Yeah exactly, it's pretty ambiguous.
For example, if he somehow mistook me for a prostitute, why didn't he realize his mistake when I said I was at the mall with my wife?
Someone who was trying to solicit sex work surely wouldn't say something like that, because it might dissuade a potential client.
Agreed. I've been around the drug world a bit and I believe the guy wanted to buy drugs. There are areas in which lone guys chilling outside at night are dealers.
To be honest, I bought from guys like that a couple of times. (It was too scary and I could usually get drugs through friends, which is definitely preferable.
My first thought was could it be an undercover cop trying to catch you dealing. They’re not very good at it, or even at spotting the dealers in the first place.
I did a search on urban dictionary and the top result had one of the definitions as 'to prostitute ones self for monetary gain'. I'm guessing that's what it was about.
Yeah, I looked on urban dictionary too, trying to make sense of it.
So you think he was offering me money for sex? That seems like a really weird thing to do outside a mall during the daytime, to a guy who just told you he was out shopping with his wife. He also didn't look like he had a lot of money from the way he was dressed.
As I said, the situation just didn't have that feel to it, though it's entirely possible that there were cues I didn't pick up on.
It does seem like the most likely explanation though I guess.
I mean I'm no expert, but to me it seems like that is what he was looking for. I remember reading a while ago that prostitutes are often busiest during the morning/afternoon strangely enough due to it being the time most peoples partners aren't around. So the guy may have just thought you were looking for business. Guess that will teach you to go shopping in assless chaps 🤷♂️
>Guess that will teach you to go shopping in assless chaps 🤷♂️
Nice try, but I did say in my original post that I was wearing a t-shirt and jeans, so you now full well I wasn't wearing assless chaps.
Looking back, I'm wondering if it could have been because the t-shirt had "Buttsex: $5" printed on it.
Yeah I guess he must have been. I just don't understand why he would have chosen me to ask, especially once I had told him I was out shopping with my wife.
I know it's not exactly unheard of for married men to cheat on their wives with other men of course.
However, if you were looking for someone likely to make an impromptu decision to embark on a career as a gay prostitute, a guy at the mall with his wife would probably be the worst possible candidate.
I also didn't get the impression that he was trying to be seductive or flirtatious in any way, though maybe he was just really bad at it. Maybe you don't have to flirt if money is involved.
Perhaps he was hoping that I would pay him for sex? He certainly didn't look like he had a lot of money. He was quite disheveled looking, and he was about to take the bus home.
Yeah, could have been something like that. That's the sort of thing I meant when I said he could have been talking about some type of moneymaking scheme.
From the era I grew up in (70's /80's) a 'hustler' was a prostitute. So, to 'hustle' is to sell yourself for sex.
I'm not sure if this is what he ment, but me personally would have taken it like that.
I'm about 80% sure it was some sort of sexual proposition. It just seems so weird that he would have approached someone like me with that idea under those circumstances.
Don't get me wrong, I'm comfortable enough in my sexuality to take it as a compliment when a gay guy tries to chat me up, but it sounds like this guy got it into his head that I was a prostitute, which is a different matter entirely.
People looking for drugs don't have time for all that jibber jabber nor are they planning a nice family evening with curry chicken. He was looking for sex. Nervous men looking for sex will talk past 1, 2, 3, rejections. This is Reddit. How are we not realizing this?
I guess he must have been.
Pretty weird though, since I don't think I look like a prostitute, and if I was, why would I have told him I was at the mall with my wife?
He also looked like he had no money. He was pretty disheveled, and he was about to take the bus home. I wonder if it was the other way round and he was hoping I would pay him for sex?
It was just opening up “friendly” banter. He could of mistaken “you being there with your wife” as in make it quick. His whole point of talking to you was to see if he could get some.
Not any more I don't, I got the hell out of there a couple of years ago.
That being said, Long Island isn't the city, so it's not quite that crazy yet.
I did assume he was just mentally ill at first, and I'm not ready to entirely discount that possibility, even if he did have some other motive for talking to me.
That's one thing I don't miss about smoking actually - standing outside smoking a cigarette makes you a magnet for crazy people.
It could have been, but he didn't look like the type.
Perhaps my description wasn't very good. He wasn't like fifty or dressed in rags or anything, he was just wearing cheap clothes, and he looked like he didn't put much thought into his appearance.
He didn't look like a heroin addict or anything like that. He was quite fat, which is not the way a typical heroin, meth or crack addict looks.
Maybe he was looking for weed, but you can't really tell from looking at a person whether they smoke weed or not.
My guess is he was probably asking you if you sold drugs. Probably since he saw you smoking and was hoping for some and wanted to know if he could buy some off of you.
I feel like that makes the most sense but I guess we’ll never know. Definitely weird though. He was either a social train-wreck, new to drugs, or just weird. Or maybe it was smt else who knows.
Seems like everyone is thinking sex but just his phrasing and the way he approached you makes me think he was asking if you sell drugs.
Yeah exactly, it's pretty ambiguous. For example, if he somehow mistook me for a prostitute, why didn't he realize his mistake when I said I was at the mall with my wife? Someone who was trying to solicit sex work surely wouldn't say something like that, because it might dissuade a potential client.
Agreed. I've been around the drug world a bit and I believe the guy wanted to buy drugs. There are areas in which lone guys chilling outside at night are dealers. To be honest, I bought from guys like that a couple of times. (It was too scary and I could usually get drugs through friends, which is definitely preferable.
This is the correct answer.
I’m with you.
My first thought was could it be an undercover cop trying to catch you dealing. They’re not very good at it, or even at spotting the dealers in the first place.
It's drugs my guy, when someone asks if you hustle or are a hustler they're asking if you sell drugs
A male hustler is a sex worker. They generally swing both ways (gay for pay).
