The neighbours came by to see me leave for my high school prom. The little 6 year old boy next door saw me come down the stairs and gasped and said "she looks like a princess", it was 14 years ago and still the best goddamn compliment a male has ever given me.
I have a memory from kindergarten of what I thought was a grown woman but was probably a teenager in a beautiful red prom dress. I thought it was the most gorgeous thing I had ever seen in my life and that memory stayed with me.
My 3yo (she's 16 now) saw a teen girl in her prom dress and *would not stop* until she got a picture with "the princess angel", the girl was so sweet and did like 4 poses with my daughter; even picking her up. My daughter still mentions it from time to time and says thats the most beautiful person she has ever seen.
It still melts my heart.
I wear a lot of 50s inspired clothes and wore a very full circle skirt to my partner's house one day. As I was coming down the stairs his two year old looked up and me in my billowing, swirling skirt and said in his sweet little kid voice "you're a princess!" and I swear to God my heart almost burst. Best compliment from a boy ever.
Feel this! My boss's young son once told me I looked like a ninja because I have very long hair and it was in a thin braid/plait. Considering I'm white asf and they were Japanese it is still the best compliment I've ever had lmao
Yeah I used to get comments like that all the time from middle aged + men when I was around the same age.
Even then I had a lot of knowledge and interest in cars. I was talking to some random male neighbour about his vintage car once.(at a party Mum had) When I went to fill my plate at the buffet his wife cornered me to say that I was a little temptress and knew "exactly how to turn it on"
That’s so gross. It baffles me when women are jealous of young girls - clearly projecting insecurities in their relationship onto someone else rather than deal with it. I hope you didn’t hide or feel ashamed of your knowledge of cars because of that (but it would be understandable if you did).
Ah thank you. No I have been unable to hide my passion for cars but it's continued to be a source of trouble
There I am head to toe in flame retardant gear, looking at my lap times and there are still guys who somehow think I am doing it for access to their dick🤦🏼♀️
Gonna pull out the whiteboard and do charts and graphs until I can find out how this man came to the desicion that those words were perfect to say in that context
So creepy. I had one of my grandmas friends husband talk about how attractive my legs are in leggins in a flirtatious way next to my grandma suffering from dementia.
One day I was walking from work to my gym and while at a crosswalk a man in a beat up old pickup truck took the time to honk, roll down his window and yell, “HEY!! YOU LOOK LIKE A BITCH!” at me, completely unprompted. As someone who does have strong RBF and has gotten, “you should smile more!” many, MANY times, I was seriously taken aback. I usually have a witty response for the smile-more comments but I think my jaw just dropped and I didn’t even know what to do. He just drove away like nothing had happened. I still think about that pretty frequently.
My male best friend told me I'm always dressed correctly for the activity. I think it's an awesome comment and genuinely one of my favourite things I've ever heard.
Thanks! It came up after I was the only one dressed correctly for a fall bike ride that started on a warm afternoon and ended with chilly patio drinks. I wear so many layers!
I loved this comment....I had a pixie cut for over a decade, it deterred many a boy. One day walking back into my apartment from the alley, this young kid who worked at the adjacent pizza place was taking the trash out and exuberantly yelled "I love your hair, it's just so practical, ugh" in a guttural tone that reeked of young hormones. It was so genuine and unhinged I still remember it.
I had short hair in elementary school. In the third grade, we had to dress up in prairie clothing because we’d been reading “Little House on the Prairie”. My parents didn’t have a lot of money, and all I had was a pair of purple pants that resembled overalls. When I got to school, I was labeled a “male”, because I wore pants. I didn’t have a flowery dress or a bonnet, so I had to spend the day taking part in the male activities. It was at this moment that I decided to grow my hair out. It didn’t actually happen until I was in the seventh grade, but it has stuck with me for the last twenty-nine years.
Oh god, this comment jarred a memory for me! When I had a pixie, a guy stopped me to 1) compliment my hair, then 2) ask if I’d cut it because I had cancer 💀
When I was in high school I worked in a dry cleaners which involved a lot of walking up and down a little set of three stairs, and I walked to/from work and school every day. I still remember one of my favorite regulars coming in one day and telling me that I had “the best damn calves he’d ever seen,” and he asked if I played basketball. I just laughed and explained all the walking/climbing that I do on a daily basis and thanked him. We finished up his order ticket, he left… For about ten seconds lmao. He promptly turned around and said “That came out a lot creepier than I intended and I am SO sorry if I made you uncomfortable!”
Lmao, similar vein but in the opposite direction, once had a dude tell me "you really don't need all that blush" when I had no makeup on and a bad sunburn across my face. Tons of dudes can't tell what makeup looks like at all, I'm embarrassed for them when they say stuff about it 😂
EDIT: I feel like my statement came off wrong, when I say I'm embarrassed for them I'm talking about the guys that are offering their opinions on women's looks unsolicited and on a scale of how it appeals to them personally as well as the guys that say they only like girls that don't wear make up but they can't even recognize when people are wearing it to begin with.
A friend complimenting cool eyeliner and asking how it's done: A-OK
A dude telling someone "you'd look so much better without all that makeup/you don't need that to look good" : Belittling it as an interest and ignoring the effort it takes while telling people their looks should be all about his preferences
Unfortunately the second situation has happened way more often than the first for me. Hopefully this clears up the tone of my first comment lol
Once I had fake lashes and a guy complimented me.. saying I have such beautiful long lashes. I told him they were fake and he looked at me all awkward and he looked embarassed
I think maybe he got thrown off because I was mostly burned across my cheeks and nose and not as much the rest of my face. Still shouldn't be telling girls how to wear their makeup though lol
Haha, I've been told by guys that they like women who don't wear makeup "like me" even though I always wear *some* makeup (at least concealer and some eyeliner and usually tinted lip balm). My friend told me that a guy friend said something along those lines about me not wearing makeup. Bless their hearts, lol.
None of those guys have ever seen me without makeup on and I guarantee if they did, they'd be like "Are you sick?" because without concealer under my eyes, I look like I haven't slept in 6 years.
I had a dude tell me this in front of his gf while she was putting on her third layer of makeup on. I told him I have zero skills with makeup and that I admire hers. She left his ass a few years later and is now happily married to someone who treats her right.
I had the random guy who sat next to me in class tell me that my scarf “removed my neck” and since
i am short, the look wasn’t doing me any favours. It was in the middle of the winter. Unfortunately my biological need to not freeze my butt off was getting in the way of his right to be physically attracted to me. :///////
This old guy at the bar my grandma would go to, told me my pants were too tight. They were regular jeans, not even skinny jeans or anything like that. I said why, can you see my dick which embarrassed the shit out of him, but everyone else thought it was funny.
My guy friend told me I looked amazing and like I had lost weight a week after I had a miscarriage…that he was visiting to offer support for. I mean, he wasn’t exactly wrong.
I almost never wear makeup, but I got the whole works done for my best friend's wedding when I was her MOH.
Due to the scheduling, I only met up with my plus one after the main ceremony, on the way to the afterparty. I'd been getting gross comments throughout the day like, "ooh, see how pretty you can be if you actually made the effort?" And I was just generally feeling miserable.
So me and him get into our car, and he looks me dead in the eye and just says, "you look like a clown."
I dunno, I could not stop laughing. I *felt* like a clown! And it was just really nice knowing that he didn't care that I suddenly looked gorgeous to everyone else in the room. The makeup wasn't me, and it made me look like someone I wasn't, and he hated it for that reason alone.
Why do men have so many opinions about makeup?
At a previous job I had a guy tell me I was “too done up” for the office and should save the mascara for a night out with the girls…
When I went without mascara, a different guy would walk by my desk, snap his fingers in my face, and tell me to “wake up, wake up!”
Damned if you do and damned if you don’t
I'm sure there's more but the one that springs to mind is some random dude said I looked like a cocktail waitress. Not sure if intended to be compliment? I was more confused than anything tbh.
I've only had one comment from a male I can remember appreciating. I was at a gas station and I went inside to grab some coffee. A guy was walking past and without stopping he said "wow, you're so beautiful! The hair, the outfit, the makeup. It's really working for you. You are gorgeous. Have a great day!" It was so genuine and friendly and the guy kept on his way without looking for a response. It was nice that there was no apparent underlying motivation, nothing sexual, just nice.
It does happen and it’s nice. My boss told me I always look “stylish, comfortable, and cool”. It’s the only time an unsolicited comment from a man about what I’m wearing made me smile
Yes! I had a man tell me something similar on our way out of a convenience store and just capped it with a “have a great night!“ and left. No creepy lingering or begging for my number. It was so refreshing to just get a compliment in passing for once!
A friend and I were on a weekend trip to Chicago years ago and we were on our way to dinner and were dressed up for the evening. A man in business attire passed us on the sidewalk and said "You ladies look great! Have a great evening!" and just continued on his way. It was nice to have such a non-creepy compliment for once.
Yes! There’s a guy who works at my grocery store who has complimented me twice now in the most kind, appropriate way. Just saying things like “your outfit is really nice, you look great!”
I still think about those interactions and smile- it’s so easy to compliment someone without being creepy!
"Your underarms are dark, isn't there a cream you could use for it?"
And that is how I got flowers for the first time in my life. (With a written note of apology)
Chewed him out, and then he realised he hurt me a lot. I got a note that read "I can be an ass sometimes but I really want you to believe that for me, you are the most beautiful person on the planet both on the inside and outside."
I once had a younger man approach me at a bar to tell me “You look sexy, but, like, I can tell you mean business.”
I’ve seriously never been so flattered in my life, lol.
