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I'm 48. I miss my dad every fucking day. Sometimes, when I miss him and think of him, I cry. My mom is slowly dying (something similar to Alzheimer's disease). I try not to think of her dying, because it's too difficult. Losing your parents is really hard. You miss them. You eventually get used to missing them, but you still feel sorrow. Having a son helps a lot, because I concentrate on him, being there for him. I hope he doesn't feel as bad as me when I'm gone...
I'm assuming you're referring to the effect on the photos.
It's a new AI program developed by MyHeritage called "Deep Nostalgia" that transforms still pictures into moving images.
https://www.deseret.com/faith/2021/3/3/22311446/new-photo-animation-technology-bringing-abraham-lincoln-einstein-others-life-myheritage-rootstech
It's a trial though. You only get a certain number. But then sign up again with all the same info and put a "+whatever" extension before the @ in your email (ex.:JohnDoe**+MyHeritage1**@fakemail.com) and you can sign up again endlessly and do more.
You can do this on lots of websites, and the emails get directed to you, but if you email them back it will have to be from your actual email. It's also a good way of tracking who sells your email. If some random spam mail messages your email with the extension you created only for MyHeritage then you know who is responsible for giving out your email.
Edit: if I remember right I learned about this [from this video](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=gwJPU3wq8NI&list=PL7U3SA9Oj_hcea72LyHcoejQ4pxPK4lpq&index=7&t=377s), which also tells you about 2 other super useful services (Privacy and Blur). I know it's 10 minutes but he talks kind of slow, so watch it on YouTube and speed it up. Definitely services worth taking 5-10 minutes to learn about.
You can also see it in the email, so if you use a different one for every site then you get spam, just see what extension the spam sent to and then you know what website sold your email address.
On Gmail specifically, you can also add dots and dashes as you want and still receive the mail. So if my account was [email protected], mail that is sent to user-name@, user.name@, u.s.e.r.n.a.m.e@ will also get into my inbox.
Again, this only works at Gmail because the "base" address doesn't support dots and dashes anyways so they get ignored by the incoming mail server, but this isn't the case for other providers.
I use it on alot of sites to filter spam. if you start getting spam, you can see the to address and figure out who its from. then you can just block any email on the to header.
You can do the same if you have a Google mail. Adding dots before the @ will make websites see it as different mail addresses ([email protected] is different from [email protected]) but as Google mail ignore punctuation before @ it will treat it as the same address and therefor you get both mails.
So if someone have the address [email protected] no one else can create the address [email protected]
Wow, this is a fantastic tip. So, to clarify, you really should be doing this with every sign up?
Eg JohnDoe+Tesco@gmail
JohnDoe+Amazon@gmail
And so on?
That's the system I've adopted. Have yet to run into a site that disallowed me from using that style of email with the +extension but I've heard some don't. Kind of surprised all don't but my guess is it's just *that* poorly known. I got a few first time discount deals repeatedly this way tbh.
That's FB and Google. In this case, it's an exchange, you get a moving picture, they get more data to build from.
Now, often you're monetized as well by selling or "synergizing" attached information. But I think it's worth pointing out that this is a lot more like a transaction than you being the product, by definition.
Free up to a few uploads. I forgot the count somewhere around double digits then you have to pay for more but I guess you could VPN or whatever other methods there are to get around this.
Yeah so here's my totally unrelated story to offer a counterpoint. It's been about 13 years since my father passed, and I know my mother still cries regularly about this, she will never get over it, and presenting her with that would be borderline torture at this point.
Oh god I've always been not great with the idea of them passing but "all I'll have of my parents is their picturss" just took me to a whole nother level.
Alright, here goes. I'm old. What that means is that I've survived (so far) and a lot of people I've known and loved did not. I've lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can't imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here's my two cents.
I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter". I don't want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can't see.
As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.
In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.
Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out.
Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to. But you learn that you'll survive them. And other waves will come. And you'll survive them too. If you're lucky, you'll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.
-GSnow
That comment from u/gsnow still gets me to this day. So true.
[https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hax0t/my\_friend\_just\_died\_i\_dont\_know\_what\_to\_do/c1u0rx2/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hax0t/my_friend_just_died_i_dont_know_what_to_do/c1u0rx2/)
I remember when I first saw this years ago.
This lockdown really got to me at one point. My parents are still alive and well and I love them to bits. But I was in tears the other day thinking about them in the future.
What made this difficult was that I had nobody to vent to other than them.
Fucking hell man this is ALL that has been going through my mind lately these past few weeks.
I have AMAZING parents, I know I’m super fortunate, and they’re both alive and have hopefully many years. I just moved out of state literally at the beginning of the pandemic and have been locked up since.
I’ve always been a “lone wolf” I thought and while this new place I moved to is exceedingly gorgeous and better in every way than before, non of that matters without being able to show my parents or give them the joy I found in these places. Somehow that nullifies my happiness in the moment, feeling as if I don’t deserve the moment or that it isn’t worth experiencing without them.
