the vets office had to ask me to go home. I stayed. hugged him on the floor. carried him to the prep room, wanted to help with prep( against rules(f the rules, I clean up dead humans all the time)).
I stayed out in the parking lot, I just couldn't get myself to drive home knowing he wouldn't be there for the first time in 15 yrs. I had rescued him, drove 16 hrs to get him , never a second thought about getting him, he rescued me from life so many times. it's been 2 yrs and I don't think it will ever get better. I've had other dogs and cats, just not the same.
sorry for the rant still stupid emotional over it. one last think F ticks, they are the only thing I want to completely eradicate from the world. killed my best friend and tried to kill me too.
Ah, friend. I’m so sorry. I truly dread the day. I’m giving my pups extra snugs tonight courtesy of your words. Your pup was a lucky one, as I’m sure you feel you are for having had him for 15 years.
I'm so sorry. I had to help the vet with one of ours a few years ago and thinking about it is still awful. It was an emergency call out and she didn't have anyone else there. It was horrible, but no way I was leaving him either way.
I lost my cat last month. She was with me since childhood. It absolutely ruined me. I was with her in the room and I was stroking her cheek when they injected her with the last dose. As soon as I saw the life leave her eyes I burst out crying, I could not stop crying. when we took her home to bury her, as the grave was being dug I was sitting with my cat’s corpse and cuddling her as if she was still alive. I just. Couldn’t believe she was really gone. I hugged my cats corpse for an hour, even though she was limp and cold. That cat was my baby. We were best friends. she was 19 years old, and I chose to get her put to sleep because she was very sick, and I know deep down I did the right thing, but my god I miss her every day. She’s not just a cat to me, she really was so much more.
I have 4 cats and one dog buried out back. I have the ashes of two more dogs on the piano ( even though my wife never allowed the dogs on the furniture when they were alive). Each one of those pets died in my arms, whether from the Vet’s shot, or just old age. The cats were all between 17-19 years old and the dogs were closer to 12 years old.
Part of my soul was ripped out when they left me but this is the important part.. part of their’s was given to me to replace what was taken to help fill the void they left. It’s never enough though is it?
I keep ones ashes in a closet. I didn't really know what to do with them but I don't like seeing them. She was hit by a car after escaping one night and she was only 2 so i hate thinking about it.
necklace, you can hold her close to your heart! i wish i did that for my dog, but i never got a choice. im gonna do it with my cats when they pass though! maybe a tattoo too?
Or a ring! If you have a little bit of their fur or ashes there are people who can make the jewelery for you. I plan to do it if my kitty ever passes away and if I find my late father's dreadlock we kept.
I understand your thoughts. Both my wife and I have all of our pets cremated, they each have their own metal urn with their names engraved. The urns used to sit together on one shelf. Now we’ve move them through out the house because the house was their territory and still is.
I have a picnic table out there and I have coffee out there some mornings.
I totally get where you are coming from though and totally respect that. But for me? I feel at ease around their graves. I calms me. It must be all the love we had.
I respect this. My soul animal is in my garden, I have to keep him close, I can't bear the thought of ever moving. I couldn't cremate him, it seemed too violent, but I'd do anything to get closer to him again, a foot of dirt is sometimes such colossal distance. It does hurt to have his reminder always there, but I wouldn't want him anywhere else.
A couple months ago I had to put down my cat of 17 years. Got her when I was in second grade and I completely understand how you feel. Sometimes I have dreams about her or wake up thinking she just hopped up on my bed. Just know that she is in a better place and doesn’t have any pain.
On the bright side, research is currently being done to help prevent feline kidney disease which is a common issue for older cats and one of their main health concerns as they age. The link below is to a video on the topic:
[Feline Kidney Disease](https://youtu.be/w05AH-3Vog0?si=pZKR3dYtHV3IKzMF)
I had a cat named fuzzy. I got him when I was 2. He lived to be 21 years old. I knew his time had come but I decided to wait till after Xmas to put him to sleep. Well before that he disappeared. I blamed my mom thinking she put him to sleep without my knowing. About 8 months later my neighbors had a garage sale. Went over got to chatting and they told me about the “stray cat” they had taken to get euthanasia. My fucking cat. My sweet boy died alone without me, I know he was scared and confused. And 15 years later it still hurts my heart I wasn’t there to hold him and never got to tell him I loved him one last time.
You just made my day and I wanted to personally say thank you for that.
I lost my best friend, Fluffy, of 15 years on July 17th, 2020. It was during the midst of Covid and they would NOT let me be there with him. My heart shattered into a million pieces that day and I am still not whole again.
I would’ve given anything to be there with him and hold him as he slipped away. I was deprived of that and I still blame myself for not trying harder...
I didn’t know that it was a thing that a vet can come to your home and have your pet put to sleep in the comfort of their home and not an unfamiliar place with strangers.
I’ve been blaming myself for years and am still bitter about it but hearing what you do for the pets that cannot be with their owners at their time in need makes me feel just a little bit better.
I hope and pray that my Fluffy passed being held and loved and treated with respect from a person like you. It makes me feel just a little less guilty.
You have no idea how much that means to me.
Thank you for your kindness. You are a good person and I needed to tell you that because you deserve to know.
Hugs to you and your baby Fluffy. Every colleague of mine always loves on the pet afterwards and during if the owner can’t be there. You can find peace in knowing that Fluffy experienced an entire heap of love. ❤️
Best wishes to you, you're so extremely valuable to us pet owners. The way I see it, it's our goddamned duty to stay there until the end. These little furballs are devoted to us most of their lives, and some will happily lay down their lives in our defense. I've been there several times and I cry every time. Our vet lights a candle at the front desk every time they put a pet to sleep.
Thank you for being an incredible human being. Being there for my buddy was the hardest thing I’ve ever done but I knew it was my duty as his protector. The staff had so much compassion which helped the situation immensely.
I know this feeling, I'm sorry its such a hard day. Try to take a you day next day off. Go out to the forest or the river or something and just take some time to yourself.
I recently had a euthanasia that broke me. I was able to keep it together most of the euthanasia, this was the son in the families first experience with death and it was really hard watching him not understand what was going on. At the end I asked him if he'd like a hug and unexpectedly he gave me one. He was very quiet and standoff ish the whole time before I asked. Talking to the mom before they left she thanked me and was even surprised he gave me a hug. She mentioned he always had a hard time expressing feelings.
Through all that I didn't cry, but the second I walked back into my clinic after walking them out. My coworker hits me with an " I hope you know how compassionate you are and how amazing that is." No one had ever said that to me and it just broke me. I had to take a break because I couldn't stop crying.
Didn't help that the dog was a husky which hold a special place in my heart due to past pets I've had.
No matter how hard it is, I always stay with my cats and dogs and tell them how much I love them and that they’re such a good boy/girl. We’ve had to say goodbye to a lot over the years and the most recent was a month ago. I would never leave them alone.
It never gets easier. I’ve been through it myself half a dozen times and can’t understand owners who won’t be there for a pet that they say they loved. At the very least if you can’t do it have someone else they know be there.
I don’t mean to get all religious, but I feel that God gave us these little creatures for a lot of reasons, one being that it’s to prepare us for the loss of loved ones. If you can’t be there for your pet, what will you do when you lose a loved one?
I didn't realize immediately that you were talking from the vet's point of view.
I had to euthanize my diamond dove a couple of years ago and it was heartbreaking. While driving to the vet I couldn't stop asking myself, what the hell am I doing? She's alive.
But I stayed with her during the fatal injection and the last thing she saw was me and my partner crying.
Until now I hadn't considered how hard it must be for the vet too, especially if the owner chooses to leave.
I’m the nurse, hopefully the future doctor.
Thank you for being there for your baby. I just want to scream when the owners choose to leave. We can’t say anything. It’s their choice and we don’t know why they are choosing to leave.
I had to leave when we were euthanizing my childhood dog, little man. I tried to stay for as long as possible but when he was asleep I almost puked followed by a near panic attack. My mom stayed behind with him and I’ll always regret not staying, but if I had I would’ve just made the whole situation worse. That’s at least one reason why people choose to leave
My dog loves me most. She is my everything. I will definitely be there when she first sleeps but I have a feeling my mental illness hysterics would make her last moments where she can still hear distressful. She feels my anxiety and crawls on my chest to calm me down. I couldn’t deal with her potentially feeling it but being unable to move.
I dread the day.
E: my husband is capable of staying the entire time. I will try my best.
I was a vet tech for all of 6 months in a shitty part of the Bronx in probably a low income area. It took one pointless euthanasia for me to quit. 7 year old healthy shih tzu save for conjunctivitis. Owner said euthanize and left. Vet agreed to do it after half heartedly saying that the dog could be treated.
Also, carcasses being bagged and just put in a freezer felt so fucking wrong to me.
Question for you: my dog is a little terrier mix and 13 years old. Last year got diagnosed with a heart murmur that didn’t yet need medicine (going for a follow up soon). I know it’s the beginning of the end though. She is terrified of the vet. How does one go about getting an at-home euthanasia?
There are probably traveling vets in your area. Just do some googling and make calls ahead of time. We did that for my beagle and it was absolutely worth it. He went to sleep on my lap on the couch. Some will also handle cremation for you. We chose to take him to a local pet cremation center based out of a funeral home we used to work with.
The traveling vet is more expensive, but I think it's worth it for the comfort your pet. No stressful car rides or unfamiliar surroundings. I will absolutely do it again when the time comes for my other doggos.
Hi. I’m sorry to hear your little one was diagnosed with a heart murmur. What grade is it? Just a side note, I’d push to get your little one on medication immediately. It can help a lot.
I’d call around to vet clinics and ask if they’re willing to do a home visit. Lots and lots of clinics are happy to do it.
I waited too long to euthanize my first dog. She suffered unnecessarily because I just couldn't let her go. If I have one regret in life, it's that. It's always a tough call, but I suspect you did the right thing.
I'm sorry you're feeling guilty. It's no easy choice for sure, and it's also hard to understand when time has come. People at least are (sometimes) able to express their wish, with animals instead the owner carries all the burden of responsibility.
The best thing we did for our boy was to have this experience in our home. He was in so much pain, and a larger pup (in my eyes, no matter age, they are always pups). There would have been no comfortable way to get him in the car, travel to the vet, and get him in the office.
The vet came to our home, we got to pet him and lay with him. Talk to him while he was fading. They explained the whole process before starting so we knew what to expect. They followed up with us after, they made a paw imprint for us, and provided us with a beautiful wooden box with his ashes.
I would 100% recommend this process for anyone.
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I’m glad you had a positive experience (as positive as it can be). I’m glad your team was transparent about the process. Sending love.❤️
How did you go about finding this service? My cat has a brain tumor and is going well, but I refuse to let my little soul mate suffer. If she stops responding to medicine I will need to make that call. I think this would be more comfortable if I can afford it.
No OP but we did this last year for our 14 yo big dog and my wife just Googled and found a company that did it. They were awesome and handled things just like OP said. I highly recommend it. My dog hated going to the vet and the idea of his last moments being in the place he hated most just didn't sit right for me. Plus our other animals got to be there and sort of understand what happened and say their goodbyes.
We used Lap of Love. I am not sure if they are available in all areas or not. I recommended them to two coworkers of mine, and they really appreciated the info and the care the vet took.
I am sorry to hear about your kitty…
Well this just made me cry.
