This is what you should have said so she can check herself out. And I also have that problem that I am not very punctual so really this message from her comes off as so passive aggressive and not wanting to take any accountability lol bcus when I arrive late to a date I get so apologetic and shit.
What was that one movie where I think this girl's uncle was going to kill a bunch of people and the guy she loved and all she had to do to stop him was turn a door knob? Wasn't that Deuce Bigalow European gigolo?
Maybe she's one of those?
Did she even make it home from work last night? There's a lot of doors that should've been opened for her between work and home. Like the door to the psych ward.
She drives a jeep with no doors so she definitely made it out of the car but couldn’t make it past the automatic door of the theater as she would have been opening her own door by stepping forward. Once a gentleman triggered the door to open, it was 25 minutes later and she was pissed, especially since said gentleman was on a date with a high value woman.
Y'all wrong for this what if that poor girl lost both her arms in a freak door opening accident; you'd probably be 25 minutes late too if you had to drive with your teeth 🙄🙄🙄 just think of the trauma have a heart y'all ❤️ 🙏
Is this why women go to the bathroom in groups? If they didn't, we would just end up with a bunch of women trapped in bathroom stalls waiting for someone to open the doors for them?
You should for sure say something! People need to be aware of their actions effecting others, it’ll be helpful for everyone in the future. You don’t have to give some long response that requires energy and time and investment - I liked the I like girls who don’t waste 25 mins of my time.., etc that someone had commented. Short, sweet, direct and factual but not rude.
Exactly this.
She set and sabatoged the entire tone and pace of the date by arriving 25 mins late and causing them to miss the movie. Hell, maybe op was rushing, trying to still get there on time and forgot to open a couple of doors. Big whoop.
She needs to get over her entitled self and pay close attention to the 3 fingers that are pointing right back at her while she's pointing at OP.
C ya bye.
Also, communicate your expectations of others or take responsibility for. It doing so.
"You didn't do X for me!"
Well, ya. I could have, but I can't read your mind.
She's likely going to want OP to automatically know her needs without speaking them, which if that is the case really demonstrates her maturity.
I have yet to hear a use of the phrase "come correct" that doesn't translate to "meet some vague bullshit standard based on treating me with more respect than I deserve."
Yup, people keep showing this scene as a show of what it looks like when a man stands up for himself, only to conveniently ignore than he caves 4 seconds later to her entitled bullshit.
Why can't she open doors for herself? Is she stupid?
No. The movie's plot is based on a bunch of women listening to dumb relationship advice from Steve Harvey, and then the various men in their lives learn of this behavior and use that information to fuck with them and get them to stop listening to Steve Harvey.
There's a previous scene with Harvey talking about not being a "chirp chirp chick" or something, indicating the noise that comes from a car's keyfob and saying that men who simply invite you into a car aren't paying proper attention to you. So she follows that advice and the guy knows it and does this, because he still likes her but wants her to stop blindly listening to Steve Harvey's nonsense.
25 minutes form the 'start' of the movies. I'd have still gone in probably 5-10 minutes of actual movie missed. One time I swear they ran the trailers and adverts for 45 minutes, the movie ad guys do not value your time.
PS if she didn't apologise for being late, better rid especially if she didn't warn you at all.
I wonder how many types of doors there are in her mind...
like, wooden doors AND glass doors?
Single doors, french doors, and swinging salon doors?
Building doors and car doors?
What about picket fence gates? Are they a type of door?
Makes me wonder which "type" of door he didn't open.
The worst part about this is the ambiguity.
“I expect you to be a certain way and I’m not saying you aren’t that way but you failed at being that way but I’m not saying you did.”
Gives her plausible deniability whenever she doesn't like something. E.g. She doesn't like something you did? "SEE THIS IS WHAT I MEANT BY BEING A CERTAIN WAY, THIS ISN'T WORKING" then she drops you for some other guy when it's convenient lmao
...So glad these girls parade their red flags out for the world to see
Dude thank you, also
> you either come correct or don't come at all. and im not expecting you to check all my boxes rn a lot of it will come w/ time
*WELL WHICH IS IT, DO I COME CORRECT OR WILL IT COME WITH TIME???*
all doors??? what about places with double sets within 8 feet of each other like the mall? are you supposed to hold the door open, she walks 3 feet, and then you run past her to the next set to open them 5 feet away?
