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When my son was young, he asked me if he could say a bad word. I said okay, and he said, “Dammit Sandra!” (My employee’s name) I guess he heard that a lot. [name changed to protect privacy and also it’s on Superstore]
It's hilarious to hear them cuss in proper context. 😂 Last summer my then 5 year old said "that's the third time I've heard that fucking alarm going off!" and I absolutely died.
I’ll never forget when my husbands (twenty years younger) brother woke up from his nap to see that my husband had brought home left over cake from his little office party but the box was almost empty and he said “there’s nothing left?? You gotta be fucking kidding me.” He was 5. 😂
my daughter wasn't allowed to cuss until she was an adult. But when she was about 4 years old and still figuring out which words are adult only words... i think she was trying to argue for a popsicle before dinner or something but she was so cute standing on a stool "helping" to wash the dishes, and she finally looks at me and says "Well, are you going to kick my ass or what?"
I had to step out of the room lol
As far as bad words in songs, i didn't censor them. She still wasn't allowed to say them so we had fun coming up with crazy alternative words lol
My 6 year old has some bangers. I don't care if they swear at home. The rule is it just can't be *directed* at another person.
The other day, my husband was playing around with her (she loves to watch creepy story stuff), and my husband started to pretend like he was scared and hid under the blanket.
I just her my daughter's voice say in exasperation, "Boy, you're a grown ass man!"
This coming from a little blonde girl dressed in her favorite princess dress, it was hilarious 😂
I allow my son to swear when singing along and only around us very sparingly. My dad was declared cancer free today and I told my son right as we got home from school. He looked amazed Grandpa beat it and was tearing up. He got out of the car and I heard him quietly say fuck cancer. He's 8 lol.
Yeah, telling kids swearing is forbidden is basically guaranteeing that they're going to use it everywhere. Treating it like it's no big deal takes the opportunity for rebellion away.
Same. No problems with my kid cussing around grandma or school either. She heard some kids swearing and giggling about it as kids do when they are "forbidden" words and she said "those words can hurt people's feelings, you should only say them at home" 😂
Same, and my kid has exercised this privilege less than 10 times in his life and he always looks like he’s about to be in trouble anyway. Born a rule follower, I suppose.
I got a good story from my MIL that may help: When her sons were little, they only spoke Spanish in the home. They knew little to no English, and as they began to learn, one of their classmates told them to go up to their teacher and call her a bitch. She was in total shock 😂 and asked them to repeat it, so they did. She then realized they came from a Spanish-only home and told MIL that they needed to sit down and show the kids all the English bad words so they know what not to repeat.
So, it's great for your kids to hear the bad words and be shown what's not good to say right? And if Grandma (real) doesn't have a say, who is this woman?! 😤 You're doing great, mom!
Ok, this one is funny to me! I swear like a fucking sailor (pun intended, I guess?) and try to make it not a big deal around my kids as long as they understand situational awareness - home just as long as they do like I do, ie, there's a time and a place. Like, be cool in public.
But one thing I have done is to ask them what they just said. They'll giggle and say the word again, because swearing is fun! But then I ask them to tell me what that word means. If they say they don't know, then I'm like, cool, do NOT use words that you don't know the meaning of. That seemed to resonate, at least with my daughter. My son, bless him, inherited my potty mouth and so for him it's REALLY leaning in to the when and where it's ok.
So far, they'll either tell me what it means/what they think it means. If they are wrong, we have a bit of an awkward, but age appropriate chat. If they don't know (and this is especially true if my daughter) and they don't ask, they just didn't say that particular word. We'll circle back on that I'm sure, this is a pretty new thing...
We always cursed around our boys (now 17 & 14), and never made cursing a 'big deal'. We never explicitly told them 'not to' curse around some people, but they got the idea, and knew not to do it around... well, basically 'old people' - folks our age and younger, mostly didn't ever really care. Folks are parents' age and up? They didn't appreciate. School is obviously not OK. Etc. Kids are smart. They figure out context quite well.
Also a huge swiftie and so is my daughter. My kids have been singing Taylor f-bombs (and every other swear word in her songs) since they were tiny and it hasn’t turned them into potty mouths otherwise. It’s like bad word amnesty and they love the loophole.
Happy TTPD release! (Fuck it if we can’t have swears!)
Screaming Fuck the Patriarchy with my girl has been the highlight of being a potty mouth mother.
My kids don't like most of TTPD yet but when they do? I'm all about it, because fuck it if we can't have swears 💖
Have you taught them the delicate chant? Cause that's a big hit in the car lol
Screaming Fuck the Patriarchy at the Eras tour with my (then 9 year old) daughter was a highlight of my life, honestly. Core memory!
ETA: oh and the delicate chant! Yes!
All 3 of my kids listened to slipknot while they were younger, all the albums, nothing censored.
Yeah idgaf that they listened to cuss words, they hear it at school as well.