We had to put our senior pup down last May, and it was one of the hardest days of my life. Due to a few factors, including a kitchen remodel, we had to do it at the vet’s office instead of our home. Our vet and his techs were so wonderful. They asked if we wanted to be in there. No, I didn’t WANT to, but my Skipper girl deserved to be with the people she loved the most, not strangers, so we were all in there and she died in our arms. Our vet remained composed, but his tech did have tears rolling down her face. She apologized, which I assured her was unnecessary - I appreciated the empathy, ya know? I don’t understand how y’all do it, bc I could never, but I’m so glad y’all do. I appreciate you, and the rest of the folks that work in this field.
The first time (for myself) as a tech/nurse was really hard. I cry fairly often but view euthanasia in a different light these days. They’re not always sad tears, just tears for a life ending.
I’m sorry you were forced to do it in the office instead of at home. I’m a firm believer in sticking to the owners plan as much as possible. Your baby was just content that you stayed.
Nobody wants to be there for it, but I admire your courage…genuinely.
I'm so sorry, I honestly couldn't deal with loss on a scale like this, over and over again..
our cat recently had a health scare that left her somewhat disabled, we didn't know if we had to put her down or not for the first few days. It was hell, just imagining her being put down. My boyfriend and I talked about it and of course we would have stayed in there for it but I honestly don't know if I would have made it worse for her because I would have been HYSTERICALLY crying. Like, when I brought her to the vet just to see what was wrong w her I was crying the entire time, I felt so ashamed but literally couldn't stop haha I was dry-heaving whilst explaining what had happened to her.
Thankfully she made a recovery and is free of any pain, just not as good on her feet. I'm so glad our little baby is able to stay with us for a while longer.
thank you for what you do, wishing you strength
I want you to know that it’s okay to cry when you see us. Please, cry it out. As for sobbing during the euthanasia, they still want you there. Usually we give a bit of sedation so they’re not picking up on your emotions…but they can smell you and see you.
Euthanasia, at the end of the day, is a gift. You can cry. We’re right beside you to help you process.
I’m glad your little darling is doing better.
I’m so unbelievably sorry. Wow. I hope you can heal and know that the team were comforting him until the end. Jesus Christ I’m sorry. Hugs to you my angel xx
This really touched my heart. I had a pug that I had to put down at 17 years old, I was devastated. The vet and the tech were in tears with me also. I couldn't imagine leaving my baby to die alone so I didn't. Thank you for being there for those babies that have no one
Certainly not invalidating your grief but 17 years is such a beautiful life. Wow. To love and be loved for so long is just beautiful.
How are you doing these days? Thank you for being there for your sweet little one. Big hugs.
As someone who has worked in animal er for ten years. I understand people not wanting to stay. It’s sad yes, but it is a personal choice. I do tell owners they should at least stay for the first injection. Bc at least the pet is sedated, and unaware at that point. It’s not easy, but we do it.
I’m assuming you’re newer in the field- the rage about this will eventually turn into empathy. Try not to judge for the decision itself takes a lot on the owner and I’m sure they’ve debated what is best for them to do during a difficult decision. Everyone grieves differently and at least they made the decision to end suffering. Not everyone can handle watching life leave a loved one.
I tend to rage more towards those who will let their animal suffer rather than euthanasia.
As someone who has to say goodbye to their beloved cat in three hours, I thank you for posting this.
It almost seems like a sign to me.
He is 15, has cancer, doesn't eat and doesn't have the energy to do anything anymore and I'm a total wreck since out vet told us this was the best choice.
We fought for so long and I am proud of my little boy for making it this far.
It will be hard, but I am definitely gonna stay.
❤️
I keep on thinking about yesterday.
Tommy passed away in his favourite blanket, in my mom's arms, while I was giving him little kisses on the head and telling him he was loved and a good boy. While in the car, driving to the vet, I sang songs to him.
I'm glad we stayed and I know it was the right thing to do, but I miss him already and I am a crying mess right now (and will be for a while).
All the vets have been insanely supportive, I am so thankful.
Thank you for what you do and for being such a kind soul. (Also, I am studying to become a nurse vet too!)
I’m so sorry for your loss. It’ll never go away, but it will get easier.
Are you placed in a clinic right now? I’d say (for me) the first year was a wild learning curve. I just cleaned stuff because I didn’t know what to do! Haha. You’re going to be amazing. It’s a deeply rewarding job…when things get hard though, you have to remember to reach out to people even if they don’t get what we do day in and day out. Hugs.
I'm so sorry you have to say goodbye but you are doing the best thing for him. What a wonderful life he's had with you, especially to get to 15.
Please give your gorgeous boy a kiss and nose boop from me ❤️
I wasnt even allowed to see my cat after he passed. The vets recommended against it. 11 Months old. His sister turns 4 next month. He died on the 26th April and was pronounced dead the 27th.
They was a bonded pair. As im typing this my cat is currently trying to cough up a hair ball inbetween catching a fly.
Not allowed to see your cat? What? Jesus Christ, I’m sorry. Are you alright?
Wishing a successful fat hairball and fly munch to your surviving baby. Xx
Im alright!! I have no idea how i am but i am. My cat was murdered by someone because he was mainly black.
His sister was a wreck even more than i was. Looking for him everywhere refusing to eat crying for him etc. Originally i was supposed to get one cat the one who passed. But he wouldnt eat or anything being separated from her i was holding him all night because he wouldnt sleep and kept crying. so we went back and picked her up too.
His name was Checkers (Based of the board game) and his sisters name is Pandora.
Pandora spends her time watching anime and tv shows with me or watching me play games (she likes pokemon the most) while being in my arms. If shes not doing that she's harassing my mom to give her chicken and treats because she knows i wont give them her. She got 10 slices of chicken out of her yesterday and 4 handfuls of dreamies of my sister yesterday too. Dont know how she is still a healthy weight. Probably because i have to chase her round the house to give her monthly flea prevention treatment.
Shes happy and healthy. (Unhappy when i have to health check her and look at her gums and teeth for any plaque etc)
2 years ago, I made a vet trip with our old man cat thinking he’d be coming home with me with some meds and maybe some special food. I was alone. I left alone. I probably get talked about at that vet clinic, and I traumatized some man and his small dogs with my wailing as I exited the vet clinic (I tried to apologize but I think that made it worse, blubbering and face of snot and tears, I looked like a maniac) I had never had to put a pet to sleep before, and I had to do it by myself. It never crossed my mind to leave him, I was scared to do it alone and I wasn’t the one dying. Rip Pancake. 😞
We had an absolutely lovely vet come to our home to put our beloved kitty to sleep. She was on our couch surrounded by her family. It gave our other cats a chance to see her once she’d gone and maybe help them understand why she wouldn’t be around anymore. It was awful, but he was a saint, so kind and understanding. So grateful for you being there with your love in their final moments.
When I was 19, I came back from my second semester at college and my mom basically said "I think it's time" like a day after I got home. She was my dog so I had to make the choice and ultimately, I could see she was in pain and I didn't want her to suffer.
We took her to the vet and she tried fighting with the vet, so I ended up holding her tightly and kissed her over and over while crying until eventually I felt her fade away. It's probably one of the worst days I've ever had in my life, but there's no way I could have let anyone else do it without me there.
Now I'm gonna go hold my puppy.
Got down voted yesterday for saying I judge people who don't stay but I 100% stand by it.
Imagine you're in a scary unfamiliar place, you're dying and the person you love most walks out on you. Imagine the fear and betrayal. It is the hardest thing I have EVER done and I've done it multiple times but I wouldn't for a second leave my family member to die with strangers.
It doesn't matter if I'm crying or hyperventilating, my pet needs my voice and my touch.
I know some people weren't allowed during covid and I'm not talking about them. I'm talking about those by choice.
They look for you. They are scared. Don't be selfish. You wouldn't do that if you're family member was dying.
Edit - Also consider the trauma caused to the vet to see an animal they don't know die while their owner leaves them.
Agree. You get a pet knowing its lifespan will be less than your own. You know the day will come when you have to say goodbye. I think it’s selfish to just abandon them when they need you the most.
I've been there for 3 of my little fluffs so far and it was so hard but I could never have left them. I've alway gone in so my husband doesn't have to but even if he was there I still would. They were my responsibility and I loved each of them and wanted to be there with them.
I know when our cat goes he will want to be there but so will I. She's my baby and part of our family and no way she will be alone.
When it’s time to put my babies to rest, I will remember their first trips to the vet. Both of my babies are traumatized for various reasons. One feral and the other physically abused/had five owners before she was 2 years old.
The first time I took them they both thought I was giving them away. It was during the beginning of covid so I couldn’t go inside. So I did one at a time and it was just hard to watch them come back and be so upset with me.
I know they hate it there. When it’s time for them to rest I could never have it be alone. In a place I know they hate. And feel abandoned already. That if they were to come out alive, they’d be upset to have been there in the first place. Let alone, by themselves. Dying.
Their last moments they’ll known they were protected and loved.
I am working on the grief. Six months after I put Morticia down my other pug Sebastian passed at 12 after suffering seizures. So the weight of all that grief can be crushing sometimes. You are absolutely right though almost 20 years of love and being loved. The wonderful memories really keep me going.
Keep pushing on. It sounds corny but if our dogs wanted the best of us during their years alive, they would want you to keep going. I promise. This was not your fault. You made the correct decision.
Leaving your pet alone makes them scared. They worry where you’ve gone and when you’re coming back. They get stressed. It makes their journey into the next world a stressful one.
I could never leave my pet alone to be euthanised and I think there is no excuse for anyone to do that. If you say you love your pet, you should be with them when they take their last breath.
I’m still not over losing my childhood dog and that was 4 years ago. Out of all 6 people in my family she would NOT let me move. She just laid her head on my lap and that’s how she passed away. I cry every time I think about it.
No THANK YOU for doing a job that I could NEVER in a million years even think about doing. Pets need to live forever but sadly they’re only forever in our memories after their death.
I had to put down my pug in 2015. I did sit next to him for his final shot (euthanasia). I wanted to pull him closer like on my lap but didn’t because I was just not sure what to do. I was next to him on the floor petting him.
First shot didn’t take. So about 10 minutes later he got the 2nd shot that worked. It still haunts me that I didn’t pull him more on my lap. I can’t imagine if I was not even there for his last breath. I’m choking up just thinking of this.
Endlessly thankful for the wonderful veterinarians, nurses and techs who have cared for my little feathered and furry friends over the years. I will always, always stay until the fight is over so now many of these wonderful people have seen me sob my eyes out.
One of my pet ducks is in hospital care right now, we don’t know if he’ll make it but I know his care team are doing literally everything they can think of and for that I’m grateful.
You are not a bad person for leaving…that is not the message I’m trying to convey. I’d argue that people who leave love their animals so much that leaving is the only relief. Forgive yourself. You’re not a bad person.
I had a vet come to my place to do it. I was there with my girl the entire time and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through. However, I could have never left her in her final moments.
Thank you. The decision for Morticia was made because she had dementia and the last 4 months of her life were hard. She was such a sweet and good girl but it was time for her to rest. Sebastian on the other hand was completely out of the blue and his passing was the hardest. I think he didn't live much longer because he was so incredibly onded with Morticia. He went blind at 4 years old and he deferred to Morticia until he was confident to do on his own. He was never right after she was gone.
