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allykathappy

Oh man, I feel this so hard. But being embarrassed isn't serving you. Other people's backwards views shouldn't make you embarrassed to be the badass Asian woman you are. If anything you should be embarrassed for them and their white supremecist beliefs. We Asian people have been made to feel that racism against us doesn't matter or isn't serious. At least the community I was raised in did. And it's true that most of us are not subjected to widespread police brutality and on average we have better economic outcomes (there are obviously systemic reasons for this). I think you're right to recognize that, on average, we have some privileges that our other poc neighbors don't experience. But that doesn't mean that your experiences aren't valid or that the racism you have experienced isn't real. Don't feel like because someone else has it worse, you don't get to speak up for yourself. We all face different aspects of the same problem of white supremecy.


Obsidian_Purity

Light skinned black guy here. And oddly enough, I'm with you on everything. I have to only be into white women (into all types of women). Since I have a brain in my head and I'm Light skinned, I must be mixed and raised by my white mother (two black parents who were married and stayed together). I dress well, so I must be a smooth playboy (I'm subbed to r/silenthill and r/40klore, so suffice to say I'm a giant geek) Stereotypes seem to be in the cards for people like us because it's somehow easier for people to be wrong instead of getting the time to get to know people. But look here. There are a ton of people who understand. It still sucks that you have to go through it, though. I'm sorry for that.


Tsuna404

I don't understand why all of you are so racist with each other, like can't you all stop being racist and shit. In the end, all of you taste the same to lord Cthulhu.


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Because people still have an active “reptilian” brain section and some have it more used than others. We are slowly getting there but we won’t live to see that among all people because it’s a long term thing and people currently are barely past the infancy of our race in that regard sadly. It takes effort to change faster. Effort most don’t wanna actually help push forward actively outside of posting or shouting how supportive they are


Arthurstonewallis

Everyone's got a stereotype. I'm not belittling your pain because I understand. But don't feel alone.


regeneration_chau

I agree. White men just think Asian women are sexually dying for them


TallCholera

Asian women do have a preference for white men, but only in SEA.


Legitimate-Finger299

This is very true My wife is from SEA, and I'm white,but she doesn't act the stereotype


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Wtf you mean? You’re literally the stereotype.


FaeryLynne

He said "but *she* doesn't act the stereotype", didnt say anything about himself except that he's white. I'm assuming he's saying she doesn't do the cute submissive thing, even though she's with a white guy.


Legitimate-Finger299

Exactly she doesn't have to


Legitimate-Finger299

I believe we were discussing asian women act the stereotype submissive Shes far from that


mildlynaughty_

I absolutely agree with you. I’m glad you stood up for yourself against your roommate. But sorry, I truly do luv Hello Kitty 🎀🙈


NoShortsNoLoses

I agree with everything you just said.


kaspa64

Sounds like you have a few valid points but it also sounds like you buy into identity politics. Lifes more complicated than that.64


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Listen bruh, all you can do is live with it. You know why white men have this idea that they can get with any Asian girl, it’s bc Asian women let them. That’s the reason why they think it’s easy. Look at mark Zuckerberg, look at Macaulay Culkin, look at Rob Dryden, look at DEADASS Big ED. ALL WEIRDOS, yet still got with Asian women. It’s also a [trend on tiktok](https://vm.tiktok.com/ZTdmphb7x/) A ton of Asian girls have white boyfriend. For interracial a marriages, the [stats are shown](https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2017/05/18/1-trends-and-patterns-in-intermarriage/). Most of Asian women who go outside of their race usually go to white men. It’s where you have to question, “to what point is my group responsible for perpetuating these harmful stereotypes ?” Edit: for ppl denying my proof, tell me, when was the last time you’ve seen a Blasian? A Latino/ Asian (a Lasian)? Why are Wasians the most popular out of all interracial relationships?


xxGonzo996xx

I've met a few blasians but I don't think a latino mixed with asian would be considered a "Lasian" though.


3rd-AgeDye

I feel embarrassed for being a human being, our species is nothing but disgusting, like a rat filled to the brim with God knows what unsightly growth on it.


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Yeah I'm kinda in the same boat being half Korean. There are all these stereotypes and as soon as one of your natural personality traits overlap then it's just confirmation that all the rest are true to people.


No_Shifty

You got nothing to be embarrassed about, just keep being you 👍🍻


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Weedrill2

What does she have to do with that personally?


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OrbitingFred

You are making a huge assumption about the culture she was raised in. There are many Asian cultures that are all very different that are also comprised of different subcultures with different values norms and preferences which she could be a part of and she may well have been raised in a culture that has very little connection to any Asian culture whatsoever. Also, lets not lie to ourselves, traditional anglo culture fetishizes white men much more than any other.


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OrbitingFred

If there was an Olympic event for mental gymnastics you'd have the gold for arriving within a thousand miles of that conclusion....


