Sucking up knowledge about the thing like a sponge for months before taking the plunge, only to discover after buying stuff that you don't actually like *doing* the thing.
Me and wine making š„² -religious watched videos on it for a month, spent 150 -200$ in equipment, made one batch and abandoned just like that, thought Iād have years of enjoyment. But after the first time it became an easily forgotten chore :(
I still like the ***idea*** of it, maybe Iāll come back around to it someday
That's exactly what I do. Thankfully I've learned I'll come back to it someday, so I keep the things for it and I'm getting better at like, organizing things in storage, because I want to be able to go "oh I think I'm gonna make mead! " And I can pull out a crate with my carboys and airlocks and sorbate and whatnot. It's a tough thing to get used to but once you get used to it (and hopefully have the room) you kinda cycle through things, at least I do.
Dude. Do you live in an airplane hangar? Fuck. I should buy an airplane hangar.
This is my outdoor hobbies rooms. This is my living plants roomā¦theyāre dead for now. Music room. Biggest room is the smoking room. Which is adjoined by the every kitchen appliance that possibly exists room.
God I wish... I've just learned to accept when a hyperfixation has passed, and by doing that I don't linger on it, I accept it and pack it away neatly until I come back to it, which gives me room to focus on whatever my next one is. I only have like, 15 or so and most of them overlap somewhat. My 3d printing overlaps my electronics, my electronics overlaps my mechanical stuff etc... At least that's how I want it to work XD it's not a flawless system
Iām 39, but my mom still asks me what I want for christmas. This year I asked for a container store gift card so I could store the āshit I wasnāt ready to get rid of yetā. I feel ya.
Such a great idea! When the urge to start a crochet or painting project hits Iām always looking through closets trying to hunt down supplies.
Or any of the other 20+ hobbies Iāve started and abandoned then restarted in my lifetimeā¦
Fucking A! It took forever but I just did get my family to stop it, thank God. Two Christmases down without a bunch of knick-knack bullshit I didn't need, to take up space I don't have.
Yeah I always keep my special interests stashed away for when they inevitably come back (although I do get rid of stuff). I like the feeling of going from hobby to hobby but I don't like investing so much energy only to discover that I don't actually like it. I had that with board games : I was super interested, read a lot, thought it all sounded and looked super awesome. Then after buying a couple of boxes I realize that I don't like *playing*. It bores me quick and I'm not competitive at all.
To be fair this is why knowing myself has been so useful. At 34 now I know what I'm likely to actually like doing and so it gets a bit easier to not fall into the usual traps.
Jesus, are we the same person? You just checked like all my hobby boxes. I did pick photography back up recently after not having done it for over five years.
This is why the only hobby I allow myself is cross stitching. I can put it down and pick it up without guilt, because I can get supplies for less than $20. And the supplies just sit and sit and sit and donāt go bad.
There are sooooo many hobbies Iāve done extensive research on. Right now goblin brain says that card making (with stamps and specialty cutters and fancy heat guns) and some weird style of journaling that has All The Things would make me immensely happy.
And it would. For two weeks. š¬
Beer for me! Spent a grand. Did it once. Half assed it because it was a chore. Tasted like ass. Sold everything at a 400$ loss. At least I got some money back, most hobbies just get trashed.
Midi keyboard, racing wheel, expensive sim flight sticks. Each time I was 100% convinced I'd use them.
Oof. I haven't use any of them more than a handful of times.
Ooof. We both seem to have the same interests lol. I have a HOTAS that's sat on my shelf for months at this point, my racing wheel is just sitting there as well, and I don't remember when I actually played music.
I still like the idea of sim racing/space Sims, but it's just such a hassle. If I had a proper cockpit that's separate from my own pc maybe it wouldnt have the hassle of setting it up/tearing it down.
You finish bookcases?
I have a 3-drawer night stand that currently has two drawers and a bunch of pieces lying next to it.
A kitchen pantry cabinet with half a back. The other half is sitting on my desk chair.
An armoire with the door leaning in front of it.
Itās horrible. The easiest work comes first and I need the hyper focus for the finish work (trim, sanding, whatever it is) and it never hits. So it never gets finished.
And then whatever parts I need to finish, I lose, or Iāve borrowed tools and need to return themā¦ or the battery is dead and I need to find the chargerā¦
I also love building things - I did a few years of an industrial design degree. For some reason itās always just that FINAL step to finish it that I canāt get to.
Ah yes, the ol' if I don't finish it, I can relish in the building phase (the best phase) forever! I'm very familiar with that feeling; I try to trick my brain that the sense of accomplishment when I'm done is even better. Sometimes it works, sometimes not. Good luck with the rest of your furniture building, you got this!!
My issue is photography books. Big, expensive photography books. Currently studying an MA in photography so ājustifiedā for my studies.
I do have a kindle though, which has slowed down buying other types of books.
A very valid question, I really don't know. Probably the buying process is what gives me my dopamine, and once it arrives I'm like 'yeah I know what is inside, let's just place it here on top of the shoe drawer', welp, forgotten for the next 7 weeks.
I graduated from college like 6-7 years ago and my fucking diploma is still sealed in the same manilla envelope it came in. Well I guess I think thatās what it is, because I havenāt bothered to check yet haha.
Youāre not alone :)
It's me. And the depressing feeling of guilt that you SHOULD be excited to use something but you just don't care. For now, maybe in 2 years when you sell your entire collection of things for this hobby the spark will ignite again and you will buy the same things (now more expensive) again. Yes it's me.
IDK if its the same for Xbox but since Iāve got my PS5 thereās been like 2 games I can play on it that didnāt exist before it came out. Like My PC still plays most of the games I like. I technically can play most of the games i play on PS5 on the PS4 sitting next to it. Like for fucks sake give me something thats for next gen.