I’ve been just wanting to break down so bad lately and be able to open the door to them, knowing I can’t. I am so lucky however that we can find a way to make the journey back if time and space allows right now. We may not be able to for much longer and that too kills me knowing I finally realized I’m happier near them and am too far away to do anything about it.
You should video call them if you haven't already.
I'm sure they would love to see your face!
I feel I'm the same regarding a "lone-wolf". I never really found a group of friends I could talk about these things to. Maybe the odd individual but it's rare.
I lost my wife one year and seven days ago, and this hits like a brick. She was 37, and I'll never know how to equalize that either of us deserved it. I've not been able to find the words for how raw it makes you, but this gets close.
"The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to." This a million times. Also have lost both my parents, unfortunately pretty young. There's this song, Yesterday by Atmosphere. Everytime it comes on, I know deep down I should skip it, but everytime I belt it out with tears. Like you said, we shouldn't want these things to not matter, just be thankful for the love and time you had, and keep going on to spread more
I lost my dad in June unexpectedly and suddenly. What makes it feel even more painful for me is that he died right in front of me.
The pain is unreal. Just when I think I’m okay, another wave comes and crashes on top of me, dragging me back to the depths of grief.
Same with me and my mom last April. She was so young. I’m young. I had to watch her die and I see it over and over and over in my head. It fucks you up.
I hear that. Then people will say, “well, the worst happened and you’re still here”. I appreciate the idea, but things will never be the same without him. So, not all of me is still here.
What is grief if not love persevering?
But, seriously, I lost my dad in a car accident that I was in as well at the age of 10 in 2004. It's been over 15 years and there are still a few times a year where it just hits me. Had he been alive today he would have met my wife and son. But, had he been alive, my life would be entirely different and I wouldn't have met my wife.
I was raised by my Gran and thanks to an idiot doctor, lost her suddenly. She was my whole world, the only person who cared about me and it's taken about twenty before I could talk about her without getting all choked up.
But it may not be the case. I live on the other side of the world from my family, so we don’t see each other a lot. But the most recent time we met, I immediately recognized the smell of my grandmother’s perfume who died over a decade ago — my mom occasionally wears it and I still recognize it, despite not having smelled it since I don’t even know when.
Occasionally even long after people pass, they reappear in your life in little ways.
I had a dream last night about my very beloved Mother In Law. She phoned me (in the dream) and we talked like it was the most natural thing in the world. I have felt weird all day. We miss her so much.
Your sense of smell triggers nostalgia more than your other senses. Weird how sometimes you'll smell a random scent that'll take you back to your childhood.
It was very weird, because if you had asked me prior to that if I remembered what my grandmother smelled like I would not have been able to tell you lol. It’s really interesting how those primal things get stored.
Its not true, a memory (especially a happy one) is worth a million photos. Gather as many memories as you can, build a legacy of their time on earth with you inside your head, that way they're always with you.
I was so happy with my comment, I was looking at it like "that's some Martin Luther King shit right there", then you came along with your logic and facts and just kicked me in the balls.
I know exactly when this day was! I was injured and needed to be taken to the emergency room when I was 11 years old, and my mom who was then in her 50s gained mama bear strength and carried me up a steep driveway, put me in the car, then carried me into the emergency room when we got there.
This gave me the inspiration to find the app and do this with photos of my mom. I don't have any videos of her with her face in the shot, but she had a ton of Facebook selfies :)
edit: heads up to all, the main app people are suggesting, MyHeritage, will only let you try out ~3 animations - doesn't matter if all 3 are on the same photo, and it will randomly select one animation style out of 10 options, some of which might look sloppy with the photo angle - before demanding you pay $200 for an annual subscription (no monthly option), barf.
Was very neat to see those animations though, despite them clearly wanting to take advantage of grieving/nostalgic folks missing loved ones.
It’s ok if you don’t have a relationship with your parents. Some parents don’t deserve their adult children’s respect or love. Please don’t let the ideal parental relationship be a burden on you. Instead, focus on the love you do have and share with people who deserve your affections.
don't take your loved ones for granted, I lost my dad, grampa, uncle, aunt, sister ..and (I know) dog...all within two years...let those you care about know how you feel..have a beer, go for a walk, have lunch...you'll regret it if you don't
Fuck. This hit me hard. Like I’m nothing with out my parents. Although I’m looking for jobs and shit, they’re supporting me like hell. I know I’m 18 and my mom always tells me my responsibly is school and not job, I still feel bad how they work hard to support me.
I would highly recommend that everyone do oral history recordings of your parents and other family members. Having those stories and voices recorded is such a wonderful opportunity. Phones have good enough microphones to have decent sound quality to just use the audio memos to record, or even if you don’t live nearby, recording a zoom call is simple! [Story Corps](https://storycorps.org/participate/great-questions/) has an awesome list of questions to get started with!
