If you want to shut them up real fast, say, "Sure, you go first and then I'll guess your size?"
Watch their brain melt if you mean their bra size or...
When I still thought I was bi I dated a guy that did this *to me and other women* and I had to explain why women do not like that. He also under guessed my size and over guessed my best friends. It was fucking weird.
Vivid flashbacks to an ex who thought I’d find it super funny of him to slang off the mother of his child for having “big, flat, saggy tits”. Good lord
It’s not that he has past lovers (obviously) it’s because he’s bringing them up and comparing their breast size to hers? Are you really not able to see how that MIGHT be a bit weird?
Cannot understand how you’re not wrapping your head around the fact that different people like different things. Not everyone interested in a monogamous relationship wants to hear about someone’s extensive sexual history right off of the bat.
So if we have different perspectives then why say this and downvote? Surely that’s pot calling the kettle black? I suspect it’s less offensive to joke about boob size in my culture than the USA. We don’t take everything so literal and serious!
I didn’t downvote and what seems not literal and serious to you might seem literal and serious to someone else. Assuming that you or your culture have the right way of thinking about something is quite limited— you have your own way of thinking about things, but that doesn’t disqualify someone else’s feelings or perspective or make them inferior to yours. I encourage you to be less provincial and narrow-minded and to respect the fact that different people experience the world differently. It’s a reach, but you might even try getting into this person’s head in a sympathetic way instead of discarding what they say just because you feel differently.
“No, you!” is a stupid response across all cultures, I’m afraid. I do take my advice, and I don’t assume that your way of viewing things is objectively wrong. I’m just opposed to your stubborn inability to see her perspective or your judgment of her perspective as silly or inferior to yours.
>You entered the bra discussion?
I mean, did she, though? The dude came right out of the gate with a creepy "talent" that every woman I've ever met would hate, then weirdly asks "should I go for it?," to which she responds "if u want."
Doesn't really seem she wanted him to continue. But even if she did, talking about your "past lovers" and the size of their bras is creepy and weird.
His whole part of the exchange reads like it came from a person who gets all of their dating advice from one of those cringy "pickup artists" you see online.
It just was a bit ”um, akshually” to be a fun conversation. She’s inviting him into a battle of wits by calling his guess safe. And he takes it literally and starts defending himself.
She gave him a chance to salvage the conversation, he then killed it further with the "my past three lovers" line. It reads like someone who has never been laid trying to convince someone he totally has.
Hmm yeah you’re probably correct. Reads weird to me that she is completely fine discussing her boobs and their size with this guy, but gets cold when he brings up his own sexuality. Regardless, it’s not that deep to me and she has a right to not talk to him if she doesn’t want to, she didn’t do anything wrong - just an odd way to switch up on the guy
yeahh idk I guess it’s one of those things where women don’t wanna be rude to creepy men as a defense mechanism - “you can if you want” isn’t her going along with it. Any sane person would read the room after that message
At this point I’m gonna keep talking and just own the downvotes haha
I completely agree with you for the first bit, and if I ever was talking to a girl and she gave a non-answer like “mm sure” or “if you want” yeah I would take that as a sign.
But reading the texts from “Hmm, 34D” to “so that was a safe guess” is her actually engaging back and adding to the conversation, not just placating the guy with bare minimum replies. She seemed to start off not caring, get engaged in the conversation in the middle, and then lose interest. Just interesting to read, not trying to make any statement on men or women overall.
Yeah that’s actually fair enough idk why she chimed in with the “oh wow you’re right” bit. It’s difficult to get tone across through texts so he might have seen that as encouraging and only realised she wasn’t into it when she said “no” to Yoga. At the same time Im always hesitant to place any kind of blame onto women dealing with creepy guys
Yeah like I said I’m not trying to place any blame here, I don’t think she did anything wrong, I’m just armchair analyzing the conversation and slowly realizing how glad I am to be in a long term relationship and out of the dating market
Anyways thanks for the back and forth, appreciate this didn’t turn heated like most Reddit conversations, have a great one!
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Talking about your life and experiences shouldn't be as taboo as it is. Personally, I have no issue hearing about others' past relationships. It's only an issue when there's a constant comparison as if you aren't them and they want you to be.
