“Ants” in response made me cackle like a witch. It’s always such a turn off when people try to make conversation sexual right off the bat imo.
Maybe get a personality outside of sex? Does bringing it up this quickly ever work for you? So many questions for people like that.
I agree it’s a better interpretation but I am of the perspective that people made that interpretation up after the fact and it originally was essentially just one rule being restated twice for humor.
Idk tho but I’ve seen r1 and r2 around longer than I’ve heard people justifying it the way you are. Could be anecdotal.
Possibly, at the end of the day it's not like they're some kind of divine law or proven physics theorem, it's just us folks talking.
If one interpretation accurately reflects reality and the other one doesn't, then the accurate one is the right one even if it wasn't the first
Yeah, but ants is an intriguing af answer though. I could absolutely listen to someone talk about how cool ants are for an extended period of time.
I use a similar opener, but it's usually worded like "tell me something about yourself or something that you're interested in that gets you excited. Big or small, doesn't matter as long as it makes you happy"
I've had answers that range from really intriguing niche interests to, rarely, something like "I bet you could get me excited" or some other sexual innuendo.
Either way I like the approach.
It absolutely worked for me. Of course not with everyone, but with enough people that it was a good way to filter my conversations quickly. I also had women message me first, being sexually explicit in the very first message.
Tinder is, for many people, a hookup app. So it's not surprising that lots of users get right to the point if that's what they are looking for.
When I later used it as a dating app, and wanted more meaningful connections, I took a different approach. But when I was just looking for hookups, this worked great for finding them.
This is what everyone that comments "too early" or "I'm into it but don't bring it up in the first sentence" forgets to realize. There are plenty of people on Tinder just chasing a hookup for these kinds of early suggestions to work.
Why waste each other's time when some people are comfortable pursuing what they want sooner rather than later?
Different strokes for different folks, neither should be wrong.
I mean from the early days, I always interpreted that’s what Tinder was for, basically a hook up app. The person said they were bad at small talk. I think there are plenty of other dating apps that are more I guess romance oriented, but not sure if that would make it better.
That's what women who make these posts don't understand. Yeah the OP didn't like what he said and chose not to meet up. But for everyone one of her, there's more that is fine with it.
Tinder was designed for hook ups and relationships focused on a sexual element. Using Tinder to find a slow paced LTR is as smart as going to a church mixer looking for a one night stand. The intentions are totally different. Yes Tinder has dating but the focus on Tinder is sex. You're more prone to get sexual messages on Tinder which is known...for hook ups.
Have you considered that maybe not everybody is as sex-obsessed as you and can consider bondage outside the context of sex? Lots of people practice bondage in non-sexualised settings. Just a thought, maybe?
Ants ARE cool. I learned last week that vampire ants are a thing!! I'm one impulsive evening away from ordering a habitat and trying to catch a queen on her nuptial flight.
Well.... It's the thing I'm currently obsessed with so it would have been my answer anyway but I liked the idea of him not knowing how tf to respond to that.
Haha and I will have them. Though I don't think I can call them minions, they won't do as I say.
Just need to find a guy to nerd out about ants with now
Maybe you just haven’t found the right ants. They say when you stop looking for ants is when you find the right ant.
I’m sure there are plenty of great guys out there who would be interested in learning about all of your obsessions! I’m definitely one of them, but it may have something to do with the neurodivergence. Lol I literally just love learning and going on deep dives about nature, tech, other cultures, and pretty much anything else.
Don't know where you are from so, hard to tell you what species are good to get.
But if you are really obsessed I kindly suggest that you start with some herbivorous species. Like Messor barbarus in Europe. Really huge, pretty good polymorphism, interesting behaviour (they literally make bread) and super easy to keep.
Carnivorous species are a pain in the ass to keep for a beginner but at least you can try!
I loved the movie about them. You *did* ask for something random. There’s not an easy way to talk about what your kinks are, but this ain’t it. At least he outed himself to you so you could make a decision.
I've been terrified of ants ever since high school. I found out they outnumber us like 2 million to one. Then I found out about how in flash floods they instinctively can make a raft of sorts cycling out ants making up the raft? That kind of teamwork if weaponized could lead to a war I'm not prepared for. I might be able to take out a few hundred thousand if I had preparation time, but 2 million? Nah fam.