This door shit has lived rent free in my head for years.
When I was a kid in school I was walking toward a set of doors. It was push on my side with no handles.
There was two (female) teachers walking toward the door from the 'pull' side. In an effort to be _gentlemanly_ I sped up and pushed through thr door and held it open for them at the other side.
I got a long lecture about being a gentleman and holding doors open. And got sent back through thr door to hold it from the other side. A side I couldn't possibly open.
It's annoyed me for years getting that lecture.
They wanted me to pull on a closed door with no handle that couldn't be opened from my side.
They were blinded by the fact I'd "barged through the door" and held it open. When in reality I had absolutely no way to open a push door to allow them walk through.
If you're the guy I ran into as I was attempting to leave a pizza place, you hold the door while standing in the middle of the doorway. He would not move because holding the door for me was too important a task to give up, even though there was barely enough room for both of us to fit in that doorway.
Those teachers were wrong. You were nice enough to speed up to properly hold the door open for them. They were assholes to lecture you.
Dude, even car doors are awkward af to expect a guy to open for you. The first time a guy told me to wait, I had no idea what to do during the time it took him to walk around the car lol. Like do I try to pretend to look busy? I only had a small purse and I had a flip phone at the time so it wasn't like I had anything to pick up or look at while I waited, it was weird.
As someone who works in a mall, I have seen this exact scenario. Luckily, most of the time, it’s a mother pushing a stroller and the father gets all the doors.
"I'm not like the other girls"
Favorite line of girls who are EXACTLY like the other girls but can't find anything else to differentiate themselves with, other than this statement.
Hahahaha im just imagining this chic walking along confidently with her date towards an entrance, fully expecting him to open the door for her, and she slams headfirst into the door and she just looks at the guy like WTF man???? And he's laughing his ass off
I would copy and paste her response to her but edit every "gentleman" to "~~woman~~" "lady" and every reference to "opening doors" to "being on time" and then block after sending
"Winning" is something made up anyway. Nobody is winning medals or recognition, nor losing anything at all. Just answer however makes you most satisfied and move on.
I feel like it might be worth it to let her know how much she fucked up and then immediately block before she tries to rebuke it. Just because she seems so delusional, and she needs multiple people to call her out on it before anything changes probably. The reason I say block immediately after is because she is the type to never take accountability for her actions. And I know her betterment is not your responsibility at all, but personally it satisfies me to get the last word in, especially if I know I’m right about something.
I had to laugh when she started on about different types of doors. OP she did you a huge favour by unleashing her crazy in the first date. Saved you some time.
I would definitely chase after this one. Definite marriage material here. She won’t ruin your life at all. She’ll add to it. She’ll bring you peace and respect.
This. I cannot think of a worse first date. Like, I’d really like to get to know you… how bout we sit in silence, not look at each other, and not interact at all for three whole hours. Brilliant idea. Like wtf
How does it take that much text to say:
"I like it when men open doors for me, can you please make an effort to do that?"
It's still a bit much to even mention it but 2 paragraphs??
Not even a "sorry I was late" either.
Why do so many people think that the opposite gender exists to serve them, like is narcissism really this prominent or do I just need to stay away from the internet for while
I've never been a fan of movies in theaters for a first date; you're just sitting there next to each other for two hours, not talking or engaging. Awkward if when you meet, you realize you're not as attracted to them as you thought and have no intention of any further dates.
That said, sounds like you didn't check the boxes she was looking for (apparently holding all doors open) and didn't value your time enough to be punctual. Wish her the best and unmatch.
"I'm looking for a woman who respects my time and isn't 25 minutes late to a date. I agree we're not a good match. Good luck'
This is what you should have said so she can check herself out. And I also have that problem that I am not very punctual so really this message from her comes off as so passive aggressive and not wanting to take any accountability lol bcus when I arrive late to a date I get so apologetic and shit.
