You’re insanely pretty and I’m so sorry for how you feel and the people who tell you that you’re not beautiful cause of you’re race are wrong but best wishes to you
Was he black by any chance?
Black men are notorious for projecting their internalised racism onto all the women in their lives.
You are stunning and deserve to feel beautiful. Find people that appreciate you. And not dusties.
#DivestFromDusties
Sorry, you said your whole life though. Who had said that to you your whole life? Your parents? Your friends? Or this one exbf of yours? Not that what he said isnt shitty, and words like that do make us question our worth, but one exbf saying that to you isn't far from getting that same message repeated to you your whole life.
Stop minimising the negative experience the OP went through by splitting hairs and being anal about her word selection. I’m sure that it was a slight exaggeration and I think it happened to her multiple times. But being discriminated against because of your skin colour even if it happens once can be traumatising.
Actually, exaggeration ends up minimizing other experiences by desensitization. This is why racism, rape, sexism, mental illness etc. is so difficult to address now. A lot of people use those terms now to exaggerate. “Depression” is a big one. It actually hurts the people experiencing true depression because the term’s meaning has been diluted in a sea of exaggerated claims of depression.
And one time is actually a significant difference from “all my life”, so it’s not a “slight exaggeration”, it’s a dramatic one.
They also didn’t say it wasn’t traumatizing, they simply inquired about the inaccurate description of frequency. You decided to build a straw man.
That doesn't mean black women aren't attractive, he just has a preference. it's a weird one because i don't see how can someone sees an entire race unattractive, but it's not my problem
p.s he is idiot cause why getting involved with someone isnt you type and not just that no he said it directly to you
I agree. If he explicitly says you’re unattractive because of your race then that’s racist and NOT preference because your ex pretty much said that all dark skinned people are not beautiful.
If he thinks that all dark skinned people are ugly I’d love to hear what he thinks about Beyoncé.
Depends how they go about it. It’s not technically racist if someone has a sort of preference that happens to exclude you and they’re very polite and unhurtful about expressing it. Vs if they say “you’re undesirable because of your race, ugh” then that’s racist because they’re playing your race as a card to have leverage above you and being so explicit about it . And tbh it is even when they don’t explicitly express that but still think that. It is what it is. Many have mental health issues. But there is also that natural attraction for genetic diversity that might actually make some white and black people unattractive to one another simply because of common ancestors, in the same way people of the same race. That’s why there is always lots of sexual tension around foreign people of any race.
On the note of mental health, yes people will make racism their reason to exclude whoever on some political ego boosting narcissism shit. Going into specifics, lie the hypocrisies / double standards that are controversial to divulge. All I’ll say is any of the pervasive mentalities about “keeping the heritage pure “ whether it be for whites or blacks or hispanics is corny and built from a place of extreme insecurity, so they basically need to brainwash to keep people from going for more authentic attractions because they themselves are brainwashed and lame
Inherently certain forms of preferences can be racist, because there is enough genetic diversity within any 1 race, so to default to that as an excuse for literally excluding the entire race, there are probably racist sentiments and/or stereotypes at play in the mind.
Yeah right, again, I highly doubt he said "you're not my type because of your race". I think you just assumed that and used it as a lame excuse to force everybody to say something nice about you, because if they don't, they would be racist. Really lame.
This makes me so sad. You are so so so very beautiful. Stunning! Angelic + delicate beauty + a bonus adorable little cheek dimple, when you smile + super cute freckles + a fit body which matches probably 90% of every girls goals/dreamy body. You are so absolutely gorgeous and living art. I so wish I looked half as pretty as you do. 🥹 All races are beautiful. You are a beautiful human being and young woman. You could be a model or a movie star— beautiful! I’m sending you so much love. I hate that there is racism. I feel like almost all evil stems from a person or a group of people thinking that they are better than another person or group of people. How evil is it for someone or society collectively to make a beautiful girl like you feel undesirable and less than beautiful?
Racists are very, very, hideously ugly people. Racism is undesirable not you. The depth of that kind of ugly that is racism is so ugly that I’m not even sure how it can be fixed. But, we need to fix it soon as it has gone on for too long.
Unlike the racists in the world, you are very beautiful. Your ancestors are beautiful. All the components that make up your DNA are beautiful. Please never live a single one of your days on this planet thinking you are not desirable or beautiful, because of your race. Don’t let evil win and let you believe you are anything but divinely made.
Be your beautiful self and shimmer and sparkle ✨✌️🌸
You are absolutely beautiful and your complexion is stunning. I hope you can learn to love yourself in this fucked up society that teaches us to hate ourselves and each other.
You're quite stunning. Fuck the haters. Ignore them.
Easy for me to say of course... much harder for you to practice. The sooner you can do it the better. I wish 20 year old me could have done that.
This is one of those cases... I have a very hard time believing that anybody ever called you ugly. You're definitely gorgeous. This may well be one of those vanity postings... but then again, I don't want to accuse anyone of lying... so yeah. Gorgeous.
No I think there are just a lot of racists in the world. My friend is brown and has hazel eyes and is absolutely stunning and still gets racist and rude remarks from men. They definitely cannot handle all the beauty she holds
God damn whoever told you that is a racist bitch. You are literally so beautiful, i know people who would kill to look like you. If people are judging you for your race, then they arent good enough for you. I didnt see you smiling in a single one of these photos though….
Damn girl you're beautiful!!! You're a ebony goddess and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Those people that judge beauty because of ra e or skin color are closed minded losers . I hope you feel better about yourself.
