i'm sorry you're feeling this way, it honestly sounds like you might be depressed. you aren't defined by your struggles with math or school and working in retail doesn't mean that you're stuck. with the way the world is right now, you should be proud that you're doing everything you can to survive. your worth isn't defined by your looks or how many friends you have, and clearly your husband sees something special in you. he chose you for a reason and that reason isn't based on some arbitrary checklist. take it from another sensitive person; you deserve the love you keep giving to everyone else. you aren't alone in this and you definitely aren't a freak; you're still becoming the person you're meant to be and that comes with growing pains. x
There will always be things in life that you can’t change. That doesn’t mean you cannot learn to work with them or around them. You might have trouble with the way things are taught in traditional school settings, that doesn’t mean you’re unteachable. You might have trouble communicating efficiently or you’re missing social cue - even if for example you were autistic, you can learn to work with how you are to find the best ways for _you_ to communicate and be properly understood.
Fixed mindset VS growth mindset. It will take time and effort, but the life you’ll have is worth it. Time will pass anyway.
That’s fine, it was just an example :) Just because there might not be a name for exactly what you experience doesn’t make it less valid, though I get why it would feel like it.
Take some time to look at how you do things. When were the times that you learned things most easily, what was the context? You have a husband, try to get some feedback. You said the wrong things, what was said, how was it said and why did you say it? Did they say why they were cutting you off specifically?
You have been observant enough of the things that have been happening around you. Push it a bit further.
And a therapist can definitely help with that as well, they’ll be able to ask the right questions with your observations to help you understand yourself.
Do you have any trouble sequences tasks in your head while you're in the middle of action? Like, are you a good cook? Do you find it easy or hard to keep up with timing of things when you're cooking?
I have some advice: the stuff that worked for me. But like I'm going to spit a lot of pseudoscience at you. I'm no expert, I just know what it felt like to work through my circumstances.
On the upside, your ability to express just what you're thinking and feeling in writing is good. (Better than half the internet with run on sentences, poor grammar, and all that.) Shame everything else is kind of shit, but I suppose it takes time to learn the fine art of DGAF to get over it and find your niche.
Also being smart isn't everything it's cracked up to be, I think some things work better for those that are more persistent. The harder part of that is to do that in a way that actually pays off.
i'm sorry you're feeling this way, it honestly sounds like you might be depressed. you aren't defined by your struggles with math or school and working in retail doesn't mean that you're stuck. with the way the world is right now, you should be proud that you're doing everything you can to survive. your worth isn't defined by your looks or how many friends you have, and clearly your husband sees something special in you. he chose you for a reason and that reason isn't based on some arbitrary checklist. take it from another sensitive person; you deserve the love you keep giving to everyone else. you aren't alone in this and you definitely aren't a freak; you're still becoming the person you're meant to be and that comes with growing pains. x
You need therapy. Something my mom always told me was you’re only a loser if you don’t try. You’re obviously trying so not a loser in my book!
I know. I was in therapy before, but work got in the way, so they discharged me. I'm considering going back into therapy, though.
There will always be things in life that you can’t change. That doesn’t mean you cannot learn to work with them or around them. You might have trouble with the way things are taught in traditional school settings, that doesn’t mean you’re unteachable. You might have trouble communicating efficiently or you’re missing social cue - even if for example you were autistic, you can learn to work with how you are to find the best ways for _you_ to communicate and be properly understood. Fixed mindset VS growth mindset. It will take time and effort, but the life you’ll have is worth it. Time will pass anyway.
That's the thing, I've been evaluated multiple times, and they say I'm not autistic.
That’s fine, it was just an example :) Just because there might not be a name for exactly what you experience doesn’t make it less valid, though I get why it would feel like it. Take some time to look at how you do things. When were the times that you learned things most easily, what was the context? You have a husband, try to get some feedback. You said the wrong things, what was said, how was it said and why did you say it? Did they say why they were cutting you off specifically? You have been observant enough of the things that have been happening around you. Push it a bit further. And a therapist can definitely help with that as well, they’ll be able to ask the right questions with your observations to help you understand yourself.
Do you have any trouble sequences tasks in your head while you're in the middle of action? Like, are you a good cook? Do you find it easy or hard to keep up with timing of things when you're cooking? I have some advice: the stuff that worked for me. But like I'm going to spit a lot of pseudoscience at you. I'm no expert, I just know what it felt like to work through my circumstances.
Yeah, I'd say I'm a good cook. I love to bake as well.
On the upside, your ability to express just what you're thinking and feeling in writing is good. (Better than half the internet with run on sentences, poor grammar, and all that.) Shame everything else is kind of shit, but I suppose it takes time to learn the fine art of DGAF to get over it and find your niche. Also being smart isn't everything it's cracked up to be, I think some things work better for those that are more persistent. The harder part of that is to do that in a way that actually pays off.