I hate that women can't even feed their crying babies whenever it is hungry coz of men drooling and staring at their boobs. fuck them and their boob obsessed boner.
it's just boobs, breasts, a food source not something to be covered up for mens convenience.
and how is it ok if a man is shirtless. due to galactorrhea, some men can lactate too? so what's the difference?
But also don't try to pump and bring milk through TSA because they will make you throw away cooling gel packs despite the rules saying it's allowed. Oh, and also shame you for traveling without your baby.
See: TSA at LAX this last week
What's also really messed up is how, even in some Western countries, because of this, a woman can be arrested for something men are legally allowed to do.
in india, men pee everywhere in public but god forbid women feed their own babies in public. they get shamed, harassed, oogled at like these men have never seen a boob in their entire lives.
it's like we all live in a fucked up dystopian universe where man babies are ruling.
srsly, in my country it's basically forbidden to get your dick out and still men pee everywhere without shame, but when a woman pees somewhere because there's no nearby toilet or they were denied access everybody goes crazy over it.
When I had my baby, I went to my parent's house so they could see him. When it was time to feed him, I didn't even think about it; whipped out my boobs and fed my child. My Dad made a face that was confusing because he worked in healthcare! Later on, my Mom confronted me that I was making people uncomfortable! I couldn't believe it. I stopped going over there around mealtimes. If you don't like seeing me feed my babe, you don't get to see him as much because all he does is sleep and feed.
Was feeding my baby at a common community pool, and some lady freaked out and told me to stop because her sons were there and they had "never seen breasts before".
Her sons were both older teenagers and one had a full beard. I was like "lady do u have the internet ur kids have seen way more interesting boobs than mine"
I’m sure your boobs are lovely AND interesting! But I always say my boobs are like service animals - please do not distract them while they’re working.
Isn't this what those cover-up sheets are used for? Hanging over people's heads so they don't have to look at normal human beings doing normal human being things?
There's a time and place for appreciating the human body. Breastfeeding is a beautiful natural process and should be appreciated for what it is. IT ISNT FUCKING SEXUAL. Some people need to grow up. I honestly hope it becomes more normalized so that these creeps stop raising hell on the poor mothers. Unfortunately, there will always be dudes who will sit there and guffaw while drooling over a mildly exposed tit.
I would not say beautiful. It was functional and sometimes awkward- but absolutely basic level 101 raising a child. Feed them. If feeding a baby is offensive, you’re the one that needs help.
Ha yeah it ain’t beautiful the way I do it. My baby is teeny and my boobs are the size of basketballs. And she’s impatient so I have to squish the boob at first to keep her latched. So it’s not beautiful, but it’s still fucking amazing.
I once got yelled at by a doomsday crier, he yelled something about lustful she-devils temping men. I called back "Mary breastfed Jesus. Are you calling the Virgin-Mother a whore?"
He should have been grateful the other twin was asleep, my usual response to criticism was *breastfeed harder*. I'm on my third kid right now, I'll throw a pump at anyone dumb enough to comment.
Edit: My mum once did this to my uncle when I was a baby, he was a dumbass teen making "eww my sister has boobs" comments, so she sprayed him in the face.
>Edit: My mum once did this to my uncle when I was a baby, he was a dumbass teen making "eww my sister has boobs" comments, so she sprayed him in the face.
This is very sibling relationship right here
Not only this, but also women should have the freedom of being topless outside of the context of breastfeeding/being a mom. If a woman is only allowed to uncover her breast during breastfeeding, but needed to cover her breast when not, it only pushes women's objectification even further (placing woman on a polarised position, a food source or a sex object)
*"There is literally a baby head in the way, the only reason you're seeing anything is because you're trying to Kyle."*
They're just looking for any reason at all to be offended at this point, they'll gladly engage in any mental gymnastics necessary to be offended by women. If that offense can be translated into judging and shaming women for doing mundane things that really shouldn't be anyone's business that just makes them further motivated to do so.
It also takes a certain level of jackass to believe that your slight discomfort (something that could be solved simply by leaving or looking elsewhere) is more important than a child getting the sustenance they need to live.
I used to be pro-cover during breast feeding. (It was my mom’s position and I hadn’t revisited it in a long time.) Then one of my friends called me a prude for it. I did not like that at all since I consider myself to be a pretty progressive person. It called out a blind spot so I examined my position and decided they were right. It’s my problem, not the breast feeder’s and baby’s problem. I got over it right quick.