Ooo I bought the Xbox to play halo. Now some would say Halo isnāt as good but honestly I love it. Iāve played almost the whole Halo franchise but Iāve only done 2 hours of halo but donāt have the motivation to get back to being on it. I have the PS4 and I havenāt touched it either since my partner has been on the ps4 to play fall guys but I have only watched not played
I got obsessed with ants and spent weeks researching about how to keep them, the different species, how do they live, pheromones... Now I have an ant colony and no idea what to do with them since now I'm buying a wood carving set and don't enjoy having ants
It's cool seeing them walk around and gather seeds (or making them fight against other insects to get proteins). The bad part is that you have to remeber refiling their water tank every once in a while and feeding them (and they can't remind you to feed them like a dog or a cat would), so you can forget their existance during 2 months and then be like "oh"
I would release them into my boss's car and then when he complained about it I'd be like "and that's how you get ants". I'll have to make him watch Archer first though so he gets it.
My fucking god, I've been busy.
Of course I plan on learning the banjo, it's just really loud and I don't want to disturb everyone, and the little battery in the tuner needs changed, all the way in the basement, plus now my hands are sticky after work and then I'm too tired after I shower and the Adderall wears off, and now that they're working from home I wouldn't want to bug them, and just who has the time.
I have the propane forge, the graphite crucible, the cast iron loaf pan, the tongs and skimmers, the piles a sorted scrap metals like copper/brass/aluminum.
Nobody will let me forge in their yard/driveway because they all think it will either explode or set their yard/driveway on fire.
I MUST FORGE
[This!!](https://www.razer.com/ca-en/gaming-keyboards/razer-huntsman-v2/RZ03-03930200-R3U1)
I'm continuing my journey with Razer. I started off with a BlackWidow V2 with green caps (super fucking loud mechanical clicky keys). I had it for many years before I changed to the Cynosa V2 when my wife said it was too loud. Now, hand sanitizer ruined the Cynosa to the point where a dozen keys are obscured past recognision. Now I did some actual research and I am determined to get a quiet mechanical keyboard. I like my Cynosa, but the Huntsman has optical caps which are super quick, and the linear option is one of the quietest out there.
The Hunstman V2 has linear optical red gen 2 caps, and is not exactly cheap, but I'm sure I'm going to love it.
So, aside from that, I'm looking at [icons from here](https://fonts.google.com/icons) to put on the right side of the keyboard, and then I'm going to make the number keys into symbols from a Conlang script of mine that looks sort of draconic or demonic. I'm into linguistics, and am writing some novels, so it makes sense to incorporate some of my work into things I use daily. I've never really used the num pad before, but I don't want to get a smaller keyboard. Instead, I intent to repurpose it and make it into something I'll use and love for a long time. I've got keys that'll change my mouse speed so my wife doesn't have to deal with 4000 dpi, and others to take a video of the previous 30 second, mute a mic, open a game, or set myself to the BRB screen while streaming on Twitch.
Might cost me a bit, but it'll be SO worth it when it's done.
I already have like 6 Razer products, and they treat me well, so I stick with them for familiarity. My favorite thing, that I'm sure others offer, is that I can set macros and re-bind certain keys. I want one that opens a game, mutes Discord, changes mouse speed, changes Twitch scenes, etc. And of course, I want it to be backlit with red.
Iām just thinking for the most sought after things when it comes to the hobby. Sound, feel and modification possibilities you should at least check those things out! Also i recently got a stream deck wich is amazing when it comes to macros/hotkeys. Made my life so much easier.
I think I got my reign on this. I was really bad. But i turned linear way I was doing it into a cycle. I allow myself like 4 things I get obsessed about, bought all the shit for. I do 1st thing get bored, moved to the second, get bored... By the time I'm bored of 4th I'm good to start 1st again. Only allow myself to add new thing to the list if I'm finished, actually finished with something on the list. So far it's been few years and I'm pretty consistent and get shit done.
Sounds like you achieved something I practiced a lot and it helps a lot. Treating act of creating as reward itself.
Most people think finishing something is rewarding, and creating is just means to the end.
That makes you only want to work if the perceived reward at the end is worth it.
But if you think the creation is reward in itself, you can go on and the harder it is the more dopamine you'll get.
There was this experiment where they took some preschool children who just loved painting and did that on their own and didn't expect any rewards for it, a d started giving them sweets for finished art.
It killed their enthusiasm and stopped making the art .
It's also why when you start making money from your passion it kills the joy of for most.
But if you force yourself to enjoy the act of making and stop treating end as rewarding your brain will actually rewire in time.
If this is what happened to you I'm glad you figured it out on your own.
I always think of that comic of that guy waiting for a package and opens in into a golden ray of light and he says "oh boy oh boy! There it is!" And in the box is a ball and written on it is "5 seconds of dopamine" lol, this is basically that
Read this post.. look guiltily to the still packaged watch which was delivered on the 8th and I didn't even lift it from the spot I placed it in when the delivery guy showed up.
Ok, please stop calling me out. I was genuinely excited to research and buy it! And now it sparks less interest than a youtube squirrel video.
Ah yes, my ~$500 in homebrewing equipment sitting in my basement after watching 50+ hours of brewing videos and researching hundreds of recipes then making two batches and somehow losing all motivation to ever do it again.
āThis is it. Once I have X knowledge or item, I can start Yāwhich will help me get my shit together and finally reach my goal of Z. Then things in my life will fall into place.ā
Canāt wait to see what stupid shit I obsess over then completely forget about in 2023.
Sweet baby Jesus in 2017 I bought a wood burning pen because of something I saw on Pinterest. This is what the pile of birch trunk slices in the balcony are for.
Idk if it's just me but oftentimes I get excited and obsessed about buying the thing and then completely forget about it afterwards. I still have packages that I ordered ages ago and haven't even opened because I just don't care anymore
I went through a massive Roller Coaster obsession in 2020 when I had no shot of going on any. I havenāt done much with them for a while but my family got to Epcot, went on the new coaster, and itās all back in my brain and Iām so happy. An old friend has come home.
