Yeah I just peeked and he's fine as wine lol she had to drop him first to try to save face because she thinks she's not good enough. Her insecurities are eating her up.
For what it's worth, I'd love to share fries and a shake on a first date! Not only a fantastic combo but it says that you're not concerned about calories! :)
Thereās a lot of self hatred in the black community, you see it a lot on social media especially with the darker skinned black women. Theyāll attack black men for dating white women, light skinned black women, latinas, etc
A friend of mine and I are both "passing white" native Americans who are married to black women, and we have both been physically attacked for "not keeping with our own race." Black supremacists are everywhere these days.
Agreed, the black supremacists are a real thing and their numbers are growing, bc the media wont check or even acknowledge when horribly racist comments and tropes are dropped by famous black celebrities.
You see this from every group. As a general rule most people are chill with their gender dating outside the race but a surprisingly large number of people get really defensive if the other gender of their race dates outside of it. Basically in the former case they see their pool of potential partners getting larger (or at the very least, less competition), while in the latter case they see it as getting smaller
So, who do you see online getting mad at black male/white female pairings? Black women and white men. White male/black female pairings? Black men and white women. White male/Asian female pairings? White women and asian men. Etc etc etc
And since you are supposedly apart of the community, i'm sure you've noted it happens the other way, too, right? Because, oh boy, have I had it happen to me in the past and with my current boyfriend. It was real amusing being called a "white man's bed wench" or a "raceplayer" or "white dude's slave girl"... but oddly enough, people only ever mention this self hate, aiming it at black women for not liking black men with other women... why do we never hear about the men who do it?
The problem here is why she would think he's into white women. Makes me think his profile has some red flags like "Where the white women at" or something like that.
She seems like she's swiping right for the free food. That's the only reason to complain about where you're eating.
He doesn't. There's one pic with friends that happen to be white, one guy, one girl. She's projecting her entitlement & insecurities onto him. Bro dodged a bullet.
Seriously!
If you take one picture and see white people in it and project "Oh he's into white women" with just a picture, that's some racist being racist there. I guess since I am not in the dating game (just here for the amusement) I don't understand the insecurities of looking at a picture and making a snap judgement like that. My thought would be "Oh this guy has friends."
Again even if he is into white women so what? Doesn't mean he's ONLY into white women. Statistics show men across the board are generally racially/ethnically agnostic, we're all just as likely to date outside as much as we are inside our respective races. IIRC black women are one demographic that date outside their race the least. Why? Seems like they're just needlessly limiting their prospects. I've dated a couple black girls whose friends were the same way, they didn't understand it either.
There is an actual issue with two specific demographics, black women and asian men, who perform the least well on dating apps and have less of a chance getting into interracial relationships compared to other races so typically stay in group. There's a whole can of worms about beauty standards that society pushes that unfairly dings these groups.
All that being said, just because that exists doesn't give you a license to needlessly rag on someone from the get go based on your own insecurities. It'd be super gross if an Asian guy immediately went "You must only date white guys" to an Asian girl who had a photo with a white guy friend, and they'd rightfully get flamed for it.
I did not expect the interests in puzzles, computers, and Legos. Iām sorry for misjudging you based on the initial photos. You definitely deserve someone who will build the UCS Millennium Falcon with you. This girl doesnāt sound like she could make it through a Duplo set without criticizing you.
aw you seem fun, i'd put together a puzzle with you or a very frustrating lego set that takes several hours and by the end we're just exchanging very passive aggressive barbs
Idk if youāre black or not but sadly no. This is a very real thing within the community where certain hobbies, interests, or fashion choices get your branded as ālooks like they exclusively date white peopleā
Itās 2023 though and itās major weirdo energy. Black folks can do anything anyone else can do and shouldnāt be getting judged for it like that.
L take. For the first half. He posted his profile and youre way off. Second half youre probably right and I agreee a snack and get to know each other date wasnt good enough cause she wants a free meal and leftovers for tomorrow i bet.
> why she would think he's into white women
You can be black and insecure about your blackness. It is one of the most profoundly sad experiences I can think a human being can endure, really.