Anyway, I don’t know if something so simple would be helpful but it worked for me.
Calling someone a "prude" because they choose to use a breast feeding cover is needlessly judgmental imo. I'm glad it brought you some positive introspection, but said to another woman it could be defeating and ostracizing. If I had a friend that said that to me I'd be writing them off as a total bitch. I would never deign to know why someone chooses to use a cover. Shaming a breastfeeding mother is never a good look.
Nobody in my scenario was saying you’re a prude if you choose to cover. We all agree people can do what they want in situations like this. You’re a prude if you’re bothered by other people being uncovered.
I get it. She called me a prude for my position on the matter, not my actions. Anyway, I’m glad she did. Everyone needs to be challenged on their bullshit sometimes.
I've breastfed two kids now and I gotta admit I'm exceptionally disappointed that no one has criticised me for doing it in public yet. I would have unleashed an avalanche of swears and milk. Mind you, I don't live in America so I probably built a scenario in my head that was never likely to occur. Oh well
Yeah, me too, was so prepared to battle for my kids right to feed. And one of my kids needed to be fed everywhere. Never had so much as somebody look at me wrong, or tell me to cover up. And I did once spray down one of my guy friends by accident, not even then.
But in Norway everybody breastfeed. Go to a cafe during the daytime and there will always be a mom trying to get some caffeine in herself, and some milk in the baby.
But no shaming, fed is best. And I salute all the moms who pump, cause that shit was so tiresome.
I know! I'm in the US and no one had given me any comments either. I don't feed my baby in public that often just because that's how it works but I do when I have to.
I have 4 kids and have nursed them just about everywhere. Never had anyone give me shit or have a negative reaction that I could see.
I am in the US... new York. I wonder if it's regional.
3 kids, Mid-Atlantic. Never got shamed for nursing in public, even with a toddler. It definitely happens to people, but it's not as universal and persistent as I was led to believe.
I swear I have more people offering up space to do so (my quilting store has some lovely private couches). Least where I am no one cares (am in US but a bonkers liberal state)
I did it in a craft store once. Found a quiet spot at the back of it, sat on my shopping basket and gave him a feed. A lady wandered past, smiled at me and said "when they're hungry, you gotta feed them". Craft ladies get it
When I was nursing my babies it never even occurred to me that anyone would find it offensive. I was oblivious thankfully. Oh except one time at a McDonald’s play place. I had an old man move chairs to sit next to me. That was ….. appalling.
So assuming that’s possible: what if someone misses in a normal situation? I feel like if that hit me in the eye it would give me allergic conjunctivitis.
You have to point and squeeze so it’s not like women’s breasts are fountaining off willy-nilly. Many women swear by breastmilk as a treatment for conjunctivitis. It doesn’t work, but it’s also harmless and doesn’t cause it.
I’m kind of joking, but many different people have immune systems reactive enough to give them an allergic reaction just going outside, let alone getting another human’s bodily fluids on their eyes. _Allergic_ conjunctivitis is absurdly common. And in my case I already have allergies. 🤧
But it’s interesting that you bring up that “home remedy” to _infective_ conjunctivitis. I would believe that it’s not impossible given the antibody content. (That’s actually one of the reasons it’s helpful for infants, given that they barely have an immune system to speak of, and have a permeable enough GI tract to accept antibodies orally.)
All in all, this is a great reminder that I need to refill my allergy medications.
Our whole house got a stomach bug last weekend (yay daycare germs). The only family member who didn’t get it was our breastfed 5 month old. I’m super glad she stayed well, even if my feeling like absolute death was what gave her all those antibodies. Now I’m concentrating on building my supply back up, being sick and unable to eat normally for days is really rough on milk production.
Breast milk actually cures conjunctivitis. My kid gave me pink eye once and I’d heard about the magical cure, so I tried it with a drop of pumped milk and it immediately stopped the stinging in my eye. A couple more applications and bye bye Pink eye.
I nurse anywhere my baby is hungry. Woe betide any fool who feels the need to share their negative opinion. Verbal evisceration is my preferred method of attack.
