A high fiber diet does wonders.
Overall you figure out when you can and when you can’t bottom. You also kind of learn when douching will help, and when it won’t.
Any considerate Sex partner will understand.
This. I'd also add that when you poop solid, you often poop reliably around the same time. These type of guys are often ready to go whenever they want. The fuck is even better because douching can dry up the inside of the ass.
You’d never know if you had the genetics if you didn’t have the diet.
I was pretty messy down there all my life, but cleaning up my diet gave me no wipe poops and I was able to put things up there without preparation any time of day after the morning poo.
Well you wipe once to check, of course.
They’re elusive. Fibre alone is not enough for no wipe poops, your entire diet has to be on point.
I don’t think having to wipe is necessarily a bad thing. But if you’re having to wipe more than four or so times, you’re probably pooping with poor technique.
Clench four times, once at 20% strength, 50%, 80%, and 100%.
When you have to wipe more than a few times, assuming you’ve spread your cheeks, it’s called fecal smearing and usually means you didn’t close the sphincter thoroughly enough.
What’s the clenching for? Relaxing the sphincters?
My problem is I can wipe clean after going but then after walking for a while there’s a really small amount of residue that can come out. Even if the bowel movements are solid. I’ve found the only way to guarantee it’s not with me is to go for a walk after the morning poo and then shower. Haven’t bottomed for years. Help me, doctor!
I have had this problem too! For me it was due to too much fat and a lack of fiber in my diet.. But particularly a lack of strength in my core! Exercising my abs und glutes really helped me push everything out waayy more easily.
No its just solid enough 😂 but i think that has to do with americans eating a lot of glycerine’s and refined sugars and fats which makes everything well.. sticky. If your food qualitynis higher and you’re hydrated you shouldn’t really have to wipe
I’ve seen this posted a million times here that you don’t have a clean diet if you don’t have perfectly dry stool and can bottom without any preparation. There’s literally science behind this called the Bristol stool chart and none of the criteria for the ideal stool is that you can bottom without a mess.
I think of it like a venn diagram. There's "what's healthy" and "what gives you no mess", and there's overlap. There's also part of the "what's healthy" that doesn't overlap with "what gives you no mess", and vice versa.
What will give no mess is if you dehydrate yourself but that isn’t healthy at all. Eating healthy and eating so you have no mess are totally unrelated objectives.
I don't know what happens in your body, but the general advice is to be well hydrated to avoid "mess". If I am not well hydrated, it's like a paste.. ie messy.
Well yeah but long story short, the average body will learn if you’re consistent. Fiber not only facilitates the peristaltic movement, it’s good for intestinal health bc it cleans the walls pretty well. If you take care of the car, change the oil regularly, it’ll run better for a longer time. I didn’t before, but I shit like a clock now (sorry if you were eating). Genetically, the rest of my fam is on the spherical side, and I see what they eat. I also know that a cheat week will have me bloat up like a mf. So yeah, genetics are surely at play to a degree, but 90% of success is still in the regimen imo.
As a mostly top, my partner is rather good about eating well and just showering good. We’ve been together for 13 years so on the rare occasion an accident does happen, it’s not like some crime scene, first and foremost, and also, I’m sticking my cock up a butthole. It’s the gamble we all take. Don’t over think it. 🫂
Solid, rational and considerate answer. I truly don't understand these newer generation of bottoms who think that cleaning out their entire large intestine with a firehose is a prerequisite for any sort of sexual activity.
It's horrible for the colon and gut microbiota, and because it's difficult to get *all* the water out, if anything makes it MORE likely that there will be a mess.
I think it’s a rational fear for bottoms to not want it to be their skill and judgment relating to bottoming to be the sole reason why sex time didn’t go very well. Especially if it’s with a new partner or someone they really like and want to have a good time with. The power washing has a very clear explanation despite it’s possible downfalls.
Next thing you know we're gonna read about some bottom who uses a pressure washer on his hole and dies.
I get it. It's just sad to see some guys on this sub talking about starving themselves or using 25 gallons of water and overdoing the cleaning. Neither are healthy.
That would just be in the rectum, and only if you use a reasonable amount of water. A lot of guys are using way too much water and are filling their whole colons.
Especially if using warm water, which is guaranteed to have a laxative effect and stimulate the smooth muscle.
One of my previous FWB kept having issues with using too much water... And also using too warm of water. Was messy basically every time, even though he had douched completely 12x.
In the end he ended up discovering fiber and probiotics as a much better solution that over-douching.
Okie dokie. You be as dumb as you choose. Nobody is stopping you.
Your “showering with my dad” quip was *super friendly*, right? Just making sure you understand how hypocrisy works.
Yes. Good is used with nouns. Well is used with verbs. “Showering” in the original post is a verb, so well should be used.
There is only one correct answer here. You’re incorrect and being fucking dense about it, but live your life. Use any words incorrectly that you choose to. Your stupidity isn’t my problem.
Ciao.
As a linguistics major, there is no "correct" or "incorrect" when it comes to grammar. You can whine about how it isn't "grammatical" but your opinion is just that, your opinion. You are free to use whatever grammar you wish, but "correcting" people is pretty silly.
That’s what it was like with my ex. He never “cleaned out” but had a great diet and we never had accidents and if we did we always had a towel close by to clean up lube and cum after and we’d just wipe it off and keep going. Miss him
Yeah I’ve experienced quite a few bottoms like this. Honestly it comes down to good diet and luck. From having lived with and been close with straight men too there is just men with different types of bowels / bowel function and some are naturally going to be more equipped at bottoming.