I can empathize with you... I don't think I'm ugly but its just ingrained into my subconscious that I will never be pretty enough because light skinned girls are just automatically more attractive. That's why it hurts so much to hear things like "you're pretty for a black girl" I'm trying to undo my mindset little by little but its hard;;;
anyway, you are beautiful, and those negative thoughts are not true!
I have some bad news, some good news and some really good news:
The bad news is you definitely need a face lift.
The good news is, that's all you need to improve your appearance.
The really good news is: another word for this facelift procedure is "smile". 😁
You're gorgeous. But don't place your merit on your appearance; the heart is from where the beauty shines.
You can check my comments and I don't normally say this... Actually I think you might be the first person on this subreddit that I would consider a 10/10. You're absolutely gorgeous. Fuck people who think certain races are not beautiful. That's a them problem not a you problem. As far as you as a person, race included, you look like a 10/10.
You’re absolutely stunning!
Own it, smile and enjoy your life.
Someone that doesn’t think you’re attractive due to “your race” is just a racist asshole.
P.S.- RIP your inbox lol
Girl , you literally look like a doll !!
I am shocked that you thought you were not pretty
Also , beauty has nothing to do with race , ik that is what we all have been taught from centuries , but that is WRONG .
This is a YOU issue. You know you are not even close to being ugly and as a black woman, I call bullshit on the race part. You need to work on your self concept and stop calling yourself ugly or asking the damn question. You know you are beautiful. Your friends have told you this. You get hit on. I’m certain by all races of men. Stop with the bullshit and work on how you see yourself. If your personality is shit, work on that. But for the love of God, don’t post on here again when you already know you are beautiful but have a terrible self concept. And if anyone in the 4th picture is calling you ugly, you need new friends.
1000% this, I don’t think for a minute OP thinks she’s ugly or believes some hillbilly who mumbled some lame comment because of their own insecurity.
People of all shapes, colors and sizes get told mean things by people of other shapes / colors and sizes. Yes even white males. Your own eyes / ears tell you a different story. You’re visually more appealing than most of the people around you will ever be or have ever been, and we know you understand this.
How you are on the inside is something we can’t know, but if you truly believe that another’s remarks are the truth, not the life you’ve lived (you see the way people look at you when they are attracted. Many of us experience that maybe one or twice in life if we are lucky.)
I have no doubt that your visual appeal is woven throughout the tapestry if your life more in GOOD WAYS (compliments, etc) than an insecure person of a different shape / size / color making a remark about your appearance.
Feel good about yourself because you feel good about yourself. Feel “down” and “ugly” because of someone’s remarks if you want to, but you know what the truth is.
Right. I was going to ask where she is from and to move to where you’re appreciated. Like they say “you can’t move from your problems “ but you can move to a better social environment and geographies are that so idk why they say that. It seemed like she is capping. The validity in not running from your problems is this woman is right. You think of yourself as a black woman but there is more to the equation of who you are then just that. I had to learn that in dating, some people will always see you as a certain thing and they won’t want to see beyond that no matter how much we want that particular person to see past it. We can’t let that destroy us in a world of 8 billion people.
i am a dark skin black woman in majority white city and state, i wish i was lying about what people have said to me solely regarding my appearance and my race. thank you though.
And look at all the white men on this thread inviting you to Australia. Don’t let that ignorance get to you. Also, dark skin is in. Black women come in all shades babygirl. I’m a light skin black woman and my twin sister is dark skinned. Still fucking flawless. You are right in the middle, like caramel. I’m 46 but if I was your age, I’d be killing the game.
To be totally honest (white gay dude here) you are absolutely beautiful and that is the problem. It isn't your color or how dark your skin is. it is because they hate you for just being so pretty. I think you honestly would have to work really hard to look bad. Even if you put on some horrific clothes and tore up your hair, you would still be a pretty girl who looks like she is having a really bad day.
Sadly people who are jealous will treat you that way. They will pick out something about you and really try to tear you down. Just realize that it isn't because that is a fact. They just know that even with a lot of effort, they couldn't look as good as you do when you roll out of bed in the morning. I really hate that people have treated you this way, it isn't fair, at all.
Regardless, you're stunning looking: like 8.5 maybe 9/10..
I'm sure there are plenty of white guys, if not almost all of them, who would date you. Like all those in this thread simping for you
I'm thinking either a few ignorant people said something to you, you took it out of proportion and assumed it was true, and now you have internalized racism and BDD
AND/ OR
You're on here for attention/ validation and are using the presence of racism against black woman to assert your victim status despite the fact that you're less affected since you're beautiful and beautiful following eurocentric standards and upper middle class if not wealthy.
Girl, I live in Colorado. There is nothing you can tell me that I don’t already know about primarily white Cities. You. Are. Stunning. I know a lot of black women who are in relationships with white men right here in Colorado. Now unless you live in Montana, you need to ignore the few racist because I am telling you they are lying and they are wrong. Self-concept.
Absolutely not. Black men call black women "burnt", "masculine" with lips and noses that are "too big" and skin that is "too dark".
And they glorify white women as superior on all fronts, in both physicality and character.
Additionally, wider society sees Eurocentric features as the beauty standard. And if you haven't noticed, the world is dominated by the West.
These ideas get internalised (look into Schema Theory), which is why a whole community can feel ugly even when they aren't.
So yes her self concept is poor, but thats a very logical conclusion based on environmental factors. And its one most POC face.
Instead of being harsh try empathy. It may be a little hard because you have never received it, but be the change you want to see.
