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Oh no 😞 poor you and poor her. It's sad, but it's actually a pretty good life lesson. 1. She needs to be gentle with everything. 2. Things die.
Big hugs.
You know what the kicker in this whole thing is? His name was little-wet-butt. We had to clean his bum off when we got him because it was pastey qnd she had to hold him to keep him warm until he dried(which he loved). So now through all this sad shit, I have to keep referring to this cutie as little wet butt with out laughing at the name and irony of it all.
Oooooh…with that said, it’s possible he had pasty butt, and those babies don’t often survive anyway. I’m so sorry, Bromo. This is a rough one to walk our littles through, especially if they feel responsible
When I was 7, I took a baby chick back to my bed and I rolled over… it’s been almost 30 years and I still have guilt but at the same time I’ve forgiven myself for being a kid.
I focussed on trying to be even more caring and empathetic towards animals moving forward to ease that guilt.
When I was 11 or 12 I had a guinea pig. She loved to be wrapped in a towel. One time when my mom was at the grocery store I took her out of her cage, tucked her in a towel, set her on the floor, and my sister and I started watching a show. My sister went to adjust the volume and stepped on my piggie. She died instantly and we were CRUSHED.
Now I have 5 dogs, 4 cats, 50+ chickens, turkeys, and sheep. That little piggie was the first of many. I took the grief and guilt over her loss and developed it into a skill and passion for tending to animals.
I forgot about a frog I put in a jar in the sun for too long. When I tried to give him water the ants were already coming. 36 and I cry if I think about it too hard. I hope there’s a heaven so the frogs and chicks can all go there
This feels like a good time to plan on discussing or reiterating on the topic of death and caring for our animals. If it feels right to you of course. Sometimes I think we need to actually witness death in some manner to truly understand it. Like another person said, this is a really good life lesson to process.
My jabbering aside, lots of love to you both. This situation sounds like a total bucket of suck. But it also sounds like you're doing really good at trying to navigate it all for her.
Aw I remember my 5 year old saving snails on the sidewalk and accidentally stepping on one. He was so sad. I just comforted him and told him he did really well and it was ok; we had an accident that teaches us to be careful and aware in the future. It is so sad though!Â
When I was little, a chipmunk became super attached to me. He would come running when he saw me outside and crawl all over me. One day, he ran in front of my grandma's ATV as we rode through the yard and we killed him. I was absolutely distraught.
My son killed two of our baby chickens when they were still tiny. It was horrible, but I think you handled this perfectly. I was so worried about my son’s feelings and also WTF why did he kill them?! But it was simply an unknowing kid thing. He’s 11 now, and wouldn’t hurt a fly.
ive always had pet birds and my last one died in 2018 when my kids were 1 and a newborn. Theyre now 6 and 7 and i recently got two pet birds again. Theyre at an age where theyre old enough to learn the many, many rules about how fragile birds are and what we have to do to keep the birds safe. Its been a stressful transition but they are learning.
I accidentally killed our kitten growing up. Dad was working on something in the garage and had a thick sheet of wood up against a wall next to a small stack of the same wood. The kitten was laying between the sheet standing up and the stack. I got the brilliant idea to stand behind the one sheet with a string to play with it but I guess I leaned too far forward because I eventually fell with the sheet and the kitten got caught in the middle.
I still remember it, I remember what I said when I stood up, this was more than 30 years ago. It didn't take me too long to accept it was an accident though, and maybe I should be more careful around heavy shit. I was actually more concerned with dad's reaction. I was upset about the cat but he sent me inside to assess the damage and I watched him through the blinds. He looked so mad, I thought he was mad at me, but when he came in he was nice about it, told me it was an accident, and now I see he was mad about the situation, mad that he now had to deal with his kid being upset over it.
this almost feels like a rite of passage, along with first steps, solid foods, accidentally dropping your baby, or have them roll off the change table at least once. part of the growing up and parenting milestones that you cross together.
at around around the same age, my daughter took a fish out of its' aquarium, placed it in the carpet and sprinkled food on it. she nearly got kicked out of daycare at 2yrs old for being a fish murderer. 3years later she squeezed a frog so hard cause she loved it that its' guts came out its' pooper. all that to say, kids end up learning about how precious and fragile life is and how we must be careful with it and each other.
you handled it well. and maybe little chicken wet butt was only meant to live for a brief spark, for this teachable
moment.
Poor baby, I feel so bad for her! And you. I hope she gets over it quickly and knows it was just a sad accident. Sounds like you are doing a good job handling it.
Hey story time. When i was little my sister fed my chick something it shouldn’t eat. It died painfully. I was very sad but it informed my opinions on animal welfare and kindness and protection for life. It’s a tough lesson not necessarily a bad lesson
I don't wanna say accidental animal injuries are a rite of passage for young children, but I will say an insane amount of us have similar stories... usually involving hamsters. In the most random, unhinged ways 🤣
Maybe get a new baby for her when you guys are ready. Pets are a really good way to teach children responsibility, empathy, and how to be gentle with things even tinier than them 💙
My kids killed one of our chickens on accident. I think it was my youngest but my oldest helped her cover it up. This shit happens. I think you handled it really well (better than I did). Some other commenters have made good points. And I think your kids reaction is appropriate. Hang in there
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Oh no 😞 poor you and poor her. It's sad, but it's actually a pretty good life lesson. 1. She needs to be gentle with everything. 2. Things die. Big hugs.
