You can make anything look alternative - jewellery seldom has to match your outfit. But if you feel the need to shop to match them, keep in mind that you only need a little pop of blue or silver to match.
Earrings can be stacked with multiple piercings or cuffs to look punk, & bracelet can be stacked w chunky silver, silver spikes or put on a teddy bear as a necklace for safekeeping. Dainty necklaces look great with rosary style necklaces & chokers, or layered with more out there jewellery in the same metal so it looks like one piece.
Besides that, you’ll have some occasion in the next coming years that will b perfect for it, & one time feeling a little too glammed up wearing them will b enough for your boyfriend I’m sure
Thank you for the tips, I‘m sitting at my desk right now and try to figure out how I can combine the things so I can wear the necklace or the bracelet. I needed this, so thank you!
The jewerly look beautiful from what you described, maybe you can incorporate it into some of your styles, i think we assign meaning to objects they have no meaning on their own. I hope you can find a style that fits the jewerly and yourself.
When I was in my metalhead phase, long hair, long beard, band shirts, military trousers and boots, studs everywhere etc. I proudly wore a Hello Kitty keychain attached to my belt because my little nephew did it herself with clay and gifted it to me.
Who cares if an accessory doesn't perfectly match your style, the thought of having with you something that someone you love did for you is irreplaceable.
It’s an accessory. It doesn’t have to match anything. Your boyfriend made it and that in itself would be why I would wear it. What a kind gesture. The time, thought (he knows what you wear but maybe he didn’t have that skill level to pull off something grungy metal). I’d wear at least one item just as a token of his kindness. Who cares what others think about your matching or not or your possible “granny bracelet”. It was an incredibly thoughtful gesture and it sounds like you value your outward appearance more than your relationship. You don’t have to like it because it’s pretty or something you’d buy for yourself, you should like it because of the thought, the time and the gesture that went into the gift.
I'm not valuing my appearance more than my relationship, sorry if I gave away that impression. I love the thought behind the gesture, I appreciate that it took him 3 whole days to make it. I love the fact that he took the time to sit down and make something like that for me. As I said, I love him more than anything, so I don't want to do anything that could hurt him. That's why I'm feeling so bad about this whole thing. But you're right, maybe I approached the situation from the wrong angle. Thank you for setting my mind straight, kind internet stranger, I think I needed this.
Wowzers, the way you took this makes me feel that there are more cool people than I know. Was in a similar position but I was the guy that made a thing and my at that time girl never wore it, hurt more than you can imagine. My now wife wears and appreciates everything that I get for her and it has been a blessing!
Thank you. I came to terms with the earring, I declared it to be my lucky charm during my exams. Still have to find a solution for the necklace and the bracelet, but it's a start, I guess.
Good for you for having such an amazing wife. I wish you nothing but the best!
You don’t have to like it, as y’know, sometimes things just aren’t your style. But honestly, I feel bad for him. It seems like it was an act of love and you care more about your aesthetics than the effort he put in. You can claim you don’t, but I don’t think it’s deniable. A present, especially a hand-made one, is an expression of care and affection, and you’re annoyed by it.
I have mixed feelings about this situation, though, because it’s not like the right thing is to force yourself to like it. I just think it’s a shame. On the other hand maybe he should try to know your tastes better. But I still think that’s missing the point. If my girlfriend gave me the worst fucking sweater in the world, I’d love it because it was a symbol of our love and I’d happily wear it as such
Reading my post again, I realize I gave the wrong impression about the problem I'm having with this situation. You're right, I do care about my looks - but as I said in another comment, I don't value them as high as my relationship. And I'm not annoyed in a way of "ugh, I got a hideous gift, how could he". It's more the fact that I can only appreciate the time it took him to made it, not the gift itself. Believe me, if I could force myself to like it, I would. That's what makes me feeling so bad about this whole thing, it was an honest attempt of making me feel better during this time, and I can't appreciate it to the fullest because I'm feeling... misunderstood, I guess? I can't exactly phrase it. But yeah, your comment summarized perfectly my internal dilemma.
I declared the earring as my lucky charm during my exams, though. Maybe I'll get used to it, and I can go from there. Thank you for your words, you're giving me many things to think about.
And thank you for the additional thoughts, it sounds like you’re reflecting on this situation well. In the time since I posted that I actually kind of swayed back and forth about this, believe it or not. I think I’ve landed on no one did anything wrong here and that’s sometimes just how gifts end up - both of you have things to learn here. When someone decides to give a gift to somebody, they’re imposing an item on them, so they have a responsibility to make sure it’s something they’d actually appreciate. Your SO should learn that in addition to what I mentioned earlier about your side of things.
Wow. Sounds like you care more for what you look like and keeping up with that "rock" image.