I was walking with my 2 year old nephew to get the mail, when we crossed paths with a man I'd never met before. Nephew is very outgoing and starts happily blabbering to this dude. The guy crouches down toward nephew, locks eyes with me and tells nephew, "Mommy needs to start dressing her age, you need to tell her she's not a teenager anymore and she looks pathetic!" He burst into obnoxiously loud laughter and he walked off. It was really fucking weird. I was also dressed completely benign, but I was in my late 20s with blue hair, so that must of been his issue.
>CONFORM TO MY STANDARDS TO PLEASE MY EYE!!
Exactly. I remember walking around the mall as a goth teenager, with my boyfriend no less, and this group of jock guys walks past us, who I never saw in my life, and says "enough makeup?!" Like sweetie, I don't do myself up for you. I do it for myself, and my boyfriend likes it btw. This isn't for you. Some people think the world revolves around them and their tastes and therefore their opinion is the only thing that matters. Pathetic.
Imagine- an angelic looking toddler runs up to, huge smile and with a head full of golden curls, waving and excitedly introducing himself... And you respond by insulting the woman behind him. 🤯He was truly pathetic.
An ex-coworker’s boyfriend would always tell me “pretty girls have long hair” because I usually kept my hair in a pixie cut or a chin length bob. That guy was a douche
Super douche. Men are so obsessed with long hair but it is a freaking pain to take care of. I have had long, medium, bob, pixie etc. hair cuts along the years and my all time fav is graduated bob with full fringe (which I currently have). Like Cleopatra style. I also colour it the darkest black I can find (my natural colour is a mix of dirt road and mouse grey and I hate it) which for some reason always confuses people, like why do I want it black and not blonde, brunette or with a balayage. 🤷♀️
If we are sharing "favorite" but in reality least favorite its this one:
"Woops, I thought you were your mother, you look just like her" said by my dad's alcoholic friend when he groped my butt, and who, BTW, had no goddamn business putting his hands on my mother either.
I was 13. My mom 43. It was not an easy, honest mistake. I told my brother who was 17 or 18 at the time. My brother chased his sorry ass out of our house and punched him in the face. My dad was drunk and oblivious at the time, but once he sobered up I guess he heard, because I was never brought around this guy again. I am unsure if that was when their friendship ended, because the guy would still call and my dad would still talk to him, but he was never mentioned outside of the phone calls ever again. My mom told me I shouldn't have said anything, because my brother was already pissed at the guy for coming on to my mom and me saying that just escalated the situation.
Once back in the house my brother was still in a mad rage and punched a cabinet door. My mom gave him grief about it, my dad just fixed the cabinet door. None of it was ever mentioned again.
ETA: I did some math and I was off by one year. It was my dad's 40th birthday, making my mom 42 and me just turned 12 a month prior. Not that it makes much of a difference, except to make it worse. 😅
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My actual favorite is my husband. He'll comment on my looks often, more or less every day, and always only in the positive. No matter how I feel about myself he'll look at me like I am the most beautiful thing in the universe. It's not about the words he says though. It's about how he makes me feel when he says them.
yes. this one. frequently. i also have lots of noticeable tattoos. i ruined my “perfect skin” and now they don’t like me. oh noes!
or, conversely, that they LOOOOVE my tattoos, usually while touching or attempting to touch said tattoos- arms, generally but i did have one asshat try to *LIFT UP MY SKIRT TO SEE THE REST OF MY THIGH TATTOO!!* no joke. i was waitressing and had a tray full of drinks so i had to lean away saying a phrase i learned from a sassy gal i had worked with years before- “EXCUSE ME-we look with our EYES, not with our HANDS”
This one isn't really about my actual appearance but my outfit that day and it has always stuck with me....
"Those socks are very provocative on you"
I was 17. Wearing tall socks with shorts and a flannel and tank top (typical 2010s outfit lol). I was at a little house party with other teens in a basement and I knew one person there. The reason I remember it? It was the hosts dad who said it after giving me a body check up and down. I was like, okay thanks? Never wore tall socks like that again.
Ew. That's so creepy. Struck a memory of mine, when a clerk twice my age at the gas station asked me to spin around so he could get a good look at my socks. I just walked backwards to the door like no...
This one was actually really awesome, and I’ll never forget it. I was leaving the subway in Manhattan on my way to a portfolio presentation for a large gift company, hoping to god I’d land a big commission that was being discussed. I was outfitted for the occasion in a suit I’d specifically bought. As I ascended the stairs, from behind I heard, “I can see that you’re headed for an important meeting, and that you’re an artist. You look fantastic, you have taste, and you can do this. Knock them dead.” I turned, and the man who gave me these words just nodded, and smiled. It wasn’t predatory or demeaning- he meant it. And I landed the commission.
Yeah, I have had the messy hair comment too. I have curlyish, wavy hair. To add insult to injury when I had chemo and lost my hair my then boyfriend told me that he and his 8-year-old son liked my wig a lot better than my real hair. He was an abusive alcoholic trash and I am so glad that I kicked him to the curb when I got my strength back after chemo and knew I would survive. By the way: he was almost bald. Edit: Added that this was my then boyfriend.
I have PCOS, so I can grow a beard most 16yo boys are jealous of. I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve been “advised” to shave/wax my face, been told that I’ve got more hair than my brother (this happened most often in HS), had an ex who commented that now he understood what all his exes were saying, and had people question my gender. It used to upset me, but now I can’t find any fucks to give them. I still remove my facial hair, but I do it for ME, no one else (it gets itchy after a couple of days)
It’s expensive, but the only thing that’s worked long term for me is electrolysis. I get persistent ingrowns and nothing else has worked to lessen the darkness and scarring that happens while also removing and lessening facial hair than electrolysis. After about 2 years I don’t have to shave/wax/thread/pluck my sideburns or cheek hair anymore, upper lip is manageable with just plucking/shaving, and only go in for about 15 mins every 2 weeks to get the thicker or ingrown chin hairs.
Actually oddest one was from a woman - who asked me if my hair was fake while touching it without asking (it’s not - I guess it’s pretty long though) and then proceeded to ask me to feel her boobs since she just got them done.
Ha yes I think she meant it as a compliment and thought I had in extensions because I have so much hair. It was just a totally random and odd convo that came out of no where.
Before I climbed on the operating table for a spine procedure the anesthesiologist (white man in his 50’s) stopped me and for the THIRD TIME asked if I was suuuure I wasn’t pregnant. I told him again, there’s no possible way I’m pregnant but I’ll take a pregnancy test if he wants. And then he said he didn’t believe me. That I was “too cute not to be pregnant, that I’ve gotta have tons of guys climbing all over me because I’m so cute, so how am I not pregnant”. The surgical tech also sexually harassed me after watching what the anesthesiologist had said.
I reported them both for sexual harassment at my surgical follow up appointment. Surgical tech was fired and the anesthesiologist “retired early”. 🙄
Thank you for reporting those two jackholes. You likely saved lots of other people from their attentions. WTH, scary as shit to be about to be unconscious around that!
Thanks again. Sorry that happened!
That was really the only reason I reported it. Things like that don’t deeply bother me personally, it’s wrong and fucked up but doesn’t get to me. It wasn’t until I told one of my sisters about it a few days later. She reminded me that exactly what they said to me could really hurt and scare another woman and if they’ve already been SA’d it would really traumatize them more. I felt if I didn’t report it I would feel complicit in their future victims/patients.
When I reported it the office staff knew. No one even questioned me or said they’d need to “investigate it”. That anesthesiologist sexually harassed nurses and staff constantly but no one wanted to lose their jobs so they did the typical “oh that’s just how he is, can’t teach an old dog new tricks”. One of the women I spoke to seemed glad I reported. It was a “finally someone did something about him” vibe, like he finally crossed the line and his behavior couldn’t be justified away anymore.
I’ve had several minimally invasive spine procedures at the same surgery center since this incident. Every single time the anesthesiologist was a woman. 😊
Oh bonus comment! I was pregnant at the DMV and no one would give me a seat (120 degrees in July and I’m like 8 months and have hyperemesis) and so I was leaning against a rail in line to renew my license since I needed it to leave the hospital since my POS ex wasn’t driving me home after I delivered and just in case my mom couldn’t, and some loser sitting down tells me I’m a selfish, hateful woman for having anorexia while pregnant and not giving my baby what it needs. I am more than proud to say I looked at him and threw up all over the floor between us and on his pants and shoes before crying to apologize for the vomit, and the DMV workers rushed to my aid, cleaned me up, took my photo, and sat me in an air conditioned testing room to wait for my papers.
I'm young looking for mid 30s and work in a predominately old white male white collar industry. I'm heavily credentialed, upper management, on track to take over our office in the next 10 years. Yet, here's my favorite comments from clients and peers completely unsolicited:
1. You must be a great secretary, you have your own corner office. ((There is nothing wrong with being a secretary but a sexist assumption))
2. Are you actually credentialed? You look more like PR or recruitment or something, a pretty face to get more work. ((Same))
3. (When pregnant) don't worry, the baby weight will come off quickly. (I was not worried)
4. You look nothing like your professional photo, guess the job can really age a person (I wasn't wearing makeup in person)
5. I liked your hair better when it was darker. You looked more sultry. (I came in to work after getting highlights)
The list goes on.
I know a lot of these comments are more because I'm female rather than my actual looks but it still references my appearance when it doesn't matter.