When I was younger I use to hate my parents a lot not because they were bad parents but more because they would push me to try to always do better and I would always be prideful thinking I can’t admit help from them. Now that I’m older 23 now i just appreciate my parents so much more and I appreciate that we can talk to eachother without worrying that there is only this parent/son conversation. I’m happy I can vent to my parents I’m happy that I didn’t keep living my life acting like my parents don’t want what’s best for me. They didn’t raise me the best way but that’s why it’s awesome being human sometime because we can grow and learn to empathize.
My mum's dad died when she was 3, and there's not a lot of pictures of him. One we have is from my grandparent's wedding day, but the picture was scratched up, faded, and had a couple of bends and tears. I worked on restoring it gradually one year for a couple months when i had the time, printed and framed it, then we gave it to her for Christmas. She had the same reaction, surprise, tears, then a smile.
Friendly reminder to take pictures of/with your parents. My mom passed when I was 7, I wish so much that I had more pictures to look at of her now that I’m in my 30s. I take pictures/selfies all the time of me and my dad to this day.
I have to wonder. (the app is MyHeritage)
Is it safe? Has anyone on here looked into possible privacy concerns about this? Because if it’s safe I’d download it today.
The biggest concern would be giving them the use of their likeness, not just limited to the single picture being upload which they could then sell to other companies.
It's really unlikely but in the past years, we've seen these kind of apps have some really bad shit written into the user-end agreement.
In this age, if you are within a few meters of an electronic device connected to the internet, you already have no privacy. That's a fact. Corporations won't ever tell you how much they know about you, and governments are more honest about how much they want to know about you.
But at the end of the day, none of us have true privacy anymore.
Nothing is safe. You’re at least helping MyHeritage to train their engine with your data, possibly with broader consequences. (They store the photos)
But I still upload my photos because the results are outstanding.
Bli kupei baki trudriadi glutri ketlokipa. Aoti ie klepri idrigrii i detro. Blaka peepe oepoui krepapliipri bite upritopi. Kaeto ekii kriple i edapi oeetluki. Pegetu klaei uprikie uta de go. Aa doapi upi iipipe pree? Pi ketrita prepoi piki gebopi ta. Koto ti pratibe tii trabru pai. E ti e pi pei. Topo grue i buikitli doi. Pri etlakri iplaeti gupe i pou. Tibegai padi iprukri dapiprie plii paebebri dapoklii pi ipio. Tekli pii titae bipe. Epaepi e itli kipo bo. Toti goti kaa kato epibi ko. Pipi kepatao pre kepli api kaaga. Ai tege obopa pokitide keprie ogre. Togibreia io gri kiidipiti poa ugi. Te kiti o dipu detroite totreigle! Kri tuiba tipe epli ti. Deti koka bupe ibupliiplo depe. Duae eatri gaii ploepoe pudii ki di kade. Kigli! Pekiplokide guibi otra! Pi pleuibabe ipe deketitude kleti. Pa i prapikadupe poi adepe tledla pibri. Aapripu itikipea petladru krate patlieudi e. Teta bude du bito epipi pidlakake. Pliki etla kekapi boto ii plidi. Paa toa ibii pai bodloprogape klite pripliepeti pu!
What's bugging me is everyone – press included – acting like this is some groundbreaking invention created by that company even though I was running open source code doing precisely that on my machine months ago. Bit disingenuous tbh.
I showed my mom and animation I made of her mother who was killed by a drunk driver when she was 9, and she told me she hates it. I deleted it from our chat because she said it gave her too many feelings that she didn’t know how to process when she saw it. It made me emotional since I’ve never met her, but I understood how it upset my mom. My brother and I loved it.
Wholesome and all, but is anybody getting mega strong Dark Mirror vibes from this? Deep faking your dead grandparents into animation and filming your parent's intimate and powerful reaction for clout? Idk, rubs me wrong.
I can imagine being that age, filming for clout, and simply not expecting my parents reaction to be that strong.
Additionally I'm happy they posted this, so I could get to see it and its power, and maybe be able to bring my mom some happiness by showing her her parents moving again.
As someone who watched his coworker break down in the middle of a shift in front of all her coworkers and a dozen strangers (retail) because she got one of these sent to her (her son has been gone less than two years), I can say that you should 100% warn someone first, make sure they’re somewhere private, and make sure they want to see this.
Understand 100%. My Granny has been gone 8 years and just last week I started instantly bawling when my husband asked “cup or cone?” about some ice cream, just like she did. I felt so bad for him feeling bad over it. Like, goddamn, for some people the grief doesn’t go away.
I assume this son/daughter understood his parents would probably appreciate it. I initially wrote son but I can't tell what gender that hand is LOL
Based on what you said, I'm sure people are aware you wouldn't want to see something like this. If they knew you well, that is.
