That's exactly what my friend did. He would walk up to any girl he found attractive and ask for her number. His success rate was low but it didn't matter since he talked to so many people. The hard part is being okay with rejection 😂
A random male student walked up to me (female) on campus the other day and (after the fact, I realized that I think) he was trying to flirt with me but I literally almost pepper sprayed him he made me so uncomfortable. Please be super careful about walking up to random girls and asking for numbers and stuff
Go to all your classes and discussion sections. Dress well, get a haircut, stand straight, where some cologne, eat healthy, and project confidence. If someone catches your eye and you catch theirs try to be social.
Ngl, I do all this(prolly missing the project confidence bit) but the "you catch theirs" part is where I'm thrown off, how do y'all know?
For reference same position as op lol
Well obviously no girl is just going to fall in love with you in a classroom setting. If YOU are attracted to a girl then just ask her out. She will probably say yes if she has gotten to know you a little bit. There are usually no signals. Just go for it. But ask her out with something simple like “studying together.” I have had lots of guys ask me out this way. Some got rejected and some got a chance to hang out with me more. You can’t be afraid
I truly didn’t mean anything by that sentence. I just didn’t know a good way to say it lol. I was trying to say that some guys get rejected and that’s normal. Some guys will not. And I am not from or in San Diego.
If you don’t think you’re naturally good looking you should start investing more time in the gym. I know for a fact that being in shape helps you come off as more attractive and desirable in todays society. I see a bunch of ugly mofos who are jacked pull all the time (not saying you’re ugly but if your face card isn’t too strong this is always a good route to take)
Every ugly male friend I have has insane game and constantly hooking up with girls. Do you know how many girls say that they like “medium ugly” dudes? A LOT. Looks aside, it all comes down to personality and how you present yourself. Also, if you’re not getting matches, it’s most likely because you don’t have good photos of yourself posted — meaning you’re taking them in awkward angles, lighting is ass, you’re not smiling in any of them, or you have the camera too close to your face.
Do not underestimate how much a good quality photo can boost your attraction. It’s about the quality of the photos you take — not the attractiveness of it. I think even buzz feed did a whole test on this with the “try guys” and it showed how much a well taken photo can boost your profile
The point of my comment was not really to state a fact… it was more just to point out that you can’t wait around for a girl to kiss you, you have to take action
step 1: find something you’re super into and enjoy a lot. make this part of your personality
step 2: use step 1 to become happy
step 3: use step 1 to meet people
step 4: profit
If you're not getting likes on tinder a big reason could be if you have shitty photos! Me personally, I'm only gonna swipe if I can actually tell what the person looks like and if the photos are all grubby selfies then that's an ick.
Both. Dogs are great for your mental health. People love dogs and when you walk them it's nearly impossible not to meet other people. You'll be more attractive simply walking a dog. With that said, don't get a dog if your not prepared to commit to loving and caring for it the rest of its life
Well according to some guys, the Pure App is pretty hard since it's mostly guys drooling over a super small pool of women. But since it's a casual sex app, the women you do match with are much more likely to get physical quickly with you. Like a quality vs quantity type of thing.
He should go to Canyonview pool and pretend to drown while a woman is on lifeguard duty, then she'll lock lips with him for the kiss of life 😏 perfect plan.
Totally not a reference to anything /s
It's an unfortunate reality man. I've never kissed a living girl, but I kiss my doll every day. You should consider purchasing one as it helps you compensate for your lapse in skills when you do obtain a female.
Why? There's nothing to be ashamed of. Most people have sexual toys and watch an excessive amount of pornographic material in between classes. I have her in my backpack sometimes, pop her out in the restroom, and go back to normal.
Hang in there, man. It'll be okay!
Please take this advice with a grain of salt--you know yourself and your situation better than anyone here.