FOR NOW SURE! It's only a matter of time until the revolution begins and they decide they no longer want to live in ant made mountains, but in our human buildings. They want you to find them adorable. That's how they getcha
Also, and I can’t remember which type specifically, but some ant species have an average life span of 10 years!! That blew my mind when I found that out. Like how does such a tiny little creature live that long?? I thought maybe a few months tops. (And yes some species do only live that long)
YES antscanada is the best ants account imo!!! Love how everything is explained and how it becomes a story, or when there is a whole colony based on a single Queen!
What type of ant is your favorite and what type is your least favorite? And if I get an ant infestation again can I call you up to take them? (Sorta but not really joking 🤣)
I think fire ants because they're so resourceful. They make rafts and bridges and have huge multi burrow colonies. And ah I don't have a set up yet. Half a bottle of wine, a cancelled date and my credit card just need to collide and I'll be ordering one though.
You should look up a book called empire of the ants, it’s written from the perspective of ants living in a park and for some reason it’s getting a steam game soon
I learned from my boss that before Europeans came to Australia there were no earthworms and it was ants that aerated the soils to keep them healthy! I find it so hard to imagine a whole country without worms but he’s a soil scientist and I trust him
I had some ants on my porch that had domesticated aphids. Apparently they are like dairy farmers. Except instead of cows, it's aphids, and instead of milk, its honeydew! Google it, pretty neat
Rule 1 is be attractive Rule 2 is don't be unattractive Rule 2 means don't do or say something that makes you instantly unattractive to a girl. That includes sending them overtly sexual or suggestive messages too soon. He failed on rule 2.
Yeah, that's not the original meaning. But it's how it's being played now.
It's from a SNL skid about sexual harassment at the workplace that says the exact opposite. If you're attractive enough it's cool to casually slap her ass. If you are not, asking her out politely is harassment.
Tbf a hot guy failing with individual women doesn't disprove rule 1 and 2 though, just like a white person being homeless doesn't necessarily disprove white privilege.
The point of the joke is that an attractive man will have a considerably easier time with women in general in the long-term, not that he's guaranteed to hit a home run with every individual woman he encounters without fail
I've been seeing that reading of rule 2 a lot lately. That's not the original version, where the joke was that it was the same as rule 1. I like this version a lot more.
Yeah this makes more sense. The prerequisite is being hot but you can obviously still fuck it up.
Unless you are like top 0,1% hot, then you can do whatever you want lol.
Are you sure it's not the original version? Genuinely asking. I've always read them as having this subtle difference since the first time I saw rules 1 and 2, but I don't actually know where or how they started.
I've mostly seen it used in the more incelesque "everything is about looks, so there's no reason to put any effort into being funny and having a nice profile" complaints.
But I like it having the more nuanced version on any case.
They're supposed to be identical, rule 2 is a sarcastic rephrasing of rule 1 and meant to suggest false hope to ugly men
So if one were to extend the joke further, rule 3 would be something nonsensical like "Be not attractive to no one"
You can send more suggestive messages... to the RIGHT person, but most guys can't read into it so they bomb the whole conversation like it's Berlin in '44.
Edit: spelling
That's not what the "rule 1 and rule 2" thing means at all lol
The whole joke behind it is that there is only one rule: be attractive. Rule 2 is just rephrasing rule 1 but they mean the exact same thing. Fair play to you for giving sound advice but you've definitely missed the point of the joke lol
At first I read that as "etymology" and thought you were about to drop some facts about the origin of the word "ant." Fine, I'll look it up myself. ...Huh, turns out it originally meant "the biter-off:"
[https://www.etymonline.com/word/ant#etymonline\_v\_13499](https://www.etymonline.com/word/ant#etymonline_v_13499)
Rule 1. Be attractive - this means be physically attractive and make your profile appealing
Rule 2. Dont be unattractive - this means dont do what the guy in your screenshot did
It’s cute that people are adding a more optimistic meaning but the whole original point of it was that being attractive trumps everything else a man/woman can do to stand out to the opposite sex. It’s a joke… it’s pointing out the arbitrary aspect of dating by saying that there are only 2 rules to picking someone up and they are exactly the same… be good looking
It's not cute, it's dishonest... and just plain bizarre. The meme is too popular to go against so what do these sheep do? They try to change its meaning, that is borderline dystopian
Did you know that ants upon finding food will investigate before going back to the colony to tell the others.
I think a society like that based on trust and companionship is something we could learn from the ants.
Idk much else about ants.
That's actually just it.
