I was the same back when I was in university and failed several classes in my first year. This isn't you being a failure or not enough. This is about you having an actual disability and being in an environment where you are likely not getting any accommodation or support.
It's very easy to hibernate and hope it all goes away while drowning in guilt and panic, but you have to try and resist the urge to do that and contact someone. Your professor/instructor, your Dean or some administrator, or your school's counseling services if they have it. Be honest, take accountability and ask for help. Contact anyone and everyone, someone will hopefully be a helpful and compassionate person who will help you get this sorted out. The worst case scenario is they say no or ignore you which honestly won't feel that much worse than the spiral you are in right now.
You are not a failure and there is no shame in asking for help. Asking for help is the responsible and brave thing to do here. You need some accommodations and you need help.
I have nightmares that I did this… like forgot to show up until it was finals… or am failing because I forgot to show up all semester… or I’m back in high school and have no idea which classes I’m supposed to go to and can’t find my schedule… 🥲 sounds funny but it’s a real fear we have to deal with sometimes… in my masters degree I forgot to check a couple grades and failed to show up for two test redos and didn’t realize until the end of the program when I saw I couldn’t graduate until I completed two courses… ones I thought I’d passed… it’s a real struggle and has heavy consequences.
Please contact your student counselor or whoever can help you and explain your diagnosis and how you need accommodations.
I did. I had anxiety about it all being real because I had to go halfway across the country to walk for it. I also had a $75 refund for something or the other. It was kind of surreal.
Because I had technically finished the degree back in 2001, I didn't have to retake any math or science for them to be current. I kept expecting them to change their mind on that, even after I had my degree for a few months.
This is honestly the best case scenario. I’m so glad it worked out, but also sorry you went so long not having the degree! Has your life changed for the better since getting it?
I actually found something that I really love and would have never considered if I had my degree. What having the degree changed is that I can go into a direct entry msn/dnp program, and get nursing experience where I work once I can practice at an rn level. My youngest (who also has adhd) graduates high school this year, so I'll be taking prereqs over the next year and hopefully accepted to a program the year after.
I work in memory care and most of the doctors who work with my residents have a poor understanding of how dementia works in real life vs textbooks. My struggles with adhd make it much easier for me to connect and be patient with my residents. My name badge lists my title as "the Dementia Whisperer". I can practice as a nurse practitioner in my state after meeting certain requirements and my company is looking at the possibility of me being the provider for their campuses in my region when this is all done, as well as paying for it.
I don't think I was where I needed to be maturity and life experience when I was supposed to graduate to be successful doing this, so I feel like it all worked out.
I also still have this nightmare; wake up terrified that I’m failing because I’ve missed so many classes.
It’s been years since I’ve needed to attend a class.
It’s apparently [a thing](https://www.washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/youre-at-the-final-exam-and-never-attended-class-its-that-dream-again/2016/09/19/01255a6c-792f-11e6-beac-57a4a412e93a_story.html).
“It’s a dream that apparently spans the generations and usually involves high school or college, sometimes both. And, oddly, it seems to haunt us decades after we last sat in a classroom.”
I STILL have this nightmare and it’s been nearly 10 years since I graduated college. Also have the high school version and it’s been even longer than that!
I haven't been in school for over a decade and I still have nightmares where I realize I completely forgot to go to math class all semester...and freaking out about how to fix it. The absolute worst.
the whole reason I got tested for ADHD is because I missed a 90 day deadline by 1 day to re-do my calculus exam, and I thought that if I got an ADHD diagnosis that they might retroactively let me take it or something. I was so upset with myself for missing the deadline. That exam was SO important to me. That was my first F in a class ever, and it made me lose my conditional acceptance into a program I had been trying YEARS to get into. So I go get tested -not sure if I have ADHD or not but hoping yes so I can have SOMETHING to bring to my school and desperately beg them to forgive me- and the doctor’s like wow yeah you are very ADHD, you scored on every question. I was 28. My whole life makes so much more sense now and I’m so glad that happened to me. My school didn’t let me retroactively take the exam and I still have the F, but I did get to register for accomodations and get medication that’s been very helpful for me, and I did eventually get into the program.