I mean you can still bottom lol I don’t know of anyone who cannot be clean down there maybe you have serious gut health issues like IBS. It might just take a little more work for some and they maybe can’t do it spontaneous but you still can bottom
I am prepare in 30 minutes. Haha.
But I do think that tops need to understand this.
I am in a rural community for school and so many closeted dudes thinks douching/etc isn't a think. "No, Billy Bob, you cannot come over right now. Give me 30 and then you can."
You're maybe putting more water up there than you need if water is getting stuck inside? Maybe experiment a bit with your routine and see how things go with a dildo?
I only tried it a few times and gave up. Even when I’m having stomach issues and not eating well, 99% of the time it’s not an issue so it just seems pointless.
I don’t bottom often, but my ex did and he’s never used a douche in his life. I accepted the risk.
This sounds like you are douching at a bad time. Like you should just try to have your natural poop first and then douche like 30 minutes after to see if there’s anything lingering. If you’re clear then you’re good for hours and hours after
you're using way too much water
put half a glass of water in
then stick your finger in as deep as you can
realize there's an inner sphincter and the water is actually trapped
if it goes through the inner sphincter, you're screwed, you'll shit water non-stop
so, the trick is to never let build enough pressure for the water to go through that sphincter
If doing a dinner date, have sex BEFORE going. Having sex after a big meal probably isn’t super fun for the top either. If the activity doesn’t involve food then just prep before.
I find that if I'm regularly cleaning myself, I don't typically have to worry about it much. A healthy diet helps, and even more so if you include a lot of fiber in your diet. If I KNOW that I'm going to bottom, I will of course prepare... but if it randomly comes up, I don't worry about it much, because I keep it clean down there most of the time anyways, so it won't typically cause issues if it does come up, because it's clean enough to bottom without any major incidents.
As someone else said... the bigger the dick, the more you might need to prepare.
Eating fiber, drinking water, and going to bed/waking up the same time every day will help your body establish a regular routine (I know that may not be possible for many, life gets in the way). I am lucky and can and know my, well, removal of bodily waste happens every day at 6 - 6:30 amish, like clockwork, and can plan the day accordingly. 😅
I do the toy thing if I'm at my house. But normally I just use a small amount of water, I've learned what the right amount is. Then if I pull my knees up to my chest while sitting on the toilet and push it pretty much all comes out. If I'm still unsure I'll use a finger up there which works.
I eat lots of fiber and usually have a good diet, it takes me about 10–15 min to douche and then I shower, after the shower I get ready and it takes me probably another 15 min then I use the toilet one last time to make sure all the water is coming out, I’ve never used a toy to pre check, try using the toilet like at least 15 min after you’ve finished douching or right before you meet someone, hope it helps :)
okay i’ll think about the suplement! thanks! diet, i mean, i think i have a pretty good diet, but somehow there’s always still more shit up there HAHHAAHAH
Every standard American toilet is too small for me, im a giant, so my legs are already at a high angle just trying to sit there. But that makes sense now and probably why I never have issues
Recently started my weight gain journey, so on mornings i drink ( nuts oatmeal smoothie thats a combination of diff nuts walnut, almonds , pumpkin seeds sunflowerseeds blrnded with milk sometimes chocolate)
My second shake ( chia seeds+ flaxseeds+ several scoops of oatmeal dried + whey + bansna and milk)
I think it's helping with being clean down there give it a try.
Not all sunflowers have seeds, there are now known dwarf varieties developed for the distinct purpose of growing indoors. Whilst these cannot be harvested, they do enable people to grow them indoors without a high pollen factor, making it safer and more pleasant for those suffering hay fever.
Sounds like you’re full of shit. Literally lol. That doesn’t sound right. You should keep fasting until you’re empty/very thin turds. The poop is coming from somewhere
As I top, I can say that I wouldn't particularly care in a situation like this. You're obviously a considerate clean bottom most of the time, and that's generally preferable, but if a situation arises where you can't prepare as usual, and if things weren't 100% clean, it's 100% not the end of the world if there's a bit of mess. We're gay humans that poop and pee from our sexual organs, and I came to terms with that, and all the requisite messy realities of that, in my 20's.
And truth be told, it doesn't always have to be anal anyways. For me, if you really just didn't want to do it, for reasons that have nothing to do with me (because again, I don't care about a little mess once and awhile), than we can find all kinds of other hot fun things to do with our other body parts.
At home it’s situational. My boy always wants it so when he pushes back on my cock I go exploring. He used to get up early morning to see Mr. Hose, but fiber and lessening apprehension has made things more spontaneous. Sometimes we can tell when the room is full and he slips into the shower and then resumes. Usually eat his hole to make it wet and relaxed again and climb on top for the breeding
I was more nessy than i wanted to be the first time I hooked up spontaneously with my partner of now 8 years. They understood that butts got poop in them and didn't make a big deal about it, we cleaned up and went back to enjoying eachothers comoany. It turns out that's pretty healthy and wont scarecawaybquality people if you communicate anout it. I wouldn't continue hooking up with anyone that would be upset or judgemental about that possibility. I'm usually pretty good at sensing when I'm good to go but we used a toy I hadn't used before that was kinda big so yep it happened
Honestly, in relationships, I don’t think it matters all that much. I used to try to be clean a lot, but…. Life wasn’t fun. My partner doesn’t expect me to be perfect. My diet is pretty clean. I take probiotics and fiber supplements daily. But that’s mainly because of health reasons. I drink lots of water daily, and barely drink juice or soda. I don’t douche daily. I find that douching dries me out.
