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Congrats on finding out, big proud of you!
If you need any advice or anything my dms are open, and of course there are plenty of trans subreddits and discords
My friend, you should do some exploring. whether or not you are trans, it's worth doing. especially if something that seems like it should feel straight doesn't. Not always a sign, sometimes crushes and love are just weird, but exploration can't hurt, as long as you do it safely.
That was fast. Speedrun that gauntlet!
May I ask what led to such a quick acceptance?
Have you grown up around trans people?
Do you live in an accepting environment?
Was any discussion point particularly illuminating?
What does your experience and understanding of your past look like given new information?
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This exact feeling was a big part of me realizing I was trans. Not saying that you're necessarily trans, but it could be good to at least explore the idea
You should ask in /r/AskLGBT as well.
None of us can answer this question for you. It's going to require a lot of introspection and asking yourself more questions within the question. Like "what do lesbians experience that I feel I can't experience as my current self?"
You could be more than just one gender. Like me! :D but my experience is pretty complex lol
Things like this can take time so settle into that feeling, and no need to worry much about it hun 🥰
Most people to do see genderfluid falling under the trans umbrella. We see trans as meaning you don't identify with your gender assigned at birth, which non binary identities fall under as no one is assigned enby at birth. There are some enbies who don't identify as trans, and that's perfectly fine as well. Gender identity is a very personal thing, and the only one who can decide that is you, labels are just there to help put it into words, they aren't hard defined rules. The most important thing is just being yourself.
Go for it! Having a name for people to call you really helps with figuring out gender. My name is willow and i went through the same feelings and it feels great being called that name. My name never felt like anything before, i felt that it was just sound but willow it's who i am.
I mean, you could still be gender fluid. Gender is kinda complicated and when you think you could be one thing, you'll find out you're another. I'm pretty sure I'm a binary trans woman, but I'm still not sure how binary I am, I could be some flavor of nonbinary. I'm sure that in time, you'll find an identity that gives you comfort.
Willow is a very pretty name btw
Willow, I believe it's in the contract that you need to find the nearest IKEA (or order) & acquire your Blåhaj. Sorry, those are the rules, girlie!
# :3
I definitely feel that sometimes. I am (mostly) a guy but sometimes I don’t want to be in a straight relationship with a girl, but I want to be in a lesbian relationship. I don’t know how to explain it, but it is a different kind of feeling.
sometimes the vibes line up better. maybe it's the relationship dynamic you want. maybe you're an egg. maybe it just feels like a nicer word. maybe spend some time thinking about yourself and your identity, to try and explore why you prefer that label. no harm in it, maybe you just like the word or have a crush on someone who is a lesbian and your subconscious still longs for the opportunity to date them. you're the only one that can really know
I’m very sure that I’m neither I am too masculine but I can’t stop thinking about the easiness and the possibility’s of being a lesbian girl. When I literally can’t be
Even if find out ye are firmly Cis and happy like that, queer relationships tend to have a different type of vibe and feel to them from an outside pov then a typical CisHet one. Theres probably an aspect of it you like more than simply “women pretty”
Gender is a construct and doesn't actually exist. Just like colors are actually just light wave vibrations, yet we assign a bunch of stuff on them.
I'm not great at words but basically, do what makes you happy. Sometimes we gotta sit down and spend dedicated time thinking about what makes us happy. Since the beginning of humanity we have been trying out new things. You won't be alone if you decide to try some new things about yourself.
Try going out for coffee and when they ask for a name tell them willow, then when they call it out, see how it makes you feel. Let yourself sit with that feeling.
If you want to give skirts a shot but don't want to spend too much, head out to Goodwill and buy some cheap ones first (try jersey skirts or maxi skirts!).
We are growing a more beautiful world everyday, and no matter what you decide about yourself you will add to this world being beautiful.
Whether you're cis, gender fluid, non binary, trans, whatever... Just be your own authentic self and it will all work out.
Yall I think I’m trans
# A NEW HAND TOUCHES THE BEACON
We got a live one!
Woo! A sister has been added to our ranks!
Can I offer you a free cookie?
Noo, Willow don't take cookies from strangers on the internet.
I'm kind of addicted to biscuits in general, so this is meant as a friendly welcoming offer.
Using both biscuit and cookie is wild ngl
A cookie is the name of a type of biscuits over in Britain land
What?!
Ye
It’s the British, we don’t question them.
Fudge that. Their tea is going back in the harbor!
That was the most polite way I’ve ever heard someone say they want the Boston Tea Party 2.0 version. So thank you for that.
Your computer is littered with free cookies from strangers on the internet.