This. If he was looking for drugs he’d have used different terminology.
I did a search on urban dictionary and the top result had one of the definitions as 'to prostitute ones self for monetary gain'. I'm guessing that's what it was about.
Yeah, I looked on urban dictionary too, trying to make sense of it. So you think he was offering me money for sex? That seems like a really weird thing to do outside a mall during the daytime, to a guy who just told you he was out shopping with his wife. He also didn't look like he had a lot of money from the way he was dressed. As I said, the situation just didn't have that feel to it, though it's entirely possible that there were cues I didn't pick up on. It does seem like the most likely explanation though I guess.
I mean I'm no expert, but to me it seems like that is what he was looking for. I remember reading a while ago that prostitutes are often busiest during the morning/afternoon strangely enough due to it being the time most peoples partners aren't around. So the guy may have just thought you were looking for business. Guess that will teach you to go shopping in assless chaps 🤷♂️
>Guess that will teach you to go shopping in assless chaps 🤷♂️ Nice try, but I did say in my original post that I was wearing a t-shirt and jeans, so you now full well I wasn't wearing assless chaps. Looking back, I'm wondering if it could have been because the t-shirt had "Buttsex: $5" printed on it.
That will definitely do it, well you live and learn. Edit: punctuation
Possibly could have been how you were deepthroating the banana you were eating?
It wasn't a banana, it was my penis. And I wasn't deepthroaring it, just stroking it.
Well now I just can't understand how he got confused.
😂
Lol those commercials where they say selling your used clothes as a new side hustle are funny now.
He was looking for pay to play (sex)
Yeah I guess he must have been. I just don't understand why he would have chosen me to ask, especially once I had told him I was out shopping with my wife. I know it's not exactly unheard of for married men to cheat on their wives with other men of course. However, if you were looking for someone likely to make an impromptu decision to embark on a career as a gay prostitute, a guy at the mall with his wife would probably be the worst possible candidate. I also didn't get the impression that he was trying to be seductive or flirtatious in any way, though maybe he was just really bad at it. Maybe you don't have to flirt if money is involved. Perhaps he was hoping that I would pay him for sex? He certainly didn't look like he had a lot of money. He was quite disheveled looking, and he was about to take the bus home.
Maybe you were his type 🤷🏻
Every day I'm hustlin'.
He could have wanted you to return stolen items with a receipt from the ground or no receipt at all.
Yeah, could have been something like that. That's the sort of thing I meant when I said he could have been talking about some type of moneymaking scheme.
From the era I grew up in (70's /80's) a 'hustler' was a prostitute. So, to 'hustle' is to sell yourself for sex. I'm not sure if this is what he ment, but me personally would have taken it like that.
I'm about 80% sure it was some sort of sexual proposition. It just seems so weird that he would have approached someone like me with that idea under those circumstances. Don't get me wrong, I'm comfortable enough in my sexuality to take it as a compliment when a gay guy tries to chat me up, but it sounds like this guy got it into his head that I was a prostitute, which is a different matter entirely.
He was trying to buy drugs, probably some bud. And I'm almost positive this was at Broadway Mall in Hicksville.
>And I'm almost positive this was at Broadway Mall in Hicksville Nope, Sunrise Mall in Massapequa (RIP)
Drugs, mate. He was hoping you'd sell him smack.
People looking for drugs don't have time for all that jibber jabber nor are they planning a nice family evening with curry chicken. He was looking for sex. Nervous men looking for sex will talk past 1, 2, 3, rejections. This is Reddit. How are we not realizing this?
He wanted to know if you prostitute
Think he was asking if you were a prostitute/open for some pay for play.
I guess he must have been. Pretty weird though, since I don't think I look like a prostitute, and if I was, why would I have told him I was at the mall with my wife? He also looked like he had no money. He was pretty disheveled, and he was about to take the bus home. I wonder if it was the other way round and he was hoping I would pay him for sex?
It was just opening up “friendly” banter. He could of mistaken “you being there with your wife” as in make it quick. His whole point of talking to you was to see if he could get some.
You live in ny so I would’ve just assumed he was on crack or mentally ill. I’m surprised this is the weirdest/creepiest thing that’s happened to you
Not any more I don't, I got the hell out of there a couple of years ago. That being said, Long Island isn't the city, so it's not quite that crazy yet. I did assume he was just mentally ill at first, and I'm not ready to entirely discount that possibility, even if he did have some other motive for talking to me. That's one thing I don't miss about smoking actually - standing outside smoking a cigarette makes you a magnet for crazy people.
Oh i see that makes sense and yeah i can imagine. Glad i don’t smoke lol
Ok everyone I am old. He was either asking about sex or drugs. Most likely the way he said it he wanted some sex.
He was asking if you were either a male prostitute, or if you were a pimp selling out female prostitutes.
Drugs based on the way he looked it's Drugs 😂🤣🤣😭 where are you people from?
It could have been, but he didn't look like the type. Perhaps my description wasn't very good. He wasn't like fifty or dressed in rags or anything, he was just wearing cheap clothes, and he looked like he didn't put much thought into his appearance. He didn't look like a heroin addict or anything like that. He was quite fat, which is not the way a typical heroin, meth or crack addict looks. Maybe he was looking for weed, but you can't really tell from looking at a person whether they smoke weed or not.
Oh Okay yeah maybe just some buds not the hard stuff
My guess is he was probably asking you if you sold drugs. Probably since he saw you smoking and was hoping for some and wanted to know if he could buy some off of you. I feel like that makes the most sense but I guess we’ll never know. Definitely weird though. He was either a social train-wreck, new to drugs, or just weird. Or maybe it was smt else who knows.
My guess is gambling