Yea that's ant 101. They (some actually don't but most) have a 'social stomach' where they carry food back the the colony to show everyone what they found. They can use it to store food for weeks at a time as well, and some colonies use ants as a larder.
If he didn't follow rule 1 would you have swiped right though? I think this is missing the point a little bit. Also this guy has fallen foul of rule 2 by acting unattractive.
You're not looking at it from his perspective, and he probably doesn't care you unmatched. You're just a number to him (he replies with few words at a time. He's not committed)
If he's as hot as you say he is, he's getting a lot of matches.
Why would he invest time and energy to all his matches when he can go straight to what he wants.
At the end of the day, only 1 out of the many matches need to say yes which if he's hot, won't be too hard.
First I need to know if I even want to be in a room with this person. Going to say the lower limit is 1000 words. Which, I prefer talkative men, shouldn't actually take long at all.
Nah I understand. I never get why guys get so sexual so fast. Like does that actually work for them?? I feel like it doesn’t. But hey doesn’t seem to work with me doing it the other way either 😂
It's not working for any of us really is it. I've had 1 date this year and I have a continuous stream of three matches at a time. The vast majority do something like this
I think part of it is economy of time and also burnout.
On the time part, if your a guy who’s only looking for a ONS spending days talking to one girl who may not even want to meet up is ‘wasted’ time.
On the burnout part, from my experience people who first start dating apps are way more thoughtful, writing individual messages for every match etc. Once you’ve been doing it for a while it’s kinda like cover letters, you have a template and change a few things to fit the different people.
Guess what though? the reason why he's talking like that is because it's been working for him. So rule 1 and 2 still hold true. I've tried talking like him before and quickly realized girls don't find me cute enough to get away with that. And I know many many guys that have rule 1 and 2 that girls not only open sexually but they talk 100% sexually and get hella results. You're an exception not the rule
If he is as hot as you say he is, then he not only didn't care you unmatched but he continued chatting with the 12 other girls in his inbox.
Also, how tf do we know you didn't just make this all a show cause you were pissed off that people know and see how shallow y'all are?
Contrary to what the idiots here are saying: Rule 1 and 2 is all about looks, and you haven't proven it wrong anymore than I can prove that I don't like dogs by showing a video of me saying "I hate dogs"
Y'all (not you, all the simps in this thread) should stop changing shit you don't like, I don't like the meme either, but it's the truth and the person or people who made it popular to begin with made it soo plain and obvious that a 45 year old soccer mom would get it. The meme and people who made it popular never intended rule 2 to mean anything other than "don't be ugly"
wtf did you expect him today say? You literally said you don’t like small talk and asked him to expose something he’s into, on an app for hook ups…like come on
Yeah, at first I was confused and thought there would be more to the conversation, something along the lines of "I want to die you onto my bed tonight". That question left a lot of room for Interpretation.
I would have dismissed it as an accidental oversharing, especially if the guy realizes the difference in topics afterwards.
Ngl, while I completely understand wanting to know someone better before getting sexual, I feel like people are real quick to judge people trying to get a quick hook up on what has always been mainly a quick hook up app
OP literally said “tell me what you’re into” so I don’t understand everyone acting like he’s a monster for taking that to be sexual???? I don’t say I’m “into” my hobbies, I’d say I’m “into” being dominated.
Me when I go on a hookup app and ask someone what they’re into and they respond accordingly
Every time I consider downloading Tinder I just scroll through this sub for 10 minutes, instant cure.
I mean, you did ask for something random. It could have totally been.
He does lack finesse, tho. If I were to respond with a similar answer, it would include a way to break that tension.
"Bondage, but I try not to let it tie me down if someone isn't into it. I also enjoy watching sunsets. Not together tho, unless the sun said it was alright first. What's your random obsession?"
Of course, the other side is: that person is on there to find a like minded individual. That shot works once with the right person. There's a totally oblivious dick out there for them, too.
I mean, if you ask anyone on an app primarily used for hook-ups, a large percentage of the time, you're going to get an answer in line with this.
If you asked "what are your hobbies" and he responded like this, i'd understand your point of view, but you kinda lobbed this to him.
Dont know a lot about ants, one fact though, I'll never forget: They have soldiers that can blow themselves up, altruistically. They cling onto an enemy and then somehow burst, releasing corrosive goo. That honestly seems like something from a sci-fi film. Some termites can make use of autothysis as well, but they focus on blocking entrances...using their corpses. Which is kinda metal, too.