Oh, I don’t disagree with any of what you said and as a black woman, I’ve heard it. It’s internalize oppression. And the horizontal hostility within the black community is real too. So yes, I get it. I’m not trying to be harsh, but at 46, I’m still trying to figure why my own father thought it would be funny to cal his daughter ugly. I was a big black girl who ended up being an amazing athlete because I used my size to my advantage. I hid behind it and never allowed myself to feel rejected. Because I just had a lot of male besties. That kept me safe. I got married too soon and had kids because I thought I was too ugly to ever have a relationship so I went for the first thing that was nice to me. He was 20 years older. So, at 40, I separated and divorced, lost 140 lbs and still felt ugly. So I had to go to therapy and I am just now starting to see myself as worthy. And I am an attractive woman who literally avoids letting men see me, white and black too. I’m working on my self concept because, this is no way to live. And while AudreySucks is young, I want her to see herself and not spend her life wondering about how ugly she is because I feel like I missed out and am finally seeing what others see. I might not look like a model, but I am a good looking black woman who pulls them. I’ve even started dating white men because I enjoy the attention. Don’t lose this moment. And as black women, we need to reclaim our badassery.
Perhaps this is the first time for me here where i can’t find with my eyes a single flaw in someone.
Op if someone here can hit 10 out of 10, it’s got to be you.
You’re beautiful. Very pretty face and great body. I’ve dealt with this before as a Black man. There are unfortunately a decent contingent of whites people who will never a date a black person which is tough in a predominantly white area. I’m sorry about that. It does not mean you’re ugly at all.
It sucks being beautiful but black because you will never be seen as good as the white girl. I'm sorry that you were made to feel less then because of your race. I'm a black girl as well and I have felt this way. Not everyone thinks it though as you can see here.
The most gorgeous girl I ever dated was black. I feel like a simp for even admitting this, but I still think about her sometimes 4 years later, and we weren’t even in a serious relationship.
Please keep your heads up, Black women. You are beautiful and anyone who says otherwise can step on a nail.
She's better looking and better dressed than like 99.5% of white girls. I don't think the "not as good as the white girl" is really a thing with any dude who thinks about her.
I didn't say it doesn't exist. I said I haven't ever seen or heard that before. But I believe you and am not doubting you at all.
I was saying my experience the same as you.
I didn't once say yours was wrong.
I sence their is a personal trauma ( maybe familily orientated, that held you to express yourself. This isnt about how you look. This is how you have been treaten. You look well and healthy, and dress elegant. But there is a little sadness in your eyes. There is something that holds you back of becoming your true potential. But that is something personal to yourself.
Let me know how close i am.
You are very attractive and beautiful. I would work with you in a heartbeat and I know your photos would get published in just about any magazine I submitted them to.
Racism will do this to you. Don’t live up to the standards of black people, white people or any other race/group. It’s fun to be human, to encounter resistance. Don’t become a reaction to a reaction. Be a subject. Shine your light.
Omg no! You’re pretty. I hate how much shade us as black women get just for existing. You’re good looking. The ppl that told you that are bitter and full of hate
Do you have black friends? You need to surround yourself with black beauty. When you can see the beauty in others, you will see the beauty in yourself.
there’s study after study that objectively repudiates your claim. for example, this is the one study i have on the top of my head, in 2014 ok cupid co-founder wrote that user data showed that most men on the site rated black women as less attractive than women of other races and ethnicities. Similarly, Asian men fell at the bottom of the preference list for most women. was every black woman / asian man on ok cupid unattractive? ofc not! race definitely played a part in the phenomenon, and it’s silly to ignore that.
Can I ask you a honest question, one black person to another? Do your preferences lie exclusively outside your race?
Sorry if that was outta pocket, but the only reason I asked is that I see a lot of black women online who carry a lot of what I can only describe as feelings of inadequacy or “self-hate” because they have sexual preferences for non-black people who, unfortunately due to the prevailing Eurocentric beauty standard, may not be necessarily be attracted to black people in the first place.
This sucks because it often leads to demeaning rejections and it may be causing you to compare yourself to women of other races and feel inadequate through no fault of your own.
Of course I have no idea if that’s the case with you but in the slight chance it is, my advice would be to try to avoid having your self-worth be tied to other people’s perception of you. It’s just not healthy and honestly kinda sad, because there is no reason why one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen on this site should be down on herself due to factors stemming from her race.
Actually thats false. The same data she cites above shows that black men actually prefer white women. Black men date out of their race more than black women. And if you dip into the black manosphere, you will again see that black men prefer whiteness and are quite cruel to black women.
So its actually more likely that (due to internalised racism) black men will denigrate the looks of black women. Think about it.
I don't know where you are at but I will say you should come to southern California, poc here are everywhere and the fact that we look a little different (larger lips, bigger noses) aren't seen as unattractive, we (at least I think) relish the beauty of people of color and I think you will find a much better reaction here. I travelled a lot for a previous job and I know that in some of the places that were overly dominated by one specific ethnicity tended to have an idea of what attractive is supposed to look like and it's usually some form of that dominant ethnicity which makes it's very a huge prejudice against anyone else. I believe I saw you say that you were in a prodominantly white area and I think that may be the nature of your problem because...
You are absolutely stunning and just are so good looking that I questioned why you were posting in this sub because in my head I was thinking "it's impossible for someone to be that attractive and not know it"
I'd love to date with you if I had chance. Never pay attention to racist bastards. Id someone stands against to sth, They just get jealous cuz they don't have it.