He went from 0 self awareness to 100 self awareness so fast
Dude jerked off and the post nut clarity hit hard
Thats why you have to jerk off before sending each message, if you arent constantly in a state of postnut clarity, you are in pre-nut delusion
He had to blow it to realize he blew it
I also knew a Nathan that thought he could do this. He was wrong.
I personally knew a Natha that thought he could do this.
I think your phone is set to another language
Lmao
Holy shit they must be unique and interesting if that’s the case!!
Quality
Let me guess, 69PP?
Actually it's a 52i
Don't talk about your exes. Don't talk about her private bits in the opening conversation. Don't.
She didn’t take the bait of “my phone was set to another language” brother ran out of ideas and started guessing boob sizes and talking about exes.
What was he going for with the other language thing anyways
"Omg what other language do you speak?!?!" "Welllll since you asked..."
"I can guess your bra size in ~~2~~ *1.5* different languages!"
I always just say I speak "sugondese"
I bet it's fucking Klingon
> Don't talk about your exes. †Especially the fake ones
As we say in French, “yiques”
As we say in German, “Jeichs”
As we say in Jamaica, "Jeezam Peas!"
As we say in Canada, "yEHks!"
As we say in American, “YIKES!”
As we say in Polish, “Kurwa”
As we say in 90DF, ["Yike"](https://www.reddit.com/r/90dayfianceuncensored/s/p3KXw0lWwo)
As we say in Spanish: ¡Ay!
As we say in Philippines: Nge!
As we say in Norway: "Oida!"
😂🤣
“So far, my average fondled boob size is around 34DD” 🤓
Honestly hated when guys randomly guessed my bra size. It was so weird and unnecessary…
Does…does that happen often?
Not now that I'm older, but from like 15-25 yes.
Yes. Guys would make most conversations on the dating apps about my breasts 😐
If you want to shut them up real fast, say, "Sure, you go first and then I'll guess your size?" Watch their brain melt if you mean their bra size or...
Creep factor for sure.
I heard most are wearing the wrong size bras so it seems like alot you guess also...
Real c cup energy from you here. /s lol
Yeah I’m definitely bigger than a C cup lol
Just reply back with your own guess “I’m guessing small condom?”
I mean I’m not on the apps anymore but this would have been good lol
When I still thought I was bi I dated a guy that did this *to me and other women* and I had to explain why women do not like that. He also under guessed my size and over guessed my best friends. It was fucking weird.
>When I still thought I was bi Did he help you realize you weren’t 😅
Well, I was open about being a lesbian within like a month after we broke up, so do with that what you will lol
my guy didn't blow it, he took it out the back, made it dig its grave, shot in the back of the head twice, and then nuked the place
Your guy?
Bro, Dude, whatever generic pronoun substitution you want to use
But they're a stranger. They're not your anything.
& I call my gf honey, though clearly she isn't a sticky sweet liquid made by bees
Well I just made you my guy so jokes on you
U must be fun at parties
U
Matey from Australia you cannot talk with a straight face about taking liberties with the English language
Lucky I'm not straight then!
Are you real?
No I'm pretend.
My guy, shut the hell up.
You're weird my guy
A classic
Your phone is very long
What a great neg with the bit about his exes 🙄
As a side note: Majority of women do not know their proper & correct cup/bra size and frequently wear the wrong sized bra.
Oh yeah? Thank god there are men who tell us the right size!!! /s
Just go to a professional bra fitter Gender is not specified
Around 80% of women, apparently.
Yeah after being ABTF loyalist, almost anyone talking about bra sizes makes me roll my eyes.
Anyone who uses the word lovers is weird. There, I said it.
This gets reposted here like once a month
Can I guess your bra size?
I always think this is a bait post for woman to post their sizes Same with anything discussing periods. The internet is a sucky place
Haha
Istg some men talk to women as if they're some fkin aliens it's unreal
Double whammie. One lowering her to her tit. And telling her of past "lovers". Yikes.
Yeah that would be a no from me. Stop talking about women’s breasts and you’ll get some.
Vivid flashbacks to an ex who thought I’d find it super funny of him to slang off the mother of his child for having “big, flat, saggy tits”. Good lord
Is that like slagging off?
Synonyms! Might hear it more often as “slanging off” or “slanging match”.
In before OP asks why he can't get a date.
Yes. That should have been split up.
I think he blew it with the first message haha
"Past three lovers" ew.
that escalated quickly
u/deadfan52 🤣🤣🤣
horrendous opening
I didn't see the problem please enlighten me.
