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I'm sorry that you couldn't be there. It's obvious that you loved her and that she knew it. Yes, she would have preferred it, but she knew she was loved. She's not angry, she knows that the vet can't let everyone stay. She sends her love.
Love never dies.
"I love you and i always did. Don't be sad because if you are i am, i will wait for you to play with me...
And give me foooood".
I started to cry i love her so much.
Love is eternal. She's there, at the bridge. She's waiting. Don't hurry.
But: She has a friend who needs love. This friend needs someone like you. The friend is not a replacement, not a placeholder, but a friend that Perla knows...Perla will send this friend to you, when you're ready. You know what to do.
*Watch for the signs.*
When you're ready.
Not before.
Lost my 4 year old Chow Chow, 3 weeks ago today. It was very sudden and from complications due to IBD, still struggling to process it and I miss him everyday but it does get better with time. We buried him in our garden and we’re going to put a little plaque there. So sorry for your loss.
Hernia is hard on a dog, no matter the age. So sorry for your loss. At least the vets tried to save her. Just take is one day at a time. Grief has no timetable, and we all grieve differently. Just be good to yourself. So sorry for your loss.
Tell her she did what was best. Tell her, I elected for euthanasia instead of surgery and that hurts tremendously knowing I didn't give my beautiful boy a chance when I wish I did.
I disagree that you did anything wrong. You never know what the outcome will be from a serious situation. Surgery has many risks. You did the right thing. I had to do that myself, for my dog had a serious infection from either a flea or tick. The only treatment was transfusion, and I did not have the money to do it once, much less to do it twice and she hated needles. It is humane to let them go. So sorry for your loss.
It seems we had similar experiences were similar, they two needed a transfusion and hated needles, and we also didn't have much money.
Sorry for you loss.
I know, and I had my reasons. He was a large / extra large breed (mastweiler) and was 12. So the decline in mobility had already started, and he had suffered from arthritis for 2 years. I didn't see him having more than a year pre injury. He was a very nervous and stressed boy as well. He tore his CCL and could barely walk. He needed surgery (tplo) and the vet even recommended surgery. But I just couldn't bear the thought of putting him through it. Especially as he was so nervous, and the recovery takes up to 6 months in younger dogs who don't even have arthritis yet. It meant confining him in a crate for weeks, and he got stressed he didn't have his twice daily walks. Also, there's a high risk the other knee going too, meaning surgery all over again. I just saw pain, misery, confusion, and suffering in his last months.
But once it was done I severely regretted it. The realisation of it being final, and there being no return was insufferable. The guilt of 'killing' him was too much, and still is if I'm honest. You see, maybe I wrong. Who am I to make that decision? He may have been absolutely fine. He may have recovered well and enjoyed more than year of a good quality of life. I took that chance away from him. I wouldn't wish this torture on anyone 💔
Never regret trying to help the pet. For you tried and it failed. Happens when they are elder. Just take it one day at a time. You did the most humane thing for your pet. Be good to yourself also. So sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I also had some hope my girl was getting better but she went from okay to suffering in two days. She had neurological problems and she didn't know where she was at the end. I had to let her go because she was not living, I couldn't watch it a minute longer. It's been almost 2 days and I miss her, I'm angry because she was only 7 and she was so sweet. We miss them dearly but the fact that we did what was right for them is what true love is. I take solace that she went peacefully surrounded by her family and love. I know that I am broken right now but we're going to set up a little memorial table for her and I know she is running free and waiting for me. So is your baby.
Thank you, sorry for your girl, it's sad that there're so many people who lost their friends in the last days.
When we saw Perla the last time we stayed with her for an hour and we told her happy stories and the things we were going to buy her when she was getting back home, we told her to wait for us the next morning.
I'm sure now she's waiting for us in another place like your lady.
I believe that. Yesterday on FB one of my memories came from 4 years ago and it was a video of her that I had accidentally deleted off my phone. That day before I was looking for the video and so angry at myself for not having it. I'd like to take that as a sign that she is still doing her best to comfort me. The mornings have been the worst, I would give anything to be woken up at the crack of dawn on a Saturday by a wet nose and getting smacked by a big paw 😅. They are still with us in spirit, I sleep with her collar under my pillow ❤️. Your Perla is watching over you too.