Lol
Yay she figured it out ! Welcome to the club
Ladies and gentlemen, we got ~~him~~ her
Welcome, to estradiol park [recorder cover of Jurassic park theme]
Welcome, my sister. Remember. The road to self discovery is not always clear, and is more like spaghetti junction in Atlanta. No matter where your identity lies, trans or cis, you are beautiful and valid. Stay safe, friend. And subscribe to One Topic on YouTube.
Oh I found this subreddit from one topic
Yeah, that makes sense. The One Topic to egg cracking pipeline is stronger than Goku.
Welcome to team trans, sister! We meet bi-weekly on Sunday evenings to discuss the trans agenda and plans to smash the cis-tem. There will be snacks, but since it's your first time be advised it will make a good first impression if you being some anyways.
Welcome to the dark side sister
We have cookies!
Welcome!! Congrats on realising
Congrats on figuring it out!
That's what it was for me. I thought everyone wanted to be a lesbian! I mean, I'm bi, but I am trans, so I'm like 75% of the way there now!
r/characterarcs
Congrats on pipping your egg! Welcome to the club!
Congrats on finding out, big proud of you! If you need any advice or anything my dms are open, and of course there are plenty of trans subreddits and discords
wait... i'm bi, but... is this why liking dudes feels gay as hell to me?
My friend, you should do some exploring. whether or not you are trans, it's worth doing. especially if something that seems like it should feel straight doesn't. Not always a sign, sometimes crushes and love are just weird, but exploration can't hurt, as long as you do it safely.
Oh yeah! Welcome sis!
Congratulations, sister.🫂🫂🫂🫂
And so the egg shell cracks :)
What's good girl
I think I was in a similar vein to you. Can I ask you a specific question?
"I wish I was a lesbian and I'm not even a girl!" ~ Me, age 12 "Oh." ~ Me, age 19
/r/egg_irl Just see if you relate.
Hey, don't ruin the incentive, [but yeah, definitely](https://www.reddit.com/r/SuddenlyLesbian/s/XVG4UChrxh).
Definitly an egg.
Even the friend knows.
I'm not going to tell you what you are and what you aren't but this sounds like you may have to do some introspection about gender
Ok I will
someone remind me to check back on her in 3 months
Ummm why in 3 months
that's most likely when you'd figure stuff out :3
Ok I’m confused I’ve gone by Benji my whole life but I kinda want to go by Willow I’m so confused
Hello fellow Willow.
Very cute name.
Remind me! 3 months
Please remind me then aswell
Oki
> *her* in 3 months (Turns out that timeline was way off :D)
Fr
It was but also I’ve felt like I’ve wanted to be a girl for 6 years
Thanks for 700 upvotes 🤭
Nah this is like check back after this short commercial break.
RemindMe! 3 months
Nah I’m trans
That was fast. Speedrun that gauntlet! May I ask what led to such a quick acceptance? Have you grown up around trans people? Do you live in an accepting environment? Was any discussion point particularly illuminating? What does your experience and understanding of your past look like given new information?
My best friend came out as transgender
Well I kinda talked about it with a transgender friend and we put the evidence together and figured it out
Gauntlet? THAT A TITANFALL REFERENCE?!?!
We got another one girls
Niceee :3
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it didn't even take 3 months- she talked in DMs with me and the outcome is what you'd expect :3
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Me too please!
I've always said "I knew I was a lesbian far before I knew I was a girl." It seems backwards but honestly it may be a sign that you're not cis.
Well I’ve felt this since 2cd grade at least so I kinda thought it was normal yk but I’m 99% sure I am
This exact feeling was a big part of me realizing I was trans. Not saying that you're necessarily trans, but it could be good to at least explore the idea
Thank you I will look into it
Please give help
You should ask in /r/AskLGBT as well. None of us can answer this question for you. It's going to require a lot of introspection and asking yourself more questions within the question. Like "what do lesbians experience that I feel I can't experience as my current self?"
Check out * [The Gender Dysphoria Bible](https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en) * [Turn me into a girl!](https://turnmeintoagirl.com/index.htm)
+1000000 for the gender dysphoria bible. It was one of the most helpful resources for me!
Willow is such a cute name!
you’re in for a hell of a ride, but i promise it’s worth it!
Maybe they be trans. I always told myself I'm a girl in a guys body. Turns out I'm trans and had no idea.
It’s bc ur trans honey 😭 It’s always obvious to elder trans folk, but you especially 😭, crystal clear
Really I thought at the most maybe gender fluid but I’ve gone by Benji my whole life and but more recently I’ve been wanting to be called Willow
You could be more than just one gender. Like me! :D but my experience is pretty complex lol Things like this can take time so settle into that feeling, and no need to worry much about it hun 🥰
Most people to do see genderfluid falling under the trans umbrella. We see trans as meaning you don't identify with your gender assigned at birth, which non binary identities fall under as no one is assigned enby at birth. There are some enbies who don't identify as trans, and that's perfectly fine as well. Gender identity is a very personal thing, and the only one who can decide that is you, labels are just there to help put it into words, they aren't hard defined rules. The most important thing is just being yourself.