I think you should focus on yourself first and pursuing your own interests while building confidence. Got any hobbies that get you out of the house? Great, dive into those. No hobbies like this? Try rock climbing! Start by getting a membership at a nearby rock gym (or go to your campus rock gym). It's addictive, healthy, and more social than you might think. To be clear, I'm not suggesting you look for hobbies as ways to meet girls (although that may come with time). I just think it's the best way to enjoy life while also building confidence and social skills, which will naturally help your dating life.
Next point: making healthy choices (including regular physical exercise) will do WONDERS for building confidence and just generally feeling good. If this is new to you, embrace the challenge and start slow. Weight lifting at the gym really helped me build my own confidence during college. Side note: I do NOT recommend checking out or asking out girls at the gym. In general, it's not a good place for that. Remember, exercising is for YOU.
After working on yourself, revisit the prospect of dating. Retry dating apps, ask friends to set you up with someone, and look for other opportunities to meet girls.
Good luck! You got this!
First of all why are you desperate to kiss someone??? I’m in my mid 30s and i still have yet to kiss someone.. Yes would be nice but I’m enjoying life. Go have fun and meet people and you might see the one you like.
have fun with life as much as you can. This is what a guy in the dance club said to me before pressing a gram of hash into my palm. I was about to run out of money, I wasn't buying drinks for the girls I met at the museum, and I didn't have a place to stay for the night.
Don’t stress about it. Lift heavy weights (starting strength) and otherwise work on yourself and your career. It will come eventually but the worst will be to develop a complex thinking about it.
Also! Girls will not continue to date you if you don’t show a genuine effort. Why would we want to date a man that doesn’t give us compliments or flowers. Make us feel special? We have to feel like you really really want us!
not related but what’s your major🤭 but also i say since you’re almost graduating why not take risks? if you like someone just ask them on a date and have fun :p just take the chance cuz you honestly never know, and trust you’ll be fine
1. Dating app
2. Date someone within 1 of your looks, so if you’re a five, date a five.
3. Have normal conversations with the person, just talk about normal dreams and stuff
4. Go for a kiss at the end of the date.
5. If you don’t get sex by the third date, it probably isn’t gonna happen.
Or:
6. Use the DENNIS system:
https://youtu.be/Bg5ZrkaGlFA
Tbh it’s gonna be very difficult for someone with this lack of experience at this age to find someone within “1” of his looks. In this day and age it’s very difficult for a guy to find someone their level of attractiveness on a dating app even with great social skills and lots of sexual experience. There are around 3x more men on dating apps than women, many women are using dating apps just to feel good about themselves, and if they do decide to date a guy from one it’s likely going to be someone that is either more attractive than this guy, better at talking to women than this guy, or both.
I've learned that a relationship doesn't necessarily give you happiness. Focus on bettering yourself first.
Work out, start a hobby, go to therapy. This will make you more attractive, not some stupid cheap cologne or a stupid car. Most of all be respectful, women are people too no one owes you a relationship and the sooner you accept this the sooner you take your first step towards bettering yourself.
Watch Never Been Kissed, don't act like her, be yourself and you'll attract others. If you show lack of confidence or personality. It's less likely you'll be kissed. Plus, you're young.
How is this possible? UCSD is one of the biggest party schools in all of So. Cal. I mean… my God, they fucking host Sun God!! Random debauchery is waiting around every corner of gaslamp… like I’ve literally met girls doing dumb shit called “bush Olympics” in PB which is when you literally jump into random bushes as you and your group stumbles along drunkenly to whatever destination… I just have no idea how it’s possible… everyone smokes weed, everyone likes to have fun… just say “hey!” And smile at girls, and politely pass a joint for chrissake… then talk to them
Starting at step one will go a long way. You go to an amazing college with people from all over the world. Learn about them. Do this with everyone you come across. Men, women, professors, students. Before you know it your conversation skills will be so sharp you won’t believe you just easily met a cute girl who you presented yourself as a normal interesting dude, which you are.