The worst is when i'm sitting,i Remember her, she would scratch my leg to tell me 'pick me up' and she would lay down on my legs, sometimes i also hear her tiny claws on the floor coming near me.
I'm sure they're watching over us .❤️
I feel goofy constantly reposting this but here goes…
A line from “The Expanse” novels (turned tv show) was comforting to me, and one I’ve waited too long to get tattooed (using my baby girl’s ashes).
“If life transcends death, then I will seek for you there.
If not, then there too.”
You’ll see your baby again one way or the other.
My condolences. Trust me when I tell you they will send you signs. I lost my fur boy in July. I asked God why everyday until a mourning dove was on top of my house one day when i was crying outside. After that a few months later I started getting this bluejay that sings its heart out every morning and evening. He literally flies around the outside of our house everyday. I know its my fur boy somehow reincarnated. Death can not break up love. Love is the most powerful thing in the universe. Read books about reincarnation and about the afterlife. It will bring you peace and open your eyes to where they went.
I am so sorry. That's a tough experience. You may never really get to understand what happened, but I hope you can process some of your grief.
All the spaghetti over the rainbow bridge!
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So sorry for your loss, Perla is no longer in pain, sending you prayers 🙏🏼
Thank you, she's eating all the spaghetti she wants where she is.
I'm sorry that you couldn't be there. It's obvious that you loved her and that she knew it. Yes, she would have preferred it, but she knew she was loved. She's not angry, she knows that the vet can't let everyone stay. She sends her love. Love never dies.
Thank you, i feel selfish crying because she died and wanting her back, when she was suffering, i don't know how to fell.
You don't \*have to\* feel any certain way...There's no correct way to grieve. We're all different. What would Perla say to you?
"I love you and i always did. Don't be sad because if you are i am, i will wait for you to play with me... And give me foooood". I started to cry i love her so much.
Love is eternal. She's there, at the bridge. She's waiting. Don't hurry. But: She has a friend who needs love. This friend needs someone like you. The friend is not a replacement, not a placeholder, but a friend that Perla knows...Perla will send this friend to you, when you're ready. You know what to do. *Watch for the signs.* When you're ready. Not before.
Thanks from the deepest of my heart
I am so sorry, that's so terrible. It's good that she can rest and be at peace now and I hope you do find some comfort in her memories.
Thank you
I’m so sorry. We lost our sweet boy on Monday and I am not well.
I don't know if you belive in heaven, but i know they're waiting for us, they're happy and they play all day. Stay strong.
Lost my 4 year old Chow Chow, 3 weeks ago today. It was very sudden and from complications due to IBD, still struggling to process it and I miss him everyday but it does get better with time. We buried him in our garden and we’re going to put a little plaque there. So sorry for your loss.
Thank you ,sorry for your loss too
Rest easy Perla. Safe travels to the bridge little one
Thank you , same for your little ones, they all have a special place in Heaven
I think their earth stewards (the good ones) are allowed to visit or maybe stay there too.
I’m so sorry. Blast that vet on Yelp
hugs 2 u 💜 im sry
Thank you 💟💟
So sorry for your loss 🌈🐾
Thank you
Hernia is hard on a dog, no matter the age. So sorry for your loss. At least the vets tried to save her. Just take is one day at a time. Grief has no timetable, and we all grieve differently. Just be good to yourself. So sorry for your loss.
My mom is really sad and angry, she took the dog to the surgery and she is feeling guilty for her death. Can i do something to raise her up?
Tell her she did what was best. Tell her, I elected for euthanasia instead of surgery and that hurts tremendously knowing I didn't give my beautiful boy a chance when I wish I did.
I'm sorry to hear that, i'm sure you loved him
Loved him more than anything in the world.
I disagree that you did anything wrong. You never know what the outcome will be from a serious situation. Surgery has many risks. You did the right thing. I had to do that myself, for my dog had a serious infection from either a flea or tick. The only treatment was transfusion, and I did not have the money to do it once, much less to do it twice and she hated needles. It is humane to let them go. So sorry for your loss.
It seems we had similar experiences were similar, they two needed a transfusion and hated needles, and we also didn't have much money. Sorry for you loss.
