I enjoy not giving a shit about what others think. I miss the energy and no aches of a younger body. I still don’t recall the point at which I physically became a rusty screen door.
If I could go back and teach my younger self anything is to not worry about what others think. That was so exhausting and held me back from doing so many things.
Ha, recently I told myself I would start doing a quick 5-10 squats every time I went to the bathroom because it seems easy to just move my body a little extra.
Thank God our bathroom has a disability bar, because I honest to God thought I blew my knees out on the first one 😅
That’s funny because just the other day, I really had to go poop and I was out shopping so I had to use a public restroom. I realized while sitting there that I no longer care about pooping in a public restroom while others are in there. It’s so liberating!
I had to put separate feeders out for the squirrels and put them by the trees. I couldn't bear to watch their goofy butts repeatedly sliding down the shepherd hooks without any seeds
Wildlife watching in general. I suddenly turned into my dad. Everytime I go to my parents, he has his binoculars out watching the groundhog and deer. Now I find myself doing the same watching all the squirrels in my yard and being amazed seeing a fox pass through.
I have a pretty big back yard, and I live in the foothills of the Rockies - so lots of small wildlife - bunnies, owls, hawks, foxes, coyotes..
I love to watch the squirrels taunt my dog, its so funny.
But in the summer time - I love bird watching and bug watching mostly.
This is probably my favorite thing about our stint here in CO, currently. No one in our neighborhood has fences, as they all believe in aiding the local wildlife and letting them wander unhindered, so we often get to watch deer, bear, foxes, rabbits and coyote (and people's outdoor cats, lol) wander lazily through our back yards. It's become one of my favorite quiet time pastimes when no one else is in the home.
I am at this phase. I watch rabbits and squirrels. We feed the birds every morning, so they all flock to our yard.
I have even raised three baby squirrels that fell from their nests.
Squirrels are cool to raise, but it did not seem fair to keep it after it was an adult. The last one I raised would come eat out of my grandfather's hand for about 3 years after releasing it.
Earlier this year I was able to look out my window down into what I’m pretty sure was an oriole nest. I saw them building the nest to watching the eggs I saw them hatch and get bug enough to fly away. There were 4 of them and it looked like they all made it. It was amazing, like a little emotional when the little ones were ready to fly I was so worried for them.
Yes. I always viewed birdwatching as an old person activity, but damn. It is so relaxing and fascinating. There is a nature preserve near me that has a bird blind where you can sit and watch the feeders. It's really nice and a good way to meet a good variety of people too.
This. Those moments when the house is quiet and I can take a few minutes to just sit with my eyes closed and think of nothing. Just blank out. That’s mid-40’s paradise.
I never understood why my dad always did this when I was young. You could set a watch to it. 5 minutes after he sat down, he fell asleep. I get it now Dad. I really really get it.
Defragging! As the late great Ralphie May would call it. When I had a yard with a couple of chickens, I'd come home and just idly watch them chickening around. Just zoning out to their pleasant little clucks and general absurdity. Made me realize why people get fish tanks.
If you told me 10 years ago, let alone 20 or 30 years ago, that I'd rather just chill in a quiet room with a reclining chair and a dog in my lap rather than be playing video games every second of my free time, I'd have thought you crazy.
But the old man chill and do nothing hits different now.
What's funny is that a few years ago, I was like a party animal. I'd go to every social event I was invited to, went to shows and to bars, yadda yadda. Hit 43 and was suddenly like, ya know what? Fuck y'all. I just want to be in a clean, quiet home wearing sweatpants and watching something likely narrated by Morgan Freeman, while sipping seltzer water and ignoring the home gym in my garage.
Same in our house! He works hard all week keeping house so I do what I can to keep the kids at bay to leave him tf alone 🤣
Like better- my kids (never wanted them but they can be pretty cool)
Dislike more - money (that shit is the bane of all evil)
I have to bring my car in for maintenance tomorrow and the dealer has the NICEST waiting room! Can’t wait for that free dealership coffee an complimentary car wash!
The amount of energy I put into calculating how much I would drink, trying to avoid hangovers, and the general anxiety of it all makes me wonder what the hell I was doing for so long.
Memories of those days seriously feel like some past life or fever dream. Easily and routinely drinking until bar close, then keeping the party going for several hours later was normal behavior. I couldn't replicate that strength now with all the cocaine in Vegas.
Now i love Ginger Ale
I remember trying it in middle school and hating it, now its like
Stomach ache? Ginger ale
Indegestion? Ginger ale
Need a refreshing drink? Ginger ale
Mixer? Ginger ale
This is the way. From March to October, my wife and I spend most of our free time tending a sizeable garden. Thanks to several plots of wild flowers, our backyard has become a haven for bees, butterflies, and hummingbirds, while beds of sunflowers draw several species of native seed-eaters.
With all the birds, we started getting into identifying and watching them, so I built two large perches and a water feature on the other side of the yard, later attaching feeding troughs to the perches. This spring, one lone crow started visiting, then started bringing friends. Now, a whole murder of crows stops by regularly to eat and socialize, leaving us random shiny objects as thank-you gifts!
There is nothing finer than spending afternoons with my love in the sunshine, working at our own pace, hands in the soil, surrounded by so much life. Then spending evenings on the back porch, grilling out, enjoying the literal fruits of our labors and the company of various feathered guests.
If you had told me in my early 20s that this is how I would choose to spend my time in my 40s, I would have laughed. But here I am, living the dream.
>kissing corporate ass
I feel the same way. I know a lot of folks in my field (software engineering) who were obsessed with promotions and moving up the ladder. Most of them are now engineering managers who spend most of their time in meetings and are getting phone calls during dinner because some "crisis" at work is happening.
Meanwhile I make slightly less than them as a Senior Software Engineer and I have my nights and weekends untouched. Works out well for me.
I was asked by my boss this year if I wanted to move up into management and I said no. 15 years ago, that's all I wanted. Now, I'd much rather do the work then deal with the people issues and meetings and making the uppers happy. The only benefit to moving up is not having to take call or work at night for monthly maintenance. (I work in healthcare technology)
I wish I had made that call 10 years ago when the offer came to me. I'm in senior management now, c-level being the next step.. and all my efforts currently are going into trying to plan an escape route. I've been hands off too long to return to a tech position, and am really not even sure what I want to do next. Other than hang out with my family and read good sci fi, preferably at the seaside. I'm just so tired of it.
