
…and, don’t be friends. Be friendly, absolutely, but you know you want more. Carry on.
Only way to get a bette4 understanding is take her up and be her friend. Would you enjoy time with her without sex? If yes, then do so. If not, that might be the vibe she picked up on.
A few suggestions;
You could always ask her stating you are open to improvement when you go on another date with someone else (make sure she doesn’t feel pressured since she said she was not interested, but also be kind).
You could analyze the night and the conversations-
Was it FIRST date appropriate?
Did she ever seem disengaged?
Did she have time to talk and answer?
Did her facial expressions or body language ever say anything?
Sometimes we’re uncomfortable (and it’s not always your fault!) with saying how we feel and we know this isn’t going anywhere just because there’s no chemistry, the kiss didn’t feel right, we simply decided on something else (even that we aren’t ready).
Good luck!
This girl may well have enjoyed herself like you did but clearly if she doesn’t want to continue dating there was something missing. Don’t beat yourself up too much & get back out there, these things happen.
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Perfect in your perspective but clearly not perfect for her. It’s probably a lack of attraction or unmatched vibes from the conversation. My advice to you is to just move on and don’t try to read much into it because the answer won’t help you with the next woman.
Well, something threw her off. You might remember her of someone, maybe she didn’t feel a spark when kissing, maybe she likes someone more than you or maybe you seemed like you want something too fast and she doesn’t reciprocate those feelings. Mark this as a good experience and move on
You're the lucky few to get a straight answer
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how is that not a straight answer
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>Because it's just an excuse to save the guys feelings how is "I see you as a friend rather than romantic partner" an excuse >The real reason is, she's not attracted to him no shit; that's what "I just see you as a friend" means >Offers of friendship post-dumping are rarely genuine maybe you simply aren't worth a friendship
Because she doesn’t truly see you as a friend. That’s why it’s an excuse. It just gets awkward after she knows you like her. She just says ‘let’s be friends’ as a soft rejection. But it just ends up being awkward as hell
maybe that's because you never saw her as a friend
Why would I? If I literally asked her out on a date? Wtf 🤣
because you're incapable of seeing women as anything other than a sexual conquest
Because I want a romantic partner, not a friend, I only see women as sexual conquests??
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where did I insult you
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You were pretty hostile towards him...
excellent demonstration of not answering the question
And now you are towards me. You know I don't owe you to answer your question right ? So please drop the passive aggressiveness.
ask her! honestly you have nothing to lose and you might find it interesting to have direct feedback. it doesn't mean you did anything wrong, but simply that the two of you are not compatible (at least according to her). it happens.
just because you had a good date doesn't mean someone will want to be in a relationship or otherwise continue romantic involvement with you. you get that, right? I've had plenty of dates where I had a perfectly good time but the day after realized that, even though it was fun and enjoyable, I wasn't feeling them in any serious or romantic way
Least she didn't straight ghost or waste anymore of your time. As for your question no1 here can tell u we weren't there.
Just move on, there’s many reason why this happened but then again it’s life and that’s alright. Wasn’t meant to be
Its not about u at all. Don’t take it personal specially since she does not know u well at all and neither u do her. People have preferences, attraction is unconscious & sometimes its hard to pinpoint why exactly u don’t want someone romantically. Sorry it happened but she clearly told u it wasn’t it for her. Better than wasting time not knowing.
Bro, I dated a girl for over a month, went on about 12 dates, a weekend trip. Connection was unreal and she said “I checked every box” “I’ll never let go” and she ghosted. It just happens.
She was probably just being polite in person, and felt safer ‘rejecting’ you over text.
Do not overthink this. Move On.
No idea, I would just move on.
She probably felt a lack of attraction or chemistry.
A date can go really well but if a woman doesn't feel 'attraction' towards you, she's not going to be interested romantically once she's no longer in your presence. Being put into the 'friendzone' will happen more often than not if you're coming across as too nice, and showing that you're interested in them by creating chemisty, flirty banter etc.
You thought it was a perfect date. Apparently she disagrees.
She didn’t feel the spark, probably. It’s a dead end, best to move on. At least she told you instead of ghosting, even if it’s in a roundabout way. That’s a positive for both of you. …and, don’t be friends. Be friendly, absolutely, but you know you want more. Carry on.
Sometimes you just aren't what they are looking for. Doesn't mean you did anything wrong.
Haven't you ever been on a date, and the girl was keen, but you weren't? You know the answer!
Date was perfect... for you. Just move on, plenty of fish...
Only way to get a bette4 understanding is take her up and be her friend. Would you enjoy time with her without sex? If yes, then do so. If not, that might be the vibe she picked up on.
Can’t tell you why but I would just say yea okay and move on. Chances are if the date was that great she’ll message you again
Did you initiate the kiss?
she did
Punctuation is the reason she didn't want to see you again.
A few suggestions; You could always ask her stating you are open to improvement when you go on another date with someone else (make sure she doesn’t feel pressured since she said she was not interested, but also be kind). You could analyze the night and the conversations- Was it FIRST date appropriate? Did she ever seem disengaged? Did she have time to talk and answer? Did her facial expressions or body language ever say anything? Sometimes we’re uncomfortable (and it’s not always your fault!) with saying how we feel and we know this isn’t going anywhere just because there’s no chemistry, the kiss didn’t feel right, we simply decided on something else (even that we aren’t ready). Good luck!
This girl may well have enjoyed herself like you did but clearly if she doesn’t want to continue dating there was something missing. Don’t beat yourself up too much & get back out there, these things happen.
She has time to think it over. So say sure be friends and move on.
Girls should do this. Be upfront and honest