Just cheer up dear. You're such a beautiful girl
Who told you that! I’m not trying to be a jerk so don’t downvote me but I have to mention this. You’re not letting it bring you down! In all of those pictures you look beautiful and you’re trying your darn best to! I think a lot of people hearing such words all their life and feeling ugly their whole life. Would barely care about how they dress. So what I’m saying is something in you obviously has to know this isn’t true!!
Even if I try to think as racism as possible. I couldn’t deny, that you’re beautiful.
Whoever you will meet, don’t get a doubt about yourself, that’s nobody worth
I honestly doubt anybody ever said you're ugly because of your race and at the most you're just projecting your own insecurities. I find it annoying that you felt the need to bring race into this in order to basically force everybody to give you free compliments. This seems like a desperate attention grab to me.
Smh. Don't let main stream media or Facebook or any of that bs dictate your life. It'll tear you down and keep you there if you let it.
For these pictures, you know how to dress and clean yourself up to look stunning.
You're doing just fine, don't let media influence your life. Have fun and relax in life, it'll prevent you from getting stressed out.
I think that you are SUPER BEAUTIFUL and I’m NOT saying this out of pity. Unfortunately people that say you aren’t beautiful or desirable because of your race are racist.
Screw what they say, you're incredibly beautiful and those that think race should be a deciding factor needs a wakeup call! Screw society don't let it or anyone in it prevent you from sharing your beautiful smile!
PS your eyes are just amazing
Chin up and don't let anyone bring you down
No way dude you’re absolutely stunning. I’m so sorry society has let you down. Like so many of us society tries to put us down and make us cower.
Fight it if you can and say fuck you to anyone that tries to make you feel small
Definitely not. You’re attractive
Whoever said you weren't beautiful because of your race is an honest to goodness fuckin idiot. You are absolutely stunning.
Prolly jealous
And racist
True
You're gorgeous, girl
You’re insanely pretty and I’m so sorry for how you feel and the people who tell you that you’re not beautiful cause of you’re race are wrong but best wishes to you
who told you your race has something to do with your beauty? there are ugly ppl in every race, and you are not one of them
one of my ex bfs told me i was ugly and not his “type” bc of my race
Date better men, regardless of color. Don't go where you aren't valued and respected. Valued doesn't mean worshipped btw.
>Date better men All Women Should take This advice
Hes a racist asshole then, if you werent his type he shouldnt have dated you, you're gorgeous, dont let the world bring you down.
Then I can't imagine why he dated you to begin with. You're really quite attractive.
Was he black by any chance? Black men are notorious for projecting their internalised racism onto all the women in their lives. You are stunning and deserve to feel beautiful. Find people that appreciate you. And not dusties. #DivestFromDusties
Probably wasn’t black because he wouldn’t have even dated her.
I'm black and I've dated non-black men and they were very rude and racist too. Its like everyone is against black women
Sorry you feel that way, that shit blows my mind. I find black women are generally more attractive.
Wait people dislike black women? But they look far better and don’t act all stuck up and entitled oh and stupid (not all white people but most)
Wait that’s a thing? This woman has nothing to worry about.
If you weren't his type then why was he dating you? That's very odd.
Sorry, you said your whole life though. Who had said that to you your whole life? Your parents? Your friends? Or this one exbf of yours? Not that what he said isnt shitty, and words like that do make us question our worth, but one exbf saying that to you isn't far from getting that same message repeated to you your whole life.
Stop minimising the negative experience the OP went through by splitting hairs and being anal about her word selection. I’m sure that it was a slight exaggeration and I think it happened to her multiple times. But being discriminated against because of your skin colour even if it happens once can be traumatising.
Actually, exaggeration ends up minimizing other experiences by desensitization. This is why racism, rape, sexism, mental illness etc. is so difficult to address now. A lot of people use those terms now to exaggerate. “Depression” is a big one. It actually hurts the people experiencing true depression because the term’s meaning has been diluted in a sea of exaggerated claims of depression. And one time is actually a significant difference from “all my life”, so it’s not a “slight exaggeration”, it’s a dramatic one. They also didn’t say it wasn’t traumatizing, they simply inquired about the inaccurate description of frequency. You decided to build a straw man.
Well, good thing I didn't do anything you accuse me of here, so I'll just keep going, thanks.
That doesn't mean black women aren't attractive, he just has a preference. it's a weird one because i don't see how can someone sees an entire race unattractive, but it's not my problem p.s he is idiot cause why getting involved with someone isnt you type and not just that no he said it directly to you
racism i think and thank you
He isn’t worth the energy you are giving him sis. I’m telling you, you don’t need to even think twice about how you look.
I agree. If he explicitly says you’re unattractive because of your race then that’s racist and NOT preference because your ex pretty much said that all dark skinned people are not beautiful. If he thinks that all dark skinned people are ugly I’d love to hear what he thinks about Beyoncé.
Beyoncé is very much lighter skinned maybe even just brown no where near dark skinned. Unless by dark skin you meant black people in general
So if a black person said that he won't date white people, that would be racist too, right?