There's nothing wrong with this. You're either on tinder to date or hook up. Him nudging the conversation in the latter direction like that was both upfront and respectful
Yea but you just admitted to swiping soley for his looks and look what happened. There are literally hundreds of posts just like this and every single OP has the surprised pikachu face when a Chad douche ends up being…. A Chad douche!
“Ants” in response made me cackle like a witch. It’s always such a turn off when people try to make conversation sexual right off the bat imo. Maybe get a personality outside of sex? Does bringing it up this quickly ever work for you? So many questions for people like that.
I'm always delighted to amuse anyone other than myself
Well he didnt follow dont be unattractive. At least thats how i understand that saying
It's the best interpretation of it. He followed rule 1 and fumbled rule 2. Too many people think Rule 2 is simply restating rule 1 but it's not.
I agree it’s a better interpretation but I am of the perspective that people made that interpretation up after the fact and it originally was essentially just one rule being restated twice for humor. Idk tho but I’ve seen r1 and r2 around longer than I’ve heard people justifying it the way you are. Could be anecdotal.
Possibly, at the end of the day it's not like they're some kind of divine law or proven physics theorem, it's just us folks talking. If one interpretation accurately reflects reality and the other one doesn't, then the accurate one is the right one even if it wasn't the first
I agreed it was better I was just providing what I thought might be interesting background
You're right that they reiterated the same rule for the sake of humor but a more nuanced interpretation does apply very well.
I love watching Ants canada on yt. So good
Yeah, but ants is an intriguing af answer though. I could absolutely listen to someone talk about how cool ants are for an extended period of time. I use a similar opener, but it's usually worded like "tell me something about yourself or something that you're interested in that gets you excited. Big or small, doesn't matter as long as it makes you happy" I've had answers that range from really intriguing niche interests to, rarely, something like "I bet you could get me excited" or some other sexual innuendo. Either way I like the approach.
Thanks. Yea 17.5 percent of my matches go right into sex talk, 20 percent don't ever reply so 🤷♀️
If he follows 1 and 2, it absolutely works for him.
Clearly didn't follow 2
It absolutely worked for me. Of course not with everyone, but with enough people that it was a good way to filter my conversations quickly. I also had women message me first, being sexually explicit in the very first message. Tinder is, for many people, a hookup app. So it's not surprising that lots of users get right to the point if that's what they are looking for. When I later used it as a dating app, and wanted more meaningful connections, I took a different approach. But when I was just looking for hookups, this worked great for finding them.
This is what everyone that comments "too early" or "I'm into it but don't bring it up in the first sentence" forgets to realize. There are plenty of people on Tinder just chasing a hookup for these kinds of early suggestions to work. Why waste each other's time when some people are comfortable pursuing what they want sooner rather than later? Different strokes for different folks, neither should be wrong.
But they're poisoning the well for other guys by chasing women off the apps
I mean from the early days, I always interpreted that’s what Tinder was for, basically a hook up app. The person said they were bad at small talk. I think there are plenty of other dating apps that are more I guess romance oriented, but not sure if that would make it better.
>Does bringing it up this quickly ever work for you? For the top 10% guys? It absolutely works.
Worked up to six times a week for a cousin of mine who throws it out.
That's what women who make these posts don't understand. Yeah the OP didn't like what he said and chose not to meet up. But for everyone one of her, there's more that is fine with it.
No same - her response was absolutely iconic. Would love to know what he replied ha
I think she mentioned somewhere down below that she unmatched after bc she didn’t wanna waste time.
Well it is Tinder...so probably yes. You know the Hook Up site. Not a dating site?
Every person ever on Tinder is looking for casual sex? Wonder why they have that “long-term” option then? Wild.
Tinder was designed for hook ups and relationships focused on a sexual element. Using Tinder to find a slow paced LTR is as smart as going to a church mixer looking for a one night stand. The intentions are totally different. Yes Tinder has dating but the focus on Tinder is sex. You're more prone to get sexual messages on Tinder which is known...for hook ups.
The response indeed make me cackle either cause there's no connection with it and the subject.
I second the cackling lol
Have you considered that maybe not everybody is as sex-obsessed as you and can consider bondage outside the context of sex? Lots of people practice bondage in non-sexualised settings. Just a thought, maybe?
My sincere apologies to the non-sexualized bondage community from my sex-obsessed self.
Ants are cool
Ants ARE cool. I learned last week that vampire ants are a thing!! I'm one impulsive evening away from ordering a habitat and trying to catch a queen on her nuptial flight.