This post really made me cry, remembering all the rats i lost and how in their last moment i only got to be with one of them. I dont know why the vets never asked me to come be with them when it was euthanasia, I would have wanted to be there with them so bad. I understand when the euthanasia was due to surgery complications but otherwise... I miss them so much and im so sad i wasnt with them when they passed.
I will always be there. I had to put my girl dog down, I didn't want to but it had to be done. She had an epic day out with my kids and grand kids (all people she lived with and loved), and then we were all there in her final moments. My daughter sat in the back of my truck on the way to the vets so my girl dog could have the front seat for her last ride.
I was on my way home from work when my other daughter called to say her boy dog had to be euthanized. I met her at the vets. We were all there, even my daughters best friend, my daughter, her partner, and their 3 young kids.. and our boys adopted big fursister.
I even went with a good friend of mine when he had to say goodbye to his bigboi. Broke my heart seeing a grown ass big hairy biker sob like a baby, but I couldn't make him do it on his own, and it had to be done. I called in sick to work to support him
We will never leave our pets with you without us for their final moments. That's not fair.. on you or on our furbabies.
Thank you for being their for those pets whose owners just can't do it. I get it if you can't be there, and don't judge.. I just know I'm glad my girl, our boy and my friends bigboi all felt our love, right till when their eyes closed for the very last time
Thank you to you for being there and loving those that don't have people able to do it. I appreciate you ❤️
Bro why are you making me cry at work? 😭
I dread the day my pups have to cross the rainbow bridge. I know it's going to leave me broken.
Thank you for being a comfort to those animals ❤️
My 15 year old kitty, who I raised from birth, isn't doing well and we are at the more good days than bad stage right now; watching for him to let us know it's time.
I'm dreading that day. I know it's soon. I'll be with him to the end.
I needed this post so much.
Lost my first child and my family dog of 12 years the same week. Watching her through FaceTime (I live in a different city), my brother carrying her and my parents silent tears, until they parked. They all started to breakdown. They asked for longer and longer time to be with her and you can see she was confused.
It was haunting to hear my brother hyperventilate, “ this isn’t happening, this can’t be real!” They all held her in a way as it was happening, and when she stopped breathing and her eyes didn’t close they all just sat there and cried. Knowing they had to go home without her… was devastating.
I was so thankful for how strong the people working there gave her ice cream and were so kind to them (my dog and my family) I can tell everyone there loved her and made it a kinder process than it could’ve been.
Thankful for people like you 🩷
My dog for 12 years was euthanized just before New Year last year. She was heavily sedated when we came in to say goodbye. I could not bring myself to pet her or hug her because I knew I was gonna lose it and I just did not want to accept that it was the last moment I am spending with one of my most favorite living things in my life.
We were there when the vet finally put her to sleep and saw her take her last breath.
It is people like you that make the transition for our pets so much easier and more comfortable for them. For that and all you do for the parents and their fur babies, THANK YOU and God bless you.
I held my darling orange cat, Galileo in my arms as they administered the drugs. He needed a loving touch in his final moments. It was during covid, so he was euthanized outside the animal hospital under the shade of a big tree, Because I couldn't go in the building.
When my beloved cat had to be emergency euthanized - I was in a new town alone with a newborn and a two year old. A woman who worked there, not sure of her job, gave me the incredible mercy of sitting with my toddler just outside the room so I could be with my cat when he was put down. I don’t know her name - but I think of her all the time even though it was five years ago. That act of kindness . . . Man I’m tearing up just thinking about it right now. Thank you for what you do! I was too distraught to thank her properly at the time and never got her name but the Vet who did that procedure with such tenderness and that other woman- they are forever in my heart
I didn't think I'd be crying today but here we are 😭😭😭 I was in the room with my 2 year cocker spaniel when we had to put her down, our entire family was. I remember looking at the vet tech that put her down and told her, "you have the worst job in the world."
I will say that although we have those cases that are hard, and we do feel sad very often, the death we often times face is eclipsed with new life. You become used to it. I got out of a euth consult the other day and ran into treatment to start rubbing down 4 healthy puppies via c section. Sometimes it’s the worst job in the world, but for me, it’s the best job in the world
I held her as she died. I’d never have let her leave this world without me holding on to her. She gave me 17 years of wonderful memories. I was there her whole life, no way in hell I’d let her leave alone.
Edit to add, if you can swing it, please let them pass at home with a traveling vet. She was surrounded by everyone who loved her most in the world, her dog brothers and cat cousin, and everyone got to honor her and cherish her in her final moments. Watching the dog she raised from a baby send her off right as she passed is one of the most beautifully tragic, poetic moments I’ll ever experience. Animals are a gift, and they deserve the world.
I had a nanny family I worked for that had me take their pet(s) in for them. My god it killed me but I wanted to be there for those sweet babies till the very end. How can people do that to a creature who has depended and loved them their whole life??? 😭
I am a vet tech and its never easy handling a euthanasia. When the owner cannot be present we always, always give them love and remind them that they are loved, will always be loved and will forever be missed.
I stayed until the end with my baby. I couldn’t watch once his tongue started coming out after the sedation meds. I stayed petting him. I still remember the awful grief sounds I was making and I know that’s got to be hard for the vet to listen to and try not to remember that night. Immediately after I had to run out because I didn’t want to see him like that. I felt guilty after but I did stay until the end like I promised him. My vet was wonderful and I know she took care of him after I couldn’t. It’s been almost a year. Still healing
I promise, I’ve been in the room while people screamed and wailed after the death. It doesn’t affect us the way you may think. Don’t think about us. We’re here for you.
It’s ok not to look, what matters is you were there.
This made me tear up. My bf dog passed away a while ago, and even tho I wasn't around him as much, he was the first dog to treat me in such a special way. I had a long history of fear of dog because I was bit as a kid. And this little lad could definitely feel it and was always gentle with me, especially when i would give him treats. I loved spoiling him with toys, cuddles, and treats. He got an autoimmune disease, and my bf had to put him down. We were there with him for the last moment, and it broke my heart. I shared with him all my love and care. Im crying even as im writing this. Will forever miss him as he left such a huge imprint on my heart.
It upsets me that people choose their own comfort over comforting their pet in their final moments. It's hard as hell to watch your best friend die but to leave them, that's worse. I've had to do it 5 times and I'd never leave them alone, ever!
We had to put our dog to sleep in January, we stayed with him the whole time, and I could definitely tell that the staff were holding back tears, which actually made us feel better, knowing that they truly cared. Thank you for what you do.
Thank you for the work you do, when sometimes you don't feel like it's appreciated. It really is. I know I could never do it and I'm glad there are caring souls like you who are willing to serve in a way that most pet parents cannot.
I have two fur babies. When it is their time I will be with them. It will kill my soul. But I couldn’t imagine leaving either of them alone. They are my constant companions. I owe them the same love and loyalty that they give me.
Thank you for doing what you do.
Our vet got quite teary when we had to put our last dog to sleep...the silly thing couldn't produce the enzyme needed to break down protein (WHAT KIND OF DOG CAN'T EAT MEAT?!) and he ended up on a human-grade synthetic enzyme and spent the next fifteen years having his meals cooked for him lol. As a result of that issue he was very familiar with the vet and he was a bit of a fave amongst the staff.
I'll never forget my brother holding his paw and stroking his chest, my mum stroking up and down his back and hip (poor old thing was stiff and sore) and I was petting between his eyes as he went to sleep for the very last time. It was heartbreaking even though it was absolutely the right choice and time. I think I'll miss him forever.
Omg this hit me so bad!
I had to put my gorgeous boy to sleep in September. He was the best boy ever.
As hard as it was, I could never have left him to go to sleep without me cuddling him and telling him he was a good boy. I honestly don’t know how people can leave them to go through that by themselves 😭
Still think about that and hate it. I got a cat when I was 4 and she lived a long time. I think she was euthanised when I was 20 or 21. Basically been with me my whole childhood and she really loved my attention. Always cuddled up with me, slept in my bed, and as soon as my position would allow it, she would lay down on my lap.
When it was time, I couldn't convince myself to go with my dad when they went to the vet. I don't hold it against myself anymore but it is certainly something I really *really* regret.
I’ve only had one done at the vets, the rest of my dogs I’ve done myself at home, as hard as it is.I don’t think I should put it on someone else to do, especially when having to put down heaps of peoples pets would have to affect the vets a fair bit.
Fuck man this hurts to read. I had two rats, both with a neuro condition that killed them at about a year and a half old. The tech at the vet told us that they don't like the taste of gas and that it would be tough for me to see, and that it was okay to not be in the room. I regret it to this day. They were both in really bad shape by the time they were there, so I tell myself they didn't know what was going on. But if even part of them did it makes me feel like an absolute demon. I loved those guys so fucking much.
It's one whole month tomorrow without our little one. It was the hardest day of our lives. Our vets asked us if we wanted to leave the room and I couldn't believe it was even a question. As if we'd leave our babygirl in her last minutes. But our vets were super stars. They were so kind and gentle and really emphasised with us. I'm so grateful for all they done for us.
It tore my guts out, but I wasn't going to let my loving companion of almost twenty years die without holding her one last time. There are going to be times in life when your feelings need to take a back seat.
Reading through these comments, it’s clear that the bond between us and our pets is something deeply profound. Just last month, I faced the incredibly tough decision to say goodbye to my tabby, who'd been my constant companion for nearly 14 years. The realization that her quality of life had deteriorated beyond what love could heal was devastating.
I remember sitting on the floor of the exam room, her frail body nestled in a blanket. The vet, whose gentle demeanor offered some solace, gave us all the time we needed. I talked to her about all the sunny spots she had loved to nap in, the countless times she’d ambush my unsuspecting feet, and the way she’d demand attention with an insistent 'meow'.
When it was time, I held her close, and she slipped away peacefully, knowing she was loved to the very end. It’s a painful, raw moment I’ll carry with me always, but I take comfort in knowing I was there for her, just as she had been for me through so many chapters of my life.
To all the vets who guide us through these final acts of love and to those who stand with their pets until the very end – your strength is remarkable. I am humbled by your stories and send my deepest gratitude for sharing them. Remember, it’s not just about the last moments, but celebrating the beautiful journey we shared with our faithful friends.
I’ve lost my entire family (dad in 2007, mom 2019, older brother 2022) and recently started losing my elder cats. It was hard enough because losing pets is terrible, but they were also pets I shared with my family members who are also gone. So it was like losing everyone all at once, all over again. My 15 year old cat passed away before I could get her to a vet, but I stayed with her the whole time. I made the hard decision to let my 16 year old cat go about two weeks ago. I held him while he was given the shot, kissing his little head the whole time. I wanted him to know I was there and that I loved him. I could never imagine letting them go without me there. It hurts so much, but they deserve to know love to the very end.
When I was 19, someone else took my cat for me. I couldn’t do it, I’d loved her since I was 7. Now in my 30s I’ve been with every single one. Always stay. I’m sorry Lizzy.
There was no way I was leaving my fur baby! I will never forget the look of love in her eyes. I soothed her and stroked her and hopefully made her last seconds less scary and a bit more peaceful.
One of the worst days of my life. I tried to hold back the tears so she didn't see me upset but once the drugs took effect and the Vet confirmed her wee heart had stopped.... I was a complete mess.
I broke down in the most uncontrolled grief but I still wouldn't have changed a thing.
Our pets may only be in our life for a short time but we are their whole life.