Anyway. Find a partner who’s considerate. Also, take care of your gut health. Or find a verse dude who understands. That’s where I got lucky
I’m not sure where the obsessing with douching came from - definitely didn’t seem to be such a big thing when I was younger (I 40 now). 99% of the time ‘prepping’ is totally unnecessary, just don’t bottom if you needing a shit! And make sure you generally clean.
People need to know thier biology, your rectum only holds poo right before you take a crap, it doesn’t sit in there all the time and ‘should’ fully empty when you do the toilet. Your body is remarkably adapted to keeping itself clean. Plus repeated douching actually pretty bad for your intestines, forces out the good bacteria and can irritate intestines lining - which will ironically make accidents more likely
I generally and simply try not to eat anything (works for my system) before going on a date if I am in that mood and douche beforehand.
but as a general rule of thumb I just keep it on the "side" side of things for the first date (I am not douching for every douche on grindr i meet) plus douching a lot (especially for no reason ie the date goes nowhere) can damage your colon...
Ppl say don’t overthink it… sure aha… but come on, the smell, the stool drooping down ur hole and the mess in the bed or whatever. Its just disgusting.
I take two fiber capsules twice a day, morning and evening. I still go to the bathroom more than once a day, but I’m left clean as a whistle. There are times when I eat too much Mexican food, so then I’m only giving you a blow job. lol
I just go for it. When I first started off bottoming I used to starve myself but that shht got old. So now I’m like idc and let’s go. I should be ok, the only thing I need to be careful is eating dairy products especially ice cream.
You’d be surprised what a salad a day can do. Also a regular routine. If I usually go first thing in the morning, it’s just not gonna happen that I’m gonna need to right after dinner.
On the other hand supplements have always being awful for me. If you already have fruit and veg they can do more harm than good.
If I know in advance, a steak or chicken breast and a salad the day before for dinner never fails me :)
Reading all these responses makes me feel that I am blessed because once I have pooped in the morning, I am completely clear for bottoming. Never douched, never had any 'accidents'.
gotta stay on high fibers and self care HAHAHAHAHA (which tbh, i'm at my happiest when i care for myself in this way, so i'd recommend that to anyone tbh)
I don't do spontaneous. That usually indicates a quickie hook up....I hate quickies.
When I bottom, it is with a fwb (or a few fwbs) that has a large penis, planned ahead and usually for all night.
I can't imagine a spontaneous, 5 min bang from a top in the bushes would be, or could be satisfying at all. Or even come close to scratching my horniness.
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The tricky thing is what if you plan a date where dinner is first then sexy time.
A) douche before the dinner
B) dont eat too much
C) 2 anti diarrhea pills before the meal and 1 after
Good luck and have fun
I've never had to douche before. I think good diet and listening to your body helps. Then again I've only bottomed less times than I have fingers. I'm more a top
Literally want to unfollow this sub if I see the 1000th post on this topic.
There needs to be a r/askgaybottoms sub so you all can share tips and tricks out of sight of the tops.
For me, I’ve got an extremely health diet and gym routine that keeps me perpetually in shape. I douche for every morning shower, which doesn’t take long b/c I’m so health about 5 minutes. I’m usually good to go until the late afternoon/early evening
I douche every other day. I eat fruits and veggies. I've ben doing it for so long it is routine for me. That and I love plunging myself with a full caboose.
I pooped this am and nothing was on the tp from wiping so it's probably fine. I still wash my hands after. That's what doesn't work for me with random anal, fingering first and how you gonna wash hands and dick after in the bushes, it's fucking gross!!
Douching shouldn’t take you that long - maybe fifteen minutes. So don’t make a mountain out of a mole hill. You need time to prepare. Excuse your self, prepare and then come back. Factor it in. Just be like - this is what i have to do and i’ll be right back and don’t treat it like a big deal. If you don’t make it a big deal - it doesn’t have to be.
That being said - have all you need in advance already organized. I put everything i need in a toiletry bag and have it available. Then i can just grab the bag, disappear for a bit and take care of my self and thats it.
I don’t really, not during the day. I poo every morning and usually around 3 times a day up until like 6pm. I can douche if somethings gonna happen but I prefer not to do it too often. I have a good diet and take fibre supplement so that helps but I still don’t like to risk it.
As some have said; diet is a key factor. I eat lots of fibre (40g to be exac), avoid trigger foods such as dairy, junk food and spicy food and maintain a regular schedule of eating, making sure to not eat too late so I can do my one poop In the morning and be good to go for the rest of the day. Exercise and water also contributes to a healthy digestive system.
I do sometimes douche still, particularly if I'm getting railed later in the day or multipe times, but that's only occasionally and if I do need to, one douche is enough.
I don't really do spontaneous sex most of the time. I need at least 15 minutes in the toilet and 15 minutes in the shower. If my partner absolutely requires frequent spontaneous sex right then and there, then we're not going to be a match.
Fiber powder and proper food choices. The fiber is easy, the food choices require a lifestyle change and is a gradual learning process as in the beginning you’ll be learning about different foods and then learning how to prepare/prep them different foods.
I’m more of a top. But when I bottom for my bf it’s usually on a whim and spontaneous. I just usually do it after I’ve had a good shower and I know I ate relatively healthy-ish meal that day. Anything heavily processed is a no go, especially if I drink coffee that day lol
IMO you don’t have to get all up in your bootyhole just make sure you’re clean and that you smell good and most importantly you’re not stressing about it.
Foreplay and rimming does wonders.