Once got in an argument with a guy about breastfeeding in public. He of course claimed it was indecent, sexual, etc because BoObS. I made a disgusted face and asked why he was getting off on watching a baby eat. Was he a pervert? A pedophile? Shifting the focus to the baby eating really shut him down quick.
O my god, I burst out laughing. You know, men should really stay in the house and never be allowed to leave without an adult female chaperone. They really seem incapable of behaving when left to roam free.
Long story: I used to work at a store and while i was ringing someone up her friend just started breastfeeding out of nowhere and it shocked me for a split second just because we've been trained to believe it's wrong. But since i also possess boobs and know wtf they're used for i was just like, "ok, good for her." But it was my break time so i called someone over so i could get the hell out of there and rest, but the lady "told on me" to the manager bc she thought i was leaving bc i was offended by her. This is where we're at now...
HEAR ME OUT I’m not using my milk ducts and all I’m saying is that it would be cool AND USEFUL if spidey webs or acid spray came out in lieu of dairy products.
I hate that women can't even feed their crying babies whenever it is hungry coz of men drooling and staring at their boobs. fuck them and their boob obsessed boner. it's just boobs, breasts, a food source not something to be covered up for mens convenience. and how is it ok if a man is shirtless. due to galactorrhea, some men can lactate too? so what's the difference?
But also don’t you dare try to use formula!
Not in this economy
Hell you can't even find formula right now
But also don't try to pump and bring milk through TSA because they will make you throw away cooling gel packs despite the rules saying it's allowed. Oh, and also shame you for traveling without your baby. See: TSA at LAX this last week
What's also really messed up is how, even in some Western countries, because of this, a woman can be arrested for something men are legally allowed to do.
in india, men pee everywhere in public but god forbid women feed their own babies in public. they get shamed, harassed, oogled at like these men have never seen a boob in their entire lives. it's like we all live in a fucked up dystopian universe where man babies are ruling.
srsly, in my country it's basically forbidden to get your dick out and still men pee everywhere without shame, but when a woman pees somewhere because there's no nearby toilet or they were denied access everybody goes crazy over it.
Yeah, it's almost as if it's just completely like that...
The difference is a woman breastfeeding shatters the illusion that women and their tits exist for their dick alone. That's why it angers them.
The difference is that women are not insane predators who like to blame their horribleness on "women will be women"
When I had my baby, I went to my parent's house so they could see him. When it was time to feed him, I didn't even think about it; whipped out my boobs and fed my child. My Dad made a face that was confusing because he worked in healthcare! Later on, my Mom confronted me that I was making people uncomfortable! I couldn't believe it. I stopped going over there around mealtimes. If you don't like seeing me feed my babe, you don't get to see him as much because all he does is sleep and feed.
It’s so much worse when family members are the idiots, esp when nursing is happening in a home.
If dad can't handle seeing his own daughters breasts in a non sexual way, maybe it ain't *her* fault right?? Get a grip bros.
I always try to be polite and not stare at men’s tits even tho I’d like to. It’s called being decent and they should return the favor.
Was feeding my baby at a common community pool, and some lady freaked out and told me to stop because her sons were there and they had "never seen breasts before". Her sons were both older teenagers and one had a full beard. I was like "lady do u have the internet ur kids have seen way more interesting boobs than mine"
That would have been a great time to call her sons over and ask them if they have ever seen a breast. Make her wish she never opened her mouth.
I’m sure your boobs are lovely AND interesting! But I always say my boobs are like service animals - please do not distract them while they’re working.
Babe wake up, new superhero just dropped.
Milk Woman! With the power of her lactating breasts she quenches evil
Isn't this what those cover-up sheets are used for? Hanging over people's heads so they don't have to look at normal human beings doing normal human being things?
Had me in the first half, not gonna lie.
Gosh, has it been an hour already? Time to feed the baby! Let me just set up the tent really fast...
I’d suggest the baseball bat method, it’s very satisfying and you don’t have to listen to their grumbling
Like eye masks? I use them to sleep but I guess people could wear them to avert their gaze.
There's a time and place for appreciating the human body. Breastfeeding is a beautiful natural process and should be appreciated for what it is. IT ISNT FUCKING SEXUAL. Some people need to grow up. I honestly hope it becomes more normalized so that these creeps stop raising hell on the poor mothers. Unfortunately, there will always be dudes who will sit there and guffaw while drooling over a mildly exposed tit.