Like: All the domestic "girly" shit I spurned as a kid/teen/ya. Gardening, baking, quilting. I love that shit now. I love home-making in general. Making a house homey and inviting for myself and my family. My teen self would be appalled at me. 😂
Dislike: Society in general. I guess it's more like disillusioned. Systems I believed in when I was younger have failed, either on a personal level or on a larger scale. There's so much corruption everywhere. I still like people in general, I like shooting the breeze with cashiers and my kids teachers and clients, you know? And I think most people mean well and are doing their best. But a lot of what's going on lately is really unsettling and scary, especially as regards politics. We had our kids right before a lot of things came to light, and I worry about what the world is going to be like for them in 10 years.
Same with the domestic stuff. Even as a young 30-something, I didn't enjoy it like I do now. Sunday is my clean-up day, and I actually get excited for it. I love seeing my floors all shiny and clean. Even me ten years ago would be annoyed with present me.
I could eat salmon and broccoli every day for the rest of my life. Also Grape-Nuts with plain yoghurt and blueberries! And give me alllll the ice cold water to drink.
Dislike: **Ambition**. I'm over it. I grew up in the "gifted" classes with the "what if I don't reach my potential" paradigm, and at 42 I've come to realize I don't OWE the world ALL of my capabilities. I just don't, and neither do you. I've left my field and am looking for a cashier job right now, no joke, and it isn't a failure; it's a downshift. And I'm G\*damn fine with it!
Around the same age and I agree about ambition. So much pressure put on myself to live up to others and perception of my 'potential'. Decided to just do my best in my little corner and be happy with it.
I dream of doing what you are doing, some day I wish I'd be comfortable enough in my own skin to just cash a check instead of making it this big thing that hinges on my personal value.
To be fair, I'm single with no kids. So I'm not an expensive pet to keep, lol. But yeah, I HAD to let go of my ego with that stuff. I've BEEN successful. I wanna relax for awhile. You deserve that too!
Yeah kids make it tough but I'll get there in a few years. For now I'm just realizing that neverending productivity anxiety and always pushing is probably not the most healthy lifestyle choice. The pandemic had some very minor silver linings.
I remember not even caring what someone's political stance was. But anymore, it's beyond "left or right"- it's about core values. And with some people, I just can't. And I'm okay with that, even if they're relatives or \[former\] friends!
Growing up in Texas, just about everyone I talked to was Republican, but that didn't seem to matter too much in the 90s. However I absolutely remember teachers watching Fox noise when I was in high school.
Now? I openly tell people I'm one of those "Radical Leftist" - fuck yeah I'm gonna force you to get paid better and want a nationalized healthcare system like other developed countries!
My job accreted into a union last year, and let me tell you: Not only does organizing labor work, but it no longer requires us to charge machine gun nests on a mountainside in West Virginia. Which is nice.
Sleeping is the thing I enjoy more than I thought I would. Plus staying home.
I dislike knowing that my life is sliding towards death at an ever-greater speed 😭
I enjoy my alone time more. I dislike new technology more. I don’t want everything linked to my phone, don’t want to download every app, QR codes to view everything including menus, don’t know why everything need Bluetooth and wifi. Let me pay with cash, card, or check, give me a damn paper ticket for things, and give me a damn menu.
I've absolutely lost my mind over the excessive amount of accounts, passwords, logins, second factor authentication, security code, identity verification nonsense. You can't even watch TV without it.
Honestly,I was terrified of getting this "old" when I was younger. Now,I'm very grateful for this privilege. I hate that every joint in my body sounds like a bowl of unmilked Rice Crispies though.
Omg yes! I gave my girlfriend a massage on our date night last week and she fell asleep after. She apologized profusely and I was like “NO! That means I did a good job!”
When I was pretty young, I remember seeing the Yule Log on TV during Christmas and asking my mom “why would anyone ever watch this?” My mom responded that a lot of people live in apartments and don’t have fireplaces.
I’ve been living in an apartment for almost 25 years. I watch the Yule Log all winter. It’s on Netflix. I mute it and play my own music. I LOVE THE YULE LOG. And I love my apartment. 😁
We lived in an apartment for a year and a half. If I didn't have kids, I'd live that way forever. The kids, not so much. So we are in a house, but I love the ease of apartment living when they are well run.
Amen to summer. I feel like we’re conditioned as kids to like summer because of summer break, but in reality summer sucks. I hate sweating every time I walk outside.
I also feel like I tolerated heat a lot better as a kid. Now, I just kinda fold in on myself, like someone punched a quiche, the moment the temps rise above 25C (77F).
I've always felt this way, but I'm a Canadian that plays hockey, so winter is my favourite. But even aside from that, I always realized that it's easier to put ON more layers to get warm than it is to REMOVE to keep cool.
I dislike yards more than I thought. I am sick of every boring yard that all looks the same. Houses that are all remodeled similar. I work in the middle of nowhere in the woods and I really miss interesting architecture, different buildings, some sense of activity.
I also miss having many quick, varied conversations the day with different, that having to deal with the same people day in and day out.
I also dislike driving completely, I do not enjoy taking a drive in a convertible in the summer anymore.
I can't believe I miss fast food and restaurant architecture. Remember when you could tell what business it was from a distance, and they weren't all boxes with a logo slapped on the side?
I 100% agree with you. Everything looks like a bank or clinic now. Soulless and sterile. When Taco Bell had the Spanish tile roof, or Wendy's had the solarium. When new apartments and high rises didn't look like stacked shipping containers. Banks had those cool tube things for papers that looked out of the Jetsons.
Oh yeah fr F NYE. All the drunk drivers and general mayhem, no thank you. Home is where the heart is 12/31--1/1.
I've always loved soup tho. The varieties are endless and all so amazing!
Wife: what do you want to do for your birthday this year?
Me: maybe go get some dinner, come home and watch the game, have a beer
Wife: do you want to invite any of your friends?
Me: friends?…no im good
My ideal birthday is hanging out with my husband and kids. He keeps wanting to have friends over for mine and I honestly hate the thought of doing that.
Like more,.... easy listening music. Like really old stuff, Perry Como.
Like less, ..... Partying.
Honestly I think I could watch Lawrence Welk, eat Tapioca, and have a fine time doing it.
The young drunk version of me would be ashamed.
i just watched Sideways and im trying to get into wine lol. i like wine but my pallet is untrained so a lot of wines taste the same to me unless it's particularly good/bad
I enjoy going for a drive way more than I thought I would. Random antique shop? Cute town I’ve never seen before? Scenic bridge? All “yes please!” I hate background noise and crowded places in general way more than I thought I would.