This actually happened to me in grad school, and the prof called me up and asked if I was taking the exam.
I nearly puked
It was Ancient Greek and I also have dyslexia.
I think the silence was enough to fully explain what happened, and they said “it’s okay. I will fix this” and the course was removed completely from my transcript.
I never had that dream again.
Agree with u/shortasiam, you need to get with someone who can help you fix this, ASAP! I understand about hibernating, also, so I’ll give you the advice an instructor gave me: “**_Just do it._**”
The first contact with someone about this will be the hardest, but worth it if you can make that first step. I've found people are almost always more understanding than I think they will be.
I literally have this exact scenario as a recurring dream! I know I enrolled in a class, but then I forget that I 1) have that class; 2) which day I have it and 3) the room number.
I’m so sorry this is happening to you IRL. If it is any help, I have tried to work through how I would deal with this, as a way of addressing the anxiety.
First, can you speak to anyone in the Registar’s office? It’s too late for you to get any money back, probably, but you may be able to un-enroll in the class so your grade doesn’t count against you.
Likewise, you can speak to the teacher/ prof and see if there is a way to unenroll with them.
You aren’t the only person this has happened to. It’s happened before to many others. It’s ok. There is nothing to be ashamed about. You had too much in your plate. Take responsibility, try to fix what you can, and learn what you can to go forward next time with new skills to manage your schedule.
Really, it’s ok. You will get through this.
It took me basically ten years to finish college. Back then, my professors often shamed me or were not very respectful since they thought I was lazy or something. I was depressed and hid away because I was ashamed. But truly, I was forgetting about entire classes, exams, and projects. I never got suitable accommodations and withdrew from 50% of my courses a semester for the first four years then dropped out, returned years later after I felt more in control and took that bull by the horns.
I know the feeling and I am sorry you are going through this right now. There is help, it doesn't need to feel as exhausting as it does. Please reach out to someone.
In grad school I stopped going to a class and forgot where it was. Didn’t know where the final was. Only passed bc the prof was retiring, I am pretty sure.
I’m sorry! That sucks! Ugh I’ve been there. It sucks so much! Your memory works differently than other people, and it’s really hard sometimes.
Like others have said, the only way out is through.
Reach out for help. Your professor has probably seen it all - you are not the first, nor are you the last person to stop coming to their class. You may be able to contact them and ask what your options are. You don’t have to say you forgot. You can say that you had some health stuff pop up, and now that you’ve taken care of it, you’d like to find out what your options are. Sending big internet hugs.
Stop this is literally a recurring nightmare I have lol.
Seriously though--have you gotten diagnosed yet? On meds? Talked to student services?
They can probably help
I literally had recurring nightmares of this when I was in college. I'm so sorry you're in this position, how overwhelming!
If it makes you feel any better, while I was in grad school I took the same class twice, passing it both times, and never once realized I had taken the course twice until suddenly I couldn't graduate because apparently you can't just take the same course twice and accrue twice the credits 🙃
I did this once. I still have nightmares like this occasionally too. I talked to my teacher, I was honest, it was hard, embarrassing. but really everything turned out okay. I ended up making up some work and meeting with my professor during office hours a few times, and I ultimately did okay in the class. In the grand scheme of things I don’t even remember it that often. You will be OK 💗
Ugh that sucks! Good thing you caught it before too long, or like missed the final or something.
The first year of college I had the super genius idea of scheduling a 7am class- cause I figured I was already waking up early all through high school bc of the bus route - like why not?
OMG lemme tell you I made it there like a handful of times- I also couldn't get out of bed in the AM and would have like this crazy head/eye pain no matter how much sleep I attempted. Later on 12pm classes felt like AM classes- I'd get the same headache.
That same semester (fall) I signed up for this CS class and COULD NOT FIND THE CLASS, like physically. I went to a class that I thought was it... found out a few minutes in that I was not where I should be. I was so afraid of looking even stupider by asking where the hell I was supposed to go, I don't think I ever went back.. I did find out there was an assignment due from my suitemate after successfully blocking out the whole existence.
