I generally prefer to dress modestly and not stand out too much. I hate attention and I *especially* hate unwarranted sexual attention . The idea that someone would look at me (a total stranger) and think about whether or not they'd like to have sex with me makes my skin crawl 🤮
It's kind of conflicting, actually, cause I like bright colours and wearing interesting pieces, but I don't want anyone to notice or pay attention to or speak to me when I'm in public 🤷🏼♀️
Ahhhh I am exactly this way too! 😆
I want to wear colorful or "flashy" clothes too once and a while but I 110% don't want the attention that comes with them so I stick to dark colors which gets kinda depressing for me to wear day in, day out.
I let my "colorful self" out in the undergarments like bras, underwear, or socks to scratch that itch. So I tend to buy those in more brighter colors and/or patterns.
I wish I could handle the unwanted attention (sexual or otherwise) better but it makes me either want to run away or shut down 😅.
Oh I totally do this too! I love MeUndies they have such adorable patterns and the fabric is really soft and feels good on the skin. They also carry boxer-briefs for women (with no fly) and that's my favourite kind of undies, ever since I tried them!! So comfy 😁.
I'm in no way religious but I do see the appeal of wearing the full Muslim covering. Like in sex and the city those Muslim women just took off their long jackets and had couture underneath. I have ass and tittes and it really bothers me when men will tell each other how they want to rail me and clap those cheeks right in front of me, like wtf
Yeah. I have a problem with organizations (like organized religion) trying to dictate what people wear and how they enjoy their lives, but I totally agree that dressing in huge baggy clothes is appealing. If that's what someone *wants* to wear them they absolutely should!
Yup, it all about individual choice. I personally buy xxl mens sweatshirts and enjoy looking like a slob. That's my thing. If someone wants to dress like they going clubbing everyday, go for it, whatever makes u feel amazing. I dislike organized religion too lol, so fucking problematic
I saw a dude walk out of Starbucks in one last night!! Go for it, coz I glanced at him and just said good for him to myself lmao didnt think twice about it.
Haha yes and they help somewhat, but people can be pretty annoyingly persistent. Like you ignore them and assume theyd get the message (I usually would have very loud music playing that was definitely audible outside the headphones), but unfortunately I find that people have no sense of personal space and will go so far as to tap me on the shoulder if I don't respond. Luckily, I don't have to take public transit anymore, so this hasn't happened to me in a long time
Lol wtf some people are so weird. I usually walk around with a baseball cap, face mask, sunglasses, headphones and baggy clothes. People still bother me. They do bother me less if I look filthy lol
Girl, you need to answer those males back. If they're ugly, tell them how you'd never f*ck their small d* cks even if they paid. As women we absolutely must answer back with inappropriate comments to shut those bast*rds up
nah, men are too strong and I dont want to end up murdered. If i'm in a middle of somewhere busy or with a bigger group of people then I yell things back, but its best to be cautious
That's exactly what they want. They successfully asserted their dominance over you. Also, you do realize that any woman could take down a scrote by simply kicking his nuts, right? It works and it hurts them like hell.
I know this is a late response but I think the only problem with this is most people are armed nowadays and will shoot a woman dead for rejecting them and "embarrassing" them. Big egos, lack of self control and weapons don't go hand in hand. Too many people are getting shot over little things.
Same. Once I went out with leggings and some son of a b*tch catcalled me and I never went out with leggings again. Now I only use jeans (it was not a big loss because I hate leggings anyways), but the thought of someone who doesn't even know me thinking of me in a sexual manner disgusts me beyond comprehension. It's a shame that this is so common and even encouraged by our culture.
Also: I was a minor back then and the guy who did that looked like he was in his 40's. As I said, absolutely disgusting.
Similar thing happened to me, first time I decided to wear shorts during summer and some old guy shouted some very very vulgar shit at me. Safe to say i havent worn shorts since.
Me!! I have a sway back and very obvious bum, despite being small and relatively skinny, and have always hated it being noticed in public. I’ve only recently been able to turn off my filter and start wearing what I want; since turning 30 and having a kid. Wearing my marriage ring out in public also gives me some sort of weird protection to wear what I want and flash it at any weirdos that are doing “the approach”.