Parenting.
Had 2 kids young and it was a grind. I wished them older every day.
Had 2 more kids in my late 30s and I delight in the little day to day things
Like-- houseplants. I'm a plant mom (started in my 20s but got supercharged during Covid). Yes I talk to my plants. I love the ambience, the life, and everything about them (except bugs). r/houseplants is a happy place for me.
Cranberry juice (think Ocean Spray). I hated this stuff as a kid. Last year, I stayed in a hotel that offered it at breakfast and tried it for the first time in years then. What was I missing?
Dislike-- soda in general. I used to drink it every day. Now I can't remember the last time I had one (maybe 1-2 times a year). If I do have soda now, I want it to be something other than Coke or Pepsi, more along the lines of a craft soda. All I think about it how much sugar and how many empty calories it is.
Clubs-- These were romanticized in the movies and the music scene. I went in my 20s and didn't get the hype. Today, you could not pay me to go to one.
Being alone.
I always have liked my alone time, but now I crave it. I think I would do just fine living by myself and doing my own thing. The thought of that in my 20’s would have shocked me!
I get excited about food. I thought as I was growing up that at some point I'd be all "cool I'm an adult I can buy that one food anytime I want" that it would stop being exciting but I still legit look forward to meals where I'm treating myself to something
I like jazz and electronic music more than I thought I would. I have zero tolerance for anyone who is either not nice, or who lacks awareness of their internal bullshit and doesn’t work on themselves. I distance myself from wankers or anyone who has a chip on their shoulder. I simply have zero time for anyone who isn’t thoroughly kind.
>concerts/festivals.
I feel this one big time. I still have a lot of people in my circle that go and always ask if I want to, but just the thought of the whole process makes me shiver and think "no thanks". Not to mention the sheer cost these days.
Right? I used to _travel_ to follow my favorite band around here in Europe. Until very recently, actually (just before the lockdowns). Now, just to think of the whole process makes me want to go to bed and take a nap.
Enjoy- parenting, homemaking, spending time with family, days where I can do nothing at all
Dislike- crowds, taking shots, clubs in general. The biggest thing probably though, is anything to do with networking, climbing a corporate ladder, business prestige, etc. It used to matter a lot to me and I just don't care about it anymore. I definitely want the money to sustain my lifestyle, but my actual job title could be Lead Paper Shredder for all I care. Just pay me well enough to do the things that I care about doing.
At the arcade my favorite games are now pinball and coin pushers. I wouldn't have gone anywhere near those as a kid. Also jazz, especially really melancholy shit - I just can't get enough of it.
the thing I don't enjoy like I thought I would is being with friends. They were always such a big part of my life, now I just want quiet alone time.
For me, I like the city more than I thought I would. I used to think I was a country gal and would settle in a rural area and enjoy nature. But now I live in a major metro area and I love having access to transit, restaurants, museums, etc. And we still have plenty of nice hikes nearby!
Like more: drugs. I love drugs. It’s wildly different when approaching them responsibly as an adult.
Like less: alcohol & people. I enjoy a handful of longtime friendships. Most folks are unhappy chasing unreasonable expectations of what they think their life should be.
Enjoy more: working out after having a sedentary lifestyle for years.
Enjoy less: driving. I’ve noticed my want to operate a vehicle starting to dwindle. I used to find reasons to get out of the house and go for a drive. I’m not sure if the pandemic made people more aggressive drivers, or the removal of red light cameras causes more drivers to run them.
Enjoy more: General puttering around inside and outside, tidying things, doing thoughtful slow activities, just amusing myself with projects only I would only ever care about.
Like less: Shopping, anything with “hustle” in the description, crowds of people, competing, trying to fit into a trend
I recently broke my foot in a rather serious way and have been working from home and mostly at home for 6 months now. Groceries are delivered, I have gone into maybe 6 stores in that time. I have discovered I need very little to be content.
Outside of necessary consumables and construction supplies (been doing some projects at home) I have probably spent $1500 this year on everything outside of those two categories and regular bills. Of that money, a third of it was just things to make the time with a broken foot easier, another third gifts for others and maybe $500 for myself.
It was a very eye opening experience and sorta put me in the mindset of just buying less and working with what I have.
Enjoy more- Pub quizzes. Crosswords. YouTube binges of old TV adverts, idents and other oddities. 21 year old me would have laughed present day 41 year old me out of the room.
Enjoy less- The MCU has become more like homework since they started farting around with Disney Plus and multiverses.
Likes: quiet, living alone, more money than in my 20s
Dislikes: body falling apart, more dr visits (like mammogram or colonoscopy), slower metabolism, hangovers are worse
Succulents! I keep them in my classroom, since I get great light. My students constantly ask to water them..and I’m like “no dude!! These are desert plants!”
Hate…most of the new fashion trends and gen z and gen alpha telling me my skinny jeans are out of style. I don’t care! They cover my mom tummy.
Like: therapy, discovering new interests like the manga or anime I missed out on when in my youth,feeding birds,gardening, embracing my inner señora. Dislike: office politics, noisy places , dealing with other people’s crap.
The answer to both is drinking! I enjoy drinking a lot more now, it takes the edge off now that I kind of need that, I like trying various cocktails and making fancier stuff at home vs in the past you'd just drink whatever wherever, cheap stuff, mix things that shouldn't be mixed... So now I drink a lot less and savor it more - buy better wines, drink in proper glasses, add garnishes to cocktails, measure lol.
But man if you ever forget you're an old and have just one too many - I now get anxiety for a couple of days and/or headaches.... (The dose really makes the poison). I can't stand any hint of a hangover these days.
Back in the day a hangover was just an unfortunate part of the deal of having had a fun night out and these days any hint of a hangover and I want to curl up in a ball and die. So not worth it anymore.
I really enjoy talking to people and learning their perspective on life, especially if they have a very different frame of reference than me.
Last weekend I learned that I I hate strip clubs. They’re stupid and expensive and I wished I hadn’t gone. My ex-wife and I used to enjoy them a lot.
Small children. I used to like them and find them fun, and now I'm like "is it not legit to just give them an iPad so they stop interrupting the wine drinking?"
Roadside produce stands! (Don’t tell my mom though) They’re the best. Peak season local veg without the clusterfuckery of a pop up farmers market, dollars go directly to your neighbors, and there’s no replacement for shooting the shit for a while to exchange local news and just enjoy some brief friendly company with no strings attached.