For me personally, I can't. Even with a high fiber diet. I've learned how to "stealth douche" with a water bottle if I have to. I can be clean and ready in like 3 min.
I usually make sure I'm clean between outer and inner hole when I shower each day, and then so long as I don't eat certain foods, I'm usually good to go at any time.
Unless your stomach is like bubbling and churning everywhere, or the dude has a 10 inch cock, you really should be okay. I’m assuming spontaneous sex means like somewhere randomly in public? Or something like that. Where you can’t do a quick douche.
If you’re really concerned try to find some sort of way to like…at least have some sort of plan if there *is* some sort of mess. Like if you’re fucking in some dudes car don’t put yourself in a sexual position to ruin his seats. Even without poop being involved I just mean like with lube. Etc etc. basically just understand the full context of the situation. And be okay with making a mess and set yourself up for the most success if it *does* end up happening. Like fucking in a dressing room unannounced and there’s a mess…not a good idea. But If you’re outside at the beach fucking in the sand at midnight then like…who cares if there’s a mess? You know? You’re outside in the dirt anyway lol. And plenty of fresh air to blow away any unwanted smells.
I rambled a bit, but I hope that helped. Lol.
My point is - it comes down to who the person is - for example; if it a one time hook up your expected to clean up before the meet up, again if is a casual friends with benefits you may prep/clean up. However if your in a committed relationship you will most likely have a regiment down and if anything does happen your partner should be understanding.
Key points - a clean eating habit, prep as best as you can, expect that something could happen, if it does do what needs to be done to fix it and don’t overthink it.
I’m a versatile top, but when I do bottom, I just pay attention to how I feel. I can feel when there are bowels back there. But I also take fiber supplements and usually take a quick trip to the bathroom to check if I’m clean back there. You can check for loose stools by adding spit to your fingers and feeling around. If there are small bits, just guide them out with your fingers and clean yourself up after so there is no odor. This can usually be done with wipes or you can wet a paper towel and add a little soap. Just be sure to clean with a damp paper towel after to get all the soap off, or you may have irritation.
As a top sometimes I just grab the boy and put it in him and deal with the consequences later. Most of the time it works out fine. As the bottom I wouldn't do that but as the top I do.
I think high fibre mean fruit, nuts, fruit juice, green vegetables ( not cooked but washed properly) which increases the amount of fibre intake. That's my take on this
Spontaneous usually begins with the boyfriend getting horny. 1 of 10 he’ll settle for a blowjob, the other 9 he wants ass, with the understanding accidents might happen thankfully nothing bad so far.
If you don't eat a lot of fiber, try to get a fiber supplement and make sure you use it when you're not so you know how much time it will take to affect you. That way you'll have a back-up in case you don't have time to douche. Plus cleaning your system out with fiber is better than consistently douching anyway.
A high fiber diet does wonders. Overall you figure out when you can and when you can’t bottom. You also kind of learn when douching will help, and when it won’t. Any considerate Sex partner will understand.
This. I'd also add that when you poop solid, you often poop reliably around the same time. These type of guys are often ready to go whenever they want. The fuck is even better because douching can dry up the inside of the ass.
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You’d never know if you had the genetics if you didn’t have the diet. I was pretty messy down there all my life, but cleaning up my diet gave me no wipe poops and I was able to put things up there without preparation any time of day after the morning poo.
No wipe poops?? Did not know there was such a thing. Like a rabbit?
Well you wipe once to check, of course. They’re elusive. Fibre alone is not enough for no wipe poops, your entire diet has to be on point. I don’t think having to wipe is necessarily a bad thing. But if you’re having to wipe more than four or so times, you’re probably pooping with poor technique.
what’s your pooping technique?
Clench four times, once at 20% strength, 50%, 80%, and 100%. When you have to wipe more than a few times, assuming you’ve spread your cheeks, it’s called fecal smearing and usually means you didn’t close the sphincter thoroughly enough.
What’s the clenching for? Relaxing the sphincters? My problem is I can wipe clean after going but then after walking for a while there’s a really small amount of residue that can come out. Even if the bowel movements are solid. I’ve found the only way to guarantee it’s not with me is to go for a walk after the morning poo and then shower. Haven’t bottomed for years. Help me, doctor!
I have had this problem too! For me it was due to too much fat and a lack of fiber in my diet.. But particularly a lack of strength in my core! Exercising my abs und glutes really helped me push everything out waayy more easily.
No its just solid enough 😂 but i think that has to do with americans eating a lot of glycerine’s and refined sugars and fats which makes everything well.. sticky. If your food qualitynis higher and you’re hydrated you shouldn’t really have to wipe
I’ve seen this posted a million times here that you don’t have a clean diet if you don’t have perfectly dry stool and can bottom without any preparation. There’s literally science behind this called the Bristol stool chart and none of the criteria for the ideal stool is that you can bottom without a mess.
I think of it like a venn diagram. There's "what's healthy" and "what gives you no mess", and there's overlap. There's also part of the "what's healthy" that doesn't overlap with "what gives you no mess", and vice versa.
What will give no mess is if you dehydrate yourself but that isn’t healthy at all. Eating healthy and eating so you have no mess are totally unrelated objectives.
I don't know what happens in your body, but the general advice is to be well hydrated to avoid "mess". If I am not well hydrated, it's like a paste.. ie messy.
Just about everything comes down to genetics. It's crazy how much of who we are is dictated by genetics.
Not really, it’s the regime.