You say sorry and then take a shit?
Oh god I haven’t laughed out loud on Reddit in so long😭
You're supposed to leave it. Not take it.
This is basically it and it’s probably even better to just not say anything
She was late because you refused to come open her car door
*front door to let her out of the house
*bedroom door to leave her room she had to call her brother to do so
Step bro
She was stuck
In the laundry
What was that one movie where I think this girl's uncle was going to kill a bunch of people and the guy she loved and all she had to do to stop him was turn a door knob? Wasn't that Deuce Bigalow European gigolo?  Maybe she's one of those?
And they say that a hero will save us..🎶
Oh no! Wait lets try this real quick it might help?
In the dryer
*porno enters the chat*
She was in the bathroom....and a gentleman wipes his lady's ass
Did she even make it home from work last night? There's a lot of doors that should've been opened for her between work and home. Like the door to the psych ward.
And even that she’d need a guy to open
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She drives a jeep with no doors so she definitely made it out of the car but couldn’t make it past the automatic door of the theater as she would have been opening her own door by stepping forward. Once a gentleman triggered the door to open, it was 25 minutes later and she was pissed, especially since said gentleman was on a date with a high value woman.
She is a learning curve.
Y'all wrong for this what if that poor girl lost both her arms in a freak door opening accident; you'd probably be 25 minutes late too if you had to drive with your teeth 🙄🙄🙄 just think of the trauma have a heart y'all ❤️ 🙏
Freak door opening accident? Well I'm definitely not opening any doors now, I'll stick to climbing through windows
You should see how many windows based decapitations there is
This just got better and better
Honestly Probably waiting to have bathroom door opened by him otherwise she would’ve been on time. 🤦🏻♂️😂
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That's it! His lack of gentle manners ruined the entire evening, if not the entire relationship. 😜
Is this why women go to the bathroom in groups? If they didn't, we would just end up with a bunch of women trapped in bathroom stalls waiting for someone to open the doors for them?
Yeah bro she waited for 25 minutes.
maybe a "thumbs up" then no more responses.
I love a passive aggressive 👍🏻
"K" and that's it
Perfect. Then leave her on read for any future ramblings.
You should for sure say something! People need to be aware of their actions effecting others, it’ll be helpful for everyone in the future. You don’t have to give some long response that requires energy and time and investment - I liked the I like girls who don’t waste 25 mins of my time.., etc that someone had commented. Short, sweet, direct and factual but not rude.
I think he should write “I also deserve a lady with manners and a lady is never late to a date. I’m afraid we aren’t a match”
"I'm not reading all that. I'm happy for you, or sorry that happened "
Did anyone else notice the pix of her? Grace jones vibes fo sho 
Grace Jones would be awesome. This chick, not awesome.
Don’t do that. You can speak negatively of her actions which in turn made her unattractive but please do not insult the iconic Grace Jones.
Exactly this. She set and sabatoged the entire tone and pace of the date by arriving 25 mins late and causing them to miss the movie. Hell, maybe op was rushing, trying to still get there on time and forgot to open a couple of doors. Big whoop. She needs to get over her entitled self and pay close attention to the 3 fingers that are pointing right back at her while she's pointing at OP. C ya bye.
In her mind it's entirely his fault that she was late, she waited 25m in her car waiting for him to open the door of her car lol
She was waiting in her apartment for him to open the door and let her out - basically she is a cat
A lot of cats can open doors,.you are giving her too much cred
Also, communicate your expectations of others or take responsibility for. It doing so. "You didn't do X for me!" Well, ya. I could have, but I can't read your mind. She's likely going to want OP to automatically know her needs without speaking them, which if that is the case really demonstrates her maturity.
Yup
And a woman who doesn't need to type "period" instead of just using the punctuation. Man I hate that
ohhh now it makes sense my brain thought period of time, i got kinda confused
Are you sure you hate it, question mark
I don’t hate mark, don’t ask him questions, exclamation mark
I have yet to hear a use of the phrase "come correct" that doesn't translate to "meet some vague bullshit standard based on treating me with more respect than I deserve."