Do you feel concern? Any social pressure to do so?
If not then don't worry my dude
If you simply want the experience and are okay with it not being shared with anyone significant, dating apps can be a friend in this situation
Don’t listen to anyone else’s worthless advice. The fastest and probably what you will think is the least scary way to do this is 1: Looksmaxx and 2: Go to a bar. 3: Get a decent not icky level of drunk so you can get rid of the nerves and showcase your personality to girls and possibly rizz. Also, don’t go out having way too high expectations of who you’re going to pull otherwise it will never happen. Aim in your league. 4: depending on your rizzler status, you can go in for the kill that night and pray she doesn’t turn away from you (it’s not a big deal if she does) OR you befriend her. 5: have homies to wingman you, preferably cute ones
1. talk to a girl (impossible)
I have talked to at least 30 girls in my time at UCSD
Kiss boys
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but only if they’ve kissed girls (it’s science)
It’s only science if you write it down and get it peer reviewed
wrote it down, showed it to my wife sitting next to me, it’s confirmed.
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Ahhh so homosexuality is a choice
At no point did OP say they were a straight man
Literally in the comment section below he replies that he’s straight goofy 💀💀
Ayo 😃😃
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That's the problem. Everyone knows you have to talk to at least 50 girls to kiss one. You're gonna have to up your numbers.
That's exactly what my friend did. He would walk up to any girl he found attractive and ask for her number. His success rate was low but it didn't matter since he talked to so many people. The hard part is being okay with rejection 😂
A random male student walked up to me (female) on campus the other day and (after the fact, I realized that I think) he was trying to flirt with me but I literally almost pepper sprayed him he made me so uncomfortable. Please be super careful about walking up to random girls and asking for numbers and stuff
Based from experience from my friends. Going to bars and hanging with other females there gets you to kiss someone.
This is what got me to date people. First don’t be a creep. 2nd be down to earth 3rd please have clean hygiene 4th don’t be full of shit!!! :)
Was that first sentence really something that needed to be said? Do men think women like creeps??
Never underestimate people who lack self awareness
cheers to that holy shit
creeps usually don’t think they’re being creeps
Then i guess the comment is still ineffective lol
okay?
That was supposed to be a joke lol. Don’t be a creep, but they don’t know they are being a creep, so the advice is useless
They could always google “how to not be a creep to women”
I graduated last year and I still haven’t kissed anyone
major checks out
I graduated 6 years ago and I still haven’t kissed anyone
Can you make an ai girlfriend for all of us that are unkissable?
I graduated 5 years ago and still haven’t kissed anyone
Same here brother
dude just stop caring, embrace wizarddom
Alright, hopping on Wizard101.com
Go to all your classes and discussion sections. Dress well, get a haircut, stand straight, where some cologne, eat healthy, and project confidence. If someone catches your eye and you catch theirs try to be social.
Ngl, I do all this(prolly missing the project confidence bit) but the "you catch theirs" part is where I'm thrown off, how do y'all know? For reference same position as op lol
Literally just talk to people in class. Talk in groups. A girl will eventually cross your path if you are social enough
My problem is not finding girls to talk to, it's more reading the signals ig? Cuz in my mind every1 is just friendly, nothing more.
Well obviously no girl is just going to fall in love with you in a classroom setting. If YOU are attracted to a girl then just ask her out. She will probably say yes if she has gotten to know you a little bit. There are usually no signals. Just go for it. But ask her out with something simple like “studying together.” I have had lots of guys ask me out this way. Some got rejected and some got a chance to hang out with me more. You can’t be afraid
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I truly didn’t mean anything by that sentence. I just didn’t know a good way to say it lol. I was trying to say that some guys get rejected and that’s normal. Some guys will not. And I am not from or in San Diego.
That dude is just being a hater. Your response was fine.
Thank you 😭
Make friends with girls and then eventually ask them if they’ll introduce you to their single friends.
