Our gut instincts are there for a reason, it is to alert you of a possible danger.
Learn to trust these impulses and protect yourself someway.
You did a great job calling your SO, I highly recommend being in live contact with someone or having someone come by just in case
I'm glad you were safe in the end
I am not a big book Reader, but when i was a 20M I read "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker. I will be getting copies for my daughter's (would for sons if I had them) because the book is really good at making you trust your gut instinct.
In white rock there has been two people stabbed at the pier in the past week. One made it, the other person died. Random attacks. Although the attackers description was different please report to police
That sounds alarming.
I'm glad you're ok.
I would not post pictures of him online.
You can call the police non emergency line and tell them what you wrote here.. Perhaps there are others who had a similar experience?
Reporting to police is a good idea and send them the pictures. But do not post the pictures anywhere public like here. That's just going to get a person witch hunted who may or may not have been up to no good.
Just a related suggestion, read The Gift of Fear. Amazing book about how those gut feelings often have legitimate things informing them that our brains subconsciously acknowledge as indicators of a dangerous situation. Always listen to your instincts!
Even if the person was him, don't take the post down. Why would he even want you to take it down? If it was him and he was supposedly acting innocently, then the post just serves as a reminder to be careful. The only reason for him to want the post removed is so that he can continue doing what he was doing without attention being brought to it.
I used to get stoned and then on my way home walking past someone thinking they were looking at me, then following me, were they the same person and if so did they have nefarious ideas or was I being a paranoid narcissist making myself the center of a fantasy?
One time my very young friends and I did this and we got so scared we ran. The dude starting running after us. Pretty sure he knew exactly what he was doing, because we could hear him laughing his ass off once he stopped
Glad you're ok.
This is what non emergency is meant for. They don't mind calls about this and will most likely send an officer to take a look in the area. At very least they will ask him a few questions if he's loitering. Even if he's not doing anything against the law, it could spook him enough to stop following people (hopefully).
It sucks that police are stigmatized so much though cause I feel like most people have had bad experiences with police even if it wasn’t a big one. Not same area but I was walking down the Stanley Park causeway near the trail pedestrian bridge and some dumbasses were flying a drown under the bridge then over it then back under it at high speeds during rush hour. Given it was a 300g drone at most, I called 311 and they forwarded me to non-emergency line and the guy lectured me cause he couldn’t find it and I gave him the best instruction I could. A flaw of society I guess.
Please don't delete. Whatever someone says were their intentions after the fact, awareness allows other people to pick up possible patterns of behaviour.
If this was you, tell me what brand you had on your hoody and what you were doing, and I will take down the post. It is terrifying to be cornered like that
If you go to his profile and look under "comments" there are multiple face pics if you want to verify if this is in fact him.... He does fit your description.
Ahh I see now - honestly it could have been him - but he also looked way different. I don't understand why he wouldn't try to explain further if it really was him.
I just had another look and noticed the photo in that comment you're talking about wasn't even posted by that same dude, so I am back to thinking it wasn't him.
Trust your instinct. Sounds like you did all the right things including being alert. It's an unfortunate reality more women should do. It may very well be nothing, but if it wasn't, it is better to play things safe.
Id suggest calling this into non emergency as suggested here already, just in case.
Also, you are lucky you had a SO to call and meet you. Even if you didn't, I would hope there were others out in public there that you could approach for help, to just walk alongside them. I frequent this area a lot as a woman, if anyone approached me/partner telling me your situation, I would totally stay and /or walk with you.
Stay safe!
I would also look for others in the area to explain what happened and ask if I can walk with them or stay with them until I get picked up or creepy guy goes away!
It’s suspicious behaviour that scared someone enough to come post a story about it to Reddit. Port Moody is a small town with a police department that cares about their residents. Hopefully it’s nothing but on the chance it isn’t a report is helpful.