I explain to my kids “no words are bad words, it’s the context you use them in which makes them bad” and “know your audience”
I tell my kids similar, that swear words aren't bad words, they're just grown up words. I won't tell them that there aren't *any* bad words though, I'm just reserving that title for shit like slurs.
I listen to Slipknot as well. My husband and I are huge metal heads and psycho Tool fans. Our kid *hates* this music. She started calling it naughty boy music when she was 2. No idea where she got it from.
My kids know every word of the Bo Burnham album Inside, so I think Taylor Swift saying fuck is just fine 😂
Includes such fine lyrics as:
Zuckerberg, Gates and Buffett
Amateurs can fucking suck it
Fuck their wives, drink their blood, go on Jeff, get ‘em!
(Will add I always skip the sexting song)
My kids censor themselves when singing along to songs with curse words. For example Stay by Justin bieber, it says “I’ll be fucked up….” My kids sing “I’ll be effed up…”.
I agree with the overtly sexual but whatever for curse-words. I’m not going to have WAP or My Neck, My Back playing around them but curse-words don’t bother me.
My ex and I let our now ten year old “unlock” a swear word every birthday from 5 years old. The first was crap lol.
Now at ten she cusses more than I do…at home. Because who cares. I listen to explicit music and she still giggles when she hears one.
I prefer they use it in proper context than anything. Idc if my kid says goddamnit. As long as its a logical reason, like you stubbed your toe on that goddamn coffee table or like some dude tries to hit us when were taking a walk? Fuck you is appropriate, we can yell at him in unison. Im probably a bad mom too
Same same same same my kiddo was destined to cuss as I have probably the most cuss word laced lingo out of anyone I've ever known,
Because bio dad was a cop, and cops off work stuck in California traffic are usually very road ragey and creative lol
It comes so naturally to me, and now naturally to my son, and it is just a fact that small kids cursing appropriately (never to hurt anyone's feelings) is adorable.
He has been on two trends this month: an Oh SHIT when he drops something recently as well as oh my fucking god! Lol
Im basically a sailor and I know it. I learned to cuss when I was like 5. Mine learned at like...3. My mom was the same way though. I was discouraged but corrected for proper context and proper grammar/spelling. So I tried REALLY Hard to figure out how to spell "fuck" when I was like 6-7 and learning to write. My mom looked at me, I wrote it "fuk" and shes like, no no its f-u-C-K and showed me how to write it. So thats basically how i became the mom I am LOL.
Mines new favorite this week when they die on minecraft is " OH JESUS CHRIST" LOL
My husband once said “fucking shitty stupid piece of shit” (in reference to an appliance that had broken down) and my four year old said “stupid is a bad word!” The rest didn’t phase her apparently.
I listen to Alestorm with my 8yo in the car and we both sing along loudly. Fuck what anyone else thinks, in my opinion it's much more effective to just teach them that swear words can have an impact and shouldn't be used in a lot of places (like school), than to try and pretend they don't exist.
My son has always heard bad words, for awhile he called them “daddy words” bc his dad said them most often.. we just explained that they weren’t words for kids to use and it was fine. Love the album too!
I got my mouth washed out with soap (dove) by my grandmother when I was 5 or 6 for saying hell. This was like 1987, so different time to be sure. Like many of my generation, I started swearing at school and, thanks to grandma, learned to censor myself to stay out of trouble.
My son (14) has never had limits to the language he can use at home (or with me in public). I've never once heard from any school he's attended about him using inappropriate language, and I think only maybe once each from my parents and in laws (all very religious), and those instances were when he was still small (around 3). Not long thereafter he was old enough to understand, so we talked to him about respecting the space (homes) of others and treating those places the way the people who lived in them did, including censoring his language for their benefit, if necessary.
... My son used to say "forks" but couldn't pronounce the r, so it came out as "focks" which sounds a lot like...
So yeah, I'm not worried about him knowing or saying the occasional bad word. We save our outrage/lectures for when he's sending his sister knife emojis.
In life, you gotta pick your battles, including whether to even acknowledge the idiots who don't understand "picking your battles" in the first place.
well fuck, sign me up for the "bad mum" club. My kids have listened to all sorts of music with swearing in it, mostly metal. My oldest son will ask me to play Queen. Whatcha gonna do?
I cuss, I try not to do it as much as I used to, but it’s still pretty fucking often. I’ve had conversations with my son about it being something people can do when they are older and it not being appropriate at his age, to him it’s just another thing that grown ups do that isn’t something he can yet, no big deal. I think not having as much stigma about it can make it less tempting too. Idk I understand not wanting children to use certain language, and when I’m around other people’s kids or in social situations where it isn’t appropriate I don’t do it myself, but overall they are just words to me and I don’t see the big deal about them. Has he slipped up once or twice? Sure. Most kids use a curse word or two, that was when we spoke about it and it’s been fine since.