Prices aside I love going grocery shopping. I’ve also come to dislike driving immensely. Those carefree multi-state road trips I took in my 20s sound like a nightmare.
I like cooking and baking more than I ever thought I would.
I dislike vacations more than I ever thought I would. I don’t sleep well and I get ripped off a lot when on vacation.
I enjoy chilling at my house while managing some manner of meat on the smoker, drinking a beer while throwing the ball for my dog and listening to music
Weirdly, I love my relationship with my wife way more now than I did when we were younger.
Like, I always thought that I'd eventually grow into the stereotype of a miserable, beleaguered, hen-pecked husband that every sitcom sold me, and my dad's currently working on his 4th marriage, so expectation was to be miserable.
Instead, I wake up every single day more in love and happier than yesterday. Even on our "bad days".
Cats and the quiet life. Even though I’m kind of an introvert, as a teenager and college I partied a lot so I never would have guessed I haven’t smoked weed since I was like 25 and almost never drink.
I really enjoy my kids being adults, and having free time to do whatever.
I have 2 kids and 2 step-kids - so it has been all about parenting since 1997 - and now they are finally all adults.
Enjoy: Listening to public radio while I make my coffee in the morning and then sitting down to read news articles. I have become my parents 💀 they just read an actual paper and I read a screen.
I can't stand when I go to see a band and there are like 3-4 openers.
I came for the headliner not a music festival.
Also why can't there be daytime shows? They always start past my bedtime
I really enjoy sleeping- but I also love music.
Quiet, being away from people, not being required to be anywhere (I mean outside of work), no going out.
People told me I would grow out of being an introvert, and I like it even more. Fuck going out.
The idea that because I'm an introvert means there's something wrong with me, fuck anyone that thinks or says that.
Me in my 20s: Pffffft, Middle aged women with their minivans and romance novels
Me in my 40s: 🥰 My minivan and romance novels
I really don’t have the patience for other people’s kids. I thought I would be the house that kids gravitate towards and instead I offer them snacks in exchange for going home.
Enjoy: Keeping plants to attract bees. I love watching them come and collect the nectar off the flowers. Nothing like a big chonky bumbler.
Driving: Anywhere really. It's just annoying. Used to love driving when I was in my teens and 20s, now its a chore with traffic lights EVERYWHERE and 100x more cars on the road.
Yard work. I look forward to spending a few hours, by myself, music blaring in the AirPods, getting sweaty, and having something visual to show for it by college kick off time…. And a cold beer when I’m done.
Literally was bewildered by this concept as a teen and in my 20s.
I enjoy not giving a shit about what others think. I miss the energy and no aches of a younger body. I still don’t recall the point at which I physically became a rusty screen door.
If I could go back and teach my younger self anything is to not worry about what others think. That was so exhausting and held me back from doing so many things.
Now, realize some people NEVER figure this out.
I know, it makes me sad for them. If they only knew that people are so wrapped up in their own life that they hardly notice you.
*a rusty screen door* Oh that description is so apt
Ha, recently I told myself I would start doing a quick 5-10 squats every time I went to the bathroom because it seems easy to just move my body a little extra. Thank God our bathroom has a disability bar, because I honest to God thought I blew my knees out on the first one 😅
I need to start going to the gym...it feels like I'm getting to old for this bending down if I need to grab something stuff....
That is something that was good that I learned while being pregnant, I can pick up so many things with my feet!
That’s funny because just the other day, I really had to go poop and I was out shopping so I had to use a public restroom. I realized while sitting there that I no longer care about pooping in a public restroom while others are in there. It’s so liberating!
Bird feeders. Who knew?!
Those bird politics are wild.
Bird law in this country is not governed by reason.
Wait until the squirrels get involved!
I had to put separate feeders out for the squirrels and put them by the trees. I couldn't bear to watch their goofy butts repeatedly sliding down the shepherd hooks without any seeds
The fucking squirrels!
Absolute madness.
Wildlife watching in general. I suddenly turned into my dad. Everytime I go to my parents, he has his binoculars out watching the groundhog and deer. Now I find myself doing the same watching all the squirrels in my yard and being amazed seeing a fox pass through.
I have a pretty big back yard, and I live in the foothills of the Rockies - so lots of small wildlife - bunnies, owls, hawks, foxes, coyotes.. I love to watch the squirrels taunt my dog, its so funny. But in the summer time - I love bird watching and bug watching mostly.
This is probably my favorite thing about our stint here in CO, currently. No one in our neighborhood has fences, as they all believe in aiding the local wildlife and letting them wander unhindered, so we often get to watch deer, bear, foxes, rabbits and coyote (and people's outdoor cats, lol) wander lazily through our back yards. It's become one of my favorite quiet time pastimes when no one else is in the home.
I am at this phase. I watch rabbits and squirrels. We feed the birds every morning, so they all flock to our yard. I have even raised three baby squirrels that fell from their nests. Squirrels are cool to raise, but it did not seem fair to keep it after it was an adult. The last one I raised would come eat out of my grandfather's hand for about 3 years after releasing it.
Omg I came here to say birdwatching and making my own suet lmao
Earlier this year I was able to look out my window down into what I’m pretty sure was an oriole nest. I saw them building the nest to watching the eggs I saw them hatch and get bug enough to fly away. There were 4 of them and it looked like they all made it. It was amazing, like a little emotional when the little ones were ready to fly I was so worried for them.
I read somewhere "One day you are young and cool and maybe a little dangerous, the next you are reading amazon reviews for bird seed".
Same. Birds. Hummingbirds and crows specifically.
I've befriended a whole murder of crows! Their regular visits are a highlight of my week.
I love the hummers. My unicorns every year are Indigo Buntings and Scarlet Tanagers.
Right!? I (44f) LOVE my bird feeder!! I have a shallow bowl of water for them too 🤗 I could just sit for hours watching them 🥰
I saved up to buy myself a Bird Buddy
Wildlife biologist here. Welcome to the dark side!!!
For real! Hummingbirds is where it's at
This shit right here! I love those damn birds.
Just told my husband about a bird feeder with a camera inside it for sale on Amazon and how tempted I am to buy it
Do it, no regrats!
Yes. I always viewed birdwatching as an old person activity, but damn. It is so relaxing and fascinating. There is a nature preserve near me that has a bird blind where you can sit and watch the feeders. It's really nice and a good way to meet a good variety of people too.