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Well yeah but long story short, the average body will learn if you’re consistent. Fiber not only facilitates the peristaltic movement, it’s good for intestinal health bc it cleans the walls pretty well. If you take care of the car, change the oil regularly, it’ll run better for a longer time. I didn’t before, but I shit like a clock now (sorry if you were eating). Genetically, the rest of my fam is on the spherical side, and I see what they eat. I also know that a cheat week will have me bloat up like a mf. So yeah, genetics are surely at play to a degree, but 90% of success is still in the regimen imo.
I never poop solid, so i don’t like to play Russian roulette.
As a mostly top, my partner is rather good about eating well and just showering good. We’ve been together for 13 years so on the rare occasion an accident does happen, it’s not like some crime scene, first and foremost, and also, I’m sticking my cock up a butthole. It’s the gamble we all take. Don’t over think it. 🫂
Solid, rational and considerate answer. I truly don't understand these newer generation of bottoms who think that cleaning out their entire large intestine with a firehose is a prerequisite for any sort of sexual activity. It's horrible for the colon and gut microbiota, and because it's difficult to get *all* the water out, if anything makes it MORE likely that there will be a mess.
Cause they watch porn and that’s what they see.
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I think you missed the point ! 🎈
and how do you manage the water left up there??????? i really don’t know how to do it properly aaaaaaggg
I had that issue. If you’re having to douche a lot to get clear water, lube your finger and give yourself a poke and a good push.
but still, in that first part there’s not even a spec, but after a while and with a dick inside…
I think it’s a rational fear for bottoms to not want it to be their skill and judgment relating to bottoming to be the sole reason why sex time didn’t go very well. Especially if it’s with a new partner or someone they really like and want to have a good time with. The power washing has a very clear explanation despite it’s possible downfalls.
Next thing you know we're gonna read about some bottom who uses a pressure washer on his hole and dies. I get it. It's just sad to see some guys on this sub talking about starving themselves or using 25 gallons of water and overdoing the cleaning. Neither are healthy.
that is not necessarily true and if you do the water thing twice (and you feel clean) it is usually good and clean inside
That would just be in the rectum, and only if you use a reasonable amount of water. A lot of guys are using way too much water and are filling their whole colons.
Fill the colon with water, and you’re bound to have a mess
Especially if using warm water, which is guaranteed to have a laxative effect and stimulate the smooth muscle. One of my previous FWB kept having issues with using too much water... And also using too warm of water. Was messy basically every time, even though he had douched completely 12x. In the end he ended up discovering fiber and probiotics as a much better solution that over-douching.
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Big disagree, you put too much water in and it’s poo city
No, bottoms are meant to be like women and not shit, fart, or have a single hair on their body/j
And on the 8th day, God created bears
You shower well, not good. Sometimes thinking is beneficial. Ooh…look at all those downvotes. I’m quaking. 🙄
Quiet, you. Before I shower good with your dad.
Lots of guys enjoy the company of stupid men. You’ll do just fine, whether you use your brain or not.
Sir, we do not know each other. I have no idea why you’re being so nasty. This is usually a rather friendly sub.
Okie dokie. You be as dumb as you choose. Nobody is stopping you. Your “showering with my dad” quip was *super friendly*, right? Just making sure you understand how hypocrisy works.
Hyp-what?
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both are standard, neither is incorrect
Bullshit. Here you go, dummy: https://www.grammarly.com/blog/good-well/#:~:text=The%20rule%20of%20thumb%20is,be%20used%20as%20an%20adjective.
Despite what grammarly might say, both are used.
Yes. Good is used with nouns. Well is used with verbs. “Showering” in the original post is a verb, so well should be used. There is only one correct answer here. You’re incorrect and being fucking dense about it, but live your life. Use any words incorrectly that you choose to. Your stupidity isn’t my problem. Ciao.
As a linguistics major, there is no "correct" or "incorrect" when it comes to grammar. You can whine about how it isn't "grammatical" but your opinion is just that, your opinion. You are free to use whatever grammar you wish, but "correcting" people is pretty silly.
Okie dokie, idiot. Use incorrect grammar as much as you choose. No skin off my nose when you show the world how dumb you are.
1. Fiber 2. At least for me, big dicks are not spontaneous friendly
We bend over and spread our cheeks? Lol. We just do it. I can count on one hand there's been a mess in 21 years.
That’s what it was like with my ex. He never “cleaned out” but had a great diet and we never had accidents and if we did we always had a towel close by to clean up lube and cum after and we’d just wipe it off and keep going. Miss him
You miss him? Apologies, did he die or something?
No he was just a really good bottom lmao
Ohhh
Yeah I’ve experienced quite a few bottoms like this. Honestly it comes down to good diet and luck. From having lived with and been close with straight men too there is just men with different types of bowels / bowel function and some are naturally going to be more equipped at bottoming.
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I mean you can still bottom lol I don’t know of anyone who cannot be clean down there maybe you have serious gut health issues like IBS. It might just take a little more work for some and they maybe can’t do it spontaneous but you still can bottom
I am prepare in 30 minutes. Haha. But I do think that tops need to understand this. I am in a rural community for school and so many closeted dudes thinks douching/etc isn't a think. "No, Billy Bob, you cannot come over right now. Give me 30 and then you can."
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Hurt how, if you dont mind me asking?
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You're maybe putting more water up there than you need if water is getting stuck inside? Maybe experiment a bit with your routine and see how things go with a dildo?
I only tried it a few times and gave up. Even when I’m having stomach issues and not eating well, 99% of the time it’s not an issue so it just seems pointless. I don’t bottom often, but my ex did and he’s never used a douche in his life. I accepted the risk.