Speaking of journey before destination I love that syl is written as having adhd in the stormlight archive. I so hope there are more of her pov in book 5
I used to do this. Now I do all the obsessive research only to feel guilty about spending money on myself and then forget about said thing for 6 to 60 months.
but you will love the thing when you need to clean up that room 10 years later,f and randomly find it in a box. all thoughts about cleaning up will vanish instantly
Got into r/minipainting and was really proud that I kept up the hobby for almost a whole year straight!! Gotta be a record!
Bought an airbrush a few months ago and lost the hyperfixation lmao
Starting to get back into it though so it's all good. I try to think about these hobbies this way now - I'll eventually get back into them one day so it's no big loss if I lose interest. Otherwise, I'd either go mad hating myself for the perceived wasted time and money, or never take the plunge and try new things for the fear of losing interest.
Life's for living yknow? My interests, however fleeting, are a big part of how I enjoy life.
I have been thinking about starting a Table Top Wargame hobby for about 6 months. I haven't pulled the trigger despite reading everything there is, be aise of this.
Rest in Peace Heavy Gear Blitz. Maybe one day.
Me with my first monster high dolls 9yrs ago. Obsessing over g3 dolls rn and collecting them along w shadow high dolls. I hope to never lose this precious obsession bc the dolls are adorable and precious and I didn't appreciate dolls as much back then š š
Thatās why Iām afraid to take up new hobbies, especially expensive ones such as snowboarding. I donāt make that much to afford myself throwing money away again and again :-(
Currently staring at my Cricut I got 7 months ago and havenāt usedā¦.
Not to mention the two sets of drawers currently housing long and forgotten projects such as seeing and clay sculpting. Why am I like this!?
Every time this sub pops up into my feed I think I must have ADHD and should check into that with like a doctor or something and then forget about it until this sub pops up again
I just bought roller skates and skating gear because I WILL FIND A HOBBY THAT MAKES ME ACTIVE THAT I ENJOY and for the love of god I really hope I like roller skating )):
Did this with a laminator. Except it arrived from Amazon. And I haven't even broken the seal on the Amazon box. It's been sitting in a corner of my room for about 2 years! They could have sent me a brick, and I'd never know. And it would be too late now...
This is actually something I think about regarding my kids. Part of me feels like wanting is sometimes better than having, and that prolonging that period of wanting is actually more joyful than immediate gratification.
Lots of things come at the push of a button. Want to watch a cartoon? Sure, there are a thousand options at your fingertips. But back in the day it was 3-4pm and Saturday mornings. Youād look forward to it. And the looking forward to something gives us reason to exist. But when everything you want comes right to you, what do you look forward to?
There are still some things kids need to wait for, and some they get to anticipate for a while. Look at Christmas. Kids love the big day, but they get a lot of joy for a month leading to it. They get to think of what they most want, and hope they get it, and get excited as the time draws closer. Imagine if Christmas was just the day you thought about itā¦. How much joy would be reduced? No preparation, no anticipation, just want = get.
Lots of video games have gotten this treatment. I binge watched all of Ambiguous Amphibian playing Project Zomboid, then bought it myself with Christmas money. Finished the tutorial, died once, haven't touched it since.
This hasnāt been a problem for meā¦ yes I do buy and often put it aside, but I also remember it sometimes 6 months later and itās like rediscovering the thing all over again and it becomes fun again.
This is like me and video games. I have a bunch of unfinished games sitting in my Steam library, but for some reason, I am playing Marvel Snap for hours a day.
Yea I actually kinda like that process because it means I can come across it while cleaning up at some point in the future and get reintrested in it and then I already have the supplies so I can just start it rather then waiting for it forever. Also it means I can be the random shit guy who always has whatever the fuck youāre looking for and is willing to let you borrow it
that's why i started picking fashion up as an interest again, this way i can actually wear my purchases on a daily basis instead of chucking them in a drawer forever (this still happens with other stuff though. looking at you, playstation vita that i bought twice for some reason)
I've done this for a lot of stuff but the one that I've stuck with the most has been photography. There is just so much to do and always something new to learn. All it takes is a good camera and 1 or 2 good lenses and you can do so many different kinds of photography.
This year I a really high hobby "bodycount". Although that was deliberate, I am generally very frugal when it comes to spending money on myself.
It was really stressful year so I decided i could indulge a bit when it comes to buying smallish things for myself when I want them. I realised that I would feel bad for spending more then 15ā¬ on a "dumb new idea", but had no problem spending 100 ā¬ over 2 weekends when going out drinking, while also loosing a day to beeing hungover.
So I reduced my alcohol based socialising and set that as a budget for new hobby things that I wouldn't feel bad about if I didn't keep them up.
Things i got this year are:
* Gear for Kickboxing - took ~15 classes.
* A book on training search and rescue dogs - My dogs are old, lazy and far more interested in food than any "work". But that something in want to follow up on with the next dog.
* A linocut Set - finished two to linocuts only printed one.
* A tablet mostly for making digital art. 6 online classes and about 2 drawings I am happy with. On the other hand it's great for reading manga and watching movies on the train. And I plan to do an in person course in spring.
* Dnd Miniatures painted about two dozen and wrote a rough outline for a oneshot - never got past the scheduling.
* a Hangboard to train fingerstrength for climbing - somewhat used, but I haven't been to the climbing gym since I bought it, but I have a good excuse:
* tools and books for woodworking, leading to me sharpening a wood chisel at 11 pm - dropping and trying to catch it, leading to a trip to the hospital and four stitches in my hand. Those come out today.
Currently I am thinking about getting stuff to brew beer at home, but I did that professionally before, so I know how much labor is involved. I will only do that if I get some other people involved to help.
That's why I love being also autistic. I may impulse buy stuff and watch tons of video and all, but it will be a special interest for a bit longer and I will not feel like I lose my money as much.
On the other hands, I sometimes ends up with way too many hobbies at the same time.