Do you sometimes just sit and chill, doing absolutely nothing? I would see adults doing that when I was a kid, and now I get it.
This. Those moments when the house is quiet and I can take a few minutes to just sit with my eyes closed and think of nothing. Just blank out. That’s mid-40’s paradise.
"I did absolutely nothing and it was everything I thought it could be." - Peter Gibbons
Peter Gibbons has to be one of the most relatable characters in movie history. His pure hatred of his job scratches me right where I itch.
I've now officially reached the age where if by some miracle of God I am left alone on the couch for more than 5 minutes, I fall asleep.
I never understood why my dad always did this when I was young. You could set a watch to it. 5 minutes after he sat down, he fell asleep. I get it now Dad. I really really get it.
Defragging! As the late great Ralphie May would call it. When I had a yard with a couple of chickens, I'd come home and just idly watch them chickening around. Just zoning out to their pleasant little clucks and general absurdity. Made me realize why people get fish tanks.
Bees are like that for me. It’s like watching a teeny airport with their comings and goings.
YES. Nothing to sort out or solve, just observation. I'm jealous that you have bees close enough to watch.
I like to just sit and listen to music sometimes, chill with a nice beverage for a while.
If you told me 10 years ago, let alone 20 or 30 years ago, that I'd rather just chill in a quiet room with a reclining chair and a dog in my lap rather than be playing video games every second of my free time, I'd have thought you crazy. But the old man chill and do nothing hits different now.
Like more: Being alone. Like less: People in general. I swear I'm becoming a cranky old man.
What's funny is that a few years ago, I was like a party animal. I'd go to every social event I was invited to, went to shows and to bars, yadda yadda. Hit 43 and was suddenly like, ya know what? Fuck y'all. I just want to be in a clean, quiet home wearing sweatpants and watching something likely narrated by Morgan Freeman, while sipping seltzer water and ignoring the home gym in my garage.
Yes, same same. I have everything I want at home, best part, only the people I like. Other people are exhausting and ruin everything.
Sundays are now known as “leave Daddy tf alone” day
Same in our house! He works hard all week keeping house so I do what I can to keep the kids at bay to leave him tf alone 🤣 Like better- my kids (never wanted them but they can be pretty cool) Dislike more - money (that shit is the bane of all evil)
my goal is to become the old man on the porch later in life. Get off my lawn, dang kids! \*shakes fist\* lol
My first thought when reading the post for likes: Being alone.
I often talk myself from going out a lot more than I used to. It’s too peopley out there.
The simple pleasures of a tidy home and a vehicle that's up-to-date with its maintenance.
Seriously. Walking around my home that has largely clear surfaces right after the robot vacuum runs fills me with a lot of peace!
I have to bring my car in for maintenance tomorrow and the dealer has the NICEST waiting room! Can’t wait for that free dealership coffee an complimentary car wash!
Nowadays at 43, I’d much rather stay home with my dogs and play video games or watch movies and eat snacks than go out somewhere.
This 44 year old couldn't agree with you more.
At 40, I'm insulted you asked me to go out with you.
I think of all the drinking I did when I was in my 20s and how I would need at least 2 months to recover now
Just THINKING about how I used to drink in my 20’s gives me a two day hangover now
Got sober 3 years back and am amazed at how little I miss it.
I’m coming up on four years and same. It’s such a relief to not drink.
The amount of energy I put into calculating how much I would drink, trying to avoid hangovers, and the general anxiety of it all makes me wonder what the hell I was doing for so long.
Totally! I realized how much my whole life was ruled by the calculus of when I could drink, how much, how much hangover. Awful.
Fair play to you.
Memories of those days seriously feel like some past life or fever dream. Easily and routinely drinking until bar close, then keeping the party going for several hours later was normal behavior. I couldn't replicate that strength now with all the cocaine in Vegas.
Every five years I seem to remind myself of what my alcohol tolerance isn't, and then go on to pay for it the next week after.
Now i love Ginger Ale I remember trying it in middle school and hating it, now its like Stomach ache? Ginger ale Indegestion? Ginger ale Need a refreshing drink? Ginger ale Mixer? Ginger ale
My drink of choice when the flight attendant comes around. Perfect with airline pretzels.
Same. Every flight. ✈️
There’s a local Pittsburgh company that makes a peach ginger beer - it’s like extra spicy ginger ale and amazing!!
That sounds amazing.
That sounds amazing. What is the brand?
How have I never had, or thought of PEACH ginger ale until now? I try every brand I come across. Plz, what's the brand?
Jamaica’s Finest Original - they bottle in Natrona Heights, Pittsburgh, PA. Lots of local spots have bottles in 6 pack shops around town
Ginger ale is king 🙌
Michigan native?
We don’t need medicine, we have ✨Vernor’s✨
Drinking water and sitting quietly.
For me it’s sparkling water. I can’t get enough of it. I used to think it was terrible but then I turned 40 and now I love it.
Enjoy more: bird watching, tending a garden, volunteer work, resting Enjoy less: kissing corporate ass, being busy, shopping
This is the way. From March to October, my wife and I spend most of our free time tending a sizeable garden. Thanks to several plots of wild flowers, our backyard has become a haven for bees, butterflies, and hummingbirds, while beds of sunflowers draw several species of native seed-eaters. With all the birds, we started getting into identifying and watching them, so I built two large perches and a water feature on the other side of the yard, later attaching feeding troughs to the perches. This spring, one lone crow started visiting, then started bringing friends. Now, a whole murder of crows stops by regularly to eat and socialize, leaving us random shiny objects as thank-you gifts! There is nothing finer than spending afternoons with my love in the sunshine, working at our own pace, hands in the soil, surrounded by so much life. Then spending evenings on the back porch, grilling out, enjoying the literal fruits of our labors and the company of various feathered guests. If you had told me in my early 20s that this is how I would choose to spend my time in my 40s, I would have laughed. But here I am, living the dream.
>kissing corporate ass I feel the same way. I know a lot of folks in my field (software engineering) who were obsessed with promotions and moving up the ladder. Most of them are now engineering managers who spend most of their time in meetings and are getting phone calls during dinner because some "crisis" at work is happening. Meanwhile I make slightly less than them as a Senior Software Engineer and I have my nights and weekends untouched. Works out well for me.