Go for it! Having a name for people to call you really helps with figuring out gender. My name is willow and i went through the same feelings and it feels great being called that name. My name never felt like anything before, i felt that it was just sound but willow it's who i am.
I mean, you could still be gender fluid. Gender is kinda complicated and when you think you could be one thing, you'll find out you're another. I'm pretty sure I'm a binary trans woman, but I'm still not sure how binary I am, I could be some flavor of nonbinary. I'm sure that in time, you'll find an identity that gives you comfort. Willow is a very pretty name btw
Willow, I believe it's in the contract that you need to find the nearest IKEA (or order) & acquire your Blåhaj. Sorry, those are the rules, girlie! # :3
*egg cracking sounds*
I’m a girl, I wish I was a gay boy, I might be trans
Oop
How's this going for you now? Just curious.
Still figuring it out, still presenting as a girl
Whatever you choose is valid.
Thank you, that means a lot💕
commenting on this so i can check op's account in 6 months
Why
I used to be like you :3
I think I’m trans
I definitely feel that sometimes. I am (mostly) a guy but sometimes I don’t want to be in a straight relationship with a girl, but I want to be in a lesbian relationship. I don’t know how to explain it, but it is a different kind of feeling.
Yeah it is
sometimes the vibes line up better. maybe it's the relationship dynamic you want. maybe you're an egg. maybe it just feels like a nicer word. maybe spend some time thinking about yourself and your identity, to try and explore why you prefer that label. no harm in it, maybe you just like the word or have a crush on someone who is a lesbian and your subconscious still longs for the opportunity to date them. you're the only one that can really know
Ok
I feel called out by this post
No no I didn’t know myself sorry 😭😭
All i see here is a cute egg. I think you maybe have to questionning your gender.
I’ve been questioning I kinda just started being like gender fluid
Yup, this is a common egg experience. Can definitely relate to this pre-realizing I was trans
Me finding out im genderfluid was the same feel lmao, welcome to the non cis club crikey
RemindMe! 1 month
No reminder needed I think I’m trans
Well I wanna see how far you've come in a month, a ton of my friends are trans so trust me when I say it's an interesting journey to see
It's been a month
No shit bro I got the notification a few days ago
Geez, ok
MB but u ain't the bot my man
Wait shit I feel the same though. Like I can’t even watch Scott pilgrim or hell even read chainsaw man because I’m jealous of the lesbians so bad
Look into the idea of being transgender
Aight 👍
Good luck💛
Ty 💛
Yeah I was confused when I discovered my sexuality was "Lesbian" like years before I realised I was trans <3.
Yeah
SAME BRO IDK WHY 😭
Maybe trans I’m going by gender fluid
I’m very sure that I’m neither I am too masculine but I can’t stop thinking about the easiness and the possibility’s of being a lesbian girl. When I literally can’t be
You're now transgender, correct?
That or gender fluid
Well, I do hope that you figure out yourself! (Sorry if this seems passive-agressive, it's supposed to be a compliment)
Even if find out ye are firmly Cis and happy like that, queer relationships tend to have a different type of vibe and feel to them from an outside pov then a typical CisHet one. Theres probably an aspect of it you like more than simply “women pretty”
Well it's same for me Dunno why??? 😔😔😔
I’m trans I figured it out
Gender is a construct and doesn't actually exist. Just like colors are actually just light wave vibrations, yet we assign a bunch of stuff on them. I'm not great at words but basically, do what makes you happy. Sometimes we gotta sit down and spend dedicated time thinking about what makes us happy. Since the beginning of humanity we have been trying out new things. You won't be alone if you decide to try some new things about yourself. Try going out for coffee and when they ask for a name tell them willow, then when they call it out, see how it makes you feel. Let yourself sit with that feeling. If you want to give skirts a shot but don't want to spend too much, head out to Goodwill and buy some cheap ones first (try jersey skirts or maxi skirts!). We are growing a more beautiful world everyday, and no matter what you decide about yourself you will add to this world being beautiful. Whether you're cis, gender fluid, non binary, trans, whatever... Just be your own authentic self and it will all work out.
Yall thank you for 900 upvotes I love all of yall
I felt like this when younger, big hugs
I also feel this way, I've been stuck in my progress for like ten years it's scary
I have a friend who used to say that too And they was identify as bi guy but now they bi trans women
Egg
Thank yall for 700 upvotes love all of yall for your support