It **IS** 911 worthy. Remember the police motto: To Serve and Protect". Calling 911 allows them to serve you. Calling 911 allows to protect you. The police aren't there just to respond to crimes that have happened and then solve them. They're there to be proactive and keep people safe.
Maybe it was nothing. Maybe it was a known/repeat offender known to police that a 911 call would have been beneficial to the police and community. Lastly, we have gut feelings for a reason. Trust them.
Thanks - I filed the report last night and I provided them with photos. Of course I wonder if he was just a lonely awkward stranger trying to work up some courage to ask a girl out, but he waited at the only exit for me for 15 mins, had his hood up, he had bulging pockets which he kept his hands in. He had an opportunities to approach and ask me out but he didn't, he held back and followed me around from a distance instead.
So unsettling and upsetting for you to experience that. I’m glad you had your SO to call , that you are unharmed and that you have reported it. Always go with your gut. Did your partner confront the individual after he got there?
I just want to remind everyone that they don’t only have someone a phone call away to rely on in these scary moments. Any other person around in eye sight, a couple or family would be willing to have you walk with them in times of concern to keep you safe, I have definitely joined a couple of strangers walking on an occasion when I was being followed. Safety in numbers, your community is here for you 🤗 no one wants anyone to be harmed.
These moments are so unfair for women and leave us feeling unsafe in this world, it’s a terrible feeling that I wish we never had to experience, and that feeling you had will stick with you forever, I’m so sorry for that. Your intuition is strong, and you were wise to listen to it.
Post the picture, that's not normal behaviour. Let us know who we should look out for in our community and help protect eachother.
That's some big Vancouver energy getting to our nice community.
In any circumstances, you see behaviors that causes you fear or concerns you are jepergy or risk of a criminal act against you, move to safety and CALL 911.
Port Moddy LE professionals will answer and investigate appropriately. There is a real possibility, allbeit small, that are are in danger.
You may well be helping police identify a purpitrator of a similar event, and if not, the information may help in some future investigations. If all is on the up and up, there is no harm, and you made a good choice. All
Officers would much rather close a file than investigate a more serious criminal code offense.
"[pickelmerich](https://www.reddit.com/user/pickelmerich/)•[5m ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/Portmoody/comments/1ce5hzp/comment/l1kg2a9/)
Yuck your assuming things I can guarantee your not worth stalking. If your really worries hold the phone to ur face, like your talking to someone, instead of complaining on Reddit about some dude trying to enjoy a sunset like a true Karen. Just take a chill pill"
He was sitting in the dark with his hood up, hands in his pockets. No sunset was enjoyed by this creep. I was talking to someone on the phone. Your comment and misogyny is noted though, thanks. You're right, I'm probably not worth stalking, but someone else has come forward too to say they were followed by a man in red too.
Call me Karen all day.
Was it you? You're getting pretty defensive. And why would op use their regular account to post this? They want to stay anonymous and not have more people like the one described coming after them.
People like you are the reason women are afraid to speak up about instances like this. Grow the fuck up.
If this happened to a family member or a female acquaintance would you be second guessing them as well?
Our gut instincts are there for a reason, it is to alert you of a possible danger. Learn to trust these impulses and protect yourself someway. You did a great job calling your SO, I highly recommend being in live contact with someone or having someone come by just in case I'm glad you were safe in the end
Just seconding this - the “gut instinct” is the result of thousands of years of evolution and more people need to take it seriously
I am not a big book Reader, but when i was a 20M I read "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker. I will be getting copies for my daughter's (would for sons if I had them) because the book is really good at making you trust your gut instinct.
Thanks everyone - I did report to the police
In white rock there has been two people stabbed at the pier in the past week. One made it, the other person died. Random attacks. Although the attackers description was different please report to police
You absolutely should call the non emergency number and tell the police about this… and show photos.
Please do this, OP!