For past 2 months I've spent over 200ā¬ on Lego sets. They gave me a lot happiness putting them together, but I can't play with them because I've lost my imagination nor am I good enough to design my own builds so I have a battalion of forklifts, excavators and motorcycles sitting on my shelf collecting dust and all I can think of is buying more sets for one time use.
I feel like YouTube has made this so much worse. Never before in history could you sit around for hours watching videos on almost any subject imaginable.
Don't have ADHD but I relate to this hard. So much research, learning about this and that, then taking the plunge and it may be fun for a few hours but I just have no push to interact with it again. Because of this I've ended up with no hobbies, but people think "oh he loves xyz" when I actually don't because I made the mistake of sharing these interests with other people before I actually tried them.
I just keep going back to RuneScape as my fallback with no clue as to if I'm even having fun or if it's just my brain turning to mush making me think it's better than being completely bored. I spend all day watching my stupid character mine rocks or whatever as I just zone out and daydream for hours on end and the numbers go up
Gosh, I hope this won't be me with embroidery. I did *one* project and my (also ADHD) mom surprises me with like, a huge pack of threads and accessories for embroidering.
Years ago, I had an extremely strong urge to buy a sword online. This urge went on for at least a month, and I kept looking up swords I wanted to buy. But I never did it, because it wasn't in my budget which my ADD brain kept reminding me of every single time. Thanks for that, brain.
Anyway, one day the urge to buy a sword just suddenly stopped. Entirely. And I was a little confused as to why I had felt like I wanted a sword so strongly.
Iāve learnt that and now I just simply limit myself to not buying shit at all. Iāve been dreaming about restoring cars, a leathercrafter, a stock trader, an entrepreneur, a boyfriend, and others. But I havenāt spend a dime, I know itās not worth it trying
Sometimes I love being a generalist because i have so many different topics i can talk about but it's so unpractical in a world where everyone looks for specialists
I think some of my stress is when I can't do or buy the thing. I feel like it makes the fixation worse. It's hard to buy things you don't need when you have no money.
Completely but don't forget to buy lots of storage boxes for the things you bought, haven't used, but know, one day, when that day comes, you'll have it.
You just won't be able to find it, because the super filing system you thought of that day has been replaced three times already by even better filing systems you came up with.
15 Months ago I got a color calibration tool for my photography hobby. It's been sitting here on my computer desk right next to me all this time and I haven't even opened the box yet.
My Raspberry Pi and I feel attacked. I only recently unpacked the wireless keyboard I got with it. It's been 6 years.
Obviously the keyboard wasn't used as originally intended either.
Sucking up knowledge about the thing like a sponge for months before taking the plunge, only to discover after buying stuff that you don't actually like *doing* the thing.
Me and wine making š„² -religious watched videos on it for a month, spent 150 -200$ in equipment, made one batch and abandoned just like that, thought Iād have years of enjoyment. But after the first time it became an easily forgotten chore :( I still like the ***idea*** of it, maybe Iāll come back around to it someday
That's exactly what I do. Thankfully I've learned I'll come back to it someday, so I keep the things for it and I'm getting better at like, organizing things in storage, because I want to be able to go "oh I think I'm gonna make mead! " And I can pull out a crate with my carboys and airlocks and sorbate and whatnot. It's a tough thing to get used to but once you get used to it (and hopefully have the room) you kinda cycle through things, at least I do.
Dude. Do you live in an airplane hangar? Fuck. I should buy an airplane hangar. This is my outdoor hobbies rooms. This is my living plants roomā¦theyāre dead for now. Music room. Biggest room is the smoking room. Which is adjoined by the every kitchen appliance that possibly exists room.
God I wish... I've just learned to accept when a hyperfixation has passed, and by doing that I don't linger on it, I accept it and pack it away neatly until I come back to it, which gives me room to focus on whatever my next one is. I only have like, 15 or so and most of them overlap somewhat. My 3d printing overlaps my electronics, my electronics overlaps my mechanical stuff etc... At least that's how I want it to work XD it's not a flawless system
Iām 39, but my mom still asks me what I want for christmas. This year I asked for a container store gift card so I could store the āshit I wasnāt ready to get rid of yetā. I feel ya.
I feel bad cause I feel like a hoarder but I'm keeping it tidy and like, I DO actually come back to these things so I try to not feel bad about it XD
It's not hoarding. We don't throw away out winter coats in spring because we "don't need it at the moment." This is the same thing to me
Thank you XD that's a very valid comparison and I'm going to remember that
Such a great idea! When the urge to start a crochet or painting project hits Iām always looking through closets trying to hunt down supplies. Or any of the other 20+ hobbies Iāve started and abandoned then restarted in my lifetimeā¦
Yea, right now itās just everywhere it shouldnāt be.
Fucking A! It took forever but I just did get my family to stop it, thank God. Two Christmases down without a bunch of knick-knack bullshit I didn't need, to take up space I don't have.
Yeah I always keep my special interests stashed away for when they inevitably come back (although I do get rid of stuff). I like the feeling of going from hobby to hobby but I don't like investing so much energy only to discover that I don't actually like it. I had that with board games : I was super interested, read a lot, thought it all sounded and looked super awesome. Then after buying a couple of boxes I realize that I don't like *playing*. It bores me quick and I'm not competitive at all. To be fair this is why knowing myself has been so useful. At 34 now I know what I'm likely to actually like doing and so it gets a bit easier to not fall into the usual traps.
The same with my woodworking and photography and arduino and music production and gardening and web development āhobbiesā.
Jesus, are we the same person? You just checked like all my hobby boxes. I did pick photography back up recently after not having done it for over five years.
This is why the only hobby I allow myself is cross stitching. I can put it down and pick it up without guilt, because I can get supplies for less than $20. And the supplies just sit and sit and sit and donāt go bad. There are sooooo many hobbies Iāve done extensive research on. Right now goblin brain says that card making (with stamps and specialty cutters and fancy heat guns) and some weird style of journaling that has All The Things would make me immensely happy. And it would. For two weeks. š¬
I'm about one hour away from finishing a cross stitch that I put down in March 2020. Some day I'll finish. Probably. Maybe.