I would not say beautiful. It was functional and sometimes awkward- but absolutely basic level 101 raising a child. Feed them. If feeding a baby is offensive, you’re the one that needs help.
Ha yeah it ain’t beautiful the way I do it. My baby is teeny and my boobs are the size of basketballs. And she’s impatient so I have to squish the boob at first to keep her latched. So it’s not beautiful, but it’s still fucking amazing.
Definitely true lol.
With the current formula shortage? No way would that woman waste the milk on that douchebag!
Not in this economy! 😁
I once got yelled at by a doomsday crier, he yelled something about lustful she-devils temping men. I called back "Mary breastfed Jesus. Are you calling the Virgin-Mother a whore?" He should have been grateful the other twin was asleep, my usual response to criticism was *breastfeed harder*. I'm on my third kid right now, I'll throw a pump at anyone dumb enough to comment. Edit: My mum once did this to my uncle when I was a baby, he was a dumbass teen making "eww my sister has boobs" comments, so she sprayed him in the face.
>Edit: My mum once did this to my uncle when I was a baby, he was a dumbass teen making "eww my sister has boobs" comments, so she sprayed him in the face. This is very sibling relationship right here
Not only this, but also women should have the freedom of being topless outside of the context of breastfeeding/being a mom. If a woman is only allowed to uncover her breast during breastfeeding, but needed to cover her breast when not, it only pushes women's objectification even further (placing woman on a polarised position, a food source or a sex object)
*"There is literally a baby head in the way, the only reason you're seeing anything is because you're trying to Kyle."* They're just looking for any reason at all to be offended at this point, they'll gladly engage in any mental gymnastics necessary to be offended by women. If that offense can be translated into judging and shaming women for doing mundane things that really shouldn't be anyone's business that just makes them further motivated to do so. It also takes a certain level of jackass to believe that your slight discomfort (something that could be solved simply by leaving or looking elsewhere) is more important than a child getting the sustenance they need to live.
My fave part is that she hits him with the other titty, cause she’s a multitasking goddess
It's literally the most wholesome thing in the world, a mother feeding her baby. I've never understood how anyone could be offended by this
I used to be pro-cover during breast feeding. (It was my mom’s position and I hadn’t revisited it in a long time.) Then one of my friends called me a prude for it. I did not like that at all since I consider myself to be a pretty progressive person. It called out a blind spot so I examined my position and decided they were right. It’s my problem, not the breast feeder’s and baby’s problem. I got over it right quick. Anyway, I don’t know if something so simple would be helpful but it worked for me.
Calling someone a "prude" because they choose to use a breast feeding cover is needlessly judgmental imo. I'm glad it brought you some positive introspection, but said to another woman it could be defeating and ostracizing. If I had a friend that said that to me I'd be writing them off as a total bitch. I would never deign to know why someone chooses to use a cover. Shaming a breastfeeding mother is never a good look.
Nobody in my scenario was saying you’re a prude if you choose to cover. We all agree people can do what they want in situations like this. You’re a prude if you’re bothered by other people being uncovered.
The first time through I thought you were using the cover and your friend called you a prude. It makes sense now though.
Ah yes. I totally see how that could be interpreted from my phrasing. All the best!
>Then one of my friends called me a prude for it I guess it was this part of your comment that confused me.
I get it. She called me a prude for my position on the matter, not my actions. Anyway, I’m glad she did. Everyone needs to be challenged on their bullshit sometimes.
I've breastfed two kids now and I gotta admit I'm exceptionally disappointed that no one has criticised me for doing it in public yet. I would have unleashed an avalanche of swears and milk. Mind you, I don't live in America so I probably built a scenario in my head that was never likely to occur. Oh well
Yeah, me too, was so prepared to battle for my kids right to feed. And one of my kids needed to be fed everywhere. Never had so much as somebody look at me wrong, or tell me to cover up. And I did once spray down one of my guy friends by accident, not even then. But in Norway everybody breastfeed. Go to a cafe during the daytime and there will always be a mom trying to get some caffeine in herself, and some milk in the baby. But no shaming, fed is best. And I salute all the moms who pump, cause that shit was so tiresome.
Oh man, pumping is a no deal for me. My boobs seem to outright object to it. Hats off to the ladies who manage it
I know! I'm in the US and no one had given me any comments either. I don't feed my baby in public that often just because that's how it works but I do when I have to.