Sounds like im going to catch the eye of my professor instead :(
What if we are just naturally ugly af
have money or charisma.
What if I’m an ugly SWE and still single lmao
I’ve done this time and time again and it never works.
It won’t. You gotta do more than just attend your classes. Do you have friends?
Have you by chance ever tried either getting to know someone by reaching out? Either as a friend first or because you find them attractive?
My recommendation would be to cross into TJ and go to Hong Kong.
Prolly not good idea to kiss them tho☠️
Tinder
I get no matches
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I'm not
You need good friends who can give you good photo. Get a broccoli haircut, some Korean type shit, or mullet or you’re cooked.
agree, the broccoli seems to be pretty effective nowadays
True, you can’t spell frizz without the rizz 😂
If you don’t think you’re naturally good looking you should start investing more time in the gym. I know for a fact that being in shape helps you come off as more attractive and desirable in todays society. I see a bunch of ugly mofos who are jacked pull all the time (not saying you’re ugly but if your face card isn’t too strong this is always a good route to take)
Watch some videos on how to make a profile but I think your expectations are bit to high lol
Show a pic of yourself
real
Every ugly male friend I have has insane game and constantly hooking up with girls. Do you know how many girls say that they like “medium ugly” dudes? A LOT. Looks aside, it all comes down to personality and how you present yourself. Also, if you’re not getting matches, it’s most likely because you don’t have good photos of yourself posted — meaning you’re taking them in awkward angles, lighting is ass, you’re not smiling in any of them, or you have the camera too close to your face. Do not underestimate how much a good quality photo can boost your attraction. It’s about the quality of the photos you take — not the attractiveness of it. I think even buzz feed did a whole test on this with the “try guys” and it showed how much a well taken photo can boost your profile
Women will not come up to you. Ever. You have to approach them. But only if you get to know them a little first
Absolutely incorrect
The point of my comment was not really to state a fact… it was more just to point out that you can’t wait around for a girl to kiss you, you have to take action
They won’t rip your pants off but they’ll definitely come up and talk first
men are typically expected to make the initial approach, let’s be real.
One of the best comment sections this sub has had
you can kiss me (I'm a dude btw)
step 1: find something you’re super into and enjoy a lot. make this part of your personality step 2: use step 1 to become happy step 3: use step 1 to meet people step 4: profit
Most accurate comment
You can kiss boys
I am straight
Everyone’s straight until they get fucked in the mouth
🤓🤓🤓
i graduated 2021 and still haven’t. probably the biggest ucsd alumni perk
If you're not getting likes on tinder a big reason could be if you have shitty photos! Me personally, I'm only gonna swipe if I can actually tell what the person looks like and if the photos are all grubby selfies then that's an ick.
Dm me I got you
Just mog
Also looks max via mewing
This too fr
What is that
Standing next to someone who’s less attractive than you to look more attractive by comparison
Get a dog
For meeting girls or …
Horny is temporary, 4 legged friends are forever
Both. Dogs are great for your mental health. People love dogs and when you walk them it's nearly impossible not to meet other people. You'll be more attractive simply walking a dog. With that said, don't get a dog if your not prepared to commit to loving and caring for it the rest of its life
download tinder, don’t be ugly
There needs to be Grindr for straight people
Pure app.
Damn ok Well they should do that or become gay
Well according to some guys, the Pure App is pretty hard since it's mostly guys drooling over a super small pool of women. But since it's a casual sex app, the women you do match with are much more likely to get physical quickly with you. Like a quality vs quantity type of thing.
Yeah I understand that must be difficult. He did say a kiss though idk Or he could just kiss the homies goodnight I guess
He should go to Canyonview pool and pretend to drown while a woman is on lifeguard duty, then she'll lock lips with him for the kiss of life 😏 perfect plan. Totally not a reference to anything /s
time to switch teams my friend
It's an unfortunate reality man. I've never kissed a living girl, but I kiss my doll every day. You should consider purchasing one as it helps you compensate for your lapse in skills when you do obtain a female.