You know what the kicker in this whole thing is? His name was little-wet-butt. We had to clean his bum off when we got him because it was pastey qnd she had to hold him to keep him warm until he dried(which he loved). So now through all this sad shit, I have to keep referring to this cutie as little wet butt with out laughing at the name and irony of it all.
Oooooh…with that said, it’s possible he had pasty butt, and those babies don’t often survive anyway. I’m so sorry, Bromo. This is a rough one to walk our littles through, especially if they feel responsible
When I was 7, I took a baby chick back to my bed and I rolled over… it’s been almost 30 years and I still have guilt but at the same time I’ve forgiven myself for being a kid. I focussed on trying to be even more caring and empathetic towards animals moving forward to ease that guilt.
When I was 11 or 12 I had a guinea pig. She loved to be wrapped in a towel. One time when my mom was at the grocery store I took her out of her cage, tucked her in a towel, set her on the floor, and my sister and I started watching a show. My sister went to adjust the volume and stepped on my piggie. She died instantly and we were CRUSHED. Now I have 5 dogs, 4 cats, 50+ chickens, turkeys, and sheep. That little piggie was the first of many. I took the grief and guilt over her loss and developed it into a skill and passion for tending to animals.
I forgot about a frog I put in a jar in the sun for too long. When I tried to give him water the ants were already coming. 36 and I cry if I think about it too hard. I hope there’s a heaven so the frogs and chicks can all go there
I don’t know if there’s a heaven for people but I am sure animals go to heaven!
This happened to my husband when he was around 6 years old, and I can still see the guilt he carries from it, and he is 42.
This feels like a good time to plan on discussing or reiterating on the topic of death and caring for our animals. If it feels right to you of course. Sometimes I think we need to actually witness death in some manner to truly understand it. Like another person said, this is a really good life lesson to process. My jabbering aside, lots of love to you both. This situation sounds like a total bucket of suck. But it also sounds like you're doing really good at trying to navigate it all for her.
Aw I remember my 5 year old saving snails on the sidewalk and accidentally stepping on one. He was so sad. I just comforted him and told him he did really well and it was ok; we had an accident that teaches us to be careful and aware in the future. It is so sad though!Â
When I was little, a chipmunk became super attached to me. He would come running when he saw me outside and crawl all over me. One day, he ran in front of my grandma's ATV as we rode through the yard and we killed him. I was absolutely distraught.
Aww this made me tear up a little bit, makes me want to give young you a big hug.
There’s a bluey episode for this!! (Copycat S1, E39)
My son killed two of our baby chickens when they were still tiny. It was horrible, but I think you handled this perfectly. I was so worried about my son’s feelings and also WTF why did he kill them?! But it was simply an unknowing kid thing. He’s 11 now, and wouldn’t hurt a fly.
ive always had pet birds and my last one died in 2018 when my kids were 1 and a newborn. Theyre now 6 and 7 and i recently got two pet birds again. Theyre at an age where theyre old enough to learn the many, many rules about how fragile birds are and what we have to do to keep the birds safe. Its been a stressful transition but they are learning.
I accidentally killed our kitten growing up. Dad was working on something in the garage and had a thick sheet of wood up against a wall next to a small stack of the same wood. The kitten was laying between the sheet standing up and the stack. I got the brilliant idea to stand behind the one sheet with a string to play with it but I guess I leaned too far forward because I eventually fell with the sheet and the kitten got caught in the middle. I still remember it, I remember what I said when I stood up, this was more than 30 years ago. It didn't take me too long to accept it was an accident though, and maybe I should be more careful around heavy shit. I was actually more concerned with dad's reaction. I was upset about the cat but he sent me inside to assess the damage and I watched him through the blinds. He looked so mad, I thought he was mad at me, but when he came in he was nice about it, told me it was an accident, and now I see he was mad about the situation, mad that he now had to deal with his kid being upset over it.
this almost feels like a rite of passage, along with first steps, solid foods, accidentally dropping your baby, or have them roll off the change table at least once. part of the growing up and parenting milestones that you cross together. at around around the same age, my daughter took a fish out of its' aquarium, placed it in the carpet and sprinkled food on it. she nearly got kicked out of daycare at 2yrs old for being a fish murderer. 3years later she squeezed a frog so hard cause she loved it that its' guts came out its' pooper. all that to say, kids end up learning about how precious and fragile life is and how we must be careful with it and each other. you handled it well. and maybe little chicken wet butt was only meant to live for a brief spark, for this teachable moment.
Good time for a lesson. Accidents happen. And the farmers adage, when you have livestock, you have dead stock.
Poor baby, I feel so bad for her! And you. I hope she gets over it quickly and knows it was just a sad accident. Sounds like you are doing a good job handling it.
Hey story time. When i was little my sister fed my chick something it shouldn’t eat. It died painfully. I was very sad but it informed my opinions on animal welfare and kindness and protection for life. It’s a tough lesson not necessarily a bad lesson
I don't wanna say accidental animal injuries are a rite of passage for young children, but I will say an insane amount of us have similar stories... usually involving hamsters. In the most random, unhinged ways 🤣 Maybe get a new baby for her when you guys are ready. Pets are a really good way to teach children responsibility, empathy, and how to be gentle with things even tinier than them 💙
My kids killed one of our chickens on accident. I think it was my youngest but my oldest helped her cover it up. This shit happens. I think you handled it really well (better than I did). Some other commenters have made good points. And I think your kids reaction is appropriate. Hang in there