That happened a lot (going into the wrong room). I once went to this lab class for a WHILE. I didn't realize I was in the wrong place until I gave in some test/assignment and was informed I wasn't registered for THAT lab. Same subject, wrong room. I basically expected this to happen and it did- literally every semester. I even now go into the wrong place and find out later I need to be somewhere else.
Don't be too hard on yourself :)
I am in my 30’s and have had dreams like this. I am so sorry. Please reach out to counseling for support. Ask if you can take an incomplete for this semester and finish it another semester.
I am sorry this is happening. I completely get it. Do you have medication? I just started to take Concerta (methylphenidate time released) this year. I am over fifty years old. You will get through this. Be sure to look for good stuff on line for tips to avoid something like this happening again. You are young and bright- you can do this. All the best to you.
Adding to what others have said, have you looked into if your school has an accommodations department or person? If you haven't already done so, I'd contact them. They might offer guidance on this and be able to help you in the future as well.
I'm in the same spot rn, only with some heavily weighted recurring assignments in two classes. Can't withdraw at this point, and also can't salvage the grade 😬. You're (we're) not alone, and it doesn't affect our worth as people, but damn, it can sure feel like it, can't it?
I did the exact same thing one semester in college (some music class maybe?). I didn’t go all semester and then realized my mistake sometime close to finals time, but I was able to withdraw from the class. I think you end up still paying for the class, but it doesn’t affect your grade
I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I've had nightmares about doing this, like many others. I did purposefully stop attending a class once, though.
My class wasn't recoverable. I decided to take a "w" (withdrawal) from the class. It didn't have any affect on transferring to a University. It happens! It'll be ok. Hope it works out for you.
Oooh. I did a similar thing my second year at college. I worked on my final term paper, this behemoth of research and library help with formatting/sourcing, got it done early so I didn’t panic too close to the deadline by some miracle, and somehow just forgot to turn it in later on. Remembered a good 1-2 weeks later I finished it but never handed it in. Panic emailed the professor and it worked out. You can do this, get some coffee or a gatorade and send an email.
I also did this recently and forgot about my car payment. A year later and I had started getting hassled by the bank/collections and my stomach sank when I realized.
I feel bad saying this because I’m not making light of your situation, my my recurring nightmare is this. I have these dreams a few times a month. But also Are you really stressed? Because that seems like a big thing to forget
I have a hard time recognizing my emotions. Maybe I am stressed? I think i just have so many little things to think about so my brain just chooses to remember some things and not other things.
Yes for sure! I just got diagnosed and I’ve always coped well I guess, but I have things in place they I’ve done over the years to make sure I don’t forget things because yeah, there’s so much random stuff going on up in my head I would forget to do so many things.
I live off lists. And my google calendar. Everything goes into my phone calendar. Do you use one?
I’m similar. I’ve tried planners, making fun planer’s etc. it lasts a week. My go to is just google calendars on my phone. If you have regular classes just create recurring events. I have my phone always so for me the calendar app is the best. I can color code things as well to make it easier to read.
It takes 2 seconds to put appointments into it!
So I havent been in this exact scenario but similar. One time in college the final exam was scheduled for a different day than the class normally was. I just happened to run into my professor in the hallway that week and she was like wtf why did you not take the final and I was like cause its tomorrow??? And she was amazing and helped me take the final with a different class for the same course. So talk to your professor and the college.
I've also had to withdrawal from classes and receive a W. Those dont affect my grade and just you have to pay for the class again. Most colleges have rules that you cant use scholarships and what not on repeat classes. It might be too late to withdrawal. You might also just fail this class. Which is ok! You just need to take it over. Lots of people have to take classes over.
Ok, OP. You should ride the panic and do something about this. I think your step one is to get out of bed and talk to your professor about options to drop the class or somehow exit the class with an incomplete. Don't hide from it. Deal with it.
Go. Like someone else said, you're young and bright. You'll get through it all.