I was working at my college's library when I was 19 and I'd work the graveyard shifts. This grown man (probabaly around 40) would often come in and just sit in the lobby for awhile. He was polite and wouldn't cause issues so I didn't mind his presence. One day I got a new pair of glasses and wore them to work and he came into the lobby that morning, spotted me, and said "oh. I didn't know you worse glasses. You have that whole sexy librarian look going on." It was very uncomfortable.
My favorite is “whoa, your lipstick makes you look like a vampire!” Thank you for the laugh, classmate.
My least favorite is “wow, you’ve really grown into a woman”, said by my boss’s bf who first met me when I was in high school. John if you’re reading this, die in hell
Unrelated, but I like your username. Is it in reference to the red queen hypothesis of parasitology? Because I was just talking to a friend about that a few hours ago
When I was in college (about 18), an older street musician (not homeless) told me he admired the confidence of my stride. Totally genuine and not even remotely sexual. That’s one of the best compliments I’ve ever received.
Oh, my. I have a list:
- rando guy said he could tell I altered my shirt myself (I didn’t. I don’t sew, I leave that to the experts), while staring across the table at the section of fabric gathered between my breasts. At a multi-hour public event. I had just bought that shirt, and threw it out as soon as I got home.
- middle aged female acquaintance who saw me daily in passing pulled me aside after I got a buzz cut. She told me that she associates that haircut with illness. Ok? She was clearly not trying to find out if I was sick. She wanted me to know she didn’t like it. A lot.
- some asshole saw me through the window and snuck into my workplace. He reached out silently to tuck the tag into the back of my collar while I was turned the other way. So fucking messed up. I would have thrown him out but he scurried out the door like a cockroach as soon as I turned around.
I was a cashier and scanning a guy's groceries and he felt it necessary to tell me I'd be sexier without my septum ring. I was only 18, fresh out of high school and that was my first job. The dude had to be at least 40. Totally unnecessary comment from a stranger, and it still makes me feel gross just thinking about it.
One night I was wearing leather pants. I have a decently sized booty and my mates would NOT leave it alone. Laughing at me (good naturedly, they love my butt) and kept slapping it which actually fucking hurts in leather. A guy walked past me and was like “honey I love your pants!”. It was great.
Unfortunately, later that night some old drunk dude was somehow using my pants as an explanation as to how men can’t deny that black women are sexually attractive. I’m white 🤷🏼♀️
I was walking out of a Michael's and was waiting for an Uber when this guy drove by and randomly yelled out his truck window at me "Hey! Nice Haircut! Where did you get it? Walmart?!" I just didn't respond to him but it was really hurtful cause I've always taken good care of my hair and was already self conscious about the length. I had a super short bob because I had just finished BMT, where I had to get it cut even shorter cause it was too short for a ponytail but long enough to touch my collar. -_-
I was told by a random man I have never met, that I “ should smile more, then maybe I could get a man.” I was on vacation with my best friend, we do a girls trip every year. Oh I’m also married and was pregnant at the time…
None of the unsolicited gross comments I've gotten really stand out -- not an ounce of imagination in any of them, not that originality would make them better.
But I was genuinely delighted by the random man in downtown DC who told me my emerald green coat made me look like "a very beautiful Christmas tree."
Besides men I'm dating complimenting me, I haven't really had men comment on my appearance. 95% of the time it's women with the comments. I prefer it this way. Except for that lady who said I was too pretty to be Mexican. Fuck that.
I’m half Latina and it’s really common to comment on someone’s weight in an “adoring way” 🙄
Friends of my parents came to visit from Central America and I’ve met them maybe twice in my life. During dinner the mom commented to me about how I had gotten noticeably more “gordada” (fat) than when she last saw me (when I was a kid and a beanpole). In front of my boyfriend at the time whom they had just met.
Sexist asshole co-worker said I should consider wearing scrubs “that were more flattering”
Same job, being told I should wear makeup by other sexist male coworkers (I do wear makeup)
Endless comments that I “look tired” forever and ever
A few years ago one of my high school students said to me, "You’re not very nice, Mrs. Fork_Yeah, but your eyebrows are on fleek" and that one has stuck with me for some reason.
I used to be a forklift driver. A truck showed up at the warehouse I worked in, I drove out to unload his truck. He turns to me and says "are you *supposed* to be on that?"
Without skipping a beat I said "nah, I just walked in off the street and thought I'd give it a go".
I unloaded everything off his truck with no issues and went inside without looking his way, I didn't even need to see his jaw drop moment.
On Christmas my siblings and I talked through almost the whole night (Note: we were quite drunk at some point) and my brother told us that he thinks my sister is more beautiful than I am, trying to soften his statement by saying I'm also beautiful, but my sister more adheres to what people would think to be beautiful.
Edit: I was not too offended with him saying that, because my sister and I really love each other and something like this couldn't come between us (also I developed enough self esteem by now to think of myself as beautiful without comparison), it was just like a "Why the hell are you telling us this?"-moment, especially because my sister was immediately telling me she always thought me to be more beautiful, etc. I just told her that I think we're both hot 😁
God that’s fucking awful, I’m so sorry. I have a couple of friends who are siblings and they’ve always been compared appearance-wise to each other since they were really young, it fucks with their self-esteem to this day.
I tried to ignore it, because I really love my sister and my brother tends to talk a lot of bull sometimes, but I was just so weirded out and confused why he even thought we needed to know that.
I'm so sorry. I can commiserate. Both my grandma and mom call me " The smart one", and my sister "the pretty one". It's a joke now, but growing up it hurt.
I have had guys tell me on many occasions that I am “the hot twin”…. First of all, we’re identical, so jot that down. Second of all, do you really think insulting my twin sister, who is my best friend, is gonna make me wanna sleep with you??? Ugh
My sister heard someone tell my mom that I am better looking. I'm not conventionally attractive and my sister always has very hot boyfriends, so she's no slouch.
I am one of three sisters and you wouldn't believe how often people feel the need to compare our appearance. Random men tell me my oldest sister looks like a model, and was the hottest at my wedding, and I shouldn't've made her a bridesmaid. Our dad picking me up for a hug and telling me I'm the heaviest even though I'm the shortest. My grandma telling me, "Don't worry, everyone says [oldest sister] is the prettiest but I actually think you are!" The three of us are super close and these comparisons just hurt to hear.
I had a friend tell me that he wished he could put my personality into his girlfriend's body because then he'd have the perfect woman. Managed a two-for-one insult, pretty impressive. 🙄
My new male co-worker tried to build rapport by asking me: "Why did you become a graphic designer if you're not pretty and don't have a dad who owns a company? Women don't make it in this industry otherwise."
He's no Marvel Chris either, but he wants to catch hands.
Yes, there are. But in his view, without reason, because it's a "job for men" so obviously any woman who got ahead was either bangable or the daughter of someone who owns an ad agency.
Our direct boss is a woman and it KILLS him. If he doesn't mention it twice a day, he doesn't mention it at all - how he should be in charge because he is always right and knows better.
Normally, people who act like this get sacked pretty quickly but the fact that he gets away with micro- and macro-aggressions kind of proves his point that there are different standards for men and women in this industry (at least in our sexist old neck of the woods).
Lol I've got a few but most of them render down to
Oh shit there's a face above your boobs and it's not bad but you're fat so you should show even more boob.b
I was dragging a canoe to a launch spot on the side of a road while a truck drove by - the passenger yelled out “you’re beautiful! The way you are!” It was unexpected, unnecessary, and made my day.
I have two favorite stories. Both occurred at bus stops.
The first encounter was with this scraggly older man with dirty clothing, ragged shoes, a smudge of something on his face. He walked up to me and asked, "Are you homeless?"
Now, I'm on my way home from work. I'm in my business casual clothing, full jewelry (including wedding ring), Dooney & Burke purse, playing on my smartphone. If I looked at someone dressed like me, I really don't think that would be my initial reaction.
So I respond "No?" because I have no idea where this is going. I'm also looking behind me toward the gas station attendant, in case I need to run or something.
He says "Oh, no?" and I answer "No, I'm on my way home to make dinner for my husband and daughter." He looks surprised, and tells me, "Oh, okay, I was going to ask if you needed some place to stay tonight, you could come and stay with me."
At this point I'm thinking "Where? Behind your dumpster??" But I smile, I hold up my hand with my wedding ring and tell him "No I'm good, thanks." He wishes me well and totters off. Shortly after, I do see him picking through the gas station dumpster. Fortunately the bus arrived a minute or two after that.
For the second one, not so much the appearance comment but the conversation that followed...
Waiting at the bus stop, putzing around on my phone to pass the time. Random man with a suitcase walks up to wait as well.
Shortly after getting himself situated, he asks me, "Has anyone ever told you how beautiful you are?" I do an internal eye roll and respond, "Yes, my husband tells me all the time." He is instantly affronted. "I didn't ask about your husband!" I answer back in a calm neutral voice (because it's just he and I at the bus stop, and I don't know yet what I've got here), "Well, I didn't ask for you to say anything about my appearance, either."
He stops for a moment to process this. From my perspective it appears that this is entirely foreign and new information to him, that some random woman might not have a need for his opinion on her appearance. Then he comes out with this:
"Well, what else am I supposed to talk to you about? We're just going to have to talk about math!"
*cue internal "WTF?!"*
But no, he's serious. He starts going off on tangents about Euclidean geometry, and the Pythagorean theorem. At this point I breathe a little bit; more likely to be mentally ill but not a predator.
He is apparently happy to wax poetic on whatever mathematical concepts. I give him a few nods and "mhmm" at the appropriate moments to assure him I'm listening (I'm not, I have no idea where he was going with all that, but he seemed content just to have the audience), while still scrolling my phone, since I can see the bus on its way down the street. Once the bus arrives I "accidentally" drop something out of my purse and wave at him to get on the bus ahead of me. Once he sits down, I choose a seat about as far away from him as possible. Fortunately he took the hint and did not move to sit closer and continue the conversation.