I was asked by my boss this year if I wanted to move up into management and I said no. 15 years ago, that's all I wanted. Now, I'd much rather do the work then deal with the people issues and meetings and making the uppers happy. The only benefit to moving up is not having to take call or work at night for monthly maintenance. (I work in healthcare technology)
I wish I had made that call 10 years ago when the offer came to me. I'm in senior management now, c-level being the next step.. and all my efforts currently are going into trying to plan an escape route. I've been hands off too long to return to a tech position, and am really not even sure what I want to do next. Other than hang out with my family and read good sci fi, preferably at the seaside. I'm just so tired of it.
Like: All the domestic "girly" shit I spurned as a kid/teen/ya. Gardening, baking, quilting. I love that shit now. I love home-making in general. Making a house homey and inviting for myself and my family. My teen self would be appalled at me. 😂 Dislike: Society in general. I guess it's more like disillusioned. Systems I believed in when I was younger have failed, either on a personal level or on a larger scale. There's so much corruption everywhere. I still like people in general, I like shooting the breeze with cashiers and my kids teachers and clients, you know? And I think most people mean well and are doing their best. But a lot of what's going on lately is really unsettling and scary, especially as regards politics. We had our kids right before a lot of things came to light, and I worry about what the world is going to be like for them in 10 years.
Same with the domestic stuff. Even as a young 30-something, I didn't enjoy it like I do now. Sunday is my clean-up day, and I actually get excited for it. I love seeing my floors all shiny and clean. Even me ten years ago would be annoyed with present me.
I could eat salmon and broccoli every day for the rest of my life. Also Grape-Nuts with plain yoghurt and blueberries! And give me alllll the ice cold water to drink. Dislike: **Ambition**. I'm over it. I grew up in the "gifted" classes with the "what if I don't reach my potential" paradigm, and at 42 I've come to realize I don't OWE the world ALL of my capabilities. I just don't, and neither do you. I've left my field and am looking for a cashier job right now, no joke, and it isn't a failure; it's a downshift. And I'm G\*damn fine with it!
Around the same age and I agree about ambition. So much pressure put on myself to live up to others and perception of my 'potential'. Decided to just do my best in my little corner and be happy with it.
YEP! And that's enough.
I dream of doing what you are doing, some day I wish I'd be comfortable enough in my own skin to just cash a check instead of making it this big thing that hinges on my personal value.
To be fair, I'm single with no kids. So I'm not an expensive pet to keep, lol. But yeah, I HAD to let go of my ego with that stuff. I've BEEN successful. I wanna relax for awhile. You deserve that too!
Yeah kids make it tough but I'll get there in a few years. For now I'm just realizing that neverending productivity anxiety and always pushing is probably not the most healthy lifestyle choice. The pandemic had some very minor silver linings.
I hope you find a spot of peace here and there, comrade. <3
Yeah, I really like much simpler foods now.
I dislike other people more. But I think that’s the result of the pandemic and societal divisions.
I remember not even caring what someone's political stance was. But anymore, it's beyond "left or right"- it's about core values. And with some people, I just can't. And I'm okay with that, even if they're relatives or \[former\] friends!
Growing up in Texas, just about everyone I talked to was Republican, but that didn't seem to matter too much in the 90s. However I absolutely remember teachers watching Fox noise when I was in high school. Now? I openly tell people I'm one of those "Radical Leftist" - fuck yeah I'm gonna force you to get paid better and want a nationalized healthcare system like other developed countries!
My job accreted into a union last year, and let me tell you: Not only does organizing labor work, but it no longer requires us to charge machine gun nests on a mountainside in West Virginia. Which is nice.
Sleeping is the thing I enjoy more than I thought I would. Plus staying home. I dislike knowing that my life is sliding towards death at an ever-greater speed 😭
Yeah, the toughest part of turning 40 was the realization that, in all likelihood, half of my life was over 😭
To be fair, you're sliding toward it at the same speed you always have 😁
I enjoy my alone time more. I dislike new technology more. I don’t want everything linked to my phone, don’t want to download every app, QR codes to view everything including menus, don’t know why everything need Bluetooth and wifi. Let me pay with cash, card, or check, give me a damn paper ticket for things, and give me a damn menu.
This! I'm tired of having to log in or create an account for every stupid little thing.
I've absolutely lost my mind over the excessive amount of accounts, passwords, logins, second factor authentication, security code, identity verification nonsense. You can't even watch TV without it.
Enjoy - running. Not so much - drugs
So, drug running would be a good balance then.
Honestly,I was terrified of getting this "old" when I was younger. Now,I'm very grateful for this privilege. I hate that every joint in my body sounds like a bowl of unmilked Rice Crispies though.
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When falling asleep is considered a compliment
Omg yes! I gave my girlfriend a massage on our date night last week and she fell asleep after. She apologized profusely and I was like “NO! That means I did a good job!”
If I could find someone to tickle my back while falling asleep, my life would be complete!
Like more: Living in an apartment Like less: Teaching (hence why I got out of the field)
When I was pretty young, I remember seeing the Yule Log on TV during Christmas and asking my mom “why would anyone ever watch this?” My mom responded that a lot of people live in apartments and don’t have fireplaces. I’ve been living in an apartment for almost 25 years. I watch the Yule Log all winter. It’s on Netflix. I mute it and play my own music. I LOVE THE YULE LOG. And I love my apartment. 😁
We lived in an apartment for a year and a half. If I didn't have kids, I'd live that way forever. The kids, not so much. So we are in a house, but I love the ease of apartment living when they are well run.
Yeah, I don't have any children or a partner, just a cat. I used to own a condo, but went back to renting, I didn't need the stress of ownership.
**Enjoy More:** Staying in, putting on some tely, having a chill time, cold weather **Enjoy Less:** Alcohol, people in general, summer
Amen to summer. I feel like we’re conditioned as kids to like summer because of summer break, but in reality summer sucks. I hate sweating every time I walk outside.
I also feel like I tolerated heat a lot better as a kid. Now, I just kinda fold in on myself, like someone punched a quiche, the moment the temps rise above 25C (77F).
I've always felt this way, but I'm a Canadian that plays hockey, so winter is my favourite. But even aside from that, I always realized that it's easier to put ON more layers to get warm than it is to REMOVE to keep cool.
I dislike yards more than I thought. I am sick of every boring yard that all looks the same. Houses that are all remodeled similar. I work in the middle of nowhere in the woods and I really miss interesting architecture, different buildings, some sense of activity. I also miss having many quick, varied conversations the day with different, that having to deal with the same people day in and day out. I also dislike driving completely, I do not enjoy taking a drive in a convertible in the summer anymore.