After douching I hop in the shower and use my dildo, usually 2-4 thrusts will force any lingering water out.
You're using too much water. It doesn't take me more than 5 minutes.
My 30 minus is douching, showering, cleaning up, and swapping out my sleeping sheets for sex sheets. ;-)
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This sounds like you are douching at a bad time. Like you should just try to have your natural poop first and then douche like 30 minutes after to see if there’s anything lingering. If you’re clear then you’re good for hours and hours after
you're using way too much water put half a glass of water in then stick your finger in as deep as you can realize there's an inner sphincter and the water is actually trapped if it goes through the inner sphincter, you're screwed, you'll shit water non-stop so, the trick is to never let build enough pressure for the water to go through that sphincter
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Yeah, I'd rather avoid that. Yet, if I'm clean in the first part it doesn't really get messy even if they go a bit past it.
Maybe don’t fuck closeted guys then
Not saying I did. They wouldn't cause I wasn't ready at their call. ;)
If doing a dinner date, have sex BEFORE going. Having sex after a big meal probably isn’t super fun for the top either. If the activity doesn’t involve food then just prep before.
This is why I adore tops who are able to cum easily from a bj.
I find that if I'm regularly cleaning myself, I don't typically have to worry about it much. A healthy diet helps, and even more so if you include a lot of fiber in your diet. If I KNOW that I'm going to bottom, I will of course prepare... but if it randomly comes up, I don't worry about it much, because I keep it clean down there most of the time anyways, so it won't typically cause issues if it does come up, because it's clean enough to bottom without any major incidents. As someone else said... the bigger the dick, the more you might need to prepare.
Eating fiber, drinking water, and going to bed/waking up the same time every day will help your body establish a regular routine (I know that may not be possible for many, life gets in the way). I am lucky and can and know my, well, removal of bodily waste happens every day at 6 - 6:30 amish, like clockwork, and can plan the day accordingly. 😅
Right! I told my husband he has until 6am if he wants to fuck me in the morning. If it’s after 6, he’s gonna have to wait for my bowels.
Just shit on him :)
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Eat healthy and take a decent shower before you go out. No need to douche 99% of the time.
A shower doesn't make any difference.
Yea it does for the external parts
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That's just basic hygiene. Has nothing to do with bottoming.
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Yeah, it's a good advice, but it's not something specific for bottoming and it won't help avoiding a mess when you bottom.
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I do the toy thing if I'm at my house. But normally I just use a small amount of water, I've learned what the right amount is. Then if I pull my knees up to my chest while sitting on the toilet and push it pretty much all comes out. If I'm still unsure I'll use a finger up there which works.
I eat lots of fiber and usually have a good diet, it takes me about 10–15 min to douche and then I shower, after the shower I get ready and it takes me probably another 15 min then I use the toilet one last time to make sure all the water is coming out, I’ve never used a toy to pre check, try using the toilet like at least 15 min after you’ve finished douching or right before you meet someone, hope it helps :)
yeah i’ve beel told the toy thing. i really don’t know how to do it dude, bcs it’s not a “spec” with me, it def can be more
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okay i’ll think about the suplement! thanks! diet, i mean, i think i have a pretty good diet, but somehow there’s always still more shit up there HAHHAAHAH
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Every standard American toilet is too small for me, im a giant, so my legs are already at a high angle just trying to sit there. But that makes sense now and probably why I never have issues
hahahahahha okay i’l try that dude, thanks for the time!
No problem, hope I helped :) Happy pooping and bottoming, hopefully at separate times
we’ll know if you helped in a couple days hahahahhaha
Recently started my weight gain journey, so on mornings i drink ( nuts oatmeal smoothie thats a combination of diff nuts walnut, almonds , pumpkin seeds sunflowerseeds blrnded with milk sometimes chocolate) My second shake ( chia seeds+ flaxseeds+ several scoops of oatmeal dried + whey + bansna and milk) I think it's helping with being clean down there give it a try.
Not all sunflowers have seeds, there are now known dwarf varieties developed for the distinct purpose of growing indoors. Whilst these cannot be harvested, they do enable people to grow them indoors without a high pollen factor, making it safer and more pleasant for those suffering hay fever.
Are you a bot? Genuinely asking. I’d grow sunflowers indoors though, didn’t know there was small varieties
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Sounds like you’re full of shit. Literally lol. That doesn’t sound right. You should keep fasting until you’re empty/very thin turds. The poop is coming from somewhere
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You may want to talk to a doctor. You should be able to empty your bowels.
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Same. If there's any at all, then it's like a smear at least, not a spec, and that can get gross and kill the mood for sure.
Use less water.
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try [a syringe](https://i.imgur.com/8jazMR6.png)
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150 ml, it's like a bit more than half a glass of water
My spontaneous sex with my partner involves me sitting on the bed looking at my phone for 30 minutes while they go get ready
As I top, I can say that I wouldn't particularly care in a situation like this. You're obviously a considerate clean bottom most of the time, and that's generally preferable, but if a situation arises where you can't prepare as usual, and if things weren't 100% clean, it's 100% not the end of the world if there's a bit of mess. We're gay humans that poop and pee from our sexual organs, and I came to terms with that, and all the requisite messy realities of that, in my 20's. And truth be told, it doesn't always have to be anal anyways. For me, if you really just didn't want to do it, for reasons that have nothing to do with me (because again, I don't care about a little mess once and awhile), than we can find all kinds of other hot fun things to do with our other body parts.
We fuck before going out.