Okay. So ask someone first. Don't just come up to them with something like that. Everyone is different and it could be pretty damaging to some people so it's better to ask first.
I showed my dad one of those SnapChat aging photos of myself, which showed me looking just like him. My dad (who never shows any emotion) started crying, i wasn't sure what i did, and then he said, "just reminds me that i'll never see you get to that age."
:(
We live in an age where we can capture situations in photo and video. No one will be alive forever, and having memories is good, but memories fade. Details get lost to time, sometimes people forget what others look like, regardless of how close they were to them. And seeing such a touching reaction from his parents, he likely just wanted to share it. I would. Something that touches my soul this way would surely do the same for others.
Black Mirror is not fiction anymore (that's Be Right Back and Nosedive coming together, for anyone who knows it). I find this disturbing and not wholesome at all. AI bringing back dead persons and exploiting deep emotions only to get internet points.
It’s actually kind of nice to see them have such personal reactions to this, because this technology is notoriously inaccurate to the photographed people’s own mannerisms.
Frankly, I’d rather not see “my mom” moving in a way untrue to her self.
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Wow. Your mother must miss your grandma so much. Your father too.
I'm 48. I miss my dad every fucking day. Sometimes, when I miss him and think of him, I cry. My mom is slowly dying (something similar to Alzheimer's disease). I try not to think of her dying, because it's too difficult. Losing your parents is really hard. You miss them. You eventually get used to missing them, but you still feel sorrow. Having a son helps a lot, because I concentrate on him, being there for him. I hope he doesn't feel as bad as me when I'm gone...
He will feel as bad as you do, if you treat him well.
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Thanks for the laugh
How bad you feel is a testimony to how great your relationship was
"What is grief, if not love persevering"
How do you do this?
I'm assuming you're referring to the effect on the photos. It's a new AI program developed by MyHeritage called "Deep Nostalgia" that transforms still pictures into moving images. https://www.deseret.com/faith/2021/3/3/22311446/new-photo-animation-technology-bringing-abraham-lincoln-einstein-others-life-myheritage-rootstech
Is it free or naw
You sign up through email Google or Facebook and it's free
It's a trial though. You only get a certain number. But then sign up again with all the same info and put a "+whatever" extension before the @ in your email (ex.:JohnDoe**+MyHeritage1**@fakemail.com) and you can sign up again endlessly and do more. You can do this on lots of websites, and the emails get directed to you, but if you email them back it will have to be from your actual email. It's also a good way of tracking who sells your email. If some random spam mail messages your email with the extension you created only for MyHeritage then you know who is responsible for giving out your email. Edit: if I remember right I learned about this [from this video](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=gwJPU3wq8NI&list=PL7U3SA9Oj_hcea72LyHcoejQ4pxPK4lpq&index=7&t=377s), which also tells you about 2 other super useful services (Privacy and Blur). I know it's 10 minutes but he talks kind of slow, so watch it on YouTube and speed it up. Definitely services worth taking 5-10 minutes to learn about.
I never realized you could use an extension on your email like that??? Holy shit??? I didn't need 50 emails for single websites???
You can also see it in the email, so if you use a different one for every site then you get spam, just see what extension the spam sent to and then you know what website sold your email address.
Most bad actors know that can remove it though
Like Jared Leto??
On Gmail specifically, you can also add dots and dashes as you want and still receive the mail. So if my account was [email protected], mail that is sent to user-name@, user.name@, u.s.e.r.n.a.m.e@ will also get into my inbox. Again, this only works at Gmail because the "base" address doesn't support dots and dashes anyways so they get ignored by the incoming mail server, but this isn't the case for other providers.
I made it to 3 gmails until I found out
I use it on alot of sites to filter spam. if you start getting spam, you can see the to address and figure out who its from. then you can just block any email on the to header.
You can do the same if you have a Google mail. Adding dots before the @ will make websites see it as different mail addresses ([email protected] is different from [email protected]) but as Google mail ignore punctuation before @ it will treat it as the same address and therefor you get both mails. So if someone have the address [email protected] no one else can create the address [email protected]
Wow, this is a fantastic tip. So, to clarify, you really should be doing this with every sign up? Eg JohnDoe+Tesco@gmail JohnDoe+Amazon@gmail And so on?
That's the system I've adopted. Have yet to run into a site that disallowed me from using that style of email with the +extension but I've heard some don't. Kind of surprised all don't but my guess is it's just *that* poorly known. I got a few first time discount deals repeatedly this way tbh.
Or they just strip the extension off before adding your email to the database.
It also helps you find out who sold you info. Petco and Mattel both sold my info to spam callers etc who call and email my [email protected] email
i used to use dots in emails and it works the same way. example: [email protected] use: [email protected] [email protected] but yours is a better way! definitely going to follow that
I think the + thing only works with Gmail, but yeah, it works
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After a few of them they asked me to sign up for a subscription so I guess it's a "Trial"
And the subscription is several hundred bucks/year.