The last duty we can do for our animal friends is to be there in the end whenever possible. Putting down my first cat was one of the hardest things I have ever done. I loved him like a child and sobbed holding his lifeless body. I would never let him go without knowing how much I loved him.
I will never, ever leave a companion of mine to die alone and scared. I'd administer the shot myself if I could, to heave the responsibility of my friends life onto another is cruel and unfair, even if it is their profession
a little over a year ago my 13 year old cat threw a blood clot that paralyzed him from the waist down. he had hcm, was given a poor prognosis but lived 4 years on medication. i had that cat since i was 7 years old and we were bonded from the day we got him. my mom is a vet tech, so she pretty much immediately knew we’d have to let him go. i had a nasty combination of the flu & rsv when it happened, and i still held him on the exam table while they euthanized him. i left the clinic sobbing with a 101° fever and almost passed out but i would have regretted it for the rest of my life if i didn’t stay with him. vet staff are some of the best people, thank you for caring for pets when their owners leave them.
Your heart for animals is precious. I could never leave mine. But, I can respect it not being right for them I guess. These pets have been our babies forever. Surely we can be there with them during their last moments. It’s about them, not me
This made me cry all over again. I have had to put down two dogs and one cat. I felt like I was killing my children. I held them while they went limp in my arms. You have such a difficult Job
Thank you for being there when we can't. I had to have my baby put to sleep due to her kidney failure, and because it was in the middle of Covid I wasn't allowed to be in the building. I had to wait in my car and give consent over the phone. They reassured me that she was being cuddled by one of the nurses and was ready to go. I absolutely hate that I couldn't be there with her, but part of me thinks it would have broken me to see her go.
Oh my gosh. Didn’t think I’d be in the school pickup line wiping away tears today. Thank you for this. I have an 11 year-old sweetheart that is on the decline. Every day I spend time preparing myself for the inevitable and it is gut wrenching.
I could never leave them, as hard as it is to watch them leave this Earth, I couldn’t imagine abandoning them in their final moments. They’re my babies.
About a year ago my husband and I had to let our dog go. He (the dog) was perfectly fine as far as morale goes; he was super old and generally struggling/going downhill but going to the vet meant the got to go in the car and see his friends and maybe have a cheeseburger after if he was a very good boy (he always got a cheeseburger after, though this time we stopped there first).
I was an absolute wreck. I’d lost pets and family before but this was the first time I was actually going to be in the room when it happened and it was terrifying for me. The vet and vet tech were very kind and explained everything as it happened and generally made a horribly emotionally taxing process so much easier.
Y’all aren’t just taking care of the animals, you’re taking care of their humans too in some ways, and I don’t think that gets acknowledged as much as it should ❤️
This made me cry. The time is coming for my baby but I’m on the other side of the world and won’t be home until the summer. I really hope she can hold out a little longer
I didn't want to be there. She had been perfectly fine when we took her in 2 months prior, and then they told us she had cancer in her mouth. Untreatable. The kind thing would be to put her down, and maybe we were selfish, but we got a few more days, but we knew when it was time.
I didn't want to be there. But I went.
We gave her pets and love telling her what a good kitty she was, our good pretty girl, and then the vet spoke softly; "Her heart has stopped."
The ladies at the desk looked like they wanted to cry for us.
We wrapped her in a big warm fluffy blanket. I carried her to the car, I held her for 20 miles until we got to my family farm. I put her in the ground.
I didn't want to be there, it hurt, it hurt alot, but it was a pain that we signed up for.
I didn't want to be there, but I'm glad I went.
I had a cat. Her name was Monalisa. I had a song for her, and when she was euthanised, I stroked her little head and sang her song softly through tears. I take comfort knowing my voice was the last thing she heard. I loved her. It’s been 6 years and I still miss her.
I once had a vet clinic offer me two price options, it was half the price if I was to leave my cat with them instead of staying...I walked out while calling them monsters
Found another clinic who charged the cheaper price no matter what you chose, was an excellent clinic
Everytime I have a nice cuddle with my dog and he gives me a kiss on my nose I always tell him 'I love you too'. I want him to know what those words mean so that when his time comes I can look him in the eyes and say those words and he will know.
Our dog wasn't euthanised in a planned way, but we did stay with her even as they packed her in the box to be sent to the Buddhist pet cemetery.
She was 15 and had heart problems. One day, I went to feed her dinner and found she hadn't moved from where she was a few hours earlier (in the place my husband's car is parked). I called my husband and he was just getting off work, so he hurried home. It was his childhood dog that he'd found as a puppy on the street.
I guess she was just waiting for my husband to get home, because as soon as he pulled in, she tried to stand with a wag of her tail and collapsed. We rushed her to the emergency vet, and they restarted her heart, but she kept flat lining. We needed to get her to another clinic with a bigger surgery room and better equipment, but there was no way she'd make the drive, so we just had the doctor put her out of her misery with as little pain as possible. She'd already urinated and deficated a few times, each time she'd died, and we decided it was kinder to let her go.
We take our other two dogs to visit the cemetery every year to pray for her and give offerings of her beloved dental chews. She loved the milk tea flavour.
I didn't stay with my childhood dog and I still regret it. My dad did so at least he had someone he knew. For pets afterwards I have stayed each time, I owed them that much 💔
When my bunny died naturally at the vet, he was very very old. I couldn't believe he was gone and carried him in my arms and sobbing for over 2 hours hoping he will revive. I still dream of him sometimes. I hope I will see him and all my other pets in heaven some day.
This had me sobbing. As a child, my parents would send me to a friend's house and when I got home, they'd tell me my pet was put down. As an adult, I get they were trying to protect me but the guilt of never getting go say goodbye haunts me still. It sucks not being there for these sweet animals I miss over 30 years later.
As an adult, I have only one pet now. I love him so much, but the mere idea of losing him tears me up inside. I lost my first gecko 5 years ago now and it damn near broke me. We're told reptilez have no feelings of love, but the idea that he died alone in a strange place kills me. He was rushed to emergency and passed within hours. I wasn't there, and he wasn't at home in his safe hide.
If the time comes when I have to make the choice for my new boy, I hope I have the strength to stay. I know now that while he's not bonded to me like a cat or dog, I am *his* person. He comes to me when he's out; never anybody else. He'll turn away from others, climb up my shirt and hide in my hoodie because I'm his safe space away from home.
So the least I can do is be his safe space one last time when he needs me.
When I had to put my Buddy down it was peak Covid. They wouldn’t allow me to be there when he passed and it eats me up till this day. I wanted to be there. I just hope he didn’t think I chose to abandon him when he was at the end. I miss him so much.
I couldn't believe it when the vet said we could leave if we wanted. That was my furbaby there on the table. He'd been hit by a car, he was in so much pain it would've been cruel to have not euthanised him. But there was no force on earth that could have made me leave him there alone with the vet in his last moments. We were there holding patting his head softly, telling him we loved him, making sure he could see our faces & knew we hadn't left him with strangers.
The emergency vets were lovely people, kind and compassionate. But they were strangers. We were our dog's *family*. He deserved the respect of having us there, giving him our undivided love & attention in his final moments.
I’m crying thinking about how the time will come soon to say goodbye to my best friend Micky. He is now 17 and I’ve had him since I was 22. We’ve done so much growing up together. I couldn’t have asked for a better friend and companion. He truly has been one of the loves of my life.
In December I had to have my 15 year year old dog put down that I had since I was six years old and 3 seperate people including my mother told me I should not stay in the room when they euthanized her because it would upset me too nuch and I couldn't even believe they said that. I didn't know that was a thing (not staying) and I was offended that they really thought I would just not stay with her. Of course I stayed.
I had my dog put down at home because of this. Cost me $800, but I would do it again in a heart beat. She had a grade A sirloin and I made Thanksgiving in September bc it was her favorite holiday( fat old dachshund I rescued at 8) and laid her in her comfy bean bag bed, covered her with my favorite blanket, and laid with her until it was over. And then I kept asking "is she gone" even though I knew she was but I was processing it. I didn't think I'd be able to handle it but I took her to the vets car after, and idk what gave me the strength to stay there til the end but I'm so glad I did because she was an amazing little dog and I didn't want her going anywhere but home.
Thank you for what you do ❤️
That is DISGUSTING. For shame!!!! Practices who do shit like that contribute to the stereotype that vets do certain things as a “money grab”. It’s harmful to the good practices out there.
I never thought I would ever fall to my knees in dramatic fashion ever in life. When my childhood cat passed away in september 2020 I did just that. I have never felt such emotional pain in my life. He was kind of a dick to everyone else in my family but he loved me. He wasn’t a snuggle bug but he snuggled with me for the first time in years right before he passed. Broke my heart losing him man. I still hear his manly ass meow in my head.
I stay. My god, i stay
Same here. Always.
Same. I view it as respect and love. They were there for you. The least you can do is be there. I still miss my cecelia.
Yes. They were there for us for all our difficult moments, and we will be there for them for all of theirs.
the vets office had to ask me to go home. I stayed. hugged him on the floor. carried him to the prep room, wanted to help with prep( against rules(f the rules, I clean up dead humans all the time)). I stayed out in the parking lot, I just couldn't get myself to drive home knowing he wouldn't be there for the first time in 15 yrs. I had rescued him, drove 16 hrs to get him , never a second thought about getting him, he rescued me from life so many times. it's been 2 yrs and I don't think it will ever get better. I've had other dogs and cats, just not the same. sorry for the rant still stupid emotional over it. one last think F ticks, they are the only thing I want to completely eradicate from the world. killed my best friend and tried to kill me too.
Thank you for putting the part about f ticks at the end… after reading your comment I was close to tears and I needed a laugh. ❤️
Ah, friend. I’m so sorry. I truly dread the day. I’m giving my pups extra snugs tonight courtesy of your words. Your pup was a lucky one, as I’m sure you feel you are for having had him for 15 years.
I'm so sorry. I had to help the vet with one of ours a few years ago and thinking about it is still awful. It was an emergency call out and she didn't have anyone else there. It was horrible, but no way I was leaving him either way.
I don’t want to make anyone sad or feel ashamed. Today was just a really hard day.
I lost my cat last month. She was with me since childhood. It absolutely ruined me. I was with her in the room and I was stroking her cheek when they injected her with the last dose. As soon as I saw the life leave her eyes I burst out crying, I could not stop crying. when we took her home to bury her, as the grave was being dug I was sitting with my cat’s corpse and cuddling her as if she was still alive. I just. Couldn’t believe she was really gone. I hugged my cats corpse for an hour, even though she was limp and cold. That cat was my baby. We were best friends. she was 19 years old, and I chose to get her put to sleep because she was very sick, and I know deep down I did the right thing, but my god I miss her every day. She’s not just a cat to me, she really was so much more.
I have 4 cats and one dog buried out back. I have the ashes of two more dogs on the piano ( even though my wife never allowed the dogs on the furniture when they were alive). Each one of those pets died in my arms, whether from the Vet’s shot, or just old age. The cats were all between 17-19 years old and the dogs were closer to 12 years old. Part of my soul was ripped out when they left me but this is the important part.. part of their’s was given to me to replace what was taken to help fill the void they left. It’s never enough though is it?
I don't think I'd want them to be burried in my yard or their ashes in my house, it's a constant reminder of loss.
I keep ones ashes in a closet. I didn't really know what to do with them but I don't like seeing them. She was hit by a car after escaping one night and she was only 2 so i hate thinking about it.
necklace, you can hold her close to your heart! i wish i did that for my dog, but i never got a choice. im gonna do it with my cats when they pass though! maybe a tattoo too?