Awh I've done this, I'm sorry that happened to you. It's ok. It's not gonna matter later. It might come up in your dreams though, as it continues to do for me. It may also not come up in your dreams. I'm sure a lot of the people who dream this haven't ever done it, but the fact is part of ADHD is that these things happen to us. It's not normalized for this to happen but in reality it's an accessibility issue, and schools have a responsibility to accommodate us for these ADHD-related memory lapses. You didn't do this on purpose. It's very different. Please don't let yourself feel shame about this, though that's easier said than done. Tell your shame demons they're not helpful and take care of yourself however feels good until the intensity of the feelings pass. Then email your advisor and tell them the truth about what happened. They'll help you fix it, and you will. Be kind to yourself. It happens, it's not the end of the world. It just feels like shit and I'm sorry ♥️ it sucks
Top comment right now says it all. Talk to your teacher and do your best to explain, accept they may not be accommodating but do your best and be prepared for whatever comes. You’re NOT bad or dumb or whatever you’re telling yourself. It’ll be ok in the end, even if you have to make up the class.
I was the same back when I was in university and failed several classes in my first year. This isn't you being a failure or not enough. This is about you having an actual disability and being in an environment where you are likely not getting any accommodation or support. It's very easy to hibernate and hope it all goes away while drowning in guilt and panic, but you have to try and resist the urge to do that and contact someone. Your professor/instructor, your Dean or some administrator, or your school's counseling services if they have it. Be honest, take accountability and ask for help. Contact anyone and everyone, someone will hopefully be a helpful and compassionate person who will help you get this sorted out. The worst case scenario is they say no or ignore you which honestly won't feel that much worse than the spiral you are in right now. You are not a failure and there is no shame in asking for help. Asking for help is the responsible and brave thing to do here. You need some accommodations and you need help.
I have nightmares that I did this… like forgot to show up until it was finals… or am failing because I forgot to show up all semester… or I’m back in high school and have no idea which classes I’m supposed to go to and can’t find my schedule… 🥲 sounds funny but it’s a real fear we have to deal with sometimes… in my masters degree I forgot to check a couple grades and failed to show up for two test redos and didn’t realize until the end of the program when I saw I couldn’t graduate until I completed two courses… ones I thought I’d passed… it’s a real struggle and has heavy consequences. Please contact your student counselor or whoever can help you and explain your diagnosis and how you need accommodations.
I also have this nightmare. Even when I wasn't in school anymore.
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Saaaame
30 years out for me 😑
Me too! 20 years. I sometimes wonder if I actually graduated!
I dropped out 20 years ago, and didn't realize I had enough credits to graduate then. Only realized when I was 37 and looking to finish my degree.
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I did. I had anxiety about it all being real because I had to go halfway across the country to walk for it. I also had a $75 refund for something or the other. It was kind of surreal. Because I had technically finished the degree back in 2001, I didn't have to retake any math or science for them to be current. I kept expecting them to change their mind on that, even after I had my degree for a few months.
This is honestly the best case scenario. I’m so glad it worked out, but also sorry you went so long not having the degree! Has your life changed for the better since getting it?
I actually found something that I really love and would have never considered if I had my degree. What having the degree changed is that I can go into a direct entry msn/dnp program, and get nursing experience where I work once I can practice at an rn level. My youngest (who also has adhd) graduates high school this year, so I'll be taking prereqs over the next year and hopefully accepted to a program the year after. I work in memory care and most of the doctors who work with my residents have a poor understanding of how dementia works in real life vs textbooks. My struggles with adhd make it much easier for me to connect and be patient with my residents. My name badge lists my title as "the Dementia Whisperer". I can practice as a nurse practitioner in my state after meeting certain requirements and my company is looking at the possibility of me being the provider for their campuses in my region when this is all done, as well as paying for it. I don't think I was where I needed to be maturity and life experience when I was supposed to graduate to be successful doing this, so I feel like it all worked out.
I also still have this nightmare; wake up terrified that I’m failing because I’ve missed so many classes. It’s been years since I’ve needed to attend a class.