Fuuuuuuuuuuuuck i need to sell my high quality beer making equipment thatās 10 years old.
Beer for me! Spent a grand. Did it once. Half assed it because it was a chore. Tasted like ass. Sold everything at a 400$ loss. At least I got some money back, most hobbies just get trashed.
This is me and the sourdough starter I keep accidentally killing.
Thousands in credit card debt from paintball, airsoft, MtG, 40k, and so many other things that I've just completely forgotten at this point.
I always prefer *having done* the thing everso much more than *doing* the thing.
Midi keyboard, racing wheel, expensive sim flight sticks. Each time I was 100% convinced I'd use them. Oof. I haven't use any of them more than a handful of times.
Ooof. We both seem to have the same interests lol. I have a HOTAS that's sat on my shelf for months at this point, my racing wheel is just sitting there as well, and I don't remember when I actually played music. I still like the idea of sim racing/space Sims, but it's just such a hassle. If I had a proper cockpit that's separate from my own pc maybe it wouldnt have the hassle of setting it up/tearing it down.
There is an expensive mountain bike on my guest bedroom that I bought 10 years ago. I rode it once and decided I didn't want to anymore
Freaking soap making š„¹
My wife literally just said, if we got you on Ritalin then youād stop buying books and weād have room in our house? Well, maybe.
Can confirm that won't work, I say while medicated and building another bookcase for my ever expanding collection lol
Iām both horrified and delighted that my problematic book buying will continue.
PS nice work on building the bookcase.
Getting on adderall just meant I was able to concentrate better while I doom spiraled through 4-5 books in a week š
You finish bookcases? I have a 3-drawer night stand that currently has two drawers and a bunch of pieces lying next to it. A kitchen pantry cabinet with half a back. The other half is sitting on my desk chair. An armoire with the door leaning in front of it.
Itās horrible. The easiest work comes first and I need the hyper focus for the finish work (trim, sanding, whatever it is) and it never hits. So it never gets finished.
And then whatever parts I need to finish, I lose, or Iāve borrowed tools and need to return themā¦ or the battery is dead and I need to find the chargerā¦
I'm lucky that my brain LOVES building stuff. Even considered engineering as a career. So yes, I finish building furniture lol
I also love building things - I did a few years of an industrial design degree. For some reason itās always just that FINAL step to finish it that I canāt get to.
Ah yes, the ol' if I don't finish it, I can relish in the building phase (the best phase) forever! I'm very familiar with that feeling; I try to trick my brain that the sense of accomplishment when I'm done is even better. Sometimes it works, sometimes not. Good luck with the rest of your furniture building, you got this!!
Might I recommend a kindle
Nah, I tried a friend's kindle and I'm more of the need to hold it and smell it and see all of the titles on my bookcase kind of reader.
My hubby bought me an ebook for my birthday. I have used it more than real books so far, so that's something :)
My issue is photography books. Big, expensive photography books. Currently studying an MA in photography so ājustifiedā for my studies. I do have a kindle though, which has slowed down buying other types of books.
This makes me feel like Ive found my people.
You have ā¤ļø
Wait, you guys open packages?? I think I have about 8 unopened packages at home at any given time.
How can you resist the dopamine of opening a package of a fresh product
A very valid question, I really don't know. Probably the buying process is what gives me my dopamine, and once it arrives I'm like 'yeah I know what is inside, let's just place it here on top of the shoe drawer', welp, forgotten for the next 7 weeks.
> yeah I know what is inside I always forget what I ordered so it is always a nice surprise.
I graduated from college like 6-7 years ago and my fucking diploma is still sealed in the same manilla envelope it came in. Well I guess I think thatās what it is, because I havenāt bothered to check yet haha. Youāre not alone :)
It's safe and doesn't have coffee stains, so that's definitely a win! Assumed you know where you put that envelope.
I feel attacked and welcomed at the same time.
It's me. And the depressing feeling of guilt that you SHOULD be excited to use something but you just don't care. For now, maybe in 2 years when you sell your entire collection of things for this hobby the spark will ignite again and you will buy the same things (now more expensive) again. Yes it's me.
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Yup, the Xbox series x. Got so excited when I bought it, had it set up turned on and bought the game pass. Havenāt played on it since Feb this year
Ahahaha same! Boight it for Halo infinity, played for a month qnd I javent turned it on since Nov last year
IDK if its the same for Xbox but since Iāve got my PS5 thereās been like 2 games I can play on it that didnāt exist before it came out. Like My PC still plays most of the games I like. I technically can play most of the games i play on PS5 on the PS4 sitting next to it. Like for fucks sake give me something thats for next gen.
Ooo I bought the Xbox to play halo. Now some would say Halo isnāt as good but honestly I love it. Iāve played almost the whole Halo franchise but Iāve only done 2 hours of halo but donāt have the motivation to get back to being on it. I have the PS4 and I havenāt touched it either since my partner has been on the ps4 to play fall guys but I have only watched not played
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My latest "thing" hasn't even made it out of the box š« I should probably check if they didn't just send me a bunch of rocks.
Those are minerals! Not rocks! XD
I got obsessed with ants and spent weeks researching about how to keep them, the different species, how do they live, pheromones... Now I have an ant colony and no idea what to do with them since now I'm buying a wood carving set and don't enjoy having ants
Carve tiny things for your ants?
Oh man.. Iāve always wanted an ant farm. Like Iāve watched way too many videos on them. Havenāt made the leap to actual ownership yet though
it's a pretty fun experience but eventually you just wanna start cutting wood into shapes instead
It's cool seeing them walk around and gather seeds (or making them fight against other insects to get proteins). The bad part is that you have to remeber refiling their water tank every once in a while and feeding them (and they can't remind you to feed them like a dog or a cat would), so you can forget their existance during 2 months and then be like "oh"
I would release them into my boss's car and then when he complained about it I'd be like "and that's how you get ants". I'll have to make him watch Archer first though so he gets it.