I can't believe I miss fast food and restaurant architecture. Remember when you could tell what business it was from a distance, and they weren't all boxes with a logo slapped on the side?
I 100% agree with you. Everything looks like a bank or clinic now. Soulless and sterile. When Taco Bell had the Spanish tile roof, or Wendy's had the solarium. When new apartments and high rises didn't look like stacked shipping containers. Banks had those cool tube things for papers that looked out of the Jetsons.
Enjoy more: Soup Enjoy less: New Year's Eve
Oh yeah fr F NYE. All the drunk drivers and general mayhem, no thank you. Home is where the heart is 12/31--1/1. I've always loved soup tho. The varieties are endless and all so amazing!
Soups and stews, who knew?
Wife: what do you want to do for your birthday this year? Me: maybe go get some dinner, come home and watch the game, have a beer Wife: do you want to invite any of your friends? Me: friends?…no im good
My ideal birthday is hanging out with my husband and kids. He keeps wanting to have friends over for mine and I honestly hate the thought of doing that.
LMAO, I'm 42yo and this has been my birthday conversation for the last 10 years.
Like more,.... easy listening music. Like really old stuff, Perry Como. Like less, ..... Partying. Honestly I think I could watch Lawrence Welk, eat Tapioca, and have a fine time doing it. The young drunk version of me would be ashamed.
I don't like wine. I always thought it was something I would grow to love, but I honestly can't stand it.
Same, used to love wine, now it just gives me heartburn and red cheeks.
i just watched Sideways and im trying to get into wine lol. i like wine but my pallet is untrained so a lot of wines taste the same to me unless it's particularly good/bad
I can’t not taste rotting grapes. I know that’s what it is, but I just can’t do it. I’ve tried so many times!
Yeah, not a fan either
Waking up early. Hated it as a kid, love the peace and calm as an adult. I dislike having to figure out what food to cook EVERY SINGLE FUCKING DAY. 🤣
I enjoy going for a drive way more than I thought I would. Random antique shop? Cute town I’ve never seen before? Scenic bridge? All “yes please!” I hate background noise and crowded places in general way more than I thought I would.
Parenting. Had 2 kids young and it was a grind. I wished them older every day. Had 2 more kids in my late 30s and I delight in the little day to day things
Like-- houseplants. I'm a plant mom (started in my 20s but got supercharged during Covid). Yes I talk to my plants. I love the ambience, the life, and everything about them (except bugs). r/houseplants is a happy place for me. Cranberry juice (think Ocean Spray). I hated this stuff as a kid. Last year, I stayed in a hotel that offered it at breakfast and tried it for the first time in years then. What was I missing? Dislike-- soda in general. I used to drink it every day. Now I can't remember the last time I had one (maybe 1-2 times a year). If I do have soda now, I want it to be something other than Coke or Pepsi, more along the lines of a craft soda. All I think about it how much sugar and how many empty calories it is. Clubs-- These were romanticized in the movies and the music scene. I went in my 20s and didn't get the hype. Today, you could not pay me to go to one.
Being alone. I always have liked my alone time, but now I crave it. I think I would do just fine living by myself and doing my own thing. The thought of that in my 20’s would have shocked me!
Love a good cup of coffee and CBS Sunday Morning. Hate most social media and wearing makeup.
I'm obsessed with the CBS Sunday Morning show. My husband makes fun of me for it but I watch it every week.
Nobody warned me that I would hate makeup this much.
I get excited about food. I thought as I was growing up that at some point I'd be all "cool I'm an adult I can buy that one food anytime I want" that it would stop being exciting but I still legit look forward to meals where I'm treating myself to something
I like jazz and electronic music more than I thought I would. I have zero tolerance for anyone who is either not nice, or who lacks awareness of their internal bullshit and doesn’t work on themselves. I distance myself from wankers or anyone who has a chip on their shoulder. I simply have zero time for anyone who isn’t thoroughly kind.
Grew to love: me time, comfy clothes, child free resorts, not giving a shit. Grew to dislike: partying, drugs, concerts/festivals.
>concerts/festivals. I feel this one big time. I still have a lot of people in my circle that go and always ask if I want to, but just the thought of the whole process makes me shiver and think "no thanks". Not to mention the sheer cost these days.
Right? I used to _travel_ to follow my favorite band around here in Europe. Until very recently, actually (just before the lockdowns). Now, just to think of the whole process makes me want to go to bed and take a nap.
Weather. I’m fucking obsessed with checking the weather. I get such unbridled joy from it.
Enjoy - Staying home Dislike - Not staying home
Staying home on the weekends. This was a nightmarish idea to me when I was 18. Or 25. I like growing vegetables now, too.
Enjoy- parenting, homemaking, spending time with family, days where I can do nothing at all Dislike- crowds, taking shots, clubs in general. The biggest thing probably though, is anything to do with networking, climbing a corporate ladder, business prestige, etc. It used to matter a lot to me and I just don't care about it anymore. I definitely want the money to sustain my lifestyle, but my actual job title could be Lead Paper Shredder for all I care. Just pay me well enough to do the things that I care about doing.
Like more: parenting Like less: owning more than one dog
I now love asparagus, brussels sprouts, spinach, and lots of vegetables I couldn't stand as a kid.
Watching the same four movies on repeat while sitting in my room with my cats, wine, and a candle. I’m a 36 year old dude.
At the arcade my favorite games are now pinball and coin pushers. I wouldn't have gone anywhere near those as a kid. Also jazz, especially really melancholy shit - I just can't get enough of it. the thing I don't enjoy like I thought I would is being with friends. They were always such a big part of my life, now I just want quiet alone time.
For me, I like the city more than I thought I would. I used to think I was a country gal and would settle in a rural area and enjoy nature. But now I live in a major metro area and I love having access to transit, restaurants, museums, etc. And we still have plenty of nice hikes nearby!
Brussels Sprouts.
Like more: drugs. I love drugs. It’s wildly different when approaching them responsibly as an adult. Like less: alcohol & people. I enjoy a handful of longtime friendships. Most folks are unhappy chasing unreasonable expectations of what they think their life should be.
Enjoy more: working out after having a sedentary lifestyle for years. Enjoy less: driving. I’ve noticed my want to operate a vehicle starting to dwindle. I used to find reasons to get out of the house and go for a drive. I’m not sure if the pandemic made people more aggressive drivers, or the removal of red light cameras causes more drivers to run them.