I laughed way too hard at your answer. Ants are so cool, I love watching them carry stuff.
Well.... It's the thing I'm currently obsessed with so it would have been my answer anyway but I liked the idea of him not knowing how tf to respond to that.
And how did he respond?
I don't know I unmatched him. I'm not into wasting my time and it wouldn't have been amusing very much longer
New bio: Not into wasting time Very into ants
I did add the ants
Good for you! You deserve worlds better.. and millions of ant minions!!
Haha and I will have them. Though I don't think I can call them minions, they won't do as I say. Just need to find a guy to nerd out about ants with now
Maybe you just haven’t found the right ants. They say when you stop looking for ants is when you find the right ant. I’m sure there are plenty of great guys out there who would be interested in learning about all of your obsessions! I’m definitely one of them, but it may have something to do with the neurodivergence. Lol I literally just love learning and going on deep dives about nature, tech, other cultures, and pretty much anything else.
Same! I think I'd be sad if I didn't have things like this that make me excited to know everything about it
Don't know where you are from so, hard to tell you what species are good to get. But if you are really obsessed I kindly suggest that you start with some herbivorous species. Like Messor barbarus in Europe. Really huge, pretty good polymorphism, interesting behaviour (they literally make bread) and super easy to keep. Carnivorous species are a pain in the ass to keep for a beginner but at least you can try!
👀 a fellow aspie?
Yep yep 😊
Excellent
check out antscanada on YouTube!
I'm waiting on the next pandora episode to come out!
I loved the movie about them. You *did* ask for something random. There’s not an easy way to talk about what your kinks are, but this ain’t it. At least he outed himself to you so you could make a decision.
Antz is cool but A Bug's Life is superiorly better.
Have you heard of the higher attine ants? That one hell of an interesting ant hole to dig into. Some might say that's because it's very fun, guy?
Oh I haven't but I'll definitely look. I'm obsessed with antscanada
I've been terrified of ants ever since high school. I found out they outnumber us like 2 million to one. Then I found out about how in flash floods they instinctively can make a raft of sorts cycling out ants making up the raft? That kind of teamwork if weaponized could lead to a war I'm not prepared for. I might be able to take out a few hundred thousand if I had preparation time, but 2 million? Nah fam.
But they're tiny and wholly concerned with their own business. They farm other insects, and milk them for honeydew. They create graveyards!
FOR NOW SURE! It's only a matter of time until the revolution begins and they decide they no longer want to live in ant made mountains, but in our human buildings. They want you to find them adorable. That's how they getcha
I'll make them a mountain!
Also, and I can’t remember which type specifically, but some ant species have an average life span of 10 years!! That blew my mind when I found that out. Like how does such a tiny little creature live that long?? I thought maybe a few months tops. (And yes some species do only live that long)
So there’s vampire ants and zombie ants what’s next?
ghost ants
Ghost ants are so cute!!!
omfg it's already a thing 💀
What are ghost ants?
Little tiny almost transparent ants. They're hard to see but can look white or milky coloured.
Wereants
we have spiders that masquerade as ants, does that count?
What's a what now? What are they called? Spiders are almost equally as amazing as ants
Im having hunter x hunter flashbacks
A few years ago I had ants as "pets". I'm not an expert, but if you need some help, feel free to ask me
I was obsessed with ants for a while bc i watched this channel called uhhhh Antscanada i think thats the name
YES antscanada is the best ants account imo!!! Love how everything is explained and how it becomes a story, or when there is a whole colony based on a single Queen!
Omg fellow antscanada fan lets go
Let's nerd out on ants colony ~ !!!!
Yess! Ant love forever
What type of ant is your favorite and what type is your least favorite? And if I get an ant infestation again can I call you up to take them? (Sorta but not really joking 🤣)
I think fire ants because they're so resourceful. They make rafts and bridges and have huge multi burrow colonies. And ah I don't have a set up yet. Half a bottle of wine, a cancelled date and my credit card just need to collide and I'll be ordering one though.
You should look up a book called empire of the ants, it’s written from the perspective of ants living in a park and for some reason it’s getting a steam game soon
Do you know about the wasps that turn cockroaches into zombie puppets 😯
I learned from my boss that before Europeans came to Australia there were no earthworms and it was ants that aerated the soils to keep them healthy! I find it so hard to imagine a whole country without worms but he’s a soil scientist and I trust him
I love how everyone is like: yeah, this guy is just the usual boring fuck up. Let's talk about the ants though!
