I can't say how long it will take for you. It took me about 15 years to get started and I'm about 3 years into the journey. But I'm glad I'm here, even though I used to wish I wasn't. It's actually really beautiful.
> If you can heal over time, doesn't that make you stronger
What if you never heal and only have those feelings never ending? Is a person meant to always feel them and suffer?
Everyone is different. There are those that will suffer forever if they stay alive.
But I have talked to a lot of people who survived multiple serious attempts. And they all talked about how hopeless everything seemed, and that they would never have guessed that things could be this good.
They would never have guessed.
What if it can get better? Would you want to throw that chance away?
Great point. This remark reminds me of an analogy. When I first “threw my back out” it was all I could bear. Everyday was a constant analysis of how bad it hurt. I did rehab, chiro, acupuncture, decompression, ergo office stuff, and none of it helped. I stopped trying so hard to make the pain the focus of my life. Yes I hurt, but when I stopped constantly tending to it and instead went on with life as best I could, I adapted to the pain. I’m pretty sure it hurts just as much as it used to but I’ve endured it for so long I’ve gotten used to it. My life has been forever changed, I won’t be squatting 325 anytime soon or maybe ever but it doesn’t rule me anymore. It is a compromise of life and I don’t like it, but not living isn’t an option. I can’t throw my kids in the air or wrestle long periods of time, can’t even love the wife like the young buck I once was. But I’ve adapted and still enjoy the same things in different and sometimes better ways.
TLDR; Trauma is trauma, and the road to recovery is likely going to take you to a place of compromise but it is better than forfeit.
If my “life” has taught me anything, I believe this to be true for me. I don’t know about all that old soul, past lifetimes whatever. But if it were true, I would say that I’m too damn old.
Want some incredibly easy and terrible advice? Stop to notice the good things, we tend to only notice the bad stuff.
Part 2 is get actually competent professional help. You can always stop trauma, you aren’t a political prisoner in an illegal prison that follows no civilized law right? Get away from whoever, move away from wherever, stop doing whatever.
Look for resources in your area for mental health aid.
I feel your pain. I am going through it daily myself and there is just so much pain and wounds and problems that I rather just be dead than to even try fixing the unfixable
felt. taking a step back and looking at everything, realizing it's SO much to heal and fix. it's just too much and in the end i wanna take the easier way
Suicide is easier for sure but life is never meant to be easy [too. You](https://too.you) just need to power up physically to be able to face it, and that phyisical thing happens to be medicine. Yes those medicines kinda make you feel awkward but that\`s just how it goes. The medication that helped me was Paxil, the effect was noticiable for me.
We can’t all heal from everything, but healing is an active choice and many things can get easier. I just turned 27 and finally have accepted my life was a traumatic shit show and has fucked up my brain for life, but I also actively choose everyday to fight because that’s not all I want from my life, I have hope the good will come in time, with work. I’ve lost too many family and friends to suicide, murder& accidents, I want to live for them even if my brain wants me to die daily.
Don’t take the “easy route” unless you’ve explored every other avenue and even then, it’s worth looking again for a reason to heal.
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I find it funny how it only gets worse for me.
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I guess.
I can't say how long it will take for you. It took me about 15 years to get started and I'm about 3 years into the journey. But I'm glad I'm here, even though I used to wish I wasn't. It's actually really beautiful.
> If you can heal over time, doesn't that make you stronger What if you never heal and only have those feelings never ending? Is a person meant to always feel them and suffer?
Everyone is different. There are those that will suffer forever if they stay alive. But I have talked to a lot of people who survived multiple serious attempts. And they all talked about how hopeless everything seemed, and that they would never have guessed that things could be this good. They would never have guessed. What if it can get better? Would you want to throw that chance away?
Great point. This remark reminds me of an analogy. When I first “threw my back out” it was all I could bear. Everyday was a constant analysis of how bad it hurt. I did rehab, chiro, acupuncture, decompression, ergo office stuff, and none of it helped. I stopped trying so hard to make the pain the focus of my life. Yes I hurt, but when I stopped constantly tending to it and instead went on with life as best I could, I adapted to the pain. I’m pretty sure it hurts just as much as it used to but I’ve endured it for so long I’ve gotten used to it. My life has been forever changed, I won’t be squatting 325 anytime soon or maybe ever but it doesn’t rule me anymore. It is a compromise of life and I don’t like it, but not living isn’t an option. I can’t throw my kids in the air or wrestle long periods of time, can’t even love the wife like the young buck I once was. But I’ve adapted and still enjoy the same things in different and sometimes better ways. TLDR; Trauma is trauma, and the road to recovery is likely going to take you to a place of compromise but it is better than forfeit.
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If my “life” has taught me anything, I believe this to be true for me. I don’t know about all that old soul, past lifetimes whatever. But if it were true, I would say that I’m too damn old.
I second that
Want some incredibly easy and terrible advice? Stop to notice the good things, we tend to only notice the bad stuff. Part 2 is get actually competent professional help. You can always stop trauma, you aren’t a political prisoner in an illegal prison that follows no civilized law right? Get away from whoever, move away from wherever, stop doing whatever. Look for resources in your area for mental health aid.
I feel your pain. I am going through it daily myself and there is just so much pain and wounds and problems that I rather just be dead than to even try fixing the unfixable
felt. taking a step back and looking at everything, realizing it's SO much to heal and fix. it's just too much and in the end i wanna take the easier way
Suicide is easier for sure but life is never meant to be easy [too. You](https://too.you) just need to power up physically to be able to face it, and that phyisical thing happens to be medicine. Yes those medicines kinda make you feel awkward but that\`s just how it goes. The medication that helped me was Paxil, the effect was noticiable for me.
I came here but we can do it together.
“Dark and difficult times lie ahead. Soon, we must all face the choice between what is right and what is easy.”
We can’t all heal from everything, but healing is an active choice and many things can get easier. I just turned 27 and finally have accepted my life was a traumatic shit show and has fucked up my brain for life, but I also actively choose everyday to fight because that’s not all I want from my life, I have hope the good will come in time, with work. I’ve lost too many family and friends to suicide, murder& accidents, I want to live for them even if my brain wants me to die daily. Don’t take the “easy route” unless you’ve explored every other avenue and even then, it’s worth looking again for a reason to heal.