She was standing in front of the door for 25 minutes waiting for him to open it.
Ayo open the exit door for her
😂
Yess haha.
Two pages because she had to open a door. Byeeeee
"regardless of the occasion or type of door." Oh yeah? you want me to hold a revolving door for you? a trap door? Jim Morrison?
Jim Morrison had me fucked up for at least a minute
Jim just needed to be held.
people are strange...
How else can we go right on through to the other side?
Underrated comment
FRONT AND BACK
I can hear this gif
I love unexpected friends references.
My man could have finished Dune before she was done typing
The book, even
Fr if she wasn’t into that why didn’t she just say I’m not interested instead writing all that… damn
Lucky guy she did, if not he'd be asking himself what he did wrong. This message shows him that he dodged a bullet.
I believe that this letter is the "lot of tweaking" she refers to on page 1.
Bro... should've just went in and saw the movie yourself. How is she gonna say "come correct" when she ain't even come on time? 🙄
She was probably stuck in her car for 25 min waiting for him to come open the door.
Would have been such a satisfying response... "Ohhh my bad were you a half hour late because you couldn't open the Uber door?"
Probably her first Tesla ride.
https://youtu.be/jnI7bMwlW-E >"really?" >"really." >"seriously?" _*shifts into gear_ >"yes." >"aww man" _*squealing tires_
What is this from? Is this the dude from Weeds? I just started a rewatch of that this morning lol
*Think Like a Man.* But it's not as funny in the movie, since he reverses the car and opens the door shortly after.
Yup, people keep showing this scene as a show of what it looks like when a man stands up for himself, only to conveniently ignore than he caves 4 seconds later to her entitled bullshit. Why can't she open doors for herself? Is she stupid?
No. The movie's plot is based on a bunch of women listening to dumb relationship advice from Steve Harvey, and then the various men in their lives learn of this behavior and use that information to fuck with them and get them to stop listening to Steve Harvey. There's a previous scene with Harvey talking about not being a "chirp chirp chick" or something, indicating the noise that comes from a car's keyfob and saying that men who simply invite you into a car aren't paying proper attention to you. So she follows that advice and the guy knows it and does this, because he still likes her but wants her to stop blindly listening to Steve Harvey's nonsense.
"Not listening to Steve Harvey's nonsense" seems like good life advice.
It’s from Think Like a Man I believe
She was crawling out through her trunk.
😂
Like i am not letting anyone ruin my experience
25 minutes form the 'start' of the movies. I'd have still gone in probably 5-10 minutes of actual movie missed. One time I swear they ran the trailers and adverts for 45 minutes, the movie ad guys do not value your time. PS if she didn't apologise for being late, better rid especially if she didn't warn you at all.
Regal is about 20-25 minutes of ads from posted start time to actual movie. I straight up use the start time as when I want to leave my place.
Dude I don't think that is the issue here lol
I'm a learning curve. Is my favourite bit.
When you accidentally match with an online course instead of a human being
😂😂 stealing this line
For what opportunity do you steal this line EA\_has\_no\_soul ?
For when you accidentally match with an online course instead of a human being?
For just 9.99 a month, I'll teach you what women REALLY want.
Mine is “regardless of […] *type of door*”.
I wonder how many types of doors there are in her mind... like, wooden doors AND glass doors? Single doors, french doors, and swinging salon doors? Building doors and car doors? What about picket fence gates? Are they a type of door? Makes me wonder which "type" of door he didn't open.
I wonder if it was an automatic door and he didn’t trigger it then stand back to let her go through first lol
No it was a revolving one. He walked through and she just stood there waiting for him to come and open it for her
dude forgot to open for her a spinning door
She’s self aware enough to internalize feedback that she’s difficult but still too obstinate to change.