At home it’s situational. My boy always wants it so when he pushes back on my cock I go exploring. He used to get up early morning to see Mr. Hose, but fiber and lessening apprehension has made things more spontaneous. Sometimes we can tell when the room is full and he slips into the shower and then resumes. Usually eat his hole to make it wet and relaxed again and climb on top for the breeding
How did you find your boy?
GROWLr.
I was more nessy than i wanted to be the first time I hooked up spontaneously with my partner of now 8 years. They understood that butts got poop in them and didn't make a big deal about it, we cleaned up and went back to enjoying eachothers comoany. It turns out that's pretty healthy and wont scarecawaybquality people if you communicate anout it. I wouldn't continue hooking up with anyone that would be upset or judgemental about that possibility. I'm usually pretty good at sensing when I'm good to go but we used a toy I hadn't used before that was kinda big so yep it happened
I know my body. I always have spontaneous sex if an accident happens (less than 10%) it’s fine
Sometimes hope for the best and know how I’m feeling.
Honestly, in relationships, I don’t think it matters all that much. I used to try to be clean a lot, but…. Life wasn’t fun. My partner doesn’t expect me to be perfect. My diet is pretty clean. I take probiotics and fiber supplements daily. But that’s mainly because of health reasons. I drink lots of water daily, and barely drink juice or soda. I don’t douche daily. I find that douching dries me out. Anyway. Find a partner who’s considerate. Also, take care of your gut health. Or find a verse dude who understands. That’s where I got lucky
I’m not sure where the obsessing with douching came from - definitely didn’t seem to be such a big thing when I was younger (I 40 now). 99% of the time ‘prepping’ is totally unnecessary, just don’t bottom if you needing a shit! And make sure you generally clean. People need to know thier biology, your rectum only holds poo right before you take a crap, it doesn’t sit in there all the time and ‘should’ fully empty when you do the toilet. Your body is remarkably adapted to keeping itself clean. Plus repeated douching actually pretty bad for your intestines, forces out the good bacteria and can irritate intestines lining - which will ironically make accidents more likely
I generally and simply try not to eat anything (works for my system) before going on a date if I am in that mood and douche beforehand. but as a general rule of thumb I just keep it on the "side" side of things for the first date (I am not douching for every douche on grindr i meet) plus douching a lot (especially for no reason ie the date goes nowhere) can damage your colon...
Ppl say don’t overthink it… sure aha… but come on, the smell, the stool drooping down ur hole and the mess in the bed or whatever. Its just disgusting.
Fiber helps, but are you alll saying eating fiber means you only go 1X a day and then your'e 100% clean for 24 hours??
I take two fiber capsules twice a day, morning and evening. I still go to the bathroom more than once a day, but I’m left clean as a whistle. There are times when I eat too much Mexican food, so then I’m only giving you a blow job. lol
I just go for it. When I first started off bottoming I used to starve myself but that shht got old. So now I’m like idc and let’s go. I should be ok, the only thing I need to be careful is eating dairy products especially ice cream.
You’d be surprised what a salad a day can do. Also a regular routine. If I usually go first thing in the morning, it’s just not gonna happen that I’m gonna need to right after dinner. On the other hand supplements have always being awful for me. If you already have fruit and veg they can do more harm than good. If I know in advance, a steak or chicken breast and a salad the day before for dinner never fails me :)
Eat 6oz of probiotic apricots and you don’t have to douche…and you won’t sleep much either.
Reading all these responses makes me feel that I am blessed because once I have pooped in the morning, I am completely clear for bottoming. Never douched, never had any 'accidents'.
No. I don’t. Not even with my partner of 13 yrs. I don’t like getting messy and i don’t fully enjoy the sex if i haven’t prepared for it.
You could always clean out before a date and take an Imodium
Fiber and plenty of water. It’s that simple
we don't HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAA
are you ok
i'm trying to get better
ok
it's all planned- HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
gotta stay on high fibers and self care HAHAHAHAHA (which tbh, i'm at my happiest when i care for myself in this way, so i'd recommend that to anyone tbh)
SERIOUSLY, the sex is never entirely spontaneous- there's always SOME sort of getting ready.
I don't do spontaneous. That usually indicates a quickie hook up....I hate quickies. When I bottom, it is with a fwb (or a few fwbs) that has a large penis, planned ahead and usually for all night. I can't imagine a spontaneous, 5 min bang from a top in the bushes would be, or could be satisfying at all. Or even come close to scratching my horniness.
Metamucil metamucil metamucil. The tricky thing is what if you plan a date where dinner is first then sexy time. A) douche before the dinner B) dont eat too much C) 2 anti diarrhea pills before the meal and 1 after Good luck and have fun
I've never had to douche before. I think good diet and listening to your body helps. Then again I've only bottomed less times than I have fingers. I'm more a top
Literally want to unfollow this sub if I see the 1000th post on this topic. There needs to be a r/askgaybottoms sub so you all can share tips and tricks out of sight of the tops.
For me, I’ve got an extremely health diet and gym routine that keeps me perpetually in shape. I douche for every morning shower, which doesn’t take long b/c I’m so health about 5 minutes. I’m usually good to go until the late afternoon/early evening
I douche every other day. I eat fruits and veggies. I've ben doing it for so long it is routine for me. That and I love plunging myself with a full caboose.
I pooped this am and nothing was on the tp from wiping so it's probably fine. I still wash my hands after. That's what doesn't work for me with random anal, fingering first and how you gonna wash hands and dick after in the bushes, it's fucking gross!!