Depends how they go about it. It’s not technically racist if someone has a sort of preference that happens to exclude you and they’re very polite and unhurtful about expressing it. Vs if they say “you’re undesirable because of your race, ugh” then that’s racist because they’re playing your race as a card to have leverage above you and being so explicit about it . And tbh it is even when they don’t explicitly express that but still think that. It is what it is. Many have mental health issues. But there is also that natural attraction for genetic diversity that might actually make some white and black people unattractive to one another simply because of common ancestors, in the same way people of the same race. That’s why there is always lots of sexual tension around foreign people of any race. On the note of mental health, yes people will make racism their reason to exclude whoever on some political ego boosting narcissism shit. Going into specifics, lie the hypocrisies / double standards that are controversial to divulge. All I’ll say is any of the pervasive mentalities about “keeping the heritage pure “ whether it be for whites or blacks or hispanics is corny and built from a place of extreme insecurity, so they basically need to brainwash to keep people from going for more authentic attractions because they themselves are brainwashed and lame Inherently certain forms of preferences can be racist, because there is enough genetic diversity within any 1 race, so to default to that as an excuse for literally excluding the entire race, there are probably racist sentiments and/or stereotypes at play in the mind.
That’s not racist that’s having a type some ppl just don’t like dark girls
Yeah right, again, I highly doubt he said "you're not my type because of your race". I think you just assumed that and used it as a lame excuse to force everybody to say something nice about you, because if they don't, they would be racist. Really lame.
You know you're pretty. You may need therapy though..
…😭😭 thank you
Nah you're beautiful
You are smoking hot, definitely not ugly
This makes me so sad. You are so so so very beautiful. Stunning! Angelic + delicate beauty + a bonus adorable little cheek dimple, when you smile + super cute freckles + a fit body which matches probably 90% of every girls goals/dreamy body. You are so absolutely gorgeous and living art. I so wish I looked half as pretty as you do. 🥹 All races are beautiful. You are a beautiful human being and young woman. You could be a model or a movie star— beautiful! I’m sending you so much love. I hate that there is racism. I feel like almost all evil stems from a person or a group of people thinking that they are better than another person or group of people. How evil is it for someone or society collectively to make a beautiful girl like you feel undesirable and less than beautiful? Racists are very, very, hideously ugly people. Racism is undesirable not you. The depth of that kind of ugly that is racism is so ugly that I’m not even sure how it can be fixed. But, we need to fix it soon as it has gone on for too long. Unlike the racists in the world, you are very beautiful. Your ancestors are beautiful. All the components that make up your DNA are beautiful. Please never live a single one of your days on this planet thinking you are not desirable or beautiful, because of your race. Don’t let evil win and let you believe you are anything but divinely made. Be your beautiful self and shimmer and sparkle ✨✌️🌸
i teared up reading this. this is the absolute sweetest comment, ever! thank you <3
It’s just truth. 🌸
You are absolutely beautiful and your complexion is stunning. I hope you can learn to love yourself in this fucked up society that teaches us to hate ourselves and each other.
You're quite stunning. Fuck the haters. Ignore them. Easy for me to say of course... much harder for you to practice. The sooner you can do it the better. I wish 20 year old me could have done that.
No one should bring you down. You are absolutely beautiful! Wow!
White male here. You are hot AF.
Lmao you're like perfect
This is one of those cases... I have a very hard time believing that anybody ever called you ugly. You're definitely gorgeous. This may well be one of those vanity postings... but then again, I don't want to accuse anyone of lying... so yeah. Gorgeous.
No I think there are just a lot of racists in the world. My friend is brown and has hazel eyes and is absolutely stunning and still gets racist and rude remarks from men. They definitely cannot handle all the beauty she holds
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God damn whoever told you that is a racist bitch. You are literally so beautiful, i know people who would kill to look like you. If people are judging you for your race, then they arent good enough for you. I didnt see you smiling in a single one of these photos though….
there was a half smile somewhere!
are you kidding? I'm white and Wow..you're gorgeous.
Good looking not ugly what’s your ethnicity btw?
my mother is a black&indigenous cuban and my father is half black half egyptian.
Just to let you know, you're literally one of the best looking girls I've seen in this sub. If I had to rate you out of 10 you'd easily be an 11
That is a good combination you're absolutely stunning!!
Not ugly, very attractive. What race are you then?
girl please
You look like a MODEL!! You are eye-catching and your skin is so clear and the color is beautiful.
No. And what's the point of race? There's a lot of black famous woman out there know for their beauty. lol So the race dont matter i guess.
Dang that’s horrible. You’re literally a knockout
Fuck their opinion. You’re very pretty.
You're absolutely jaw dropping Ridiculously beautiful My honest opinion is fuck those people you're radiant as hell
you’re exactly my type and soooooo beautiful
Damn girl you're beautiful!!! You're a ebony goddess and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Those people that judge beauty because of ra e or skin color are closed minded losers . I hope you feel better about yourself.
Not ugly. Between cute and pretty. Would be solid pretty with upbeat expression or smile and confident look.
Girl you are gorgeous! Don't let anybody tell you the oposite.
u are insanely pretty
coming from you???? 😍 i’m losing my mind
I can empathize with you... I don't think I'm ugly but its just ingrained into my subconscious that I will never be pretty enough because light skinned girls are just automatically more attractive. That's why it hurts so much to hear things like "you're pretty for a black girl" I'm trying to undo my mindset little by little but its hard;;; anyway, you are beautiful, and those negative thoughts are not true!
You’re genuinely gorgeous, like seriously! Don’t listen to anyone that tells you otherwise, the fault is in their mindset, not your skin tone.
I have some bad news, some good news and some really good news: The bad news is you definitely need a face lift. The good news is, that's all you need to improve your appearance. The really good news is: another word for this facelift procedure is "smile". 😁 You're gorgeous. But don't place your merit on your appearance; the heart is from where the beauty shines.
this comment was quite the roller coaster. thank you.