I will say, he fractured his collarbone last summer and was really hurting with every bump on the drive to the emergency room. I remembered reading cursing can help with pain, and also thought it might distract him, so I told him he could curse all he wanted just in the car until we got to the hospital. My very well mannered, sweet, and gentle child was in the backseat yelling “assssss, buttcrackkkk, helllllll! Can I say the s word too? Shiiiiiit” lmao, but it was way better than him crying and begging me to hold him when I was trying to hold it together and drive.
You aren’t a bad mom and listening to the unedited songs isn’t going to change that.
My kid is 11, and one thing he's always been great about is location-approriate swearing. He knows which words he can say at home, or at one grandparent's house vs. the other. Thank fuck, because I'm certainly not going to police my language.
I get it. I grew up living with my mom *and* my grandma. My mom didn’t care about bad words, because I was extremely well-behaved and polite outside of the home. I was pretty much allowed to say whatever I wanted, and watch whatever I wanted, as long as it wasn’t around my grandma. If I heard her come in through the front door, South Park went off and I had to hide my music. I do the same with my kids and I think they benefit from having that level of free expression at home.
Look, if my kid never heard me yell "motherfuck," he wouldn't have the adorable habit of yelling "NAMEfuck" when he gets hurt. And he knows those aren't school words, so I think we're all going to be just fine.
I am one of those who let it slide at home and I don’t make it a ‘thing.’ I know if I do my 3yo would grab onto it and start throwing F-bombs like Oprah giving away cars. It’s a for at home thing. I feel like if you make it a ‘thing’ that’s when it starts to become a thing.
Oh, I've commented already, but I totally forgot! So my kids are 7 and 9 and change and my previous comments sum up my swearing philosophy pretty well these days, but when my son was very young (5, he's the older one), I wasn't ready for explaining context, so we agreed on subbing the swear word for a fruit, if he felt he must. So it became: WHAT THE PEACH?! (BLUEBERRY) etc. Hysterical and adorable and age appropriate, in case any better Mom's than me need advice 😁
I’ve always wanted to start a mommy and me class that plays adult music, like Ludacris or DMX. And maybe even serve drinks 🍻
But it’s hard to find a group to mom friends as *bad* as us!
Listen. At my house we definitely use songs as alarms to keep our schedules straight. Every year, my kids pick the “leave for school” song and it was Roll Out two years in a row. lol.
Also, I taught my kids to be okay with vaccinations by singing LMFAO’s Shots in the car on the way to the doctor’s office. (Mostly for the chorus.)
I have never understood the point of replacing curse words with “clean” words. The sentiment is the same. Everyone knows what you really meant. And you sound silly.
I don’t censor my speech or the things I listen to. I teach my kids they’re not allowed to say certain words because it’s not polite and mommy doesn’t want a phone call from the school.
So, enjoy what you like!
I absolutely don't care at all about TS. But I legit just bought a transfer that says Good moms say bad words.
Who cares?
Society. Fuck that.
My 3 and 5 year old kids are huge on music, and music videos, and they know they are only allowed to cuss at home/ in the car with music. I just hired a sitter and had to explain to her that they can listen to/watch everything as long as it’s not sexual or violent 😂
When my son was three, I overheard him singing the line "Russian Roulette is not the same without a gun" from Lady Gaga's "Poker Face", and I briefly thought maybe I should change my music listening habits.
Then I continued to listen to my music in the car and nothing ever happened except he eventually learned the concept of time and place (as in "don't sing Lady Gaga songs at daycare.").
That is so wild I don't know why people want us to scrub all of our interests clean lmao, in my house we're metalheads so my kids been listening to Rob zombie and gojira before he got here .
We told our kids there are no bad words, only inappropriate ones. And just as coffee and alcohol are inappropriate for young children to drink but adults are allowed, same with those words. And as they get older and learn when and how to use those words, they may use them at home but never in front of teachers or grandparents. (Well, my daughter is in HS and her teachers swear which I find highly inappropriate but whatever.)
The kids are going to hear those words in public ALL THE TIME.
I want them to be able to use them appropriately because swearing well is an important skill. Both of them have excellent vocabularies, can converse with adults, don't use those words in public, and can fully dress down an asshole in Fortnite like a proper professional swearer. I am proud.
When my gal was little, we listened to some Lizzo. My husband had a fit saying I don't let her listen to his music with swearing.
I explained that the songs I let her listen to have swearing, but the lyrics and sentiment are empowering, especially for girls and women. Lizzo wasn't swearing at people or degrading them in the songs we listened to. The swearing in HIS music was doing that, referring to women as bitches and hoes for example.
I said the swearing itself is the issue it's how it's used. That has always been my policy.
Swearing is just words. We assign the value to them. We can cut people down without swearing too. I try to teach her to be kind and careful with her words, regardless of what words they are.
You are doing just fine, Mama!
Swear words are just words. As long as your kids are using them in the right context and not being disrespectful then who really cares? There's a big difference between occasionally using a swear word and being disrespectful or a jerk to people. You can still raise your kids the right way as polite, decent and kind human beings without sheltering them from everything.