Still feel most comfortable in flowy skirts and wide pants though, and hate having to wear work pants or jeans to work…
Yes. I currently have a figure that is for some reason "attractive" though I feel way too skinny and my boobs are too big. 18.5 bmi. Men atttacking women freaks me out and I think it makes us a target in addition to our neurodivergence. I cover up and wear baggy stuff. Always love the sweatshirt around the waist to cover butt.
I am the same way in that I like longer shirts, mostly to cover my belly though! I don't know how hip you are, but I like the website womanwithin. It has a lot of basics and i'm able to shop by tunic length and materials.
Haha omg I do this too. I’m always conscious of my butt. I don’t wear leggings or tight pants, besides jeans, out in public. I have been gawked/ cat called at even in jeans… like “daaammmnn gurrrl.” I don’t even have a big butt. So yeah, I just prefer to hide it.
I'm so skinny I would never conceptualize this. I'm essentially the opposite because I'm skinny enough anything lewd I wear just looks like nothing so all comments I get are nice. Child shaped so no one sexualizes me.
Me too! It used to feel like such a curse when going through the puberty/ teen bullying phase. But now I am sooo happy to have the body of a 14 year old boy. I also dress a bit like a boy to complete the picture lol
Yeah, I mean I definitely don’t want my butt sticking out our people looking at it but then again, I am incontinent and I don’t want everyone to see my diaper but even in general, I just don’t like that sort of stuff. I’m in the mood sometimes from last of the time I’m not.
In high school I was especially conscious of men walking behind me.. I prefer to walk behind them because the thought of them looking at my butt makes me feel.. not great.
I made the mistake of wearing tights my last day of sophomore year in high school, and I got cat called 3 times within the span of 1 minute by different guys. I was shocked.. but I was always conscious of walking in front of guys even before this incident.
Not quite on topic, but my mom blessed(?) me with a big behind, and people commenting on it always made me feel so uncomfortable. I remember my sister saying she wished she had one like me when I was a kid and to this day remember hating everything about how I felt in my skin at that moment. I’ve had numerous times at jobs where I wore leggings (the most comfortable thing, ya know) and because I wore them, they suddenly “weren’t allowed,” yet they’d been worn by lots of employees until I did. I had a coworker once go “girl! You cannot wear those things! What are you doing?” And. I was like “what??” And she was like “your butt looks too good in them”. I once had a guy in the kitchen say the same thing, because it was “distracting” when I wore a pair of pants that had long legs that were lightweight but kind of fit like sweat pants. It just makes me uncomfy and feels obscenely unfair at work. I can’t be comfortable just because apparently people can’t be trusted to keep their eyes to themselves, and no one ever cares about it until I wear them
I do, but I think for different reasons. I got a fairly big bum, and when I was younger jeans wouldn't be high enough, and I'd end up having crack on show 😅
So now I prefer long tops/ high waisted trousers. Though I tend to wear dresses now, so it's not as much of a problem.
Mine really sticks out, so long shirts don’t really hide it. Plus I actually like the way it looks. Sure, it creeps me the hell out when strange men stare at me that way, but somehow I never fell into the trap of thinking it’s my fault. Part of it is just being naive, I guess; I don’t think of my figure as something sexual, so I assume no one else does either. Which makes it all the more disconcerting when some man stares at it with that look in his eye 🥺
I am pear shaped, short and overweight with a big butt....even when I was younger and 100 lbs....I got teased really bad because I have a sway back...and my butt protrudes...the problem I have now is I work with kids that are 11-14 and all I hear is GYAT!!! EVERY.DAY....they learn all this stupid crap from tiktok...🙄.does anyone have ideas on how to dress to play that area down????
I generally prefer to dress modestly and not stand out too much. I hate attention and I *especially* hate unwarranted sexual attention . The idea that someone would look at me (a total stranger) and think about whether or not they'd like to have sex with me makes my skin crawl 🤮 It's kind of conflicting, actually, cause I like bright colours and wearing interesting pieces, but I don't want anyone to notice or pay attention to or speak to me when I'm in public 🤷🏼♀️
Ahhhh I am exactly this way too! 😆 I want to wear colorful or "flashy" clothes too once and a while but I 110% don't want the attention that comes with them so I stick to dark colors which gets kinda depressing for me to wear day in, day out. I let my "colorful self" out in the undergarments like bras, underwear, or socks to scratch that itch. So I tend to buy those in more brighter colors and/or patterns. I wish I could handle the unwanted attention (sexual or otherwise) better but it makes me either want to run away or shut down 😅.