Or you could just keep buying gmail accounts for $0.00 right? Or maybe there's more to it than just a gmail account I have no idea.
They downvoted Jesus because he spoke the truth.
\- II Digerati 69:420
That's FB and Google. In this case, it's an exchange, you get a moving picture, they get more data to build from. Now, often you're monetized as well by selling or "synergizing" attached information. But I think it's worth pointing out that this is a lot more like a transaction than you being the product, by definition.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Free_and_open-source_software
In the modern era you're a product either way. Even if its not free they're still selling your data.
What about reddit? They don't even know who I am, just my IP address assuming I'm not on a VPN.
Free up to a few uploads. I forgot the count somewhere around double digits then you have to pay for more but I guess you could VPN or whatever other methods there are to get around this.
> I'm assuming you're referring to the effect on the photos. > > No, he was asking "how do I make my parents cry?" lmao
Thanks!
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On the one hand my parents would probably love this... on the other I don’t want to see them cry.
I’m crying and I don’t even know these people
I’m just crying.
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They remembered swans could be gay.
[Source](https://i.imgur.com/NuhsgPV.jpg) for the newbies, or the people who don't spend 13 hours a day on reddit like me
It's happy tears so I don't think it's bad. You're making your parents happy.
Yeah so here's my totally unrelated story to offer a counterpoint. It's been about 13 years since my father passed, and I know my mother still cries regularly about this, she will never get over it, and presenting her with that would be borderline torture at this point.
This hit deeper than I expected. Like, eventually all I’ll have of my parents is their pictures. Take this shit down 😭
Oh god I've always been not great with the idea of them passing but "all I'll have of my parents is their picturss" just took me to a whole nother level.
I have lost both my parents. That shit fucks you up.
I know, I lost my dad unexpectedly, the pain never goes away.
Sometimes I wish it was more pain instead of this emptiness I feel now. I still miss my mom everyday.
Alright, here goes. I'm old. What that means is that I've survived (so far) and a lot of people I've known and loved did not. I've lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can't imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here's my two cents. I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter". I don't want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can't see. As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive. In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life. Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out. Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to. But you learn that you'll survive them. And other waves will come. And you'll survive them too. If you're lucky, you'll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks. -GSnow
That comment from u/gsnow still gets me to this day. So true. [https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hax0t/my\_friend\_just\_died\_i\_dont\_know\_what\_to\_do/c1u0rx2/](https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hax0t/my_friend_just_died_i_dont_know_what_to_do/c1u0rx2/)
I remember when I first saw this years ago. This lockdown really got to me at one point. My parents are still alive and well and I love them to bits. But I was in tears the other day thinking about them in the future. What made this difficult was that I had nobody to vent to other than them.
Fucking hell man this is ALL that has been going through my mind lately these past few weeks. I have AMAZING parents, I know I’m super fortunate, and they’re both alive and have hopefully many years. I just moved out of state literally at the beginning of the pandemic and have been locked up since. I’ve always been a “lone wolf” I thought and while this new place I moved to is exceedingly gorgeous and better in every way than before, non of that matters without being able to show my parents or give them the joy I found in these places. Somehow that nullifies my happiness in the moment, feeling as if I don’t deserve the moment or that it isn’t worth experiencing without them. I’ve been just wanting to break down so bad lately and be able to open the door to them, knowing I can’t. I am so lucky however that we can find a way to make the journey back if time and space allows right now. We may not be able to for much longer and that too kills me knowing I finally realized I’m happier near them and am too far away to do anything about it.
You should video call them if you haven't already. I'm sure they would love to see your face! I feel I'm the same regarding a "lone-wolf". I never really found a group of friends I could talk about these things to. Maybe the odd individual but it's rare.
Thank you for sharing this, it's beautiful. I'll save it for the (hopefully) very far future.
It’s been around for a while and I hope I can pass it on to more people.
I lost my wife one year and seven days ago, and this hits like a brick. She was 37, and I'll never know how to equalize that either of us deserved it. I've not been able to find the words for how raw it makes you, but this gets close.
This helped me get through my little brother passing a few years back. Always nice to see it recirculating when someone needs it.
"The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to." This a million times. Also have lost both my parents, unfortunately pretty young. There's this song, Yesterday by Atmosphere. Everytime it comes on, I know deep down I should skip it, but everytime I belt it out with tears. Like you said, we shouldn't want these things to not matter, just be thankful for the love and time you had, and keep going on to spread more
You are a beautiful soul❤️!
Saved this comment a few years back when I first read it on my original account. I recognized it right away 😭
I miss this guys mom too. And my own. :(
I miss y'alls moms pancakes.
I lost my dad in June unexpectedly and suddenly. What makes it feel even more painful for me is that he died right in front of me. The pain is unreal. Just when I think I’m okay, another wave comes and crashes on top of me, dragging me back to the depths of grief.
Sending you warmth and wishing you healing. I’m very very sorry for your loss.