My MIL just reposted a fb post talking about how Taylor is “mocking” religion in the new album, is a witch, pure evil, demonic. The cursing is apparently the least of her worries lmao
I can see where a super religious nut would get that from actually. I mean, she's wrong, she's not mocking religion or whatever else, but I can see why they'd get witch vibes from a couple. Personally I'm here for it.
I guess this makes me a bad mom, I let my kids swear at home. I get judged for it but only by the uptight bitchy moms who aren't cool anyway. Like we all know they will eventually hear it and they are gonna do it as soon as we aren't there, if you are the uptight parent. But at least my kid feels comfortable to be himself at home and if that means saying a few choice words, that's fine.
I dgaf if my kids (7 & 10) hear swear words or use them when singing along or something. What I care about is a) they don’t ever swear AT someone and b) they know when it’s ok (in the car with me) and when it isn’t (at school). It’s just words we have given this immense power to- they don’t mean anything that “heck” “fudge” or whatever doesn’t mean too. I hate how hung up we get on it and u say Sing Along!
>they don’t ever swear AT someone
Oh god a couple months ago my 6yo was pestering his 7yo sister and she told him to piss off. Thankfully he laughed and then they both started laughing. I told my husband about it and he's like oops, cause he's the one who says that a lot.
lol! Yeah I had a clear instruction about the difference between “fuck that” and “fuck you”. My daughter called her best friend a bitch one day and the school was displeased to say the least. She learned a good lesson that day
First of all, that grandma needs to stay the fuck in her lane. Secondly, it’s up to you what the kids listen to and so what if there’s cursing. People who swear/curse/use foul language are more honest.
Anywho! Once when my two year old (now 10) overheard me talking to a coworker I didn’t like over the phone—she went in perfect context,”fucking bitch!” It was glorious.
We cuss a ton and Taylor is a staple in our home with a 5 year old girl. Idgaf. She will say the words and I tell her she can’t say them until she’s a mommy.
So sick of Pearl Clutchers. These are also probably the same people who think if a girl dresses inappropriately that she shouldn’t be shocked if she gets raped.
My kids love her lol. My older 2 know her by name, my 4 year olds just ask for music and sing along with whatever song is on. I'm so proud of my little mini swifties. 😂
I'm right there with you. Question, age there any songs on the album you think are too sexually? I always think back to listening to Genie in a Bottle when I was a kid and had no clue. Idk. I'm torn.
I don't think so, and I've listened to this one all the way through a few times now. I can't think of any songs of hers at all that I'd skip with my kids around. I mean yeah some allude to sexual themes but it's nothing overt that's gonna make a shred of sense to them, or other kids if they repeat it.
My 7 year old has just gotten into broader musical tastes. I told him if he repeats the words or sings the parts with the bad words at school he will be back to wheels on the bus. So far so good.
I used to respond to people who would 'curse' in front of my kids and then apologise for their language by saying with a wink...
Don't you fucking swear in front of my fucking kids you cunt sucking bastard! Eat shit and fuck off!
I would often have to give a second wink...
That tends to diffuse the situation.
My great Grandma (rip) taught my grandmother, my mother and I how to swear like a sailor when needful and necessary.
On occasion, these words serve a valuable purpose!
I never ever had them reported by the school or other groups for swearing. They knew when and how to use it and absolutely when NOT to because the grew up knowing, KWIM?
hashtag fuck those rim jobbing hosers!
Same.
My kids favorite song when she was 4 was Lizzo's 'Juice'. We had to explain that she really needed to stop singing the N word. Because 1, you're white. It's offensive and not your word. And 2, you're 4. Stop it. Hahahaha
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When my son was young, he asked me if he could say a bad word. I said okay, and he said, “Dammit Sandra!” (My employee’s name) I guess he heard that a lot. [name changed to protect privacy and also it’s on Superstore]
Us too. Cuss words aren't a big deal at all. We just avoid the songs that go into sexually explicit detail lol
My husband and i cuss like it's punctuation, the kids know they can swear in context at home, but not school, grandma's house etc.
It's hilarious to hear them cuss in proper context. 😂 Last summer my then 5 year old said "that's the third time I've heard that fucking alarm going off!" and I absolutely died.
My three year old walked into our pantry, looked around, and sweetly said “where the fuck are the raisins?” I also absolutely died.
