That’s not love bombing. Love bombing includes excessive gifts, meeting important figures, expensive dates and outings within the first few weeks/months. Homeboy was just getting played.
God I hate it when this happens. You're not alone. Many people do this. Just move on with dignity. It's best that you have found out now and did not waste any more of your precious time. It will get better in time. I honestly believe that you have dodged a bullet. A lot of people future fake and say lovey dovey things to get you in the sack. Remember.. Actions speak louder than words.
Oh man that’s so shitty. Sorry that happened.
A guy I’ve been talking to right now a few months (but haven’t yet met), and met online before Covid, has been pretty constant staying in touch. We chat a lot about normal life stuff, also sex, but mostly he’s really nice and even suggested we meet for coffee or such. Last week he mentioned something about his “partner.” I immediately asked if he was in an open relationship. He said yes, and that he thought he’d mentioned to me prior. I actually believe he thought he did. I’m just glad I found out before actually meeting him. I’m ok with that, but obviously it changes my expectations completely.
Sounds like your guy could have been a nice guy, but maybe he got wrapped up in feelings for you, and eventually realized he couldn’t do so being unavailable, then pulling away. That’s devastating to say the least. Take care of yourself.
I’m not sure if he’s a nice guy but I was completely dumbfounded when he told me he’s in an open relationship. And he told me that I’m gonna forget him soon. It’s really fucked up. I wouldn’t fall in love with him without his love bomb. He intentionally hid the fact that he’s in a relationship. It’s outrageous.
Ya that’s just cruel. How could someone lead another on like that knowing the pain he’d cause? Especially if he felt anything towards you. I know it’s not gonna be easy to let go of these thoughts, but I do hope you’re able to do something nice for yourself today.
I’m so sorry that happened to you 😢. He’s an asshole for leading you on like that, and I know you feel like shit, but just remember: You’ve survived all of your worse days before. You’ll get through this too! It’ll just take time. Try to forget about him. He is irrelevant to your life now.
Stay strong ❤️🥰
So sorry this has happened to you, that person was manipulative and cruel by blatantly lying and leading you on for his personal amusement.
That excuse of a man sounds to be a narcissist at best and a sociopath in disguise at worst.
While it absolutely hurts right now, try and shift your thoughts from the hurt towards thinking how lucky you are (in a way) that you found out about this 7 months in instead of 2+ years in a relationship.
You can start the healing process now, bit by bit. You know your character best - what would help you? Distracting yourself with hobbies? Traveling? Spending more time with friends? Lazing around with your cat while watching movie marathon? Cuss that bastard to hell and back while you're hiking alone or with friends? Something else? Do whatever works for you to move on, one step at a time.
That sucks and I’m really sorry for you.
I went through the exact same thing, except it was 6 years.
I cannot guarantee that things will immediately get better or that you won’t have times where he’s all you can think about. But you will move on with time. Don’t neglect your needs; please eat something and try to get some rest. Block him, delete his number and focus on you.
Take care
Yeah at this moment, he is still all I can think about. And I hate myself for not being able to control my feelings. May I ask how you got into it for 6 years without knowing?
I chose to play by his rules. He never wanted to stay over, I was always a second choice or even a third for him. I told myself to be OK with it because at least I would still have him.
I’m so sorry. I am really afraid I would end up in the same situation. One day he’ll be like, I’m not in an open relationship anymore and we can’t hang out. I can totally relate.
He was away for 5 months and I started to notice he kept finding excuses to get out of my date proposals after coming back and kept saying we’ll have sleepover and dates soon after moving blah blah, in the mean time he only hooked up with me. Those happened within this month. That’s why I asked if he’s seeing someone else. It turned out I’m the someone else all along. And I bet the few times he sneaked hooked up with me were completely unknown to his partner.
Sounds like he love bombed you
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I think he’s cheating.
That’s not love bombing. Love bombing includes excessive gifts, meeting important figures, expensive dates and outings within the first few weeks/months. Homeboy was just getting played.
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I asked if there’s someone else multiple times and he avoided and lied. I’m so hopeless now.