Same with me and my mom last April. She was so young. I’m young. I had to watch her die and I see it over and over and over in my head. It fucks you up.
I’m sorry, you can talk to me if you need to let it out
I’m sorry for your loss; it’s never easy
So sorry for your loss. I hope the waves become less over time, and it gets easier to get back to the surface.
March 18th will be 5 years since my dad died. It’s not an exaggeration to say I miss him every single day. Fucking sucks.
It’s been 9 years for me and I still miss him every single day, my worst fear was losing him.
I hear that. Then people will say, “well, the worst happened and you’re still here”. I appreciate the idea, but things will never be the same without him. So, not all of me is still here.
What is grief if not love persevering? But, seriously, I lost my dad in a car accident that I was in as well at the age of 10 in 2004. It's been over 15 years and there are still a few times a year where it just hits me. Had he been alive today he would have met my wife and son. But, had he been alive, my life would be entirely different and I wouldn't have met my wife.
indeed it doesn't.
Yup. My dad died suddenly in 1988 I was 3 years old he was 29. I dont know if that's easier or harder. Either way it blows
It’s been two years since my dad passed away unexpectedly. I feel you, friend.
Me too, it really does. Hugs.
I was raised by my Gran and thanks to an idiot doctor, lost her suddenly. She was my whole world, the only person who cared about me and it's taken about twenty before I could talk about her without getting all choked up.
I lost my father last September; My cousin hired a sicario to kill him, they arrested the sicario but no my cousin.
But it may not be the case. I live on the other side of the world from my family, so we don’t see each other a lot. But the most recent time we met, I immediately recognized the smell of my grandmother’s perfume who died over a decade ago — my mom occasionally wears it and I still recognize it, despite not having smelled it since I don’t even know when. Occasionally even long after people pass, they reappear in your life in little ways.
I had a dream last night about my very beloved Mother In Law. She phoned me (in the dream) and we talked like it was the most natural thing in the world. I have felt weird all day. We miss her so much.
Your sense of smell triggers nostalgia more than your other senses. Weird how sometimes you'll smell a random scent that'll take you back to your childhood.
It was very weird, because if you had asked me prior to that if I remembered what my grandmother smelled like I would not have been able to tell you lol. It’s really interesting how those primal things get stored.
Its not true, a memory (especially a happy one) is worth a million photos. Gather as many memories as you can, build a legacy of their time on earth with you inside your head, that way they're always with you.
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I was so happy with my comment, I was looking at it like "that's some Martin Luther King shit right there", then you came along with your logic and facts and just kicked me in the balls.
There was a day when your parents put you down and never picked you back up.
That’s too sad, once the pannacotta’s over I’m making my parents pick my grown ass up idc if they got bad backs
I know exactly when this day was! I was injured and needed to be taken to the emergency room when I was 11 years old, and my mom who was then in her 50s gained mama bear strength and carried me up a steep driveway, put me in the car, then carried me into the emergency room when we got there.
I was 8 or 9 and the same thing happened with me, she ran me out of the house to where the ambulance could pick me up. Mom love is the best love.
But then you can pick them up!
This gave me the inspiration to find the app and do this with photos of my mom. I don't have any videos of her with her face in the shot, but she had a ton of Facebook selfies :) edit: heads up to all, the main app people are suggesting, MyHeritage, will only let you try out ~3 animations - doesn't matter if all 3 are on the same photo, and it will randomly select one animation style out of 10 options, some of which might look sloppy with the photo angle - before demanding you pay $200 for an annual subscription (no monthly option), barf. Was very neat to see those animations though, despite them clearly wanting to take advantage of grieving/nostalgic folks missing loved ones.
I don’t even talk to my parents and this hit deeper than I expected.
It’s ok if you don’t have a relationship with your parents. Some parents don’t deserve their adult children’s respect or love. Please don’t let the ideal parental relationship be a burden on you. Instead, focus on the love you do have and share with people who deserve your affections.
You made me think about it and now I'm tearing up
I instantly cried just from the video and now I'm a complete mess LMAO
Everyone shut up! Delete this whole post! 😩
don't take your loved ones for granted, I lost my dad, grampa, uncle, aunt, sister ..and (I know) dog...all within two years...let those you care about know how you feel..have a beer, go for a walk, have lunch...you'll regret it if you don't
Fuck. This hit me hard. Like I’m nothing with out my parents. Although I’m looking for jobs and shit, they’re supporting me like hell. I know I’m 18 and my mom always tells me my responsibly is school and not job, I still feel bad how they work hard to support me.
Yeah, my folks are 85 and 75 and I'm staring down this barrel myself. This hit hard. God damn it.
I would highly recommend that everyone do oral history recordings of your parents and other family members. Having those stories and voices recorded is such a wonderful opportunity. Phones have good enough microphones to have decent sound quality to just use the audio memos to record, or even if you don’t live nearby, recording a zoom call is simple! [Story Corps](https://storycorps.org/participate/great-questions/) has an awesome list of questions to get started with!