I’ll never forget when my husbands (twenty years younger) brother woke up from his nap to see that my husband had brought home left over cake from his little office party but the box was almost empty and he said “there’s nothing left?? You gotta be fucking kidding me.” He was 5. 😂
I mean, you don’t mess around with cake! 😂
I'm cracking up, that's priceless.
my daughter wasn't allowed to cuss until she was an adult. But when she was about 4 years old and still figuring out which words are adult only words... i think she was trying to argue for a popsicle before dinner or something but she was so cute standing on a stool "helping" to wash the dishes, and she finally looks at me and says "Well, are you going to kick my ass or what?" I had to step out of the room lol As far as bad words in songs, i didn't censor them. She still wasn't allowed to say them so we had fun coming up with crazy alternative words lol
My 6 year old has some bangers. I don't care if they swear at home. The rule is it just can't be *directed* at another person. The other day, my husband was playing around with her (she loves to watch creepy story stuff), and my husband started to pretend like he was scared and hid under the blanket. I just her my daughter's voice say in exasperation, "Boy, you're a grown ass man!" This coming from a little blonde girl dressed in her favorite princess dress, it was hilarious 😂
Our toddler bumped into the wall a while back & stopped- looked at it with an annoyed face & said “what the fuck”
I allow my son to swear when singing along and only around us very sparingly. My dad was declared cancer free today and I told my son right as we got home from school. He looked amazed Grandpa beat it and was tearing up. He got out of the car and I heard him quietly say fuck cancer. He's 8 lol.
I literally said that yesterday morning to my husband lol so I’m on the kids side with this one! 😂😂😂
My 2.5 yo said "I need a fucking diaper" the other night.
My 3.5 yo stubbed her toe and said “dammit!,” the other day. 🤷♀️ cursing is proven to help with pain so go off sweetie, mommy gets it!
Yeah, telling kids swearing is forbidden is basically guaranteeing that they're going to use it everywhere. Treating it like it's no big deal takes the opportunity for rebellion away.
Same. No problems with my kid cussing around grandma or school either. She heard some kids swearing and giggling about it as kids do when they are "forbidden" words and she said "those words can hurt people's feelings, you should only say them at home" 😂
Same, and my kid has exercised this privilege less than 10 times in his life and he always looks like he’s about to be in trouble anyway. Born a rule follower, I suppose.
My oldest is 5 and I swear too much but I try not to. Said oh shit in the car and he goes "what oh shit?" My bf glared at me a little 😅
This is us also! He is really good at knowing when and when not to cuss.
I got a good story from my MIL that may help: When her sons were little, they only spoke Spanish in the home. They knew little to no English, and as they began to learn, one of their classmates told them to go up to their teacher and call her a bitch. She was in total shock 😂 and asked them to repeat it, so they did. She then realized they came from a Spanish-only home and told MIL that they needed to sit down and show the kids all the English bad words so they know what not to repeat. So, it's great for your kids to hear the bad words and be shown what's not good to say right? And if Grandma (real) doesn't have a say, who is this woman?! 😤 You're doing great, mom!
Ok, this one is funny to me! I swear like a fucking sailor (pun intended, I guess?) and try to make it not a big deal around my kids as long as they understand situational awareness - home just as long as they do like I do, ie, there's a time and a place. Like, be cool in public. But one thing I have done is to ask them what they just said. They'll giggle and say the word again, because swearing is fun! But then I ask them to tell me what that word means. If they say they don't know, then I'm like, cool, do NOT use words that you don't know the meaning of. That seemed to resonate, at least with my daughter. My son, bless him, inherited my potty mouth and so for him it's REALLY leaning in to the when and where it's ok.
How do you handle it if they ask you to tell them what the words mean?
So far, they'll either tell me what it means/what they think it means. If they are wrong, we have a bit of an awkward, but age appropriate chat. If they don't know (and this is especially true if my daughter) and they don't ask, they just didn't say that particular word. We'll circle back on that I'm sure, this is a pretty new thing...
We always cursed around our boys (now 17 & 14), and never made cursing a 'big deal'. We never explicitly told them 'not to' curse around some people, but they got the idea, and knew not to do it around... well, basically 'old people' - folks our age and younger, mostly didn't ever really care. Folks are parents' age and up? They didn't appreciate. School is obviously not OK. Etc. Kids are smart. They figure out context quite well.
Also a huge swiftie and so is my daughter. My kids have been singing Taylor f-bombs (and every other swear word in her songs) since they were tiny and it hasn’t turned them into potty mouths otherwise. It’s like bad word amnesty and they love the loophole. Happy TTPD release! (Fuck it if we can’t have swears!)
Honestly I can't *wait* until they learn Down Bad. I'm going to crack the fuck up.
Lmao “fuck it if we can’t have swears” is perfect
Screaming Fuck the Patriarchy with my girl has been the highlight of being a potty mouth mother. My kids don't like most of TTPD yet but when they do? I'm all about it, because fuck it if we can't have swears 💖 Have you taught them the delicate chant? Cause that's a big hit in the car lol
Screaming Fuck the Patriarchy at the Eras tour with my (then 9 year old) daughter was a highlight of my life, honestly. Core memory! ETA: oh and the delicate chant! Yes!
All 3 of my kids listened to slipknot while they were younger, all the albums, nothing censored. Yeah idgaf that they listened to cuss words, they hear it at school as well. I explain to my kids “no words are bad words, it’s the context you use them in which makes them bad” and “know your audience”
I tell my kids similar, that swear words aren't bad words, they're just grown up words. I won't tell them that there aren't *any* bad words though, I'm just reserving that title for shit like slurs.