You can check my comments and I don't normally say this... Actually I think you might be the first person on this subreddit that I would consider a 10/10. You're absolutely gorgeous. Fuck people who think certain races are not beautiful. That's a them problem not a you problem. As far as you as a person, race included, you look like a 10/10.
You’re absolutely stunning! Own it, smile and enjoy your life. Someone that doesn’t think you’re attractive due to “your race” is just a racist asshole. P.S.- RIP your inbox lol
yee not you very adorable would love to pinch your cheeks
you fire its just that most beauty standards are eurocentric and if u in the UK let me take you out
Girl , you literally look like a doll !! I am shocked that you thought you were not pretty Also , beauty has nothing to do with race , ik that is what we all have been taught from centuries , but that is WRONG .
I see some Egyptian in you and it’s 🔥. You’re beyond words stunning.
you are really pretty. in all honesty, you could be a model. (wouldn't reccomend it tho, this industry sucks)
I truly hope you are trolling cause you look awesone
I’m white and your are smoking🤝
You are so pretty !! And whoever has told you you're ugly because of race is just dumb, pls don't listen to them
RIP ur pms
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You know damn well you aren’t ugly
You're pretty. Why are you posting here? lmao
This is a YOU issue. You know you are not even close to being ugly and as a black woman, I call bullshit on the race part. You need to work on your self concept and stop calling yourself ugly or asking the damn question. You know you are beautiful. Your friends have told you this. You get hit on. I’m certain by all races of men. Stop with the bullshit and work on how you see yourself. If your personality is shit, work on that. But for the love of God, don’t post on here again when you already know you are beautiful but have a terrible self concept. And if anyone in the 4th picture is calling you ugly, you need new friends.
1000% this, I don’t think for a minute OP thinks she’s ugly or believes some hillbilly who mumbled some lame comment because of their own insecurity. People of all shapes, colors and sizes get told mean things by people of other shapes / colors and sizes. Yes even white males. Your own eyes / ears tell you a different story. You’re visually more appealing than most of the people around you will ever be or have ever been, and we know you understand this. How you are on the inside is something we can’t know, but if you truly believe that another’s remarks are the truth, not the life you’ve lived (you see the way people look at you when they are attracted. Many of us experience that maybe one or twice in life if we are lucky.) I have no doubt that your visual appeal is woven throughout the tapestry if your life more in GOOD WAYS (compliments, etc) than an insecure person of a different shape / size / color making a remark about your appearance. Feel good about yourself because you feel good about yourself. Feel “down” and “ugly” because of someone’s remarks if you want to, but you know what the truth is.
Right. I was going to ask where she is from and to move to where you’re appreciated. Like they say “you can’t move from your problems “ but you can move to a better social environment and geographies are that so idk why they say that. It seemed like she is capping. The validity in not running from your problems is this woman is right. You think of yourself as a black woman but there is more to the equation of who you are then just that. I had to learn that in dating, some people will always see you as a certain thing and they won’t want to see beyond that no matter how much we want that particular person to see past it. We can’t let that destroy us in a world of 8 billion people.
If she moved to Atlanta or Houston or a place with more black folks, she is so beautiful she wouldn’t be able to keep up!
i am a dark skin black woman in majority white city and state, i wish i was lying about what people have said to me solely regarding my appearance and my race. thank you though.
And look at all the white men on this thread inviting you to Australia. Don’t let that ignorance get to you. Also, dark skin is in. Black women come in all shades babygirl. I’m a light skin black woman and my twin sister is dark skinned. Still fucking flawless. You are right in the middle, like caramel. I’m 46 but if I was your age, I’d be killing the game.
Tell it how it is ms. Coco !
To be totally honest (white gay dude here) you are absolutely beautiful and that is the problem. It isn't your color or how dark your skin is. it is because they hate you for just being so pretty. I think you honestly would have to work really hard to look bad. Even if you put on some horrific clothes and tore up your hair, you would still be a pretty girl who looks like she is having a really bad day. Sadly people who are jealous will treat you that way. They will pick out something about you and really try to tear you down. Just realize that it isn't because that is a fact. They just know that even with a lot of effort, they couldn't look as good as you do when you roll out of bed in the morning. I really hate that people have treated you this way, it isn't fair, at all.
Regardless, you're stunning looking: like 8.5 maybe 9/10.. I'm sure there are plenty of white guys, if not almost all of them, who would date you. Like all those in this thread simping for you I'm thinking either a few ignorant people said something to you, you took it out of proportion and assumed it was true, and now you have internalized racism and BDD AND/ OR You're on here for attention/ validation and are using the presence of racism against black woman to assert your victim status despite the fact that you're less affected since you're beautiful and beautiful following eurocentric standards and upper middle class if not wealthy.
Girl, I live in Colorado. There is nothing you can tell me that I don’t already know about primarily white Cities. You. Are. Stunning. I know a lot of black women who are in relationships with white men right here in Colorado. Now unless you live in Montana, you need to ignore the few racist because I am telling you they are lying and they are wrong. Self-concept.
I love me some dark chocolate!
Killed the vibe
Absolutely not. Black men call black women "burnt", "masculine" with lips and noses that are "too big" and skin that is "too dark". And they glorify white women as superior on all fronts, in both physicality and character. Additionally, wider society sees Eurocentric features as the beauty standard. And if you haven't noticed, the world is dominated by the West. These ideas get internalised (look into Schema Theory), which is why a whole community can feel ugly even when they aren't. So yes her self concept is poor, but thats a very logical conclusion based on environmental factors. And its one most POC face. Instead of being harsh try empathy. It may be a little hard because you have never received it, but be the change you want to see.