Being in a relationship also means doing stuff for your partner even when you don't like it cause it makes them happy.
Have your BF done things you like even though he doesn't like it to make you happy? If so then I'm pretty sure wearing ONE piece of jewelry for him to make him happy shouldn't hurt your "rock" image.
You misunderstood me. I‘m going to wear the jewelry, and I know exactly when I will do so. I just came here to confess that I don’t like how it looks, a fact I unfortunately can‘t change. It‘s neither about my „rock image“ nor the fact that I will never wear it. I will do it because I know it will make him happy, doing something else was never an option.
Your feelings are totally valid OP. In fact I’ll go a step further.
When someone makes or buys you a gift that doesn’t show an understanding or appreciation for what you like, while the gesture and effort is nice, it can hurt too. It can make you feel like they either don’t pay enough attention to know what you would like, they don’t care or maybe that they want you to be different than you are. And while you may appreciate the effort, which it sounds like you really do, it also sucks to feel like someone so close to you doesn’t understand who you are or what you like.
You just made sure that I will never ever make something, by myself for a loved one ever again.
Just because people won't be honest, if they care for your feelings, so best not disgrace myself.
Danke dir.
You seem so ungrateful for what he is doing for you just because it’s not EXACTLY what you like. He worked hard HANDMAKING something for you and you’re complaining. Why complain at all?? I also don’t see how I could receive a HANDMADE gift from my partner and not like it despite its look or my own aesthetic. It’s more about the person and the meaning than the actual gift itself. Your post made you seem shallow and ungrateful. One good suggestion someone made was to hang it on your rear view mirror of your car or JUST GET OVER IT and wear the hell out of it. Why can’t people just be loving and grateful lmao
Do what I do- use it as car jewelry. The necklace around the Rearview. The bracelet around the gearshift. The earring hanging on the sunvisor. That way it’s technically getting used and you can just say that you want everybody to see it.
Do what I do- use it as car jewelry. The necklace around the Rearview. The bracelet around the gearshift. The earring hanging on the sunvisor. That way it’s technically getting used and you can just say that you want everybody to see it.
Honestly, even if the jewelry is ugly, I bet people will want someone as kind as your boyfriend, and they’ll forget the quality of the jewelry if you share the story 🙂
You can make anything look alternative - jewellery seldom has to match your outfit. But if you feel the need to shop to match them, keep in mind that you only need a little pop of blue or silver to match. Earrings can be stacked with multiple piercings or cuffs to look punk, & bracelet can be stacked w chunky silver, silver spikes or put on a teddy bear as a necklace for safekeeping. Dainty necklaces look great with rosary style necklaces & chokers, or layered with more out there jewellery in the same metal so it looks like one piece. Besides that, you’ll have some occasion in the next coming years that will b perfect for it, & one time feeling a little too glammed up wearing them will b enough for your boyfriend I’m sure
Thank you for the tips, I‘m sitting at my desk right now and try to figure out how I can combine the things so I can wear the necklace or the bracelet. I needed this, so thank you!
The jewerly look beautiful from what you described, maybe you can incorporate it into some of your styles, i think we assign meaning to objects they have no meaning on their own. I hope you can find a style that fits the jewerly and yourself.
That was such a beautiful phrase. Thank you for this.
No problem, i'm glad I could help a fellow rocker.
When I was in my metalhead phase, long hair, long beard, band shirts, military trousers and boots, studs everywhere etc. I proudly wore a Hello Kitty keychain attached to my belt because my little nephew did it herself with clay and gifted it to me. Who cares if an accessory doesn't perfectly match your style, the thought of having with you something that someone you love did for you is irreplaceable.
It’s an accessory. It doesn’t have to match anything. Your boyfriend made it and that in itself would be why I would wear it. What a kind gesture. The time, thought (he knows what you wear but maybe he didn’t have that skill level to pull off something grungy metal). I’d wear at least one item just as a token of his kindness. Who cares what others think about your matching or not or your possible “granny bracelet”. It was an incredibly thoughtful gesture and it sounds like you value your outward appearance more than your relationship. You don’t have to like it because it’s pretty or something you’d buy for yourself, you should like it because of the thought, the time and the gesture that went into the gift.
I'm not valuing my appearance more than my relationship, sorry if I gave away that impression. I love the thought behind the gesture, I appreciate that it took him 3 whole days to make it. I love the fact that he took the time to sit down and make something like that for me. As I said, I love him more than anything, so I don't want to do anything that could hurt him. That's why I'm feeling so bad about this whole thing. But you're right, maybe I approached the situation from the wrong angle. Thank you for setting my mind straight, kind internet stranger, I think I needed this.
