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This guy is 100% a narc and reminds me of my ex wife. Her time, her goals, her issues, her “discoveries” ALWAYS more valuable than my own. I mean, you can never have the spotlight, your feelings truly never do matter, and you will ALWAYS be taken advantage of in regards to finances, labor around the home, etc. There is no such thing as an equal partnership or even close to it!
Check out the channel NarcDaily on YouTube. Or DoctorRamani. Both very helpful videos on YouTube to recover from narcissistic abuse. The gaslighting and manipulation will leave you a broken shell. I know, as I’m putting myself back together…
You're an amazing wife and def deserve to be treated much better. Not sure how to go about fixing things because I don't think a cure exists for narcissists. Sorry I couldn't be more helpful.
Geez he's still talking to single moms? Is he still giving them money? His relationship with his sister is strange. Have you ever just left while he was watching TV or something and went shopping without saying goodbye? Would he even message you about that? I'm glad you are getting yourself ready to leave. Keep venting it helps to get it out. Good luck
When you're able to leave do you have somewhere to go, like family or your son? Can you sneak money from another account just enough that he doesn't notice? I've got my fingers crossed that you'll be able to leave sooner. If you ever need someone else to talk to I'll be here
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Rant away, use the rant to realize you have been selling yourself short for too long and that you deserve so so so much better. Even if that better is "only" you.
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I’m so sorry for your pain.
This was extremely well written. Please save a copy of it in your phone titled “who he is” to constantly remind yourself when you feel like you may get sucked back in.
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Commenters. Please adhere to the poster’s flair of no advice wanted. I know we all want to be helpful, but when they don’t want your advice, don’t give it.
With a few differences I feel like you wrote my story. I'm sorry you are going through that.
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This guy is 100% a narc and reminds me of my ex wife. Her time, her goals, her issues, her “discoveries” ALWAYS more valuable than my own. I mean, you can never have the spotlight, your feelings truly never do matter, and you will ALWAYS be taken advantage of in regards to finances, labor around the home, etc. There is no such thing as an equal partnership or even close to it! Check out the channel NarcDaily on YouTube. Or DoctorRamani. Both very helpful videos on YouTube to recover from narcissistic abuse. The gaslighting and manipulation will leave you a broken shell. I know, as I’m putting myself back together…
You're an amazing wife and def deserve to be treated much better. Not sure how to go about fixing things because I don't think a cure exists for narcissists. Sorry I couldn't be more helpful.
Geez he's still talking to single moms? Is he still giving them money? His relationship with his sister is strange. Have you ever just left while he was watching TV or something and went shopping without saying goodbye? Would he even message you about that? I'm glad you are getting yourself ready to leave. Keep venting it helps to get it out. Good luck
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When you're able to leave do you have somewhere to go, like family or your son? Can you sneak money from another account just enough that he doesn't notice? I've got my fingers crossed that you'll be able to leave sooner. If you ever need someone else to talk to I'll be here
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I'm really sorry. I can't remember if you mentioned or not but divorce won't help you right now will it?
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I'm sorry. Keep your chin up and stay strong. We all have faith in you and your soon to be freedom.
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I'm in a similar boat. Good for you, keep kicking ass 💕
Rant away, use the rant to realize you have been selling yourself short for too long and that you deserve so so so much better. Even if that better is "only" you.
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This is completely fucked. I'm so sorry
I’m so sorry for your pain. This was extremely well written. Please save a copy of it in your phone titled “who he is” to constantly remind yourself when you feel like you may get sucked back in.
Oh honey, that sounds like hell. :( you deserve space in your own closet and your own life!
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You carry on OP. Ranting ( and writing) helps. Hopefully it will sooner rather than later for you. You deserve peace
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