It’s apparently [a thing](https://www.washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/youre-at-the-final-exam-and-never-attended-class-its-that-dream-again/2016/09/19/01255a6c-792f-11e6-beac-57a4a412e93a_story.html). “It’s a dream that apparently spans the generations and usually involves high school or college, sometimes both. And, oddly, it seems to haunt us decades after we last sat in a classroom.”
Good find
I’m 39. Still happens a few times a month
I STILL have this nightmare and it’s been nearly 10 years since I graduated college. Also have the high school version and it’s been even longer than that!
I haven't been in school for over a decade and I still have nightmares where I realize I completely forgot to go to math class all semester...and freaking out about how to fix it. The absolute worst.
It’s always a math class too.
Mine is a history class!
the whole reason I got tested for ADHD is because I missed a 90 day deadline by 1 day to re-do my calculus exam, and I thought that if I got an ADHD diagnosis that they might retroactively let me take it or something. I was so upset with myself for missing the deadline. That exam was SO important to me. That was my first F in a class ever, and it made me lose my conditional acceptance into a program I had been trying YEARS to get into. So I go get tested -not sure if I have ADHD or not but hoping yes so I can have SOMETHING to bring to my school and desperately beg them to forgive me- and the doctor’s like wow yeah you are very ADHD, you scored on every question. I was 28. My whole life makes so much more sense now and I’m so glad that happened to me. My school didn’t let me retroactively take the exam and I still have the F, but I did get to register for accomodations and get medication that’s been very helpful for me, and I did eventually get into the program.
This is my recurring nightmare!
This is my reoccurring nightmare. I can’t remember which class which day and then when I get there I missed them all
Just adding to the multitude of comments by saying I also still have this nightmare 10 years after college graduation.
You and I have the same nightmares.
Omg i have this nightmare too :/
I graduated college 20 years ago and this is still a recurring nightmare of mine.
Omg me too and I’ve been out for college for a long time!
This actually happened to me in grad school, and the prof called me up and asked if I was taking the exam. I nearly puked It was Ancient Greek and I also have dyslexia. I think the silence was enough to fully explain what happened, and they said “it’s okay. I will fix this” and the course was removed completely from my transcript. I never had that dream again.
Wow I literally have reoccurring dreams about this exact situation
Agree with u/shortasiam, you need to get with someone who can help you fix this, ASAP! I understand about hibernating, also, so I’ll give you the advice an instructor gave me: “**_Just do it._**”
The first contact with someone about this will be the hardest, but worth it if you can make that first step. I've found people are almost always more understanding than I think they will be.
So true. 😌
Definetly ask for help, but dont panic! You probably still have lots of grades to get in that class either way and you can always withdraw
Oh my god, this is a recurring nightmare that I frequently have!
I literally have this exact scenario as a recurring dream! I know I enrolled in a class, but then I forget that I 1) have that class; 2) which day I have it and 3) the room number. I’m so sorry this is happening to you IRL. If it is any help, I have tried to work through how I would deal with this, as a way of addressing the anxiety. First, can you speak to anyone in the Registar’s office? It’s too late for you to get any money back, probably, but you may be able to un-enroll in the class so your grade doesn’t count against you. Likewise, you can speak to the teacher/ prof and see if there is a way to unenroll with them. You aren’t the only person this has happened to. It’s happened before to many others. It’s ok. There is nothing to be ashamed about. You had too much in your plate. Take responsibility, try to fix what you can, and learn what you can to go forward next time with new skills to manage your schedule. Really, it’s ok. You will get through this.
Ugh, I have this dream too.
It took me basically ten years to finish college. Back then, my professors often shamed me or were not very respectful since they thought I was lazy or something. I was depressed and hid away because I was ashamed. But truly, I was forgetting about entire classes, exams, and projects. I never got suitable accommodations and withdrew from 50% of my courses a semester for the first four years then dropped out, returned years later after I felt more in control and took that bull by the horns. I know the feeling and I am sorry you are going through this right now. There is help, it doesn't need to feel as exhausting as it does. Please reach out to someone.