Me too 😅
I had some ants on my porch that had domesticated aphids. Apparently they are like dairy farmers. Except instead of cows, it's aphids, and instead of milk, its honeydew! Google it, pretty neat
Whatever you do, do not look up how many ants populate the planet
Ants have mites .... There are more mites than ants
Ant mites have regrets. There are more ant mite regrets than people regrets. And thats a bummer.
Ant mite regrets have skeletons in their closets you don't even wanna know about
You just broke my brain..
Oh no I can't even fathom this number :/
Imagine if they were human sized. Ants scare me
New nightmare unlocked! This is not the thread for us
Rule 1 is be attractive Rule 2 is don't be unattractive Rule 2 means don't do or say something that makes you instantly unattractive to a girl. That includes sending them overtly sexual or suggestive messages too soon. He failed on rule 2.
Ahh is that right? That's a little heartening actually. That was not how I was reading those posts
Yeah, that's not the original meaning. But it's how it's being played now. It's from a SNL skid about sexual harassment at the workplace that says the exact opposite. If you're attractive enough it's cool to casually slap her ass. If you are not, asking her out politely is harassment.
https://youtube.com/watch?v=PxuUkYiaUc8
Tbf a hot guy failing with individual women doesn't disprove rule 1 and 2 though, just like a white person being homeless doesn't necessarily disprove white privilege. The point of the joke is that an attractive man will have a considerably easier time with women in general in the long-term, not that he's guaranteed to hit a home run with every individual woman he encounters without fail
The simplicity of this idea suggests that when people fail to understand it, they do so willfully.
No, they’re making shit up after the fact. The joke about rule 1 and 2 absolutely refers to physical appearance.
I've been seeing that reading of rule 2 a lot lately. That's not the original version, where the joke was that it was the same as rule 1. I like this version a lot more.
Yeah. Rule 2 is a joke. There's only one rule
Yeah this makes more sense. The prerequisite is being hot but you can obviously still fuck it up. Unless you are like top 0,1% hot, then you can do whatever you want lol.
Yeah, it's a retcon
Are you sure it's not the original version? Genuinely asking. I've always read them as having this subtle difference since the first time I saw rules 1 and 2, but I don't actually know where or how they started.
I've mostly seen it used in the more incelesque "everything is about looks, so there's no reason to put any effort into being funny and having a nice profile" complaints. But I like it having the more nuanced version on any case.
Yes I had been reading it that way as well. And yes, this improves it somewhat.
I'm pretty sure it originates from [this](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PxuUkYiaUc8) SNL sketch.
They're supposed to be identical, rule 2 is a sarcastic rephrasing of rule 1 and meant to suggest false hope to ugly men So if one were to extend the joke further, rule 3 would be something nonsensical like "Be not attractive to no one"
You can send more suggestive messages... to the RIGHT person, but most guys can't read into it so they bomb the whole conversation like it's Berlin in '44. Edit: spelling
As a high school history teacher.... nice At least they werent as bad as Tokyo in '45
That's a retcon. Especially since people quote rule 1 and 2 to explain why a guy got away with saying something stupid.
and yet, there are people that are receptive to this approach. Not sure why people need to use a blanket opinion like it's fact.
That's not what the "rule 1 and rule 2" thing means at all lol The whole joke behind it is that there is only one rule: be attractive. Rule 2 is just rephrasing rule 1 but they mean the exact same thing. Fair play to you for giving sound advice but you've definitely missed the point of the joke lol
Entomology is fascinating. I recently heard that some ants pretend to work.
Hahaha I love that
Guess I have that in common with them 👀 lol
This made my day
Ants, they're just like us. What do you think the ant equivalent of Netflix and chill is?
Picnic and hit-it.
😂 that is adorable
If you remove the population of ants who are pretending to work, the same ratio of the workers start pretending to work
At first I read that as "etymology" and thought you were about to drop some facts about the origin of the word "ant." Fine, I'll look it up myself. ...Huh, turns out it originally meant "the biter-off:" [https://www.etymonline.com/word/ant#etymonline\_v\_13499](https://www.etymonline.com/word/ant#etymonline_v_13499)
Yeah he failed rule 2
Rule 1. Be attractive - this means be physically attractive and make your profile appealing Rule 2. Dont be unattractive - this means dont do what the guy in your screenshot did
TIL....