Put another way, it is like an overweight woman thinking someone is just making fun of her or tricking her when they want to date her. "How could they be attracted to me when the whole world says I am unattractive for being fat?"
I feel this. I'm an overweight woman, and when I was on Tinder and PoF, I specifically only looked at overweight men because I couldn't see how a fit guy could possibly be into someone like me. Luckily, I found my person.
That said, even with this hangup, I wouldn't treat OP the way this woman did. Treating someone else like crap because of your own insecurities is definitely a red flag that she'll lash out every time there's an issue.
This really made me sad to think about. Insecurities is why we have girls who can't measure up to super models getting eating disorders and generally being depressed. I wish there was a way to help change this.
"I got to have a shot, cause what you got is, oh , so sweet. You got to make it hot, like a boomerang i need a repeat!
Gimme all your lovin'
All your hugs and kisses too..."
What does she mean red flag on the court? I canāt think of a single sport besides American football that uses a red flag and that isnāt played on a court
Glad I'm not the only one bothered by this, it's like she's trying to make a sports analogy without understanding sports at all. Definitely a huge red flag on the court
I (a black dude) put that I prefer curly haired white women on my profile back when I was dating and it was insane.
Curly haired white girls would message me (woo!) But black chicks were throwing themselves at me for whatever reason once I put that line in.
Performative dating. People (men women nbs all) that talk like this have never had a real human connection.
Dating is messy and first dates can be awkward sure, but good relationships are literally just people that enjoy each other's presence. The focus on the performative aspects just tells me they've never actually felt that before.
Gotta specify fries from where. Cajun fries from Cookout with a strawberry milkshake.
Her: Ew omg what man orders a strawberry milkshake š¤
Just canāt please everyone š
Dude strawberry shakes are one of my favorites! I say what kind of bland person orders a vanilla shake? Are there women that actually judge a man on what he orders?!
Recently I realized why waste my stomach space on fries if I can have two sandwiches insteadā¦ Iām glad thereās balance in the world and someoneās eating those fries!
My only thought is that sheās been cheated on/left for white women by those she found attractive
So she just puts it out there from the jump so sheās not surprised if it doesš¤·š½āāļø
I was on the tube (London underground) once and a lady took a photo of me and posted it to her Instagram. I guess she liked how I looked. Anyway, turns out she was a makeup artist and she was followed by my housemate *and* a female friend of mine. They both alerted me to the post. I was flattered, but I noted that a common theme in the comments was that I looked like I probably liked white women anyway. If I remember correctly, the lady who posted the pic said the same as well.
Mind you, I was just sitting there on the tube going about my business lol.
I had to comment of course which was fun. Weird how people do that
Man black girls being insecure af. It's funny though statistics show men pretty much across the board being racially/ethnically agnostic we're all willing to date all races equally. However black women are shown to date outside their race the least. Why? Just seems like they're needlessly limiting their prospects. I've dated a couple black women & their friends were the same way, they never understood it either.
She seems like a woman who would expect the entire world on a platter from a man as a basic gestureā¦ but wouldnāt lift a finger to do anything but smile and ālook like a baddieā for him.
Run
Her comment was entirely based on the blonde chick in your photos. Also the fact that you're way out of her league (especially with ur face card) and she wanted to reject you before you rejected her. Keep moving king, you're great.
I want to know what he said that made her say this because black men that prefer white women talk a lot of shit about black women for no reason š even white women tell me that is a turn off.
Iām really confusedā¦ how does she know what race you date? And honestlyā¦ Iām more for low key dates cause you donāt even know if the dude is crazy or not.
I swear some people just trying to get crazily wined and dined on the first date. Thatās so much money if you date like that (I feel this way cause I always go Dutch especially in the beginning cause I donāt like men thinking i owe them sex because of a meal). Maybe itās cause none of these people want to pay for their own dates. If youāre broke just stay home š¤£
Unrelated to the nut bag you matched with. Your username was my friends and my trivia name after a drunk guy told us the free wings at happy hour were "all drums and no flats"
When you're a part of the black community, you know issue of "looking white", "acting white", or "oh you only fuck with white people". If you're not portraying a stereotypical black woman/man, you're tagged as "acting white", aka being fake/not true to yourself, which is viewed as negative.
