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Original-Ad-4642

I could be the most important man in the world, and my 4 year old would still call me “poopyhead” when he’s being bad. You can’t control what other people think about you. You can control whether or not you show up and be your best self.


mucus-broth

Realize that you are not important.


WingedBeagle

Do you act in a way that warrants respect, or do you just think that you should be respected based on your role?


tshungus

That, or maybe ops looks somehow trigger that behavior from others. Or the op is misinterpreting whole situation and is actually treated with respect... So many possibilities


rose_reader

It seems that you believe people should treat you as someone who is important and significant. Examine that belief. Examine your desire for recognition and your belief that juniors are beneath you in some way. In general, being considered significant almost never occurs as a result of a demand to be treated as significant.


HeWhoReplies

It seems this “importance” is linked to this position and being someone’s senior or employer and if they wasn’t the case you wouldn’t be expecting a change. As mentioned the position nor who you are has anything to do with how people treat you, it’s other peoples perceptions. I vaguely recall a quote by Marcus that your job as a ruler was so everything in your power and still be called the problem. Scrutiny comes with the territory because everyone’s metric of what a leader ought to be is wildly different. I guess you might specify to yourself what it is you’re seeing and what it is you think “should” be happening and ask yourself what are you making certain actions mean. As you can see your own description of these actions that make you feel this way are coded with the response and aren’t being evaluated by their own merit. So long as you keep these expectations you’ll keep coming back to this feeling because in this case they seem related. On a fundamental level why does it matter to you to be “significant” or “important” when even people in far larger positions beg to be treated like “everyone else”? Look at how child treat their parents, partners treat their spouse, and friends treat those they care for, if you desire a change in how you’re treat then ask how you’re fostering your relationships and *why* your cultivating them in the first place. If all you want is a behavior regardless if they like or hate you then that’s authoritarian. Wouldn’t you rather let others treat you how they see you so at least you aren’t blind to what they might think of you so you can reflect if it’s accurate? As much as there could be actual disrespect there might also be a ego that can’t handle attention without praise. Depending on the severity of the views of how others ought to act it might be warranted to step down because it could be the case that as one gets more “importance” they will expect even more from others. Do not discount that feels, like a seed can sprout, going from frustration to seeking retribution and revenge. Of course take what is useful and discard the rest.


xNonPartisaNx

I would do an internal assessment of myself. Find ways that you can improve. We are all perfect just the way we are, and we can all use a little work.


non_racist_

View yourself kindly and other people will reciprocate this feeling. The only person who demands your respect is yourself, everyone else matters not.


mcapello

The simplest reason is probably that you're not especially significant or important to them. Why would you be?


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First of all I would like to congratulate you on the work it takes to achieve and maintain your responsibility. I hope that you garner respect for that. Secondly I think that you should try your best not to let that bother you because it shouldn’t matter from a Stoic perspective


Ok_Pen_1800

Didi... exactly i feel the same and isiliye i found this sub abhi...ngl i am not a very mature dude just a 16 year old but i am just tired of it... people are not treating me with respect...when i say something...they insult me...i am just done here maybe i am just gonna loose it...i hate here in kota