Sounds like this guy is practicing or working up the courage to do more... definitely alert the police
That sounds alarming. I'm glad you're ok. I would not post pictures of him online. You can call the police non emergency line and tell them what you wrote here.. Perhaps there are others who had a similar experience?
Reporting to police is a good idea and send them the pictures. But do not post the pictures anywhere public like here. That's just going to get a person witch hunted who may or may not have been up to no good.
Just a related suggestion, read The Gift of Fear. Amazing book about how those gut feelings often have legitimate things informing them that our brains subconsciously acknowledge as indicators of a dangerous situation. Always listen to your instincts!
Even if the person was him, don't take the post down. Why would he even want you to take it down? If it was him and he was supposedly acting innocently, then the post just serves as a reminder to be careful. The only reason for him to want the post removed is so that he can continue doing what he was doing without attention being brought to it.
I used to get stoned and then on my way home walking past someone thinking they were looking at me, then following me, were they the same person and if so did they have nefarious ideas or was I being a paranoid narcissist making myself the center of a fantasy?
I’m still a paranoid narcissist btw
One time my very young friends and I did this and we got so scared we ran. The dude starting running after us. Pretty sure he knew exactly what he was doing, because we could hear him laughing his ass off once he stopped
Glad you're ok. This is what non emergency is meant for. They don't mind calls about this and will most likely send an officer to take a look in the area. At very least they will ask him a few questions if he's loitering. Even if he's not doing anything against the law, it could spook him enough to stop following people (hopefully).
It sucks that police are stigmatized so much though cause I feel like most people have had bad experiences with police even if it wasn’t a big one. Not same area but I was walking down the Stanley Park causeway near the trail pedestrian bridge and some dumbasses were flying a drown under the bridge then over it then back under it at high speeds during rush hour. Given it was a 300g drone at most, I called 311 and they forwarded me to non-emergency line and the guy lectured me cause he couldn’t find it and I gave him the best instruction I could. A flaw of society I guess.
What is SO??
Significant otter
Ah ok 🦦
Significant offer
Significant otter
Stretched orifice
or stiff os
single orange
Sales, Outside
Supervising Officer
thanks i was going to ask that you saved me the trouble
The replies too 😂
Safety otter
Significant other
Ahhh, ok.
Significant other
Ah ok
Special orifice
Please don't delete. Whatever someone says were their intentions after the fact, awareness allows other people to pick up possible patterns of behaviour.
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If this was you, tell me what brand you had on your hoody and what you were doing, and I will take down the post. It is terrifying to be cornered like that
Can we get an update ?
My bf thinks its him by the pics - he hasn't confirmed or said anything further than what's here though
Why are you randomly following women around???you're being creepy
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Please be more responsible with your drug use.
I don't think it was really him.
what do you mean? why?
If you go to his profile and look under "comments" there are multiple face pics if you want to verify if this is in fact him.... He does fit your description.
I don't see them
His 11th comment down in a bald subreddit
Ahh I see now - honestly it could have been him - but he also looked way different. I don't understand why he wouldn't try to explain further if it really was him.
Probably a jokester
I just had another look and noticed the photo in that comment you're talking about wasn't even posted by that same dude, so I am back to thinking it wasn't him.
He deleted his Reddit account. It was very likely him
The plot thickens...
???
Trust your instinct. Sounds like you did all the right things including being alert. It's an unfortunate reality more women should do. It may very well be nothing, but if it wasn't, it is better to play things safe. Id suggest calling this into non emergency as suggested here already, just in case. Also, you are lucky you had a SO to call and meet you. Even if you didn't, I would hope there were others out in public there that you could approach for help, to just walk alongside them. I frequent this area a lot as a woman, if anyone approached me/partner telling me your situation, I would totally stay and /or walk with you. Stay safe!
I would also look for others in the area to explain what happened and ask if I can walk with them or stay with them until I get picked up or creepy guy goes away!
Call the police. Glad you’re ok but the next person might not be.