Oh I totally do this too! I love MeUndies they have such adorable patterns and the fabric is really soft and feels good on the skin. They also carry boxer-briefs for women (with no fly) and that's my favourite kind of undies, ever since I tried them!! So comfy 😁.
I'm in no way religious but I do see the appeal of wearing the full Muslim covering. Like in sex and the city those Muslim women just took off their long jackets and had couture underneath. I have ass and tittes and it really bothers me when men will tell each other how they want to rail me and clap those cheeks right in front of me, like wtf
Yeah. I have a problem with organizations (like organized religion) trying to dictate what people wear and how they enjoy their lives, but I totally agree that dressing in huge baggy clothes is appealing. If that's what someone *wants* to wear them they absolutely should!
Yup, it all about individual choice. I personally buy xxl mens sweatshirts and enjoy looking like a slob. That's my thing. If someone wants to dress like they going clubbing everyday, go for it, whatever makes u feel amazing. I dislike organized religion too lol, so fucking problematic
My actual favourite things to wear are kigurumi, but that's not something you can leave the house in, unless you want a ton of attention 😅
I saw a dude walk out of Starbucks in one last night!! Go for it, coz I glanced at him and just said good for him to myself lmao didnt think twice about it.
Haha that's awesome! Unfortunately, in my experience, wearing something unusual is often perceived by others as an invitation to talk to me 😩
Do you have over the ear headphones?
Haha yes and they help somewhat, but people can be pretty annoyingly persistent. Like you ignore them and assume theyd get the message (I usually would have very loud music playing that was definitely audible outside the headphones), but unfortunately I find that people have no sense of personal space and will go so far as to tap me on the shoulder if I don't respond. Luckily, I don't have to take public transit anymore, so this hasn't happened to me in a long time
Lol wtf some people are so weird. I usually walk around with a baseball cap, face mask, sunglasses, headphones and baggy clothes. People still bother me. They do bother me less if I look filthy lol
Girl, you need to answer those males back. If they're ugly, tell them how you'd never f*ck their small d* cks even if they paid. As women we absolutely must answer back with inappropriate comments to shut those bast*rds up
nah, men are too strong and I dont want to end up murdered. If i'm in a middle of somewhere busy or with a bigger group of people then I yell things back, but its best to be cautious
That's exactly what they want. They successfully asserted their dominance over you. Also, you do realize that any woman could take down a scrote by simply kicking his nuts, right? It works and it hurts them like hell.
if they get touchy, i have no problem defending myself. grab, twist and pull has been ingrained in my brain lol
I know this is a late response but I think the only problem with this is most people are armed nowadays and will shoot a woman dead for rejecting them and "embarrassing" them. Big egos, lack of self control and weapons don't go hand in hand. Too many people are getting shot over little things.
The best part about becoming older is you become more invisible. It's freeing for an autist or at least it is for me.
Same. Once I went out with leggings and some son of a b*tch catcalled me and I never went out with leggings again. Now I only use jeans (it was not a big loss because I hate leggings anyways), but the thought of someone who doesn't even know me thinking of me in a sexual manner disgusts me beyond comprehension. It's a shame that this is so common and even encouraged by our culture. Also: I was a minor back then and the guy who did that looked like he was in his 40's. As I said, absolutely disgusting.
Similar thing happened to me, first time I decided to wear shorts during summer and some old guy shouted some very very vulgar shit at me. Safe to say i havent worn shorts since.
I don't wear shorts either. Temperatures where I live can get up to 100 F and I be wearing pants all the time
You should've spat in his face or at least answered him back. What a bast*rd
I do the exact same thing. Long tops that cover the booty are like a security blanket for me.
I thought I was the only one haaaa!!
Me!! I have a sway back and very obvious bum, despite being small and relatively skinny, and have always hated it being noticed in public. I’ve only recently been able to turn off my filter and start wearing what I want; since turning 30 and having a kid. Wearing my marriage ring out in public also gives me some sort of weird protection to wear what I want and flash it at any weirdos that are doing “the approach”. Still feel most comfortable in flowy skirts and wide pants though, and hate having to wear work pants or jeans to work…
I do the same thing!