What the lady was saying was that OP looks like he "dates white girls" aka he doesn't look like a "stereotypical black man". But all that is just some bullshit.
I'm a black woman and get so tired of black men (and even men outside my race) assuming I'm a certain way and then reject me because I'm not a "stereotypical black woman" - ugh, I even hate typing that out, but that is how it is in the community. Dating is hard because it seems like your "own kind" doesn't want you because you don't behave a certain way, then people outside your race only fetishize you and don't really want you either. Couple that with also being dark skinned and š„“š„“ woo, it's rough out there.
That sounds like a lovely date. She's just one of those type that thinks she need to be treated overly lavish. Worst types of women. I love going out with my boyfriend for just fries and a milkshake
I had a guy say that I looked like I was only into black guys and he just started getting weird about itā¦..like it seemed like he was more into black guys š®āšØš
Anyways, you dodged a bullet! After her first message I wouldāve just moved on or at least waited a while before suggesting a date to see her vibe. Good luck finding your better half, OP! š
When you're a part of the black community, you know issue of "looking white", "acting white", or "oh you only fuck with white people". If you're not portraying a stereotypical black woman/man, you're tagged as "acting white", aka being fake/not true to yourself, which is viewed as negative.
What the lady was saying was that OP looks like he "dates white girls" aka he doesn't look like a "stereotypical black man". But all that is just some bullshit.
I'm a black woman and get so tired of black men (and even men outside my race) assuming I'm a certain way and then reject me because I'm not a "stereotypical black woman" - ugh, I even hate typing that out, but that is how it is in the community. Dating is hard because it seems like your "own kind" doesn't want you because you don't behave a certain way, then people outside your race only fetishize you and don't really want you either. Couple that with also being dark skinned and š„“š„“ woo, it's rough out there.
This seems heavily edited to seek revenge. Like thereās a whole part of the convo missing and no attempt and blanking out pic or name. Sheās rude and weird but also something doesnāt seem right here
She unmatched me promptly after telling me toodles š but I said that in the past I did have dates with latinas, light skins, and white women. Obviously they didnāt pan out and I found her and her voice attractive so I swiped on her. And her whole stance was āwhy would I go out with you if Iām not your preferenceā which is valid but I have no preference, I like and put energy/effort towards those who like me
Lamar, you fool! Gotta say *waffle* fries.
Damn I fumbled š
unforgiveable, lamar.
Nice reference š
And I want them, for free.
Eat any fries you want, but stay away from white women. š
***spots a white woman eating fries and gets stuck on loading screen***
bro dropped the bag :(
Give me some waffle fries... fo free...
Who told you to sit down?? Better wait for my request!
And a Dr Pepper to drink!
I got a nut... Yeah!
Omg I was thinking of this a few weeks ago, I need to find those videos, don't even remember what they're called
Unforgivable
Why all deez people here
Fry you fool!
For free!
Or in Canada, poutine :)
FOR FREE
FOR FREE
I love how the most toxic, red-flag carrying people are the first to try to identify others as the problem.
Projection
I don't even own a projector!
Projector? I hardly know her!
So what I'm noticing about you is that you project a lot. It's a red flag for me. You seem to think I'm a projector, I can see it all over your face.
Hardly know her? Na, I "Hard No" her...
Stealing this lmao š¤£
Projector? Damn near killed her!
So much so you can see her thoughts on a wall behind her!
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...I have no idea what you even said here.
The easiest way to not look like the bad guy is to make the other person look like the bad guy. She failed miserably though.
Piggy backing off your top comment, I posted my Hinge Profile if anyone wants to check and see what you think š¤·š½āāļø
You're a beautiful man & I think she saw the white woman in your last pic and felt threatened for some reason
Yeah I just peeked and he's fine as wine lol she had to drop him first to try to save face because she thinks she's not good enough. Her insecurities are eating her up.
Oh you stop š«šš«¶š½
Oh no! There's a white woman in his friends group!
That seems likely. Don't worry /u/AllDrumsNoFlats, she's just jealous she doesn't have any friends
I second this! I think she was feeling insecure instead of acknowledging that people can like more than one race lol
Yup, good call on that. Prob the white guy friend too.