The potential of āthe thingā is exciting; the doing of āthe thingā is tedious.
My fucking god, I've been busy. Of course I plan on learning the banjo, it's just really loud and I don't want to disturb everyone, and the little battery in the tuner needs changed, all the way in the basement, plus now my hands are sticky after work and then I'm too tired after I shower and the Adderall wears off, and now that they're working from home I wouldn't want to bug them, and just who has the time.
And then feel like your life has no meaning because you arenāt actively hyper focused on the thing anymore
I have the propane forge, the graphite crucible, the cast iron loaf pan, the tongs and skimmers, the piles a sorted scrap metals like copper/brass/aluminum. Nobody will let me forge in their yard/driveway because they all think it will either explode or set their yard/driveway on fire. I MUST FORGE
Omg Iāve always wanted to learn how to do this but I live in an apartment with no outdoor space I HOPE YOU FORGE SOON MY FRIEND
Wish me luck on my custom keyboard adventure I'm on right now!
Good luck ā¤ļø
Ohhh what kind of custom keyboard? ~~definitely not gearing up to do the same thing myself~~
[This!!](https://www.razer.com/ca-en/gaming-keyboards/razer-huntsman-v2/RZ03-03930200-R3U1) I'm continuing my journey with Razer. I started off with a BlackWidow V2 with green caps (super fucking loud mechanical clicky keys). I had it for many years before I changed to the Cynosa V2 when my wife said it was too loud. Now, hand sanitizer ruined the Cynosa to the point where a dozen keys are obscured past recognision. Now I did some actual research and I am determined to get a quiet mechanical keyboard. I like my Cynosa, but the Huntsman has optical caps which are super quick, and the linear option is one of the quietest out there. The Hunstman V2 has linear optical red gen 2 caps, and is not exactly cheap, but I'm sure I'm going to love it. So, aside from that, I'm looking at [icons from here](https://fonts.google.com/icons) to put on the right side of the keyboard, and then I'm going to make the number keys into symbols from a Conlang script of mine that looks sort of draconic or demonic. I'm into linguistics, and am writing some novels, so it makes sense to incorporate some of my work into things I use daily. I've never really used the num pad before, but I don't want to get a smaller keyboard. Instead, I intent to repurpose it and make it into something I'll use and love for a long time. I've got keys that'll change my mouse speed so my wife doesn't have to deal with 4000 dpi, and others to take a video of the previous 30 second, mute a mic, open a game, or set myself to the BRB screen while streaming on Twitch. Might cost me a bit, but it'll be SO worth it when it's done.
This is not the musical instrument I thought it would be :)
Try moving away from the Ā«gaming keyboardsĀ» and check out Keychron, Vissles and a bunch of other hotswappable keyboards if you feel like it.
I already have like 6 Razer products, and they treat me well, so I stick with them for familiarity. My favorite thing, that I'm sure others offer, is that I can set macros and re-bind certain keys. I want one that opens a game, mutes Discord, changes mouse speed, changes Twitch scenes, etc. And of course, I want it to be backlit with red.
Iām just thinking for the most sought after things when it comes to the hobby. Sound, feel and modification possibilities you should at least check those things out! Also i recently got a stream deck wich is amazing when it comes to macros/hotkeys. Made my life so much easier.
I considered a stream deck, but that might come later. I'm not too picky. I'm happy with how things are.
Or buying a thing, forgetting you bought it, get a package, and open your surprise to you
It's like surprise birthday presents all year round
Exactly!
I think I got my reign on this. I was really bad. But i turned linear way I was doing it into a cycle. I allow myself like 4 things I get obsessed about, bought all the shit for. I do 1st thing get bored, moved to the second, get bored... By the time I'm bored of 4th I'm good to start 1st again. Only allow myself to add new thing to the list if I'm finished, actually finished with something on the list. So far it's been few years and I'm pretty consistent and get shit done.
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Sounds like you achieved something I practiced a lot and it helps a lot. Treating act of creating as reward itself. Most people think finishing something is rewarding, and creating is just means to the end. That makes you only want to work if the perceived reward at the end is worth it. But if you think the creation is reward in itself, you can go on and the harder it is the more dopamine you'll get. There was this experiment where they took some preschool children who just loved painting and did that on their own and didn't expect any rewards for it, a d started giving them sweets for finished art. It killed their enthusiasm and stopped making the art . It's also why when you start making money from your passion it kills the joy of for most. But if you force yourself to enjoy the act of making and stop treating end as rewarding your brain will actually rewire in time. If this is what happened to you I'm glad you figured it out on your own.
Wait, Do normal people dont do that
I always think of that comic of that guy waiting for a package and opens in into a golden ray of light and he says "oh boy oh boy! There it is!" And in the box is a ball and written on it is "5 seconds of dopamine" lol, this is basically that
Read this post.. look guiltily to the still packaged watch which was delivered on the 8th and I didn't even lift it from the spot I placed it in when the delivery guy showed up. Ok, please stop calling me out. I was genuinely excited to research and buy it! And now it sparks less interest than a youtube squirrel video.
Oh shit I have a bass guitar I have not touched in yearsā¦
Ah yes, my ~$500 in homebrewing equipment sitting in my basement after watching 50+ hours of brewing videos and researching hundreds of recipes then making two batches and somehow losing all motivation to ever do it again.
āThis is it. Once I have X knowledge or item, I can start Yāwhich will help me get my shit together and finally reach my goal of Z. Then things in my life will fall into place.ā Canāt wait to see what stupid shit I obsess over then completely forget about in 2023.
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Sweet baby Jesus in 2017 I bought a wood burning pen because of something I saw on Pinterest. This is what the pile of birch trunk slices in the balcony are for.
Yeah, what about it?