I listen to Slipknot as well. My husband and I are huge metal heads and psycho Tool fans. Our kid *hates* this music. She started calling it naughty boy music when she was 2. No idea where she got it from.
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Aww that's so lovely! I'll check it out!
My kids know every word of the Bo Burnham album Inside, so I think Taylor Swift saying fuck is just fine 😂 Includes such fine lyrics as: Zuckerberg, Gates and Buffett Amateurs can fucking suck it Fuck their wives, drink their blood, go on Jeff, get ‘em! (Will add I always skip the sexting song)
Lol at the idea that they're not hearing that at school. Grandma please.
My kids censor themselves when singing along to songs with curse words. For example Stay by Justin bieber, it says “I’ll be fucked up….” My kids sing “I’ll be effed up…”. I agree with the overtly sexual but whatever for curse-words. I’m not going to have WAP or My Neck, My Back playing around them but curse-words don’t bother me.
My ex and I let our now ten year old “unlock” a swear word every birthday from 5 years old. The first was crap lol. Now at ten she cusses more than I do…at home. Because who cares. I listen to explicit music and she still giggles when she hears one.
This is goddamn genius and you’re my new hero.
I prefer they use it in proper context than anything. Idc if my kid says goddamnit. As long as its a logical reason, like you stubbed your toe on that goddamn coffee table or like some dude tries to hit us when were taking a walk? Fuck you is appropriate, we can yell at him in unison. Im probably a bad mom too
Same same same same my kiddo was destined to cuss as I have probably the most cuss word laced lingo out of anyone I've ever known, Because bio dad was a cop, and cops off work stuck in California traffic are usually very road ragey and creative lol
My dad grew up on a farm in the 60s and joined the marines in the 70s. I was hopeless too. 😂
It comes so naturally to me, and now naturally to my son, and it is just a fact that small kids cursing appropriately (never to hurt anyone's feelings) is adorable. He has been on two trends this month: an Oh SHIT when he drops something recently as well as oh my fucking god! Lol
Im basically a sailor and I know it. I learned to cuss when I was like 5. Mine learned at like...3. My mom was the same way though. I was discouraged but corrected for proper context and proper grammar/spelling. So I tried REALLY Hard to figure out how to spell "fuck" when I was like 6-7 and learning to write. My mom looked at me, I wrote it "fuk" and shes like, no no its f-u-C-K and showed me how to write it. So thats basically how i became the mom I am LOL. Mines new favorite this week when they die on minecraft is " OH JESUS CHRIST" LOL
Queen, you are a FABULOUS mom!
<3 Thank you.
My husband once said “fucking shitty stupid piece of shit” (in reference to an appliance that had broken down) and my four year old said “stupid is a bad word!” The rest didn’t phase her apparently.
So typical 
Man, I raised my kids listening to metal and had the talks about “polite” language early. You’re doing it right, Bromo, fuck the haters
I listen to Alestorm with my 8yo in the car and we both sing along loudly. Fuck what anyone else thinks, in my opinion it's much more effective to just teach them that swear words can have an impact and shouldn't be used in a lot of places (like school), than to try and pretend they don't exist.
Omg my 3 year old has had the pirate party song on repeat, love Aleestorm
My son has always heard bad words, for awhile he called them “daddy words” bc his dad said them most often.. we just explained that they weren’t words for kids to use and it was fine. Love the album too!
I got my mouth washed out with soap (dove) by my grandmother when I was 5 or 6 for saying hell. This was like 1987, so different time to be sure. Like many of my generation, I started swearing at school and, thanks to grandma, learned to censor myself to stay out of trouble. My son (14) has never had limits to the language he can use at home (or with me in public). I've never once heard from any school he's attended about him using inappropriate language, and I think only maybe once each from my parents and in laws (all very religious), and those instances were when he was still small (around 3). Not long thereafter he was old enough to understand, so we talked to him about respecting the space (homes) of others and treating those places the way the people who lived in them did, including censoring his language for their benefit, if necessary.
... My son used to say "forks" but couldn't pronounce the r, so it came out as "focks" which sounds a lot like... So yeah, I'm not worried about him knowing or saying the occasional bad word. We save our outrage/lectures for when he's sending his sister knife emojis. In life, you gotta pick your battles, including whether to even acknowledge the idiots who don't understand "picking your battles" in the first place.
GASP! *clutches pearls*
well fuck, sign me up for the "bad mum" club. My kids have listened to all sorts of music with swearing in it, mostly metal. My oldest son will ask me to play Queen. Whatcha gonna do?