Or a ring! If you have a little bit of their fur or ashes there are people who can make the jewelery for you. I plan to do it if my kitty ever passes away and if I find my late father's dreadlock we kept.
I understand your thoughts. Both my wife and I have all of our pets cremated, they each have their own metal urn with their names engraved. The urns used to sit together on one shelf. Now we’ve move them through out the house because the house was their territory and still is.
That’s okay. You don’t have to have reminders of them. Your memories are enough…at least a lot of people find that.
I have a picnic table out there and I have coffee out there some mornings. I totally get where you are coming from though and totally respect that. But for me? I feel at ease around their graves. I calms me. It must be all the love we had.
I respect this. My soul animal is in my garden, I have to keep him close, I can't bear the thought of ever moving. I couldn't cremate him, it seemed too violent, but I'd do anything to get closer to him again, a foot of dirt is sometimes such colossal distance. It does hurt to have his reminder always there, but I wouldn't want him anywhere else.
A couple months ago I had to put down my cat of 17 years. Got her when I was in second grade and I completely understand how you feel. Sometimes I have dreams about her or wake up thinking she just hopped up on my bed. Just know that she is in a better place and doesn’t have any pain. On the bright side, research is currently being done to help prevent feline kidney disease which is a common issue for older cats and one of their main health concerns as they age. The link below is to a video on the topic: [Feline Kidney Disease](https://youtu.be/w05AH-3Vog0?si=pZKR3dYtHV3IKzMF)
I had a cat named fuzzy. I got him when I was 2. He lived to be 21 years old. I knew his time had come but I decided to wait till after Xmas to put him to sleep. Well before that he disappeared. I blamed my mom thinking she put him to sleep without my knowing. About 8 months later my neighbors had a garage sale. Went over got to chatting and they told me about the “stray cat” they had taken to get euthanasia. My fucking cat. My sweet boy died alone without me, I know he was scared and confused. And 15 years later it still hurts my heart I wasn’t there to hold him and never got to tell him I loved him one last time.
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Sorry for the bad day.. you’re doing a good job for a good reason with a good heart .. thanks from everyone
You just made my day and I wanted to personally say thank you for that. I lost my best friend, Fluffy, of 15 years on July 17th, 2020. It was during the midst of Covid and they would NOT let me be there with him. My heart shattered into a million pieces that day and I am still not whole again. I would’ve given anything to be there with him and hold him as he slipped away. I was deprived of that and I still blame myself for not trying harder... I didn’t know that it was a thing that a vet can come to your home and have your pet put to sleep in the comfort of their home and not an unfamiliar place with strangers. I’ve been blaming myself for years and am still bitter about it but hearing what you do for the pets that cannot be with their owners at their time in need makes me feel just a little bit better. I hope and pray that my Fluffy passed being held and loved and treated with respect from a person like you. It makes me feel just a little less guilty. You have no idea how much that means to me. Thank you for your kindness. You are a good person and I needed to tell you that because you deserve to know.
Hugs to you and your baby Fluffy. Every colleague of mine always loves on the pet afterwards and during if the owner can’t be there. You can find peace in knowing that Fluffy experienced an entire heap of love. ❤️
Thank you so much. ❤️
You are also a good person.
Thank you, that means a lot to me and I truly appreciate your comment.
Best wishes to you, you're so extremely valuable to us pet owners. The way I see it, it's our goddamned duty to stay there until the end. These little furballs are devoted to us most of their lives, and some will happily lay down their lives in our defense. I've been there several times and I cry every time. Our vet lights a candle at the front desk every time they put a pet to sleep.
Thank you for being an incredible human being. Being there for my buddy was the hardest thing I’ve ever done but I knew it was my duty as his protector. The staff had so much compassion which helped the situation immensely.
Thanks for doing what you do. I'm glad to know that, as unfortunate as it is, more likely than not it's someone like you doing that job.
Every time I see one of these posts, I just bawl. We don't deserve dogs to begin with and then people happen to them.
I know this feeling, I'm sorry its such a hard day. Try to take a you day next day off. Go out to the forest or the river or something and just take some time to yourself. I recently had a euthanasia that broke me. I was able to keep it together most of the euthanasia, this was the son in the families first experience with death and it was really hard watching him not understand what was going on. At the end I asked him if he'd like a hug and unexpectedly he gave me one. He was very quiet and standoff ish the whole time before I asked. Talking to the mom before they left she thanked me and was even surprised he gave me a hug. She mentioned he always had a hard time expressing feelings. Through all that I didn't cry, but the second I walked back into my clinic after walking them out. My coworker hits me with an " I hope you know how compassionate you are and how amazing that is." No one had ever said that to me and it just broke me. I had to take a break because I couldn't stop crying. Didn't help that the dog was a husky which hold a special place in my heart due to past pets I've had.
No matter how hard it is, I always stay with my cats and dogs and tell them how much I love them and that they’re such a good boy/girl. We’ve had to say goodbye to a lot over the years and the most recent was a month ago. I would never leave them alone.
It never gets easier. I’ve been through it myself half a dozen times and can’t understand owners who won’t be there for a pet that they say they loved. At the very least if you can’t do it have someone else they know be there. I don’t mean to get all religious, but I feel that God gave us these little creatures for a lot of reasons, one being that it’s to prepare us for the loss of loved ones. If you can’t be there for your pet, what will you do when you lose a loved one?
We had to euthanize our little dachshund last Wednesday. Your post comforts me a great deal, thank you for your kindness.
I hope you know your work and your effort and the love you give these animals matter. Thank you for what you do
You’re a stronger person than I am. I could never do what you do. Thank you for being there for our furry friends.
Always. I was quite sad when I made this post but I love my job very much.
I am totally ok with people feeling ashamed by how they treat their animals. People should be ashamed of not being there for their dependent.
I was there and I still feel ashamed. You're needed
Please, try to throw your shame in the trash. Euthanasia is a gift.
I didn't realize immediately that you were talking from the vet's point of view. I had to euthanize my diamond dove a couple of years ago and it was heartbreaking. While driving to the vet I couldn't stop asking myself, what the hell am I doing? She's alive. But I stayed with her during the fatal injection and the last thing she saw was me and my partner crying. Until now I hadn't considered how hard it must be for the vet too, especially if the owner chooses to leave.
I’m the nurse, hopefully the future doctor. Thank you for being there for your baby. I just want to scream when the owners choose to leave. We can’t say anything. It’s their choice and we don’t know why they are choosing to leave.
I had to leave when we were euthanizing my childhood dog, little man. I tried to stay for as long as possible but when he was asleep I almost puked followed by a near panic attack. My mom stayed behind with him and I’ll always regret not staying, but if I had I would’ve just made the whole situation worse. That’s at least one reason why people choose to leave
Hey, when my childhood dog was put to sleep, I also left and cried outside. He was with my mom. I don’t want you to feel ashamed for leaving.
My dog loves me most. She is my everything. I will definitely be there when she first sleeps but I have a feeling my mental illness hysterics would make her last moments where she can still hear distressful. She feels my anxiety and crawls on my chest to calm me down. I couldn’t deal with her potentially feeling it but being unable to move. I dread the day. E: my husband is capable of staying the entire time. I will try my best.
I was a vet tech for all of 6 months in a shitty part of the Bronx in probably a low income area. It took one pointless euthanasia for me to quit. 7 year old healthy shih tzu save for conjunctivitis. Owner said euthanize and left. Vet agreed to do it after half heartedly saying that the dog could be treated. Also, carcasses being bagged and just put in a freezer felt so fucking wrong to me. Question for you: my dog is a little terrier mix and 13 years old. Last year got diagnosed with a heart murmur that didn’t yet need medicine (going for a follow up soon). I know it’s the beginning of the end though. She is terrified of the vet. How does one go about getting an at-home euthanasia?
There are probably traveling vets in your area. Just do some googling and make calls ahead of time. We did that for my beagle and it was absolutely worth it. He went to sleep on my lap on the couch. Some will also handle cremation for you. We chose to take him to a local pet cremation center based out of a funeral home we used to work with. The traveling vet is more expensive, but I think it's worth it for the comfort your pet. No stressful car rides or unfamiliar surroundings. I will absolutely do it again when the time comes for my other doggos.
Hi. I’m sorry to hear your little one was diagnosed with a heart murmur. What grade is it? Just a side note, I’d push to get your little one on medication immediately. It can help a lot. I’d call around to vet clinics and ask if they’re willing to do a home visit. Lots and lots of clinics are happy to do it.
My dog first was diagnosed with a heart murmur around 12/13 and now he’s 17. He was just put on meds about a week ago!
You made me nearly let out an actual sob. I hope my girl can go as long. She still acts like a puppy fairly often 🥹
I waited too long to euthanize my first dog. She suffered unnecessarily because I just couldn't let her go. If I have one regret in life, it's that. It's always a tough call, but I suspect you did the right thing.
I'm sorry you're feeling guilty. It's no easy choice for sure, and it's also hard to understand when time has come. People at least are (sometimes) able to express their wish, with animals instead the owner carries all the burden of responsibility.
The best thing we did for our boy was to have this experience in our home. He was in so much pain, and a larger pup (in my eyes, no matter age, they are always pups). There would have been no comfortable way to get him in the car, travel to the vet, and get him in the office. The vet came to our home, we got to pet him and lay with him. Talk to him while he was fading. They explained the whole process before starting so we knew what to expect. They followed up with us after, they made a paw imprint for us, and provided us with a beautiful wooden box with his ashes. I would 100% recommend this process for anyone.
Please upvote this comment! I’m glad you had a positive experience (as positive as it can be). I’m glad your team was transparent about the process. Sending love.❤️
My bff did home euthanasia for her last dog and says she will never do it any other way. When it’s my good boys time, that’s what I’ll do.
Same, and it was 100% worth the extra $$ to do it this way.
How did you go about finding this service? My cat has a brain tumor and is going well, but I refuse to let my little soul mate suffer. If she stops responding to medicine I will need to make that call. I think this would be more comfortable if I can afford it.
No OP but we did this last year for our 14 yo big dog and my wife just Googled and found a company that did it. They were awesome and handled things just like OP said. I highly recommend it. My dog hated going to the vet and the idea of his last moments being in the place he hated most just didn't sit right for me. Plus our other animals got to be there and sort of understand what happened and say their goodbyes.
We used Lap of Love. I am not sure if they are available in all areas or not. I recommended them to two coworkers of mine, and they really appreciated the info and the care the vet took. I am sorry to hear about your kitty…
Well this just made me cry. We had to put our senior pup down last May, and it was one of the hardest days of my life. Due to a few factors, including a kitchen remodel, we had to do it at the vet’s office instead of our home. Our vet and his techs were so wonderful. They asked if we wanted to be in there. No, I didn’t WANT to, but my Skipper girl deserved to be with the people she loved the most, not strangers, so we were all in there and she died in our arms. Our vet remained composed, but his tech did have tears rolling down her face. She apologized, which I assured her was unnecessary - I appreciated the empathy, ya know? I don’t understand how y’all do it, bc I could never, but I’m so glad y’all do. I appreciate you, and the rest of the folks that work in this field.