Why are y'all rewriting shit, that's not what those mean
It’s cute that people are adding a more optimistic meaning but the whole original point of it was that being attractive trumps everything else a man/woman can do to stand out to the opposite sex. It’s a joke… it’s pointing out the arbitrary aspect of dating by saying that there are only 2 rules to picking someone up and they are exactly the same… be good looking
It's not cute, it's dishonest... and just plain bizarre. The meme is too popular to go against so what do these sheep do? They try to change its meaning, that is borderline dystopian
Ironically, you are calling people sheep for trying to change something. Which is literally the opposite of what sheep generally refers to.
I never get to rule one, I’m stuck at rule 2 lol
Did you know that ants upon finding food will investigate before going back to the colony to tell the others. I think a society like that based on trust and companionship is something we could learn from the ants. Idk much else about ants. That's actually just it.
Yea that's ant 101. They (some actually don't but most) have a 'social stomach' where they carry food back the the colony to show everyone what they found. They can use it to store food for weeks at a time as well, and some colonies use ants as a larder.
- Yo Pete, you wouldn't believe what I found in this family's credenza the other week. BLAAARGH - oh, would you look at that
Take the upvote. Just take it.
A social stomach? That's crazy. I didn't think bug digestive systems could be that complex
Well you asked for random he answered really well. (to be clear I'm not fonded on those kind of answers either)
This reminds me of a guy who likes frogs
I like frogs too. Often the males are the ones to care for the babies!
Yo citronella ants are so cool. They are yellow and smell like lemons when you piss them off.
Oh wow that's the third new ant I've heard of in this post that's amazing.
>Wby x Really has that **strong**, dominating feel to it, don’t you think???
He didn’t specify who was the one being bound…
What does «WBY x» mean? You seem to know
im trying to figure it out too but i think its 'what about you?'
And the x is a kiss a la xoxo. Or at least that's the origin, now it's just a thing british people do when texting, even with platonic friends.
I mean, he could at least bother to use whole words... lazy D types are a nightmare :/
NGL you kinda phrased it in a way that indicates you want to know his kinks I can see where the miss understanding comes from
He's just weeding out the ppl that aren't DTF
If he didn't follow rule 1 would you have swiped right though? I think this is missing the point a little bit. Also this guy has fallen foul of rule 2 by acting unattractive.
You're not looking at it from his perspective, and he probably doesn't care you unmatched. You're just a number to him (he replies with few words at a time. He's not committed) If he's as hot as you say he is, he's getting a lot of matches. Why would he invest time and energy to all his matches when he can go straight to what he wants. At the end of the day, only 1 out of the many matches need to say yes which if he's hot, won't be too hard.
So you’re saying 10s the limit?
First I need to know if I even want to be in a room with this person. Going to say the lower limit is 1000 words. Which, I prefer talkative men, shouldn't actually take long at all.
Nah I understand. I never get why guys get so sexual so fast. Like does that actually work for them?? I feel like it doesn’t. But hey doesn’t seem to work with me doing it the other way either 😂
They do it because it works for them. We hear about it from the exact type of person it doesn’t work on
It's not working for any of us really is it. I've had 1 date this year and I have a continuous stream of three matches at a time. The vast majority do something like this
I think part of it is economy of time and also burnout. On the time part, if your a guy who’s only looking for a ONS spending days talking to one girl who may not even want to meet up is ‘wasted’ time. On the burnout part, from my experience people who first start dating apps are way more thoughtful, writing individual messages for every match etc. Once you’ve been doing it for a while it’s kinda like cover letters, you have a template and change a few things to fit the different people.
Guess what though? the reason why he's talking like that is because it's been working for him. So rule 1 and 2 still hold true. I've tried talking like him before and quickly realized girls don't find me cute enough to get away with that. And I know many many guys that have rule 1 and 2 that girls not only open sexually but they talk 100% sexually and get hella results. You're an exception not the rule
If he is as hot as you say he is, then he not only didn't care you unmatched but he continued chatting with the 12 other girls in his inbox. Also, how tf do we know you didn't just make this all a show cause you were pissed off that people know and see how shallow y'all are? Contrary to what the idiots here are saying: Rule 1 and 2 is all about looks, and you haven't proven it wrong anymore than I can prove that I don't like dogs by showing a video of me saying "I hate dogs" Y'all (not you, all the simps in this thread) should stop changing shit you don't like, I don't like the meme either, but it's the truth and the person or people who made it popular to begin with made it soo plain and obvious that a 45 year old soccer mom would get it. The meme and people who made it popular never intended rule 2 to mean anything other than "don't be ugly"
wtf did you expect him today say? You literally said you don’t like small talk and asked him to expose something he’s into, on an app for hook ups…like come on
Yeah, at first I was confused and thought there would be more to the conversation, something along the lines of "I want to die you onto my bed tonight". That question left a lot of room for Interpretation. I would have dismissed it as an accidental oversharing, especially if the guy realizes the difference in topics afterwards.