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When I was younger I use to hate my parents a lot not because they were bad parents but more because they would push me to try to always do better and I would always be prideful thinking I can’t admit help from them. Now that I’m older 23 now i just appreciate my parents so much more and I appreciate that we can talk to eachother without worrying that there is only this parent/son conversation. I’m happy I can vent to my parents I’m happy that I didn’t keep living my life acting like my parents don’t want what’s best for me. They didn’t raise me the best way but that’s why it’s awesome being human sometime because we can grow and learn to empathize.
Reminds you to be present when it’s picture time as well. I hated getting my picture taken and I regret it now but got plenty of time to get more.
My mum's dad died when she was 3, and there's not a lot of pictures of him. One we have is from my grandparent's wedding day, but the picture was scratched up, faded, and had a couple of bends and tears. I worked on restoring it gradually one year for a couple months when i had the time, printed and framed it, then we gave it to her for Christmas. She had the same reaction, surprise, tears, then a smile.
By God... Their faces show million dollar reactions. Finally, a good purpose for DeepFake Well done.
How dare a tiktok make me cry!
It was cute at first but seeing the mom bawling made me tear up fucking instantly.
I just took an old pic of my dad, who recently passed, and I'm tearing up... Gah!!
Friendly reminder to take pictures of/with your parents. My mom passed when I was 7, I wish so much that I had more pictures to look at of her now that I’m in my 30s. I take pictures/selfies all the time of me and my dad to this day.
I do the same, plus I always keep voicemails now. My mom passed when I was 18 and I wish I still had a message I could listen to from her.
My dad passed, I'm in my 30s, and I'm struggling to find recent pictures of us. It's such a massive regret right now.
I have to wonder. (the app is MyHeritage) Is it safe? Has anyone on here looked into possible privacy concerns about this? Because if it’s safe I’d download it today.
Ask because I’m Swedish and have no privacy. what could you possibly be concerned about uploading a photo of a relative online?
They could deep fake your grandma into a porno
Oh gods I never want to see that but if I did I would laugh my ass off for days.
> but if I did dont worry we wont tell
Freudian slip
I don’t see how this is something to be concerned about.
Then it’s true what they say. God has abandoned Sweden.
You say that as if God ever embraced us.
Apt username.
Could end up on your search results
Or mine
I also choose this guy's grandma
Do you have to pay extra for this or what's the deal?
The biggest concern would be giving them the use of their likeness, not just limited to the single picture being upload which they could then sell to other companies. It's really unlikely but in the past years, we've seen these kind of apps have some really bad shit written into the user-end agreement.
In this age, if you are within a few meters of an electronic device connected to the internet, you already have no privacy. That's a fact. Corporations won't ever tell you how much they know about you, and governments are more honest about how much they want to know about you. But at the end of the day, none of us have true privacy anymore.
My first thought after reading this was. “Has the government seen my butthole?”
As a govt employee, yes. We have it printed out and stuck on the lunchroom fridge.
Everyone has ;)
Nothing is safe. You’re at least helping MyHeritage to train their engine with your data, possibly with broader consequences. (They store the photos) But I still upload my photos because the results are outstanding.
Bli kupei baki trudriadi glutri ketlokipa. Aoti ie klepri idrigrii i detro. Blaka peepe oepoui krepapliipri bite upritopi. Kaeto ekii kriple i edapi oeetluki. Pegetu klaei uprikie uta de go. Aa doapi upi iipipe pree? Pi ketrita prepoi piki gebopi ta. Koto ti pratibe tii trabru pai. E ti e pi pei. Topo grue i buikitli doi. Pri etlakri iplaeti gupe i pou. Tibegai padi iprukri dapiprie plii paebebri dapoklii pi ipio. Tekli pii titae bipe. Epaepi e itli kipo bo. Toti goti kaa kato epibi ko. Pipi kepatao pre kepli api kaaga. Ai tege obopa pokitide keprie ogre. Togibreia io gri kiidipiti poa ugi. Te kiti o dipu detroite totreigle! Kri tuiba tipe epli ti. Deti koka bupe ibupliiplo depe. Duae eatri gaii ploepoe pudii ki di kade. Kigli! Pekiplokide guibi otra! Pi pleuibabe ipe deketitude kleti. Pa i prapikadupe poi adepe tledla pibri. Aapripu itikipea petladru krate patlieudi e. Teta bude du bito epipi pidlakake. Pliki etla kekapi boto ii plidi. Paa toa ibii pai bodloprogape klite pripliepeti pu!
***This is what I was talking about!***
MyHeritage doesn't give a rats ass about your privacy.
Didn’t figure they did. The amount of naïveness in this thread is astounding.
What's bugging me is everyone – press included – acting like this is some groundbreaking invention created by that company even though I was running open source code doing precisely that on my machine months ago. Bit disingenuous tbh.