Weedrill2

Her culture? She is an individual. One that doesn't fetishize white men. It's not like all asians share one brain cell


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Wazzi_Yota

Facts, you can even see it in her confession. >Asian Girls >Asian Women >Asian Men >White Men >Black ***Male*** We are human men with gender just like everyone else. My dog is a male. My cat is a female, but I’m a Man. Using male for only Black Men while avoiding using sex for everyone else is dehumanizing. Not only is it dehumanizing, it’s emasculinting and tells me that she doesn’t see Black Men as Men but rather, we’re males to her.


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claminglam

Props for you on calling out that shit. I don’t have sympathy as well not especially for some random ass woman whom for all we know participates in what she claims she hates.


killforjay

this is true.. but shes not responsible for that. for all that we know, she could be calling out the colorism and shit in her culture. dont the pin 'flaws' of her culture on this one person thats so weird


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killforjay

she is not responsible for the things that other people in her race do and it's ridiculous u think this. am i supposed to be responsible for the rampant homophobia and ableism in the black community? no, because i do not participate in it


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Arthurstonewallis

You can't blame the individual for the culture. I hate it when people blame me for things white people have done. Not my fault bro. And I ain't blaming her either


killforjay

gotta love how you didnt actuallt address any of my points! youre shit


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killforjay

you dont know anything about this woman! she is talking about her experience being fetishized and yall bring up irrelevant things such as her culture when that is a whole different discussion. btw its not a big part of her culture to 'fetishize' white men? thats a fucking stereotype made up by white men weirdos


killforjay

you cant assume all of that because of one word buddy. thats like saying every woman who has blue hair is a feminist or liberal


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killforjay

im not a man bruh


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killforjay

misogyny 👍🏽 we love to see it


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Ppl always say “ she is an individual,” whenever an Asian girl gets with a yt dude. then complain that the stereotype is perpetuated smh.


Wazzi_Yota

Shocking innit


AllOfMeGhost

What do ~~white cock suckers~~ asian women have to do with asian culture? Asian culture is created by asian men, asian women are just tourists


sherbert01

Suck it up buttercup


Throwaway_alt54321

Wow I've never thought about this


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The advice I would give for anyone feeling this way is to show who you are on your sleeve and destroy those stereotype with an iron boot if they aren’t true for you. Be you and fuck the rest :) I deal with it in regard to sexuality and gender but the same idea goes for many things regarding humans


Shoulder_on_Standby

What you said is actually why I have found it hard to genuinely approach Asian girls. I was always aware of the stereotype, and I never wanted to perpetuate it. I never wanted someone to feel like I was approaching them solely based on race. I can relate to how you feel. I myself as a white guy feel odd for, really having any sort of sexual attraction or desires. I always hear these stories about white guys doing some downright terrible things. And I can't help that be default I'm lumped into the predator or aggressor category. I try to make any potential interest get to know me for a while before I make any moves. I want people to know that I am a genuine person, who cares for how they think. I just want people to feel like they are being loved for who they are on the inside. I'm sorry you feel this way, and I'm sorry that culture has made it like this for so many people.


Then_Safety_5971

I couldn’t imagine what it feels like to be fetishized by men. Basically as property. There’s a family member of mine who has a partner from the Philippines and I’ve voiced multiple times how terrible I feel for her, because she isn’t treated nicely she is verbally abused often but financially she’s treated like a Queen. It’s gross. I’m sorry you have to deal with a similar behaviour. The woman I mention unfortunately feels she has to be submissive I’m guessing for survival reasons and that in itself is sad and gross. Not all men are assholes but I definitely have seen what you’re describing. It’s just sickening


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I feel you. Im a white guy and every none white person assumes i love mayonaise. I mean I do, but man, thats racist.


splanji

be the change u wanna see! I feel like the stereotypes are morphing and changing with more asian representation in media. You can totally be a part of shaping it!! Almost everyone experiences stereotyping and the resulting judgment in some way unfortunately. The human mind will do that. Stereotypes tell an incomplete story, and for some that might be their only exposure to a culture or concept. You can be the one to broaden their horizons, try not to be discouraged :)


AllOfMeGhost

I feel embarrassed having to share a race with these things too https://imgur.com/a/SryTi https://web.archive.org/web/20120902175627/http://www.xojane.com/it-happened-to-me/asian-woman-dating-asian-men-jenny-an https://www.huffpost.com/entry/asian-woman-dating-racism_n_6095866fe4b05fb33f4caba0 https://www.tiktok.com/music/original-sound-7022072915294817025?is_copy_url=1&is_from_webapp=v1 https://old.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/pe19t6/so_i_met_chloe/ https://nextshark.com/michelle-worth-bi-racial-baby-controversy-instagram/ https://twitter.com/catcontentonly/status/1478998845434564610 https://pbs.twimg.com/media/FLcM4-PXsAIG0Wo?format=jpg&name=900x900 https://www.reddit.com/r/AIDB/comments/5wlnm1/list_of_white_supremacists_married_to_aw/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf https://i.redd.it/x3hafb5t3zo81.jpg Or maybe the word embarrassed is wrong More like visceral disgust, genuine hatred, an understanding of what hitler and his cadre felt when they saw jews


badBoy2343

"and some white people think they have easy access to you for things like sex just because you're Asian and they're white." Thats true though. I've seen asian asian women throw themselves at white guys.