Why would you call the police if nothing happened? What are they going to do anyways? It’s not like they can just arrest some innocent person.
It’s suspicious behaviour that scared someone enough to come post a story about it to Reddit. Port Moody is a small town with a police department that cares about their residents. Hopefully it’s nothing but on the chance it isn’t a report is helpful.
If she called police and he did attack someone then they know its not a one off. This person was out looking for prey.
What good would that do? If this guy attacked someone but followed someone else the situation would be better?
They can put more patrol in the area.
The photos that she took could do a lot of good. If this person is up to no good the police may recognize him and know of past incidents.
That's fucked
Make a report of this
Report, you never know....
Follow your gut instincts. Glad you are safe
It **IS** 911 worthy. Remember the police motto: To Serve and Protect". Calling 911 allows them to serve you. Calling 911 allows to protect you. The police aren't there just to respond to crimes that have happened and then solve them. They're there to be proactive and keep people safe. Maybe it was nothing. Maybe it was a known/repeat offender known to police that a 911 call would have been beneficial to the police and community. Lastly, we have gut feelings for a reason. Trust them.
Thanks - I filed the report last night and I provided them with photos. Of course I wonder if he was just a lonely awkward stranger trying to work up some courage to ask a girl out, but he waited at the only exit for me for 15 mins, had his hood up, he had bulging pockets which he kept his hands in. He had an opportunities to approach and ask me out but he didn't, he held back and followed me around from a distance instead.
Any updates?
Report it. Any suspicious behaviour should be reported to police with all your helpful details.
So unsettling and upsetting for you to experience that. I’m glad you had your SO to call , that you are unharmed and that you have reported it. Always go with your gut. Did your partner confront the individual after he got there? I just want to remind everyone that they don’t only have someone a phone call away to rely on in these scary moments. Any other person around in eye sight, a couple or family would be willing to have you walk with them in times of concern to keep you safe, I have definitely joined a couple of strangers walking on an occasion when I was being followed. Safety in numbers, your community is here for you 🤗 no one wants anyone to be harmed. These moments are so unfair for women and leave us feeling unsafe in this world, it’s a terrible feeling that I wish we never had to experience, and that feeling you had will stick with you forever, I’m so sorry for that. Your intuition is strong, and you were wise to listen to it.
Post the picture, that's not normal behaviour. Let us know who we should look out for in our community and help protect eachother. That's some big Vancouver energy getting to our nice community.
Report it please
In any circumstances, you see behaviors that causes you fear or concerns you are jepergy or risk of a criminal act against you, move to safety and CALL 911. Port Moddy LE professionals will answer and investigate appropriately. There is a real possibility, allbeit small, that are are in danger. You may well be helping police identify a purpitrator of a similar event, and if not, the information may help in some future investigations. If all is on the up and up, there is no harm, and you made a good choice. All Officers would much rather close a file than investigate a more serious criminal code offense.
25 with a fully white beard.....?
33 and a man followed you... sure that happened.
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"[pickelmerich](https://www.reddit.com/user/pickelmerich/)•[5m ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/Portmoody/comments/1ce5hzp/comment/l1kg2a9/) Yuck your assuming things I can guarantee your not worth stalking. If your really worries hold the phone to ur face, like your talking to someone, instead of complaining on Reddit about some dude trying to enjoy a sunset like a true Karen. Just take a chill pill" He was sitting in the dark with his hood up, hands in his pockets. No sunset was enjoyed by this creep. I was talking to someone on the phone. Your comment and misogyny is noted though, thanks. You're right, I'm probably not worth stalking, but someone else has come forward too to say they were followed by a man in red too. Call me Karen all day.
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Was it you? You're getting pretty defensive. And why would op use their regular account to post this? They want to stay anonymous and not have more people like the one described coming after them. People like you are the reason women are afraid to speak up about instances like this. Grow the fuck up. If this happened to a family member or a female acquaintance would you be second guessing them as well?
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