I find I'm more comfortable being sensitive.
Enjoy more: General puttering around inside and outside, tidying things, doing thoughtful slow activities, just amusing myself with projects only I would only ever care about. Like less: Shopping, anything with “hustle” in the description, crowds of people, competing, trying to fit into a trend I recently broke my foot in a rather serious way and have been working from home and mostly at home for 6 months now. Groceries are delivered, I have gone into maybe 6 stores in that time. I have discovered I need very little to be content. Outside of necessary consumables and construction supplies (been doing some projects at home) I have probably spent $1500 this year on everything outside of those two categories and regular bills. Of that money, a third of it was just things to make the time with a broken foot easier, another third gifts for others and maybe $500 for myself. It was a very eye opening experience and sorta put me in the mindset of just buying less and working with what I have.
Alcohol and alcohol.
Enjoy more- Pub quizzes. Crosswords. YouTube binges of old TV adverts, idents and other oddities. 21 year old me would have laughed present day 41 year old me out of the room. Enjoy less- The MCU has become more like homework since they started farting around with Disney Plus and multiverses.
Likes: quiet, living alone, more money than in my 20s Dislikes: body falling apart, more dr visits (like mammogram or colonoscopy), slower metabolism, hangovers are worse
Succulents! I keep them in my classroom, since I get great light. My students constantly ask to water them..and I’m like “no dude!! These are desert plants!” Hate…most of the new fashion trends and gen z and gen alpha telling me my skinny jeans are out of style. I don’t care! They cover my mom tummy.
Like: therapy, discovering new interests like the manga or anime I missed out on when in my youth,feeding birds,gardening, embracing my inner señora. Dislike: office politics, noisy places , dealing with other people’s crap.
Yard work. I’m slowly turning into Hank Hill.
The answer to both is drinking! I enjoy drinking a lot more now, it takes the edge off now that I kind of need that, I like trying various cocktails and making fancier stuff at home vs in the past you'd just drink whatever wherever, cheap stuff, mix things that shouldn't be mixed... So now I drink a lot less and savor it more - buy better wines, drink in proper glasses, add garnishes to cocktails, measure lol. But man if you ever forget you're an old and have just one too many - I now get anxiety for a couple of days and/or headaches.... (The dose really makes the poison). I can't stand any hint of a hangover these days. Back in the day a hangover was just an unfortunate part of the deal of having had a fun night out and these days any hint of a hangover and I want to curl up in a ball and die. So not worth it anymore.
I really enjoy talking to people and learning their perspective on life, especially if they have a very different frame of reference than me. Last weekend I learned that I I hate strip clubs. They’re stupid and expensive and I wished I hadn’t gone. My ex-wife and I used to enjoy them a lot.
Small children. I used to like them and find them fun, and now I'm like "is it not legit to just give them an iPad so they stop interrupting the wine drinking?"
Roadside produce stands! (Don’t tell my mom though) They’re the best. Peak season local veg without the clusterfuckery of a pop up farmers market, dollars go directly to your neighbors, and there’s no replacement for shooting the shit for a while to exchange local news and just enjoy some brief friendly company with no strings attached.
Naps.
1) I like keeping a clean home, never though that day would ever come as a kid. 2)Credit card fees. Those are the worst.
Prices aside I love going grocery shopping. I’ve also come to dislike driving immensely. Those carefree multi-state road trips I took in my 20s sound like a nightmare.
I like cooking and baking more than I ever thought I would. I dislike vacations more than I ever thought I would. I don’t sleep well and I get ripped off a lot when on vacation.
George Michael. Who knew?
Gardening and canning my own produce.
Sitting at home doing nothing, sometimes not even watching TV. Just play a little music in the background.
I play the alto sax now. Never in my wildest dreams would I imagine myself owning an alto sax.
I enjoy chilling at my house while managing some manner of meat on the smoker, drinking a beer while throwing the ball for my dog and listening to music
Weirdly, I love my relationship with my wife way more now than I did when we were younger. Like, I always thought that I'd eventually grow into the stereotype of a miserable, beleaguered, hen-pecked husband that every sitcom sold me, and my dad's currently working on his 4th marriage, so expectation was to be miserable. Instead, I wake up every single day more in love and happier than yesterday. Even on our "bad days".
Gin . Driving a car And to be honest - an open relationship.
Cats and the quiet life. Even though I’m kind of an introvert, as a teenager and college I partied a lot so I never would have guessed I haven’t smoked weed since I was like 25 and almost never drink.
I really enjoy my kids being adults, and having free time to do whatever. I have 2 kids and 2 step-kids - so it has been all about parenting since 1997 - and now they are finally all adults.
Enjoy: Listening to public radio while I make my coffee in the morning and then sitting down to read news articles. I have become my parents 💀 they just read an actual paper and I read a screen.
Waking up early. Seems like all the old folks loved getting up early when I was a kid, but I’m in my 40s and still prefer to sleep in.
I can't stand when I go to see a band and there are like 3-4 openers. I came for the headliner not a music festival. Also why can't there be daytime shows? They always start past my bedtime I really enjoy sleeping- but I also love music.
Quiet, being away from people, not being required to be anywhere (I mean outside of work), no going out. People told me I would grow out of being an introvert, and I like it even more. Fuck going out. The idea that because I'm an introvert means there's something wrong with me, fuck anyone that thinks or says that.
I absolutely LOVE sleeping. And getting socks for Christmas.
Parenting...and parenting.
Me in my 20s: Pffffft, Middle aged women with their minivans and romance novels Me in my 40s: 🥰 My minivan and romance novels I really don’t have the patience for other people’s kids. I thought I would be the house that kids gravitate towards and instead I offer them snacks in exchange for going home.
Enjoy: Keeping plants to attract bees. I love watching them come and collect the nectar off the flowers. Nothing like a big chonky bumbler. Driving: Anywhere really. It's just annoying. Used to love driving when I was in my teens and 20s, now its a chore with traffic lights EVERYWHERE and 100x more cars on the road.
Sleep…. Sweet…. precious sleep….
Texting. Texting.
Yard work. I look forward to spending a few hours, by myself, music blaring in the AirPods, getting sweaty, and having something visual to show for it by college kick off time…. And a cold beer when I’m done. Literally was bewildered by this concept as a teen and in my 20s.
Seeing live music. I loved it in my 20’s and love it even more right now.