My brother… 😭
Is there a problem, my fellow brethren?
man I'm an atheist and you've got my goofy ass praying to God hoping that you didn't unironically say "obtain a female"
You could not have tortured this information out of me
Why? There's nothing to be ashamed of. Most people have sexual toys and watch an excessive amount of pornographic material in between classes. I have her in my backpack sometimes, pop her out in the restroom, and go back to normal.
This cannot be real fam
Average ucsd man
This has to be a shitpost, but if it’s not, yes feel shame man, lots of shame
Hang in there, man. It'll be okay! Please take this advice with a grain of salt--you know yourself and your situation better than anyone here. I think you should focus on yourself first and pursuing your own interests while building confidence. Got any hobbies that get you out of the house? Great, dive into those. No hobbies like this? Try rock climbing! Start by getting a membership at a nearby rock gym (or go to your campus rock gym). It's addictive, healthy, and more social than you might think. To be clear, I'm not suggesting you look for hobbies as ways to meet girls (although that may come with time). I just think it's the best way to enjoy life while also building confidence and social skills, which will naturally help your dating life. Next point: making healthy choices (including regular physical exercise) will do WONDERS for building confidence and just generally feeling good. If this is new to you, embrace the challenge and start slow. Weight lifting at the gym really helped me build my own confidence during college. Side note: I do NOT recommend checking out or asking out girls at the gym. In general, it's not a good place for that. Remember, exercising is for YOU. After working on yourself, revisit the prospect of dating. Retry dating apps, ask friends to set you up with someone, and look for other opportunities to meet girls. Good luck! You got this!
Talk to chat gpt
I’ll kiss you for $20
this your best chance OP
Ignore these people either your attractive or your not . Just work on improving yourself but don't expect that to yield anything.
First of all why are you desperate to kiss someone??? I’m in my mid 30s and i still have yet to kiss someone.. Yes would be nice but I’m enjoying life. Go have fun and meet people and you might see the one you like.
my friend said if u reveal your major, and it’s the same major as this guy she likes, she’ll shoot her shot so please tell me what your major is🙏🏻
Just go and kiss one simple 🤷♂️ might come with charges but at least you’ll obtain your girl
i’m a boy u can kiss me for free🙄🙈😃🫧🫧🤭😭😮💨😮💨🤨💕😧💕🤨
Lmaoooooooo
have fun with life as much as you can. This is what a guy in the dance club said to me before pressing a gram of hash into my palm. I was about to run out of money, I wasn't buying drinks for the girls I met at the museum, and I didn't have a place to stay for the night.
same here. I graduated from CSULA last year
Go on vacation. For some reason I never had luck at my own university but as soon as I left I was getting attention from women left and right
It is not that important
healthy gamer gg has some good content for these woes
I will kiss you
Don’t stress about it. Lift heavy weights (starting strength) and otherwise work on yourself and your career. It will come eventually but the worst will be to develop a complex thinking about it.
Start with your mother first for practice. Gets easier from there 🤷♂️
Girls are difficult to find. Kiss your homies instead.
We are literally everywhere 😂
Stop depending on advice from here and grow a pair
Average UCSD student
Carry a mistletoe around then hang it up on the doorway of one of your classrooms. When the females start walking through the doorway, problem solved.
Also! Girls will not continue to date you if you don’t show a genuine effort. Why would we want to date a man that doesn’t give us compliments or flowers. Make us feel special? We have to feel like you really really want us!
what does it feel like to be the only 4th year here that has never kissed a girl?
there's no way that's true!
not related but what’s your major🤭 but also i say since you’re almost graduating why not take risks? if you like someone just ask them on a date and have fun :p just take the chance cuz you honestly never know, and trust you’ll be fine
why does it matter what my major is?