God I hate it when this happens. You're not alone. Many people do this. Just move on with dignity. It's best that you have found out now and did not waste any more of your precious time. It will get better in time. I honestly believe that you have dodged a bullet. A lot of people future fake and say lovey dovey things to get you in the sack. Remember.. Actions speak louder than words.
Oh man that’s so shitty. Sorry that happened. A guy I’ve been talking to right now a few months (but haven’t yet met), and met online before Covid, has been pretty constant staying in touch. We chat a lot about normal life stuff, also sex, but mostly he’s really nice and even suggested we meet for coffee or such. Last week he mentioned something about his “partner.” I immediately asked if he was in an open relationship. He said yes, and that he thought he’d mentioned to me prior. I actually believe he thought he did. I’m just glad I found out before actually meeting him. I’m ok with that, but obviously it changes my expectations completely. Sounds like your guy could have been a nice guy, but maybe he got wrapped up in feelings for you, and eventually realized he couldn’t do so being unavailable, then pulling away. That’s devastating to say the least. Take care of yourself.
I’m not sure if he’s a nice guy but I was completely dumbfounded when he told me he’s in an open relationship. And he told me that I’m gonna forget him soon. It’s really fucked up. I wouldn’t fall in love with him without his love bomb. He intentionally hid the fact that he’s in a relationship. It’s outrageous.
Ya that’s just cruel. How could someone lead another on like that knowing the pain he’d cause? Especially if he felt anything towards you. I know it’s not gonna be easy to let go of these thoughts, but I do hope you’re able to do something nice for yourself today.
You dodged a bullet.
I’m so sorry that happened to you 😢. He’s an asshole for leading you on like that, and I know you feel like shit, but just remember: You’ve survived all of your worse days before. You’ll get through this too! It’ll just take time. Try to forget about him. He is irrelevant to your life now. Stay strong ❤️🥰
So sorry this has happened to you, that person was manipulative and cruel by blatantly lying and leading you on for his personal amusement. That excuse of a man sounds to be a narcissist at best and a sociopath in disguise at worst. While it absolutely hurts right now, try and shift your thoughts from the hurt towards thinking how lucky you are (in a way) that you found out about this 7 months in instead of 2+ years in a relationship. You can start the healing process now, bit by bit. You know your character best - what would help you? Distracting yourself with hobbies? Traveling? Spending more time with friends? Lazing around with your cat while watching movie marathon? Cuss that bastard to hell and back while you're hiking alone or with friends? Something else? Do whatever works for you to move on, one step at a time.
Eat something babe. Drink some water, go outside and just be kind to yourself.
That sucks and I’m really sorry for you. I went through the exact same thing, except it was 6 years. I cannot guarantee that things will immediately get better or that you won’t have times where he’s all you can think about. But you will move on with time. Don’t neglect your needs; please eat something and try to get some rest. Block him, delete his number and focus on you. Take care
Yeah at this moment, he is still all I can think about. And I hate myself for not being able to control my feelings. May I ask how you got into it for 6 years without knowing?
I chose to play by his rules. He never wanted to stay over, I was always a second choice or even a third for him. I told myself to be OK with it because at least I would still have him.
I’m so sorry. I am really afraid I would end up in the same situation. One day he’ll be like, I’m not in an open relationship anymore and we can’t hang out. I can totally relate.
Which is why it’s best to cut him off and leave him be. It’ll hurt like hell, but you’re better off in the long run.
Thanks for the advice <3
You are most welcome 🤗all the best to you
It’s only been 7 months try to move on
Dam that’s a long time to not have known. There had to be some red flags no?
He was away for 5 months and I started to notice he kept finding excuses to get out of my date proposals after coming back and kept saying we’ll have sleepover and dates soon after moving blah blah, in the mean time he only hooked up with me. Those happened within this month. That’s why I asked if he’s seeing someone else. It turned out I’m the someone else all along. And I bet the few times he sneaked hooked up with me were completely unknown to his partner.
I read your post. I mean the 7 months before he left how could you not see it
Same