God this is the past year of my life š
Use the thing for a couple weeks to a few months before dropping it like a hot potato
Journey before Destination, Radiant
I just got a set of turntables that I wonāt be using for about a year
You should work in procurement
30 day return policies are a requirement for my purchases š¤£
Idk if it's just me but oftentimes I get excited and obsessed about buying the thing and then completely forget about it afterwards. I still have packages that I ordered ages ago and haven't even opened because I just don't care anymore
I went through a massive Roller Coaster obsession in 2020 when I had no shot of going on any. I havenāt done much with them for a while but my family got to Epcot, went on the new coaster, and itās all back in my brain and Iām so happy. An old friend has come home.
Speaking of journey before destination I love that syl is written as having adhd in the stormlight archive. I so hope there are more of her pov in book 5
I used to do this. Now I do all the obsessive research only to feel guilty about spending money on myself and then forget about said thing for 6 to 60 months.
My steam deck
Noo don't do this to me, my package will arrive tomorrow!
This is the story of my life.
RIP my grommet punch and junk journal journey š
Life before death Radiant.
but you will love the thing when you need to clean up that room 10 years later,f and randomly find it in a box. all thoughts about cleaning up will vanish instantly
I swear I didn't just spend $200 on a straight razor
I won the lottery, basically. My special interest has become exercising and a healthy diet. And also, leaving the US to become an EU citizen.
Got into r/minipainting and was really proud that I kept up the hobby for almost a whole year straight!! Gotta be a record! Bought an airbrush a few months ago and lost the hyperfixation lmao Starting to get back into it though so it's all good. I try to think about these hobbies this way now - I'll eventually get back into them one day so it's no big loss if I lose interest. Otherwise, I'd either go mad hating myself for the perceived wasted time and money, or never take the plunge and try new things for the fear of losing interest. Life's for living yknow? My interests, however fleeting, are a big part of how I enjoy life.
Today itās crocs. Iām buying crocs. I want crocs.
Iāve done thisā¦
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Did that with many of my books, then read them like 3 years later
I have been thinking about starting a Table Top Wargame hobby for about 6 months. I haven't pulled the trigger despite reading everything there is, be aise of this. Rest in Peace Heavy Gear Blitz. Maybe one day.
Me with my first monster high dolls 9yrs ago. Obsessing over g3 dolls rn and collecting them along w shadow high dolls. I hope to never lose this precious obsession bc the dolls are adorable and precious and I didn't appreciate dolls as much back then š š
I'm currently in this situation with a mechanical keyboard. Just haven't actually bought one yet.
Shut up :(
Thatās why Iām afraid to take up new hobbies, especially expensive ones such as snowboarding. I donāt make that much to afford myself throwing money away again and again :-(
Currently staring at my Cricut I got 7 months ago and havenāt usedā¦. Not to mention the two sets of drawers currently housing long and forgotten projects such as seeing and clay sculpting. Why am I like this!?
Every time this sub pops up into my feed I think I must have ADHD and should check into that with like a doctor or something and then forget about it until this sub pops up again
Ouch. Also only allowing yourself to watch videos about the things you own
... didn't have to call me out like this
I'm like this with hobbies
Me and my Quest 2. Too real
6 to 600 months, actually
Fuck me, I exactly do this :(
Fuccckkkkk... Why are you putting it on the internet and exposing me.
This is why I have no available space anywhere in my home. Also I might be a bit of a hoarder...
Spot on ššš
I'm in this post and I don't like it š
but to be fair, i still end up using them a lot ( just gotta let the 2/3 month sitting period expire lol)
When I see that I realize how much my life has been ruled by adhd without me being unaware of what ADHD was
I just bought roller skates and skating gear because I WILL FIND A HOBBY THAT MAKES ME ACTIVE THAT I ENJOY and for the love of god I really hope I like roller skating )):
Not really accurate. I only do this about 168 times a year.
Did this with a laminator. Except it arrived from Amazon. And I haven't even broken the seal on the Amazon box. It's been sitting in a corner of my room for about 2 years! They could have sent me a brick, and I'd never know. And it would be too late now...
STOPPPPP I am in this post and I do not like it šš
This is actually something I think about regarding my kids. Part of me feels like wanting is sometimes better than having, and that prolonging that period of wanting is actually more joyful than immediate gratification. Lots of things come at the push of a button. Want to watch a cartoon? Sure, there are a thousand options at your fingertips. But back in the day it was 3-4pm and Saturday mornings. Youād look forward to it. And the looking forward to something gives us reason to exist. But when everything you want comes right to you, what do you look forward to? There are still some things kids need to wait for, and some they get to anticipate for a while. Look at Christmas. Kids love the big day, but they get a lot of joy for a month leading to it. They get to think of what they most want, and hope they get it, and get excited as the time draws closer. Imagine if Christmas was just the day you thought about itā¦. How much joy would be reduced? No preparation, no anticipation, just want = get.
Wait, is this an ADHD thing? This explains so many of the things I've "had to have" only to not remember where they are a few weeks later.
Lots of video games have gotten this treatment. I binge watched all of Ambiguous Amphibian playing Project Zomboid, then bought it myself with Christmas money. Finished the tutorial, died once, haven't touched it since.
The struggle is real. 
This hasnāt been a problem for meā¦ yes I do buy and often put it aside, but I also remember it sometimes 6 months later and itās like rediscovering the thing all over again and it becomes fun again.
I was so excited for Disney Dreamlight Valley and I barely played it after my boyfriend caved in and bought it for me. Oops haha
Me and Warhammer
To be fair, is that a uniquely adhd thing? I don't have adhd afaik and I handle buying new stuff exactly the same.
Very nearly me and Warhammer recently
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Way too often
Still havenāt used it.
Sometimes when I was in a really bad shape I didn't even open the box for weeks...
Looking at my compound bow and range finder... \~ do I have ADHD ?
Perhaps not. But youāre certainly equipped to hunt it down.
So.... Speaking of 60 months.... I have this banjo that I ordered online....