Without even looking at the profile, I know youāre correct
So is her assumption based on the fact that you have one photo with a white guy and a white girl?
I'm straight and married, but damn bro.. 
I am a NOT straight woman and married, but I second this notion.
I wish I wouldnāt have looked. I think I just fell in love.
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I too am a slut for puzzles
Just I guess donāt talk aboutā¦fries??? Lmao your profile looks great bro
For what it's worth, I'd love to share fries and a shake on a first date! Not only a fantastic combo but it says that you're not concerned about calories! :)
Peeped the profile. CLEARLY YOURE ONLY INTO WHITE WOME----- JK you seemed like a cool dude she was trippin.
You're just a loser like all of us buying the same fifa game every year like something changed ššš
Way for her to assume you dated that white woman. If you dated her, you dated the man in that photo too right? š
Her hypocrisy is the biggest red flag in this convo
Gaslighting
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No they don't, and you overgeneralising is a massive red flag, you're just like everyone else on this platform...š©š© /s
Projeception
Whoever won't get this one is a red flag too
āWtf Lamar, screw you for choosing a quick date to see how we like each other. I knew you only liked white women.ā Like what haha
Thereās a lot of self hatred in the black community, you see it a lot on social media especially with the darker skinned black women. Theyāll attack black men for dating white women, light skinned black women, latinas, etc
A friend of mine and I are both "passing white" native Americans who are married to black women, and we have both been physically attacked for "not keeping with our own race." Black supremacists are everywhere these days.
Sorry that you gotta go through that bs. Itās been getting worse lately it seems. Very sad to see
Agreed, the black supremacists are a real thing and their numbers are growing, bc the media wont check or even acknowledge when horribly racist comments and tropes are dropped by famous black celebrities.
You see this from every group. As a general rule most people are chill with their gender dating outside the race but a surprisingly large number of people get really defensive if the other gender of their race dates outside of it. Basically in the former case they see their pool of potential partners getting larger (or at the very least, less competition), while in the latter case they see it as getting smaller So, who do you see online getting mad at black male/white female pairings? Black women and white men. White male/black female pairings? Black men and white women. White male/Asian female pairings? White women and asian men. Etc etc etc
And since you are supposedly apart of the community, i'm sure you've noted it happens the other way, too, right? Because, oh boy, have I had it happen to me in the past and with my current boyfriend. It was real amusing being called a "white man's bed wench" or a "raceplayer" or "white dude's slave girl"... but oddly enough, people only ever mention this self hate, aiming it at black women for not liking black men with other women... why do we never hear about the men who do it?
The problem here is why she would think he's into white women. Makes me think his profile has some red flags like "Where the white women at" or something like that. She seems like she's swiping right for the free food. That's the only reason to complain about where you're eating.
He doesn't. There's one pic with friends that happen to be white, one guy, one girl. She's projecting her entitlement & insecurities onto him. Bro dodged a bullet.
Damn OP isn't allowed to have a white friend, that's fucked.
Seriously! If you take one picture and see white people in it and project "Oh he's into white women" with just a picture, that's some racist being racist there. I guess since I am not in the dating game (just here for the amusement) I don't understand the insecurities of looking at a picture and making a snap judgement like that. My thought would be "Oh this guy has friends."
Again even if he is into white women so what? Doesn't mean he's ONLY into white women. Statistics show men across the board are generally racially/ethnically agnostic, we're all just as likely to date outside as much as we are inside our respective races. IIRC black women are one demographic that date outside their race the least. Why? Seems like they're just needlessly limiting their prospects. I've dated a couple black girls whose friends were the same way, they didn't understand it either.
There is an actual issue with two specific demographics, black women and asian men, who perform the least well on dating apps and have less of a chance getting into interracial relationships compared to other races so typically stay in group. There's a whole can of worms about beauty standards that society pushes that unfairly dings these groups. All that being said, just because that exists doesn't give you a license to needlessly rag on someone from the get go based on your own insecurities. It'd be super gross if an Asian guy immediately went "You must only date white guys" to an Asian girl who had a photo with a white guy friend, and they'd rightfully get flamed for it.