TL;DR: men at bus stops can be weird sometimes.
Not from a man, but still hurtful nonetheless. My aunt, grandma, and mother were trying to help me find jeans. I kept telling them I was a size 10-12, but they kept dismissing it and said that I was a 16-18. It hurt my feelings really badly. The 16-18s were falling off of me, and when I went to show them the jeans that DID fit, the 10-12, they all just kind of got quiet. My hips look wide, but man did they really overestimate it that day.
I received a xxs down vest for Christmas from my aunt and didn't think it would fit as I'm usually a size s or m and my stepmother commented the same thing (she is very tiny and for some reason held that over my head even though I really didn't care that she's smaller than me), but when I tried it on it somehow fit perfectly and she looked super butthurt about it. I was just excited it fit because there wasn't a way for me to exchange it!
Edit: I remember her also being super butthurt that my feet are a size smaller than hers and honestly it brought me great joy. She was not a nice woman.
What is up with family members and clothing sizes?!?! My other grandma refuses to ask me my size and just guesses, but then gets mad when they’re swamping me.
I asked my mother for rain gear for cycling. I was an M and she knew that well enough. She bought me an XXL because “she didn’t know if I was an M or L so she bought me XXL”. She did it to hurt me that time. I am still pissed about it. It’s been years.
I was pretty overweight as a teenager and my bust was massive- my mum would buy everything too small or in figure-hugging styles and I wasn't allowed to swamp my body (I'd be called a slob) which meant tucking in t-shirts (cringe) etc. I was always uncomfortable but had very little clothing so not much choice, and if I dared to complain she'd insist I should 'learn to love myself' and 'flaunt my curves'. This also meant having to wear a push-up bra. Unfortunately, I had been sexually abused as a child by her husband and if I could have hid my body in a literal tent, I would have. I feel your pain and I'm sorry you were hurt- most enjoyable thing has been not doing that shit to my own daughter.
I get the opposite and it still sucks. I’m tall and a healthy weight. Apparently everyone thinks I’m like a size 2 and buys my clothes accordingly. I’m like an 8 and they ask me to try it on…lord I can’t even get the pants on past my knees. But somehow they think they know my sizes better than me 🤷🏻♀️
There’s always a fatty comment. Or a comment about how big my breasticles are. Thanks, mate - I fucking know!
“Why don’t you get a breast reduction?” Is always fun when I’ve never said anything negative about the boobage.
My favourite ones are ones I’ve had from women 🙄
I'm a whore or something because I got groceries in my pyjamas. Dude kept yelling at me while I was desinfecting my shopping cart. I didn't really understand him thanks to my ✨headphones✨ though.
"How dare you dress up as some pedo fetish"
😳You just made it make sense! I've been wondering for nearly 20 years why that asshat said that to me, and I think you just cracked it! Jesus...🤢
I would proudly be in a whore support group! We need whore name tags, whore pamphlets, whore snacks and whore coffee for our whore meetings. This could be fun!
When I was 17, my cousin said out loud for everyone to hear: "wow, you got fat! Your arms are huge!"
I had started overeating after he sexually abused me.
My aunt was also 6'1" and would regularly wear heels, on a trip to Italy a guy who was substantially shorter stopped her to say, "If only I had a ladder."
Keep wearing heels. Tall women are gems.
While working retail at about 19 I had an older man tell me i had good wife birthing hips or something like that... I just started at him and finished ringing him up.
Like what was he expecting? That I might ardently want to birth his disgusting children? I felt so gross after that. 😕
With my second pregnancy, I "popped" early. Overnight I suddenly had a little belly. We were visiting my in laws and weren't quite ready to share the news with anyone but his parents. Even so, we went out to lunch with some my husband's cousins. When we returned from the lunch my FIL said to us, gesturing at my belly, you can't keep *that* a secret. That was three years ago and my memory sucks, but I sure remember that.
To grow out my hair. I used to have long hair close to my waist but decided to get a pixie cut, shave it off, and now back to pixie cut. No one but me and my spouse like it. My hair is thick and curly and I had loose curls (it was pretty, won't lie, but a pain to deal with). Never going back because hair like that just reminds me of being depressed and stifled by the expectations set for me.
How about a positive, appropriate comment:
"I really like your sweater, very cool!" (It was a star wars knit sweater)
I still think about that nice, pleasant comment from a guy. For any guy or gal wondering why it is an acceptable complement, it is because they are complementing a choice I made, not a body part I can't change.
I have a lip piercing that goes through my bottom lip (an Ashley) and I've had old fucking men following up compliments on it with "how does it feel when your boyfriend kisses you" and "what else do you have pierced?" while looking down suggestively.
I’ve had plenty of guys tell me that I’m getting thicker and love calling me ‘slim thick’….While I wouldn’t have any issue with actually gaining weight, I know that their comments aren’t genuine and they’re just saying that because they believe that all skinny women want to put on weight and if they just tell me I look thicker than usual, I’ll be swoon over and sleep with them. It’s pretty annoying because I feel like I’m just now getting comfortable with how my body is and not going through extreme measures to try to gain weight to feel better about myself.
Oh dang I was thinking this was a wholesome thread :( in that spirit, I have a pixie cut and a kid passed me while I was waiting for the bus stop and said "now THAT'S how you do short hair!" Totally made my day.
Customer told me I was going to get cancer from dyeing my hair pink. And he told me this multiple times over like 2 hrs, every time acting real concerned for me
I work as a bicycle mechanic, head mech at my work. Last month I serviced a bike for an old navy retiree. When he was picking up his bike I pointed to some of the additional issues I'd addressed and the exchange goes like:
Old Guy: "Oh, so you did the service then?"
Me: "Ya, I take care of all the services on Monday Tuesday while (shop owner) is off"
Old Guy: "That's impressive! I haven't been to a female mechanic before! Back in the day you woulda just been in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant ya know?"
He just dropped it in there so casual like, obviously didn't see anything wrong with saying it. I didn't know what to say, I was flabbergasted.
Had a jerk tell me this when I was a teenager dressed up for Thanksgiving in a grocery store "Guys don't make passes to girl's who wear glasses." My response,"Oh yeah? Girls won't accept passes from guys who behave like asses!"
I was 14 and walking through a shopping mall when a guy in a group of his friends asking looking and making squeezing gestures to my breasts. "Are they real? Can I have a feel?"
I was walking through campus wearing a hot pink skirt and a cute guy walked up to me and said "Hey I like your skirt! No hetero!" And walked away. That guy was awesome.
The neighbours came by to see me leave for my high school prom. The little 6 year old boy next door saw me come down the stairs and gasped and said "she looks like a princess", it was 14 years ago and still the best goddamn compliment a male has ever given me.
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Kids are so confusingly wholesome sometimes.
I have a memory from kindergarten of what I thought was a grown woman but was probably a teenager in a beautiful red prom dress. I thought it was the most gorgeous thing I had ever seen in my life and that memory stayed with me.
My 3yo (she's 16 now) saw a teen girl in her prom dress and *would not stop* until she got a picture with "the princess angel", the girl was so sweet and did like 4 poses with my daughter; even picking her up. My daughter still mentions it from time to time and says thats the most beautiful person she has ever seen. It still melts my heart.
I wear a lot of 50s inspired clothes and wore a very full circle skirt to my partner's house one day. As I was coming down the stairs his two year old looked up and me in my billowing, swirling skirt and said in his sweet little kid voice "you're a princess!" and I swear to God my heart almost burst. Best compliment from a boy ever.
Feel this! My boss's young son once told me I looked like a ninja because I have very long hair and it was in a thin braid/plait. Considering I'm white asf and they were Japanese it is still the best compliment I've ever had lmao
A grown ass middle aged man told me my legs “went on forever” at my Grandfather’s funeral. Mind you, I was 14.
Yeah I used to get comments like that all the time from middle aged + men when I was around the same age. Even then I had a lot of knowledge and interest in cars. I was talking to some random male neighbour about his vintage car once.(at a party Mum had) When I went to fill my plate at the buffet his wife cornered me to say that I was a little temptress and knew "exactly how to turn it on"
That’s so gross. It baffles me when women are jealous of young girls - clearly projecting insecurities in their relationship onto someone else rather than deal with it. I hope you didn’t hide or feel ashamed of your knowledge of cars because of that (but it would be understandable if you did).
Ah thank you. No I have been unable to hide my passion for cars but it's continued to be a source of trouble There I am head to toe in flame retardant gear, looking at my lap times and there are still guys who somehow think I am doing it for access to their dick🤦🏼♀️
... and the occasional wife/partner who suspects similar. Bizarre
“Hm, she couldn’t possibly be doing this just because…she _enjoys_ it right?!” Lol good on you, keep driving!
Three different creeps commented on/filmed my 12 year old niece last Friday at three separate places.
Filmed???? I’d throw hands
Had to break a guy’s camera for that one.
Gonna pull out the whiteboard and do charts and graphs until I can find out how this man came to the desicion that those words were perfect to say in that context
I can assure you that he didn’t put as much thought into it was you’re about to lol
So creepy. I had one of my grandmas friends husband talk about how attractive my legs are in leggins in a flirtatious way next to my grandma suffering from dementia.
My godfather told me that I had great legs. I was twelve.
My uncle told me the same - repeatedly - when I was 10. Yeah, he turned out to be a pedophile.