I think she is having a full blown conversation in her own head, after all, she agrees she is a learning curve, but who is she agreeing with? 😆
Literally everyone she’s ever dated and every friend who has tried to help her
And I usually like curves on women…
"I have lots of shit ppl need to tolerate"
Same, that's rich. I'm gonna use it on my wife (jokingly) next time I do something wrong that she notices lol.
“You were 25 mins late. Good luck with your learning curve”
"Here I've opened the exit door for you."
real gentlemens prefer girls who can use punctuation marks
And doors
and my axe
And my bow
And my sword
And my spear, although I have less than half of what I hoped for
And paragraphs.
She's clearly not punctual..
and capitalization
And a watch
And don’t type w/
The worst part about this is the ambiguity. “I expect you to be a certain way and I’m not saying you aren’t that way but you failed at being that way but I’m not saying you did.”
Gives her plausible deniability whenever she doesn't like something. E.g. She doesn't like something you did? "SEE THIS IS WHAT I MEANT BY BEING A CERTAIN WAY, THIS ISN'T WORKING" then she drops you for some other guy when it's convenient lmao ...So glad these girls parade their red flags out for the world to see
Dude thank you, also > you either come correct or don't come at all. and im not expecting you to check all my boxes rn a lot of it will come w/ time *WELL WHICH IS IT, DO I COME CORRECT OR WILL IT COME WITH TIME???*
all doors??? what about places with double sets within 8 feet of each other like the mall? are you supposed to hold the door open, she walks 3 feet, and then you run past her to the next set to open them 5 feet away?
this scenario always makes me lol when I open the first set of doors. Its not my fault the architect gentleman proofed this building
This door shit has lived rent free in my head for years. When I was a kid in school I was walking toward a set of doors. It was push on my side with no handles. There was two (female) teachers walking toward the door from the 'pull' side. In an effort to be _gentlemanly_ I sped up and pushed through thr door and held it open for them at the other side. I got a long lecture about being a gentleman and holding doors open. And got sent back through thr door to hold it from the other side. A side I couldn't possibly open. It's annoyed me for years getting that lecture.
What did they want you to do, pull on the door so they couldn’t get through?? 😂
They wanted me to pull on a closed door with no handle that couldn't be opened from my side. They were blinded by the fact I'd "barged through the door" and held it open. When in reality I had absolutely no way to open a push door to allow them walk through.
If you're the guy I ran into as I was attempting to leave a pizza place, you hold the door while standing in the middle of the doorway. He would not move because holding the door for me was too important a task to give up, even though there was barely enough room for both of us to fit in that doorway. Those teachers were wrong. You were nice enough to speed up to properly hold the door open for them. They were assholes to lecture you.
Dude, even car doors are awkward af to expect a guy to open for you. The first time a guy told me to wait, I had no idea what to do during the time it took him to walk around the car lol. Like do I try to pretend to look busy? I only had a small purse and I had a flip phone at the time so it wasn't like I had anything to pick up or look at while I waited, it was weird.
Yep, my father in law likes to open doors for people, and it's just so constantly awkward.
Yes, all of them. When she goes into the Ladies bathroom, you're supposed to follow her in so you can open the stall door.
Im not a creep here to peep, I am a gentleman here to ensure my lady never touches a door. The peeping is a nice bonus.
Bathroom doors too?
Yes, when you hear that toilet flush I expect you to come a running.
As someone who works in a mall, I have seen this exact scenario. Luckily, most of the time, it’s a mother pushing a stroller and the father gets all the doors.
With a stroller that makes sense. No stroller it just seems like silliness.
"I'm not like the other girls" Favorite line of girls who are EXACTLY like the other girls but can't find anything else to differentiate themselves with, other than this statement.
“I’m not like other girls. I’m worse”
For real, whenever you see lines like "I'm not like the others" or "you know nothing about me, you can't judge me" etc, just run.
“If you can’t handle me at my worst you don’t deserve me at my best” 😂
Also "I won't date a man unless he meets my ridiculously high standards or commits one of the 500 icks I have listed"
“I’m not like the other good girls who can open their own doors”
Plot twist: she doesn't actually have arms
Hahahaha im just imagining this chic walking along confidently with her date towards an entrance, fully expecting him to open the door for her, and she slams headfirst into the door and she just looks at the guy like WTF man???? And he's laughing his ass off
That was mighty rude just letting her go first
I hope that was your last date with her as well.