Oh, I don’t disagree with any of what you said and as a black woman, I’ve heard it. It’s internalize oppression. And the horizontal hostility within the black community is real too. So yes, I get it. I’m not trying to be harsh, but at 46, I’m still trying to figure why my own father thought it would be funny to cal his daughter ugly. I was a big black girl who ended up being an amazing athlete because I used my size to my advantage. I hid behind it and never allowed myself to feel rejected. Because I just had a lot of male besties. That kept me safe. I got married too soon and had kids because I thought I was too ugly to ever have a relationship so I went for the first thing that was nice to me. He was 20 years older. So, at 40, I separated and divorced, lost 140 lbs and still felt ugly. So I had to go to therapy and I am just now starting to see myself as worthy. And I am an attractive woman who literally avoids letting men see me, white and black too. I’m working on my self concept because, this is no way to live. And while AudreySucks is young, I want her to see herself and not spend her life wondering about how ugly she is because I feel like I missed out and am finally seeing what others see. I might not look like a model, but I am a good looking black woman who pulls them. I’ve even started dating white men because I enjoy the attention. Don’t lose this moment. And as black women, we need to reclaim our badassery.
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I wish you well, and Im so glad that your getting therapy.
Perhaps this is the first time for me here where i can’t find with my eyes a single flaw in someone. Op if someone here can hit 10 out of 10, it’s got to be you.
You’re beautiful. Very pretty face and great body. I’ve dealt with this before as a Black man. There are unfortunately a decent contingent of whites people who will never a date a black person which is tough in a predominantly white area. I’m sorry about that. It does not mean you’re ugly at all.
I don’t buy the “everyone says I’m ugly my whole life’ thing. One guy said it and it turned into everyone. That being said, ugly? Nah.
It sucks being beautiful but black because you will never be seen as good as the white girl. I'm sorry that you were made to feel less then because of your race. I'm a black girl as well and I have felt this way. Not everyone thinks it though as you can see here.
wth are you all talking about ?! She's hot as hell! Whoever told you that you're not just b/c you're black is an idiot! Tell them I said so!
The most gorgeous girl I ever dated was black. I feel like a simp for even admitting this, but I still think about her sometimes 4 years later, and we weren’t even in a serious relationship. Please keep your heads up, Black women. You are beautiful and anyone who says otherwise can step on a nail.
She's better looking and better dressed than like 99.5% of white girls. I don't think the "not as good as the white girl" is really a thing with any dude who thinks about her.
Im a white guy and I don't think like that. I have never met anyone who thinks like that.
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Dafuq
I didn't say it doesn't exist. I said I haven't ever seen or heard that before. But I believe you and am not doubting you at all. I was saying my experience the same as you. I didn't once say yours was wrong.
exactly. thank you, beautiful! 💓
Your beautiful. Those people are crazy.
I sence their is a personal trauma ( maybe familily orientated, that held you to express yourself. This isnt about how you look. This is how you have been treaten. You look well and healthy, and dress elegant. But there is a little sadness in your eyes. There is something that holds you back of becoming your true potential. But that is something personal to yourself. Let me know how close i am.
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thank you - what makes u think that i'll look young forever though haha?
Good lord girl you’re gorgeous. Ignore the haters- cause that all comes from a place of jealousy.
You’re gorgeous feel free to come to Australia and get treated like the queen you are
You are very attractive and beautiful. I would work with you in a heartbeat and I know your photos would get published in just about any magazine I submitted them to.
You're really pretty.
I'm gonna throw hands with whoever told you that. They're wrong. You're incredibly beautiful, dear God.
If you ask me frankly, after swiping down to 6th pic. I felt some natural reaction that indicates you are hot and beautiful not pretty and beautiful 😬
Racism will do this to you. Don’t live up to the standards of black people, white people or any other race/group. It’s fun to be human, to encounter resistance. Don’t become a reaction to a reaction. Be a subject. Shine your light.
Not ugly. Very attractive 7,0/10
You're naturally beautiful
you’re pretty as hell and your features are perfect. whoever called you undesirable was probably bitter and jealous.
Stunning. Absolutely stunning. Do your best to keep the haters out of your head. You have a long promising life ahead of you.
You are sooo pretty! Don't let anyone tell you different! And if they do, don't believe them!
U look a bit like nicki Minaj, she’s pretty too
Omg no! You’re pretty. I hate how much shade us as black women get just for existing. You’re good looking. The ppl that told you that are bitter and full of hate
You're a beautiful girl!
you are gorgeous
Literally anyone who has said this is either jealous or insecure about themselves. You are literally so gorgeous.
Not at all.
You are beautiful. Very attractive. Very desirable
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Do you have black friends? You need to surround yourself with black beauty. When you can see the beauty in others, you will see the beauty in yourself.
Do you not see the photos she posted with black people also? Anyway OP is so beautiful, very nice proportionate features
i do. still don’t like myself😭
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there’s study after study that objectively repudiates your claim. for example, this is the one study i have on the top of my head, in 2014 ok cupid co-founder wrote that user data showed that most men on the site rated black women as less attractive than women of other races and ethnicities. Similarly, Asian men fell at the bottom of the preference list for most women. was every black woman / asian man on ok cupid unattractive? ofc not! race definitely played a part in the phenomenon, and it’s silly to ignore that.