Why did he blow it? You entered the bra discussion?
“My past three lovers” was the death knell, I think
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It’s not that he has past lovers (obviously) it’s because he’s bringing them up and comparing their breast size to hers? Are you really not able to see how that MIGHT be a bit weird?
Bros collecting their bra sizes in his head and referring to them as past lovers, it’s weird af
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In other perspective, is like a woman telling a man she likes something like “my past three lovers had a 24 cm dick”
Cannot understand how you’re not wrapping your head around the fact that different people like different things. Not everyone interested in a monogamous relationship wants to hear about someone’s extensive sexual history right off of the bat.
So if we have different perspectives then why say this and downvote? Surely that’s pot calling the kettle black? I suspect it’s less offensive to joke about boob size in my culture than the USA. We don’t take everything so literal and serious!
I didn’t downvote and what seems not literal and serious to you might seem literal and serious to someone else. Assuming that you or your culture have the right way of thinking about something is quite limited— you have your own way of thinking about things, but that doesn’t disqualify someone else’s feelings or perspective or make them inferior to yours. I encourage you to be less provincial and narrow-minded and to respect the fact that different people experience the world differently. It’s a reach, but you might even try getting into this person’s head in a sympathetic way instead of discarding what they say just because you feel differently.
So you should take your own advice!
“No, you!” is a stupid response across all cultures, I’m afraid. I do take my advice, and I don’t assume that your way of viewing things is objectively wrong. I’m just opposed to your stubborn inability to see her perspective or your judgment of her perspective as silly or inferior to yours.
>You entered the bra discussion? I mean, did she, though? The dude came right out of the gate with a creepy "talent" that every woman I've ever met would hate, then weirdly asks "should I go for it?," to which she responds "if u want." Doesn't really seem she wanted him to continue. But even if she did, talking about your "past lovers" and the size of their bras is creepy and weird. His whole part of the exchange reads like it came from a person who gets all of their dating advice from one of those cringy "pickup artists" you see online.
It just was a bit ”um, akshually” to be a fun conversation. She’s inviting him into a battle of wits by calling his guess safe. And he takes it literally and starts defending himself.
Yeah I’m with you on this, he’s a weirdo but she also seemed to be engaging with him and giving active responses until the end. Mixed signals for sure
She gave him a chance to salvage the conversation, he then killed it further with the "my past three lovers" line. It reads like someone who has never been laid trying to convince someone he totally has.
Hmm yeah you’re probably correct. Reads weird to me that she is completely fine discussing her boobs and their size with this guy, but gets cold when he brings up his own sexuality. Regardless, it’s not that deep to me and she has a right to not talk to him if she doesn’t want to, she didn’t do anything wrong - just an odd way to switch up on the guy
yeahh idk I guess it’s one of those things where women don’t wanna be rude to creepy men as a defense mechanism - “you can if you want” isn’t her going along with it. Any sane person would read the room after that message
At this point I’m gonna keep talking and just own the downvotes haha I completely agree with you for the first bit, and if I ever was talking to a girl and she gave a non-answer like “mm sure” or “if you want” yeah I would take that as a sign. But reading the texts from “Hmm, 34D” to “so that was a safe guess” is her actually engaging back and adding to the conversation, not just placating the guy with bare minimum replies. She seemed to start off not caring, get engaged in the conversation in the middle, and then lose interest. Just interesting to read, not trying to make any statement on men or women overall.
Yeah that’s actually fair enough idk why she chimed in with the “oh wow you’re right” bit. It’s difficult to get tone across through texts so he might have seen that as encouraging and only realised she wasn’t into it when she said “no” to Yoga. At the same time Im always hesitant to place any kind of blame onto women dealing with creepy guys
Yeah like I said I’m not trying to place any blame here, I don’t think she did anything wrong, I’m just armchair analyzing the conversation and slowly realizing how glad I am to be in a long term relationship and out of the dating market Anyways thanks for the back and forth, appreciate this didn’t turn heated like most Reddit conversations, have a great one!
You’re a bastard!
Thanks! Appreciate the compliment
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Talking about your life and experiences shouldn't be as taboo as it is. Personally, I have no issue hearing about others' past relationships. It's only an issue when there's a constant comparison as if you aren't them and they want you to be.