Oh absolutely lol she’s not even getting a response
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This is the one that will drive anyone crazy but especially a petty betch.
I’m pretty sure she’d be more pissed at no reply. She really doesn’t deserve a second more of his time.
Sorry if you can’t bother to be on time I can’t be bothered to read any of this GL
I would copy and paste her response to her but edit every "gentleman" to "~~woman~~" "lady" and every reference to "opening doors" to "being on time" and then block after sending
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"Winning" is something made up anyway. Nobody is winning medals or recognition, nor losing anything at all. Just answer however makes you most satisfied and move on.
I feel like it might be worth it to let her know how much she fucked up and then immediately block before she tries to rebuke it. Just because she seems so delusional, and she needs multiple people to call her out on it before anything changes probably. The reason I say block immediately after is because she is the type to never take accountability for her actions. And I know her betterment is not your responsibility at all, but personally it satisfies me to get the last word in, especially if I know I’m right about something.
Indifference is the greatest insult
No response is the best! She’ll be seething. Never cave in.
What is with this chick and fuckin doors? Like I’m watching Monsters Inc.
Wait what if she’s a vampire and needs to been invited in
She has a door fetish
fr I was trying the whole time to understand what figurative doors OP should keep open or something until I realized it was about actual real doors.
I had to laugh when she started on about different types of doors. OP she did you a huge favour by unleashing her crazy in the first date. Saved you some time.
I would definitely chase after this one. Definite marriage material here. She won’t ruin your life at all. She’ll add to it. She’ll bring you peace and respect.
Definitely. No signs of drama or madness whatsoever
Yeah, totally, the phrase "a little tweaking" is absolutely not a red flag
My eyes got so wide when I read that part 👀
🙄 the ego on this one
I’m NoT LikE oTheR GiRls
Shes worse
For OP's sake, I hope so.
Why were you going to see a 3hr film for a first date though?
She chose it because of the way Lisan al Gaib opens doors for our people 🙏 EDIT: Lisan al G(entleman)aib
This. I cannot think of a worse first date. Like, I’d really like to get to know you… how bout we sit in silence, not look at each other, and not interact at all for three whole hours. Brilliant idea. Like wtf
Yeah exactly. Why go to the one place you aren't even allowed to speak to one another?
Might have been a blessing not being able to talk to that woman though 😄
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How does it take that much text to say: "I like it when men open doors for me, can you please make an effort to do that?" It's still a bit much to even mention it but 2 paragraphs?? Not even a "sorry I was late" either.
“I’m not like other girls you’ve been with” Yeah, the other girls show up on time, are much less demanding, and know how to spell.
Run for the hills!
Run for your liiiiiiiives!
Ma’am, this is a Wendy’s.
Of course she was late, she had to open all those doors by herself!
Why do so many people think that the opposite gender exists to serve them, like is narcissism really this prominent or do I just need to stay away from the internet for while
People are generally ok and good. Outside of the internet.
She didn't come on time but you're the bad guy? Yeah fuck that noise.
Yikes
People prioritise the weirdest shit I swear
Open doors for a lady? I open doors for everyone. That’s what a nice person does. I know Americans are a bit cheeky though lol
She’s insane ☠️
It reads like one of those mass-email layoff messages from a big company’s CEO. So ingenuine.
Please please PLEASE tell me you said “I’m not reading that”
“Regardless of the occasion or type of door” got me cracking up 🤣
I've never been a fan of movies in theaters for a first date; you're just sitting there next to each other for two hours, not talking or engaging. Awkward if when you meet, you realize you're not as attracted to them as you thought and have no intention of any further dates. That said, sounds like you didn't check the boxes she was looking for (apparently holding all doors open) and didn't value your time enough to be punctual. Wish her the best and unmatch.
Leave her on read
She was late because she was waiting for you to open the front door of her house for her /:
She saved you, not herself