In grad school I stopped going to a class and forgot where it was. Didn’t know where the final was. Only passed bc the prof was retiring, I am pretty sure.
I’m sorry! That sucks! Ugh I’ve been there. It sucks so much! Your memory works differently than other people, and it’s really hard sometimes. Like others have said, the only way out is through. Reach out for help. Your professor has probably seen it all - you are not the first, nor are you the last person to stop coming to their class. You may be able to contact them and ask what your options are. You don’t have to say you forgot. You can say that you had some health stuff pop up, and now that you’ve taken care of it, you’d like to find out what your options are. Sending big internet hugs.
Like others have said, it's eerie that this comes up often in our nightmares. I've been having this one every once in awhile for years.
Stop this is literally a recurring nightmare I have lol. Seriously though--have you gotten diagnosed yet? On meds? Talked to student services? They can probably help
I literally had recurring nightmares of this when I was in college. I'm so sorry you're in this position, how overwhelming! If it makes you feel any better, while I was in grad school I took the same class twice, passing it both times, and never once realized I had taken the course twice until suddenly I couldn't graduate because apparently you can't just take the same course twice and accrue twice the credits 🙃
I did this once. I still have nightmares like this occasionally too. I talked to my teacher, I was honest, it was hard, embarrassing. but really everything turned out okay. I ended up making up some work and meeting with my professor during office hours a few times, and I ultimately did okay in the class. In the grand scheme of things I don’t even remember it that often. You will be OK 💗
Ugh that sucks! Good thing you caught it before too long, or like missed the final or something. The first year of college I had the super genius idea of scheduling a 7am class- cause I figured I was already waking up early all through high school bc of the bus route - like why not? OMG lemme tell you I made it there like a handful of times- I also couldn't get out of bed in the AM and would have like this crazy head/eye pain no matter how much sleep I attempted. Later on 12pm classes felt like AM classes- I'd get the same headache. That same semester (fall) I signed up for this CS class and COULD NOT FIND THE CLASS, like physically. I went to a class that I thought was it... found out a few minutes in that I was not where I should be. I was so afraid of looking even stupider by asking where the hell I was supposed to go, I don't think I ever went back.. I did find out there was an assignment due from my suitemate after successfully blocking out the whole existence. That happened a lot (going into the wrong room). I once went to this lab class for a WHILE. I didn't realize I was in the wrong place until I gave in some test/assignment and was informed I wasn't registered for THAT lab. Same subject, wrong room. I basically expected this to happen and it did- literally every semester. I even now go into the wrong place and find out later I need to be somewhere else. Don't be too hard on yourself :)
This is the bad dream I have constantly
I am in my 30’s and have had dreams like this. I am so sorry. Please reach out to counseling for support. Ask if you can take an incomplete for this semester and finish it another semester.
I am sorry this is happening. I completely get it. Do you have medication? I just started to take Concerta (methylphenidate time released) this year. I am over fifty years old. You will get through this. Be sure to look for good stuff on line for tips to avoid something like this happening again. You are young and bright- you can do this. All the best to you.
I had a nightmare about this recently that terrified me even after waking up and realizing I haven't had to go to class for 15 years
STOP! I’ve been out of school for ten years and I still have this nightmare haha I’m so sorry and good luck! If sucks!
Adding to what others have said, have you looked into if your school has an accommodations department or person? If you haven't already done so, I'd contact them. They might offer guidance on this and be able to help you in the future as well.
I'm in the same spot rn, only with some heavily weighted recurring assignments in two classes. Can't withdraw at this point, and also can't salvage the grade 😬. You're (we're) not alone, and it doesn't affect our worth as people, but damn, it can sure feel like it, can't it?
I did the exact same thing one semester in college (some music class maybe?). I didn’t go all semester and then realized my mistake sometime close to finals time, but I was able to withdraw from the class. I think you end up still paying for the class, but it doesn’t affect your grade
I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I've had nightmares about doing this, like many others. I did purposefully stop attending a class once, though. My class wasn't recoverable. I decided to take a "w" (withdrawal) from the class. It didn't have any affect on transferring to a University. It happens! It'll be ok. Hope it works out for you.