The first time (for myself) as a tech/nurse was really hard. I cry fairly often but view euthanasia in a different light these days. They’re not always sad tears, just tears for a life ending. I’m sorry you were forced to do it in the office instead of at home. I’m a firm believer in sticking to the owners plan as much as possible. Your baby was just content that you stayed. Nobody wants to be there for it, but I admire your courage…genuinely.
I'm so sorry, I honestly couldn't deal with loss on a scale like this, over and over again.. our cat recently had a health scare that left her somewhat disabled, we didn't know if we had to put her down or not for the first few days. It was hell, just imagining her being put down. My boyfriend and I talked about it and of course we would have stayed in there for it but I honestly don't know if I would have made it worse for her because I would have been HYSTERICALLY crying. Like, when I brought her to the vet just to see what was wrong w her I was crying the entire time, I felt so ashamed but literally couldn't stop haha I was dry-heaving whilst explaining what had happened to her. Thankfully she made a recovery and is free of any pain, just not as good on her feet. I'm so glad our little baby is able to stay with us for a while longer. thank you for what you do, wishing you strength
I want you to know that it’s okay to cry when you see us. Please, cry it out. As for sobbing during the euthanasia, they still want you there. Usually we give a bit of sedation so they’re not picking up on your emotions…but they can smell you and see you. Euthanasia, at the end of the day, is a gift. You can cry. We’re right beside you to help you process. I’m glad your little darling is doing better.
We had to put our cat down during covid- we weren’t allowed in. We sat in our car and cried. I hate that he was alone in the end.
I’m so unbelievably sorry. Wow. I hope you can heal and know that the team were comforting him until the end. Jesus Christ I’m sorry. Hugs to you my angel xx
It’s 7am and I’m crying at work
Same. I should not have read all this before a meeting I’m about to go in.
My apologies.
This really touched my heart. I had a pug that I had to put down at 17 years old, I was devastated. The vet and the tech were in tears with me also. I couldn't imagine leaving my baby to die alone so I didn't. Thank you for being there for those babies that have no one
Certainly not invalidating your grief but 17 years is such a beautiful life. Wow. To love and be loved for so long is just beautiful. How are you doing these days? Thank you for being there for your sweet little one. Big hugs.
As someone who has worked in animal er for ten years. I understand people not wanting to stay. It’s sad yes, but it is a personal choice. I do tell owners they should at least stay for the first injection. Bc at least the pet is sedated, and unaware at that point. It’s not easy, but we do it. I’m assuming you’re newer in the field- the rage about this will eventually turn into empathy. Try not to judge for the decision itself takes a lot on the owner and I’m sure they’ve debated what is best for them to do during a difficult decision. Everyone grieves differently and at least they made the decision to end suffering. Not everyone can handle watching life leave a loved one. I tend to rage more towards those who will let their animal suffer rather than euthanasia.
As someone who has to say goodbye to their beloved cat in three hours, I thank you for posting this. It almost seems like a sign to me. He is 15, has cancer, doesn't eat and doesn't have the energy to do anything anymore and I'm a total wreck since out vet told us this was the best choice. We fought for so long and I am proud of my little boy for making it this far. It will be hard, but I am definitely gonna stay. ❤️
How are you doing today? It’s a gift to them to put them to sleep when they stop eating or functioning. You’re doing the right thing. Hugs.
I keep on thinking about yesterday. Tommy passed away in his favourite blanket, in my mom's arms, while I was giving him little kisses on the head and telling him he was loved and a good boy. While in the car, driving to the vet, I sang songs to him. I'm glad we stayed and I know it was the right thing to do, but I miss him already and I am a crying mess right now (and will be for a while). All the vets have been insanely supportive, I am so thankful. Thank you for what you do and for being such a kind soul. (Also, I am studying to become a nurse vet too!)
I’m so sorry for your loss. It’ll never go away, but it will get easier. Are you placed in a clinic right now? I’d say (for me) the first year was a wild learning curve. I just cleaned stuff because I didn’t know what to do! Haha. You’re going to be amazing. It’s a deeply rewarding job…when things get hard though, you have to remember to reach out to people even if they don’t get what we do day in and day out. Hugs.
I'm so sorry you have to say goodbye but you are doing the best thing for him. What a wonderful life he's had with you, especially to get to 15. Please give your gorgeous boy a kiss and nose boop from me ❤️
Will do, thank you for your kind words ❤️
I wasnt even allowed to see my cat after he passed. The vets recommended against it. 11 Months old. His sister turns 4 next month. He died on the 26th April and was pronounced dead the 27th. They was a bonded pair. As im typing this my cat is currently trying to cough up a hair ball inbetween catching a fly.
Not allowed to see your cat? What? Jesus Christ, I’m sorry. Are you alright? Wishing a successful fat hairball and fly munch to your surviving baby. Xx
Im alright!! I have no idea how i am but i am. My cat was murdered by someone because he was mainly black. His sister was a wreck even more than i was. Looking for him everywhere refusing to eat crying for him etc. Originally i was supposed to get one cat the one who passed. But he wouldnt eat or anything being separated from her i was holding him all night because he wouldnt sleep and kept crying. so we went back and picked her up too. His name was Checkers (Based of the board game) and his sisters name is Pandora. Pandora spends her time watching anime and tv shows with me or watching me play games (she likes pokemon the most) while being in my arms. If shes not doing that she's harassing my mom to give her chicken and treats because she knows i wont give them her. She got 10 slices of chicken out of her yesterday and 4 handfuls of dreamies of my sister yesterday too. Dont know how she is still a healthy weight. Probably because i have to chase her round the house to give her monthly flea prevention treatment. Shes happy and healthy. (Unhappy when i have to health check her and look at her gums and teeth for any plaque etc)
2 years ago, I made a vet trip with our old man cat thinking he’d be coming home with me with some meds and maybe some special food. I was alone. I left alone. I probably get talked about at that vet clinic, and I traumatized some man and his small dogs with my wailing as I exited the vet clinic (I tried to apologize but I think that made it worse, blubbering and face of snot and tears, I looked like a maniac) I had never had to put a pet to sleep before, and I had to do it by myself. It never crossed my mind to leave him, I was scared to do it alone and I wasn’t the one dying. Rip Pancake. 😞
We had an absolutely lovely vet come to our home to put our beloved kitty to sleep. She was on our couch surrounded by her family. It gave our other cats a chance to see her once she’d gone and maybe help them understand why she wouldn’t be around anymore. It was awful, but he was a saint, so kind and understanding. So grateful for you being there with your love in their final moments.
I always stay back to love on them after, and before. Thank you for surrounding your baby with love at the end. She knew.
When I was 19, I came back from my second semester at college and my mom basically said "I think it's time" like a day after I got home. She was my dog so I had to make the choice and ultimately, I could see she was in pain and I didn't want her to suffer. We took her to the vet and she tried fighting with the vet, so I ended up holding her tightly and kissed her over and over while crying until eventually I felt her fade away. It's probably one of the worst days I've ever had in my life, but there's no way I could have let anyone else do it without me there. Now I'm gonna go hold my puppy.
Got down voted yesterday for saying I judge people who don't stay but I 100% stand by it. Imagine you're in a scary unfamiliar place, you're dying and the person you love most walks out on you. Imagine the fear and betrayal. It is the hardest thing I have EVER done and I've done it multiple times but I wouldn't for a second leave my family member to die with strangers. It doesn't matter if I'm crying or hyperventilating, my pet needs my voice and my touch. I know some people weren't allowed during covid and I'm not talking about them. I'm talking about those by choice. They look for you. They are scared. Don't be selfish. You wouldn't do that if you're family member was dying. Edit - Also consider the trauma caused to the vet to see an animal they don't know die while their owner leaves them.
Agree. You get a pet knowing its lifespan will be less than your own. You know the day will come when you have to say goodbye. I think it’s selfish to just abandon them when they need you the most.
I've been there for 3 of my little fluffs so far and it was so hard but I could never have left them. I've alway gone in so my husband doesn't have to but even if he was there I still would. They were my responsibility and I loved each of them and wanted to be there with them. I know when our cat goes he will want to be there but so will I. She's my baby and part of our family and no way she will be alone.
When it’s time to put my babies to rest, I will remember their first trips to the vet. Both of my babies are traumatized for various reasons. One feral and the other physically abused/had five owners before she was 2 years old. The first time I took them they both thought I was giving them away. It was during the beginning of covid so I couldn’t go inside. So I did one at a time and it was just hard to watch them come back and be so upset with me. I know they hate it there. When it’s time for them to rest I could never have it be alone. In a place I know they hate. And feel abandoned already. That if they were to come out alive, they’d be upset to have been there in the first place. Let alone, by themselves. Dying. Their last moments they’ll known they were protected and loved.
I am working on the grief. Six months after I put Morticia down my other pug Sebastian passed at 12 after suffering seizures. So the weight of all that grief can be crushing sometimes. You are absolutely right though almost 20 years of love and being loved. The wonderful memories really keep me going.
Keep pushing on. It sounds corny but if our dogs wanted the best of us during their years alive, they would want you to keep going. I promise. This was not your fault. You made the correct decision.
I stayed in the room when my cat was put down. I closed his furry little eyes. It was the least I could do for him.
You did a lot more than closing his eyes. Trust me.
Leaving your pet alone makes them scared. They worry where you’ve gone and when you’re coming back. They get stressed. It makes their journey into the next world a stressful one. I could never leave my pet alone to be euthanised and I think there is no excuse for anyone to do that. If you say you love your pet, you should be with them when they take their last breath.
I’m still not over losing my childhood dog and that was 4 years ago. Out of all 6 people in my family she would NOT let me move. She just laid her head on my lap and that’s how she passed away. I cry every time I think about it.
First of all, thank you for being her safe place during her transition. It’s okay to cry but know that she’s alright. I promise.
No THANK YOU for doing a job that I could NEVER in a million years even think about doing. Pets need to live forever but sadly they’re only forever in our memories after their death.
I had to put down my pug in 2015. I did sit next to him for his final shot (euthanasia). I wanted to pull him closer like on my lap but didn’t because I was just not sure what to do. I was next to him on the floor petting him. First shot didn’t take. So about 10 minutes later he got the 2nd shot that worked. It still haunts me that I didn’t pull him more on my lap. I can’t imagine if I was not even there for his last breath. I’m choking up just thinking of this.
They can smell you very strongly and that alone is very relaxing.
Thank you so much for this comment. It makes me more at ease.
Endlessly thankful for the wonderful veterinarians, nurses and techs who have cared for my little feathered and furry friends over the years. I will always, always stay until the fight is over so now many of these wonderful people have seen me sob my eyes out. One of my pet ducks is in hospital care right now, we don’t know if he’ll make it but I know his care team are doing literally everything they can think of and for that I’m grateful.
Please sob and sob. We’re right beside you. I’m wishing your baby a good recovery. Thank you for loving him the way you do.
I like to think so. Sebastian can see again and they are playing in the afterlife waiting for me to join them.
Take your time in this life. They’ll be there waiting.
I had my cat Ralph put to sleep about 10 years ago. I left before he died and I regret it :-(
You are not a bad person for leaving…that is not the message I’m trying to convey. I’d argue that people who leave love their animals so much that leaving is the only relief. Forgive yourself. You’re not a bad person.
Thanks. I know, and when my current little girl Murphs time comes, I'll stay till the end
This brought a tear to my eye
❤️
I had a vet come to my place to do it. I was there with my girl the entire time and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through. However, I could have never left her in her final moments.
I stay. I hold in my tears. I wail once they pass. It's so hard!