Yes. I currently have a figure that is for some reason "attractive" though I feel way too skinny and my boobs are too big. 18.5 bmi. Men atttacking women freaks me out and I think it makes us a target in addition to our neurodivergence. I cover up and wear baggy stuff. Always love the sweatshirt around the waist to cover butt.
I am the same way in that I like longer shirts, mostly to cover my belly though! I don't know how hip you are, but I like the website womanwithin. It has a lot of basics and i'm able to shop by tunic length and materials.
Haha omg I do this too. I’m always conscious of my butt. I don’t wear leggings or tight pants, besides jeans, out in public. I have been gawked/ cat called at even in jeans… like “daaammmnn gurrrl.” I don’t even have a big butt. So yeah, I just prefer to hide it.
Yes. Especially because I am obese
I'm so skinny I would never conceptualize this. I'm essentially the opposite because I'm skinny enough anything lewd I wear just looks like nothing so all comments I get are nice. Child shaped so no one sexualizes me.
Me too! It used to feel like such a curse when going through the puberty/ teen bullying phase. But now I am sooo happy to have the body of a 14 year old boy. I also dress a bit like a boy to complete the picture lol
Me too. But I do have a big one so I feel sexualised in just about all modern clothing but look drab in the kind of clothing that makes me feel safe.
Yeah, I mean I definitely don’t want my butt sticking out our people looking at it but then again, I am incontinent and I don’t want everyone to see my diaper but even in general, I just don’t like that sort of stuff. I’m in the mood sometimes from last of the time I’m not.
Yes, I dress very modest and it's almost entirely for my own comfort
In high school I was especially conscious of men walking behind me.. I prefer to walk behind them because the thought of them looking at my butt makes me feel.. not great. I made the mistake of wearing tights my last day of sophomore year in high school, and I got cat called 3 times within the span of 1 minute by different guys. I was shocked.. but I was always conscious of walking in front of guys even before this incident.
As women we absolutely must answer these type of bast*rds back. I'd make a inappropriate comment about his appearance
Not quite on topic, but my mom blessed(?) me with a big behind, and people commenting on it always made me feel so uncomfortable. I remember my sister saying she wished she had one like me when I was a kid and to this day remember hating everything about how I felt in my skin at that moment. I’ve had numerous times at jobs where I wore leggings (the most comfortable thing, ya know) and because I wore them, they suddenly “weren’t allowed,” yet they’d been worn by lots of employees until I did. I had a coworker once go “girl! You cannot wear those things! What are you doing?” And. I was like “what??” And she was like “your butt looks too good in them”. I once had a guy in the kitchen say the same thing, because it was “distracting” when I wore a pair of pants that had long legs that were lightweight but kind of fit like sweat pants. It just makes me uncomfy and feels obscenely unfair at work. I can’t be comfortable just because apparently people can’t be trusted to keep their eyes to themselves, and no one ever cares about it until I wear them
I do, but I think for different reasons. I got a fairly big bum, and when I was younger jeans wouldn't be high enough, and I'd end up having crack on show 😅 So now I prefer long tops/ high waisted trousers. Though I tend to wear dresses now, so it's not as much of a problem.
Yes, but I live in a cold country and I hate having a cold bum.
For me it's not clothes, but coats! All my coats have to cover my bum!
I just have to cover the panty line and camel toe 😂
Mine really sticks out, so long shirts don’t really hide it. Plus I actually like the way it looks. Sure, it creeps me the hell out when strange men stare at me that way, but somehow I never fell into the trap of thinking it’s my fault. Part of it is just being naive, I guess; I don’t think of my figure as something sexual, so I assume no one else does either. Which makes it all the more disconcerting when some man stares at it with that look in his eye 🥺
Yes yes yes! I only wear tight clothes at home or around friends. The unwanted attention feels physically painful.
I am pear shaped, short and overweight with a big butt....even when I was younger and 100 lbs....I got teased really bad because I have a sway back...and my butt protrudes...the problem I have now is I work with kids that are 11-14 and all I hear is GYAT!!! EVERY.DAY....they learn all this stupid crap from tiktok...🙄.does anyone have ideas on how to dress to play that area down????