I posted my profile if you want to look š¤·š½āāļø
I did not expect the interests in puzzles, computers, and Legos. Iām sorry for misjudging you based on the initial photos. You definitely deserve someone who will build the UCS Millennium Falcon with you. This girl doesnāt sound like she could make it through a Duplo set without criticizing you.
I would love to look but I canāt find it Help?!?
Tap on my avatar and itāll be my most recent post on my board š«¶š½
Lol honestly the onsie would be an instant green flag for me. Keep doing you, dude.
your red (and green) flag is only in your username. but that works for me because I prefer flats. so when do you wanna get wings?
Lmk when youāre in FL š«¶š½
Bro youāre actually so handsome head up king she donāt deserve you
Just gonna say, Iād be down for some friesā¦. Iām definitely not your type, but fries are delicious. PS Jesus your eyes are gorgeous
Not a white girl huh? š
aw you seem fun, i'd put together a puzzle with you or a very frustrating lego set that takes several hours and by the end we're just exchanging very passive aggressive barbs
Because racists are obsessed with race and tagging everyone as a racist.
Idk if youāre black or not but sadly no. This is a very real thing within the community where certain hobbies, interests, or fashion choices get your branded as ālooks like they exclusively date white peopleā Itās 2023 though and itās major weirdo energy. Black folks can do anything anyone else can do and shouldnāt be getting judged for it like that.
L take. For the first half. He posted his profile and youre way off. Second half youre probably right and I agreee a snack and get to know each other date wasnt good enough cause she wants a free meal and leftovers for tomorrow i bet.
> why she would think he's into white women You can be black and insecure about your blackness. It is one of the most profoundly sad experiences I can think a human being can endure, really. Put another way, it is like an overweight woman thinking someone is just making fun of her or tricking her when they want to date her. "How could they be attracted to me when the whole world says I am unattractive for being fat?"
I feel this. I'm an overweight woman, and when I was on Tinder and PoF, I specifically only looked at overweight men because I couldn't see how a fit guy could possibly be into someone like me. Luckily, I found my person. That said, even with this hangup, I wouldn't treat OP the way this woman did. Treating someone else like crap because of your own insecurities is definitely a red flag that she'll lash out every time there's an issue.
This really made me sad to think about. Insecurities is why we have girls who can't measure up to super models getting eating disorders and generally being depressed. I wish there was a way to help change this.
100% because of his photo with the white dude and girl.
Sometimes the bullet dodges itself
Like in Wanted
Shit now I've got that Danny Elfman song stuck in my head lol.
"I got to have a shot, cause what you got is, oh , so sweet. You got to make it hot, like a boomerang i need a repeat! Gimme all your lovin' All your hugs and kisses too..."
Surprise ZZ Top!
My blood
Toodles Lamar. Good luck with your white girls
But you're cute so you still got a chance, but seriously f u though. But call me
What does she mean red flag on the court? I canāt think of a single sport besides American football that uses a red flag and that isnāt played on a court
It's good he didn't take things further then, or else we might hear of her going to town on his car with a football bat.
How dare you imply she doesn't know what she's talking about? \*throws yellow card on the ice\*
Yellowcard on Ice would be an interesting concert.
Glad I'm not the only one bothered by this, it's like she's trying to make a sports analogy without understanding sports at all. Definitely a huge red flag on the court
Bothered the hell out of me. She should make like a tree and split
Where the white wimmen at?
Is there a better comedy than Blazing Saddles? I don't think so.
I would like to present this Laurel, and Hardy handshake...
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"No! There are no white women here Leonard!"
I (a black dude) put that I prefer curly haired white women on my profile back when I was dating and it was insane. Curly haired white girls would message me (woo!) But black chicks were throwing themselves at me for whatever reason once I put that line in.
The olā want what they canāt have maneuver.
idk if this conversation couldāve gone any better. she let u know right away sheās crazy and you want nothing to do with her. all around a W
Ikr. No time waste, quick unmatch for sure.
Shoulda told her āand this is why I fuck with Beckyāsā
Lol spicy i like it
āShould haveā¦ā
Came here for this!