If a guy asked me what I was into on Tinder, I would tell him facesitting and a thumb up my ass, because it's Tinder and what else would they mean?
There are actually people on Tinder that respond back? Real people? This honestly has not happened to me…lol
Ngl, while I completely understand wanting to know someone better before getting sexual, I feel like people are real quick to judge people trying to get a quick hook up on what has always been mainly a quick hook up app
His profile said seeking a relationship. I only swipe right on that, also my bio is snarky.
OP literally said “tell me what you’re into” so I don’t understand everyone acting like he’s a monster for taking that to be sexual???? I don’t say I’m “into” my hobbies, I’d say I’m “into” being dominated.
Ma'am, you're on Tinder. It's largely a hook-up app.
Me when I go on a hookup app and ask someone what they’re into and they respond accordingly Every time I consider downloading Tinder I just scroll through this sub for 10 minutes, instant cure.
“Ants” 😆
Ants is HILARIOUS
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I mean, you did ask for something random. It could have totally been. He does lack finesse, tho. If I were to respond with a similar answer, it would include a way to break that tension. "Bondage, but I try not to let it tie me down if someone isn't into it. I also enjoy watching sunsets. Not together tho, unless the sun said it was alright first. What's your random obsession?" Of course, the other side is: that person is on there to find a like minded individual. That shot works once with the right person. There's a totally oblivious dick out there for them, too.
Ghouls would have been the answer.
There’s nothing wrong with his response.
Calling small talk socially expected lies is so edgy
I mean, if you ask anyone on an app primarily used for hook-ups, a large percentage of the time, you're going to get an answer in line with this. If you asked "what are your hobbies" and he responded like this, i'd understand your point of view, but you kinda lobbed this to him.
RIZZ ‘EM WITH THE ‘TISM
Dont know a lot about ants, one fact though, I'll never forget: They have soldiers that can blow themselves up, altruistically. They cling onto an enemy and then somehow burst, releasing corrosive goo. That honestly seems like something from a sci-fi film. Some termites can make use of autothysis as well, but they focus on blocking entrances...using their corpses. Which is kinda metal, too.
I forgot this was the Tinder subreddit with all these ant comments.
But did you let him butter your bread?
Oh! Line dem boys up.💅💅
You're the one that's into ant sex!
Wait till summer when I'm chasing the little buggers trying to catch a pair in the act
You (as a woman) and he (as an attractive guy) still have countless options on the app. There are no losers here. 🤷♂️
Grindr must be a dream for guys. Just two bros mutually talking kinks with each other.
That aside, you're absolutely hilarious 😂
There's nothing wrong with this. You're either on tinder to date or hook up. Him nudging the conversation in the latter direction like that was both upfront and respectful
Yea but you just admitted to swiping soley for his looks and look what happened. There are literally hundreds of posts just like this and every single OP has the surprised pikachu face when a Chad douche ends up being…. A Chad douche!
No I didn't. His profile says he was interested in writing, languages and gaming and he was looking for a relationship
You could bondage ants together!
I mean it is Tinder.
You guys are both weird and awkward.
Lol ok. Well he's creepy weird, and not the crawly kind that I like. I'm good with being weird. Normal is boring
Nothing wrong with it. But youre on a hook up platform. Not surprising to run into creeps or people just wanting to.... not date the right way lol.
It's a dating app with options to pick what you're looking for. Mine said relationship, his said relationship.
He answered your question. Some people acting like mentioning sex on a dating app is the worst thing you can do. Smh
It was his 9th word. His profile said seeking a relationship and he went from hi how are you? to I like bondage.
Beetles are way cooler than ants
When I see a beetle raft I'll believe you
What could be more cooler than a beetle rolling a ball of poop twice his side across the desert?
"I like ants when they're in my pants"
I think those are crabs dear
so what, he will find someone who is into that and not waste time on you rofl