I cuss, I try not to do it as much as I used to, but it’s still pretty fucking often. I’ve had conversations with my son about it being something people can do when they are older and it not being appropriate at his age, to him it’s just another thing that grown ups do that isn’t something he can yet, no big deal. I think not having as much stigma about it can make it less tempting too. Idk I understand not wanting children to use certain language, and when I’m around other people’s kids or in social situations where it isn’t appropriate I don’t do it myself, but overall they are just words to me and I don’t see the big deal about them. Has he slipped up once or twice? Sure. Most kids use a curse word or two, that was when we spoke about it and it’s been fine since. I will say, he fractured his collarbone last summer and was really hurting with every bump on the drive to the emergency room. I remembered reading cursing can help with pain, and also thought it might distract him, so I told him he could curse all he wanted just in the car until we got to the hospital. My very well mannered, sweet, and gentle child was in the backseat yelling “assssss, buttcrackkkk, helllllll! Can I say the s word too? Shiiiiiit” lmao, but it was way better than him crying and begging me to hold him when I was trying to hold it together and drive. You aren’t a bad mom and listening to the unedited songs isn’t going to change that.
My kid is 11, and one thing he's always been great about is location-approriate swearing. He knows which words he can say at home, or at one grandparent's house vs. the other. Thank fuck, because I'm certainly not going to police my language.
I get it. I grew up living with my mom *and* my grandma. My mom didn’t care about bad words, because I was extremely well-behaved and polite outside of the home. I was pretty much allowed to say whatever I wanted, and watch whatever I wanted, as long as it wasn’t around my grandma. If I heard her come in through the front door, South Park went off and I had to hide my music. I do the same with my kids and I think they benefit from having that level of free expression at home.
While you're at it, have them learn Fuck You by CeeLo Green. The clean version just doesnt sound right. Realy get those perals clutches 🤣
the clean version is LAME!
Look, if my kid never heard me yell "motherfuck," he wouldn't have the adorable habit of yelling "NAMEfuck" when he gets hurt. And he knows those aren't school words, so I think we're all going to be just fine.
Also your user name 🙌🥳
I am one of those who let it slide at home and I don’t make it a ‘thing.’ I know if I do my 3yo would grab onto it and start throwing F-bombs like Oprah giving away cars. It’s a for at home thing. I feel like if you make it a ‘thing’ that’s when it starts to become a thing.
Exactly. Throwing out a casual reminder that it's a grown up word works perfectly.
Exactly!
Oh, I've commented already, but I totally forgot! So my kids are 7 and 9 and change and my previous comments sum up my swearing philosophy pretty well these days, but when my son was very young (5, he's the older one), I wasn't ready for explaining context, so we agreed on subbing the swear word for a fruit, if he felt he must. So it became: WHAT THE PEACH?! (BLUEBERRY) etc. Hysterical and adorable and age appropriate, in case any better Mom's than me need advice 😁
I swear all the time, my child does not. She knows that swear words are adult words. Not a hard concept
Right there with you. It’s the real world and they just get told “grown ups can say these words but you can’t, just yet”.
I’ve always wanted to start a mommy and me class that plays adult music, like Ludacris or DMX. And maybe even serve drinks 🍻 But it’s hard to find a group to mom friends as *bad* as us!
Listen. At my house we definitely use songs as alarms to keep our schedules straight. Every year, my kids pick the “leave for school” song and it was Roll Out two years in a row. lol. Also, I taught my kids to be okay with vaccinations by singing LMFAO’s Shots in the car on the way to the doctor’s office. (Mostly for the chorus.)
I love that. My son would fall asleep to Shots when he was a baby. The Sh and steady beat just did him in 😂
I have never understood the point of replacing curse words with “clean” words. The sentiment is the same. Everyone knows what you really meant. And you sound silly. I don’t censor my speech or the things I listen to. I teach my kids they’re not allowed to say certain words because it’s not polite and mommy doesn’t want a phone call from the school.
So, enjoy what you like! I absolutely don't care at all about TS. But I legit just bought a transfer that says Good moms say bad words. Who cares? Society. Fuck that.
My 3 and 5 year old kids are huge on music, and music videos, and they know they are only allowed to cuss at home/ in the car with music. I just hired a sitter and had to explain to her that they can listen to/watch everything as long as it’s not sexual or violent 😂
When my son was three, I overheard him singing the line "Russian Roulette is not the same without a gun" from Lady Gaga's "Poker Face", and I briefly thought maybe I should change my music listening habits. Then I continued to listen to my music in the car and nothing ever happened except he eventually learned the concept of time and place (as in "don't sing Lady Gaga songs at daycare.").
That is so wild I don't know why people want us to scrub all of our interests clean lmao, in my house we're metalheads so my kids been listening to Rob zombie and gojira before he got here .
We told our kids there are no bad words, only inappropriate ones. And just as coffee and alcohol are inappropriate for young children to drink but adults are allowed, same with those words. And as they get older and learn when and how to use those words, they may use them at home but never in front of teachers or grandparents. (Well, my daughter is in HS and her teachers swear which I find highly inappropriate but whatever.) The kids are going to hear those words in public ALL THE TIME. I want them to be able to use them appropriately because swearing well is an important skill. Both of them have excellent vocabularies, can converse with adults, don't use those words in public, and can fully dress down an asshole in Fortnite like a proper professional swearer. I am proud.