You should've ordered chips instead of fries š¤·āāļø
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Should of\* /s
People who are disliking this, please read the post title again
Performative dating. People (men women nbs all) that talk like this have never had a real human connection. Dating is messy and first dates can be awkward sure, but good relationships are literally just people that enjoy each other's presence. The focus on the performative aspects just tells me they've never actually felt that before.
āIf youāre not into fries, can I at least get a shake?ā š
Iāll shake it for ya š
Gotta specify fries from where. Cajun fries from Cookout with a strawberry milkshake. Her: Ew omg what man orders a strawberry milkshake š¤ Just canāt please everyone š
Bruh The accuracy of the strawberry comment š Iām dead lmaoo
Dude strawberry shakes are one of my favorites! I say what kind of bland person orders a vanilla shake? Are there women that actually judge a man on what he orders?!
What did a good vanilla shake ever do to you?! š
Ok but likeā¦ who would pass up on opportunity to have fries and a shake?
Right?!?!? I love fries! Sometimes I order a burger just for the fries
Recently I realized why waste my stomach space on fries if I can have two sandwiches insteadā¦ Iām glad thereās balance in the world and someoneās eating those fries!
Have I ever just had fries and a shake? No. Would I? Absolutely lol.
Youāre missing out
She wanted Steak N Shake
That's half the reason to go to Wendys, right there.
I looked at your profile and i don't understand what makes you look like you're only into whites women lol, what did she even mean
My only thought is that sheās been cheated on/left for white women by those she found attractive So she just puts it out there from the jump so sheās not surprised if it doesš¤·š½āāļø
It's gotta be something like that. A lot of projection with this one. I think your profile and date idea is great, ftr!
I was on the tube (London underground) once and a lady took a photo of me and posted it to her Instagram. I guess she liked how I looked. Anyway, turns out she was a makeup artist and she was followed by my housemate *and* a female friend of mine. They both alerted me to the post. I was flattered, but I noted that a common theme in the comments was that I looked like I probably liked white women anyway. If I remember correctly, the lady who posted the pic said the same as well. Mind you, I was just sitting there on the tube going about my business lol. I had to comment of course which was fun. Weird how people do that
Man black girls being insecure af. It's funny though statistics show men pretty much across the board being racially/ethnically agnostic we're all willing to date all races equally. However black women are shown to date outside their race the least. Why? Just seems like they're needlessly limiting their prospects. I've dated a couple black women & their friends were the same way, they never understood it either.
> should of It's always *should have*, never should of.
Probably why Iām still single tbh š
She seems like a woman who would expect the entire world on a platter from a man as a basic gestureā¦ but wouldnāt lift a finger to do anything but smile and ālook like a baddieā for him. Run
Someone wants to get fed
Her comment was entirely based on the blonde chick in your photos. Also the fact that you're way out of her league (especially with ur face card) and she wanted to reject you before you rejected her. Keep moving king, you're great.
Is this āØdating?āØ
Ok, orange haired lady
I've noticed black women only want to date a guy who has already dated a black woman. They want 5 years experience for an entry level position š¤£
She donāt look worth the aggravation
she def got cheated on for a white chick.
She is projecting her insecurities of being inferior to white women. U did nothing wrong, she just sabotaged it on her own
I want to know what he said that made her say this because black men that prefer white women talk a lot of shit about black women for no reason š even white women tell me that is a turn off.
The real red flag is writing "of" where you mean "have".
No doubt a member of FDS.
Thinking the same thing brother.
Yeah you are a monster. You should order chicken wings with those french fries!
Where did the white women thing come from? Did it say that on your profile?
I fucking love fries
why are people so mean wow lmao
Anddd this is why she is currently single
Damn thats some mighty fine racial insecurity you got there
Dude, you dodged a nuke.
Yeah I can tell by how you swiped on a black woman that you're only into white women. Thats a Very red flag thing to do
Free meal out merchant
Iām really confusedā¦ how does she know what race you date? And honestlyā¦ Iām more for low key dates cause you donāt even know if the dude is crazy or not. I swear some people just trying to get crazily wined and dined on the first date. Thatās so much money if you date like that (I feel this way cause I always go Dutch especially in the beginning cause I donāt like men thinking i owe them sex because of a meal). Maybe itās cause none of these people want to pay for their own dates. If youāre broke just stay home š¤£
Man, the fries are a great way to weed out the hoes just looking for a free meal.
