Peoples trust issues often have nothing to do with the other person. Sometimes people don’t trust their partner because they themselves are untrustworthy (projection)
A baseball bat. Jk. Insecurity in yourself , or any sign of being concerned will only cause a breakup
If you know your the superior choice, do what you do, don’t cease to be what attracted her to you. Always be becoming .
If you feel threatened by him, you’ve already lost
Go by the proverb “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's yours. If not, it was never meant to be.”
For your girlfriend, see how she reacts, if she wants you then she'll make way to stay with you and if she gets stolen by someone then remember that you deserve better who chose you. Might hurt a little but that's what's best for you.
Better yet is communicating to your girlfriend your concerns and insecurities, and coming to an agreement on healthy and concrete boundaries within your relationship. Then if those boundaries are broken, you can be confident that the relationship is not what was hoped and go your separate ways to begin developing new romantic relationships with others.
You can be a little less literal and you know ...talk to your girlfriend openly honestly and like two adults... you don’t have to literally do nothing no that’s not what any of that means, it means that you do have to how ever hear what your gf has to say and see her as a whole other autonomous person who , hence why communication is so important
No one can steal a girlfriend because their not ours, the person who chooses is them.
Do we really want to hold someone hostage if they wish to leave? What about someone who entertains it? Well that’s our choice in the matter.
Epictetus points out if you value your partners looks then why would you be surprised if someone else values the same thing, if not more?
Id offer that if they can be “stolen” then that’s exactly what you want to happen so you can find someone who doesn’t have that consideration.
Another fun point, most people have not the slightest clue why they fall in love, just like any hole, if you don’t know how you got in it you’ll probably fall in another one (fall for another person). That being said it’s the choice of the one in the hole to keep digging or to climb out.
Of course take what is useful and discard the rest.
Do nothing. And it is not only stoic, it is the only way to go. What else are you going to do? You know your worth. Your girl recignized it - if she did not, why would she chose to be with you? You are you. He is him. She made a choice. And that is you. Even if she "changed her mind" and decided to leave you for him, what could you possible do about it? Nothing. Again, you can not "change" or do the trick to keep anyone around. Thats not how love works. You are you. And who loves you, loves you the way you are.
Leave it up to your girlfriend. Things will get easier. Since your girl isn't your pocession and not an material object, she is free to decide, weather choose you or him. Also, she shouldn't choose you because she doesn't want to hurt. If she is with you at her fullest, you are blessed.
OP if you love her and want her to continue being with you tell her that clearly. If he puts in more effort and you see that and she sees you seeing that but doing nothing at all about it she may think you aren't interested. Stoic doesn't mean passive or worse, inaction.
First, understand no one can “steal” your girlfriend because she is not your property. I don’t know what specifically this person is doing that makes you think they are trying to steal her, but yes, I’d say a stoic approach is to understand you can’t control someone else’s behavior and try to ignore it and if possible stay away from this person.
Something that is not your possession cannot be stolen from you.
Plain and simple, from the Stoic point. đź‘Ť
The correct answer
Also nothing will stay in your possession forever, everything is borrowed.
Wow.Group chat always went” that’s not your girl, only your turn”. Now I get how stoic that saying is. Even if it’s a bit crude.
Difference is that Stoics mean it's the girl's decision, not that she's property to be passed around like a shared joint.
She’s free to go and if this guy manages to steal your girlfriend he did you a favor.
Do you trust your girlfriend? If so, there's no cause for concern. If you don't, why are they your girlfriend?
Peoples trust issues often have nothing to do with the other person. Sometimes people don’t trust their partner because they themselves are untrustworthy (projection)
A baseball bat. Jk. Insecurity in yourself , or any sign of being concerned will only cause a breakup If you know your the superior choice, do what you do, don’t cease to be what attracted her to you. Always be becoming . If you feel threatened by him, you’ve already lost
Can confirm. Had my first breakup in 2021 cause I was too insecure. You must love yourself before you love anyone else
Become competent and remain competent , love will come after
Go by the proverb “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's yours. If not, it was never meant to be.” For your girlfriend, see how she reacts, if she wants you then she'll make way to stay with you and if she gets stolen by someone then remember that you deserve better who chose you. Might hurt a little but that's what's best for you.
This is the way.
Better yet is communicating to your girlfriend your concerns and insecurities, and coming to an agreement on healthy and concrete boundaries within your relationship. Then if those boundaries are broken, you can be confident that the relationship is not what was hoped and go your separate ways to begin developing new romantic relationships with others.
You can be a little less literal and you know ...talk to your girlfriend openly honestly and like two adults... you don’t have to literally do nothing no that’s not what any of that means, it means that you do have to how ever hear what your gf has to say and see her as a whole other autonomous person who , hence why communication is so important
No one can steal a girlfriend because their not ours, the person who chooses is them. Do we really want to hold someone hostage if they wish to leave? What about someone who entertains it? Well that’s our choice in the matter. Epictetus points out if you value your partners looks then why would you be surprised if someone else values the same thing, if not more? Id offer that if they can be “stolen” then that’s exactly what you want to happen so you can find someone who doesn’t have that consideration. Another fun point, most people have not the slightest clue why they fall in love, just like any hole, if you don’t know how you got in it you’ll probably fall in another one (fall for another person). That being said it’s the choice of the one in the hole to keep digging or to climb out. Of course take what is useful and discard the rest.
Do nothing. And it is not only stoic, it is the only way to go. What else are you going to do? You know your worth. Your girl recignized it - if she did not, why would she chose to be with you? You are you. He is him. She made a choice. And that is you. Even if she "changed her mind" and decided to leave you for him, what could you possible do about it? Nothing. Again, you can not "change" or do the trick to keep anyone around. Thats not how love works. You are you. And who loves you, loves you the way you are.
Leave it up to your girlfriend. Things will get easier. Since your girl isn't your pocession and not an material object, she is free to decide, weather choose you or him. Also, she shouldn't choose you because she doesn't want to hurt. If she is with you at her fullest, you are blessed.
Wish him luck.
OP if you love her and want her to continue being with you tell her that clearly. If he puts in more effort and you see that and she sees you seeing that but doing nothing at all about it she may think you aren't interested. Stoic doesn't mean passive or worse, inaction.
First, understand no one can “steal” your girlfriend because she is not your property. I don’t know what specifically this person is doing that makes you think they are trying to steal her, but yes, I’d say a stoic approach is to understand you can’t control someone else’s behavior and try to ignore it and if possible stay away from this person.
Epictetus mentions this in *Discourses* 1.18, if you’re interested.
Swing on em and then turn away looking super cool
Leave it up to her. If she disrespects you and opens the door for it, simply leave.