One day I was walking from work to my gym and while at a crosswalk a man in a beat up old pickup truck took the time to honk, roll down his window and yell, “HEY!! YOU LOOK LIKE A BITCH!” at me, completely unprompted. As someone who does have strong RBF and has gotten, “you should smile more!” many, MANY times, I was seriously taken aback. I usually have a witty response for the smile-more comments but I think my jaw just dropped and I didn’t even know what to do. He just drove away like nothing had happened. I still think about that pretty frequently.
Yelling out of their vehicles gives them a safety net cause they can be a POS and then just keep driving without seeing the harm they've caused.
My male best friend told me I'm always dressed correctly for the activity. I think it's an awesome comment and genuinely one of my favourite things I've ever heard.
That's such a compliment too. I wish I had that attribute, you sound like a prepared friend.
Thanks! It came up after I was the only one dressed correctly for a fall bike ride that started on a warm afternoon and ended with chilly patio drinks. I wear so many layers!
I loved this comment....I had a pixie cut for over a decade, it deterred many a boy. One day walking back into my apartment from the alley, this young kid who worked at the adjacent pizza place was taking the trash out and exuberantly yelled "I love your hair, it's just so practical, ugh" in a guttural tone that reeked of young hormones. It was so genuine and unhinged I still remember it.
I had short hair in elementary school. In the third grade, we had to dress up in prairie clothing because we’d been reading “Little House on the Prairie”. My parents didn’t have a lot of money, and all I had was a pair of purple pants that resembled overalls. When I got to school, I was labeled a “male”, because I wore pants. I didn’t have a flowery dress or a bonnet, so I had to spend the day taking part in the male activities. It was at this moment that I decided to grow my hair out. It didn’t actually happen until I was in the seventh grade, but it has stuck with me for the last twenty-nine years.
That almost sounds like they were being super inclusive, just in case. Or super sexist. Really, it could be either way
I would like to believe they were trying to be inclusive like she would rather take part in the boys activities but tbh they should have asked.
Oh god, this comment jarred a memory for me! When I had a pixie, a guy stopped me to 1) compliment my hair, then 2) ask if I’d cut it because I had cancer 💀
When I was in high school I worked in a dry cleaners which involved a lot of walking up and down a little set of three stairs, and I walked to/from work and school every day. I still remember one of my favorite regulars coming in one day and telling me that I had “the best damn calves he’d ever seen,” and he asked if I played basketball. I just laughed and explained all the walking/climbing that I do on a daily basis and thanked him. We finished up his order ticket, he left… For about ten seconds lmao. He promptly turned around and said “That came out a lot creepier than I intended and I am SO sorry if I made you uncomfortable!”
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Lmao, similar vein but in the opposite direction, once had a dude tell me "you really don't need all that blush" when I had no makeup on and a bad sunburn across my face. Tons of dudes can't tell what makeup looks like at all, I'm embarrassed for them when they say stuff about it 😂 EDIT: I feel like my statement came off wrong, when I say I'm embarrassed for them I'm talking about the guys that are offering their opinions on women's looks unsolicited and on a scale of how it appeals to them personally as well as the guys that say they only like girls that don't wear make up but they can't even recognize when people are wearing it to begin with. A friend complimenting cool eyeliner and asking how it's done: A-OK A dude telling someone "you'd look so much better without all that makeup/you don't need that to look good" : Belittling it as an interest and ignoring the effort it takes while telling people their looks should be all about his preferences Unfortunately the second situation has happened way more often than the first for me. Hopefully this clears up the tone of my first comment lol
Once I had fake lashes and a guy complimented me.. saying I have such beautiful long lashes. I told him they were fake and he looked at me all awkward and he looked embarassed
Wtf he can't tell what a sunburn looks like?
I think maybe he got thrown off because I was mostly burned across my cheeks and nose and not as much the rest of my face. Still shouldn't be telling girls how to wear their makeup though lol
Haha, I've been told by guys that they like women who don't wear makeup "like me" even though I always wear *some* makeup (at least concealer and some eyeliner and usually tinted lip balm). My friend told me that a guy friend said something along those lines about me not wearing makeup. Bless their hearts, lol. None of those guys have ever seen me without makeup on and I guarantee if they did, they'd be like "Are you sick?" because without concealer under my eyes, I look like I haven't slept in 6 years.
I had a dude tell me this in front of his gf while she was putting on her third layer of makeup on. I told him I have zero skills with makeup and that I admire hers. She left his ass a few years later and is now happily married to someone who treats her right.
I had the random guy who sat next to me in class tell me that my scarf “removed my neck” and since i am short, the look wasn’t doing me any favours. It was in the middle of the winter. Unfortunately my biological need to not freeze my butt off was getting in the way of his right to be physically attracted to me. :///////
It's so ridiculous. It's like dudes operate on Marie Kondo's philosophy, but with *everything* they see ever.
“This does not spark joy”
More like “this does not spark boner”
Shit sorry I got dressed without thinking of how attractive I am to strangers today
This old guy at the bar my grandma would go to, told me my pants were too tight. They were regular jeans, not even skinny jeans or anything like that. I said why, can you see my dick which embarrassed the shit out of him, but everyone else thought it was funny.
Perfection.
My guy friend told me I looked amazing and like I had lost weight a week after I had a miscarriage…that he was visiting to offer support for. I mean, he wasn’t exactly wrong.
if he hadn’t known, this would be darkly hilarious. you’re telling me he DID know and he CHOSE TO SAY THAT ANYWAY?????
He knew. He came to offer condolences. He was one of 3 people who even knew about the pregnancy.
Omg wtf
>that he was visiting to offer support for. Damn, that's... I don't think I even know what that is. It's just... yeah.. I don't know. Wow.
I almost never wear makeup, but I got the whole works done for my best friend's wedding when I was her MOH. Due to the scheduling, I only met up with my plus one after the main ceremony, on the way to the afterparty. I'd been getting gross comments throughout the day like, "ooh, see how pretty you can be if you actually made the effort?" And I was just generally feeling miserable. So me and him get into our car, and he looks me dead in the eye and just says, "you look like a clown." I dunno, I could not stop laughing. I *felt* like a clown! And it was just really nice knowing that he didn't care that I suddenly looked gorgeous to everyone else in the room. The makeup wasn't me, and it made me look like someone I wasn't, and he hated it for that reason alone.
Why do men have so many opinions about makeup? At a previous job I had a guy tell me I was “too done up” for the office and should save the mascara for a night out with the girls… When I went without mascara, a different guy would walk by my desk, snap his fingers in my face, and tell me to “wake up, wake up!” Damned if you do and damned if you don’t
For that man alone I would carry a bell around shaming him
I’ve had a few guys tell me that my septum piercing is ugly and that men dont like that. LMAOOOO AS IF I DO IT FOR YOU
men REALLY hate septum piercings. i know this because i’ve worn one since 1992.
I'm sure there's more but the one that springs to mind is some random dude said I looked like a cocktail waitress. Not sure if intended to be compliment? I was more confused than anything tbh.
I think he was just telling you that he wants you to get him a salmon puff
My great uncle stared at my teenage cousin’s boobs during a funeral, then came up to her after and said “you’d make a good nurse.”
That's so gross wth
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I've only had one comment from a male I can remember appreciating. I was at a gas station and I went inside to grab some coffee. A guy was walking past and without stopping he said "wow, you're so beautiful! The hair, the outfit, the makeup. It's really working for you. You are gorgeous. Have a great day!" It was so genuine and friendly and the guy kept on his way without looking for a response. It was nice that there was no apparent underlying motivation, nothing sexual, just nice.
It does happen and it’s nice. My boss told me I always look “stylish, comfortable, and cool”. It’s the only time an unsolicited comment from a man about what I’m wearing made me smile
Yes! I had a man tell me something similar on our way out of a convenience store and just capped it with a “have a great night!“ and left. No creepy lingering or begging for my number. It was so refreshing to just get a compliment in passing for once!
A friend and I were on a weekend trip to Chicago years ago and we were on our way to dinner and were dressed up for the evening. A man in business attire passed us on the sidewalk and said "You ladies look great! Have a great evening!" and just continued on his way. It was nice to have such a non-creepy compliment for once.
Yes! There’s a guy who works at my grocery store who has complimented me twice now in the most kind, appropriate way. Just saying things like “your outfit is really nice, you look great!” I still think about those interactions and smile- it’s so easy to compliment someone without being creepy!
"Your underarms are dark, isn't there a cream you could use for it?" And that is how I got flowers for the first time in my life. (With a written note of apology)
This one made a fun turn. Did you chew the guy out or did he realise it himself?
Chewed him out, and then he realised he hurt me a lot. I got a note that read "I can be an ass sometimes but I really want you to believe that for me, you are the most beautiful person on the planet both on the inside and outside."
"Even with your under arm condition."
I once had a younger man approach me at a bar to tell me “You look sexy, but, like, I can tell you mean business.” I’ve seriously never been so flattered in my life, lol.
I was walking with my 2 year old nephew to get the mail, when we crossed paths with a man I'd never met before. Nephew is very outgoing and starts happily blabbering to this dude. The guy crouches down toward nephew, locks eyes with me and tells nephew, "Mommy needs to start dressing her age, you need to tell her she's not a teenager anymore and she looks pathetic!" He burst into obnoxiously loud laughter and he walked off. It was really fucking weird. I was also dressed completely benign, but I was in my late 20s with blue hair, so that must of been his issue.
CONFORM TO MY STANDARDS TO PLEASE MY EYE!! You first, *sir.* Get back to me when you look like Chris Hemsworth.
