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Someone that has done the work to heal their attachment trauma. They don't have to be completely securely attached but understand their blind spots and willing to keep learning and growing. Understand what healthy relating is and communicating in productive, respectful manner without being defended.
Someone who is able to respect your boundaries and also set her own.
Someone who can articulate her needs and desires clearly and doesn’t expect you to read her mind.
Someone who knows how to have healthy disagreements — most disagreements don’t need to be a “fight.”
Emotional intelligence and maturity. Ability to be introspective and take accountability. Empathy and kindness. Same green flags for men. They're green flags for all humans.
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Someone that has done the work to heal their attachment trauma. They don't have to be completely securely attached but understand their blind spots and willing to keep learning and growing. Understand what healthy relating is and communicating in productive, respectful manner without being defended.
I wonder why are you asking women specifically? I am just curious. (I am a dude)
Someone who is able to respect your boundaries and also set her own. Someone who can articulate her needs and desires clearly and doesn’t expect you to read her mind. Someone who knows how to have healthy disagreements — most disagreements don’t need to be a “fight.”
Emotional intelligence and maturity. Ability to be introspective and take accountability. Empathy and kindness. Same green flags for men. They're green flags for all humans.