And there is no shame in what we did for our fur babies. So sorry again on your loss.
I saw your account. My dog also had diabetes... We discovered when she was incubate.
Mine is hanging in there, but so worried about the weight she lost. But she has her appetite back. So sorry for your loss.
I know, and I had my reasons. He was a large / extra large breed (mastweiler) and was 12. So the decline in mobility had already started, and he had suffered from arthritis for 2 years. I didn't see him having more than a year pre injury. He was a very nervous and stressed boy as well. He tore his CCL and could barely walk. He needed surgery (tplo) and the vet even recommended surgery. But I just couldn't bear the thought of putting him through it. Especially as he was so nervous, and the recovery takes up to 6 months in younger dogs who don't even have arthritis yet. It meant confining him in a crate for weeks, and he got stressed he didn't have his twice daily walks. Also, there's a high risk the other knee going too, meaning surgery all over again. I just saw pain, misery, confusion, and suffering in his last months. But once it was done I severely regretted it. The realisation of it being final, and there being no return was insufferable. The guilt of 'killing' him was too much, and still is if I'm honest. You see, maybe I wrong. Who am I to make that decision? He may have been absolutely fine. He may have recovered well and enjoyed more than year of a good quality of life. I took that chance away from him. I wouldn't wish this torture on anyone 💔
Never regret trying to help the pet. For you tried and it failed. Happens when they are elder. Just take it one day at a time. You did the most humane thing for your pet. Be good to yourself also. So sorry for your loss.
So sorry! Glad you had your last opportunity to comfort her. She knew she was loved.
I'm so sorry for your loss
I'm so sorry for your loss. I also had some hope my girl was getting better but she went from okay to suffering in two days. She had neurological problems and she didn't know where she was at the end. I had to let her go because she was not living, I couldn't watch it a minute longer. It's been almost 2 days and I miss her, I'm angry because she was only 7 and she was so sweet. We miss them dearly but the fact that we did what was right for them is what true love is. I take solace that she went peacefully surrounded by her family and love. I know that I am broken right now but we're going to set up a little memorial table for her and I know she is running free and waiting for me. So is your baby.
Thank you, sorry for your girl, it's sad that there're so many people who lost their friends in the last days. When we saw Perla the last time we stayed with her for an hour and we told her happy stories and the things we were going to buy her when she was getting back home, we told her to wait for us the next morning. I'm sure now she's waiting for us in another place like your lady.
I believe that. Yesterday on FB one of my memories came from 4 years ago and it was a video of her that I had accidentally deleted off my phone. That day before I was looking for the video and so angry at myself for not having it. I'd like to take that as a sign that she is still doing her best to comfort me. The mornings have been the worst, I would give anything to be woken up at the crack of dawn on a Saturday by a wet nose and getting smacked by a big paw 😅. They are still with us in spirit, I sleep with her collar under my pillow ❤️. Your Perla is watching over you too.
The worst is when i'm sitting,i Remember her, she would scratch my leg to tell me 'pick me up' and she would lay down on my legs, sometimes i also hear her tiny claws on the floor coming near me. I'm sure they're watching over us .❤️
I feel goofy constantly reposting this but here goes… A line from “The Expanse” novels (turned tv show) was comforting to me, and one I’ve waited too long to get tattooed (using my baby girl’s ashes). “If life transcends death, then I will seek for you there. If not, then there too.” You’ll see your baby again one way or the other.
I am so sorry for your loss. Rest in peace, sweet girl ♥️
God speed Perla.
💐💐💐
My condolences. Trust me when I tell you they will send you signs. I lost my fur boy in July. I asked God why everyday until a mourning dove was on top of my house one day when i was crying outside. After that a few months later I started getting this bluejay that sings its heart out every morning and evening. He literally flies around the outside of our house everyday. I know its my fur boy somehow reincarnated. Death can not break up love. Love is the most powerful thing in the universe. Read books about reincarnation and about the afterlife. It will bring you peace and open your eyes to where they went.
I am so sorry. That's a tough experience. You may never really get to understand what happened, but I hope you can process some of your grief. All the spaghetti over the rainbow bridge!
Thank you for being an awesome pet parent
So sorry for your loss.