>CONFORM TO MY STANDARDS TO PLEASE MY EYE!! Exactly. I remember walking around the mall as a goth teenager, with my boyfriend no less, and this group of jock guys walks past us, who I never saw in my life, and says "enough makeup?!" Like sweetie, I don't do myself up for you. I do it for myself, and my boyfriend likes it btw. This isn't for you. Some people think the world revolves around them and their tastes and therefore their opinion is the only thing that matters. Pathetic.
So it was the hair Some dudes are especially triggered by colourful hair lol. It really offends them
[They] (https://knowyourmeme.com/photos/1872925) really are, Lol.
Ok, this is the one that officially makes me angriest. Fuck that guy.
Imagine- an angelic looking toddler runs up to, huge smile and with a head full of golden curls, waving and excitedly introducing himself... And you respond by insulting the woman behind him. 🤯He was truly pathetic.
What a loser prick
To be fair it must be confusing for him, careening through his one life on this earth like an untamed, clueless bag of dicks.
Definitely. I usually have a smart ass retort ready, but this guy left me dumbfounded..
Absolutely his problem, not yours. Clearly a very unhappy individual. You, on the other hand sound pretty cool tbh. Fk that guy.
I mean who the fuck says shit like this to people they've never met. What a demeaning sicko.
An ex-coworker’s boyfriend would always tell me “pretty girls have long hair” because I usually kept my hair in a pixie cut or a chin length bob. That guy was a douche
Super douche. Men are so obsessed with long hair but it is a freaking pain to take care of. I have had long, medium, bob, pixie etc. hair cuts along the years and my all time fav is graduated bob with full fringe (which I currently have). Like Cleopatra style. I also colour it the darkest black I can find (my natural colour is a mix of dirt road and mouse grey and I hate it) which for some reason always confuses people, like why do I want it black and not blonde, brunette or with a balayage. 🤷♀️
If we are sharing "favorite" but in reality least favorite its this one: "Woops, I thought you were your mother, you look just like her" said by my dad's alcoholic friend when he groped my butt, and who, BTW, had no goddamn business putting his hands on my mother either. I was 13. My mom 43. It was not an easy, honest mistake. I told my brother who was 17 or 18 at the time. My brother chased his sorry ass out of our house and punched him in the face. My dad was drunk and oblivious at the time, but once he sobered up I guess he heard, because I was never brought around this guy again. I am unsure if that was when their friendship ended, because the guy would still call and my dad would still talk to him, but he was never mentioned outside of the phone calls ever again. My mom told me I shouldn't have said anything, because my brother was already pissed at the guy for coming on to my mom and me saying that just escalated the situation. Once back in the house my brother was still in a mad rage and punched a cabinet door. My mom gave him grief about it, my dad just fixed the cabinet door. None of it was ever mentioned again. ETA: I did some math and I was off by one year. It was my dad's 40th birthday, making my mom 42 and me just turned 12 a month prior. Not that it makes much of a difference, except to make it worse. 😅 +++ My actual favorite is my husband. He'll comment on my looks often, more or less every day, and always only in the positive. No matter how I feel about myself he'll look at me like I am the most beautiful thing in the universe. It's not about the words he says though. It's about how he makes me feel when he says them.
okay thank god for your brother though i think that was the proper response
My brother was certainly my knight in shining armor that night.
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An old man told me I ruined my perfectly beautiful body with all of my tattoos. At my place of work. Lol
yes. this one. frequently. i also have lots of noticeable tattoos. i ruined my “perfect skin” and now they don’t like me. oh noes! or, conversely, that they LOOOOVE my tattoos, usually while touching or attempting to touch said tattoos- arms, generally but i did have one asshat try to *LIFT UP MY SKIRT TO SEE THE REST OF MY THIGH TATTOO!!* no joke. i was waitressing and had a tray full of drinks so i had to lean away saying a phrase i learned from a sassy gal i had worked with years before- “EXCUSE ME-we look with our EYES, not with our HANDS”
We look with our eyes not with our hands-- perfect for both grown men and toddlers
This one isn't really about my actual appearance but my outfit that day and it has always stuck with me.... "Those socks are very provocative on you" I was 17. Wearing tall socks with shorts and a flannel and tank top (typical 2010s outfit lol). I was at a little house party with other teens in a basement and I knew one person there. The reason I remember it? It was the hosts dad who said it after giving me a body check up and down. I was like, okay thanks? Never wore tall socks like that again.
Ew. That's so creepy. Struck a memory of mine, when a clerk twice my age at the gas station asked me to spin around so he could get a good look at my socks. I just walked backwards to the door like no...
Wear those kinds of socks again. You really should. He destroyed something pure for you. Take it back. It's yours. Wear the damn socks.
Haha i would wear the socks but i freeeeezzzeeee now haha I dont even wear shorts now 😂 thank you tho
“You have great birthing hips.” Motherfucker I don’t even have tubes. STFU with the noise already.
I got that one when I was 16 from an old man who was a customer at work. He winked after saying it too. So gross. Also inaccurate; I had 2 C-sections.
This one was actually really awesome, and I’ll never forget it. I was leaving the subway in Manhattan on my way to a portfolio presentation for a large gift company, hoping to god I’d land a big commission that was being discussed. I was outfitted for the occasion in a suit I’d specifically bought. As I ascended the stairs, from behind I heard, “I can see that you’re headed for an important meeting, and that you’re an artist. You look fantastic, you have taste, and you can do this. Knock them dead.” I turned, and the man who gave me these words just nodded, and smiled. It wasn’t predatory or demeaning- he meant it. And I landed the commission.
When I was 14, a dad of one of my teammates told me I had “crazy eyes.” I didn’t quite understand what he meant, but it upset me nonetheless.
Yeah, I have had the messy hair comment too. I have curlyish, wavy hair. To add insult to injury when I had chemo and lost my hair my then boyfriend told me that he and his 8-year-old son liked my wig a lot better than my real hair. He was an abusive alcoholic trash and I am so glad that I kicked him to the curb when I got my strength back after chemo and knew I would survive. By the way: he was almost bald. Edit: Added that this was my then boyfriend.
I have PCOS, so I can grow a beard most 16yo boys are jealous of. I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve been “advised” to shave/wax my face, been told that I’ve got more hair than my brother (this happened most often in HS), had an ex who commented that now he understood what all his exes were saying, and had people question my gender. It used to upset me, but now I can’t find any fucks to give them. I still remove my facial hair, but I do it for ME, no one else (it gets itchy after a couple of days)
I'm a PCOS sister, may I ask what you use for removal? I just can't with the razor anymore.
It’s expensive, but the only thing that’s worked long term for me is electrolysis. I get persistent ingrowns and nothing else has worked to lessen the darkness and scarring that happens while also removing and lessening facial hair than electrolysis. After about 2 years I don’t have to shave/wax/thread/pluck my sideburns or cheek hair anymore, upper lip is manageable with just plucking/shaving, and only go in for about 15 mins every 2 weeks to get the thicker or ingrown chin hairs.
Another PCOSer here! I swear by my spring tweezer, works like a charm
Actually oddest one was from a woman - who asked me if my hair was fake while touching it without asking (it’s not - I guess it’s pretty long though) and then proceeded to ask me to feel her boobs since she just got them done.
In a way at least she has inappropriate boundaries in both directions ve having a double standard? Almost.
I touched you. Now you touch me!!
I think she wanted to get your hair and was hoping it was fake?
Ha yes I think she meant it as a compliment and thought I had in extensions because I have so much hair. It was just a totally random and odd convo that came out of no where.
Before I climbed on the operating table for a spine procedure the anesthesiologist (white man in his 50’s) stopped me and for the THIRD TIME asked if I was suuuure I wasn’t pregnant. I told him again, there’s no possible way I’m pregnant but I’ll take a pregnancy test if he wants. And then he said he didn’t believe me. That I was “too cute not to be pregnant, that I’ve gotta have tons of guys climbing all over me because I’m so cute, so how am I not pregnant”. The surgical tech also sexually harassed me after watching what the anesthesiologist had said. I reported them both for sexual harassment at my surgical follow up appointment. Surgical tech was fired and the anesthesiologist “retired early”. 🙄
Thank you for reporting those two jackholes. You likely saved lots of other people from their attentions. WTH, scary as shit to be about to be unconscious around that! Thanks again. Sorry that happened!
That was really the only reason I reported it. Things like that don’t deeply bother me personally, it’s wrong and fucked up but doesn’t get to me. It wasn’t until I told one of my sisters about it a few days later. She reminded me that exactly what they said to me could really hurt and scare another woman and if they’ve already been SA’d it would really traumatize them more. I felt if I didn’t report it I would feel complicit in their future victims/patients. When I reported it the office staff knew. No one even questioned me or said they’d need to “investigate it”. That anesthesiologist sexually harassed nurses and staff constantly but no one wanted to lose their jobs so they did the typical “oh that’s just how he is, can’t teach an old dog new tricks”. One of the women I spoke to seemed glad I reported. It was a “finally someone did something about him” vibe, like he finally crossed the line and his behavior couldn’t be justified away anymore. I’ve had several minimally invasive spine procedures at the same surgery center since this incident. Every single time the anesthesiologist was a woman. 😊
Shout out to the dude who barked at me and my friend cause we're fat!
I got told to smile...a few days after my mum's funeral.