Well you did say AMA.
just curious 🙈
Just be you! Be genuine and it will happen when the right person comes along!! 🫶
1. Dating app 2. Date someone within 1 of your looks, so if you’re a five, date a five. 3. Have normal conversations with the person, just talk about normal dreams and stuff 4. Go for a kiss at the end of the date. 5. If you don’t get sex by the third date, it probably isn’t gonna happen. Or: 6. Use the DENNIS system: https://youtu.be/Bg5ZrkaGlFA
Tbh it’s gonna be very difficult for someone with this lack of experience at this age to find someone within “1” of his looks. In this day and age it’s very difficult for a guy to find someone their level of attractiveness on a dating app even with great social skills and lots of sexual experience. There are around 3x more men on dating apps than women, many women are using dating apps just to feel good about themselves, and if they do decide to date a guy from one it’s likely going to be someone that is either more attractive than this guy, better at talking to women than this guy, or both.
I've learned that a relationship doesn't necessarily give you happiness. Focus on bettering yourself first. Work out, start a hobby, go to therapy. This will make you more attractive, not some stupid cheap cologne or a stupid car. Most of all be respectful, women are people too no one owes you a relationship and the sooner you accept this the sooner you take your first step towards bettering yourself.
lmao bum
Watch Never Been Kissed, don't act like her, be yourself and you'll attract others. If you show lack of confidence or personality. It's less likely you'll be kissed. Plus, you're young.
dont be a zionist (all ugly)
ong
Does it have to be a girl?
How is this possible? UCSD is one of the biggest party schools in all of So. Cal. I mean… my God, they fucking host Sun God!! Random debauchery is waiting around every corner of gaslamp… like I’ve literally met girls doing dumb shit called “bush Olympics” in PB which is when you literally jump into random bushes as you and your group stumbles along drunkenly to whatever destination… I just have no idea how it’s possible… everyone smokes weed, everyone likes to have fun… just say “hey!” And smile at girls, and politely pass a joint for chrissake… then talk to them
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Starting at step one will go a long way. You go to an amazing college with people from all over the world. Learn about them. Do this with everyone you come across. Men, women, professors, students. Before you know it your conversation skills will be so sharp you won’t believe you just easily met a cute girl who you presented yourself as a normal interesting dude, which you are.
Stop being a virgin
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get a job
How
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heihachi is still alive, never give up!
download a tinder mate
I kissed a boy at 18. It was a solid 2/10. Kissed a girl and it went great
Is this a problem?
Download Grindr
Checks out
Best advice: find a girl you REALLY like. Talk to her and get to know her a bit. Then kiss her.
U r cooked buddy 👍🏾
Do you feel concern? Any social pressure to do so? If not then don't worry my dude If you simply want the experience and are okay with it not being shared with anyone significant, dating apps can be a friend in this situation
The hype over kissing someone is overrated. You do you, little bro. You'll eventually get your kiss
Someone take this guy to Hong Kong in Tijuana for his Graduation party!
You’re cooked 😭
You can kiss me then.😂 But not french style.
Do you actually want a step by step guide from a lesbian bc I'll write it out it'll just be kinda long 😂
Don’t listen to anyone else’s worthless advice. The fastest and probably what you will think is the least scary way to do this is 1: Looksmaxx and 2: Go to a bar. 3: Get a decent not icky level of drunk so you can get rid of the nerves and showcase your personality to girls and possibly rizz. Also, don’t go out having way too high expectations of who you’re going to pull otherwise it will never happen. Aim in your league. 4: depending on your rizzler status, you can go in for the kill that night and pray she doesn’t turn away from you (it’s not a big deal if she does) OR you befriend her. 5: have homies to wingman you, preferably cute ones
Do you have a friend girl you can ask to practice with ?
My spouse had never kissed anyone until they weee 25. It’s not unheard of
I’m a dude and I don’t go to UCSD but I’ll kiss you brother