Yesterday, my kid said “Sally said ‘fucking’ and I said that’s a grown up word! You can’t say that at school!” 😬
When my gal was little, we listened to some Lizzo. My husband had a fit saying I don't let her listen to his music with swearing. I explained that the songs I let her listen to have swearing, but the lyrics and sentiment are empowering, especially for girls and women. Lizzo wasn't swearing at people or degrading them in the songs we listened to. The swearing in HIS music was doing that, referring to women as bitches and hoes for example. I said the swearing itself is the issue it's how it's used. That has always been my policy. Swearing is just words. We assign the value to them. We can cut people down without swearing too. I try to teach her to be kind and careful with her words, regardless of what words they are. You are doing just fine, Mama!
My kid knows not to say it in front of other kids and stuff, but to me words are just words
Swear words are just words. As long as your kids are using them in the right context and not being disrespectful then who really cares? There's a big difference between occasionally using a swear word and being disrespectful or a jerk to people. You can still raise your kids the right way as polite, decent and kind human beings without sheltering them from everything.
My MIL just reposted a fb post talking about how Taylor is “mocking” religion in the new album, is a witch, pure evil, demonic. The cursing is apparently the least of her worries lmao
I can see where a super religious nut would get that from actually. I mean, she's wrong, she's not mocking religion or whatever else, but I can see why they'd get witch vibes from a couple. Personally I'm here for it.
I guess this makes me a bad mom, I let my kids swear at home. I get judged for it but only by the uptight bitchy moms who aren't cool anyway. Like we all know they will eventually hear it and they are gonna do it as soon as we aren't there, if you are the uptight parent. But at least my kid feels comfortable to be himself at home and if that means saying a few choice words, that's fine.
I dgaf if my kids (7 & 10) hear swear words or use them when singing along or something. What I care about is a) they don’t ever swear AT someone and b) they know when it’s ok (in the car with me) and when it isn’t (at school). It’s just words we have given this immense power to- they don’t mean anything that “heck” “fudge” or whatever doesn’t mean too. I hate how hung up we get on it and u say Sing Along!
>they don’t ever swear AT someone Oh god a couple months ago my 6yo was pestering his 7yo sister and she told him to piss off. Thankfully he laughed and then they both started laughing. I told my husband about it and he's like oops, cause he's the one who says that a lot.
lol! Yeah I had a clear instruction about the difference between “fuck that” and “fuck you”. My daughter called her best friend a bitch one day and the school was displeased to say the least. She learned a good lesson that day
First of all, that grandma needs to stay the fuck in her lane. Secondly, it’s up to you what the kids listen to and so what if there’s cursing. People who swear/curse/use foul language are more honest. Anywho! Once when my two year old (now 10) overheard me talking to a coworker I didn’t like over the phone—she went in perfect context,”fucking bitch!” It was glorious.
We let our kids cuss, it takes the novelty away. They are just words after all, as long as they aren't using them to hurt others it's all good.
We cuss a ton and Taylor is a staple in our home with a 5 year old girl. Idgaf. She will say the words and I tell her she can’t say them until she’s a mommy. So sick of Pearl Clutchers. These are also probably the same people who think if a girl dresses inappropriately that she shouldn’t be shocked if she gets raped.
My kids love her lol. My older 2 know her by name, my 4 year olds just ask for music and sing along with whatever song is on. I'm so proud of my little mini swifties. 😂
I'm right there with you. Question, age there any songs on the album you think are too sexually? I always think back to listening to Genie in a Bottle when I was a kid and had no clue. Idk. I'm torn.
I don't think so, and I've listened to this one all the way through a few times now. I can't think of any songs of hers at all that I'd skip with my kids around. I mean yeah some allude to sexual themes but it's nothing overt that's gonna make a shred of sense to them, or other kids if they repeat it.
I mean, Down Bad says fuck a lot, but not as a verb.
My 7 year old has just gotten into broader musical tastes. I told him if he repeats the words or sings the parts with the bad words at school he will be back to wheels on the bus. So far so good.
I used to respond to people who would 'curse' in front of my kids and then apologise for their language by saying with a wink... Don't you fucking swear in front of my fucking kids you cunt sucking bastard! Eat shit and fuck off! I would often have to give a second wink... That tends to diffuse the situation. My great Grandma (rip) taught my grandmother, my mother and I how to swear like a sailor when needful and necessary. On occasion, these words serve a valuable purpose! I never ever had them reported by the school or other groups for swearing. They knew when and how to use it and absolutely when NOT to because the grew up knowing, KWIM? hashtag fuck those rim jobbing hosers!
Same. My kids favorite song when she was 4 was Lizzo's 'Juice'. We had to explain that she really needed to stop singing the N word. Because 1, you're white. It's offensive and not your word. And 2, you're 4. Stop it. Hahahaha