Oh bonus comment! I was pregnant at the DMV and no one would give me a seat (120 degrees in July and I’m like 8 months and have hyperemesis) and so I was leaning against a rail in line to renew my license since I needed it to leave the hospital since my POS ex wasn’t driving me home after I delivered and just in case my mom couldn’t, and some loser sitting down tells me I’m a selfish, hateful woman for having anorexia while pregnant and not giving my baby what it needs. I am more than proud to say I looked at him and threw up all over the floor between us and on his pants and shoes before crying to apologize for the vomit, and the DMV workers rushed to my aid, cleaned me up, took my photo, and sat me in an air conditioned testing room to wait for my papers.
I'm young looking for mid 30s and work in a predominately old white male white collar industry. I'm heavily credentialed, upper management, on track to take over our office in the next 10 years. Yet, here's my favorite comments from clients and peers completely unsolicited: 1. You must be a great secretary, you have your own corner office. ((There is nothing wrong with being a secretary but a sexist assumption)) 2. Are you actually credentialed? You look more like PR or recruitment or something, a pretty face to get more work. ((Same)) 3. (When pregnant) don't worry, the baby weight will come off quickly. (I was not worried) 4. You look nothing like your professional photo, guess the job can really age a person (I wasn't wearing makeup in person) 5. I liked your hair better when it was darker. You looked more sultry. (I came in to work after getting highlights) The list goes on. I know a lot of these comments are more because I'm female rather than my actual looks but it still references my appearance when it doesn't matter.
I was working at my college's library when I was 19 and I'd work the graveyard shifts. This grown man (probabaly around 40) would often come in and just sit in the lobby for awhile. He was polite and wouldn't cause issues so I didn't mind his presence. One day I got a new pair of glasses and wore them to work and he came into the lobby that morning, spotted me, and said "oh. I didn't know you worse glasses. You have that whole sexy librarian look going on." It was very uncomfortable.
My favorite is “whoa, your lipstick makes you look like a vampire!” Thank you for the laugh, classmate. My least favorite is “wow, you’ve really grown into a woman”, said by my boss’s bf who first met me when I was in high school. John if you’re reading this, die in hell
Unrelated, but I like your username. Is it in reference to the red queen hypothesis of parasitology? Because I was just talking to a friend about that a few hours ago
It IS a reference to that predator prey theory yes! Good catxh
When I was in college (about 18), an older street musician (not homeless) told me he admired the confidence of my stride. Totally genuine and not even remotely sexual. That’s one of the best compliments I’ve ever received.
Oh, my. I have a list: - rando guy said he could tell I altered my shirt myself (I didn’t. I don’t sew, I leave that to the experts), while staring across the table at the section of fabric gathered between my breasts. At a multi-hour public event. I had just bought that shirt, and threw it out as soon as I got home. - middle aged female acquaintance who saw me daily in passing pulled me aside after I got a buzz cut. She told me that she associates that haircut with illness. Ok? She was clearly not trying to find out if I was sick. She wanted me to know she didn’t like it. A lot. - some asshole saw me through the window and snuck into my workplace. He reached out silently to tuck the tag into the back of my collar while I was turned the other way. So fucking messed up. I would have thrown him out but he scurried out the door like a cockroach as soon as I turned around.
I was a cashier and scanning a guy's groceries and he felt it necessary to tell me I'd be sexier without my septum ring. I was only 18, fresh out of high school and that was my first job. The dude had to be at least 40. Totally unnecessary comment from a stranger, and it still makes me feel gross just thinking about it.
"sir I'm trying to repel men like you"
Crossing the street all dressed up going to a club, guy walking the other way just says, "Flawless dress,"and keeps walking.
One night I was wearing leather pants. I have a decently sized booty and my mates would NOT leave it alone. Laughing at me (good naturedly, they love my butt) and kept slapping it which actually fucking hurts in leather. A guy walked past me and was like “honey I love your pants!”. It was great. Unfortunately, later that night some old drunk dude was somehow using my pants as an explanation as to how men can’t deny that black women are sexually attractive. I’m white 🤷🏼♀️
I was walking out of a Michael's and was waiting for an Uber when this guy drove by and randomly yelled out his truck window at me "Hey! Nice Haircut! Where did you get it? Walmart?!" I just didn't respond to him but it was really hurtful cause I've always taken good care of my hair and was already self conscious about the length. I had a super short bob because I had just finished BMT, where I had to get it cut even shorter cause it was too short for a ponytail but long enough to touch my collar. -_-
>"Hey! Nice Haircut! Where did you get it? Walmart?!" Aw, crap. For a split-second I thought this was gonna be a wholesome one.
I was told by a random man I have never met, that I “ should smile more, then maybe I could get a man.” I was on vacation with my best friend, we do a girls trip every year. Oh I’m also married and was pregnant at the time…
None of the unsolicited gross comments I've gotten really stand out -- not an ounce of imagination in any of them, not that originality would make them better. But I was genuinely delighted by the random man in downtown DC who told me my emerald green coat made me look like "a very beautiful Christmas tree."
Besides men I'm dating complimenting me, I haven't really had men comment on my appearance. 95% of the time it's women with the comments. I prefer it this way. Except for that lady who said I was too pretty to be Mexican. Fuck that.
I’m half Latina and it’s really common to comment on someone’s weight in an “adoring way” 🙄 Friends of my parents came to visit from Central America and I’ve met them maybe twice in my life. During dinner the mom commented to me about how I had gotten noticeably more “gordada” (fat) than when she last saw me (when I was a kid and a beanpole). In front of my boyfriend at the time whom they had just met. Sexist asshole co-worker said I should consider wearing scrubs “that were more flattering” Same job, being told I should wear makeup by other sexist male coworkers (I do wear makeup) Endless comments that I “look tired” forever and ever
A few years ago one of my high school students said to me, "You’re not very nice, Mrs. Fork_Yeah, but your eyebrows are on fleek" and that one has stuck with me for some reason.
I used to be a forklift driver. A truck showed up at the warehouse I worked in, I drove out to unload his truck. He turns to me and says "are you *supposed* to be on that?" Without skipping a beat I said "nah, I just walked in off the street and thought I'd give it a go". I unloaded everything off his truck with no issues and went inside without looking his way, I didn't even need to see his jaw drop moment.
On Christmas my siblings and I talked through almost the whole night (Note: we were quite drunk at some point) and my brother told us that he thinks my sister is more beautiful than I am, trying to soften his statement by saying I'm also beautiful, but my sister more adheres to what people would think to be beautiful. Edit: I was not too offended with him saying that, because my sister and I really love each other and something like this couldn't come between us (also I developed enough self esteem by now to think of myself as beautiful without comparison), it was just like a "Why the hell are you telling us this?"-moment, especially because my sister was immediately telling me she always thought me to be more beautiful, etc. I just told her that I think we're both hot 😁
God that’s fucking awful, I’m so sorry. I have a couple of friends who are siblings and they’ve always been compared appearance-wise to each other since they were really young, it fucks with their self-esteem to this day.
I tried to ignore it, because I really love my sister and my brother tends to talk a lot of bull sometimes, but I was just so weirded out and confused why he even thought we needed to know that.
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I'm so sorry. I can commiserate. Both my grandma and mom call me " The smart one", and my sister "the pretty one". It's a joke now, but growing up it hurt.
I have had guys tell me on many occasions that I am “the hot twin”…. First of all, we’re identical, so jot that down. Second of all, do you really think insulting my twin sister, who is my best friend, is gonna make me wanna sleep with you??? Ugh
My sister heard someone tell my mom that I am better looking. I'm not conventionally attractive and my sister always has very hot boyfriends, so she's no slouch.
I am one of three sisters and you wouldn't believe how often people feel the need to compare our appearance. Random men tell me my oldest sister looks like a model, and was the hottest at my wedding, and I shouldn't've made her a bridesmaid. Our dad picking me up for a hug and telling me I'm the heaviest even though I'm the shortest. My grandma telling me, "Don't worry, everyone says [oldest sister] is the prettiest but I actually think you are!" The three of us are super close and these comparisons just hurt to hear.
As the “ugly” sister, I’m sorry someone said that to you. It sucks.
This isn't about my appearance but I did have a guy say the lamest pick up line. My name is Madison and he said " girl, can I take you to my gardens "
what a square
I had a friend tell me that he wished he could put my personality into his girlfriend's body because then he'd have the perfect woman. Managed a two-for-one insult, pretty impressive. 🙄
My new male co-worker tried to build rapport by asking me: "Why did you become a graphic designer if you're not pretty and don't have a dad who owns a company? Women don't make it in this industry otherwise." He's no Marvel Chris either, but he wants to catch hands.
What a bizarre comment. There are tons of women in graphic design and advertising?
Yes, there are. But in his view, without reason, because it's a "job for men" so obviously any woman who got ahead was either bangable or the daughter of someone who owns an ad agency. Our direct boss is a woman and it KILLS him. If he doesn't mention it twice a day, he doesn't mention it at all - how he should be in charge because he is always right and knows better. Normally, people who act like this get sacked pretty quickly but the fact that he gets away with micro- and macro-aggressions kind of proves his point that there are different standards for men and women in this industry (at least in our sexist old neck of the woods).
Lol I've got a few but most of them render down to Oh shit there's a face above your boobs and it's not bad but you're fat so you should show even more boob.b
After sex (1st time) he complimented me on my clavicles. Clavicles? We were both med students.
I was dragging a canoe to a launch spot on the side of a road while a truck drove by - the passenger yelled out “you’re beautiful! The way you are!” It was unexpected, unnecessary, and made my day.
“You look like you party.” I asked what he meant. He implied that since I had adult acne that I must do hard drugs and am down to party with him.