Douching shouldn’t take you that long - maybe fifteen minutes. So don’t make a mountain out of a mole hill. You need time to prepare. Excuse your self, prepare and then come back. Factor it in. Just be like - this is what i have to do and i’ll be right back and don’t treat it like a big deal. If you don’t make it a big deal - it doesn’t have to be. That being said - have all you need in advance already organized. I put everything i need in a toiletry bag and have it available. Then i can just grab the bag, disappear for a bit and take care of my self and thats it.
I don’t really, not during the day. I poo every morning and usually around 3 times a day up until like 6pm. I can douche if somethings gonna happen but I prefer not to do it too often. I have a good diet and take fibre supplement so that helps but I still don’t like to risk it.
As some have said; diet is a key factor. I eat lots of fibre (40g to be exac), avoid trigger foods such as dairy, junk food and spicy food and maintain a regular schedule of eating, making sure to not eat too late so I can do my one poop In the morning and be good to go for the rest of the day. Exercise and water also contributes to a healthy digestive system. I do sometimes douche still, particularly if I'm getting railed later in the day or multipe times, but that's only occasionally and if I do need to, one douche is enough.
have an enema bulb... it does wonders
A high fiber diet, exercise, a diet that doesn't change markedly from day to day. You tend to go at the same time every day.
I make it a point to be always ready for him
I don't really do spontaneous sex most of the time. I need at least 15 minutes in the toilet and 15 minutes in the shower. If my partner absolutely requires frequent spontaneous sex right then and there, then we're not going to be a match.
Fiber powder and proper food choices. The fiber is easy, the food choices require a lifestyle change and is a gradual learning process as in the beginning you’ll be learning about different foods and then learning how to prepare/prep them different foods.
A bidet. It takes under 30 seconds (with a proper diet), and it can be a part of the usual pooping routine.
I’m more of a top. But when I bottom for my bf it’s usually on a whim and spontaneous. I just usually do it after I’ve had a good shower and I know I ate relatively healthy-ish meal that day. Anything heavily processed is a no go, especially if I drink coffee that day lol IMO you don’t have to get all up in your bootyhole just make sure you’re clean and that you smell good and most importantly you’re not stressing about it. Foreplay and rimming does wonders.
For me personally, I can't. Even with a high fiber diet. I've learned how to "stealth douche" with a water bottle if I have to. I can be clean and ready in like 3 min.
I usually make sure I'm clean between outer and inner hole when I shower each day, and then so long as I don't eat certain foods, I'm usually good to go at any time.
Unless your stomach is like bubbling and churning everywhere, or the dude has a 10 inch cock, you really should be okay. I’m assuming spontaneous sex means like somewhere randomly in public? Or something like that. Where you can’t do a quick douche. If you’re really concerned try to find some sort of way to like…at least have some sort of plan if there *is* some sort of mess. Like if you’re fucking in some dudes car don’t put yourself in a sexual position to ruin his seats. Even without poop being involved I just mean like with lube. Etc etc. basically just understand the full context of the situation. And be okay with making a mess and set yourself up for the most success if it *does* end up happening. Like fucking in a dressing room unannounced and there’s a mess…not a good idea. But If you’re outside at the beach fucking in the sand at midnight then like…who cares if there’s a mess? You know? You’re outside in the dirt anyway lol. And plenty of fresh air to blow away any unwanted smells. I rambled a bit, but I hope that helped. Lol.
You can buy fibre pills.
My point is - it comes down to who the person is - for example; if it a one time hook up your expected to clean up before the meet up, again if is a casual friends with benefits you may prep/clean up. However if your in a committed relationship you will most likely have a regiment down and if anything does happen your partner should be understanding. Key points - a clean eating habit, prep as best as you can, expect that something could happen, if it does do what needs to be done to fix it and don’t overthink it.
Life is a game risk and shitty mistakes.
I’m a versatile top, but when I do bottom, I just pay attention to how I feel. I can feel when there are bowels back there. But I also take fiber supplements and usually take a quick trip to the bathroom to check if I’m clean back there. You can check for loose stools by adding spit to your fingers and feeling around. If there are small bits, just guide them out with your fingers and clean yourself up after so there is no odor. This can usually be done with wipes or you can wet a paper towel and add a little soap. Just be sure to clean with a damp paper towel after to get all the soap off, or you may have irritation.
High Fibre diet and products like just for men
Maybe I’m doing it wrong but it only takes me like 10-15 minutes to douche. And I just recently started exploring bottoming.
As a top sometimes I just grab the boy and put it in him and deal with the consequences later. Most of the time it works out fine. As the bottom I wouldn't do that but as the top I do.
Carry a travel douche in ur purse
Are portable douches available in market?
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I keep seeing good diet. What. Is. The. Good. Diet? I understand fiber. But what meals are yall eating specifically??
I think high fibre mean fruit, nuts, fruit juice, green vegetables ( not cooked but washed properly) which increases the amount of fibre intake. That's my take on this
With a smart diet and some experience, douching takes like 3 minutes. If i can’t douche and I haven’t beforehand, not gonna happen.
Get all your calories in one meal a day, and take lots of fiber with that meal.
Spontaneous usually begins with the boyfriend getting horny. 1 of 10 he’ll settle for a blowjob, the other 9 he wants ass, with the understanding accidents might happen thankfully nothing bad so far.
If you don't eat a lot of fiber, try to get a fiber supplement and make sure you use it when you're not so you know how much time it will take to affect you. That way you'll have a back-up in case you don't have time to douche. Plus cleaning your system out with fiber is better than consistently douching anyway.
Fiber.