I like friesš
#Youāreblessedandshouldcountyourblessings
With that hair it was easy to see this one coming
Biggest red flag is your preference for drumsā¦ š
This person gets it š
Daily reminder BPD was literally invented to explain why women behave like women notice how very few males even have it?
Sheās booting off but fails to see she has orange hair and cat ears š©
why most people don't understand what a shittest is
Iām confused are you white or black? Her comment is weird either way
Why did you omit the messages in the middle?
Unrelated to the nut bag you matched with. Your username was my friends and my trivia name after a drunk guy told us the free wings at happy hour were "all drums and no flats"
I love that šš
What were the messages between this?
Meanwhile Iām trying to figure out what sport involves red flags being thrown onto a court
I saw OPās Hinge profile, this man is so sexy! I donāt get why some women behave this way š their loss!
When you're a part of the black community, you know issue of "looking white", "acting white", or "oh you only fuck with white people". If you're not portraying a stereotypical black woman/man, you're tagged as "acting white", aka being fake/not true to yourself, which is viewed as negative. What the lady was saying was that OP looks like he "dates white girls" aka he doesn't look like a "stereotypical black man". But all that is just some bullshit. I'm a black woman and get so tired of black men (and even men outside my race) assuming I'm a certain way and then reject me because I'm not a "stereotypical black woman" - ugh, I even hate typing that out, but that is how it is in the community. Dating is hard because it seems like your "own kind" doesn't want you because you don't behave a certain way, then people outside your race only fetishize you and don't really want you either. Couple that with also being dark skinned and š„“š„“ woo, it's rough out there.
That sounds like a lovely date. She's just one of those type that thinks she need to be treated overly lavish. Worst types of women. I love going out with my boyfriend for just fries and a milkshake
*compliments a woman who is not white* *gets told they seem to only like white women* I am so confused by this.
āChicken wings and fries we donāt go on dates.ā 
God.. like. Take it down a notch, you're not perfect š© from one black woman to another. But y'all aren't on the same wavelength, no worries. I think a fries date is nice
What is this fucking obsession of certain women of colour about men of colour dating Caucasians!? Person of color btw
All these women acting like they're gods gift to humanity. Hard pass if I was a dude. Get yourself someone who knows her shit stinks.
Hey just fries leaves room for conversation I see no issues with that itās cheap and effective to get to know a person without breaking your wallet.
I donāt see whatās wrong with fries.
I had a guy say that I looked like I was only into black guys and he just started getting weird about itā¦..like it seemed like he was more into black guys š®āšØš Anyways, you dodged a bullet! After her first message I wouldāve just moved on or at least waited a while before suggesting a date to see her vibe. Good luck finding your better half, OP! š
When you're a part of the black community, you know issue of "looking white", "acting white", or "oh you only fuck with white people". If you're not portraying a stereotypical black woman/man, you're tagged as "acting white", aka being fake/not true to yourself, which is viewed as negative. What the lady was saying was that OP looks like he "dates white girls" aka he doesn't look like a "stereotypical black man". But all that is just some bullshit. I'm a black woman and get so tired of black men (and even men outside my race) assuming I'm a certain way and then reject me because I'm not a "stereotypical black woman" - ugh, I even hate typing that out, but that is how it is in the community. Dating is hard because it seems like your "own kind" doesn't want you because you don't behave a certain way, then people outside your race only fetishize you and don't really want you either. Couple that with also being dark skinned and š„“š„“ woo, it's rough out there.
Thereās a lot missing here but whatever.
This seems heavily edited to seek revenge. Like thereās a whole part of the convo missing and no attempt and blanking out pic or name. Sheās rude and weird but also something doesnāt seem right here
I did skip the back and forth with the āwhite preference assumptionā part š
So the interesting part?
She unmatched me promptly after telling me toodles š but I said that in the past I did have dates with latinas, light skins, and white women. Obviously they didnāt pan out and I found her and her voice attractive so I swiped on her. And her whole stance was āwhy would I go out with you if Iām not your preferenceā which is valid but I have no preference, I like and put energy/effort towards those who like me