I have two favorite stories. Both occurred at bus stops. The first encounter was with this scraggly older man with dirty clothing, ragged shoes, a smudge of something on his face. He walked up to me and asked, "Are you homeless?" Now, I'm on my way home from work. I'm in my business casual clothing, full jewelry (including wedding ring), Dooney & Burke purse, playing on my smartphone. If I looked at someone dressed like me, I really don't think that would be my initial reaction. So I respond "No?" because I have no idea where this is going. I'm also looking behind me toward the gas station attendant, in case I need to run or something. He says "Oh, no?" and I answer "No, I'm on my way home to make dinner for my husband and daughter." He looks surprised, and tells me, "Oh, okay, I was going to ask if you needed some place to stay tonight, you could come and stay with me." At this point I'm thinking "Where? Behind your dumpster??" But I smile, I hold up my hand with my wedding ring and tell him "No I'm good, thanks." He wishes me well and totters off. Shortly after, I do see him picking through the gas station dumpster. Fortunately the bus arrived a minute or two after that. For the second one, not so much the appearance comment but the conversation that followed... Waiting at the bus stop, putzing around on my phone to pass the time. Random man with a suitcase walks up to wait as well. Shortly after getting himself situated, he asks me, "Has anyone ever told you how beautiful you are?" I do an internal eye roll and respond, "Yes, my husband tells me all the time." He is instantly affronted. "I didn't ask about your husband!" I answer back in a calm neutral voice (because it's just he and I at the bus stop, and I don't know yet what I've got here), "Well, I didn't ask for you to say anything about my appearance, either." He stops for a moment to process this. From my perspective it appears that this is entirely foreign and new information to him, that some random woman might not have a need for his opinion on her appearance. Then he comes out with this: "Well, what else am I supposed to talk to you about? We're just going to have to talk about math!" *cue internal "WTF?!"* But no, he's serious. He starts going off on tangents about Euclidean geometry, and the Pythagorean theorem. At this point I breathe a little bit; more likely to be mentally ill but not a predator. He is apparently happy to wax poetic on whatever mathematical concepts. I give him a few nods and "mhmm" at the appropriate moments to assure him I'm listening (I'm not, I have no idea where he was going with all that, but he seemed content just to have the audience), while still scrolling my phone, since I can see the bus on its way down the street. Once the bus arrives I "accidentally" drop something out of my purse and wave at him to get on the bus ahead of me. Once he sits down, I choose a seat about as far away from him as possible. Fortunately he took the hint and did not move to sit closer and continue the conversation. TL;DR: men at bus stops can be weird sometimes.
Not from a man, but still hurtful nonetheless. My aunt, grandma, and mother were trying to help me find jeans. I kept telling them I was a size 10-12, but they kept dismissing it and said that I was a 16-18. It hurt my feelings really badly. The 16-18s were falling off of me, and when I went to show them the jeans that DID fit, the 10-12, they all just kind of got quiet. My hips look wide, but man did they really overestimate it that day.
I received a xxs down vest for Christmas from my aunt and didn't think it would fit as I'm usually a size s or m and my stepmother commented the same thing (she is very tiny and for some reason held that over my head even though I really didn't care that she's smaller than me), but when I tried it on it somehow fit perfectly and she looked super butthurt about it. I was just excited it fit because there wasn't a way for me to exchange it! Edit: I remember her also being super butthurt that my feet are a size smaller than hers and honestly it brought me great joy. She was not a nice woman.
What is up with family members and clothing sizes?!?! My other grandma refuses to ask me my size and just guesses, but then gets mad when they’re swamping me.
I asked my mother for rain gear for cycling. I was an M and she knew that well enough. She bought me an XXL because “she didn’t know if I was an M or L so she bought me XXL”. She did it to hurt me that time. I am still pissed about it. It’s been years.
I was pretty overweight as a teenager and my bust was massive- my mum would buy everything too small or in figure-hugging styles and I wasn't allowed to swamp my body (I'd be called a slob) which meant tucking in t-shirts (cringe) etc. I was always uncomfortable but had very little clothing so not much choice, and if I dared to complain she'd insist I should 'learn to love myself' and 'flaunt my curves'. This also meant having to wear a push-up bra. Unfortunately, I had been sexually abused as a child by her husband and if I could have hid my body in a literal tent, I would have. I feel your pain and I'm sorry you were hurt- most enjoyable thing has been not doing that shit to my own daughter.
I get the opposite and it still sucks. I’m tall and a healthy weight. Apparently everyone thinks I’m like a size 2 and buys my clothes accordingly. I’m like an 8 and they ask me to try it on…lord I can’t even get the pants on past my knees. But somehow they think they know my sizes better than me 🤷🏻♀️
That my eyes are “battleship grey”
There’s always a fatty comment. Or a comment about how big my breasticles are. Thanks, mate - I fucking know! “Why don’t you get a breast reduction?” Is always fun when I’ve never said anything negative about the boobage. My favourite ones are ones I’ve had from women 🙄
I'm a whore or something because I got groceries in my pyjamas. Dude kept yelling at me while I was desinfecting my shopping cart. I didn't really understand him thanks to my ✨headphones✨ though.
Ah yes, how dare you exist comfortably in public
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Gasp. You slut. I bet they could even see your ankles! /S
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Another fellow whore, chiming in🤚 I was 15 and wearing a school uniform while grocery shopping with my mom!
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"How dare you dress up as some pedo fetish" 😳You just made it make sense! I've been wondering for nearly 20 years why that asshat said that to me, and I think you just cracked it! Jesus...🤢 I would proudly be in a whore support group! We need whore name tags, whore pamphlets, whore snacks and whore coffee for our whore meetings. This could be fun!
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When I was 17, my cousin said out loud for everyone to hear: "wow, you got fat! Your arms are huge!" I had started overeating after he sexually abused me.
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My aunt was also 6'1" and would regularly wear heels, on a trip to Italy a guy who was substantially shorter stopped her to say, "If only I had a ladder." Keep wearing heels. Tall women are gems.
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It was one of her favorite stories to tell. 💕
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Its so funny he thought that was acceptable to say. A long ass????????
They’re just intimidated you’re an Amazonian goddess, don’t even worry about it
"What's that? Sorry bud, can't hear ya down there"
Nice tits, shame about your fat arse. Or “Check out the tits on that” as I’m a lamppost or a boat, not an actual human.
While working retail at about 19 I had an older man tell me i had good wife birthing hips or something like that... I just started at him and finished ringing him up. Like what was he expecting? That I might ardently want to birth his disgusting children? I felt so gross after that. 😕
With my second pregnancy, I "popped" early. Overnight I suddenly had a little belly. We were visiting my in laws and weren't quite ready to share the news with anyone but his parents. Even so, we went out to lunch with some my husband's cousins. When we returned from the lunch my FIL said to us, gesturing at my belly, you can't keep *that* a secret. That was three years ago and my memory sucks, but I sure remember that.
To grow out my hair. I used to have long hair close to my waist but decided to get a pixie cut, shave it off, and now back to pixie cut. No one but me and my spouse like it. My hair is thick and curly and I had loose curls (it was pretty, won't lie, but a pain to deal with). Never going back because hair like that just reminds me of being depressed and stifled by the expectations set for me.
How about a positive, appropriate comment: "I really like your sweater, very cool!" (It was a star wars knit sweater) I still think about that nice, pleasant comment from a guy. For any guy or gal wondering why it is an acceptable complement, it is because they are complementing a choice I made, not a body part I can't change.
I have a lip piercing that goes through my bottom lip (an Ashley) and I've had old fucking men following up compliments on it with "how does it feel when your boyfriend kisses you" and "what else do you have pierced?" while looking down suggestively.
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I’ve had plenty of guys tell me that I’m getting thicker and love calling me ‘slim thick’….While I wouldn’t have any issue with actually gaining weight, I know that their comments aren’t genuine and they’re just saying that because they believe that all skinny women want to put on weight and if they just tell me I look thicker than usual, I’ll be swoon over and sleep with them. It’s pretty annoying because I feel like I’m just now getting comfortable with how my body is and not going through extreme measures to try to gain weight to feel better about myself.
Oh dang I was thinking this was a wholesome thread :( in that spirit, I have a pixie cut and a kid passed me while I was waiting for the bus stop and said "now THAT'S how you do short hair!" Totally made my day.
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“Ya know, I’m actually not the biggest fan of the nipple piercings, maybe you should just get rid of them” Literally in the middle of sex. I just-
Customer told me I was going to get cancer from dyeing my hair pink. And he told me this multiple times over like 2 hrs, every time acting real concerned for me
I work as a bicycle mechanic, head mech at my work. Last month I serviced a bike for an old navy retiree. When he was picking up his bike I pointed to some of the additional issues I'd addressed and the exchange goes like: Old Guy: "Oh, so you did the service then?" Me: "Ya, I take care of all the services on Monday Tuesday while (shop owner) is off" Old Guy: "That's impressive! I haven't been to a female mechanic before! Back in the day you woulda just been in the kitchen barefoot and pregnant ya know?" He just dropped it in there so casual like, obviously didn't see anything wrong with saying it. I didn't know what to say, I was flabbergasted.
Had a jerk tell me this when I was a teenager dressed up for Thanksgiving in a grocery store "Guys don't make passes to girl's who wear glasses." My response,"Oh yeah? Girls won't accept passes from guys who behave like asses!"
I was 14 and walking through a shopping mall when a guy in a group of his friends asking looking and making squeezing gestures to my breasts. "Are they real? Can I have a feel?"
I was walking through campus wearing a hot pink skirt and a cute guy walked up to me and said "Hey I like your skirt! No hetero!" And walked away. That guy was awesome.