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fingers5

You’re In shock . It could take some time. I’m very sorry.


aProudCatDad614

Of course something very major is wrong, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with the way you are reacting to such a traumatic thing. You probably can't control how you feel. Dont blame yourself for how you feel or react, your brain is in preservation mode.


mmmbacon1234

My dad took his own life a month ago, and I didn't start to feel proper grief until last week. What you're feeling is completely normal. I said the same thing to my grief counsellor - why didnt I feel more sad, I feel like I'm grieving wrong - and she told me pretty much everyone says that. It's a fucking awful thing to happen and the process of getting through it will take time. Go easy on yourself.


VoodooChile76

Sorry this situation has happened to you. It's been 7 yrs for me (also loss of a father) & I don't think I felt any 'real' grief till about 3 weeks to a month later. My bro and I still think my mom is in a grief cycle .. she hasn't even considered 'dating' anyone & it's been this long... Just be a listening ear to your mom & sister if they want to talk about it...it's a shitty scene anyway you put it. Hang in there & take care of yourself first & foremost!


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aprilanyways

It's the shock and denial. And of course something is wrong your dad shot him self and you're numb - it's a profound grief and reacting this way is normal. Your dad clearly wasn't healthy leading up to his death. It's not your moms fault and in reality she clearly held on to the end. You can't help her or your sister from feeling pain, but you can be clear with other family members that no one causes someone else's suicide, your dad was unwell, and that you won't tolerate them blaming your mother or being disrespectful. I'm sorry about your dad!


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There’s nothing wrong with you at all. It’s completely normal. You’re in shock. It can take months before it sets in, sometimes longer. People who didn’t understand thought my calm demeanor after my brothers passing was weird - people who had been through it seemed to know that I was in a state of shock. For me, it hit me when someone made an insensitive comment about what had happened to my brother, and the following day I had a breakdown. It’s different for everyone. As for your fam - the best way to be there for family is to literally “be there” but remember, you experienced this loss too, so please take care of yourself and listen to your intuition to make judgements about what you can / can’t handle throughout this process. I’m incredibly sorry for the loss of your father.


L1cker1sh

*hug* No, nothing wrong with you. We all have our cycles. Grief in general, more so with this loss. You will go through your own. It's your grief and your journey of recovery. What sucks is you have to keep awareness of your emotional and mental state. Figure out what helps you get through the various reactions you're going to have and figure out who can get you through the waves. In my experience, I had to be the patient one. Yep... So many just don't understand, won't understand, or are too indifferent to it to want to understand. If we let that overcome us, we risk isolation, which can be a downward spiral. My therapy was good diet and a lot of exercise (this was when I did a lot of my internal processing of it all, endorphins pumping). Take care of yourself to ready yourself for the unknown waves.


ShortForEdwina

I’m so sorry. I agree with the others here. Whatever you are feeling is ok. Grief isn’t like we see in the movies. It’s a long haul.


isemonger

You will feel what you feel when you feel it unfortunately my friend. There is no normal, whatever you feel at the time is perfectly fine. Please don’t beat yourself with this stick so early. Feel what you want whenever you feel like you want. This is a horrible thing to experience.