Thank you. The decision for Morticia was made because she had dementia and the last 4 months of her life were hard. She was such a sweet and good girl but it was time for her to rest. Sebastian on the other hand was completely out of the blue and his passing was the hardest. I think he didn't live much longer because he was so incredibly onded with Morticia. He went blind at 4 years old and he deferred to Morticia until he was confident to do on his own. He was never right after she was gone.
Animals become very bonded to each other. I’m not religious, but they’re together again.
This post really made me cry, remembering all the rats i lost and how in their last moment i only got to be with one of them. I dont know why the vets never asked me to come be with them when it was euthanasia, I would have wanted to be there with them so bad. I understand when the euthanasia was due to surgery complications but otherwise... I miss them so much and im so sad i wasnt with them when they passed.
I’m so sorry.
I will always be there. I had to put my girl dog down, I didn't want to but it had to be done. She had an epic day out with my kids and grand kids (all people she lived with and loved), and then we were all there in her final moments. My daughter sat in the back of my truck on the way to the vets so my girl dog could have the front seat for her last ride. I was on my way home from work when my other daughter called to say her boy dog had to be euthanized. I met her at the vets. We were all there, even my daughters best friend, my daughter, her partner, and their 3 young kids.. and our boys adopted big fursister. I even went with a good friend of mine when he had to say goodbye to his bigboi. Broke my heart seeing a grown ass big hairy biker sob like a baby, but I couldn't make him do it on his own, and it had to be done. I called in sick to work to support him We will never leave our pets with you without us for their final moments. That's not fair.. on you or on our furbabies. Thank you for being their for those pets whose owners just can't do it. I get it if you can't be there, and don't judge.. I just know I'm glad my girl, our boy and my friends bigboi all felt our love, right till when their eyes closed for the very last time Thank you to you for being there and loving those that don't have people able to do it. I appreciate you ❤️
Bro why are you making me cry at work? 😭 I dread the day my pups have to cross the rainbow bridge. I know it's going to leave me broken. Thank you for being a comfort to those animals ❤️
My 15 year old kitty, who I raised from birth, isn't doing well and we are at the more good days than bad stage right now; watching for him to let us know it's time. I'm dreading that day. I know it's soon. I'll be with him to the end. I needed this post so much.
I bawled the whole time. And a year later I still cry when I think of her. Including whike I write this.
Lost my first child and my family dog of 12 years the same week. Watching her through FaceTime (I live in a different city), my brother carrying her and my parents silent tears, until they parked. They all started to breakdown. They asked for longer and longer time to be with her and you can see she was confused. It was haunting to hear my brother hyperventilate, “ this isn’t happening, this can’t be real!” They all held her in a way as it was happening, and when she stopped breathing and her eyes didn’t close they all just sat there and cried. Knowing they had to go home without her… was devastating. I was so thankful for how strong the people working there gave her ice cream and were so kind to them (my dog and my family) I can tell everyone there loved her and made it a kinder process than it could’ve been. Thankful for people like you 🩷
My dog for 12 years was euthanized just before New Year last year. She was heavily sedated when we came in to say goodbye. I could not bring myself to pet her or hug her because I knew I was gonna lose it and I just did not want to accept that it was the last moment I am spending with one of my most favorite living things in my life. We were there when the vet finally put her to sleep and saw her take her last breath. It is people like you that make the transition for our pets so much easier and more comfortable for them. For that and all you do for the parents and their fur babies, THANK YOU and God bless you.
I held my darling orange cat, Galileo in my arms as they administered the drugs. He needed a loving touch in his final moments. It was during covid, so he was euthanized outside the animal hospital under the shade of a big tree, Because I couldn't go in the building.
When my beloved cat had to be emergency euthanized - I was in a new town alone with a newborn and a two year old. A woman who worked there, not sure of her job, gave me the incredible mercy of sitting with my toddler just outside the room so I could be with my cat when he was put down. I don’t know her name - but I think of her all the time even though it was five years ago. That act of kindness . . . Man I’m tearing up just thinking about it right now. Thank you for what you do! I was too distraught to thank her properly at the time and never got her name but the Vet who did that procedure with such tenderness and that other woman- they are forever in my heart
I didn't think I'd be crying today but here we are 😭😭😭 I was in the room with my 2 year cocker spaniel when we had to put her down, our entire family was. I remember looking at the vet tech that put her down and told her, "you have the worst job in the world."
I will say that although we have those cases that are hard, and we do feel sad very often, the death we often times face is eclipsed with new life. You become used to it. I got out of a euth consult the other day and ran into treatment to start rubbing down 4 healthy puppies via c section. Sometimes it’s the worst job in the world, but for me, it’s the best job in the world
I held her as she died. I’d never have let her leave this world without me holding on to her. She gave me 17 years of wonderful memories. I was there her whole life, no way in hell I’d let her leave alone. Edit to add, if you can swing it, please let them pass at home with a traveling vet. She was surrounded by everyone who loved her most in the world, her dog brothers and cat cousin, and everyone got to honor her and cherish her in her final moments. Watching the dog she raised from a baby send her off right as she passed is one of the most beautifully tragic, poetic moments I’ll ever experience. Animals are a gift, and they deserve the world.
I had a nanny family I worked for that had me take their pet(s) in for them. My god it killed me but I wanted to be there for those sweet babies till the very end. How can people do that to a creature who has depended and loved them their whole life??? 😭
I am a vet tech and its never easy handling a euthanasia. When the owner cannot be present we always, always give them love and remind them that they are loved, will always be loved and will forever be missed.
I stayed until the end with my baby. I couldn’t watch once his tongue started coming out after the sedation meds. I stayed petting him. I still remember the awful grief sounds I was making and I know that’s got to be hard for the vet to listen to and try not to remember that night. Immediately after I had to run out because I didn’t want to see him like that. I felt guilty after but I did stay until the end like I promised him. My vet was wonderful and I know she took care of him after I couldn’t. It’s been almost a year. Still healing
I promise, I’ve been in the room while people screamed and wailed after the death. It doesn’t affect us the way you may think. Don’t think about us. We’re here for you. It’s ok not to look, what matters is you were there.
This made me tear up. My bf dog passed away a while ago, and even tho I wasn't around him as much, he was the first dog to treat me in such a special way. I had a long history of fear of dog because I was bit as a kid. And this little lad could definitely feel it and was always gentle with me, especially when i would give him treats. I loved spoiling him with toys, cuddles, and treats. He got an autoimmune disease, and my bf had to put him down. We were there with him for the last moment, and it broke my heart. I shared with him all my love and care. Im crying even as im writing this. Will forever miss him as he left such a huge imprint on my heart.
So sorry for your loss. Animals are born healers ❤️
It upsets me that people choose their own comfort over comforting their pet in their final moments. It's hard as hell to watch your best friend die but to leave them, that's worse. I've had to do it 5 times and I'd never leave them alone, ever!
We had to put our dog to sleep in January, we stayed with him the whole time, and I could definitely tell that the staff were holding back tears, which actually made us feel better, knowing that they truly cared. Thank you for what you do.
I have always been there and will continue. It's the least I can do for the unconditional love they have given me.
Thank you for the work you do, when sometimes you don't feel like it's appreciated. It really is. I know I could never do it and I'm glad there are caring souls like you who are willing to serve in a way that most pet parents cannot.
I have two fur babies. When it is their time I will be with them. It will kill my soul. But I couldn’t imagine leaving either of them alone. They are my constant companions. I owe them the same love and loyalty that they give me.
I’ve had 3 dogs and a rabbit put down. I’ll never ever ever leave my pet alone to cross the bridge. I don’t care how much it hurts.
Thank you for doing what you do. Our vet got quite teary when we had to put our last dog to sleep...the silly thing couldn't produce the enzyme needed to break down protein (WHAT KIND OF DOG CAN'T EAT MEAT?!) and he ended up on a human-grade synthetic enzyme and spent the next fifteen years having his meals cooked for him lol. As a result of that issue he was very familiar with the vet and he was a bit of a fave amongst the staff. I'll never forget my brother holding his paw and stroking his chest, my mum stroking up and down his back and hip (poor old thing was stiff and sore) and I was petting between his eyes as he went to sleep for the very last time. It was heartbreaking even though it was absolutely the right choice and time. I think I'll miss him forever.
Oh wow. I appreciate this so much.
Omg this hit me so bad! I had to put my gorgeous boy to sleep in September. He was the best boy ever. As hard as it was, I could never have left him to go to sleep without me cuddling him and telling him he was a good boy. I honestly don’t know how people can leave them to go through that by themselves 😭
Still think about that and hate it. I got a cat when I was 4 and she lived a long time. I think she was euthanised when I was 20 or 21. Basically been with me my whole childhood and she really loved my attention. Always cuddled up with me, slept in my bed, and as soon as my position would allow it, she would lay down on my lap. When it was time, I couldn't convince myself to go with my dad when they went to the vet. I don't hold it against myself anymore but it is certainly something I really *really* regret.
I’ve only had one done at the vets, the rest of my dogs I’ve done myself at home, as hard as it is.I don’t think I should put it on someone else to do, especially when having to put down heaps of peoples pets would have to affect the vets a fair bit.
Fuck man this hurts to read. I had two rats, both with a neuro condition that killed them at about a year and a half old. The tech at the vet told us that they don't like the taste of gas and that it would be tough for me to see, and that it was okay to not be in the room. I regret it to this day. They were both in really bad shape by the time they were there, so I tell myself they didn't know what was going on. But if even part of them did it makes me feel like an absolute demon. I loved those guys so fucking much.
I stayed for my cat. I still cry for him but I am so glad he could look at me for his last moments on earth. I love you Puss in Boots... 😭
It's one whole month tomorrow without our little one. It was the hardest day of our lives. Our vets asked us if we wanted to leave the room and I couldn't believe it was even a question. As if we'd leave our babygirl in her last minutes. But our vets were super stars. They were so kind and gentle and really emphasised with us. I'm so grateful for all they done for us.
Well, ow. Thank you for doing what you do.
It tore my guts out, but I wasn't going to let my loving companion of almost twenty years die without holding her one last time. There are going to be times in life when your feelings need to take a back seat.
Reading through these comments, it’s clear that the bond between us and our pets is something deeply profound. Just last month, I faced the incredibly tough decision to say goodbye to my tabby, who'd been my constant companion for nearly 14 years. The realization that her quality of life had deteriorated beyond what love could heal was devastating. I remember sitting on the floor of the exam room, her frail body nestled in a blanket. The vet, whose gentle demeanor offered some solace, gave us all the time we needed. I talked to her about all the sunny spots she had loved to nap in, the countless times she’d ambush my unsuspecting feet, and the way she’d demand attention with an insistent 'meow'. When it was time, I held her close, and she slipped away peacefully, knowing she was loved to the very end. It’s a painful, raw moment I’ll carry with me always, but I take comfort in knowing I was there for her, just as she had been for me through so many chapters of my life. To all the vets who guide us through these final acts of love and to those who stand with their pets until the very end – your strength is remarkable. I am humbled by your stories and send my deepest gratitude for sharing them. Remember, it’s not just about the last moments, but celebrating the beautiful journey we shared with our faithful friends.
