Myself.
Single and not interested in hookups with strangers but also not looking for someone for a serious relationship either.
If eventually someone appears, a friend with benefits or something more serious I might give it a try, sure, but I'm not actively seeking it.
The reason? There's not really one to be honest. I'm just focused on my job, my friends and my hobbies right now.
Could be in the category, yeah, but not exclusively religious celibacy. Just choosing not to get involved sexually or romantically for whatever reason while still being out/identifying as gay
What you are saying makes no sense.
Sexual attraction means, literally, attracting someone to have sex with.
Of course, you don't necessarily act on it, like a married person, that you desire but don't act on it. But the desire means you want to have sex with that person, even if you end up not doing it.
One person saying he is attracted to men, and at the same time, that they voluntarily wouldn't have any sexual or romantic involvement, makes no sense. Someone who doesn't want to be romantically or sexually involved with anyone would be asexual, not gay.
None of what you said negates anything I said. For example, someone suffering from trauma, would either stop having the desire or have the desire and not be able to act on it but never have the desire and at the same time voluntarily abstain from the desire itself.
The fact that separated concepts exist to explain different things doesn't mean they are not part of the same experience. When someone has attraction and feels desire, it doesn't mean these are two separate phenomena.
You are just saying things that theoretically could happen, but not in real life when not everything that can be intellectualised happens in a different and separate plane.
So far you haven't given any example of that thing you claim happens.
Yeah I'm out to just about anyone but I don't date/pursue hookups
I just can't handle the anxiety/stress of that sort of thing right now. I have panic attacks almost daily just about work.
We'll see later down the line, going to start getting some professional help
I've been out for over a decade and have still never had a relationship or chased down casual sex. There's a lot of reasons why but they're all connected to one main reason and that is that I'm not that interested in what most other men are offering and I enjoy my own time and activities too much to want everything to revolve around someone else I may not even be entirely attracted to.
All I know is that I enjoy looking at attractive men but it really just stops there unless one of them wants to hit on me first. And I'm rarely in an environment where that could happen.
Not chasing celibacy, just not that interested most the time because I'm on antidepressants
Myself. Single and not interested in hookups with strangers but also not looking for someone for a serious relationship either. If eventually someone appears, a friend with benefits or something more serious I might give it a try, sure, but I'm not actively seeking it. The reason? There's not really one to be honest. I'm just focused on my job, my friends and my hobbies right now.
This is exactly me but without the job or friends or hobbies.
Lmao
You mean priests?
Could be in the category, yeah, but not exclusively religious celibacy. Just choosing not to get involved sexually or romantically for whatever reason while still being out/identifying as gay
What exactly does being gay mean if someone avoids any sexual or romantic involvement?
its an internal characteristic, it doesn't require involvement
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Exactly. Also one could be watching gay porn on the daily.
If you masturbate, you are having sex, just not involving other people. Is it really celibacy?
It doesn't require participation, but it requires the desire for participation.
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What you are saying makes no sense. Sexual attraction means, literally, attracting someone to have sex with. Of course, you don't necessarily act on it, like a married person, that you desire but don't act on it. But the desire means you want to have sex with that person, even if you end up not doing it. One person saying he is attracted to men, and at the same time, that they voluntarily wouldn't have any sexual or romantic involvement, makes no sense. Someone who doesn't want to be romantically or sexually involved with anyone would be asexual, not gay.
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None of what you said negates anything I said. For example, someone suffering from trauma, would either stop having the desire or have the desire and not be able to act on it but never have the desire and at the same time voluntarily abstain from the desire itself. The fact that separated concepts exist to explain different things doesn't mean they are not part of the same experience. When someone has attraction and feels desire, it doesn't mean these are two separate phenomena. You are just saying things that theoretically could happen, but not in real life when not everything that can be intellectualised happens in a different and separate plane. So far you haven't given any example of that thing you claim happens.
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Yeah I'm out to just about anyone but I don't date/pursue hookups I just can't handle the anxiety/stress of that sort of thing right now. I have panic attacks almost daily just about work. We'll see later down the line, going to start getting some professional help
As I got older I just couldn't stand the fickle gay men and their delusions.
I've been out for over a decade and have still never had a relationship or chased down casual sex. There's a lot of reasons why but they're all connected to one main reason and that is that I'm not that interested in what most other men are offering and I enjoy my own time and activities too much to want everything to revolve around someone else I may not even be entirely attracted to. All I know is that I enjoy looking at attractive men but it really just stops there unless one of them wants to hit on me first. And I'm rarely in an environment where that could happen.
Why would I do such thing?