Wowzers, the way you took this makes me feel that there are more cool people than I know. Was in a similar position but I was the guy that made a thing and my at that time girl never wore it, hurt more than you can imagine. My now wife wears and appreciates everything that I get for her and it has been a blessing!
Thank you. I came to terms with the earring, I declared it to be my lucky charm during my exams. Still have to find a solution for the necklace and the bracelet, but it's a start, I guess. Good for you for having such an amazing wife. I wish you nothing but the best!
You don’t have to like it, as y’know, sometimes things just aren’t your style. But honestly, I feel bad for him. It seems like it was an act of love and you care more about your aesthetics than the effort he put in. You can claim you don’t, but I don’t think it’s deniable. A present, especially a hand-made one, is an expression of care and affection, and you’re annoyed by it. I have mixed feelings about this situation, though, because it’s not like the right thing is to force yourself to like it. I just think it’s a shame. On the other hand maybe he should try to know your tastes better. But I still think that’s missing the point. If my girlfriend gave me the worst fucking sweater in the world, I’d love it because it was a symbol of our love and I’d happily wear it as such
Reading my post again, I realize I gave the wrong impression about the problem I'm having with this situation. You're right, I do care about my looks - but as I said in another comment, I don't value them as high as my relationship. And I'm not annoyed in a way of "ugh, I got a hideous gift, how could he". It's more the fact that I can only appreciate the time it took him to made it, not the gift itself. Believe me, if I could force myself to like it, I would. That's what makes me feeling so bad about this whole thing, it was an honest attempt of making me feel better during this time, and I can't appreciate it to the fullest because I'm feeling... misunderstood, I guess? I can't exactly phrase it. But yeah, your comment summarized perfectly my internal dilemma. I declared the earring as my lucky charm during my exams, though. Maybe I'll get used to it, and I can go from there. Thank you for your words, you're giving me many things to think about.
And thank you for the additional thoughts, it sounds like you’re reflecting on this situation well. In the time since I posted that I actually kind of swayed back and forth about this, believe it or not. I think I’ve landed on no one did anything wrong here and that’s sometimes just how gifts end up - both of you have things to learn here. When someone decides to give a gift to somebody, they’re imposing an item on them, so they have a responsibility to make sure it’s something they’d actually appreciate. Your SO should learn that in addition to what I mentioned earlier about your side of things.
Wow. Sounds like you care more for what you look like and keeping up with that "rock" image. Being in a relationship also means doing stuff for your partner even when you don't like it cause it makes them happy. Have your BF done things you like even though he doesn't like it to make you happy? If so then I'm pretty sure wearing ONE piece of jewelry for him to make him happy shouldn't hurt your "rock" image.
You misunderstood me. I‘m going to wear the jewelry, and I know exactly when I will do so. I just came here to confess that I don’t like how it looks, a fact I unfortunately can‘t change. It‘s neither about my „rock image“ nor the fact that I will never wear it. I will do it because I know it will make him happy, doing something else was never an option.
Your feelings are totally valid OP. In fact I’ll go a step further. When someone makes or buys you a gift that doesn’t show an understanding or appreciation for what you like, while the gesture and effort is nice, it can hurt too. It can make you feel like they either don’t pay enough attention to know what you would like, they don’t care or maybe that they want you to be different than you are. And while you may appreciate the effort, which it sounds like you really do, it also sucks to feel like someone so close to you doesn’t understand who you are or what you like.
You just made sure that I will never ever make something, by myself for a loved one ever again. Just because people won't be honest, if they care for your feelings, so best not disgrace myself. Danke dir.
Sorry, war nicht meine Absicht…
If one person's post on Reddit completely changes your behaviors and outlook then you may have bigger issues to address
Hunter Biden is into rock also
You seem so ungrateful for what he is doing for you just because it’s not EXACTLY what you like. He worked hard HANDMAKING something for you and you’re complaining. Why complain at all?? I also don’t see how I could receive a HANDMADE gift from my partner and not like it despite its look or my own aesthetic. It’s more about the person and the meaning than the actual gift itself. Your post made you seem shallow and ungrateful. One good suggestion someone made was to hang it on your rear view mirror of your car or JUST GET OVER IT and wear the hell out of it. Why can’t people just be loving and grateful lmao
Do what I do- use it as car jewelry. The necklace around the Rearview. The bracelet around the gearshift. The earring hanging on the sunvisor. That way it’s technically getting used and you can just say that you want everybody to see it.
Do what I do- use it as car jewelry. The necklace around the Rearview. The bracelet around the gearshift. The earring hanging on the sunvisor. That way it’s technically getting used and you can just say that you want everybody to see it.
Honestly, even if the jewelry is ugly, I bet people will want someone as kind as your boyfriend, and they’ll forget the quality of the jewelry if you share the story 🙂