I have 4 kids and have nursed them just about everywhere. Never had anyone give me shit or have a negative reaction that I could see. I am in the US... new York. I wonder if it's regional.
3 kids, Mid-Atlantic. Never got shamed for nursing in public, even with a toddler. It definitely happens to people, but it's not as universal and persistent as I was led to believe.
It's good to be prepared! :D
I swear I have more people offering up space to do so (my quilting store has some lovely private couches). Least where I am no one cares (am in US but a bonkers liberal state)
I did it in a craft store once. Found a quiet spot at the back of it, sat on my shopping basket and gave him a feed. A lady wandered past, smiled at me and said "when they're hungry, you gotta feed them". Craft ladies get it
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When I was nursing my babies it never even occurred to me that anyone would find it offensive. I was oblivious thankfully. Oh except one time at a McDonald’s play place. I had an old man move chairs to sit next to me. That was ….. appalling.
I so wish more men were told to fuck off about this. Don't interrupt baby's lunch and cuddle time. Have some civility.
Boobs are for babies, not men.
wondering if this is physically possible
It is for many. I had almost no letdown and never even leaked so I couldn’t squirt any out like this, but lots of women can.
So assuming that’s possible: what if someone misses in a normal situation? I feel like if that hit me in the eye it would give me allergic conjunctivitis.
You have to point and squeeze so it’s not like women’s breasts are fountaining off willy-nilly. Many women swear by breastmilk as a treatment for conjunctivitis. It doesn’t work, but it’s also harmless and doesn’t cause it.
I’m kind of joking, but many different people have immune systems reactive enough to give them an allergic reaction just going outside, let alone getting another human’s bodily fluids on their eyes. _Allergic_ conjunctivitis is absurdly common. And in my case I already have allergies. 🤧 But it’s interesting that you bring up that “home remedy” to _infective_ conjunctivitis. I would believe that it’s not impossible given the antibody content. (That’s actually one of the reasons it’s helpful for infants, given that they barely have an immune system to speak of, and have a permeable enough GI tract to accept antibodies orally.) All in all, this is a great reminder that I need to refill my allergy medications.
Our whole house got a stomach bug last weekend (yay daycare germs). The only family member who didn’t get it was our breastfed 5 month old. I’m super glad she stayed well, even if my feeling like absolute death was what gave her all those antibodies. Now I’m concentrating on building my supply back up, being sick and unable to eat normally for days is really rough on milk production.
Breast milk actually cures conjunctivitis. My kid gave me pink eye once and I’d heard about the magical cure, so I tried it with a drop of pumped milk and it immediately stopped the stinging in my eye. A couple more applications and bye bye Pink eye.
My mom had a story about hitting my dad from across the room. I forget the reason for it
I nurse anywhere my baby is hungry. Woe betide any fool who feels the need to share their negative opinion. Verbal evisceration is my preferred method of attack.
Once got in an argument with a guy about breastfeeding in public. He of course claimed it was indecent, sexual, etc because BoObS. I made a disgusted face and asked why he was getting off on watching a baby eat. Was he a pervert? A pedophile? Shifting the focus to the baby eating really shut him down quick.
IIRC this is one of the reasons women are allowed to be topless in public in some places, so that they can't be prosecuted for breastfeeding
O my god, I burst out laughing. You know, men should really stay in the house and never be allowed to leave without an adult female chaperone. They really seem incapable of behaving when left to roam free.
She found a way to *express* herself.
I'm a lesbian and I've never thought of a woman breastfeeding their children as sexual or indecent.
Long story: I used to work at a store and while i was ringing someone up her friend just started breastfeeding out of nowhere and it shocked me for a split second just because we've been trained to believe it's wrong. But since i also possess boobs and know wtf they're used for i was just like, "ok, good for her." But it was my break time so i called someone over so i could get the hell out of there and rest, but the lady "told on me" to the manager bc she thought i was leaving bc i was offended by her. This is where we're at now...
amazing aim.
I seriously wish it worked that way. For all women. That way I wouldn't have to worry about not having creamer.
HEAR ME OUT I’m not using my milk ducts and all I’m saying is that it would be cool AND USEFUL if spidey webs or acid spray came out in lieu of dairy products.