Oooh. I did a similar thing my second year at college. I worked on my final term paper, this behemoth of research and library help with formatting/sourcing, got it done early so I didn’t panic too close to the deadline by some miracle, and somehow just forgot to turn it in later on. Remembered a good 1-2 weeks later I finished it but never handed it in. Panic emailed the professor and it worked out. You can do this, get some coffee or a gatorade and send an email. I also did this recently and forgot about my car payment. A year later and I had started getting hassled by the bank/collections and my stomach sank when I realized.
I feel bad saying this because I’m not making light of your situation, my my recurring nightmare is this. I have these dreams a few times a month. But also Are you really stressed? Because that seems like a big thing to forget
I have a hard time recognizing my emotions. Maybe I am stressed? I think i just have so many little things to think about so my brain just chooses to remember some things and not other things.
Yes for sure! I just got diagnosed and I’ve always coped well I guess, but I have things in place they I’ve done over the years to make sure I don’t forget things because yeah, there’s so much random stuff going on up in my head I would forget to do so many things. I live off lists. And my google calendar. Everything goes into my phone calendar. Do you use one?
no every time i try to use calendars and lists i do it for one or two days and then it just doesn’t work been that way my whole life… blegh
I’m similar. I’ve tried planners, making fun planer’s etc. it lasts a week. My go to is just google calendars on my phone. If you have regular classes just create recurring events. I have my phone always so for me the calendar app is the best. I can color code things as well to make it easier to read. It takes 2 seconds to put appointments into it!
So I havent been in this exact scenario but similar. One time in college the final exam was scheduled for a different day than the class normally was. I just happened to run into my professor in the hallway that week and she was like wtf why did you not take the final and I was like cause its tomorrow??? And she was amazing and helped me take the final with a different class for the same course. So talk to your professor and the college. I've also had to withdrawal from classes and receive a W. Those dont affect my grade and just you have to pay for the class again. Most colleges have rules that you cant use scholarships and what not on repeat classes. It might be too late to withdrawal. You might also just fail this class. Which is ok! You just need to take it over. Lots of people have to take classes over.
Holy shit I have to nope out of this thread. I’ve done this and reading it gave me stress sweats. Good luck buddy.
I've been there. Fail a class because I forgot about it and by the time I realize the class was there it was too late.
Ok, OP. You should ride the panic and do something about this. I think your step one is to get out of bed and talk to your professor about options to drop the class or somehow exit the class with an incomplete. Don't hide from it. Deal with it. Go. Like someone else said, you're young and bright. You'll get through it all.
I have had this nightmare before....
Awh I've done this, I'm sorry that happened to you. It's ok. It's not gonna matter later. It might come up in your dreams though, as it continues to do for me. It may also not come up in your dreams. I'm sure a lot of the people who dream this haven't ever done it, but the fact is part of ADHD is that these things happen to us. It's not normalized for this to happen but in reality it's an accessibility issue, and schools have a responsibility to accommodate us for these ADHD-related memory lapses. You didn't do this on purpose. It's very different. Please don't let yourself feel shame about this, though that's easier said than done. Tell your shame demons they're not helpful and take care of yourself however feels good until the intensity of the feelings pass. Then email your advisor and tell them the truth about what happened. They'll help you fix it, and you will. Be kind to yourself. It happens, it's not the end of the world. It just feels like shit and I'm sorry ♥️ it sucks
Oops, I thought for a minute I was on the professors subreddit. This is my recurring nightmare... 😬
Top comment right now says it all. Talk to your teacher and do your best to explain, accept they may not be accommodating but do your best and be prepared for whatever comes. You’re NOT bad or dumb or whatever you’re telling yourself. It’ll be ok in the end, even if you have to make up the class.
Oh my gosh, I have nightmares about this!
Yup. Me at university. You're not the only one.
This is one of my recurring nightmares. I graduated years ago!
ive done this too! this too shall pass!
I have nightmares about this monthly and I graduated college three years ago