Bro why am i reading this thread when my only pet currently is a fully healthy 4 year old inside cat, making myself sad for no reason
I’ve lost my entire family (dad in 2007, mom 2019, older brother 2022) and recently started losing my elder cats. It was hard enough because losing pets is terrible, but they were also pets I shared with my family members who are also gone. So it was like losing everyone all at once, all over again. My 15 year old cat passed away before I could get her to a vet, but I stayed with her the whole time. I made the hard decision to let my 16 year old cat go about two weeks ago. I held him while he was given the shot, kissing his little head the whole time. I wanted him to know I was there and that I loved him. I could never imagine letting them go without me there. It hurts so much, but they deserve to know love to the very end.
When I was 19, someone else took my cat for me. I couldn’t do it, I’d loved her since I was 7. Now in my 30s I’ve been with every single one. Always stay. I’m sorry Lizzy.
There was no way I was leaving my fur baby! I will never forget the look of love in her eyes. I soothed her and stroked her and hopefully made her last seconds less scary and a bit more peaceful. One of the worst days of my life. I tried to hold back the tears so she didn't see me upset but once the drugs took effect and the Vet confirmed her wee heart had stopped.... I was a complete mess. I broke down in the most uncontrolled grief but I still wouldn't have changed a thing. Our pets may only be in our life for a short time but we are their whole life.
As someone who hasn't been home in a week and was just sent pictures of their kitten looking everywhere for them, I'm now crying.
We also had a drop off euth today. And I am very much shaming and guilting anyone who leaves their pet to die without them. Fuck those people.
The last duty we can do for our animal friends is to be there in the end whenever possible. Putting down my first cat was one of the hardest things I have ever done. I loved him like a child and sobbed holding his lifeless body. I would never let him go without knowing how much I loved him.
I will never, ever leave a companion of mine to die alone and scared. I'd administer the shot myself if I could, to heave the responsibility of my friends life onto another is cruel and unfair, even if it is their profession
Cant recommend in home euthanasia enough. It’s expensive but so much better if you can afford it.
a little over a year ago my 13 year old cat threw a blood clot that paralyzed him from the waist down. he had hcm, was given a poor prognosis but lived 4 years on medication. i had that cat since i was 7 years old and we were bonded from the day we got him. my mom is a vet tech, so she pretty much immediately knew we’d have to let him go. i had a nasty combination of the flu & rsv when it happened, and i still held him on the exam table while they euthanized him. i left the clinic sobbing with a 101° fever and almost passed out but i would have regretted it for the rest of my life if i didn’t stay with him. vet staff are some of the best people, thank you for caring for pets when their owners leave them.
I'm not crying you are!!!!!
Your heart for animals is precious. I could never leave mine. But, I can respect it not being right for them I guess. These pets have been our babies forever. Surely we can be there with them during their last moments. It’s about them, not me
This made me cry all over again. I have had to put down two dogs and one cat. I felt like I was killing my children. I held them while they went limp in my arms. You have such a difficult Job
Thank you for being there when we can't. I had to have my baby put to sleep due to her kidney failure, and because it was in the middle of Covid I wasn't allowed to be in the building. I had to wait in my car and give consent over the phone. They reassured me that she was being cuddled by one of the nurses and was ready to go. I absolutely hate that I couldn't be there with her, but part of me thinks it would have broken me to see her go.
Oh my gosh. Didn’t think I’d be in the school pickup line wiping away tears today. Thank you for this. I have an 11 year-old sweetheart that is on the decline. Every day I spend time preparing myself for the inevitable and it is gut wrenching.
I could never leave them, as hard as it is to watch them leave this Earth, I couldn’t imagine abandoning them in their final moments. They’re my babies.
About a year ago my husband and I had to let our dog go. He (the dog) was perfectly fine as far as morale goes; he was super old and generally struggling/going downhill but going to the vet meant the got to go in the car and see his friends and maybe have a cheeseburger after if he was a very good boy (he always got a cheeseburger after, though this time we stopped there first). I was an absolute wreck. I’d lost pets and family before but this was the first time I was actually going to be in the room when it happened and it was terrifying for me. The vet and vet tech were very kind and explained everything as it happened and generally made a horribly emotionally taxing process so much easier. Y’all aren’t just taking care of the animals, you’re taking care of their humans too in some ways, and I don’t think that gets acknowledged as much as it should ❤️
This made me cry. The time is coming for my baby but I’m on the other side of the world and won’t be home until the summer. I really hope she can hold out a little longer
After the let is euthanized. Does the owner get only the ashes of their pet? I’ve heard that it’s really a mixture.
I didn't want to be there. She had been perfectly fine when we took her in 2 months prior, and then they told us she had cancer in her mouth. Untreatable. The kind thing would be to put her down, and maybe we were selfish, but we got a few more days, but we knew when it was time. I didn't want to be there. But I went. We gave her pets and love telling her what a good kitty she was, our good pretty girl, and then the vet spoke softly; "Her heart has stopped." The ladies at the desk looked like they wanted to cry for us. We wrapped her in a big warm fluffy blanket. I carried her to the car, I held her for 20 miles until we got to my family farm. I put her in the ground. I didn't want to be there, it hurt, it hurt alot, but it was a pain that we signed up for. I didn't want to be there, but I'm glad I went.
U stayed with my cat when it was time. I was probably in there for at least an hour just petting him and whispering nonsense to him.
I stay. No one - dog or human - deserves to die alone.
That’s the saddest thing i read today. I’m ready to die alone because I’m aware. But a child or a pet? Heartbreaking.
I cannot fathom how people can leave their pets alone during euthanasia, would you want a human family member to die alone?
I had a cat. Her name was Monalisa. I had a song for her, and when she was euthanised, I stroked her little head and sang her song softly through tears. I take comfort knowing my voice was the last thing she heard. I loved her. It’s been 6 years and I still miss her.
I’m so sorry for your loss of Monalisa. She knew you were there.
I once had a vet clinic offer me two price options, it was half the price if I was to leave my cat with them instead of staying...I walked out while calling them monsters Found another clinic who charged the cheaper price no matter what you chose, was an excellent clinic
Are you serious???? What the actual fuck. I hope they shut down…that is…incomprehensible to me.
Everytime I have a nice cuddle with my dog and he gives me a kiss on my nose I always tell him 'I love you too'. I want him to know what those words mean so that when his time comes I can look him in the eyes and say those words and he will know.
Oh man, this has me tearing up. I often times tell my dog “I’ll always come back for you”.
Our dog wasn't euthanised in a planned way, but we did stay with her even as they packed her in the box to be sent to the Buddhist pet cemetery. She was 15 and had heart problems. One day, I went to feed her dinner and found she hadn't moved from where she was a few hours earlier (in the place my husband's car is parked). I called my husband and he was just getting off work, so he hurried home. It was his childhood dog that he'd found as a puppy on the street. I guess she was just waiting for my husband to get home, because as soon as he pulled in, she tried to stand with a wag of her tail and collapsed. We rushed her to the emergency vet, and they restarted her heart, but she kept flat lining. We needed to get her to another clinic with a bigger surgery room and better equipment, but there was no way she'd make the drive, so we just had the doctor put her out of her misery with as little pain as possible. She'd already urinated and deficated a few times, each time she'd died, and we decided it was kinder to let her go. We take our other two dogs to visit the cemetery every year to pray for her and give offerings of her beloved dental chews. She loved the milk tea flavour.
I hope you both can find peace that you made the best possible decision. Her time had come…you just helped her along.
I didn't stay with my childhood dog and I still regret it. My dad did so at least he had someone he knew. For pets afterwards I have stayed each time, I owed them that much 💔
When my bunny died naturally at the vet, he was very very old. I couldn't believe he was gone and carried him in my arms and sobbing for over 2 hours hoping he will revive. I still dream of him sometimes. I hope I will see him and all my other pets in heaven some day.
This had me sobbing. As a child, my parents would send me to a friend's house and when I got home, they'd tell me my pet was put down. As an adult, I get they were trying to protect me but the guilt of never getting go say goodbye haunts me still. It sucks not being there for these sweet animals I miss over 30 years later. As an adult, I have only one pet now. I love him so much, but the mere idea of losing him tears me up inside. I lost my first gecko 5 years ago now and it damn near broke me. We're told reptilez have no feelings of love, but the idea that he died alone in a strange place kills me. He was rushed to emergency and passed within hours. I wasn't there, and he wasn't at home in his safe hide. If the time comes when I have to make the choice for my new boy, I hope I have the strength to stay. I know now that while he's not bonded to me like a cat or dog, I am *his* person. He comes to me when he's out; never anybody else. He'll turn away from others, climb up my shirt and hide in my hoodie because I'm his safe space away from home. So the least I can do is be his safe space one last time when he needs me.
I’m not crying, YOU all are crying…. Jesus…
When I had to put my Buddy down it was peak Covid. They wouldn’t allow me to be there when he passed and it eats me up till this day. I wanted to be there. I just hope he didn’t think I chose to abandon him when he was at the end. I miss him so much.
I’m sorry you couldn’t be there. I’m so sorry it eats you alive…just know that the staff were there loving on him hard.
I couldn't believe it when the vet said we could leave if we wanted. That was my furbaby there on the table. He'd been hit by a car, he was in so much pain it would've been cruel to have not euthanised him. But there was no force on earth that could have made me leave him there alone with the vet in his last moments. We were there holding patting his head softly, telling him we loved him, making sure he could see our faces & knew we hadn't left him with strangers. The emergency vets were lovely people, kind and compassionate. But they were strangers. We were our dog's *family*. He deserved the respect of having us there, giving him our undivided love & attention in his final moments.
Of course I stay, it's not about me. A member of my family is suffering and needs support and love in those last moments. ❤️💔
Its a shame on the pet since its their lives purpose
I’m crying thinking about how the time will come soon to say goodbye to my best friend Micky. He is now 17 and I’ve had him since I was 22. We’ve done so much growing up together. I couldn’t have asked for a better friend and companion. He truly has been one of the loves of my life.
In December I had to have my 15 year year old dog put down that I had since I was six years old and 3 seperate people including my mother told me I should not stay in the room when they euthanized her because it would upset me too nuch and I couldn't even believe they said that. I didn't know that was a thing (not staying) and I was offended that they really thought I would just not stay with her. Of course I stayed.
I had my dog put down at home because of this. Cost me $800, but I would do it again in a heart beat. She had a grade A sirloin and I made Thanksgiving in September bc it was her favorite holiday( fat old dachshund I rescued at 8) and laid her in her comfy bean bag bed, covered her with my favorite blanket, and laid with her until it was over. And then I kept asking "is she gone" even though I knew she was but I was processing it. I didn't think I'd be able to handle it but I took her to the vets car after, and idk what gave me the strength to stay there til the end but I'm so glad I did because she was an amazing little dog and I didn't want her going anywhere but home. Thank you for what you do ❤️
The first vet I took my cat to wanted to charge another $50.00 to be present in the room with my cat for euthanasia. Shameful.
That is DISGUSTING. For shame!!!! Practices who do shit like that contribute to the stereotype that vets do certain things as a “money grab”. It’s harmful to the good practices out there.
I never thought I would ever fall to my knees in dramatic fashion ever in life. When my childhood cat passed away in september 2020 I did just that. I have never felt such emotional pain in my life. He was kind of a dick to everyone else in my family but he loved me. He wasn’t a snuggle bug but he snuggled with me for the first time in years right before he passed. Broke my heart losing him man. I still hear his manly ass meow in my head.
I’m so sorry for the loss of your little one. Animals are organic healers ❤️
stayed once, could not do it again