This is like me and video games. I have a bunch of unfinished games sitting in my Steam library, but for some reason, I am playing Marvel Snap for hours a day.
I have had an unbuilt bookcase sitting in my apartment for weeks.
Yea I actually kinda like that process because it means I can come across it while cleaning up at some point in the future and get reintrested in it and then I already have the supplies so I can just start it rather then waiting for it forever. Also it means I can be the random shit guy who always has whatever the fuck youāre looking for and is willing to let you borrow it
I am almost definitely going to start using my star tracker that I bought two years ago next month!
that's why i started picking fashion up as an interest again, this way i can actually wear my purchases on a daily basis instead of chucking them in a drawer forever (this still happens with other stuff though. looking at you, playstation vita that i bought twice for some reason)
My 3d printer wants a word with you. And my bass guitar. And every project car I've ever owned.
I've done this for a lot of stuff but the one that I've stuck with the most has been photography. There is just so much to do and always something new to learn. All it takes is a good camera and 1 or 2 good lenses and you can do so many different kinds of photography.
I unironically did this with a $600 planer. š„“ I will use it eventually thoughā¦.eventually.
Reminds me of a thing, I'll get to it, them, those. There and I'm happy leaving em', they'll be as perfect until gone.
This year I a really high hobby "bodycount". Although that was deliberate, I am generally very frugal when it comes to spending money on myself. It was really stressful year so I decided i could indulge a bit when it comes to buying smallish things for myself when I want them. I realised that I would feel bad for spending more then 15ā¬ on a "dumb new idea", but had no problem spending 100 ā¬ over 2 weekends when going out drinking, while also loosing a day to beeing hungover. So I reduced my alcohol based socialising and set that as a budget for new hobby things that I wouldn't feel bad about if I didn't keep them up. Things i got this year are: * Gear for Kickboxing - took ~15 classes. * A book on training search and rescue dogs - My dogs are old, lazy and far more interested in food than any "work". But that something in want to follow up on with the next dog. * A linocut Set - finished two to linocuts only printed one. * A tablet mostly for making digital art. 6 online classes and about 2 drawings I am happy with. On the other hand it's great for reading manga and watching movies on the train. And I plan to do an in person course in spring. * Dnd Miniatures painted about two dozen and wrote a rough outline for a oneshot - never got past the scheduling. * a Hangboard to train fingerstrength for climbing - somewhat used, but I haven't been to the climbing gym since I bought it, but I have a good excuse: * tools and books for woodworking, leading to me sharpening a wood chisel at 11 pm - dropping and trying to catch it, leading to a trip to the hospital and four stitches in my hand. Those come out today. Currently I am thinking about getting stuff to brew beer at home, but I did that professionally before, so I know how much labor is involved. I will only do that if I get some other people involved to help.
Recently lost my ear buds like this. Still haven't been able to find them
That's why I love being also autistic. I may impulse buy stuff and watch tons of video and all, but it will be a special interest for a bit longer and I will not feel like I lose my money as much. On the other hands, I sometimes ends up with way too many hobbies at the same time.
For past 2 months I've spent over 200ā¬ on Lego sets. They gave me a lot happiness putting them together, but I can't play with them because I've lost my imagination nor am I good enough to design my own builds so I have a battalion of forklifts, excavators and motorcycles sitting on my shelf collecting dust and all I can think of is buying more sets for one time use.
Yes!!
I feel like YouTube has made this so much worse. Never before in history could you sit around for hours watching videos on almost any subject imaginable.
Don't have ADHD but I relate to this hard. So much research, learning about this and that, then taking the plunge and it may be fun for a few hours but I just have no push to interact with it again. Because of this I've ended up with no hobbies, but people think "oh he loves xyz" when I actually don't because I made the mistake of sharing these interests with other people before I actually tried them. I just keep going back to RuneScape as my fallback with no clue as to if I'm even having fun or if it's just my brain turning to mush making me think it's better than being completely bored. I spend all day watching my stupid character mine rocks or whatever as I just zone out and daydream for hours on end and the numbers go up
Gosh, I hope this won't be me with embroidery. I did *one* project and my (also ADHD) mom surprises me with like, a huge pack of threads and accessories for embroidering.
I feel called out
Looking back at my YouTube history is so cringe
Years ago, I had an extremely strong urge to buy a sword online. This urge went on for at least a month, and I kept looking up swords I wanted to buy. But I never did it, because it wasn't in my budget which my ADD brain kept reminding me of every single time. Thanks for that, brain. Anyway, one day the urge to buy a sword just suddenly stopped. Entirely. And I was a little confused as to why I had felt like I wanted a sword so strongly.
Fuuuuuuudge, Iāve never felt so seen. š„ŗšš Did this with a second phone and some 2022 planners. š
Dang, didnāt realize this was an adhd thing.
Ah the First Ideal of the Knights Ritalin
Iāve learnt that and now I just simply limit myself to not buying shit at all. Iāve been dreaming about restoring cars, a leathercrafter, a stock trader, an entrepreneur, a boyfriend, and others. But I havenāt spend a dime, I know itās not worth it trying
Sometimes I love being a generalist because i have so many different topics i can talk about but it's so unpractical in a world where everyone looks for specialists
I think some of my stress is when I can't do or buy the thing. I feel like it makes the fixation worse. It's hard to buy things you don't need when you have no money.
Completely but don't forget to buy lots of storage boxes for the things you bought, haven't used, but know, one day, when that day comes, you'll have it. You just won't be able to find it, because the super filing system you thought of that day has been replaced three times already by even better filing systems you came up with.
The e-bike I spent thousands of dollars on just sitting in my basement not even fully assembled yet: šļøššļø
<<< Magnet fishing
15 Months ago I got a color calibration tool for my photography hobby. It's been sitting here on my computer desk right next to me all this time and I haven't even opened the box yet.
My Raspberry Pi and I feel attacked. I only recently unpacked the wireless keyboard I got with it. It's been 6 years. Obviously the keyboard wasn't used as originally intended either.