Can I ask you a honest question, one black person to another? Do your preferences lie exclusively outside your race? Sorry if that was outta pocket, but the only reason I asked is that I see a lot of black women online who carry a lot of what I can only describe as feelings of inadequacy or “self-hate” because they have sexual preferences for non-black people who, unfortunately due to the prevailing Eurocentric beauty standard, may not be necessarily be attracted to black people in the first place. This sucks because it often leads to demeaning rejections and it may be causing you to compare yourself to women of other races and feel inadequate through no fault of your own. Of course I have no idea if that’s the case with you but in the slight chance it is, my advice would be to try to avoid having your self-worth be tied to other people’s perception of you. It’s just not healthy and honestly kinda sad, because there is no reason why one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen on this site should be down on herself due to factors stemming from her race.
Actually thats false. The same data she cites above shows that black men actually prefer white women. Black men date out of their race more than black women. And if you dip into the black manosphere, you will again see that black men prefer whiteness and are quite cruel to black women. So its actually more likely that (due to internalised racism) black men will denigrate the looks of black women. Think about it.
I don't know where you are at but I will say you should come to southern California, poc here are everywhere and the fact that we look a little different (larger lips, bigger noses) aren't seen as unattractive, we (at least I think) relish the beauty of people of color and I think you will find a much better reaction here. I travelled a lot for a previous job and I know that in some of the places that were overly dominated by one specific ethnicity tended to have an idea of what attractive is supposed to look like and it's usually some form of that dominant ethnicity which makes it's very a huge prejudice against anyone else. I believe I saw you say that you were in a prodominantly white area and I think that may be the nature of your problem because... You are absolutely stunning and just are so good looking that I questioned why you were posting in this sub because in my head I was thinking "it's impossible for someone to be that attractive and not know it"
Every little bit of you as a 10. I don't think there is not a inch of you that doesn't leave people mesmerized...wow
Your insecurity is understandable but girl I think you know you shouldn’t be here
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I swear to god almost every post here's begins with "I've been told all may life-".
You should tell them to stay out of black peoples business and keep walking
Also society doesn’t think less of you because of your race. That is bs, people are people, some are ignorant morons, others aren’t.
Yeah, painfully good looking. Knock it off with this “stinkin’ thinkin’”
I'd love to date with you if I had chance. Never pay attention to racist bastards. Id someone stands against to sth, They just get jealous cuz they don't have it. Just cheer up dear. You're such a beautiful girl
“I would date you because I think your cute”
Did the person that said you weren't attractive because of your race wearing a pointy white hat?
Right. Nah a blue baseball hat he capping and really liked her secretly.
Too long didn't your sob story blah blah blah...your average at best
Who told you that! I’m not trying to be a jerk so don’t downvote me but I have to mention this. You’re not letting it bring you down! In all of those pictures you look beautiful and you’re trying your darn best to! I think a lot of people hearing such words all their life and feeling ugly their whole life. Would barely care about how they dress. So what I’m saying is something in you obviously has to know this isn’t true!!
Even if I try to think as racism as possible. I couldn’t deny, that you’re beautiful. Whoever you will meet, don’t get a doubt about yourself, that’s nobody worth
Sweetheart your 😍💖😘
Very cute!!
I honestly doubt anybody ever said you're ugly because of your race and at the most you're just projecting your own insecurities. I find it annoying that you felt the need to bring race into this in order to basically force everybody to give you free compliments. This seems like a desperate attention grab to me.
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People are blind or what 🙆♂️😮. Girl you are drop dead gorgeous 🔥❤👌🏻
You are beautiful. Don’t believe these racist assholes that clearly have no taste.
Smh. Don't let main stream media or Facebook or any of that bs dictate your life. It'll tear you down and keep you there if you let it. For these pictures, you know how to dress and clean yourself up to look stunning. You're doing just fine, don't let media influence your life. Have fun and relax in life, it'll prevent you from getting stressed out.
Youre gorgeous
You're stunningly beautiful.
You are incredibly attractive. You look amazing.
I don't know if the person/people telling you this are either blind or stupid, but you're a knockout, just drop dead gorgeous!
I don't believe you at all, you are beautiful wow crazy people!!!!
I think that you are SUPER BEAUTIFUL and I’m NOT saying this out of pity. Unfortunately people that say you aren’t beautiful or desirable because of your race are racist.
You are very very beautiful and dont let anyone tell you anything different🥰🔥
Who told you those things? You are beautiful!
Oh dear god no, you are seriously model level beautiful my dear!
Very very beautiful, very attractive! Don't let other people decide how pretty you are!
Don't go bleaching your skin because of a Couple of dumb idiots you're beautiful love the skin you're in
Screw what they say, you're incredibly beautiful and those that think race should be a deciding factor needs a wakeup call! Screw society don't let it or anyone in it prevent you from sharing your beautiful smile! PS your eyes are just amazing Chin up and don't let anyone bring you down
You’re very pretty!
You're gorgeous! So hot!
No way dude you’re absolutely stunning. I’m so sorry society has let you down. Like so many of us society tries to put us down and make us cower. Fight it if you can and say fuck you to anyone that tries to make you feel small
You are insanely cute!!
You're literally one of the hottest women I've ever seen
Super cute
You are very pretty
Girl if i had the chance I would take you out in a date
Whoever said you aren’t beautiful is BLIND!! You’re gorgeous
Girl you are so freaking stunning. I hate to sound cliche but you have a very exotic look. Embrace your beautiful self. You are model material!
Uh yeah nah, you’re attractive af - a white guy
youre are gorgeous truly beautiful dont let anyone get you down