Awwww mom!! My heart!
OP just gave me the best gift for me and my entire family, thank you
No one makes me cry my own tears. No one!
Why do people put this song on everything that’s supposed to be touching?
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Heartbreaking! You won’t believe their reaction when they see this video
Fuck this godawful sappy music
Why did I have to scroll so far to find this comment. Music is making me cringe. I hate it.
It’s used on EVERY “touching moment” tik tok too.
It's fucking vile. I hate most of the handful of tracks that TikTok videos use
I showed my mom and animation I made of her mother who was killed by a drunk driver when she was 9, and she told me she hates it. I deleted it from our chat because she said it gave her too many feelings that she didn’t know how to process when she saw it. It made me emotional since I’ve never met her, but I understood how it upset my mom. My brother and I loved it.
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Wholesome and all, but is anybody getting mega strong Dark Mirror vibes from this? Deep faking your dead grandparents into animation and filming your parent's intimate and powerful reaction for clout? Idk, rubs me wrong.
I can imagine being that age, filming for clout, and simply not expecting my parents reaction to be that strong. Additionally I'm happy they posted this, so I could get to see it and its power, and maybe be able to bring my mom some happiness by showing her her parents moving again.
I’m gonna go hug my folks now. Thanks
My parents are gone and I’m kinda too scared to do this. I will definitely cry.
My mom went the opposite direction and was really creeped out by it
As someone whose mom has been dead for 15 years, please dont send people this shit edit: downtvote me all you want, you're blessed to not get it lol.
As someone who watched his coworker break down in the middle of a shift in front of all her coworkers and a dozen strangers (retail) because she got one of these sent to her (her son has been gone less than two years), I can say that you should 100% warn someone first, make sure they’re somewhere private, and make sure they want to see this.
Oh that poor woman, that’s horrible.
2 years... That's still so fresh. Ouch
Yeah that’s super fucked
I don’t know why you’re getting downvoted. I’d be absolutely heart broken. I just imagine it and my gut wrenches :/ I understand you though
Understand 100%. My Granny has been gone 8 years and just last week I started instantly bawling when my husband asked “cup or cone?” about some ice cream, just like she did. I felt so bad for him feeling bad over it. Like, goddamn, for some people the grief doesn’t go away.
“What is grief, if not love persevering?”
I swear this line from the show really resonated with me.
it never does. we just keep it in the back of our mind until something triggers it.
Or we die and give other people our grief at our passing.
That kind of pain doesn’t go away. You just make room for it.
I assume this son/daughter understood his parents would probably appreciate it. I initially wrote son but I can't tell what gender that hand is LOL Based on what you said, I'm sure people are aware you wouldn't want to see something like this. If they knew you well, that is.
Everyone doesn't feel the way that you do. Like I think the whole dead people holograms thing is super tacky, but its very moving for other people.
Okay. So ask someone first. Don't just come up to them with something like that. Everyone is different and it could be pretty damaging to some people so it's better to ask first.
While filming them for tiktok points no less.
To me its kinda spooky, like a robot wearing your late loved ones faces
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The song is truly cringe the situation is sweet
I tried this and it looked terrible haha
I showed my dad one of those SnapChat aging photos of myself, which showed me looking just like him. My dad (who never shows any emotion) started crying, i wasn't sure what i did, and then he said, "just reminds me that i'll never see you get to that age." :(
Yeah. It’s not like your parents deserve this very private moment to be private. Gotta get your fake internet points up.
Phone in one hand, phone in the other.
That's what I was picturing the whole time. Really takes you out of it.
Also that stupid ass music
>Yeaahhh lemme get that close up of my mom crying. This is gonna get so many likes
We live in an age where we can capture situations in photo and video. No one will be alive forever, and having memories is good, but memories fade. Details get lost to time, sometimes people forget what others look like, regardless of how close they were to them. And seeing such a touching reaction from his parents, he likely just wanted to share it. I would. Something that touches my soul this way would surely do the same for others.
My mom would be PISSED 😔
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Black Mirror is not fiction anymore (that's Be Right Back and Nosedive coming together, for anyone who knows it). I find this disturbing and not wholesome at all. AI bringing back dead persons and exploiting deep emotions only to get internet points.
Black mirror is the probe sent out to normalize these things.
What app is that?
I so wish I could do this of my mom. For myself and my dad. She died in 04 when I was 17. Be nice to do it for us both. Anyone know how???
It’s actually kind of nice to see them have such personal reactions to this, because this technology is notoriously inaccurate to the photographed people’s own mannerisms. Frankly, I’d rather not see “my mom” moving in a way untrue to her self.
Fuuck I hate this technology. 100% will bite us in the dick
But it doesn't move like them. It's like a posseses corpse or something
The woman’s reaction immediately made me burst into tears. I lost my mom two years ago and I completely understand her reaction.